#Also people who engage in cringe culture are really funny

[queeraliensposts]

I can't believe I live in a reality where a white woman who was falsely accused of rape can sell BLM merch, keep the money, and be praised by tik tok, but a queer musician that everyone thinks is "cringe" gets canceled and accused "profiting from a child's death" by talking about Nex Benedict in a tik tok he earned $0 from, where all he said was "this is why I make the music that I do".

#tx2 #melanie martinez #nex benedict #double standards #This once again proves that false rape allegations don't actually ruin lives #In many cases a false rape allegation is a get out of jail free card #Also people who engage in cringe culture are really funny #Cause when you criticize them they'll tell you to touch grass but then they'll prove that they're the ones that need to touch grass #People are honestly just DESPERATE to find a reason to cancel TX2 just cause they think he's cringe #I'm not mad about that #What I AM mad about is the fact that people are pretending to care about trans people like me in order to do it #This is one of the many fucking reasons I really really hate cis people #And there's trans people that are fucking falling for it it's annoying as fuck #Anyway cringe culture is fucking dead #lgbtqia

[shrimpmandan]

Ngl with the amount of antis who interact with my works or end up following me on social media I’m REALLY losing my empathy for when they freak out about proshippers following/interacting with them. Like. Why the fuck am I putting in all this effort to unfollow and block antis, checking for DNIs and signs of discomfort so I can respect their boundaries, when 90% of the time they don’t do the same? I can understand not checking everyone who follows YOU, but following others? Not even a brief check? Does there need to be a giant neon glowing sign for them to take the hint?

I still tend to unfollow/unmutual antis, if not hardblock them depending on how bad they are, but it’s really fucking funny how quickly they’ll victimize themselves for being in the proximity of a proshipper that they themselves followed and who doesn’t really keep it a secret. In a weird way I’ve started taking pride in the antis who leave kudos on my AO3 and shit. I don’t owe ‘em shit, I don’t consider practically anyone on social media to be a friend outside of Discord, I lose nothing for them fucking off or sticking around at the end of the day. If they end up throwing a hissyfit over what other content I write in my own time that’s their problem lmao.

Though I really should write more problematic Cuphead fics. Might get some of them to take the hint. For as much as I love TCS, I’m really beginning to miss the Cuphead game era of fandom where seeing problematic content was pretty common place, even if 2016-2018 was the peak of stupid cringe culture content online. I think that was my first exposure to Cupmug/Cupcest actually lmfao. Adult YouTubers pointing and laughing at it and calling it ‘cringe’, blasting it in front of their knowingly underage fanbase because cringe content was majority consumed by dumb preteens. Funny how that works out eh?

Side note: Calamug, Devilcup, and Devilmug were all also decently popular ships back in 2017. Devildice was still easily the biggest, but do not fucking think there weren’t HEAPS of toxic fics about ‘em. Everyone knew they were at least a little fucked up and unhealthy. Boss and employee is a power dynamic. Hot power dynamic, yes, but one regardless. The hypocrisy in this fandom is hilaaarious.

Anyways. I’ll get around to Ch 2 of Don’t Stop Singing eventually. It’s still in the works. I’m just frankly exhausted with the current state of the Cuphead fandom, though I guess at the absolute least most of the cesspit is contained to Twitter. Not to say there aren’t antis on here, but there’s way less. I can deal with muting people on AO3 if it means I can enjoy myself in peace. Granted, after I post ch 2 of that fic, I’ll probably move on to another fandom for some time. Again: not that I don’t enjoy Cuphead still, just kind of tired. I’m still eager to hear more news, but if we don’t get a new season, then. Oh well I guess. At least I can take solace in the fact that none of the folks that worked on the show particularly care about this stupid internet shit-- Dave Wasson and Grey DeLisle interacting with/outright shipping Chadice respectively, DD also interacting with both proshippers and antis amicably. It’s just suffocating as an actual writer and fancreator being mostly unable to engage with the fandom (or most fandoms tbqh) without putting up a bunch of emotional barriers.

I didn’t even get hit with harassment as heavily as some other proshippers in the fandom. Won’t name anyone in particular of course, but I’ve watched people get bullied off the platform while antis gloated after the fact. I was harassed by a popular fanartist who STILL interacts with my works and the most amicable assumption is just that he doesn’t know it’s me. I got the LEAST bad harassment, but that required me putting up all these emotional barriers and blocking like half of the fandom.

All so I can not worry about possibly being harassed. Possibly. And it’s so fucking tiring to have to do all the time, but I refuse to abandon my values just because it’d be ‘easier’. No amount of not labeling myself as proship would change the fact that I like and have both written and consumed problematic content for well over a decade. And I would not give it up for the fucking world, because I think as someone who went through utter HELL in real life, that if nothing else I should GET to express what that did to my brain instead of censoring it for a bunch of internet nobodies who don’t truly care for someone like me to begin with. It’s a lot easier to burn out on fandom when you both can’t make friends, and also don’t want to, because the first time you tried you got harassed.

I’m eternally grateful for the other proshippers and neutrals in the fandom. Keep on chuggin’.

#personal #cuphead #the cuphead show #yes im putting this in main tags. there is no fucking way people don't know im proship at this point #proship #pro ship #proshipping #pro shipping #anti anti #anti fanpol #profic #pro fic #pro fiction #profiction #okay to reblog

[dennisboobs]

i think one of the biggest issues in modern fandom is that despite the abundance of autistic/adhd/audhd fans, a declaration that cringe culture is dead, and the fact that we're all watching the same show, there is large portion of people who participate in fandom as a popularity contest, where the focus shifts off of the main interest and develops almost a secondary hyperfixation with specific creators, blogs, accounts, in a way that at least borders on parasocial.

this is nothing new, but the attitude that springs from it then dictates a specific Way to interact with that fandom, meaning that those who aren't interested in following select clique leaders are outcast and seen as More Cringe because they don't speak or act within acceptable parameters. when people have a platform, there's a pressure to be funny, be entertaining, to produce more Content that your followers WANT to see, the stuff they followed you for. sometimes this leads to plagiarism, ripping off posts from other platforms or lesser known accounts because you feel a compulsion to post ANYTHING for engagement instead of what you WANT to post. speaking from experience here, i am something of a Former YouTuber with a sizeable following, and i've been through it on other social media with several other fandom sideblogs and shit.

different platforms, different friend groups, different subsections – depending on preferred characters, ships, etc. – are inevitably going to be far more insular, and especially long-time fans who are less interested in the general media and more about a selection of specific interests is going to fall into this trap eventually. however, i think social media influences this more now than it did even a few years back, especially on twitter where it's more difficult to find "content" without a well-known account attached.

a while back someone made an always sunny iceberg that had a bunch of shit i had never seen before, despite having personally trawled the waybackmachine and archived a bunch of semi-lost media, running and overhauling the wiki with its decades of collected trivia, and having been on sunnyblr. a lot of it was from the podcast, but the stuff i had no recollection of was obscure ass sunnytwt drama that only involved like. a very small group of individuals. the thing is that these few accounts are minor celebrities in the fandom, and everyone follows them. i myself followed one or two of them when i first got into the fandom because they were posting clips reblogged by non-sunny mutuals. there are a TON of sunny focused accounts on twirter, but only a few that have multi-thousand followings, primarily for this reason. this is essentially your only gateway into the sunny fandom on twitter. here (on tumblr), you can easily look in the tags and curate your followed blogs (or look at the iasip subreddit) but it's a lot harder to find fandom content without that organized space (most people don't specifically tag tweets), instead you have to rely on the few sunny accounts you followed incidentally to deliver you retweets so you can follow more accounts.

so then what happens? you follow more accounts? see a variety of sunny content? follow a tag to see fandom newcomers' posts, art, fics? no, you follow the same 5 accounts you started with and stay in the echo chamber, caught up in drama and taking sides based on your few mutuals' opinions, maybe things get a little too personal and you stay following someone even though you disagree with their posts because you really don't have much of a choice, they can see if you unfollow, and they put posts on your timeline. you make a private account and start quote retweeting them to get out your irritations, a passive aggressive reminder that they're wrong. your other mutual quote retweets someone calling them stupid, and you also decide to tell them how wrong they are, because it's a popularity contest, not an open discussion. there's a Content Draught during the hiatus and people start getting bored. it becomes less and less about the original show, and more about the cliques, the exciting new drama of the day, the actors.

new fans are lost, long-time fans who don't care about all this extra shit are alienated, and it leads to a very odd type of gatekeeping that has these Elevated fans looking down on people for actually wanting to engage with the source media. yes, this includes the fans on reddit who spout quotes. this includes the people who liveblog their first time watching the show. this includes people who care about the show because it's still fresh and exciting and they haven't yet been made to feel that it's something to hide because it's cringey or dated or stupid to take it Too Seriously theorizing and dissecting the Poop and Fart Show.

I am guilty of all of this too, i think for quite a while i've been feeling like i need to defend myself by lashing out at other people because i am extremely sensitive to being made fun of for actually caring about my special interest. but i think that analysis and criticism (within reason) are extremely important facets of fandom and we as a fandom should be trying to encourage that rather than make fun of other fans. i think this is probably the reason for a lot of the issues with fan superiority, gatekeeping, the general awful atmosphere in the fandom. it's easy to complain and make counter content to someone else's post, it's a lot harder to grow the balls to have a proper in-depth lore discussion with them, or better yet, make your own stuff. ive been joking about a fandom-wide rewatch, but i genuinely think we should organize something like that. and i think everyone should set aside the judgement and just enjoy themselves. i'm sick and tired of feeling unwelcome in a fandom that i dedicate a lot of time to because i'm unashamed about enjoying the source media and i suspect a lot of you probably feel the same. you don't need to push everything through an irony filter and self depreciate, you can just like sunny and want to participate in fandom.

#ada speaks #literally feels like every time i try to get real at ALL someone feels like its appropriate to fling shit at me #im sick of vagueposting and broken telephone and im sick of feeling like i need to fucking mask my autism #yeah i misinterpret shit #yeah im overly sensitive #yes i care a whole hell of a lot and i am passionate about things you think are 'stupid' #i wish it wasn't embarrassing to be compassionate or understanding or... empathetic #and i'm going to try not to give in to that shitty behaviour just bc other people do it #i dont know how to fix the problem of people indirectly replying to shit instead of reblogging posts to disagree #i feel like its largely due to us not wanting to bother op #but i think its less harmful in the long run if we can be civil #i think we need to work to have a more welcoming community to EVERYONE not just Acceptable Fans

[gracesshelves]

Legally Blonde (2001)

When I saw this movie on the list, I got so excited. Legally Blonde (2001) is probably in my top five favorite movies of all time. We watched this movie all the time when I was growing up, so I have a lot of special memories attached to it. To me, this is a five out of five. Some of the jokes and moments haven’t aged well. However, I still think the overall message of the film holds up. Girls need to see that being intelligent and powerful does not mean you have to sacrifice femininity. So many pieces of media have shown female characters becoming more masculine or trying to appeal to the male gaze to have more power, and I think Legally Blonde (2001) does a good job arguing against this idea. Elle does not dress the way she does for anyone else, she does it because she likes it. While the message of this film is a more surface-level feminist argument, I’m not really expecting in-depth theory from a romantic comedy.

Legally Blonde (2001) follows Elle Woods, a wealthy girl from California, who follows her ex-boyfriend, Warner, to Harvard to get him back. However, winning him back is not as easy as she hoped. Unable to fit in with the east coasters, Elle struggles to find a place for herself in law school and learns that Warner is engaged to someone else. By letting go of that relationship, Elle discovers a passion for law and helping others, like Paulette and Brooke. Ultimately, she realizes that she doesn’t need to pretend to be someone else, or do things for other people, and she surrounds herself with people who like her for her. The tone of the movie is very lighthearted and has many iconic lines that people still quote today (“What like it’s hard?”) I ended up re-watching this with a friend, and she was shocked with how much of this movie I had memorized.

I do adore this movie, but as an adult, I noticed moments that bothered me more than they did when I was younger. The biggest was the body shaming and early-2000s diet culture. I found myself cringing at Brooke Windham’s whole plot about liposuction, or the comments about losing weight and going down sizes Unfortunately, this is par for the course for early 2000s movies, but I think this is a potentially large turn-off for folks who are not emotionally attached the same way I am. Additionally, I also struggled with some of the stereotyping. There are a few queer background characters, and I do think they have funny moments, sometimes it relies a bit too much on stereotypes. The only context we see gay men in relates to fashion or beauty, and the only lesbian character is mean and angry. I think it would’ve been a lot more interesting if Enid, the aforementioned lesbian, had been an ally to Elle instead of a foe. They have a lot more in common than different.

Another thing I noticed about this movie was the perspective. A majority of movies from the early 2000s, and still today, fall victim to the male gaze. Even in this movie, there are a few moments that sort of do that (the scene where she is getting ready and the bunny costume). However, I would like to argue that most of this film is filtered through the female gaze. Elle is a hyper-feminine person, obsessed with pink and all different kinds of fashion. Most guys I know are not really into that women who dress like that, but my fellow queer women friends adore Elle and her outfits and find them attractive. Sure, not every queer woman likes this femme look, but there are a lot who do. Another example is the love interest. Movies under the male gaze often have the girl end up with the buff, successful main guy. But Elle ends up with the soft-spoken, supporting guy who wears sweater vests. Again, in very generalized terms, love interests like this appear most often for the female gaze. If this movie had been targeted at men, Elle would wear super revealing sexy outfits instead of coordinate pieces and bubble gum pink dresses.

            While Legally Blonde (2001) isn’t for everyone – I have a large soft spot for this film. I understand why it’s a blockbuster.

[frostyreturns]

Frosty Ruins The Neighborhood

One of the benefits from unplugging from most pop culture is hearing about all the dumb shit people are watching that I've never seen. Eventually you get to a point where a show you've never even heard of has five seasons by the time it reaches your awareness. Every new show gets one of two reactions from me "no I haven't seen it" or "what the hell is that?" This show falls into the latter category.

Sometimes it's interesting though to dive into the middle of a show that's totally escaped your notice. I've not experienced an ounce of the shows marketting, I've not seen so much as a second of a commercial for it, I've not seen a clip of it online and I have not even come across a gif or image set of it on social media. This means my impression of it is completely my own.

My first impression is that it's going to be a terrible sitcom. Sitcoms can be bad in a good way and there are some sitcoms that are bad that I'll still enjoy as something mindless you put on in the background while I do other shit. But then there are bad sitcoms that hurt to watch. Right off the bat I notice two actors from different tv comedies, one is the blonde chick from two broke girls…which is a bad sign because that show was fucking terrible. However I also notice the extremely jewish gay but not really gay dude from New Girl which was the good kind of bad tv comedy.

A minute into the show I think I understand the premise of the show I think it's a reaction to percieved tokenism. I think they wanted to make a black show with token white people. It's the racial equivalent of the female ghostbusters, ignore all the positive black representation on tv and get mad about a fake problem and solve it by doing the thing you accuse others of doing. No wonder they picked the bland basic white chick from 2 broke girls and the persnickety magoo dude from new girl.

And like female ghostbusters it's full of horseshit libtard socjus political propaganda pretending that it's funny and entertaining. It delves very quickly into complete and utter cringe with lines like "set your alarm it's time for me to get woke." And of course like any show that follows this formula the men are also all dumb or jerks or dumb jerks.

The point of the episode I'm reviewing seems to be to create a strawman justification of regressive racial politics being pushed onto kids. They act like all they're doing is teaching kids about history and telling the truth…and any resitance to racial politics in schools is just trying to deny history…when in the real world these "diversity" classes are full of lies hatred and insane cultist marxist ideas designed to breed social conflict and societal upheaval.

The characters say things like "I just think its important for kids to get the whole picture." when what they meant to say was "I just want to ignore all of human history except for what a small number of people of a certain group did at a certain point in one specific place so I can paint one race as being victims and another as being perpetrators so that the murderous pedophiles who wrote this curriculum can turn people of different races against each other so none of us notice that it's always just the government committing atrocities and trying to rule all of us like tyrants."

For some reason I don't think teaching kids that slavery means 'that time when white people enslaved black people' is "giving them the whole picture." Treating slavery like it's this thing that happened once in American history rather than something that every group of people has engaged in and been victim to is retarded and evil. Evil because it's being done specifically for the racist and malevolent purpose of demonizing white people. Nevermind that the word slavery is named after slavic (white people) because of how those people were viewed. The retards who wrote this will say things like "it wasn't that long ago" to try to place collective blame on white people but will ignore slavery happening today…currently in Africa.

The other angle the propaganda here takes is one not everyone might notice. They pretend these kind of divisive racial politics is a new thing…it's a new curriculum that they are fighting to add and that most except a few are in favour of. In reality they've been teaching this shit virtually forever and almost everyone hates it. It's just gotten progressively worse and boomers and gen x have been mostly unaware of how batshit insane the stuff being taught to their kids in public schools is. It's insane as someone who's been out of the system for a long time watching tv shows like this pretend like this is a new thing being introduced when I had to listen to it daily. They don't want anyone to make the connection between how retarded people have become and the things they've been teaching. By pretending it's new they can act like the consequences are an unknown but we've been seeing the consequences for a long time and they're very real…and they're fucking intentional.

The other thing about jumping into a comedy like this in the middle is you really notice whenever it lacks comedy. Shows like this rely on character gimmicks and self referencing to generate the appearance of funny. I keep hearing the laugh track going…and genuinely have no idea why what was said was supposed to be a joke. The dialogue is stilted unnatural, the acting is terrible, the characters are wooden and pointless and everything just seems so empty and soulless. I'm really starting to believe that conspiracy about everything being written by AI. Sitcoms have always kind of been like that…but there's just something so alien about the way this show is put together. Like it was written by someone who's watched a lot of tv but has never talked to a person before. I think every character in the show would fail a turing test.

This hurt to watch, everybody who was involved in it should be ashamed and embarassed. If you like this show you have a cultural gutter palate. I refuse to believe that anyone watches this earnestly. I will believe that there are men who enjoy getting kicked in the balls, that makes more sense to me than there being a single viewer for this show. Once again I'm proved right that you should never watch anything made after 2017 if you want to have a good time.

F- late stage cancer

[drbased]

On Peep Show

for the anon who asked - I did it eventually!

Peep Show is such a fascinating piece of culture. I used to kind of dislike it, I was never much into cringe humour and it was also very mean-spirited. But after going through a lot of shit in my personal life, I found myself returning to it, and it fast became one of my favourite shows of all time.

I feel like who you relate to in Peep Show says a lot about you. I really related to Mark growing up; he’s a very realistic depiction of what it's like to be awkward, unconfident and pushed around by everyone. Also, I would argue what parts of the show make you the most uncomfortable say a lot about you: the first episode, with him intimidated by kids, used to be relatable to the point of extreme discomfort to me.

The writing of Peep Show is, to me, the pinnacle of what British writing can do. It manages to reach into your soul and jab at your deepest insecurities, at the unspoken terrors of living, thinking and feeling - and the choice of Jez and Mark being (mostly) total opposites means they have a broad range of insecurities to choose from. Some of my favourite lines from Peep show:

"Frosties are just Cornflakes for people who can't face reality." - Mark

“Tell you what, that crack is really moreish.” - Superhans (best cast role in all of history)

"We're have an obligation to be anxious, it's a mark of respect for the gravity of the situation!" - Mark

"I'm a very strong feminist. I believe women should have whatever mad thing they want." - Jez

"Look at me; I've got a girlfriend. A proper girlfriend reading a best-seller about child-abuse. I go out and have croissant. I'm just a normal functioning member of the human race and there's no way anyone can prove otherwise." - Mark

"The guy’s really come into his own since he’s been dead." - Mark

When I was younger, I used to view it as a much more black and white situation - Mark was the decent, shy guy, put upon by society, used and mooched off of by Jez - and Jez was pushed around by Superhans. Now, of course, I recognise that they're all horrible to each other in different ways, and they're all grossly evil and misogynistic to the women of the show.

Now, the show’s framing leans heavily into implying that there’s equal footing between men and women - to the point where women are portrayed as actually having a lot of power over the helpless, useless men. Peep show is fundamentally about power.

Misogyny sits as an uncomfortable undercurrent to the show, constantly referenced but rarely considered an evil in and of itself. It’s sort of seen as the default state, the building blocks of the male psyche, and that both Jez and Mark lack the inner strength to overcome it. It’s never treated as desirable, don’t get me wrong. I think Dobby’s comments on pornography sum up the show’s thesis statement on misogyny as a whole:

'Look, you're a man. Men like to look at troubling images of heroin addicts showing their genitals for money -- that's hardwired, like spatial awareness. I mean, it is disgusting and shameful, but you know, so's the textile industry.'

I think it’s impossible to write a confessional show about the male psyche without a recognition of misogyny. But also, the show clearly doesn’t want to go full Solanas, so in order for it to stay relatable and actually funny, it has to toe the line, and over-emphasise the amount of power women actually have in these scenarios. As a result, women are very confusingly written in this show, and often their confidence so overblown it’s unrealistic. Mark’s lack of sexual ability is seen as something humiliating for him, and not for Sophie - of course they visit a *female* couples therapist, just so Mark gets to engage in that classic male fear of women judging him sexually. Meanwhile, Nancy is portrayed as 'using' Jez, whilst his promiscuity is used to show that Jez is merely helpless and lacks the inner strength to resist the sexual advances of women. He only cheats on Nancy because Toni coerces him into it.

The unspoken assumption of peep show is that Mark and Jez represent something in all of us. And it has to be that way, because that’s entirely where the humour comes from. Fleabag takes a similar route. Jez and Mark represent a deconstruction of the 'chad' and 'incel' archetypes before they were ever really cemented into the popular culture. But it does this only to illustrate what a farce that dichotomy is: ultimately the rare instances that Mark and Jez appreciate and support each other is in their evil behaviour, especially towards women. The show's ultimate statement is that these men, if they had had more confidence and principles, could have been better: morality and success are conflated, seen as 'proof' of inner strength to overcome the evil inside.

#my writing

[dogsliampaynedoesntinstagram]

While I think the broader discussion of fanfiction is interesting for its own sake (and I look forward to your thoughts on it), to me, the fanfiction aspect of Niall's Capital interview was unimportant. The purpose of the segment seemed to be to say "here is a thing that other people do that is weird and cringey, everyone in this room agrees it's weird and cringey, isn't it funny how uncomfortable Niall is and how weird and cringey those people are". For me personally, it doesn't matter what the thing itself is, and it can be something that I personally absolutely find weird and cringey - I'll always find it pretty distasteful to make a joke where the punchline boils down to "aren't those people weird". I'm aware that covers a lot of humor, I still personally find it all distasteful. (While there's certainly room for a conversation about whether fanfiction, and particularly rpf, is harmful to its subjects, that was absolutely not the point that segment was engaging with.) Combined with the punching down element of it being a celebrity making fun of what's pretty clearly implied to be weird teenage fangirls, I thought the segment was in poor taste.

I think disliking it when people join together to collectively designate things cringe is a really reasonable way to navigate the world anon. There's a lot of reasonable individual reasons not to like Niall's video.

But a lot of those reasons stand directly in opposition to fandom culture. Fandom culture involves collectively designating cringe. While individuals within fandom can not like that - it's hard to believe that a behaviour can be both so common and also seen as a widespread reason to condemn. Both fandom and fanfic culture also vigorously defend their right to represent anyone and anything (and in generally have a very low tolerance for people disliking that representation) - but there's also a strong strand of resenting and trying to delegitimise anyone who represents fans and fan culture. And that's what fundamentally bothers me.

I think it's perfectly legitimate to maintain your right to represent the world, but that has to go with acknowledging that other people have the right to represent me - and it's why I often fundamentally disagree with discussions of the representation of fans and fan culture.

Anyway my experience of that video, like a lot of things, is a bit backwards. I woke up - saw lots of discourse, had no idea what was going on. I read a lot of things I disagreed with about how the world worked, before I had any indication of what had actually happened (that I outilned above and will go into more detail to another anon). So it's somewhat interfered with my ability to answer the question 'what do I think of Niall's video'. Although part of what I think is that it doesn't matter that much.

#To me the most interesting point #is that it seems reasonably obvious that it was created for the show #and so it's better understood as a piece of commercial content for a radio station #not fanfic #And it appears to be written by someone who doesn't really understand fanfic #I haven't really unpacked what the implications of that are

[ignitesthestxrs]

i have a hypothesis that the introduction of the “reply” function to tumblr significantly contributed to the loss of ask culture. tags as whisper conversation set a tone (a often useful one! but one that maybe leans in an “anti-cringe” kind of direction) and then replies capitalized on that instinct to not loudly contribute to conversations. like, if you didn’t want to reblog someone’s post with commentary (personal post that felt weird putting on your own blog, anonymity, whatever), then you could follow up with an ask ((as currently demonstrated)). now a lot of that conversation is happening in the closed loop of the reply function - not private, but certainly not a public discussion.

are there structural changes that you think tumblr would need for conversational culture to make a bigger comeback (either generally or for yourself)? (i’m thinking also of the closed door nature of discord servers and other ways fandom might be getting more insular, but that’s a sidebar.)

YEAH you know what i agree with this. and like, there used to be no way to reply to replies lol so you would screencap it and then make a new post which, while onerous, did have the effect of continuing that conversation in public. which also therefore made not just the conversation accessible to followers but also the fact that u as the blogger were available for conversation clear.

i do think the sort of extra layer of distance and the visibility of interaction allows people to be like, oh this blogger responds in this way to people who approach them, so if i approach them in a similar manner, i know what kind of response i am likely to get. rather than worrying about like, how do i as an individual worry about how to get this individual person to interact with me, personally. the stakes are much lower! the relationship building has more of a chance to go through digital layers of smalltalk.

honestly idk that i am very good at Solutions so much as Pontificating about this kind of stuff, but i do think it requires approaching from the angle of understanding that the nature of community requires both give and take, and fandom as an ecosystem can't survive on content creators throwing material out to silent masses anymore than silent masses are going to feel fulfilled or connected to people who aren't making things for them to engage with.

i also think there is a siloing of like, consumers in one section and creators in another and never the twain shall meet, which is kind of anathema to how i have participated in fandom. i do think that participation in fandom requires some kind of active behaviour, even if it's just reblogging and tagging fic or a fanart, or sharing your opinions on a show. like it doesn't have to be Making Content, but it does need to involve Making Connections, even if that connection is just being a weird teenager who finds a blog they like and backreads through that person's content and now they're an expert on swimming rpf and ffvii even though they have never engaged in competitive swimming or played ffvii (look.)

but like so much of my fandom behaviour was modelled on watching other people be friends via sharing their thoughts and creativity with each other, and i have only ever made friends online with other people who reached out to me on that level - not just people who liked the same stuff as me, or people who admired from a distance, but people who engaged with the things i was making, and who made things - art, fic, meta, funny opinions, gifsets, interesting questions! - that i wanted to engage with. and i really do think the mechanics of tumblr allow for that range and depth of creative interaction in ways that a lot of social media doesn't, or can't, and maybe the key is just. trying to make use of that more? modelling the behaviour i want to see in the world? who knows

also god i cannot imagine anything worse than joining a fandom discord. discord is for me to have a dozen servers of 3-6 people each, some of whom have 1-2 of the same people in them in different configurations, so i can meticulously choose the perfect configuration of group chat to drop a link to a funny picture or article i found into. you could not catch me in a group bigger than like, 8, i'd fucking die

#hannah answers asks

[kirinda-ondo]

Thinking about my ocs' usage of slang and Hip Meme Lingo and Tomor is kind of a giant walking plot hole in that regard lmao

Like Bragi is chronically online, so he's picked up a little Hip Meme Lingo, but is a Good and Proper Boy so he pretty rarely engages with slang in general. It doesn't help that he isn't From Here, so most of our slang just goes way over his head or gets horribly butchered in his rare attempts to use it. At best, he's learned how to call things cringe and thats about it lmao

Aneas is also Not From Here and thus not really fluent in Universe 7 slang either. If he knew it though, he wouldn't be as adverse to using it as Bragi would, because he's way less formal by comparison. But his main issues are that, a) he is largely pretty isolated, so he doesn't get near as exposed to our slang as Bragi does, and b) he doesn't know the Hip Meme Lingo because he doesn't even know what a Meme is on account of the fact that inside, he is basically a little old lady and thus painfully computer illiterate--

Meanwhile Tomor is incredibly fluent in Hip Meme Lingo despite a) not really being online because he actually goes outside and touches grass, and b) not giving a single shit about mortals, and certainly not from U7 because he Doesn't Even Go Here. He realistically should be about as slang-literate as the other two, but he's out here with a full understanding that 69 and 420 are the funniest numbers, among other things.

And when I was first asked how that was possible, I didn't really have a good answer beyond "idk, because its funny, mostly" but then I started thinking about it a bit more and I came to a conclusion: it's less about actually knowing those things, and more about the vibes I'm trying to portray. It's translation convention.

Tomor is the kind of guy who thinks he's absolutely hilarious, but in reality is an obnoxious jackass. And what's the quickest way to get that across than having him speak in Hip Meme Lingo and making those classic low-hanging jokes about funny numbers and updogs and such to the point that you want to tell him to shut the fuck up? The point of Bragi and Aneas being slang-illiterate is the idea that Universe 5, being well, a completely different universe, would have its own culture and slang going on, leading to a disconnect that is (mostly) played for laughs. But the thing about slang is that the made up shit always sounds fucking stupid and I personally refuse to engage in that, and I refuse to make up an entire meme culture and then have to explain that culture in order for people to understand whatever "hilarious" references Tomor is making. These are silly Dragon Ball OCs. I'm not trying to be Tolkien here lmao

So yeah, he's not actually a dank memer, I'm just translating how annoying and unfunny he is. But also because it's funny (because I'm an annoying memer.) That part still stands--

#kateh's oc tag #for what it's worth cayenne actually IS decently fluent in memes because she's just a normal human teenager #she's just considerably less obnoxious about it lmao #but yeah trying to get better about rambling unprompted about these fucks #so have this thing that's been on my mind i guess

[daedalusdavinci]

Post quadsmear eridave bc i am reliable like that

naturally naturally

send me a ship and ill tell you

who hogs the duvet

its dave. eridan sleeps like a fucking mess and keeps way too many throw pillows and blankets and shit in his bed and buries himself in them but at the end of the day dave and his texan cold intolerant ass is winning that fight every time

who texts/rings to check how their day is going

eridan never has to text dave because dave does not actually stop texting him ever it is a nonstop stream of consciousness in the way that only dave fucking strider can manage i know i said dirk does this but dave is the fucking blueprint ok no one does it like dave

who’s the most creative when it comes to gifts

dave. easily. eridan has more extravagant gifts but that doesnt always mean creative or thoughtful

who gets up first in the morning

dave wakes up at the asscrack of dawn and the only reason eridan wakes up before noon is because of work

who suggests new things in bed

im firmly in the "theyre both sex repulsed asexuals" camp but i think eridan is more in denial about it bc he has unhealthy views on his own self worth so i guess its eridan???? lol

who cries at movies

eridan. seadwellers are weepy they cant help it hes complaining as hes crying that its not that sad and dave is laughing at him he hates watching pixar movies

who gives unprompted massages

dave. hes fidgety and likes physical contact and eridan loves it so like the touch starved people pleaser he is he goes out of his way to do it

who fusses over the other when they’re sick

fussing might be the wrong word. dave is very thoughtful when hes not making fun of eridan for being overly dramatic and whiny about being sick, but hes not like. fussy or worried. eridan..... tries. but he also worries. mostly because his attention quota isnt being met and it makes him really uncomfortable when dave is so quiet and tired. sooooo do w that what you will

who gets jealous easiest

eridan. easily. dave doesnt get very jealous but eridan struggles with it a bit because thats valuable attention that hes not getting

who has the most embarrassing taste in music

dave bc hes a hipster douchebag who only listens to shit no ones heard of but also eridan because he just has bad taste and listens to something cringe like opera or troll kpop (which isnt to say that either of those are cringe but the way he engages with them is. yeah. hes that guy.)

who collects something unusual

dave collects dead things i think he wins this one forever and always

who takes the longest to get ready

eridan. i dont need to explain this we already know

who is the most tidy and organized

its actually dave? they both get really cluttery but dave like....... tries. and eridan does not.

who gets most excited about the holidays

dave never celebrated anything growing up and when he did it usually didnt end well for him so he doesnt super care about holidays at all. eridan does not care about being culturally sensitive and also doesnt care about human holidays. he cares more about troll holidays and participates in them, but not overenthusiastically

who is the big spoon/little spoon

it switches around but id say eridan is usually little spoon because hes a princess like that

who gets most competitive when playing games and/or sports

eridan has problems. he played flarping. yeah.

who starts the most arguments

eridan because hes dramatic and whiny and petty and sometimes dave thinks its funny to deliberately bait and antagonize him

who suggests that they buy a pet

dave. dave wants a lizard, and then he wants chickens, and then a cat, and then-

what couple traditions they have

bullying each other, mostly

what tv shows they watch together

the most garbage reality tv ever, and also documentaries, tho they struggle more with picking one theyre both interested in for that

what other couple they hang out with

dave is attached to roses hip, so whoever shes dating, and also probably whoever karkats with, because karkats a mutual friend

how they spend time together as a couple

its a lot of cuddling and picking on each other tbh. theyre super touchy and affectionate but they can also just drive each other crazy and they manage this all at once

who made the first move

eridan, definitely

who brings flowers home

dave

who is the best cook

gonna say dave. ik its a rlly popular hc that dave cant cook but youtube exists and no one was feeding him so i think he just kind of figured it out on his own. maybe hes not the best chef, but he can feed himself. eridan tho? eridan cant. eridan is a spoiled rich kid he doesnt know how to cook

#asks #roomfulloferidans

[starlight-time-machine]

Week in Review

02/11/2024 – 02/17/2024

Sunday

The first Manga Sunday without Cipher Academy…maybe I should just walk into the ocean…

Girl Meets Rock continues to be surprisingly good with its realistic and down to earth writing on teenage emotions.

Undead Unluck is gearing up for another big fight, and I’m glad that Top is fully invested now.

Oshi no Ko is…it’s certainly strange for them to cast two siblings as a couple, no matter the circumstances… If this movie was released in our real world, the impact it’d have on the Japanese entertainment industry would be staggering, so I can certainly feel its weight.

Magilumiere was fine, I like Shigemoto’s new more goth lolita look, and I hope he keeps it going forward.

I watched the latest episode of Undead Unluck, and it was pretty okay. I saw people doomposting about the amount of recap, but I thought they were used artistically enough that it was passable, plus it did help to jog the audience’s memory since the show always has a lot of stuff going on. The last few recaps about Billy were truly egregious, though, but I guess they needed something to stretch out the episode and time the cliffhanger at the end. The scene where Juiz mentions Andy’s mole was glorious, and in general I liked the atmosphere of the episode. They managed to keep things engaging even when it was literally just twenty minutes of Juiz explaining the lore. The next arc is going to be pretty exciting…

I tried reading Whalefall by Daniel Kraus, but the writing was so painfully on the nose that it made me cringe, and I hate long introspective narratives anyway, so I dropped it.

After literal months, I finally picked Sammy Keyes and the Search for Snake Eyes back up and sped through the rest of it in one sitting. I was a little hesitant about van Draanen featuring Mexican gang culture in one of her mystery stories for children, but thankfully it didn’t come across as too stereotypical – I think van Draanen is good about seeing the complexities in the issues that kids and teens face (including non-white ones), and she doesn’t tend to flatten or moralize too much. Sammy’s life is just as chaotic as ever, with the stakes rising with each book, and it can really reduce me to a ball of stress, but this instalment kept the action moving quickly enough that things were okay soon enough. We get another scene of cathartic karmic justice for Heather’s shenanigans, and this time even the teachers have to eat crow, so that was fun. And I like that Officer Borsch is finally seeing for Sammy for who she really is, and the tension in their relationship that comes from the secrets that Sammy has to keep. Sammy has so many complex relationships, and that makes reading about her world so engaging.

Monday

Finally watched the season 4 finale of Downton Abbey, and it was a bit of a slog for me. I get that the writers want to expand the world and add more characters, but I really don’t care about any of them, especially when they start having subplots with each other and not with the main cast. I hate the Mary love triangle thing (the two men are literally indistinguishable to me), I hate the Tom possible new romances thing, I hate everything to do with Rose, etc etc. I do find it funny to see how surly and world weary Daisy has become, and at least we ended the season off with a beautiful Carson/Hughes moment.

Tuesday

Oh, finally some action in Downton Abbey. I’m glad to see Jimmy gone, he was annoying. And I like the weird little tentative friendship that Anna and Thomas have. Edith’s storyline with her daughter is the most interesting thing in the show right now, but again I lament how she always gets the short end of the stick in life.

Wednesday

I watched the new Game Changer season premiere with my friend, and it was pretty okay. I like that the rules of the game make for some interesting strategies, and I liked all the game show parodies they did, but other than that it didn’t particularly stand out to me.

Also caught up on Dirty Laundry while I was at it, but again nothing in the episode really left a lasting impression.

Thursday

Finished catching up with Dirty Laundry this morning, and I found this episode to be a lot more fun. Paul’s story was a particular highlight for me.

For this week’s DunMesh Thursday I’ve made 粉蒸肉, and thankfully it’s turned out perfectly. Unfortunately, the episode itself wasn’t much on food porn lol my timing’s always off… But it was such a fun and funny episode – Kabru’s party wiping out again, Laois’ singing annoying the sirens away (Kentarou Kumagai I always knew your vocals were slay), Laois not recognizing Kabru but recognizing the Kobold right away, Chilchuck chastising Laois multiple times, Senshi learning that magic isn’t all that bad, Laios getting a parasite…he’s such a freak and I love that.

Barrelled through Downton season 5 today, and I’m happy to say that I’m finally enjoying it again. Mary’s horribly boring love triangle plot is finally over, Edith can spend time with her daughter without too much stress hanging over her, I like the weird friendship Tom’s built with the sisters, Thomas has been humbled into helpfulness somewhat (it’s so funny how the Crawleys employ his craftiness at the sight of a common enemy), I like Moseley and Baxter’s romance, the Denker and Spratt rivalry is so stupid and funny because of their equally massive hater energies, and I’m loving that Isobel and Violet are actually friends now, and get romantic plotlines of their own. And of course, the Carson/Hughes proposal!!!!! It was perfectly awkward and sweet and the best thing to end off the season. It feels like I’m back at the beginning of the show again, where I know who everyone is and I care about their storylines because they’re actually interesting. Anna and Bates are the only ones where I feel the story kind of drags – it’s a little insane that they’re doing the imprisonment plot again but with the other party this time, but at least it doesn’t drag out for as long.

Friday

Undead Unluck…I remember the Anno Un arc making me cry in the manga, so I’m preparing myself for the weeks ahead. This episode was super cute, lots of meta and referential humor that’s fun for anyone who’s into manga history, and also lots of fun character gags and parodies going on. As a…well, I draw comics too, so I greatly feel Tozuka’s pain, and I imagine that this plot element was a cathartic one to write (if only I also had six extra arms to do things for me…). They gave us a little glimpse this week, but next week we finally get to see anime Canada so that’ll be super fun for me.

Wow, this was a surprisingly good episode of Drag Race. I think this is one of the best Rusicals they’ve ever had – I liked most of the songs, the choreo was fun and varied, the characters were distinct, and there were honestly no real weak links in the cast (they really had to nitpick to choose the bottom three). It was fantastic to see Plasma and Sapphira in their elements and absolutely knocking their parts out of the park, and I’m glad to see another win for Plasma (finally some justice for the endearingly annoying white musical theater gays). And then the runway was also amazing, Plasma, Sapphira, and Q were the clear and deserved tops, but I also liked Nymphia’s cactus dress and Xunami’s bouquet dress.

Watched through the beginning of Downton’s last season and it’s really fun. I love that Edith is becoming an independent career woman who’s learning how to run her own business, and she’s finally getting a love interest who’s just a normal guy and not twice her age or married to an institutionalized woman or an imposter of a childhood crush (literally what the fuck was up with that plotline. It showed up for a single episode and seemed to just be there to fuck with Edith for the millionth time). Daisy’s fickleness is annoying me a bit – you’d think after six seasons she would’ve matured a little bit, but she’s just as beholden by her whims as ever. Hughes and Carson’s wedding was so sweet and cute, and it’s hilarious that Branson shows up again like he didn’t spend just three short episodes in Boston before swiftly changing his mind.

Saturday

I’ve finished Downton Abbey…well, the show, at least. And I think I can say that it has a pretty perfect finale. This whole season was great, with a lot of dramatic storylines that I felt invested in but also some more comedic ones that kept the tone light (Denker and Spratt come to mind). I love that Edith gets to have her wedding be the finale of the series, and the way that it brings together everyone on the show makes her feel truly loved for once. After six seasons of misery, it’s wonderful to see her finally happy. Some other highlights from the season were Edith calling Mary a bitch, which was extremely deserved. Since the beginning, Mary’s constant putdowns of Edith never sat right with me (no matter how clever her insults were) so it’s extremely cathartic to see Edith stand up for herself for once. And then I loved seeing Lady Grantham as a mom, sending her son a new puppy when they’ve had a fight. Carson didn’t start the season off in a very favourable light, with him being demanding with Hughes and insensitive with Thomas, but at least he came around by the end for his bittersweet goodbye as the butler of Downton. Speaking of Thomas, I’m slightly mad that Mrs. Patmore never apologized for assuming that he and Andy were doing something untoward – they even had the scene where Andy admits that he can’t read in front of Mrs. Patmore and Thomas, and we don’t even get a shot of Mrs. Patmore realizing that she’d been mistaken. Thomas definitely had an extremely rough go of this season, and it made me so sad to see him genuinely shaken and lonely, but at least he finally got what he wanted at the end. I haven’t watched the movies yet but I really really really hope they give him a romantic interest in them, I think he deserves one… I like that the finale has all the couples happy, with a few still up in the air (Molesley/Baxter, Andy/Daisy) so it doesn’t feel like a total cheesefest. This would definitely be an episode I’d return to if I wanted some comfort food.

As a whole, Downton Abbey was definitely a show of ups and downs. When it was all working, it was marvellous – all these interesting characters that I cared about having interesting interactions and finding a way through their lives and romances and careers. But when it wasn’t working (cough season 4 cough), it was an absolute slog to get through, and I think the show’s biggest weakness is how it can’t convincingly write two people falling in love over a period of time to save its life, which is troublesome when that’s what 80% of the show is about. I think the first season started off with a big dream and a strong conflict that petered out as they didn’t know how to resolve it in an interesting way, and then it was just getting its footing when two major characters left the show at the end of season 3. Season 4 definitely felt like the writers were scrambling and throwing anything they could think of at the wall, and it didn’t go over well with me at all. But they eventually found their groove again, and cut back on the amount of characters so that we could really focus on the ones I was actually invested in. And after so many trials and tribulations, it ended on the perfect note. It’ll be a 6/10 from me.

#week in review #2024

[stinkybreath]

I’m proud of how this turned out so I’m crossposting from fb but I respect you so I’m putting it under the cut. Here’s 5 of the absolute worst bullshit I put myself through consuming in 2023 in my lifelong pursuit of cultural literacy. Individual explanations underneath each for those who are interested in me being a hater 🫶

I have tried really hard to develop my critical perspective this year so I do have actual thoughts about these but I did me best to make them entertaining as well.

The Stand - This year I embarked on an effort to read more Stephen King because I really like the Ranged Touch guys and I wanted to better engage with their show Just King Things. I read Carrie first (more on that in another post), which really set me up for such monumental disappointment when it came to this fucking book. Jesus Christ. I have scarcely read a better selling or more beloved work of popular fiction, and I have also separately scarcely read a more offensive and poorly constructed work of popular fiction. I don’t even know how to begin addressing the headache it gave me, but I was pissed off almost the entire time I read it. Caveat here that, like everyone else, I did love the “no great loss” section both on its own merits and as a cute little Vonnegut nod.

Goodnight Beautiful - I read a lot of shitty thrillers because they get miscategorized as horror very commonly- and while I don’t think genre boundaries are hard and fast I do think that these are very distinct groups- but they’re almost as satisfying so I guess I’ll take it while I’m here. But my lord. This is one of the shittiest shitty thrillers I’ve ever managed to make myself finish. I have brain problems that make it difficult for me to distinguish between characters when there’s a lot of action or time weirdness or whatever whatever, but based on reviews that I trust, it was so poorly done that even normal people couldn’t follow what was happening until the author took the reader by the hand and shoveled the answers directly into their mouth.

Stolen Tongues - for YEARS I’ve been hearing people rave about how unique and effective and just good this book is. My experience, however…

1)author can’t turn a phrase to save their life *vine boom*

2) this has such an extended ‘nlog breasting boobily’ description of the girlfriend that I think I literally gagged *vine boom*

3) racist. *vine boom vine boom vine boom*

No One Is Talking About This - one of my biggest pet peeves is the way most people (authors, journalists, thought leaders, your parents, congresspeople) talk about the internet. It is broad, with both the lack of specificity and the extremity that implies. The way someone talks about the internet can tell you so much about their perspective that they must not know how revealing it is or they’d be more embarrassed about how they sound (again, more on this in another post). This book is a great example- it’s inauthentic to the core. There are some readers who clearly interpreted this as funny glibness but the particular way Lockwood takes internet haterism ad absurdum lets me know she’s never had one single internet argument with someone. It pissed me off so royally that I nearly sent this author an email except I’m not convinced she understands how to open those.

The Vile Thing We Created - the only book on this list that I did not finish and yet felt qualified to speak on anyway. Suckered again by booktok! There was sufficient hype for this book that I let myself get excited, I even spent a few of my actual dollars to get the ebook for convenience. I am really enthusiastic about engaging with themes of the horror of parenthood, good or bad, because I find them an interesting reflection of social ideas about parents. However. Let me just excerpt some of this dreck so you can feel the full force of the normie milennial local cringe that is baked in to every sentence:

Lola was elbow-deep in her fifteenth batch of macaron batter for that week. Spring orders were in full swing, as were an ocean of orders for baby shower treats. It never failed. She never refused the business. Quite the opposite. Macarons meant time. Time meant money. She easily brought in an extra twelve-hundred dollars a week during baby shower season. Music floated into the kitchen from the living room record player. Depending on her mood, Lola’s extensive vinyl collection met her every need. While baking, she usually threw on some David Bowie, Foreigner, something along those dramatically-opposite lines. Today, Louis Armstrong’s “A Lot of Livin’ to Do” danced in the air, trumpet notes accompanying Lola’s bopping around the kitchen.

……….yeah. You can see why I ragequit at 15%. It’s also really fucking weird about the dialogue of the black characters.

#skingtag #stephen king #goodnight beautiful #the vile thing we created #no one is talking about this #stolen tongues

[themovieblogonline]

Eddie Murphy is Funny AF in You People

You People is the new Netflix romantic comedy starring Jonah Hill, Eddie Murphy, Laren London, and Nia Long. The movie is co-written by both Joah Hill and director Kenya Barris the creator of Black-ish. You People tells the story of a Jewish white man and a black Muslim woman who fall in love. the biggest draw in this movie is the social and cultural clashes with the in-laws that lead to some funny AF moments in the movie. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCMHc-IFAB0 You People Netflix Review I really enjoy you people and I'm going I definitely recommend catching this when you have the time. Here's what I liked: THE GOOD I came into this movie for Eddie and Eddie Delivers. Sure, Jonah Hill's Ezra makes me laugh but I came here for Eddie. Eddie plays Akbar Mohammed the father of Lauren London's Amira Mohammed. I get a different style of comedy from Eddie than I expect but I still really like it. Akbar goes out of his way to make the engagement to his daughter difficult for Jonah Hill's Ezra.  Eddie is matched by his counterpart in Julia Louis Dreyfus who plays Ezra's mother Shelley Cohen. Shelley nails the typical tone-deaf mom perfectly and is hilarious in her performance. Thank you Netflix for providing this SNL reunion I didn't know I needed. Ezra Miller and Lauren London are the focus of the love story in You People and are surprisingly cute together. They're meeting is adorable with Ezra mistaking Amira's car for his Uber and giving her a scare. The montage of their dating life is adorable and I actually believe them as a couple while watching. The crap hits the fan when Ezra wants to marry Amira and decides to ask her parents' permission. Nia Long flexes her comedic range and is able to shine alongside Eddie and Jonah in Rosco's Chicken and Waffles. I really like the absurdity of the moment as it's a creative way to highlight Akbar's polar opposite personality. My favorite parts of You People are when Amira and Ezra's families interact. The humor in these moments can get dark, and sometimes cringe, but they often deliver some funny moments. David Duchovny delivers a super duper dry humor love-it-or-hate-it performance. I won't ruin it but he has a moment in the movie with Lauren London's Amira that had me chuckling. The littering of guest stars for family members makes for some fun moments and adds spontaneity to an already surprising movie. THE BAD Some of the situational humor feels forced or just feel unrealistic. Jonah Hill and Eddie Murphy are paired together in some of the funniest scenes in the movie but also some of the worst. There's a scene in which Akbar brings Ezra to play basketball in a black neighborhood.  It's a love-it-or-hate-it scene and I just don't like it. I also don't like the barbershop scene even though I understand the intent. There's also a random joke later about storming the capital that's also a miss. This movie suffers from a lot of missed opportunities. There are times when You People will build momentum and tease leaning into some potentially funny moments but shies away at the last second. These moments happen throughout the movie when You People feels like it's on the verge of greatness but holds back. Even the ending of the movie shies away from leaning into some of the subjects and wraps things up neatly seemingly from out of nowhere. OVERALL You People is a very enjoyable movie and is entertaining from beginning to end. I feel like I came into this movie for Eddie and but I left with a family. This movie does a great job of walking the line and bringing humor to sensitive topics. I can see this movie played for a lot of families of couples in similar circumstances and I will absolutely recommend this to any that I know. Read the full article

[transphilza]

the way wilbur is so passionate abt ppl knowing that if it wasnt for the fact he's a cc, he'd be a stan is so!! /pos yknow?? like a lot of people outside of fandom/stan circles tend to look down on people for being superfans of something (cough cough mostly bc of misogyny cough cough) and having a content creator go "no actually? that would be me, too" is super uplifting. it genuinely feels like he respects fans/stans and their passion (also applicable to dream and his defense of stans)

yes you get it you get it!! the way he is so sweet and understanding of fan communities especially his own and like. on such a large scale, with an audience that gets looked down upon a lot, it would be really easy for wilbur (and for any cc in that position) to turn against their fans and make fun of them or ridicule them but he doesn’t, and it means a lot!!

and unironically. this isn’t a joke. THIS is why i actually adore the stupid hamilton accent cover. because he’s just like us fr and he doesn’t care about things being seen as cringe or weird. genuinely it means everything to me to not only have a streamer who doesn’t shame viewers for their interests, but actively engages in things in a similarly enthusiastic way. he is killing cringe culture not only for us but for himself and this has been said as a joke before bc its funny but like, it legit is true and. it just means a lot to have a streamer who has interests and engages with them like i do! and isn’t ashamed!

#GOD YOURE SO RIGHT SORRY I RAMBLED #wilbur soot #talking #anon #loveposts

[the-good-bad-truth]

 I don’t know if it’s because I’m older now I can see Hollywood and the fakeness of celebrity culture but it’s like there are so many relationships or stunts that I think are done for show. Idk if you guys also notice this but in the past 2 years or so, It’s like every celebrity has found their soul mate, getting engaged and saying really cringe, crazy things about their love life. Today, we are going to be talking about the couple that really wants to win the trophy for the loudest Rockstar Hollywood couple and that is Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox. Are they PR or is it love? Are they toxic or joking? Do they deserve the hype?. I’ll also be looking at if they are compatible and the double standard that they have. Let’s start from when they met and where they were at in their lives/ career. They confirmed their relationship in May 2020 but they met in march 2020 when they were filming “Midnight in the Switchgrass”. Now if this isn’t already a flag that this could be PR, but, you know, co-stars fall in love all the time on set, so whatever. Before they met, Megan was still married to Brian Austin Green and they were together for like 15 yrs and had 3 boys. They were separated but that the public didn’t really know that. Anyways, during 2019- to when she met mgk she starred in two movies ,”Against the shadows” and “Rogue”. It’s ok if you never heard of these movies because they weren’t good and another thing was her Insta where she only had 9 million followers(this might not seem important but just wait). Basically what I’m trying to say is that she wasn’t that hot “it “ girl she was, she was forgotten about and her career was stale. As for MGK, he was doing fairly well in his career, in the acting roles he was given and he built a strong fan base and was already working  on TTMD by then. However, I do feel that his career, specifically his music career wasn’t where he thought it should be and this could be because of lack of label support and that stupid Eminem beef. He was also dating around a lot, like Chantel Jeffries and Sommer ray and his many hookups. He also dated this one woman named Heidi Gores from like 2015-2018 but I’ve heard they were kind of toxic. The important takeaway from Heidi was that he was extremely private with her, if he did post her on his Insta, he never showed her face. Then all of a sudden, he started dating influencer girls, where he became more public about. The one girl that is important to remember is Sommer Ray, who is a Insta model. He was dating her from like February to his b-day in April 2020. The funny thing is when mgk and Megan talk about how they met, they talk about how they fell in love on set in Puerto Rico and how when he touched her it felt like electricity. The thing is she said the same thing about Brian and how they met on the set of her sitcom. The other thing is that Sommer ray was with Mgk in Puerto Rico, like There’s videos of her picking up snails with him. Sommer ray has also came out and said how he was texting Megan while they were dating and how she thinks he cheated on her because she had a 3-month no sex rule. I honestly think that it’s messed up for him to do that to her, even though Sommer did break up with her bf of 2yrs to go with him and I also don’t like her as a person. I’m also going to assume that Megan knew about her and just didn’t care. The 1st time they were photographed was on May 1st, in his car and it was around the same time the “Bloody Valentine” MV was released. This is one thing that happens a lot in their relationship, any time one of them has something to promote like a movie, or photoshoot or Album, articles or paparazzi photos always come out around the same time. Another thing that makes me think that they are PR, is because they go everywhere together.  I know that there are also people who talk about how she’s not a good mom and I would have to disagree. I think she is a great mom but I do think that she doesn’t spend enough time with them, which I think could be bad because I feel that kids do need both parents. Like I figured her and Brian share custody and stuff but it’s like how is she supposed to have the kids when she’s in South America dancing in the rain w/Mgk. They also created Merch with them kissing and he always mentions her in songs or even when the songs don’t mention her fans think it’s about her.  Sometimes when they talk about each other whether in Insta captions or interviews, they tend to romanticize or sexualize toxic things, even though they say they are joking, it’s like then what else are u joking about. When he talks about her, he is kind of shy and hesitant but when she talks about him she makes him seem like a baby but also a horrible monster. Idk if it’s because I’ve never been in a relationship but I wouldn’t want someone referring to me as a demonic creature or strangely beautiful; I also wouldn’t want someone to say that they used to sleep w/ a gun before they met me. I think Megan also tries to overly prove that she is spiritual and highly intelligent. Maybe she is smart but she always uses really unnecessarily big words for no reason. For example, in one post she describes him as a Mercurial Svengali and in another post she calls him rehab Barbie. I looked up what Svengali meant and it refers to a man who seduces and manipulates a young girl and makes her famous and the rehab barbie is a reference to a girl who takes drugs and loses her father to cancer. Idk if u guys know this is but his dad passed from cancer and Megan knows this, so yeah. I also think that she also is trying to be this rockstar, Pamela Anderson, hot girlfriend with the way she dresses. The thing is it doesn’t really fit her, it’s almost as if she’s trying to make Jennifer check real but it’s not working. If I’m being honest, I think they do get along in the sense that they know that this will boost their careers and I think they have lust for each other, not love. I can tell because how they say that their soul mates and have crazy sex but when it’s time to hit the red carpet, cameras start rolling, their body language says otherwise. When they are filmed at the club, she always looks like she doesn’t want to be there and he looks like he wants to run and party with friends but can’t because he has to stay with his twin flame. Or in red carpets, they both are stiff and there poses seem too rehearse that It doesn’t seem genuine. You guys should also go look at videos of the carpets of these 2, it will tell u a lot.  I also forgot to mention that he wrote a song called “Sid and Nancy” and he says the lyrics is based off how she told him that if they couldn’t be together they should go out murder/suicide. There are so many more things that they said about each other but it would take forever. I also do feel that there is a double standard b/w them on who made who famous, who’s the hot one or how he is racist, creepy villain and we as a people have to rescue her from his clutches. First of all, she is a grown woman, and if she’s so intelligent, you don’t think she can save herself. I also do know about his past and the stupid things he said, but at the same Megan said some stupid things but when she does it she’s being a Taurus queen or giving Jennifer realness. I also don’t think that they are compatible because he seems like a goofy, fun, easy going person who likes to party, hang out with friends and be creative. As for Megan, she seems more of a homebody, who has a small circle of friends, keeps to herself and likes reading books. In some cases, these types of people can work well together but I have a feeling that they are both trying to turn themselves into each other. Like for example, he pretends and is now talking about chakras, astrology while she is trying to be edgy, dress crazy and talk w/teen slang. It also bothers me when people call him ugly, and she’s too hot for him. I'm just saying that the Met Gala and VMA look wasn’t it. I don’t know if it was because of the makeup, or if the bangs weren’t styled right and the bra she wore at VMA’s made her look greasy. To end this post, I think that they are PR but they both are ok with that because it boosts their careers. When it comes to love, he loves that he’s dating the hot 2000’s girl Megan fox and she loves that she is in the spotlight again w/out lifting a finger(now she has 20m followers btw) and that she has someone that is willing to drug/blood rituals with. There are also videos of them, where she’s annoyed at him, she’s probably tired that he acts childish and there are also rumors that he’s cheating. At the same time, you lose em how you get em, she took him while he was w/sommer and so someone else might take him. Just watch, when they break up, people are going to side with her, even if she was toxic and he’s going to be hated by her stans. But they both going be looking dumb or they might say something like we grew apart, twin flames are supposed to grow apart or something.

#Mgk #machine gun kelly #Megan Fox #Megan #fake #PR #twin flames #Pr relationships #Hollywood #celebrities #Toxic

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To all people who enjoy content:

There is a HUGE issue that needs to be addressed in how people react to things online and how they decide to deal with perceived issues. Specifically, in regards to content creators online, and the content they create.

I want to clarify, this post is talking for the most part about creators who did something multiple years ago that they currently don’t agree with. I’m not talking about people who are CURRENTLY horrible people, but if you want to know please do ask.

Basic synopsis: Purity culture is being used to shame people for their interests and to actively control and manipulate what people are “allowed” to like, which is often harmful and toxic; it is also being used to condemn people for the entire rest of their lives over doing something in their past, with no regards to if an apology was offered- which is harmful to people trying to unlearn toxic mindsets and be better people in the present day.

So, let’s talk about Purity Culture. I don’t know what else to call it, so if someone has a better name for it go ahead and say it- but, essentially, “The idea that every piece of media you consume must itself be good, AND has to have been made by a “good person”,” with no exceptions. This belief means that if a creator is seen as a bad person, or the media itself has a troubling aspect, you are NOT allowed to like it, DO NOT INTERACT, YOU’RE PROBLEMATIC AS HELL TOO IF YOU LIKE IT!!!!

That may sound like an exaggeration, but it’s only mildly so. There is, however, a much more harmful part to this mentality: Judging people for things they did years ago, and not allowing them to apologize and be forgiven, and USING this purity culture ideal against THEM as well. The idea that people can’t be forgiven, can’t change, and have to have been perfect always to be valid is extremely, extremely toxic and harmful, full stop. There are so many underlying issues that can both lead to someone being “problematic,” but that is so much less the issue than the fact doing this discourages real change.

People DO change over time. And if you find out someone did something in their past, you ARE allowed to not forgive them! However; That does NOT mean you should condemn them and everything they do as problematic horrible and unforgivable, and ATTACK other people and make WARNING posts in the tone of them STILL being “””Problematic”””! That is in some cases, BLATANT MISINFORMATION, and in most cases, encouraging the mentality that people don’t change.

Now, who is this a problem for? Because someone saying horrible things about minorities of any kind is legitimately harmful in its own right, and can hurt people who find it, which deserves to be addressed. (Again, YOU are not required to forgive them, and you have the freedom to not engage.) Purity Culture hurts People with RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), and people who cannot control what they hyperfixate on. It can ALSO harm people who are struggling to get past toxic mentalities for any reason, and people who are trying to improve themselves and be better., and people who HAVE improved themselves and gotten better after being a person with (arguably) horrible views.

For people who experience RSD, seeing people denounce a piece of media for “””Something problematic””” (creator or otherwise), and in some cases seeing people ATTACK those who enjoy that media, can be physically painful and extremely, extremely stressful. Especially with the prevalence of this mentality right now, it makes engaging with anything a VERY stressful experience, because if what you enjoy isn’t perfect in every way you will be shamed for it, and rejected for it, and actively hated for it, and there is NO compromise on that point.

This is twice as volatile an issue when you ALSO cannot wholly control what your brain hyperfixates on. Hyperfixation (the word) has two main uses; in regards to a single task/activity (in which you’re unable to pull yourself out of said task and cannot switch focus to anything else), and in regards to media consumption (having an intense, very focused interest in media or a character, that can feel very consuming and intense in some cases. This extends even MORE so to special interests).

 Hyperfixations in those who are neurodivergent (don’t think the same as the wider population- such as people with ADHD and Autism, amongst other things) are NOT typically something they can control. Not without exceptional effort and potential detriment- one of the fairly unfortunate coping mechanisms I have for this (speaking, yes, as someone with ADHD) is to Completely ignore new media, wholesale, to avoid gaining a hyperfixation in relation to that media. Even still, I obviously still SEE things because I exist in the world and things are everywhere- and while I can enjoy content normally, it is MUCH different when I see something and feel unable to focus on ANYTHING else for WEEKS on end.

You can hyperfixate on something before learning about “X problematic thing,” and then when you’ve already gotten very attached and deep into the media people will start attacking you with it! And saying “Oh, you like THAT??? That was made by a super problematic person, you can’t like that!!!” It’s EXTREMELY difficult to explain how harmful that is when I A: Can’t control it, B: Didn’t know, and C: Suffer from RSD in the first place. It DOES NOT stop you from engaging with the content, because you are hyperfixated on it and you literally can’t avoid it, but it DOES overwhelm you with guilt and make you withdraw from the people around you because now YOU must be problematic and horrible and you’re a horrible person for liking this media and everyone must HATE you.

The above was not an exaggeration. That is legitimately how it feels.

People are talking about how “Cringe Culture is dead,” but it being replaced by a MUCH more insidious “Purity Culture” that is MUCH MORE toxic, MUCH MORE manipulative, and also inherently flawed to begin with!!! You CAN’T and SHOULDN’T be a perfect person, that is why you CHANGE AND GROW. You should ALSO be judging a piece of media on its OWN merits, NOT on the merits of what’s behind it (not wholesale like people are intent on doing).

Now, all things in moderation. If a piece of media was created with malicious or biased opinions in its core: It IS important to address that, and to acknowledge that this aspect is not something you should support, and something to be mindful of when thinking about the content. It’s also good to be aware of how people currently are when participating in media spaces- you don’t have to be perfect at this, but if you don’t want to engage with things made by people who have horrible current views that is absolutely your choice.

However, this doesn’t excuse constantly shaming and attacking people, ESPECIALLY people who are aware of a media’s flaws and able to both recognize that and amend that in a respectful, understanding way. You can enjoy a story about a murderer without also being a murderer and knowing that murder is wrong. This extends to other actions as well by the way (and the desensitization of people to murder in modern day media is also a wild topic for another day because wow some people really be out here like “yeah literally ending someone’s life in fiction is fine but x is absolutely abhorrent and unforgivable,” like what??). 

The real thing here is, this: If you don’t like content, or you cannot in good conscience enjoy that content knowing about something that happened relating to it: Don’t interact! If you are for some reason, stuck participating in and interacting with something you personally feel is horrible, don’t shame and hurt other people for more honestly enjoying it, especially the good parts. What you CAN do is inform people, respectfully!

And with ALL the details please. Because I see a lot of times, especially with creators: Someone will dig up something the creator said years ago and say, “THIS CREATOR IS (X) YOU CAN’T SUPPORT THEM OR ENJOY WHAT THEY MAKE BECAUSE IT’S PROBLEMATIC!!!” And, actually: They have since apologized for what they said, and actively made efforts to change. “But they did it in the past” Is NOT a valid argument, and honestly?? If you’re the same person you were even two years ago, that’s wild, and I hope you’ll understand that some people can change drastically in that time after being properly informed about issues.

Again: If you don’t want to interact with a piece of media, okie dokie! It’s up to us to respect that, and to tag our stuff and not shove it down your throat, y’know? But maybe, if you don’t like something, you shouldn’t decide to hurt the people who do like it, because I think that’s pretty harmful, and man imagine someone digging into your life 3 years ago and finding one sentence you said to judge your entire life on and force people to hate you with. Haha that’d suck, right?

If you read all this wow thanks, and also I’m well aware most my fellows with ADHD probably skimmed it because yeah it is a lot man whoops- I’ve just been thinking about it for a while because yeah. Yeah. “I do not control the hyperfixation” is not just a funny meme y’all it’s a thing and it’s legitimately exhausting and painful to see everything you enjoy be hated and be told you’re wrong for liking it in any way, shape, or form.

#fnf #Friday Night Funkin #Yes this is about friday night funkin #long post #ADHD #important #if you have a problem with this #I give you permission to send asks and slide into my dms #I would be absolutely willing to have an open respectful conversation w ya #This post is a bit meanly worded sometimes #Sorry about that!