#allies just by being nice

[empress-hancock]

Oh this is hysterical

#i am addicted to zoro slander it’s so unfortunate it is the least common slander in the whole fandom #this man is a doofus he’s a moron he sits on his ass while nami shovels the snow off the deck and sleeps while she busts her ass #he’s a dick and he picks on others and then laughs when they tell him to stop bullying him #(source: in punk hazard he did this to brook. brook literally said ‘stop bullying me’) #he insinuated that robin should not have been fought by a foe at full strength because ‘she’s a woman’ #actually insinuated isn’t right. he straight up said it #i know people think sanji thinks women are weak and that’s why he doesn’t hit them or saves the girls but #he saves EVERYONE. and does it not because he thinks anyone is weak #(he has on numerous occasions praised nami and robin’s strenth. and he has trusted them both to save HIM when he needed it) #he saves others because he doesn’t want to see his friends hurt. that’s it. he is the kindest of the crew. having turned multiple foes into #allies just by being nice #oh but anyway. the reason he doesn’t hit women is because Zeff threatened to castrate him if he ever did #so… saying that to a child has an impact #and if Sanji is so scared of disappointing zeff that he wouldn’t let SOMEONE ELSE kill his physically and mentally abusive family #then he probably isn’t going to disobey him on the women thing #it’s probably not even abt the castration anymore he just has fucking stockholm syndrome #zeff was abusive too but i think he’s desperate for a father and doesn’t want to let him down #he and Usopp have Issues with admiring terrible dads #anyway

[incorrect-star-allies]

Bandana Dee: How would you guys deal with a toxic friend?

Kirby: Tell them how you really feel.

Dedede: Slowly distance yourself from them.

Meta Knight: Engage in a 1v1 sword battle and if they lose they have to stop being toxic or pay the price.

Bandana Dee, being handed a sword: ...well heck.

#bandee is just being hypothetical btw #kirby's friends are disasters but they're nice #incorrect quotes #incorrect kirby quotes #incorrect star allies #kirby series #bandana waddle dee #kirby #king dedede #meta knight #source: perchance generator

[queencaramilflinda]

Everyone during neverafter 15: oh my god these social interactions are going horribly they’re all doing so bad!

Me, neurodivergent and cannot read social cues: idk mostly these seem fine

#like… Pinocchio overshared for sure #but I didn’t think the rest of them were too bad? like they rolled poorly yes but the actual conversations went fine? I thought? #i at least didn’t think they were as bad as everyone else seems to think #like… with ylfa. when you are a young girl and you meet an older woman who is Like You and successful you are drawn to that #her questions didn’t seem invalid if a bit personal #like ‘how did this happen to u? how do u find the answers and the strength to be successful when your like this the way we are now?’ #that was fair to ask! there was a moment before that where they even clocked eachother as beasts! and then ylfa asked about Pib #which seemed fine to me. like she was genuinely asking advice and she got shutdown with like a one word answer #I feel like la bête did worse in that interaction than ylfa did #none of the stuff with gerard was really his fault within that interaction. Brennan surprised Murph with the read the cards outloud thing #he handled it the best he could under the circumstances #Pib did great. Pinocchio overshared but his intentions and actual words were sweet! traumabonding! #Rosamund did great! she was kind and she said what she wanted like yeah! not too bad! #i don’t think Ally intended to actually put dirt in the cookies Brennan kind of pushed that and I don’t think a lot of what he said was bad #I think ally could’ve handled it better in the sense that they could’ve just told the truth and been vague abt the questions being abt #the book but the stuff about being so overly nice and a bit unnerving seemed like an accurate and not very offensive way of putting it #even before they knew about the nihilistic princess cabal stuff they thought rapunzel was creepy #cienna talks #neverafter

[suga-kookiemonster]

me taking diversity training

white actor: *casually says a clear microaggression*

black actor: ☹️😔

white bystander coworker, horrified and silently staring at the black actor: 😧

me: …can y’all stop staring at each other and just jump her

#don’t just feel sorry for her denise! be a true ally 😌😂 #what? is that not work appropriate? i was being nice she was asking for these hands 👊🏾💥 #😂😂😂😂😂 #mine

[thepoisonroom]

btw if someone you love wants to talk about how they're interested in any type of transition it's actually very cool and swagful to ask them what parts they're interested in and excited for so they can share the joy of it with you

#when i got back on t i had just been dating my girlfriend for a few months and i was so nervous to talk with her about it #because i was like even very well-meaning allies will start telling you about all their fears about your transition #which isn't helpful and can sometimes feel worryingly like you're doing a bad thing that would jeopardize the relationship if any of those #fears happened #and her first response was to ask about what i wanted from taking t and we just talked about all the possibilities i was excited about #and at the end of it i felt even better and more confident about my decision and our relationship #being unconditionally loved and supported is so crazy like even difficult times of your life can be an opportunity to enjoy being close #not that taking it was a difficult time but just that the uncertainty about what she might say had been a huge source of nerves #and it was nice to feel like our bond was even stronger after we had that talk #personal nonsense #sorry if that was rambling i got a little too high :(

[knowlesian]

okay, i’m not gonna call out names because i think people deserve chances to grow and i’m not assuming any malicious intent, but i also feel a need to answer something addressed to me today, because empathy’s gotta go hand in hand with accountability.

this is why talking about race (in fandom, or otherwise) is often like slamming your face into a brick wall that keeps insisting it’s on your side.

okay. so i sort of debated how to handle this: i think i’m just gonna quote myself. you may have missed this piece, so hopefully it’ll give context for why i’m not sure exactly what to say, and remain unsure.

i am very sure that until the day i die, i will be doing the hard and frustrating and not super ego-boosting work of diving into the mental dumpster of weird bullshit i was implicitly taught and unpacking it all.

so i know i will breathe my last and i will still have all these racist ideas, rattling around my noggin fucking with how i see the world and how i treat people, even though i don’t know i’m doing the thing. when i talk about people being racist and having implicit bias, i am also talking about me!

because racist is a descriptor, not an insult. and as much as it sucks for me to unpack this shit (don’t let anybody tell you it’s not hard work or that it feels good to do; it’s really hard and it will make you feel very small and gross sometimes) the people i accidentally aim it at deserve me putting in that effort and have it much worse.

so when i’m like, it was racist stede did that? i’m not saying stede is a bad person, and i’m not saying fuck that guy.

i’m saying oh shit this show is SMART, i do that too! it’s me!

so. i don’t know why you posted this and then bounced: i don’t know why you didn’t @ me, if you wanted me to see it and respond.

like... is your issue that i’m talking about race too much? that i’m being mean or unfair when i do it? that i don’t talk enough about how hard it is for white people to think about race, or that i’m not being understanding enough that it sucks to look at people who hurt you and have to consider you might have something in common with them? because i’ve said exactly that, too. you’re right, it’s not fun to do this work, and it is work.

i guess i just don’t understand the purpose, here, or why you’d say all this and not explain what exactly you want from me as a writer to do differently. and if that’s not your goal and i’ve misunderstood, then...  i mean. i guess i remain confused as to what you want me to take away from this, other than “it’s hard to be white, and you have made me feel very uncomfortable about it so i wish you would stop”.

#i still don't know what to say #i do not understand why this post was made #do they want me to change? talk about race less or differently? #never mention whiteness? #because i feel like i have been scolded for not being nice enough or understanding enough about the Plight of The White Ally #so i guess my question is: what was i supposed to say here? #what am i supposed to do with this #but feel like i am somehow not in the crew unless white people feel comfortable #posting this and then immediately unfollowing just feels... defeating and weird #like i'm not gonna block you and i hope you take this and just. don't do this to the next poc in line #but this made me feel p shitty #this is fine to rb btw please do not try to sleuth shit or whatever this is not about that #it's just... you know. play stupid games handle your public stupid prizes #to allow frustration to make me blunt for a sec #also apologies for the caps and no id i just could not make myself sit and transcribe all that #if someone else has the fortitude thank you and i will rb #i just. not today you know? i can't do the second layer and process every word at that level rn

[unproduciblesmackdown]

truly something that, amidst facing / going through a dramatic Life Change ft. unavoidable emotional effects of that, there are instances where i can't conceal any & all degrees of being distressed / upset, & repeatedly getting "it's hard for me too" as a Direct Response to that: really something & a half how the asserted theoretical Sympathy of [i feel similarly!] is invoked so as to, oh you know, preclude sympathetic Treatment. such as that what would be More sympathetic in these instances would be to say Nothing, "if there's nothing but dismissal / making it first & foremost about someone else's feelings to say, don't say it at all" style

#reading also that original Lovelessness essay ''love is meant to make me human / love is also the mechanism by which my humanity #has been denied'' always preferring to have [sorry! couldn't fully bottle up this Emotiona externally manifesting at all!] Ignored rather #than ''nicely'' interacted with so as to Invalidate; Dismiss; someone's annoyed at you for having it; etc #for bonus context like we are not in the same boat with it. #not a case of ''the same situation; mine is worse though'' like no; fundamentally different situations here lmao. mine is worse #If You Feel So Bad. Or At All. then at least now do me the favor of Not Saying That; Repeatedly #their feelings put on me too in other ways. stewing resentment into lashing out; tossing out ''but i'm justified'' like ok! Your business!! #the ol like. If You're Going To Do Something Anyways then how you justify it to yourself is Your business / b/w you & your god as they say #& the last thing to do is be making it the problem of ppl Most Affected by what you're gonna do anyways & Also ask their Absolution..... #like if you need more moral support abt What You're Doing Anyways: turn to Anyone Else. even No One if you have to. #bit going tf through it when it's spilling over into Posting but such is life!! we all have that [the horrors. girl help] blogger on dash #again the tl;dr like oh you don't say. the [umm but have you considered? My Feelings! (they're so sympathetic at all. yor welcome)] is #the mechanism through which Really basic sympathy is being denied & replaced with [Saying Nothing would've been less hurtful] #misgendering me the other night too while Also all 'hey I'm trying to talk to the customer service. why are You going up & talking first' #(that was me experiencing the latter. i didn't say it but i was like cmon. my glasses are fogging up w/surgical mask (don't have access to #more effective masks so doing what Nonzero i can there) i'm a bit carsick i'm weathering a crisis. can i have anything here lol) #just Oh You Know. The Horrors.... #balancing ofc trying to endure trying to self soothe etc etc. with ''it's the horrors. it's gonna be horrific & you're gonna be affected'' #ah the [being kind to oneself] like also means knowing how reasonable it is to Not solo contain & endure & Cope Through everything.... #crushing a paper cup in my hands genuinely i would like to generously thank my virtual allies out here today. mic feedback #irl In Real Life? life is Real asf here & nobody Realer than them

[musical-chick-13]

I hate to tell you this, but many gays also love Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. (A musical show about discovering your identity and the negative effects of internalizing harmful societal ideas about relationships, which also has canonically queer characters in it.)

#like I don't. I don't know how to explain that sometimes people evaluate a work based on more than 'is there a tumblr-approved #same-gender ship I can ship' #and AGAIN. don't get me wrong!! I understand why people like lot!! truly I do!!!! and why sara in particular means so much to people!!!!!!! #but I think some people forget that some queer people are marginalized in other ways IN ADDITION to their queerness #queer poc exist. queer disabled and neurodivergent people exist. queer fat people exist. queer jewish people exist. and people will enjoy #some stories for speaking to those other types of marginalization or by representing the intersections of them. #not everything is about YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF QUEERNESS #sorry I just. I mean at least we're prioritizing a f/f ship this time that's a nice change. #but people act like one specific representation of queer identity is the only kind of story that matters and I AM /TIRED/ #I. A WHOLE-ASS QUEER LADY. AM TIRED. #(also like. it's telling that I only ever hear people lauding lot for the white sapphics and not any of the cast of color or who belong to #groups who are otherwise underrepresented) #(which the cx//gf fanbase is guilty of this too like people are HORRIBLE about josh. and bex's jewish background is also generally #neglected in discussions. so this isn't unique to lot. it's just that a lot of fandom spaces tout themselves as being #The Most Progressive and S-Tier Allys™ when they act like...this.) #In the Vents

[allylikethecat]

I absolutely adore your writing and you post the best pics of Matty Ally ❤️I have post notifications on so I don’t miss anything lol hope you had a great day !!

Ahhh oh my gosh what you have notifications on?! I apologize for when I go on those weird sprees were I post a whole lot rapid fire lol Also thank you SO MUCH for sharing such kind words about my writing omg I'm so grateful that people have been so welcoming and supportive when I started posting in this fandom and am so thankful for the little community we have build here! I hope you enjoy tomorrows update and that you are having a great day / week as well! Thank you SO SO MUCH!

❤️Ally

#allylikethecat #ask ally #keep it kind #fanfiction #matty fic #gatty #fanfic #questions #answers #also im happy to hear that you are enjoying my matty pic reblogs lol #i trying to reblog all my favorites lol #and also thank you for reading and saying nice things about my writing and just being so wonderful and supportive #i really appreciate it! #thank you so much!

[calmingpi]

Im still delighted with how gil is disliked by europe for being klaus but less competent and more erratic meanwhile hes managed to become allied with the god queen of england on the basis of *checks notes* not endorsing lobotomies

#i think even if i personally dont have a lot of confidence in gil as a ruler #that he has a leg up on klaus in that he is actually more like the heterodyne boys #in how he is actually a nice and personable dude who is able to make allies rather than just shooting everyone #and if he ever stops trying to emulate klaus he could probably get a LOT more headway in europe #i mean the main thing is that they dont know him and are worried hes too weak #like has he actually visited and talked to the various rulers and sparks? #who is gils campaign manager #boris has been fucking off in paris after all #like so far hes gotten headway in england (previously unheard of with his dad) #and also paris (was not fond of the baron but now the person in charge is... his friend from college! WHO HE MADE BY BEING PERSONABLE) #klaus' hostage school didnt exactly work out what with them all running away from their responsibilities #but hey if they do end up in charge? #girl genius

[jvnkless]

currently going down a bitter casgirl rabbit hole cause I’m nostalgic and it reminded me of one of the reasons why spn sucks so much: it’s lack of perspective. More specifically perspective outside of the boys.

Because I think despite spn being The Bad Person Show™️ it really does not budge when it comes to making the boys, along with their decisions, righteous in some manner. I know this isn’t true all the time but like generally. Particularly whenever they have an ally that they pretty clearly selfishly use without supporting or even thanking them while they’re still around.

Like, I think the last time they properly thanked & apologized to an ally would’ve been Bobby (I could be wrong about this statement btw it’s been a minute since I’ve watched the show). In an episode that, mind you, forcibly took away their perspective in favor of Bobby’s.

Like, we couldn’t just see them be good people & be good to Bobby, we had to wrench the entire fucking narrative for a moment just so they could do so. Jesus Fucking Christ Dude.

#jvnk posts #ALSO ALSO I JUST REMEMBERED. #they sometimes do realize how mean they’re being/recognize said ally as a friend BUT THEY NEVER SAY IT TO THEIR FACE. JUST TO EACHOTHER. #LIKE!!! THEY ARENT ALLOWED TO BE NICE!!!!!

[skrunksthatwunk]

JUST FINISHED NANBA'S DRINKING BOND PLOTLINE!!!!! I HATE GAY PEOPLE

#GAH AUGH #rgg #ichinan #SORRY i think they're cute. jeez #the way nanba's so fucking excited for his surprise party im gonna shit ass oh my godd #like he said he just wants ppl to be extra nice to him!! #and ichiban is SO FURIOUS at mizue for ruining nanba's life like i dont think i've ever seen him that mad #love the (completely normal) bartender for being such an ally to those two specifically. love wins!! #'you two are close' mhm yessir sure are #and nanba's not even bitter about the surprise party being fake bc he knows ichi was trying to do smth very kind for him #they're both like augh you're the truest friend ive ever had we're so close like 4 times in this story #and then after the drink link is like #hold on

[wolves-in-the-world]

early qwat au thought: eliot plating up food properly for quinn because it's his Art and it's Something and he's doing something Good with his hands again to remind himself he can, and because quinn's… bewildering, but he stands watch for eliot and kills the people sent after him without even being asked, and sometimes when eliot's fuzzy with stress and sleep deprivation quinn inspires in him such a desire to squish his cheeks that it loops right back around to wanting to punch him again—

—but at least at first, before quinn sees enough of it to figure out it's a thing and poke at it a bit, eliot plates quinn's food properly and eats his own straight from the pan.

(sometimes shame doesn't show in big dramatic ways. sometimes it's eating scrambled egg out of a frying pan and pretending not to notice that your buddy's watching you with the intensity of someone planning a hit.)

#qwat au #eliot being like ''quinn is a friend(??) and an ally and a person and deserves a proper meal'' #and quietly filing himself in a different category for reasons he does not intend to examine. #it's not like he's not eating enough or skimping on the necessary nutrients. it's not a big deal! #it's MAYBE a tiny bit deliberately doing something moreau would look down on #(he's not going to be that person anymore and here's one way he can dig in his heels without sweating much) #but he's not looking closely at that either or he'll just get even more angry with himself. #could mesh nicely with the 'fast food as a distress signal' thing #just a bit more College Student Depression instead. #also ooooh both of them not really seeing themselves as fully People but for different reasons #different flavours of trauma. okay. tucking that away to keep. #a throwaway line in unshareable fic became this when I poked at it to figure out why it was there #beyond To Indicate Functional Depression though that's valid too #I drafted this BEFORE I read about quinn sleeping on the floor and now I have to sit down <3

[ajdrawshq]

the first few days of third semester is really just Akira having the worlds worst mindfuck of the century. and its hilarious

#p5 #HE STRAIGHT UP JUMPED OUTTA THAT BED BC OF HUMAN MORGANA XJBSJDH #aw Futabas looks so cute in this outfit :] #i think Akira should be allowed to say fuck. audibly. right now. several times #'something is definitely very wrong here...' NO SHIT KID #skndksjdb the visual of him sitting Far Away from the table w human Morgana and Wakaba. god help him #heyyyyy Akechi whats up buddy!!!!! oh he knows doesnt he #this feels so. him being here Normally is so. h #its nice to see a sprite of him just.... existing. hes not putting up (as much of) a front anymore. very good i like it #ohhhhhh my god his smug ass smiling sprite. oh im going to enjoy this immensely. lets go u lil bastard #different metanav ?? huh. #this game is gonna do something to me i can feel it #i love this palaces music........ i am not immune to piano #it reminds me of the world that never was............... #DJVSKCJSHJ hold on. hey mr 'i dont need teammates' why does ur personas ability help ur allies with their support skills. omg #i need to take a break before i do this or i will NOT stop n i have things to do. but holy fuck.

[youngpettyqueen]

🔥

Hawkeye Pierce

I think im stretching this a bit cause it does involve Hawkeye but is less about him and more about cousin Billy and its my hot take that I think Billy wasn't a bad person and what happened was a complete accident

to elaborate on that a bit I see a lot of takes that Billy must've been this horrible evil kid/person and like. ive seen exactly one take like that that ive enjoyed, and that didnt read as forced to me, but for the most part I feel like these weird villainizing takes are just there to make Hawkeye suffer more? im talking specifically about the side of the fandom where theyre like "oh yeah Billy groomed Hawkeye as a kid" like I really. hate that one

I think Billy was probably just a dumb kid who made a dumb choice and pushed his little cousin off the boat thinking it would be funny, and then it wasn't, and when he rescued Hawkeye and brought him back up he panicked and said it was a good thing he saved him cause he didnt want to get in trouble. I dont think he was actively trying to hurt Hawkeye. does that mean the memory is any less traumatic? of course not, he could've literally died, but I dont think its indicative that Billy was like. evil. I think he was just a dumb kid at best, and at worst maybe he was a bit of a jackass. he was probably both! such is the nature of being 13

#ive seen exactly one take on Billy being a jackass that I like and its in Ally's Charles Goes to Maine fic #because it keeps it simple! I found it to be an interesting take tbh #but other than that I havent really liked any #again it just feels like people do it JUST to add angst to Hawkeye which. he has enough of that thank you #you can make the argument that canon might support Billy not being a perfectly nice kid #but you cannot argue to me that there's any canon evidence of him being like. evil or even truly bad #I think he was just 13 tbh #this is reaching considering you asked for Hawkeye but I dont think I have any hot takes on him? #at least not any im aware are hot takes

[just-an-enby-lemon]

A friend of mine went "you're so handsome I'm proud of you" and I'm confused because I like the compliment specially in a day I'm felling good with myself and very masc but why did he said he was proud of me? Proud of what? He is not my dad and anyway being handsome is cool but not an achievement you're proud of your friends for.

It can't be an neurotypical thing cause he is also on the spectrum ... Is this a cis thing? I just am so confused.

#i guessing cis thing because some cis allies are weird about being allies #like i have stories of well intecioned cis people being weird #and i'm always nice about it but then I go home check the interaction again because my anxiety makes so i always have conversation flasbacks #all of them trying to figure what i did wrong and if I was too akward or stimed in an unsafe place or said something dumb #in this particular convos at least i stop being anxious because my brain is just what? #tbh someone saying something rly weird mid conversation and getting away with no one comenting on it always drives my anxiety alway #my autism brain is too busy marveling over the fact this is a thing that's allowed to happen #personal #irl #dunno