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jewish-vents · 1 month

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post 10/7 jewish culture is straight up no longer believing your goyische friends actually like you and are in for the long haul. immediately after 10/7 I lost a few people who were disgusting assholes, but ever since then my goyische friends on this website have been slowly "un-friending" me (unfollowing, soft-blocking, and blocking). I'll have other goy friends who stuck around this long say nice things about me, compliment my fics, my blog, and even me, and I just... don't believe it. I know that's a common social anxiety fear, but I never struggled with social anxiety that badly. if you asked me if I thought my internet friends really liked me last september I would've said yes and meant it. but now, after months and months of my friends dropping like flies (and I almost NEVER lost mutuals before 10/7, not in almost 4 years on this website), I don't really believe them. I just can't. I'm waiting for them to realize they don't want to put up with my jewish ass anymore.

I've decided to stop talking about i/p because of this... I'll see posts on my dash (like from jewishlivesmatter) which I think are good and I wanna put on my blog, but I feel like every post about it pushes my goyische friends a little further away, a little closer to the block/unfollow button, so I'm just... not. I used to be scared to talk about i/p, from may 2021 when I learned just how antisemitic most goyim were because of the riots, to oct 7. but now I no longer fear getting doxx'd or getting swarmed with anon hate. I just know that talking about it is the number one way for Jews to lose friends.

"do you even want to be friends with these people?" yes. if I held goyim to the standard of i/p opinions I think everyone ought to have, I'd have no goyische friends. at this point as long as they agree that hamas is a terror org and a 2-state solution is best, I'm down to keep being friends, because even that is a godsend for people my age (20s).

it's even started to affect me in real life. the other day I had a talk with a goysiche friend of 15 years about i/p (knowing where they stood, obviously, by this point). we got into a mild argument, but they had stuff to do so we had to stop. I sent them an unrelated text an hour later, and when I got radio silence for the rest of the day (our argument was in the morning) a part of me genuinely believed that was it for us and braced for losing an irl friend who means so much to me and I thought was going to be in my life until one of us dies. they'd be in my wedding party. we've penciled in figuring out some honorific my future kids can use for them instead of aunt/uncle because they're nonbinary. I caved and texted them to make sure we're still friends, and they said yes, thank fucking gd, because otherwise I might've just had a full mental breakdown.

anyone else waiting for their remaining goyische friends to leave them?

#jewish vents #antisemitism #i/p

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luvgavii · 1 year

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the damage is done. (part 2)

summary: almost one year after breaking up, you and gavi see each other again. did you two lose feelings completely or will you work it out?

!!!part 1 here!!!

365. It's been almost 365 days since you have last seen Gavi in person. Of course, you saw him on TV whenever Barcelona was playing, or when you scrolled your Instagram. Hell, you even imagined seeing him on the streets that you two once walked on hand in hand.

Now, when you were almost over him, he was standing in front of your door, begging to talk to you, his brown irises pleading you to let him in. And you were weak because you let him inside your apartment, and with this small act, you also let him back into your life and heart.

You sat at your small dining table, Gavi in front of you, studying you intensely. Pablo hasn't seen you in almost a whole year, so he started studying every facial feature of yours. Your hair was shorter now, he concluded, but your face was still as beautiful as he remembered. You shifted uncomfortably in your seat, unsure of what to say or do.

"So how is football going?" You asked him putting your chin in your hand and looking at him, but you knew how his career was going, you were still watching his team play, on TV, whenever you had time.

"It's going good." Pablo nodded and paused.

You would lie if you said that it didn't hurt you that he didn't call or text you for a whole year. You two still followed each other on social media, but after you saw him with that other girl in his apartment, he never reached out.

"I was in a few countries around Europe, some for The Champions League and some because I wanted to travel." Pablo continued.

"Really?" You lifted up in in your chair and leaned closer on the table. "Tell me more." You gave him a small smile.

Gavi was glad the tension had dropped and he leaned on the table as well, almost touching your hand if you wouldn't have pulled it away.

"Well, Italy was stunning. I think you would have liked it there the most. The people, the culture, everything was amazing." Pablo looked at you, you had your head tilted a little bit to the right, looking at him.

"Yeah, I've seen the pictures you had posted on Instagram while you were there." You nodded.

"You never liked anything, started thinking you unfollowed me on all social media." Gavi put a hand on his heart jokingly.

"Was thinking about it." You said with a straight face. "Can you blame me tho?"

"No." He admitted. He was aware he screwed up. "The whole time I was in England it rained so there wasn't anything to do except going to the match and then back to the hotel."

You let out a sigh that you didn't know you were holding in. "How do you even have the balls to come here and act like nothing happened? You didn't reach out to me for a fucking year, Pablo." The sudden change in your attitude took Gavi by surprise. But yet again, he couldn't blame you.

"There wasn't anything to say."

"There wasn't anything to say?" You started raising your voice. "You texted our mutual friends, maybe not daily but surely weekly. You spoke to all of them but me. Hell, did I mean nothing to you?"

"Of course you did. You still fucking do." Gavi raised his voice too. "I know you and Pedri have been texting. I asked him about you every damn time I got the chance."

"Oh, because that makes it okay." You crossed your arms and fell back on the chair. "You always were an asshole, Pablo Gavi."

"I had a career to focus on and things weren't good with us. I couldn't focus at training because we were always fighting and I was always tired to give you the attention you needed, I know what I did was wrong. But all I needed was time to sort shit out in my head. I never stopped loving you, Y/N." He grabbed your hand and put it between his, making you look at him. "Leaving you was the hardest thing I have ever done. But leaving you taught me that there is no one else I would rather be with."

"I know that we weren't in a good place. But it really hurt me to see you with someone else, in our old apartment, so soon after we broke up." You pulled your hand away from his, one more time.

"Look, I don't know what to say to make this okay, alright? But even if I would have texted you, both of us know you would have been salty as fuck."

Gavi was right.

"Fine." You put a piece of your hair behind your ear. "You're here now. Let's try and be friends."

"Me and you? Friends?" Gavi laughed. "Amor, me and you will never be just friends." You wanted to wipe that smug look off of his face.

"Well, we will be." You crossed your legs.

"You know that's impossible. I did think a lot about you for the past year, Y/N. After you saw me with that girl, I couldn't get myself to date anyone because I kept looking for you in every girl. I wanted to come to your door every time you posted a selfie on your story or whenever you posted something."

You didn't know what to say, you just looked at him. Your heart and brain told you two different things, but you listened to your heart and went up to hug him, nuzzling your face in his chest while he held you close against him and smiled into your hair, thinking how much he had missed having you so close to him.

"I missed this." You sighed not wanting to let go, but you were ready to have him fight for your love, because he wasn't going to get you back so easily.

"I missed you." Pablo said back.

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sarcastictissy · 10 days

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I have a lot of lovely asks and messages from people that I'm not able to respond to yet, but I just want to genuinely thank all of you for it ❤️ I was worried I was letting people down, but I'm so very thankful for everyone that reassured me otherwise. I will respond to you all. I'm not ignoring any of you, I promise.

Now onto something more serious. This is tagged as qsmp neg because I'm about to get really really angry with a certain part of this fandom.

Since Maxo unofficially confirmed qsmp is ending after the event, I've seen so many posts and reblogs along the lines of "the people upset because they had hope are in denial/ delusional/ crazy" or "the people thinking qsmp wasnt dead brought this upon themselves" which, basically, people are making fun of those who've had hope that the server will server. Now, don't get me wrong, we aren't exactly logical by having hope, and you're nit in the wrong for having a joke about people being "in denial" about the server closing.

That being said, the people blogging this only started doing it when Maxo unofficially confirmed its closure. So, technically there was still a small part of you that had hope, too, huh?

Not to mention, we are not in thr wrong for having hope or wanting to hold onto something that brought us so much joy, love, passion and creativity this past year. Leave us be. Let us be "in denial" or "delusional" or whatever you want to call us. It's fun over here. It's bright and positive and we all share the best memories of the past year. We don't WANT to look on the downside because it doesn't help us. It doesn't make sense to be consumed by all this negativity. It's very damaging to people's mental health if all they're seeing is "qsmp is dead" "quackity is cancelled" "all CCs hate qsmp" and other untrue statements.

As long as the fandom lives, qsmp lives. So why are you mocking us for seeing the qsmp in a positive and fun way? We're celebrating its life, not its death. This is a celebration, not a funeral.

I have had so many people message me, send asks, and tag me in posts to thank me for being positive about this situation even in the worst of times. And it's not that I'm saying "the admins are being mistreated? Oh well!" Because I'm not. What I'm doing and what I've done the past 3 or so months is remind people to take a breather, remind people to care for themselves and offer a place for them to vent to. I've shared my favourite moments of qsmp as a way to relive the best times whilst we go through the worst.

Can you not see that? Do you really think it's worth mocking me and others for?

If you genuinely believe I'm crazy or other insults because I see qsmp as a good thing, despite its faults, then please, unfollow me. Block me. Block the 'qsmp positivity' tag.

I will continue to spread hope about qsmp because I need it as much as others do. I owe myself to stay level headed and clear on qsmp because its done so much for me this past year. And so so many others see it the same way. I'm very grateful to be a place of positivity and safety during these trying times. I'm so thankful to everyone who has messaged me, sent me asks, followed me or even became my mutual because of this server.

I am so sorry for anyone that has been incredibly negative and doomposting excessively these past few months. It's very sad you felt the need to bring others down because you were sad too. But the there's a difference between being negative and actively ridiculing others for not being negative. And for those that have been doing the latter, stop. Stop trying to make us feel small for having hope for a server that has been our home for over a year.

If anyone feels like I'm being harsh, it's because I am.

#qsmp negativity #qsmp positivity #qsmp #qsmpblr

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saytrrose · 5 months

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Someone reblogged your Kinger and Queenie comic and I saw your reblog on curious anons, so here I am.

Anyways, dunno if ya have done this before but ya got headcanons on Kinger's relationships with everyone on TADC?

Like, besties with someone in specific, we get along even if he doesn't know we get along, that kind of stuff.

Ooh!! I really love this question eee

Kinger Headcanons! With.. EVERYONE! (Im including the abstracted characters, they are so so silly in my brain rn and i have a strong perception of them)

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Queenie:

- Queenie and him started out with a mutual.. dislike? Dislike from Queenies side, and general uncomfort from Kingers side.

- From the start their relationship was more so small bickering, mutual pining even, They both possess a sarcastic side to them, (I personally believe before Kinger went crazy that he used to be rather analytical and in control, a lot smarter yk.)

- They both were constantly compared for their likeness, which of course gave them a sense of need to.. prove themselves better? To stand out? Saw eachother as an obstacle until FINALLY they tried actually having a conversation.

- Their relationship dynamic is very much golden retriever x black cat.

- Once they actually were in a relationship, Queenie definitely keeps her sassy personality but she’s very soft spoken around Kinger.

- Kinger also changes, they act more differently around eachother than anyone else. Their general idea of “we are different” changes to “we are the only ones that truly understand one another”

- Oh they bickered SO MUCH it’s so silly, Queenie loves to tease, seem like she has a large ego but in private around just him she’s very very vulnerable and relies on him for comfort. She doesn’t feel like she needs to act a specific way around him or ever get really defensive.

- Kingers personality doesn’t change as much as Queenies does around people, however he does lean into feeling more vulnerable around her as well. He tries to seem calm and mostly friendly, but in private with just her he feels like he can actually rant and get emotional.

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Wriggle:

- Kinger and Wriggle have a very funny dynamic, as Wriggle is Queenies “best friend is the whole wide world” (quoted by Wriggle, not Queenie)

-They often like to wriggle in between Kinger and Queenie, (hahaha look at me I’m so funny I love puns please don’t unfollow me) they are bit clingy towards Queenie which Kinger doesn’t particularly mind in the slightest.

- Putting Queenie aside, those two I’d say are good friends too. Wriggle loves to ramble on and on to Kinger about things they enjoy or made or did- the list is endless and it’s usually Kinger when it comes to this because atleast Kinger looks like he’s paying attention, whereas Queenie has that.. blank stare.. (autism, your honor)

- Think of Wriggle as a wingman also, They know Queenie well, and things she wouldn’t tell Kinger? Thats Wriggles job. For example, Queenie talks about how it’d be cute to receive flowers but doesn’t want to outright ask for them, Wriggle goes to Kinger and keeps jabbing him in the side with their tail until his attention is gained, and tells him “you know what you should do!!” you get what happens fr

- The wingman job was specifically asked of by Kinger, to which Wriggle, being the snooty little “hmmm idk if I like you enough” worm they are.. obviously decides not to share Queenies private words. (I’m still deciding if Kinger persuaded Wriggle into the idea that it’d make Queenie happier in the long run or if he just dropped to his knees like PLEASEPLEASEOLEAZEPLEASE-)

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Slinky:

- Slinky and Kinger have a good relationship, they aren’t really friends that hang out on their own time, but if they are ever in a group then they’d interact.

- Slinky loves to knit and crochet, and she made a task to knit everyone a tiny plush to have. She gave Kinger a tiny stag beetle plush, and he adores it so much, it’s right on his bed. ☠️ (perhaps I could make another post listing all the plushies Slinky made for everyone but idkkk only if it’s inquired about)

- They are the two shyest? Of the whole group, not inherently shy but the most quiet unless spoken to and definitely most anxiety filled. They have an unspoken code of certain looks they give eachother that they can instantly understand.

- In Kingers full honesty, if he was given the chance to choose a person to be in his team for an adventure and Queenie was taken, he’d choose Slinky. She’s just a very patient individual and he thinks he goes well with someone like that.

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Kaufmo:

- Their friendship is like trying to combine oil and water.. they don’t mix easily… They have respect for one another, an extent of it and Kinger probably has more than Kaufmo but they have very different conflicting personalities.

- Kaufmo is prickly and pessimistic most of the time, however I do want to think around Kinger he hold back a little. These two ended up being the last of the old cast, they’ve been through alot together…

- Kaufmo hates lovey dovey stuff, god forbid Kinger even rests a hand on Queenies side or something- he WILL point it out like a toddler grossed out by seeing their parents kiss.

- I think after Queenie abstracts it really changes. I want to assume that is when Kinger finally fully lost every marble he was hanging onto and Kaufmo.. well he realized how much he really missed those two together.

- Post Queenie, I think their relationship evolves from annoyance to much more understanding, not knowing eachother too personally as one would hope, given their circumstances but they would still go out of their way for a quick “are you okay?”

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Peepo:

- Peepo is a super sweet guy, and I’d say he was a good acquaintance of Kingers just for the fact there wasn’t too many guys and they were both very friendly.

- Peepo was the first to arrive of this old group, so he was much like in Kingers place with the current crew. However he’s not crazy because this is likely to beginning of when people started to get trapped in the game still, and not too much time had even passed. Aka, more people were entering than abstracting most definitely.

- Anyway, to touch up on the above one, because of this he has a sort of natural leadership over everyone, people seem to seek him out on information about the world just because he’s been there the longest. This includes Kinger! To Peepo, if he needed a right hand man he actually really relied on Kinger.

- There’s a small place by the digital lake that no one knows about except Peepo. When the sun starts to set he almost always likes to just.. go outside the tent and walk to it, and the only person he ended up showing was Kinger. It became sort of a spot for just them to talk, which is likely what made them closer. Kinger later would use this exact spot to ask Queenie out…Jumping to canon, the only person who knows of the spot now is Kinger, and he often goes there to seclude himself.

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Moppsy:

- Even though I put her here, I can’t really come up with anything! I use Moppsy as the first abstraction Kinger would witness, and likely didn’t really know her or have a relationship with her. Putting her here to include this though!

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Pomni:

- Woo!! Og cast now!! I think Pomni and Kinger will get along well given time. While Kinger is certainly.. eclectic in his personality at this point in his stay in the circus, I think Pomni would be comfortable talking to him about things more than Jax or Zooble, who knows! Just based on what I know from the pilot.

- Kinger used to invite anyone and everyone into the pillow forts he made, but once majority of the old cast abstracted I’d assume he stopped completely, instead using it as his own safe haven. However, Pomni is the first one that he very awkwardly asks if she would like to come inside, which leads to him feeling more inclined and comfortable to invite the others.

- Kinger notices and thinks Pomni is very different than the others, anyone he’s known so far infact and he probably outright tells her this because he lacks the ability to really filter his thoughts anymore. She doesn’t quite understand the nonsense he babbles out about it, but in the series if Pomni finds the exit or changes the circus for the better or WHATEVER goes on as she’s the protagonist, I’m just gonna say Kinger had a gut feeling from the start.

- Pomni seems to care the most when Kinger wants to show someone a bug, and that can be left up to the interpretation that the others just got tired of him doing it all the time and Pomnis not used to it yet, or she genuinely just tries to nod along and it makes him very happy to get a response.

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Ragatha:

- I think during the whole old cast abstracting and being replaced, if we look at the lineup of how everyone entered, I think Ragatha was the only one to actually know Queenie. Atleast see in person for a while, perhaps.

- I think those two would have gotten along SOOO well but!! This is about Kinger,, and I think Kinger and Ragatha also get along very well. She reminds him of Slinky…

- They both know they don’t talk or vent about their own problems at all, atleast anymore for Kinger. They are both bad at keeping it bottled up inside and while they both understand this about eachother, they don’t pry.

- If anything they have tea together often, and only they know alot about tea and really really enjoy it so it’s like their own bonding thing in a way.

- Ragatha came out to him first as a lesbian for some interesting strange reason, though if we follow my beloved trans Queenie hc I like to apply to things sometimes then she likely did it because she knows Kinger isn’t judgmental on lgbt topics.

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Zooble:

- I enjoy thinking of Zooble as an angsty teenage child compared to Kingers senile old dad energy

- I think in Kingers eyes they seem to get along a little bit but he’s just a tad intimidated. In Zoobles eyes they wouldn’t let anyone know how much they really like Kinger, afterall he’s nothing but sweet when being spoken with. It’s a nice break from.. Jax or Caine, even the others who are very emotional. Yes they can be kind too, but it’s like you don’t have to try with Kinger because he’s so finicky that he doesn’t remember every detail of your interaction to judge you on it anymore.

- I like to think whenever Kinger needs help with something Zooble lets out a dramatic sigh and goes to help him (no one asked them to and anyone else could’ve volunteered but okay Zoob we know you just genuinely like his company)

- Zooble gave him a weighted blanket as a gift to include in his pillow forts once and he had a panic attack while under it once because he couldn’t move (he loves it so so much I promise)

- Again hhh Dad Daughter vibe I really enjoy it I think Queenie would’ve adored Zooble like a mother too plsplsplsolsolsols

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Jax:

- Jax would call Kinger a boomer a lot and it stresses Kinger out so much because he doesn’t know what it means and when he asked Zooble to explain it to him they convinced him it was slur and so Kinger got Caine to censor the word boomer

- Kinger is like genuinely terrified of Jax and how much of a menace he is, he’s never known anyone that acts like this mf its insane

- Kinger does infact has some pet bugs in a large terrarium in his room and because Jax has keys to everyone’s rooms he with steal Kingers bugs (an example, the centipede he put in Ragathas room? Probably Kingers..)

- Kinger honestly tries his best to avoid Jax hhshs

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Gangle:

- Kinger is probably the closest to Gangle of everyone in the current cast.

- Gangle likes to draw and write and ramble and everything to Kinger, even when she has her tragedy mask on, he seems to cheer her up a little just by hanging out near her. Kinger really enjoys it.

- When Gangle does have her happy mask on, it irks something inside Kinger. She really reminds him of Wriggle. And he was much closer to Wriggle than Slinky so.. it bothers him a bit unlike Ragatha being similar to Slinky in few ways.

- She introduced him to anime and while she has a giant ass list of ones she enjoys he’s.. just quite fixated on ghibli movies… he finds them neat.

- They are.. autism buddies.. More so it’s well aware with everyone that Kinger is diagnosed with Autism but Gangle isn’t diagnosed, and Kinger is the only one staring HARD like “hhh ik what you are” fr fr anyway because I hc them both as autistic that’s another reason they tend to group together and get along more.

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glittter-vamp · 3 months

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Little update on where I’m at right now, after many talks on here with my amazing mutuals and followers who reached out to me and after a week to think about about all this I’ve decided to start posting about Joe again. That being said, I’m still disappointed in that whole UFC night and I’ll still be weary of him for quite sometime and I still feel strongly about the points I’ve made about that situation but I also realize that no one is perfect. If there is hard proof down the line that Joe isn’t the man we all think he is then I will have no issue changing my mind once again.

I also apologize if this is annoying to anyone because of my back and forwardness on here but I think it’s fair to say many of us have been pushed to the edge on here lately by the amount of harassment a lot of our blogs have been receiving this past year.

But with all this being said I’m not sure if I’m going to continue my fics on here about Joe and even post in the tag quite yet. I just wanted to talk to everyone who has supported me this past week on here and make it clear about my thoughts right now. I’m not here to argue about this to anyone, the same narrative still pertains that if it’s not something you agree or like then please feel free to unfollow or block 🖤

Also want to give a major shoutout to @wickedfun9 for taking time to write me personally about all this which made me reflect on this whole situation and just how much you all mean to me on here 🥲🖤🖤

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borrowmyshovel · 12 days

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yeah i was mutuals with transmascpetewentz for quite a few months. very much gave him the benefit of the doubt, probably for longer than i should have, he intimidated me loads and i thought if i broke the mutual he would confront me about it 😭 so i didnt unfollow/block for ages and man. the stuff i had on my dash because of that guy. so much negativity, even on posts simply about palestinians being murdered in thousands and he'd start going off about whatever. geez

(also feel free to delete/not respond to this ask i think i just needed to get that off my chest and also sorry for ranting like this in your asks unprompted uhhh)

(note: this ask is a few days old, sent in response to this post)

yeah that seems about right. wouldn't say i was intimidated, but i certainly didn't want to be the jackass tallying up a jewish persons posting stats to declare him Insufficiently Antizionist, you know? When I looked through his blog, I just saw him talking about antisemitism - and yes, I know there's been a lot of genocidal rhetoric spread in the name of fighting antisemitism, but that doesn't make speaking out about antisemitism inherently genocidal now does it. I couldn't make a solid case that he was doing that, and it started to feel gross, going through posts talking about oppression and bigotry to try and suss out some ideological impurity for which to condemn him.

I've been uncomfortable with the side of this discussion that seems to focus more on locating and attacking The Bad Jews than on uplifting palestinians. Which is not to say that we have to let people say whatever the fuck they like with no consequence but it is to say that shit is complex, and in trying to navigate that complexity i ended up giving tmpw more leeway than he deserved. I tolerated him saying he was "neither zionist or antizionist", with the logic that it's reasonable for a jewish person to be uncomfortable identifying with an ideology that's often used to cover antisemitism, I excused him reblogging a post from an account that also posted about hamas tunnels under hospitals and assumed it was a mistake on his part, i dismissed the people calling him zionist as looking for an excuse to discredit a jewish trans man.

Because it's not like there wasn't antisemitism and transandrophobia coming his way. People have used his status as a convert to deny his jewishness. I've seen a post repeatedly misgender him while declaring he'd given up his right to have his identity respected by being zionist. People are still treating him as the representative of all transmascs they disagree with, implying there's some underlying element of transmasculinity that makes trans men genocide apologists, or that trans men speaking about transandrophobia are directly equivalent to israelis acting like palestinian infants are a threat to their lives.

On some level i reacted to the callouts with defensiveness because on some level, they were using his actions to attack the entire transmasc community. I made a post complaining about it and had to promptly add disclaimers when the iof defense squad started showing up in my notes. I wouldn't be surprised if the whole debacle ended up pushing some trans men further towards zionism, perhaps including tmpw himself. But at the same time, there definitely were palestinians who could spot the dogwhistles better than people like me could, and were hurt by him and by our enablement of his behavior. I contributed in making the community a more hostile place for them in a truly horrific time in history and for that I am sorry.

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lucydonato · 4 months

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You know just because your best friend turned out to be bisexual doesn't mean show owes you a relationship or she needs to be attracted to you. The way you talk about her gives me the ick, it gives creepy guy who doesn't understand social cues energy. Not even being on the spectrum can excuse such behavior, it's creepy.

okay well not that it's any of your business but I have literally always encouraged her (healthy) relationships with men in the past and am now encouraging her to explore her attraction to other genders. I haven't told her about my feelings because I don't think she would feel the same way (previously because I thought she was straight and now because I don't think she would be attracted to me specifically) and I would never want to say or do anything that makes her (or our other best friend) uncomfortable, especially considering she's had multiple experiences with friends who've hurt her and damaged her relationships with them by blurring the lines between friendship and romance. I have never once said, to her or anyone else, that she "owes" me a relationship or mutual attraction. in fact, before she came out as bi and I suspected that she might be gay (something I never brought up to her or anyone who knows her because I know how harmful it was to me as a closeted person to have other people speculating about my sexuality, no matter how well-meaning they were), I REPEATEDLY said that above all else I wanted her to be happy and fulfilled in her relationships, even if it wasn't with me.

me voicing my own feelings of sadness or inadequacy about a crush who (presumably, because, again, I have chosen to not tell her about this) doesn't feel the same way (on a private blog that she doesn't know about) is NOT me engaging in entitled incel behavior, because I fully recognize that this is a ME problem and it's not her responsibility to fix that, as a romantic partner or even as a friend. I'm not going to apologize for having the good sense to develop feelings for an absolutely wonderful, beautiful, and kind person who deserves nothing but love and support from and for anyone she chooses as a partner, nor am I going to apologize for talking about it, again, ON MY PRIVATE BLOG, where I can say absolutely whatever the fuck I want without unfairly burdening her or anyone else who knows the both of us.

feel free to block or unfollow if it bothers you so much, but frankly I think the fact that you take issue with this, plus your little comments about "creepy guys who don't understand social cues" and "being on the spectrum" suggest to me that you have your own (internalized?) homophobia and ableism to work on before you start offering unsolicited commentary to internet strangers, because, full offense, at the end of the day, you don't know me, you don't know my best friend, and you sure as hell don't know the 10+ years of history we have between us. so thanks for the concern but we're fine actually. delete your tiktok. love and light <3

#you stole fizzy drink you lose you get nothing good day etc etc

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dogwittaablog · 1 month

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PART 2: NOLPATS BURNER ACCOUNT

Link to part 1: (X)

*Bare with me for some spelling grammar errors, also if you have more info or have picked up something I've missed feel free to let me know.*

HERE WE GO AGAIN FOLKS!

So obviously it’s been quite an event for nolpat nation these past couple days… and it’s very evident people are aware of the burners and have been following or interacting with it.

If you aren’t aware @ gollpatter is the first acocunt that was inactive for a bit before it was suspended/locked, and then @ shottergallas was the secondary account…

So after I guess by the saving grace of god??? He ended up regaining access back to his first account that had more of the the problematic tweets, likes and questionable followings.

This was his first tweet he posted after being back on the account… which also is now deleted. #lolz

WHAT DOES PAT OLIVERIA MEAN?

Okay so obviously his name is Pat Oliveria on his main and some are probably confused or thrown off by it. My assumption to the name is... obviously ''Pat'' is part of his last name and well-known nickname and ''Oliveria'' was most likely taken from the Brazalian MMA fighter Charles Oliveria... and we all know how much he loves MMA.

ACCOUNT PRIVATING

The account actually went private for a moment and then went public again… then also decided to unfollow a specific group of people *cough* all the obvious friends and some influencers.

Pretty much any tweet that people would interact with the account would get deleted. Which I think most of us have already witnessed.

Here is some other tweets that have now been deleted. (X).

MUTUAL BURNER ACCOUNTS

After this all went down some of his mutuals went private (some have unprivated now) and even one deleted.

A notable mutual user that deleted is (@ basket_458462). I think not many people saw what went on, on that account… since It deleted pretty much after 1-2 days after the burners were under fire… you thought anything was bad on the NP burners, this one was 10x worst lol. NP off (@ gollpatter) liked a good amount of tweets off there page, pre much all pertaining to WJC 2018, and weren’t the greatest takes either. The Basket 4 page was pretty active interacting with stan twitter.

Though literally all those mutual burners hold very debatable content and most of it? Well you guessed it! It’s all pretty much red pill, zyn bro misogyny.

The Basket 4 account was just a different breed and every tweet or like was constantly victim shaming and blaming the girl involved in the WJC 2018 incident. Probably explains the profile picture too… yikes.

Just thought it was funny how some decided to go private or delete, which shows to me they’re aware of what’s going on.

NOW ONTO THE SUSPICIOUS? OR JUST COINCEDENTAL INSTAGRAM ACTIVITY?

!!!!!!!! I WILL BE MENTIONING HIS PRIVATE INSTAGRAM ACCOUNT PLEASE DO NOT BE THAT PERSON AND TRY TO FOLLOW OR INTERACT WITH IT !!!!!!!!

Maybe a big coincidence but NP started unfollowing people off his main ig account just about a day after shit hit the fan, though this is pretty common for him to randomly do mass unfollowings just found the timing to be ironic.

If some of you were aware he has a private finsta account. He had the username that went by @ gollasperoutdoors and then changed it to @ youngglasp. You're able to see how many times the user changed their user and how long they had the account for, the username was changed 5 times throughout the past 4 years. He changed the username to the account about 2 days ago... he's most likely had the user (@ gollasperoutdoors) for a hot minute as well… don't know why he decided to change it now... also changing the clearly evident nickname of his to just “glasp”.

I also kind of have a theory that one of his finsta account usernames at a point in time was probably @ gollpatter (the same as his twitter)… You aren't able to view their old users, but I just thought about it since it's been changed multiple times... though impossible to prove because most of us probably don't remember his older finsta users or even knew he had one to begin with.

NOW WHY HASN'T THE ACCOUNT DELETED? WHY HASN'T IT BLOCKED ANYONE? WHY HASN'T IT TWEETED IN DAYS?

It’s pretty obvious and simple to why the account has done none of those things and is limiting/stopping activity.

If the accounts started blocking evident hockey stan twitter accounts or accounts that interacted with them, deleted high volume of tweets especially the problematic ones, went private or deactivated. It would fully be more evident that we are most likely right on our assumption on who’s running it and that they’re fully aware on what’s happening LOL.

Also probably another reason why the account unprivated so quickly + tweeted a bit even after getting called out is because whoever is running it most likely wanted to play it off… Even tho the deleting of directed tweets + unfollowing specific known friends and influencers and other activity was already enough for most to throw the guilty charge.

To tie things up I don't think the accounts will delete anytime soon or even at all and will just slowly be abandoned. I guess the one smart move on his part was that the account wasn't under his actual name and there isn't a definitive way to prove its him unless you know details about him, so it's not clockable to the general public. (Shout out to the anons for this part!).

#sorry for the wait lol #nolan patrick #nolpat #np19 #my post #burner

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lipglossanon · 6 months

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Hello! I just wanted to let you know that it is 100% not your job to monitor what minors are doing online whether you write nsfw content or not. Minors who want to consume nsfw content most definitely are not going to care about a warning and it is 100% on parents to ensure their children don’t have access to that kind of content. I wish tumblr had a better system for blocking minors from viewing that kind of content, but it’s the internet and I feel like people really need a dose of reality when it comes to the internet. I’ve seen some real vile, fucked up works of fiction online and yours are literally just basic taboo with very, very common kinks that are usually only hot in a fictional setting. I understand everyone has boundaries, but some people truly shouldn’t scour the internet if they can’t grasps that someone that’s not committing a crime (or even writing about minors in the first place because can we talk about how common it is for fandoms to write porn between minors or even minors with adults??) should be able to write a work of fiction. I might come off as overly mad about this but as someone who dealt with sexual abuse from a family member as a minor, I find it crazy when someone starts suggesting that engaging with incest fics or even ddlg fics is supporting grooming or pedophilia. Writing should always be a safe outlet of expression and if people find it gross, they do not have to consume that content. If I was you, I would just ignore it all. You’re not at fault for anyone but *you*. Not what your followers say, not what someone doesn’t agree with, not if a minor reads your work. This is your page and you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for writing insanely common smut even if you do want to be respectful. You deserve respect as well and I find it disrespectful that people expect u to be mommy to everyone on ur page.

U don’t have to post this either, I just wanted to rant as well because I’m mad that u had to deal with people making u feel bad about small things like a warning and accidentally using the word grooming in the wrong context when u obviously have 0 bad intentions and are always so fucking kind.

Hi anon!

I know you said I didn’t have to post, but I wanted to reply back to you (and this is the only way to do it haha).

I just wanted to say thank you! 💜 💜 It might seem silly but this means a lot to me! 🥹🥹

You seriously made me tear up cause I really do try to be respectful and kind on this platform; it’s the least someone can give to another. We’re all just people ya know?

And looking back at it now after a few days have passed, I’m still confused (since I don’t even know what was being said about me/my blog) as well as disappointed cause I thought I was on friendly terms with these people. I didn’t even get a chance to defend myself before everyone just dropped me like I have the plague lol.

And to be quite honest, I find it kinda hypocritical to unfollow me for a misunderstanding when most of the mutuals I followed at the time wrote equally problematic/dark content (and I’m not even writing underage or grooming to begin with!).

Like it’s one thing for someone to not follow me for their own reasons; it’s another to tell people not to because of X, Y, Z and it not even be in the correct context cause you’re just cherry picking my asks/posts based on my ignorance.

Also, I’m sorry you had to go through that sort of abuse, anon! ❤️‍🩹 thank you for sharing ❤️‍🩹

I’m moving past it! I’ve blocked/unfollowed anyone who I thought might see my content that was involved (just in case). And any hate gets deleted. I’m honestly doing fine! Just get peeved every now and again cause like why be nice to me up until zero hour and then not even discuss it with me? I mean critical thinking skills are a thing ya know? 🤣 it’s giving Kelso (damn Jackie, I can’t control the weather 🤭)

#ask box #anon #lipglossanon #lipglossanswers #ranting lol

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sotwk · 1 year

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How I Use My Following/Mutuals List

Although I celebrate the growth of my Followers list as much as the next blogger, my Following list is much more valuable to me, and I try to make it so that my Following List = Mutuals List. (Except for a select few blogs I follow for "business" reasons, such as graphics, artist/image resources, etc.) In an ideal world, my Following list would be the same size as my Followers list too.

I try to Follow mostly just blogs who follow me back, not because I think it's some fancy VIP list, but because interactions and developing actual friendships with Followers matters a lot to me. I regularly browse my Following list to check on blogs/people I haven't touched or interacted with recently, and I make an effort to make some sort of contact if it's been a while. I actually try to keep tabs on Mutuals! That is more difficult to do if there are a 100+ blogs/bloggers on the list that have barely interacted with me and are kind of just sitting there. So I don't follow back those blogs.

I understand that not all Followers want to chat or get chummy, and that's okay! But "silent" interaction is shown through likes and reblogs, and those matter to me too. If you are a Follower, please show up on my notifications and give me some sort of sign that you'd genuinely like for me to follow you, too!

On the other hand, if I started Following you (cause I do make the first move sometimes), and you're not hitting the follow back button to make us Mutuals, that's totally fine! But if enough time passes and the engagement/interest is starting to feel just too one-sided, then I might eventually unfollow--no hard feelings!

I will never unfollow the blog of a Mutual, even one that's gone inactive. Once we become genuine Moots, it's for life, baby!

I WOULD LOVE TO BE MUTUALS WITH YOU and interact with you and your blog.

I just need some sort of sign that you want the same, thus the word, "Mutual". <3

I just completed a "clean up" of my Following and Followers lists, which included purging suspected bots, following back followers I have missed doing so before, and unfollowing blogs that almost never engage with me or just never followed back. I hope I haven't mistakenly unfollowed someone I wasn't supposed to, but if I did, please forgive me, and if you can please let me know, I will correct the mistake!

Disclaimer: Side-blogs vs main blogs make this whole Following thing pretty tricky, so if that causes me to screw up my own Follow-back protocol, I apologize! Again, please feel free to reach out and give me a heads up on which blog I can/should follow and reach you at!

I love you, Mutuals!

#sotwk announcement #blog housekeeping #mutuals appreciation

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verecunda · 6 months

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Hi, it's been a long time since we "talked" and I would have liked it to have been done under different circumstances but life has taken a different path: I saw that you reblogged certain posts that I considered as zionist propaganda and genocide/war crimes apology, notably the anti Hamas article.

I assume that you agree with the posts you have reblogged at least partially and that you are well informed, in which case, there is no way for us to remain mutuals because the condemnation of armed resistance carried out by oppressed peoples who will most likely never get justice for the genocide of which they are victims, and which have killed and mutilated 25,000 defenseless civilians mostly children, women and disabled people is for me a red line, without exception.

Let's just stay polite in memory of the good discussion we had about Tolkien, which I encourage you to reread again especially the moral he tried to convey about wars and the desire for domination and what they do to people. Try to rethink the lives of Palestinians from their point of view using their testimonies and some history books, there is a lot to learn from this massacre (how and why it started).

If I'm wrong, please let me know: I'm sorry.

If this is not the case, we must not regret it, it is better to be clear about our commitment and our limits. Let's just unfollow and block each other to keep peace between us.

Hi. I appreciate your remaining civil.

I assume you're referring principally to this post, which is an article written by a Gazan and pro-Palestine activist. I just can't see that as zionist propaganda in any way, shape or form. One person can't represent their whole people, but if they have criticisms of Hamas, I believe that's a point of view worth listening to.

I don't believe I've been repeating any zionist propaganda here on my blog. I've certainly reblogged things pointing out that Jews and Judaism as a whole shouldn't be conflated with the atrocities perpetrated by the Israeli state, nor should we let Israel and the western powers that support it perpetuate a narrative that to condemn these same atrocities is inherently antisemitic.

I'll be the first to admit that though I am wholeheartedly pro-Palestine and anti-Israel, I'm not as fully informed as I'd like to be. I try to keep up, but the internet is such a mire of misinformation, I try to tread carefully. But this I will say: as a student of history, I'm well aware that violent colonialism leads to violent resistance. But while that's perhaps inevitable, I don't think groups like Hamas warrant hero-worship, any more than the IOF do. I don't think I'm entirely ignorant and naïve in this case, either: I come from a Catholic family with links to Northern Ireland, and I can see very clear and obvious parallels with the Troubles. You can understand how something came to be, without applauding it.

I'd be sorry to lose contact, because I have enjoyed our fandom talks in the past, but fandom should never come at the expense of real life, and if you would prefer to part company, that's fair enough. I won't block you, simply because that's not something I do very often, but if you prefer to block me, I understand. Do what's best for you.

#real life intrudes #Palestine

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dreamhot · 6 months

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I used to be really involved in the dteam fandom but I’ve distanced myself from it in the past year because I no longer had the energy to deal with all the grief it was bringing me through the drama. I unfollowed many of the accounts I followed that posted about them (except for my mutuals) and I became impartial to the drama and everything surrounding Dream. I did that because I would always get so worked up anytime I saw anything negative posted about him and I just couldn’t afford to constantly be angry anytime I opened a social media site. I watched the video, hoping it would shed some light on all the controversies and make my convoluted feelings towards Dream a little easier to understand. It did. Though I don’t think I will ever be as involved in this fan base as I was before, nor will I ever feel as strongly about the dteam and their content, I think I’ve become comfortable enough to start coming back to the old dteam spaces I used to frequent. I think I can refollow some of the blogs I abandoned without feeling guilty like I had before

i feel as though that's a totally healthy way to go about it. part of my inactivity has been the result of irl being busy and shifting interests in general, but the constant negativity was also a drain on me. even when you didn't go looking for it, you'd stumble across people being cruel about something you care deeply about, and it was just ... exhausting. that being said, having this video finally come out and seeing the tide turn - if only a bit for now! - is a breath of fresh air, and it makes approaching the content feel a lot less daunting

i hope you're able to find some happiness with whatever level of engagement you have with the dteam and the fandom - and we can all look forward to more mc content in the new year WAHOO

#smile.ask #anon

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xavieryaa · 6 months

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Making My Own Tumblr Year In Review

So tumblr is not doing the individual years in review for 2023 like they did the last couple of years :(

This is the first year I’ve really been active on Tumblr and used it as my primary social media, so I was really sad to hear that. But then I decided…why not do it myself?

I posted 1837 times in 2023. That’s 5 times per day.

1748 (95%) of my posts were reblogs, and 89 (5%) of my posts were original.

Blogs I think I reblogged the most? Not in order.

@yipeewahoo

@hoodie-sys

@94erz

@namchyoon

@heybaetae

These are just based on me cmd-f'ing my blog using the names of blogs I remember reblogging a lot. It's probably wrong.

My top 15 most used tags (not 5 because i love tagging and want to show more):

#bts - 1045 posts (yeah obviously)

#bts pics - 803 posts (yeah obviously x2)

#queue attack my heart - 691 posts

#memery - 312 posts

#namjoon - 308 posts (i am so mentally ill)

#hoseok - 167 posts

#jungkook - 166 posts

#seokjin - 138 posts

#jimin - 138 posts (i wrote down seokjin's tag first so i put it higher)

#yoongi - 119 posts

#fic & writing - 108 posts

#taehyung - 103 posts

#bts birthdays - 99 posts

#serious posts - 92 posts

#namjoonposting - 59 posts (my favorite tag)

By the way this was so fucking annoying to do. The archive does not show how many posts you have in a certain tag. For every month I counted the amount of rows in a tag, multiplied it by 8, and added in any rows that didn't quite get up to 8. Then I added all those months together. I had to do that for every tag. Tumblr why is there no easy way to see the number of posts in a tag.

My top 5 posts of 2023:

5. Luffy Tab - 20 notes

Still can't believe we just. got a luffy tab. i just woke up and had a luffy tab

4. BTS Post Search - 27 notes

As it turned out. the poster changed their name to something else so that's why i couldn't find the post from tumblr user soupmoths -- they were an entirely different person. oopsie

Also I ended up being able to reblog it! Someone tagged me!

3. 3D Rant - 32 notes

This post got me my first hate reblog <3

In case anyone is wondering. I still agree with everything I said here.

2. Porn - 99 notes

Not doing the big link preview for this one since that on its own is kinda nsfw. Minors don’t click that link.

But yeah. That makes sense.

Even though there’s only 5 reblogs people find it semi-frequently (especially the past few days, no idea why), so I guess it’s spreading somehow? Which makes me happy :)

The Reddit Post - 2.1k notes

Obviously that was going to be it lol, over 20 times the amount of notes than anything else. My notifications were Dying.

Also, this stuff wasn’t in the actual Year in Review(s), but I’m adding them in for fun.

I liked 21k posts in 2023.

I followed 426 blogs in 2023 (not including the accounts I unfollowed).

I gained 69 followers in 2023 (excluding porn bots and regular bots). Nice.

I started 4 blogs on this account, 1 main blog and 3 side blogs.

I gained 15 mutuals in 2023 <3

All this data was as of December 18th, 2023.

#xavi.txt #tumblr year in review #year in review #diy year in review #tumblr year in review 2023 #year in review 2023

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onelonelystory · 1 year

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I know a bunch of people are making way more helpful beginner’s guides to tumblr but for anyone who may be making the leap during the Reddit exodus here’s my two cents:

try following friends first. get the hang of how reblogging functions and of all the posting features. if you use desktop add an xkit extension and use their quick reblog. change your header and profile and title from the default. consider not using an unstylized picture of yourself as a profile; anonymity is valued here (though of course, coming from reddit, I’m sure you understand.)

curate your own dash. follow people who post about things you’re interested in, follow friends, follow friends of friends, unfollow anyone at any time if you notice that their posts are not for you. don’t feel obligated to follow certain people just to participate in certain corners of the internet. if they really have so much good shit to say, it’ll probably make its way over to you eventually. the trending and for you pages are kind of useless and serve best as an occasional peek into a funhouse mirror version of the internet you thought you knew.

don’t overuse the add-to-reblog comment feature. if there’s additional commentary you want to share with your audience, that’s what tags are for! it shows up in the poster and previous reblogger’s notifications just the same. somewhere down the line someone might see your tags and decide to append them to the main post. we affectionately refer to this process as “peer review,” because once something has been added to a reblog any further iterations of the post will include that addition so it’s really just a way of saying said commentary adds to the post in a way that is not exclusive to your own audience.

that said if you do feel you have additional context or a necessary perspective to add to a post and you deliberately want to attach it, don’t be afraid to say your piece. people can reblog it or ignore it if they like, that’s their business.

if you disagree with the contents of a post, try not to do a discourse about it. If it seems like well-intended misinformation, you can add a correction with a source, or whatever additional context you feel is necessary for anyone who may not know better. any questions about what the post really means or follow-up is maybe best directed towards op’s ask box, as the narrative of reblog threads can get lost in the notifs tab. don’t be argumentative, don’t make assumptions; this is the internet. nobody on here gets an editor to make sure their words are framed exactly as they intended. if you really feel like being negative take a screenshot of the offending section, redact op’s url and any tagged or visible accounts, and make your own post. we all want to just tear into something from time to time and disagreements are a part of life. but try to avoid unnecessary conflict, it’s neither fun nor productive for any party.

if you see someone being a bigot block them. don’t dunk on them, don’t send them anon hate, don’t argue against them in the reblogs. there’s no algorithm on this site and nothing spreads without people spreading it. the best way to stop vitriol is to disengage.

block anyone. block people for being hateful bigots, block people for being annoying. block people for trying to start discourse on your posts even if you feel bad about it. if you start thinking to yourself wow, my life would be just a little bit better if this person couldn’t see my posts and I couldn’t see theirs, block them. block me for being preachy. block your best friend of six years bc they’re spamming your dash with their untagged spongebob liveblog and then dunk on them in your 20 person discord server.

treasure your mutuals but don’t feel like you have to be following people to be friends. tumblr dms are busted as hell just send someone an ask instead unless it’s that private. the search function does not work. polls are new and we’re all still constructing the etiquette of those together, but so far they’re mostly a vehicle for pitting characters against each other chunin exams style. ignore any part of this post that you don’t want to listen to I am legitimately not the boss of you. make your own truth go crazy drink water have fun.

#long post #196

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