#I will also turn off anon option for the time being because it is triggering me I’m sorry

[itspyon]

how to adapt into dtblr culture for twitter refugees

so you've decided to move here from twitter. welcome and congratulations. this post is basically a big warning that goes THIS ISN'T TWITTER, DON'T BEHAVE LIKE IT IS, LEAVE THAT AT THE DOOR

i'll be teaching you two things, how the site works, and how to adapt your behavior to tumblr ( and really, normal human being ) culture. believe me, it's not that hard and it will actually feel very productive

let's start with the basics and frequent questions

your username can be anything, don't stress about it

your picture can be anything. a lot of us don't even have dteam related stuff up on our profile

your display name doesn't have to be your name. nobody is going to see it when you post, only usernames are visible

check your settings. do it. get familiar with them. turning on and off asks, turning anon off, turning submissions off. click on your blog, go to blog settings, check things there, go to account, your muted things will be there, go to dashboard and customize that. use your settings !!!

yes, pinned posts are fairly important and they tend to be pretty extensive. name age what you post about ( a lot of people here are multifandom !), just don't overshare ( no locations no trigger lists i beg you ). they also usually have a breakdown of your tags at the end

tags

it's a whole thing. some are actually useful. some are just passive commentary

the tags you put on posts ( both when you made the post and when you're reblogging something ) are both global and hosted on your profile. it's why you'll see things like "nameofperson art" rather than just "art". using just "art" will put you in the promoted tag, in this case

you can use spaces on your tags

usually you will tag what type of post you're making ( art, text post, ask post ), and then the contents keep in mind this is how people often mute things, some people tag the current situation, people use and mute ship tags. but this is also how people find things, like the specific asks from one person to another, so "username ask" is commonly used, "irl person ( dream, dnf, etc )" is also seen a lot just watch how others tag things and copy them. nobody will get offended you took their tag formatting, most of us will appreciate properly tagged posts

you do tag when you reblog people. you use tags to comment on things. don't really use replies unless you're, saying thank you to someone or pointing out a spell mistake or asking to add an option to a poll, etc. we don't do replies, just rb your reply

quick reblog and like deets

post popularity is measured in "notes" which is the sum of replies, reblogs and likes. we don't really care much about numbers here and if you start getting crazy about it people will not like it. this is more of a talking and showing site

you can reblog without tags, feel free to

you can hide your likes. you can and should like as many things as you want. they don't alter any algorithm, since there's none. a like is a "i saw this post" notification to the poster

actually posting

people talk a lot. a fucking lot, and it's something you will have to get used to, because it's very different from twitter

there are no qrts. callouts are looked down upon. breathe. if you don't like something MUTE IT DON'T POST ABOUT IT, because no one is going to listen to any callouts. you will have to learn to live with the fact people like things you don't. this will, with time, make you feel very free

the bulk of posting here is asks, as you might notice soon. asks are fun and encouraged. just don't name drop if you're talking about drama please ?

don't be scared to send asks off anon, this is how people will find you and get to know you really. people are also more likely to reply to you

block bait anons. yes you can block anons. yes it will block every blog they make

culture time

i've said this. tumblr is unserious. drama here is approached very differently and with several less layers of panic. you will see death threats. you will see slurs ( said in non derogatory ways ). you will see jokes about serious topics. you will see people say "i didn't like this" and nobody will care

tumblr is a community of individualism. you will like your own things within the thing we share we like. you might not like dream's music, you might not find irl streams entertaining, as long as you're fucking normal about it ? nobody will care and you're free to express your opinions. people will even come ask you about it and just have a chat. we're here for the same content to some degree

tumblr is also a bunch of people who understand they like another bunch of people. that none of the streamers have stopped being human. so you might see people defend things that, maybe, you'd not have thought to defend before. maybe you're even uncomfortable seeing them defending it. this is something you will experience a lot, and you'll learn to properly deal with it as time passes

because again. no one does callouts here unless it is extremely bad. no one cares if you don't really like them. and they also accept people might and will not like them. and that is fine. and that doesn't make either person horrible. you're just different people. and you don't even have to interact

you want to make friends ? ask people things, compliment people's work, genuinely attempt to make conversation. this is not an impersonal website the way twitter is. people don't care about your opinions because they care about you, and you are more than what you don't like

the more positive and jokey and interactive you are the more people will talk to you. there's no "hitting the algorithm", there's no "engagement", it's just people talking to people. so don't be a neg posting bot, and be a person

you will learn to be less miserable. you learn to stop giving a shit and just do what makes you happy. they cannot get you here. there's no qrts. the few antis you'll find can be blocked and you'll never have to directly interact with one. don't be mean to the people in your own community, even if you disagree

again, you are more than what you don't like. learn to be what you like instead. and leave the dooming at the door

#pyon long post #if you have any questions feel free to ask #i will be happy to attach them with a reblog

[mellowwillowy]

WOWOW OMG WAIT. ur into dol too!!!

what do you think ur ocs are like in a dol like setting? like uhmm their stats and stuff yk like averys rage and like an example maybe blue would have a stat for anger

how do u think they will interact w the other canon love interests too??? would yulian hate dr. harper because harpers drugs might not go very well w the mind altering drugs he gives his darling????

AAAA I LOVE THE POSSIBILITIES SORRY

- bub anon 🫧‼️

Warning: suicide, physical and mental abuse

Yulian

Yulian's love stat will be maxed out immediately the moment you trigger a meeting with him! It will never go down even if you piss him off so many times BUT I'll have to add a new stat for him, let's name it 'Control' ...?

If you annoy him by doing something dumb or anything that causes harm to yourself, the stat will go up~~

Control 20 - Yulian thinks you are indifferent.

Control 40 - Yulian thinks you are wild.

Control 60 - Yulian thinks you are too wild.

Control 80 - Yulian thinks you are a brat.

Control 100 - Yulian thinks you should be caged.

Take him like Avery, always giving you money but he ends up buying you off from Bailey if the Control stat reaches 100. Starting from here, you'll only have 2 choices.

To get the 'Stockholm Syndrome: Yulian' achievement or always tries to escape. You can escape only if your physical and skulduggery levels are high. That said, you'll have to live undercover in the town and always get the 'You feel like someone is following you.' warning.

(You are not safe in the forest too because he also has his men guard the whole place)

If you get the stockholm syndrome achievement, you'll be wed to him and live a happily ever after life <3

"This way you will not do anything foolish that could cause harm to you anymore dear."

Blue

In order to trigger a meeting with him, you'll have to visit the club with the trauma, stress stats reaching 75 and the fatigue stat being at least 1200, and control being at least at the state 'You are worried'.

With this stat, you will be able to get the option to dress as someone else or not. Should you choose to dress as usual, Blue will not appear in the club with his friends.

Then, the alcohol/drug stat reaches at least 70.

You will then be notified of the option to approach this good-looking person and flirt with them.

Blue will first dismiss you but if you keep on bothering him, he will drag you to the bar inside, having a chat with you there. Blue will notice how some of your appearances feel artificial, as though you are trying to hide your face or identity from the public. From this choice itself, you have already triggered the ability to make Blue feels interested in you. (If he isn't, you can't increase the love stat at all)

You can increase the +Love stats by listening to him rambling, being sympathetic, and joining him along by talking shit about the people.

Unfortunately, you won't remember how he previously looked after the day changes due to the alcohol/drug state you were in. You didn't get to ask for his numbers and name as well but he will soon be spawned into your class, introduced as the student who just came back from 'vacation'.

Although you will not recognize him as the person you were talking to in the club, he will not mention anything about it. Despite how different you look from your initial appearance, he will still be able to recognize you.

"Pleased to meet you, I'm Blue. Please take good care of me, yeah?"

Blue's Love stat is also maxed out immediately after you manage to capture his heart on the first meeting. Although it can go down, he will not end his relationship with you.

Eleanor

In order to trigger his appearance, you'll have to have Trauma, Stress, Fatigue, Control HIGH (90), and consume hallucinogens/drugs. (Yes I'm not joking.)

It is impossible to turn him into a love interest and he will have these rage stats just like Avery ^^

"You see someone who mirrors your appearance. Is she/he your twin?"

(Casually spills lore)

He will mostly appear in your room, taking care of you, or in the forest looking for valuable items.

There will be +Love and +Rage in his system. Should you enrage him too much, he will turn violent on you, increasing your Pain stats.

Should your trauma, stress, fatigue, and control stat be maxed out, you will find yourself drifting away from your sleep after overdosing on sleeping pills and straying into the unknown world, giving you a bad ending.

If you somehow manage to befriend/date Blue or Lemon beforehand, the possibility of you coming back will be 1 and Eleanor will never appear anymore.

Eleanor's dismissal events are:

Trauma, stress, fatigue, and control below average and to stop consuming hallucinogens/drugs if you are addicted to them.

To be saved by Blue or Lemon and wake up on the hospital's bed after ??? Times have passed.

Seth

There are actually two ways to trigger a meeting with him but since we are talking about DOL... I'll just take the latter.

Due to one thing and another, Seth has to be aged up since he is originally younger than Darling by two years. PC's age is canonically 18 so- (unless Darling is somehow above 20 then he'll stay true to his age)

You can meet him in the Arcade and initiate an offer to fight against him in a game. Starting then, you can always find him there on Wednesday and Friday playing from the time school has ended until 6 PM.

Once the Love stat has reached over 40 or above, he will sometimes offer you to play with him in a multiplayer game (maybe like Metal Slug), and when it reaches 70 or above, he will ask you if you want to play in his place.

Just pure Vanilla bun... I can't write anything about the transmigration because it's DOL.

(Ps: he's not a sulky player like Robin wheeze)

Relationship

Yulian, Eleanor, and Blue wouldn't even let you go any closer to Harper and all the shady bitches in the town.

Blue will always ensure you are free from that perverted ass Leighton.

Yulian will somehow ask for Bailey's assistance in capturing you.

Eleanor is always present in the asylum should you be sent there.

Yulian also has his hands on Quinn's dirt.

#Beeg Brained Moments because my brain shrinks when it comes to LIfE Project casts. #yandere dol #yandere x reader #LIfE Project #Yulian the Corruption #Blue the Boyfriend #Eleanor the Finale #Seth the Resistance #Theatric Guest

[nogenderbee]

♡˗ˏ✎*ೃ˚ 𝕐𝕒𝕟𝕕𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕄, 𝕆, ℝ, 𝕌 ₊˚ˑ༄

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ anon request: Mizuki Yandere Headcanons Letters: M, N, O, R, U?

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ Here it is! Oh but I already did N so here's the link and I hope you're okey with me just doing the rest of it!

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ TW: unhealthy obsession, mentions of deaths, delusions

Not putting affiliation because I'm aware of how triggering this could be.

✧ Moving on = If you die or escape, will they be able to move on? How easy it'll be for them?

The only difference between Mizuki's reaction is that if you escape, they'll try for months to find you on any media's and try to see where you are. But when you're just dead, they're immidietly gonna give up on trying to bring you back to their life...

It's not the hardest for them but also not easy... they aren't gonna take serious methods like immidietly unaliving themselves or so... but they are gonna refuse to face reality in some way! They're aware you're not here anymore, but who's gonna stop them from acting as if it wasn't the truth?

They'd wear your style or even your clothes, they'd get into hobbies you used to have, they'd buy a mannequin and dress it up to be similiar to you and kiss it goodnight and goodmorning every time they fall asleep or wake up, and they're also gonna spray everything in their room or house with perfumes you used to use.

"Good morning Y/N~ Ah... how I wish I could hear it back... but at least I can kiss you! Mua~! Who knows? Maybe one day it turns out to be just a bad dream..."

✧ Other = Someone else speaks or flirts with you, how will they react?

Mizuki would instantly go into protection mode whenever they see someone even being around you! So when you're having conversation with someone... they know to immidietly join it so they know what they're standing on here...

If it really is just a friendly chat, and they see a smile on your face, they MIGHT let you hangout with that person from time to time... but only if they're around too!!

If it's straight up flirting... they don't even wait for you two to be alone, they just start to make a scene for whole place that you're in, fake-crying that you cheated on them. So if the person won't walk away with shame, they will by you completely ignoring them. Because how can you not comfort your lover~?

"You cheater!!! You cheated on me with THEM?!! I thought I was much better than that!! You- You... Oh? Seems like they walked away and you do care.. heh~ Well I'll only forgive you after a sleepover! What do you say?"

✧ Risk = How risky will they be with getting rid of rivals?

As we know, Mizuki is manipulator, and they don't want to get there r hands dirty either! So they do something they're good at~ nasty rumors~ They're already seen rarely at school, if they spread few rumors here and there, people won't even suspect them! Because how could they, when they weren't on any lesson for 2 weeks and rumors vegan going a week ago? It can't be them! And to have even better alibi~ They pretended all 2 weeks to be sick, so even you can confirm it couldn't be them!

But sometimes, they may choose safer option and just create alt account, and if irl rumors won't break their target, they'll make sure that THEIR threats and photoshopped photos going all around internet would!

And they won't even comfort you much about it... they'll just tell you it's not important right now and you should focus on them instead to take your mind off unpleasant things!

"Have you heard~? That girl from 2-C is using poor street puppys for her photos! No, those are not from shelter.. I heard she even kicks them after that!! Horrible, right?"

✧ Unsure = How much trust they have in you? What happens if you break it?

Mizuki's trust is at a low level... they'll always be scared you're gonna leave them at some point, that's why they're always following you and being so clingy all the time.

Their trust may change a little bit with time... if you play your cards right and find a friend group that they accept and feel sure you'll be safe with them, they might let you hangout alone with them every now and then... but only if you won't spend TOO much time with them! You have a lover after all... and they can't be left alone for longer than 3 hours! Or you might never brush them off ever again...

"Hey where are you leaving so early?! No, you're not going anywhere without me! Let me get dressed really quick and we can go! ... I don't care if it's FAMILY meeting!! I'm part of the family too, don't you think~?"

﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌﹌

@bleachtheidiot @prsk-krow @modyuki @virtualpoison @miguelito-maruti-blog @written-by-kafka - come get your cuties lover~

#project sekai #colorful stage #x reader #project sekai x reader #colorful stage x reader #project sekai colorful stage #project sekai colorful stage x reader #mizuki akiyama #mizuki akiyama x reader #project sekai mizuki akiyama #project sekai mizuki x reader #fluff #project sekai fluff #headcanons #project sekai headcanons

[yanderes-galore]

One more from 📸 anon (who didn’t even turn on the anon option in their hurry, which is so ironic considering the emoji), could you also please write a RVB short with a darling who was Church’s S/O when he died, and Temple deciding that he needed to have them? At first as just part of his plan to mess with the Reds and Blues, but then he actually ends up in love and starts getting possessive over them?

Sorry I’m at work and had to rush myself ^_^’

I really do love Mark Temple as a villain, honestly- Here you go! I like how this came out honestly.

Projection

Yandere! Mark Temple Short

Pairing: Romantic

Possible Trigger Warnings: Gender-Neutral Darling, Obsession, Manipulation, Grieving, Major character death mention, Kidnapping, Isolation, Forced relationship, Mark being a delusional creep.

Maybe it was your hope that got you into his mess. You only came out of retirement and pushed aside your grieving because you had hope. Everyone had hope... except Grif-

There was hope you could've seen Church again...

You've missed him ever since.

Epsilon, Church, had become a thing ever since the Tex situation was resolved. In his words it was his attempt to start anew. You didn't mind... truthfully you've fallen for Church since Alpha.

It had its struggles but you were happy to help Church. Church was family, the Red and Blues were family. Then the events of Chorus had happened...

Leaving Church to sacrifice himself for the greater good...

Leaving you in mourning.

You swore off participating in the "Temple Event" on Chorus. Instead your retirement was spent mourning the death of your AI companion. Since then you vowed you'd never have another partner.

Then that reporter came with that fateful message... a message from Church.

You didn't want to get your hopes up. Yet the rest of your family believed it. So... you thought you could believe it too.

Your journey had led you to the Blues and Reds. It had felt strange to see someone else share your armor color. But that wasn't the only thing that felt weird.

Your gaze never left the cobalt armor that stood in front of you. Pains of familiarity struck your heart as you tried to tell yourself it wasn't him. This wasn't Church... this would never be Church.

That was Mark Temple, a sim trooper similar to Church. In fact he was the one to tell you the UNSC may he holding him captive. You were doubtful of this claim...

But hope encouraged you forward...

Hope for love.

Speaking of love, Mark knew all about your history. He knew you loved Church. He knew he could manipulate that to make the Reds and Blues fall for his plan.

Which is why he began to get closer with you. Similar to how Sarge was easily manipulated with a simple position, you were easy to manipulate with simply looking like your lover. You're blind by grief.

Which made you more susceptible to him.

Mark treated you with such care. He picked his words carefully and lead you along. He watched as you opened up to him more and more.

Part of him even began to falter and fall for you....

Mark began to like how you laughed and talked to him. He could tell you trusted him. Yet whenever he tried to pry into your past with the AI, you shut him out.

Part of you saw Church in Mark, but it was all in appearance. Sometimes you caught yourself thinking of him as Church. But you made sure to catch yourself.

While Mark began to fall for you... he felt frustrated that you didn't see him for him. He wondered if each time you saw him you saw Church. Such a thought made his blood boil.

Every laugh wasn't for him. Every gaze wasn't for him. Every cute little thing you did never belonged to Mark in the first place.

It was always Church... because you met him first.

Mark didn't know why he got so worked up over this. He was never meant to fall for you. He was meant to use you.

But here he is... tapping his foot at his desk as he tries to get you out of his mind. No... no, actually, he wanted you in his mind. He just wanted Church out of yours.

He's an AI! How could you love an AI more than an actual person, huh!? He could treat you so much better than some robot hologram....

Such a thought ate away at Mark. He even made it a goal to show you he could do better. The thought never left his mind even as he froze the Freelancers with their own Armor Lock.

Even when the Reds and Blues caught on to his plan, he made sure you were distracted before locking them away. He refused to have his chances at having you and his plan working sabotaged. Sarge was already loyal enough to not be locked away.

Oh.... with everyone out of sight he can just imagine how you'd be with him. He'll make you forget about that damn AI. He has ways of convin-

"Where are they!?"

Mark looks towards Tucker, annoyed that his outburst shoved him out of his daydreams.

"Whom?"

"You know who I'm talking about! I also know that look damn well! What the hell are you planning!?" Tucker growls from his cage, pressing up against it to glare at the cobalt soldier.

"Aww... Tucker! Are you jealous?" Mark taunts. "Have you also been shunned by them because they love some... AI!?"

"That AI was our friend and their partner! Wait... oh, dude, you have some SERIOUS issues-" Tucker shudders as Mark scoffs.

"Don't worry about what happens to them." Mark says as he exits the room "I promise I'll take good care of them!"

The door closes and Mark makes his way to his office. He calls Sarge to do some other order before entering. He could barely contain his excitement.

Now that everyone was out of his way... he could call you into his office.

Mark is patient when he calls you in. His helmet hides his grin while he watches you hesitantly enter the room. Once you stand in front of his desk he leans forward.

"You called?" You ask softly.

"Yes I did!" Mark chirps, leaning forward. "Please, take a seat."

"What did you need me for?" You ask, sitting down to look at the cobalt soldier. You still struggle to make eye contact after all this time. No matter... he'll fix it.

"Hm... come a little closer, will you?"

With a nervous feeling sinking into your gut you shift closer. Discomfort quickly replaces it when Mark leans forward, as though he'll reach out for you.

"Has anyone told you... how cute you are?"

You stay silent, shock preventing you from moving momentarily. What did he just say?

"Seriously... you've been on my mind for a long couple of months since I met you! It's enough to drive a man insane, y'know?"

Mark's hand drifts to your helmet and you push him away. You don't like what he's trying.

"Come on, baby... won't you let me have a little peak? I think you're just so... perfect for me."

"Temple." You manage to speak, holding his hand down. As a result he manages to change it into holding your hand.

"Would it be easier if I removed mine first? I can do-"

"I'm not interested." You say quickly, looking away from him. He looks too much like Church.

"Oh... it's that AI clouding your mind again, huh?" Mark mutters bitterly. Your heart pangs again.

Suddenly, Mark forces your helmet to look at him. You can't read his face but based on his strength you can tell he's annoyed. Angry, even.

"I could be so much better than him. He's just an AI. In fact, he's a DEAD AI, isn't he!?" Mark growls and you feel tears slide down your face.

"Get the hell away from me... I loved him-"

"And I love you! I'd do anything to push him from your mind. I want your mind to be filled with me, not him!"

"You're insane!" You push him away and dart away from him. Mark laughs to himself before getting up.

"Insane? I'm not the one who fell in love with a dead robot! I was giving you another chance!"

"Another chance!? At what!?"

"At love!" Mark steps closer yet you keep your distance. "I could heal you, you could heal me! We both lost someone close to us!"

"I don't care-"

"Harsh! That's okay, I don't care about that AI either. All I care about is you and I plan to have you!"

You tire of talking and rush for the door. Mark only responds by calling over Surge and Sarge. Both red soldiers block the door once it opens.

You give Sarge a pleading look.

He pauses before shaking his head.

"Sorry, kid...." Sarge mumbles.

"You backstabber-"

"Oh... doesn't betrayal sting, baby?" Mark coos behind you. You freeze as Mark swings you to face him. "It hurts me even more. Yet thats okay, I promise when my plan against the UNSC works I'll come back for you!"

"... come back?" You ask, feeling Surge and Sarge grab your arms.

"Baby, you're staying here until you forget that AI of yours." Mark answers in a sing-song tone, yet you can hear the bitterness of it. "You'll have your own little cell away from everyone."

"Please, don't!" You struggle, yet Mark only waves as you're dragged off.

"Oh... I'd normally feel bad for doing this." Mark hums, watching you dragged off to the cell he prepared. "But you'd have to love me to earn my sympathy, dear...."

As you're dragged to your cell by the two red soldiers, you hope someone will come and help you...

and once you're alone? You begin to wonder if you should even hope anymore.

After all, didn't hope get you into this mess?

#yandere halo red vs blue #yandere halo rvb #yandere red vs blue #yandere mark temple

[anti-endo-haven]

Being an anti-endo in the MOGAI community sucks... like obviously there is anti-endo blogs that exist, but they're less common than pro-endos and if I stated that I really don't like endos interacting with me I'll get so many weird anons and possible harassment (I already get some shitty anons for not stating my syscourse stance because you cannot exist as a DID system without proving you're a "good one" apparently) so I just... don't and allow them to interact even though I hate it

It's especially bad in the Discord side of things, any anti-endo MOGAI servers I've found have either A) been inaccessible in regards to fancy fonts or other formatting, B) have several people who insist you basically call them a God or act like you're worshipping them which is INCREDIBLY triggering to me, or C) just completely inactive. I mean, those first two issues absolutely aren't exclusive to either servers (DID/OSDD servers also have accessibility issues and sometimes a "cult jokes are funny" issue) or the MOGAI community as a whole... but it seems impossible for me to find a decent anti-endo MOGAI server and it sucks! The only MOGAI server I'm in has no syscourse opinion... but is of course filled with endos (+ people who are teetering on the edge of being radqueers despite it being a banned topic), so it still fucking sucks and I'm probably going to leave.

I don't really know where I'm going here, I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's incredibly isolating as an anti-endo in the MOGAI community, especially when it comes to also being a RAMCOA survivor. Got to love it (sarcasm)

I don’t know what MOGAI is so I can’t fully comment, but not everyone needs to have a stance. You can state that you don’t want to get into syscourse.

If anons are becoming harmful, turn off anonymity. It makes them stop quickly and if they don’t, you can find their blog and report them. Children, for what they are, get scared easily when they have no cover to do horrible things, this goes for adults as well.

Discord servers for systems aren’t the best, we’ve been in one that was mainly for DID/OSDD systems alone, a pretty popular Discord server at that, and yet there’s still too many things that are triggering and go unnoticed or passed by moderations.

There’s always the option of trying to make your own, but that can also be extremely difficult to maintain and run.

As a survivor as well, it’s extremely hard to find a place that isn’t entirely isolating, even having times where you have to be your own community. There’s not much I can say to that due to how much as gone on with ramcoa and the discourse surrounding it, although I’m sure there’s places that might come to light that will accept it as it is.

Again, you could always make your own and slowly build a community, but take some time away from it and focus on yourself. It’s never a bad thing to take a break from social media and it’s a very well deserved treat.

Much care to you, anon. ❤️

[senseichaos]

Dude I was on your side but maybe you need to chill a little and get off the app for some time for your own good, and remember you can BLOCK the anons + the kid (and maybe to not threat a kid with commiting suicide) in the kindest way possible, turn off the anons and go to a therapist to take care of your mental health

I never said you weren't on my side?

I threatened the kid with commiting suicide because I was trying to get her to understand the gravity of the situation, being a minor, she didn't.

My mental health is great, and I see nothing wrong with myself in this situation besides from using the "proship" tag and trigger some people. WHICH I'VE STOPPED DOING.

I don't block the anons because that would take me a very long time. I don't block my haters, because I like to give them the option to block me. And I also do block a lot of them anyway.

I am going to block the girl as well, I just hadn't because I wanted to see what my fans had said on there.

#senseichaos #proship #antishippers dni #senseichaosdrabbles #proship fanfiction

[sapphic-sex-ed]

how do i tell a new sexual partner that i have trauma that might make sex difficult?

It can feel difficult to bring these things up in conversation: both sex and trauma are taboo subjects and disclosing means making yourself vulnerable — the mortify ordeal of being known, handing somebody the exact tools with which to harm you, all that jazz — something which is made more difficult by being previously traumatized.

I find it hard to tell from the ask if you’re already sexually active with this new partner, or if it’s in preparation of becoming so, so I’ll give my thoughts from both perspectives.

If you are already having sex with a person, you can casually bring up that you don’t like something while not directly explaining why. This is honestly my own go to strategy — I’ve had many sexual partners in my life and I have disclosed my own trauma to absolutely 0% of them — I just say X thing is off the table and not negotiable. If they try and cross that boundary it tells me that they don’t respect my hard limits/boundaries and thus I can’t trust them to respect consent. If you go with this strategy you can disclose later, at a time that doesn’t feel as weird as it can when the context is “we’re about to have sex” (trauma is a turn-off to most). If you are having a deep conversation where you’re already being vulnerable with one another you could chose to bring up the topic by way of saying something like “you know how I have these things like X and Y I don’t want to do when we have sex? It’s really because…” this way it can feel more natural and like it fits the context of the conversation rather than something that might come “out of the blue”.

If you are not having sex with this person yet and want to disclose beforehand, you can borrow advice from above and start out by lying down some hard limits without explanation and save that for a later day. But if it’s important to you to disclose fully beforehand, for example because your partner needs to know that you may disassociate, or needs to know what signs to look out for if you go into a trauma triggered state, or simply because that feels better to you, that’s also an option. I suggest bringing it up when there’s plenty of time and when both of you are in a relatively good mood. You may start by approaching them and asking something along the lines of “hey, do you have a moment? There’s something I’d really would want to talk to you about”, signaling that you have something that might be a bit heavy to discuss as well as giving your partner the option to opt out if they’re in a place where they can’t have a more serious conversation at that time. When they’ve agreed to talk and are listening you may want to start by saying something in line with “so we’ve talked about having sex and..” or “I’ve been getting the feeling we might hav sex soon and..” and following up that there’s something you want them to know before that happens. If they are responsive and you feel safe disclosing after that, do so. It might feel good to have told a trusted friend who already knows about your trauma that you are telling your partner, so that if they react in a negative way, or just so you’ll feel more secure, they can stand by for you to call them for support.

Hope this was helpful to you, anon!

-mod liz

#anonymous #mod liz #cw trauma #relationships advice #communication #boundaries

[alexanderlightweight]

Hello! First of all I want to say I love your work!

I just saw your post about some entitled person complaining about you not using readmore (if I got it right?) and

1. People need to remember that they are able to turn off long post/turn on long post shortening in their settings on mobile so they're really just being rude about something that they can do something about on their own end

and

2. We can actually use readmore on mobile! You just need to type :readmore: in a new paragraph/line and hit enter! Just in case you ever do want to use it, but quite honestly? You do you and if people can't deal with how you do it then thats their problem, they do have options if it bothers them :3

Anon, you and another anon are just the sweetest people who both are trying to help me with this and let me just say, i appreciate it so so much. I have now somewhat figured out the mobile readmore though i need to fix it as i got it wrong a couple times.

But honestly, your reassuring me that i can do what i want on my blog is just, really soothing for my anxiety. so thank you a lot!!! because my brain likes lying to me and sometimes it's easier to believe someone i haven't met than the people i live with.

you 100% got it right. tbh it was just them replying to a fic i really enjoyed writing with a 'use a god damn read more' and nothing about the fic or anything else. which like, if you don't care about the fic and just the length of my posts please block me?

and tbh if it hadn't been so rude or distressing i wouldn't have been so upset. it's just, i only even saw the comment by accident (my notifications are horrible about telling me when someone has replied) so i kind of freaked out because how was i supposed to know it was even a problem for people?

i would have been happy if they'd asked me without swearing or been demanding in an ask and it would have been fine if they'd used anon if they didn't want me to know who they were. and then my bf took over because my social anxiety got triggered and just blocked them and talked me down from my 'omg i'm triggering people to the point they're upset at me and im a terrible person' mental spiral that i fell into. and i'm sure the person didn't mean to trigger me, but i do talk pretty openly about my anxiety on here so saeth agreed i should write a post about how not to request things. so that i can at least say i tried if this happens again.

also they're blocked and i didn't respond to them or call them out because 1) i don't need more negativity/they don't deserve access to me/my stuff and 2) they could have just been having a really, really bad day and they don't need the guilt of knowing they sent someone into a triggered anxiety spiral and almost made them stop writing an entire fic. or the stress of being 'called out'. it's healthier for both of us to just not interact at this point, i feel.

and while bad days doesn't excuse being shitty to other people ever!!! i personally just hope they find their equilibrium and learn better coping mechanisms and how to request things. but its also not my problem to fix, hence why blocking.

thank you for the care and the compliment and just reaching out! sorry i kinda ended up rambling because i'm still a little anxious about the whole thing and how i handled it

lumine

#lumine talks to ppl #lumine answers asks #lumine has five flavors of anxiety and none of them are tasty

[laconic-nightmares]

hii im the intrusive thoughts anon. could you explain like, more further why it wouldn't work? what it feels like? what its like for the shard of me that is shouldering the thoughts? I don't mean to argue I just want to know more truly why it's not a horrible last resort I can pursue, considering the dire circumstances.

a large part of the problem is the nature of intrusive thoughts and ocd itself. while it is true that people with OCD do tend to have stronger and more common intrusive thoughts than people without it, the main problem is that your brain has locked itself into a pattern of thought > reaction > compulsion. a lot of people think the issue is the triggering thought, but it is actually the reaction and resulting compulsion that are the issue. without changing how you react, very little is going to change. our entire system continues to have intrusive thoughts but only a couple of us are particularly affected by them.

another problem is that intentional splitting/creation of headmates in order to give them certain roles/traits/personalities is... difficult, and they never turn out exactly as you 'plan' for them to. hell, cyneric and caim were supposed to be the same headmate and their personalities turned out like water and oil, and i never expected zathrian to be so aggressively possessive.

as for what it would feel like for the one taking on the thoughts, frankly caim isn't actually bothered by the violent thoughts that were given to it at the time, but the ocd adapted and decided to go for things that do bother it and we're having to work out how to deal with having sexual intrusive thoughts basically constantly when it's out because it's sex repulsed so of course the thoughts would go there

the issue i brought up in that other post was more specifically about the fact that you wanted to repress that part of yourself if you split it off. for this i suppose i will put it the way i did to a different system's host who was struggling with most of their alters being persecutors at the time;

imagine being a thinking, conscious being with your own wants and needs, but being locked away in someone else's head. you have no one to talk to, not even the one person who even knows you exist will actually acknowledge you or what you want. how would you feel in that position? it is not surprising for resentment to grow under such conditions

i would not necessarily discourage you trying to become a system if all other avenues of help are outside of your grasp at this point in time. specific OCD informed therapy with a good therapist is obviously the best case scenario, but it's also pretty rare to get ahold of, and i recognize that many of the other options are either impossible to get or risk making things worse.

but if you start off your relationship with the mind you want to bring into the world by antagonizing them, it will likely cause the both of you more pain than if you hadn't. at the least in terms of harm reduction my advice would be to show both them and yourself as much kindness as you can, to build a relationship on companionship and help for each other rather than for them to simply shoulder your burdens in silence

the only other thing i want to say is to remind you that these thoughts are not who you are. they do not dictate your morals, your actions, the safety of the people around you or anything about you other than just the fact you have them. i know it's kinda the whole point of them that that is hard to believe, but it is still true.

i know this is hard, i know it sucks so much shit, and i'm sorry you're struggling with this. you deserve peace and kindness, no matter what this illness tells you otherwise.

#sickened answers #current nightmare; adonis #i'm sorry but i have to sleep now #i hope this can help in any way

[flodaya]

Hi flora! I was wondering, why not call fatou a wlw? Genuinely asking!! As a lesbian myself I've grown accustomed to using wlw as an umbrella term (like mlm?) but as english is not my 1st language I am now wondering if I am using it incorrectly. Don't want to harm my own group of people 😅 thanks!

here is the thing, if you are a lesbian and want to keep calling fatou a wlw go ahead! wlw is an umbrella term for women who love women 

I take issue with the refusal to acknowledge that fatou is in fact by the very definition a lesbian, if people refuse to call her a lesbian when she described and fits the textbook definition of a lesbian I get low-key triggered and sad because it’s an easy way to avoid saying lesbian. it’s still often considered a “dirty word” - even within the community - it took me forever to accept it as my label (tbh I’m still working on it) because there are so many prejudices and stigmata attached to the term. we need to reclaim the word and we can start by not using umbrella terms for lesbian characters

Lexa on the 100 is widely accepted as a lesbian and as far as I can recall she has never outright stated she uses the label lesbian (nor has she ever clearly stated she isn’t into men iirc) but why is it an issue for some of you to “label” fatou who has come out in a way that can not in any way be interpreted as being interested in men and women as a lesbian? and think about it: what would we call a male character that said he doesnt do girlfriends and is into men? would anyone hesitate to call him gay? actually, we don’t have to think in hypotheticals here because isak himself has never said “I am gay” when he came out, he only ever said he likes a boy/not a girl* yet we all agree he is gay

btw, not to get too much into queer media theory but a similar thing happens with bisexual characters in tv/movies/books where these characters never actually use their label or only ever say they don’t label themselves. media isn’t real life, there can’t be the same rules for real life and media, whereas in real life it is absolutely valid if you don’t want to label yourself and/or you don’t feel comfortable with the label that most closely represents you (yet or ever) that is absolutely fine, keep using umbrella terms or no label at all! but in media this is often done to avoid using “dirty words”, words that have too many negative connotations and instead of reclaiming and re-normalizing these terms the writers decide to be “über-liberal” and say the character doesn’t label themselves. the erasure of labels isn’t as revolutionary as some people seem to think

tl;dr you, anon, and any other lesbian who is comfortable calling fatou (and other clearly lesbian characters) a wlw can go ahead! but others avoiding labels such as lesbian for fictional female characters who are exclusively interested in women feels iffy. this isn’t real life where we need to respect people’s boundaries and wishes, this is fictional representation and you need to respect people who this representation is for

anyway, it’s not that deep (she says after having a small meltdown and it triggered her internalized lesbiphobia and was only saved by ranting to her friends about it last night and she has now written a whole essay about the issue lol) I won’t crucify anyone for using umbrella terms for fatou, I will just side-eye you really hard**

* “maybe a little” isn’t confirming his label

** again unless you are a lesbian yourself in which case feel free to use umbrella terms for fatou

#ask #druck #this is the end of me discussing this #I will also turn off anon option for the time being because it is triggering me I’m sorry #my posts #fatou jallow

[sp-ud]

A guide to using Tumblr for the CCs moving here after getting fed up with Twitter!

[I don't actually expect CCs to find and/or use this, I just thought it would be fun to write it this way]

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1) Don't announce that you are a CC, we don't like being perceived here. You will also be sent the weirdest posts we have to offer if you say you are a CC. We also won't believe you and call you a kinnie.

Your experience here will be a lot better for everyone if you just lurk. You don't have to 'Be A CC' on this site, you can just enjoy it like everyone else and we don't have to be aware we're being perceived. (I mean you can announce you're a CC but I personally think you will have a better time if you don't)

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2) REBLOG. This site doesn't really have an algorithm for showing or boosting posts, reblogging does so much more for posts than likes do.

Not only does reblogging help more people see a post, it also shows the poster that their post is something that people want to share around and have on their blog.

Also when you reblog, especially if it's art, maybe leave a nice comment in the tags of your reblog. Doesn't have to be much, but it can still make people's days.

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3) Filtering is your friend. On Tumblr there's an actually good tagging system, and if you go to your Settings you can add any tag and you won't have to worry about seeing it.

When a filtered post is reblogged to your dash or in something you're searching, it will tell you what tag(s) are filtered out and give you an option if you want to see it or not.

Basically, it's super easy to filter out critical tags, negative tags, trigger warnings, ship names, cc names, anything.

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4) Going along with filtering, the tagging system in general is also really good. You don't need to use multiple versions of similar tags to get a post seen, you can just use one.

You also don't have to worry about using any of the actual post's space as the tags are a completely separate text box from the post. So no worry about sacrificing words to fit more tags.

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5) Blocking and moving on is way more accepted here than on Twitter. Especially because unlike Twitter where it's very obvious that you've blocked someone, telling them if they try to go to your account. On Tumblr, you simply appear to not exist to them.

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6) Be prepared for weirdness, but not weirdchampness. On Tumblr while the jokes can often be obscure, strange, and sometimes suggestive, it's rare for actual weird content to be popular. No threads of a CCs thighs here. (Seriously that was so creepy, what the fuck Twitter)

Here, jokes are more like how a certain group of people would react to the reader having a tapeworm. No that's not an oddly specific example that you might run into. Don't worry about it.

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7) Opening your askbox. If you want interaction, opening your askbox is the best way to do it. You can even turn on and off anonymous asks depending on what's happening or what you're comfortable with.

And don't worry if someone's sending you hate through anon asks, you can still block anons by clicking the 3 little dots next to their ask.

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Alright, that's all I can really think of for this post. If people want to add their own points in the reblogs, that's totally okay. And welcome to Tumblr, you're safe from whatever the fuck Twitter is on.

#mcyt #mcytblr #dsmp #dsmpblr #twitter refugees #spud originals

[sentinelpri]

Hi! I was rewatching TFA again, and I just got an idea for a fanfic, but I can't write so I'm sending this request to one of my favorite writers.

Can you write some Headcanons of Sentinel Prime with a male or GN Cybertronian reader he used to date while in the Academy who left with Optimus and ended up on Earth with Team Prime, then became a Techno-Organic? If you can, can you do SFW or NSFW?

If it's too specific, I can rewrite it if you want, and take as much time as you need.

Hey, anon! Happy to write some Sentinel for you- I haven't gotten to in a while. Gonna go ahead and go with Gender Neutral reader for this and make it SFW. Headcanons below the cut; enjoy <3

The two of you dated in the Autobot Academy and had a relatively good relationship up until the incident, which you weren’t there for, but you heard both Optimus and Sentinel’s side of the story outside of court and gathered what happened- Sentinel pushed them to go to the organic planet, Elita “died”, and Optimus got blamed for it even though it was all three of their faults.

You were initially willing to try to make the relationship work regardless because you and Sentinel had been dating for a long time and you were very in love with him, but you found that all of his worst qualities were amped up after what happened to Elita; he was more controlling, terrified of not following rules, critical of Optimus, putting blame on everyone else for his actions, sabotaging himself and others, angry, cruel, and obviously not the same person he used to be.

So, you broke up with him and gave up your dream of being in the Elite Guard- it wasn’t going to look like what you wanted, anyway. When you’d been younger, you’d dreamed of being there with Sentinel by your side and Optimus and Elita, your closest friends, there too. But now, Elita was gone, Optimus had no chance of being in the Elite Guard, and Sentinel was sure to make your career miserable if you tried to work with him because of the breakup.

Deciding that you had no other options, you joined Optimus’s space bridge repair crew and left Cybertron with him for a while, and your friendship with him ended up growing a lot because of everything, only for the two of you to have everything happen with Megatron and the Allspark with your entire team crash landing on earth.

Things go very similarly to how they do in canon up until Sentinel comes to earth. The second incident with Blackarachnia and her lab happens, and the reveal is very big and emotional for everyone, but in the crossfire of things, you also get turned into a techno-organic. Thankfully, unlike Wasp, you maintain your personality and are pretty much the same aside from your appearance. It’s a big change, but you handle it a lot better than Wasp and Blackarachnia and come out unscathed. You and Optimus were mostly just disappointed and distraught about how it all turned out, as well as disappointed in Sentinel for how he acted and treated Blackarachnia even after realizing who she was/who she’d been to him.

You’re feeling conflicted. On one hand, your feelings for Sentinel never left and this experience has made you realize how short life is, but on the other hand, you know he needs to grow and become better before the two of you have so much as a chance at a functioning relationship. 

Sentinel, however, has been an emotional wreck since the breakup and has missed you dearly, even going as far as to be nicer to you than to everyone else once returning to earth in hopes that you’ll notice and start wanting him back.

Seeing you techno-organic triggers something even deeper in him, though... He’s loved you from the moment the two of you met, and he assumed that seeing you turned into someone else entirely like that, especially when he’s scared of and disgusted by most organics, would turn him off of you and change his feelings. But seeing you changed so drastically, he realizes he loves you even more- your personality is still the same, and he’s just grateful that you’re still alive.

He doesn’t know how to handle that, though, and remains quiet about it for a while, simply skirting around you until Optimus inevitably notices and demands that he at least talks to you- it’s obvious you both miss each other, he says, and he gives you the exact same lecture, Blackarachnia didn’t sacrifice herself for nothing and would want all three of you to be happy. 

So, Sentinel approaches you and the two of you hash it out; air your grievances, talk about how much you’ve missed each other, he apologizes to you for everything that’s happened and promises to work on himself, you both explain your perspectives on your change from purely Cybertronian to techno-organic, and you agree to make things work and try again before just hugging each other and basking in each other’s presence for a few hours <3

#ask #asks #my asks #anon asks #anon ask #anon request #anon requests #request #requests #sentinel prime #tfa sentinel prime #sentinel prime x reader #tfa sentinel prime x reader #tfa #tf #transformers #transformers animated #drabble #drabbles #headcanon #headcanons #gender neutral reader #gn reader #techno organic reader #team prime

[maddenleftchat]

You're telling me dream blob, the small blob thing that I thought was adorable, could be yandere or dark in some way?? EXPLAIN! I need to know more! (also bestie do you have anons on? I don't see it when I go on asks but that might just be me)

Yes surprisingly! Also I don't have any anons currently. The reason why is because I was a dummy, and didn't realize that I had the anonymous ask option turned off...but now it's on!

Triggers: Just mild yandere behavior.

Blob Dream

Blob Dream...okay.

Blob Dream is on the more possessive side.

He doesn't really want you hanging out with any other people.

Or anything else to be exact.

Dog? Out of the picture.

Cat? Out of the picture.

Hamster? Out of the picture.

Even an adorable tiny little kitten, is out of the question.

Dream blob maybe just a little, foot tall or so, blob.

But he still comes from Dream.

He may not be able to do much with keeping you in one place.

But that sure as hell ain't going to stop him from being hip and hip with you constantly.

Glob dream is likely either in your pocket on your shoulder or on your head.

And if you go to school! You can be damn sure he's in your backpack!

That doesn't mean he's a free cheat sheet though... Sadly.

~

What caught dream blob so attached to a first place?

That is where we need to start.

You likely saved the troublemaker somehow.

Whether you saved him from birds, drowning in a too deep puddle.

Or even just saving him from wandering around on the streets.

However you did it, your thought process was something like this:

"Wow what a lovely day outside! What's that, a small little white blob thing with two eyes and a creepy smile?! It's adorable! Oh no it's in danger! I best go help it!"

And boom, Just like that you're taking care of a thing that acts like a toddler.

Ever since you brought dream into your home, he didn't leave.

~

A normal day with lil blob boy would go something like this:

8:00 A.M.- Wake up to blob jumping on you, so he can start the day nice and early with you. You go back to bed. It is your day off.

8:30-10:00 A.M.- Dream blob has made numerous attempts to wake you up. With no successful results.

10:30 A.M.- You finally wake up, and the first thing you see, angry little blob.

11:00 A.M.-12:00 P.M.- Spent the time eating breakfast, relaxing, and getting ready for the day. All while dream was watching you or on you.

12:30 P.M.- 2:00 P.M.- Time spent at the park, though had to leave early cause blob kept making little blob complainment noises.

3:00 P.M.- 5:00 P.M.- Spent making dinner, and lecturing Blob about his complaining at the park.

5:30 P.M.- 8:00 P.M.- spent eating dinner and doing your favorite hobbies, with blob getting upset because you are not giving him attention.

8:00 P.M.-11:00 P.M.- watching a movie, and Dream blob attention time.

~

As visible dream blonde doesn't put a huge drag on your life.

But that doesn't mean he isn't there and if you even think about forgetting it, he won't mind helping you remember.

~

How does little blob boy show his affection?

There's simple cuddles and small gifts.

What do cuddles look like?

Well if you are have the boobs, then he will be in the boobs, you don't have a say in it.

A good 80% of the time, he is in between your pillowy chest. It don't matter the size, he will get comfortable somehow in there.

But it you have a more flat masculine chest, he will stay on your stomach or lay in the crook of your neck.

And what are his small little gifts?

Stuff he found around the house.

A lost penic? Good morning gift on your bed stand!

But if you loose something important to you, he will try his damn best to find it!

~

In short: blob dream is a fairly harmless yandere. But he is a possessive one, and he does have the ability to keep most people away from you, thats why you lack friends. Blob often scares them away for just makes people weirded out by you.

Word count:665

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Thanks for reading!

#dream blob #yandere dream #dreamxreader #dream blob x reader

[manikas-whims]

for soc headcanons, sleeping style- sofa vs bed or both

lil spoon & big spoon?

i know these are cliched but pls..

sorry dear anon, i've kept this on hold for so long..

SoC Sleeping Headcanons

(or as I'd like to call them: "bed canons" 😭)

Wesper

• Both bed and sofa/couch.

• They're both kinda lean built so they easily fit together on the couch.

• But since Jesper is so tall, his legs either end up dangling from the end of the couch/sofa. Or he has to bend his knees..kinda like entangle his knees over Wylan's to sleep.

This is why its more comfortable for them to sleep in bed.

• Wylan is the little spoon because he likes being held and Jesper loves nuzzling his face into Wylan's nape.

Though some mornings Wylan wakes up to find he had turned in his sleep. Jesper is still holding him but his head is now resting in the crook of Wylan's neck.

There are also some mornings where Wylan finds Jesper laying upside down by the foot of the bed and just chuckles.

♥ Sometimes when they're on a couch, Wylan leans his head on Jesper's shoulder as Jesper is reading to him and ends up falling asleep.

Helnik

• Sofas/Couches are a bit difficult for them not just because they're so tall but also Matthias's muscular physique & Nina is curvy built.

• They do however crash anywhere when tired, even though Kaz grumbles about it sometimes.

• Bed is the better option for them as well.

• Nina is the little spoon. She likes Matthias's arms wrapped around her waist, in fact asks him to do it but also constantly teases him about it.

In the mornings, its hard for Nina to get Matthias's arms off of her cause his hold is strong and when she playfully swats his arm, he tightens his hold to annoy her more.

♥ Sometimes on the couch when Nina is telling him/teaching him things about other nations, Matthias lays his head in her lap, his legs dangling from the end and he asks a lot of innocent or silly questions.

Kanej

• Sofas/Couches are difficult for Kaz's leg. So they prefer beds.

• But there are those particular tired days where Kaz just lays down on the couch for a while, his right leg resting down on the floor and Inej on top of him. She's small and light.

• Kaz is the little spoon.

• Not just because being held still at times triggers Inej's past memories at the Menagerie. But because Kaz actually likes being held. He enjoys the feeling of Inej's warm hands around him. Sometimes he turns over because Inej likes to rest her head on his chest.

Sometimes she also ends up draping a leg over his waist.

♥ Sometimes after a long day, Kaz sits on the couch, his leg stretched out. Inej gets in his lap and he gently undoes her braid and runs his fingers through her lengthy hair to untangle it. Its very relaxing for both of them.

*hope you like these, and lemme know if you want more..:3

SoC Masterlist

#kanej #helnik #wesper #six of crows #crooked kingdom #kaz brekker #inej ghafa #jesper fahey #wylan van eck #nina zenik #matthias helvar #soc headcanon

[netheritenugget]

How To Fandom

Okay I’ve been really really wanting to write a masterpost about how to stay sane on this website for a while now, and I think it’s time.

So You Joined The Dream SMP Fandom/Basically Any Fandom.  You Feel Like You Are In Hell.  How Do You Keep Sane?

The block button is your friend.  Unless the person who has been blocked tries messaging you or interacting with your posts, then they’ll never find out they’ve been blocked.  You can also do something called “softblocking,” which is blocking and then unblocking them to make them unfollow you.  Chances are they might not even notice you’re no longer on their feed.  Block people who annoy you.  Block people who give you bad vibes.  Block everyone and anyone who makes you uncomfy.  It’s worth it.

Tag filter tag filter tag filter.  Tumblr has its own tag filtering option.  If you block the word “gore” it won’t block “gore tw” but it’s good to use because it will synch all your filtered tags between mobile and desktop.

If you use Chrome, you should install the New Xkit extension.  It has lots of different filtering options, like the option to block individual posts and all variations of them, blacklist words, hide advertisements, and more.  There’s also additional accessibility options.  Seriously I cannot reccomend being able to block posts enough, it’s extremely helpful for clearing your feed of the same annoying rants that keep popping up over and over again.

Turn off anon unless you’re comfortable with having it on.  Anon is a nice way for friendly shy people to message you, yes, but it’s not worth it if there’s people flooding your inbox with hate.  You are not a coward for wanting to see the faces of the people who felt the need to take the time out of their day to bait and harass you.  Anons harassing you this way want you to post their answers for others to see, because if it was just about making you feel bad, they’d PM you directly to tell you how much they hate you.  No, it’s about the fact that they can do it with zero repercussions.  Don’t let them get the chance.

Take breaks.  Log out of the app and have some food and water.

If you see a post that makes you angry, ask yourself if seeing the same topic in a week will make you just as angry.  Ask yourself if it’s worth it to spread that anger to others.  Is the information in the post verifiable?  Does it need repeating?  If the answer to any of these questions is “no” I suggest not spreading it.

If you’re about to argue with someone over their stupid opinions, ask yourself...  “Will this argument die out after five minutes?  Am I prepared if it goes on longer than that?  Is this person probably too stupid to comprehend that they’re a moron?” and if the answer is “yes” then just take the moral high ground and leave.

If you have a post you’re not sure about (maybe it’s controversial, or maybe you’re just feeling extra anxious today), save it to your drafts and come back to it later.  It may also help you find typos.

Posts that have already been made can be changed to “private” which will allow you to see them, but nobody else.

Alright Those Are Cool Tips!  How Do You Make Tumblr Better For Others?

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[ninyard]

I’d like to read your thoughts on Andrew’s trigger re: Proust, also do you think others notice or know about what happened besides Neil? I feel like Bee and Renee and Aaron definitely do not know during the books but might find out what happened later. Kevin might know or suspect but not directly ask because he knows he won’t get a straight answer or he just doesn’t want to know for sure.

Oh I LOVE THIS QUESTION!!!! Anon you spark my imagination in such ways that HURT BIG TIME

CW; Drake mention, Proust, Andrew’s past, knife mention

Here’s my opinion on who knows/who doesn’t know and honestly, I think anyone outside of the people you mentioned are just…not options. It would break Nicky to find out. Coach doesn’t need to know. Abby sees some new scars but she doesn’t ask. But Bee, Aaron, Kevin and Renee?

Firstly, I have a different opinion on Andrew/Bee’s relationship than what Nora said in the extra content, and honestly I refuse to believe Andrew just…doesn’t really talk to Bee about things? I think for a good year of their relationship things were hot and cold, and a lot of the time he would stop her when their conversations started getting too personal, or when he felt he was opening up just a little too much. But when Neil said “I knew who Drake was.” And Betsy said “How? Did Andrew tell you about him?” I kind of read that as a tell on Betsy’s part that she kind of might find it hard to believe Neil knows, because she didn’t find out for a LONG time. Andrew laughed when he first told her, and oh did he love how the pity filled her face. He left the session early when she started asking more, and she probably cried when he was gone because it hurt her so much, the love she felt for Andrew and the way he talked about the crimes like they were silly anecdotes. So honestly, I think if anyone knows about Proust other than Neil during the books, it’s Bee.

She knows the way Andrew reacted when she asked about Drake, or any of the other foster fathers. She saw that violent, unmedicated reaction when she asked about Proust, how well-decorated he was in the mental health field. Obviously I don’t think she knows about EVERYTHING, because her confidentiality as a therapist would have to be broken if she knew how badly Andrew was treated, but slowly but surely she finds out little details. The day he dies, he calls Betsy to organise an emergency session. In Andrew fashion his reaction isn’t normal, isn’t grief, but in a throwaway Andrew comment (“Just another one dead to add to the list.”) she asks him again, he’s dead now, what did he do to you? It’s probably one of the closer times Andrew has got to crying in a session, and when Betsy had a free hour, she let him stay, curled up in the chair, vulnerable, but safe. Andrew was mad when Betsy showed up in Columbia after Drake because he knew how much this would hurt, for him and for her, and she already knew. He didn’t get to tell her this time. How long had she been letting herself think and her mind wander about what had happened on her drive to get him?

I don’t think Aaron ever finds out. Andrew has kept so much of his trauma sheltered from Aaron that I think he probably keeps this to himself, too. Maybe it slips out at one of their joint sessions, but Andrew doesn’t talk about his time at east haven specifically because he knows Proust will come up. I think finding out that, when Andrew was supposed to be getting better, he was being abused, oh man, that would kill him. Him and Andrew get closer post-TKM, but not that close. Aaron killed his Brothers rapist, and for a while when Andrew was committed he almost called Pig Higgins to find out if anyone else hurt Andrew so he could kill them, too. I think if Andrew told Aaron it would change something in their relationship that they might not be able to fix at the stage their relationship was at post-TKM and for a while into the future.

Oh KEVIN, little knowing Kevin, skeptical Kevin, the Kevin who couldn’t keep that dark part of his mind quiet, the part that told him Riko was behind Drake. Kevin knew what he was capable of to an extent I don’t think anybody else, even anyone on the Ravens, knew. He told Andrew at his “audition” for the Ravens he could take him off his meds, that he could do anything he needed. Kevin knew Riko had friends in powerful and important places far more than Neil knew. To Neil, before Proust, it was cops, judges, doctors, people with importance and power. Kevin knew it was the receptionists who would sign the right paperwork at the right time, to make sure everything would fall into the right hands. He knew it was the janitors, who would turn a blind eye to whatever mess they found, or the security who would kindly delete whatever security footage you asked, no questions or qualms. Kevin knew it wasn’t just the doctors; it was the people prescribing medication, it was the student assistants, it was the people who shut the doors behind them. So when Betsy said Easthaven, and Neil said Riko bought the prosecution on Drake’s trial, and then Neil said do you know what he’ll do to Andrew if I don’t go? Kevin knew without being told. That sentiment was enough. Riko’s sick, sadomasochistic nature, and the lengths he’d seen him go to before? If Riko said go, Proust would do whatever he wanted. Kevin knew from the second Neil punched Riko in the face at the Christmas Banquet what was going to happen to Andrew. It took a month after Andrew’s return, a month of sheepish looks and barely being able to look him in the eye, before Andrew snapped and asked him what the hell was wrong with him, surely he’d been around as many victims in the nest that this wasn’t new to him? Kevin only had to say “Riko.” And then a stuttered, “Your Doctor in Easthaven-” before Andrew reached beneath his bands and threatened him with a knife and then Kevin had his answer. He never found out details, and he never asked again.

Also, Andrew spilled a secret or two about a corrupt doctor to Renee at their sparring sessions, but she never asked, and he never told. Renee had never seen Andrew properly sober before, but she could still read him well enough to know something terrible had happened. She told him she was there for him but all that got her was a trip to the ground and a smile-without-a-smile from Andrew, a finger over his lips to tell her to be quiet, but a nod in understanding. Renee knew enough about Andrew’s past to know something bad went on in Easthaven, but to her, that was all she needed to know.

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