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petrichor-moss-and-lightning · 8 months

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“who will come into my kitchen and be hungry for me?” i whisper to myself, knowing full well that anytime someone comes remotely near my kitchen i scramble and hide in the fucking dishwasher

#i have issues with intimacy can u tell #is that sexy?#im working on it in therapy okay???#it’s 2 am and I’m googling ‘how to not be freaked out by acts of affection’#anyway!! this was funny in my head #but not so much on the screen #whatever #also I’m arospec and asexual #so I think that has something to do with it #fearful avoidant #disorganized attachment #aroace #aroace lesbian #attachment issues #avoidant attachment #shitpost

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fawndlyvenus · 1 month

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You know what’s funny? How I can say that I headcanon a character as somewhere on the ace spectrum and/or aro spectrum, and within minutes I am being treated as if I am somehow very unintelligent and know nothing of the world.

#venus speaks #ace #acespec #asexuality #aro #arospec #aromantic #asexuel #Seriously tho let me live in peace #and bonus points for people trying to tell me – someone on the ace spectrum – that I don’t know what those really are #I’m just so damn tired of not being allowed to talk about and/or bring my own headcanons to the table anymore #And it’s also not just me. I see it everywhere and it’s honestly making me upset and uncomfortable as hell

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oroniusn · 2 months

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Literally half of my playlist is old romance songs not because I enjoy romance but because I can’t for the life of me find old jazz that ISN’T romantic, send help I need suggestions

#aroace #aromantic spectrum #aromance #aromantic #aromanticism #aro pride #arospec #aro #aromantism #aromantic asexual #jazz #jazz music #I’ll also accept blues #Just give me old (i’m talking 20’s-30’s MAYBE 40’s) music that isn’t about love please #Even better if it’s about religion but not in like a “praise Jesus” way #I’m talking “the devil is literally after me” vibes

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potatoobsessed999 · 2 years

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Furthering my Lucy is asexual agenda with today’s entry bc like! I’ve seen a couple posts comparing her experience to Jonathan’s trance when Drac’s roomies tried to eat him, and it IS like that, BUT without the slightest element of sexual attraction! Tbf I’m sure she’d downplay any such element when talking to Mina, but the thing is that it isn’t even downplayed, it’s just not there! And that’s such a central feature of how Jonathan experienced his trance that I think its lack here is quite notable.

#lucy westenra #dracula #dracula daily #the other part of my lucy is asexual agenda is her wishing she could marry all three suitors #*specifically so she wouldn’t have to disappoint any of them*#like. it’s not that she dislikes rejecting them for her OWN sake #it’s that she likes them all and hates making them sad #but when it comes to herself she doesn’t seem to consider marriage a big deal at all #to the point where she’d just casually marry these two extra guys bc she thinks they’re good people and it’d make them happy #but she’d also be totally fine with marrying just arthur - aside from feeling sorry for the other two #and that just SCREAMS ‘’ace and doesn’t get what all the fuss is about’’ to me #(sidenote i’m saying ace bc that’s what i’m more certain about #but i think there’s some arospecness going on there as well)

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rel312 · 2 years

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So queer people are fruits, right? Well I think aspec people are tomatos. Like they are a fruit but everyone forgets that and still lumps them in with the vegetables.

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doggaro · 1 year

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[yells from the rooftops] TELL ME ABOUT CHARACTERS YOU THINK ARE ASPEC PLS PLS PLS

#i am so fucking serious right now you all better rb this and explain your headcanons in EXTENSIVE detail #i’ll go first! ive done this before but a refresher is always nice :)#charlie kelly is so fucking aroace. the ace part is basically confirmed by some deleted scenes and the aro part is like. i mean have u seen #his relationship w the waitress. c’mon now. speaking of sitcoms #jeff winger is aroallo! i think this is very sexy of him and also explains a lot and also also allows me to ignore jeffannie. yippee!#medic tf2 is aroace. that’s right. i said it. yes im leaning into the weird little aspec mad scientist trope. what of it.#(additionally i also think sniper and engie are probably aspec somehow :))#i’m the no. 1 aro joey tribbiani truther. we all know this #ellie sattler is asexual because she is the first strong lady character i ever looked up to and this is the highest honor i can give her #JO MARCH AROACE REAL. she made me cry in that movie fr she’s jusy like ME !!!!!!!!!#this is such a deep cut but holland march is arospec and jackson heely is acespec #cameron frye is aroace-spec. he’s literally me fr. god.#aro #actually aro #aromantic #arospec #dogg.txt #asexual #aspec #ace #ace community #aroace #alloaro #alloace #acespec #adding to this: roman roy is aroace(spec?) as well. this is bc i said so. and also have you seen him #the writing is on the wall and this is my interpretation <3

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fear-ze-queer · 2 years

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people stop getting aro and ace mixed up challenge

#i’m so tired of it actually???#like ik a lot of aces are also aro but #ace does NOT mean lack of romantic attraction and i’m tired of seeing it bc i’m an ace who DOES feel romantic attraction #i am arospec too yes. but if i want to see posts about asexuality i don’t want people being like ‘oh so no romantic attraction?’#please learn what asexual means #:|

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enbymurderhusbands · 1 year

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i dont know where i should put this but i need to scream into the void

everything i say here is MY experience!! my mindset!!! my brain!!!! my thoughts!!!!!

got it???

MY thoughts and feelings. just me.

MINE!!!!!!

okay cool

being arospec SUCKS ASS (for ME) !! i feel like such a broken teenager!! i’ve had a broken high school experience! only two partners and i only liked one. i think the first one i just liked feeling like a teen!! having crushes!! holding hands!! it felt nice to be have that companionship and feel NORMAL!!! i haven’t had a crush since sophomore year!!! and when we broke up i didnt even cry! i shrugged and continued on with my life!! i graduate in two months! i can only truly identify two crushes in my life and it feels like i may never have one again and even if i do no one would ever like me back because i’m not attractive or good enough and i dont wanna have sex (YEAH ACESPEC TOO) and i can’t always be emotionally available and i feel so broken and useless!! why can’t i just like people! and some people will be like “yeah but that’s better than having unrequited crushes” blah blah blah WELL I DISAGREE ! i would rather be heartbroken then have this empty feeling like i’m broken or missing something because i dont like anyone :(

lol anyways if you’re aromantic i hope you don’t feel like this!!! this is just my current mindset!!!!

bye :D

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thatringboy · 2 years

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so youre an aroace queer man with a girlfriend?

You must be new here

#My lovely girlfriend also isn’t straight she’s bi #I’m only on the Aro spectrum not completely Aro #I use the labels aroace and queer as umbrella terms for my specific orientation #as I am both asexual and arospec #Hold on why am I even explaining this to an anon #go away

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aroace-genderfluid-snake · 2 years

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God, I’m so fucking tired of romance.

Like seriously! It’s everywhere! And where it’s not? People try to say it is! Like is that all you alloromantics think about? Is it that great that most people, consciously or not, believe they need it to be happy? Is it addictive or something? Why does it belong everywhere? Why is it that the moment there’s any sort of aromantic rep, people are trying to prove that they’re not aromantic? Why is it that, if I explain my ideal relationship to an alloromantic person, they’ll probably just tell me it’s actually romance? Why is my sexuality considered nothing when half of the romantic bullshit out in the world literally has no substance?

Why am I considered less? Because aromantic people are. We’re considered less queer, less lgbt, even by people who aren’t exclusionists. Not only that, but aromantic, along with asexual, is considered to just be a modifier: this is a straight person who doesn’t want sex (never mind that isn’t what asexual means), this is a bi person who isn’t interested in a romantic relationship (again, not what aromantic means), this is a non-binary person, their sexuality is nothing!

Did you know that there’s literally no scientific studies on aromanticism? Did you know that conversion therapy for us is very much still legal in almost every single country? Do you know what it’s like to learn your identity in a community who’s modo is “love is love!” to find out you can’t fall in love? Do you know how fucking dismissive it is when people say “oh, but there’s platonic love! There’s other types! Just because you’re aromantic doesn’t mean you can’t feel love!” when someone so much as comments on aphobia in a post very much directed towards romantic attraction? Not to mention how fucking cruel it is to look at aromanticism like that. Like it’s unfortunate. And how saying we can still feel other types of love isn’t even true to all aromantics.

The first time I heard of asexuality and aromanticism was in an exclusionist’s post. I was on Instagram, which is a fucking cesspool, but I was also 13, so I didn’t know. And you know what happened? I believed it. For the next three years, I believed it! And all I can think, as I look at some of you, is that if exclusionist didn’t include trans people and weren’t terfs, you’d be silently agreeing with them. That you are agreeing with them when it comes to the aspec community. Because I’ve gone down the exclusionist pipeline before, and you guys? Some of you are already in.

#lol it’s 4 am and I’m tired but. idk. i just read something that set me off #it was my own fault. I knew it’d be about romance. but.#but I don’t know. i guess I’m just tired of expecting aphobic comments every time I read anything romance related #what does it matter? most the people who read this will also be aspec. the ones that aren’t are mostly already good allies.#and the rest can go fuck themselves I don’t have the energy for them #I’m tired. so tired. in a way that’ll never go away. or more accurately wont go away until I don’t have to see romance everywhere #and this isn’t abt seeing couples in public or seeing gay ppl talk abt their romantic relationships. it’s really not.#it’s about how if a show had a canonical qpr so many people would see them as a romantic couple. act like they can’t be anything but #it’s about how the few times I’ve posted abt aro hcs ppl have gotten mad at me #it’s about how romance is referred to as something more. fuck y’all for that one. seriously. y’all suck #and yeah it’s been worse and it’s getting better but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m tired #a better future doesnt erase a worse past #but whatever. most people don’t care either way #aro #aromantic #arospec #asexual #aroace #oh yeah the aroace nonbinary person is me and that actually happened ❤️#queer #lgbtqai #aphobia tw #ace #aspec #acespec #happy pride. I’m going to sleep

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pwurrz · 2 years

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sighs for 8 years

#i know some people have the personal experience of identifying as aro or ace because of internalized homophobia #or a misstep while they were questioning only for them to come out as allo gay later on #but i just #i get wary hearing about it #because i know it’s someone’s personal experience #but i feel like not everyone does #and that somewhere someone will attempt to be like #‘see guys!!???!! asexuality is just a homophobic label to MISLEAD gay people and have it be EVEN MORE difficult for them to discover #they’re gay!!! asexuality is homophobic and the community’s number one enemy!!!!’#or whatever exclusionists used to say #ace discourse war flashbacks lol /hj #sometimes people think they’re ace. and then they realize they weren’t and come out as allo gay #and that happens!! it’s normal to not figure out your identity immediately!!!#but it doesn’t mean the labels you applied to yourself are inherently evil and everyone who identifies as that label needs to be hated #it also doesn’t mean being ace is a phase!! i’m still asexual AND arospec several years later #you tried a label and it didn’t fit so you tried another one and it did #that’s how the questioning process goes #and i’m sorry if identifying as asexual made you repress your sexuality and your feelings and attraction #but getting over internalized homophobia is something basically all of his need to go through #and people still repress their sexuality without identifying as ace!!#y’all know what i mean? y’all know what i mean #i made this exact type of post like three years ago except it was made by an emotional baby ace #and not a matured tired ace #anyways i’m going to bed

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lmao-laughingmyanxietyoff-blog · 1 year

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Ok so. Apparently people experience friendship, romantic attraction, and sexual attraction as three different things?? And at the age of 25 I am learning this and discovering that I might be not only ace-spec but also a bit aro??

Can anyone explain to me what the difference between these feeling is? Usually all I experience is ‘oh yeah, I like spending time with this person, they support me and my goals in a way I like and I want to help support them in the same way’ and very occasionally (like three times in my life) I experience something that is more like ‘I want to look at this person forever and being near them makes me feel kinda nervous’ is that a crush?? Have I only ever had three crushes and two of them were in my teens??

I am just very confused

#also my six year relationship may be in the process of ending and I’m trying to figure out how I feel. idk. any help would be appreciated #or if you know of good people to follow who are good at explaining things/posts you can direct me to!#I am on a lifelong journey of getting to know myself here #aromaticism #aroace #asexuality #arospec #olive talks #also trying to process all this apart from my traumatic religious upbringing is difficult

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fastidious-and-a-mess · 5 months

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guys can we PLEASE stop shipping riz w people. honestly at this point i kind of don’t even care if you yourself are also acespec/arospec/aspec.

yes, aspec people can be in relationships, etc etc, but riz specifically has expressed over and over and over again that that is something he personally has absolutely zero interest in.

he’s not just canonically aroace, he also canonically does not want a relationship.

“aroace people can be happy in romantic/sexual/queerplatonic relationships” is a true statement. “people who do not want to be in any kind of monogamous committed relationship can be happy in a monogamous committed relationship” is quite a bit harder to argue.

i’m just so sick of it. i’m glad we all understand that there’s nuance to aspec identities, and everyone’s expressions of and experiences with their own aspec identities are going to be different and personal.

like, it’s not even just about the asexual/aromantic aspect anymore. it’s also just refusing to let him not want to be in a relationship. why are so many people so resistant to the idea that he does not want to be in a relationship. like genuinely, why can you not accept that there are people who just don’t want that. who would just be unhappy in a relationship. why can’t you wrap your head around the idea that wanting a relationship is not a thing that everyone secretly wants. like, No, he hasn’t just not “met the right person” yet. because there is no right person. because he’s simply not interested.

this post is kind of rambly and not as effectively phrased as it could be i think but idc.

TL;DR: riz being aroace is not the only reason to not ship him. he also, explicitly and repeatedly, has stated he does not want to be in a relationship. “aspec people can be in relationships” is completely irrelevant because regardless riz simply does not want a relationship. please just respect thag.

edit: plz don’t like this is u wont rb. i won’t guilt you into rbing, it’s ur blog i’m not ur dad do what u want etc etc. it’s just irritating for me personally to see ppl interacting w this but not willing to actually put it on their blogs.

#sorry to keep this ‘’’’’’’ discoure ‘’’’’’’ alive #im just sooooo tired #i just don’t understand how so many people can see this character have such a significant part of characterization be about how #he does not want to be in a Relationship at all and how that affects him and his relationships with the people in his life #and then go ‘what if he was in a Relationship with his best friend’#like come on!!#i don’t care how you define the Relationship. i don’t care about your own personal identity.#i don’t care about whatever reasons you come up with the justify why it’s actually totally fine #the bottom line is riz does not want that for himself and you’re deciding that that’s not worth respecting #sorry fabriz enjoyers but i wish you guys would just stfu #dimension 20 #fantasy high #riz gukgak #edit continued: ik it’s all just online fandom stuff. but it’s also representative of a larger issue #of people just being incapable of comprehending that some people don’t want relationships. or even past that; that some people actively want #to Not be in relationships. it’s people coming into contact with a person (character) like that and believing that that just can’t be true #that that person Must secretly actually want a relationship. even if they don’t know it. they just haven’t met the right person yet. etc etc #if you can’t give up outting riz in any kind of relationship then you cannot accept that some people really truly do not want relationships #that’s FINE. PLEASE just respect that

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cynningly · 4 months

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i’m not usually a person to post ships or sexuality headcanons, but with the recent surge of people who don’t think asexuals or aromantics are valid/part of the lgbtqia+ community, i wanted to make a shitty drawing of my favorite ship and my two comfort characters

aromantic qpr obserbit is my lifeline

i am cringe but i am free

rambling under the cut

personally i believe that HABIT and Observer are both aromantic cause as inhuman psychopathic entities i believe they are incapable of feeling a human equivalent to love. But given that they both feel that lack of love in the same way and both take pleasure in similar things, their relationship works.

(both of them like driving people crazy, playing weirdly symbolic music to the people they are torturing [“That’s Life” to Evan and “I Can’t Decide” to Jeff for HABIT and “Can’t Take My Eyes Off Of You” and other various eye pun songs to Noah for Observer], and being evil in more of a silly and far more disturbing way)

ik it’s kinda cliche to make the crazy people aromantic but honestly i just want to see more aromantic people portrayed in relationships and these are just the two i project that onto. also as an asexual and arospec person myself, i believe i get a pass to portray my sexuality however the fuck i want.

#please if you think this is cringe or weird just scroll #slenderverse #everymanhybrid #habit emh #emh #habit everymanhybrid #tribetwelve #observer t12 #obserbit #habit x observer #observer tribetwelve #the observer #aromantic #aromantism #slenderverse art #slenderverse ship

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sunoficarus · 4 months

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This is a PSA: ACE ≠ ARO

I’m both tired but also kinda of sad to see the same stuff constantly getting mistaken, ESPECIALLY because I see it THE MOST from THE QUEER COMMUNITY

ASEXUALS ARE NOT ALWAYS AROMANTIC

I really can’t believe I have to say this but asexual just means no sexual attraction. Asexuals can be Aromantic or Arospec, but they can also be alloromantic!!

like, asexual people can totally have different boundaries for what qualifies as romantic or sexual in nature, that’s fine, but painting all asexual people as not interested in romantic stuff not only invalidates a lot of ace experiences, but it also erases Aromantic experiences.

Aromantic and Asexual are SEPARATE IDENTITIES

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arecaceae175 · 11 months

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IT’S AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY!!!!

FELLOW AROSPECS, YOU ARE SEEN AND LOVED AND SO SO SO VALID

HAVE A FIC

825 words of discussions and fluff <3 And everyone's here!

Hyrule: aro/ace, nonbinary, they/them

Wild: aro/ace, genderfluid, he/him today

Sky: polyamorous and bisexual, he/she

Twilight: bisexual, demiboy, he/they

Time: only loves Malon, asexual, agender, xe/xem

Wind: too baby for romance yet but becoming interested, bisexual probably, genderqueer, no pronouns

Four: pansexual and also somewhere on the aro/ace spectrums, genderqueer, she/xe/they

Legend: aro/ace, transfem, they/she

Warriors: gay, grey-aromantic, demisexual, trans man, he/him

“And then she showed me the coolest fruit I’ve ever seen!” Hyrule said, hands thrown out as they recounted their story.

The chain was sitting in a circle around the fire as they recounted their days. After a long week staying in a town to rid the area of monsters, they decided to have one last day in the town to stock up on supplies then head into the woods for the night. They were all far too tired of socializing with anyone but each other.

Four, Wind, and Wild were sitting together playing some sort of dice game Wind found in town as they listened to the conversation. Time was next to Four, watching the game out of the corner of his eye and seconds away from joining in. Sky and Twilight were sitting on a log with their arms pressed together, wrapped in Sky’s sailcloth and Twilight’s pelt. Legend, Warriors, and Hyrule were on the ground, legs crossed and knees brushing against each other.

“We shared it and it was so good! She said it was her favorite fruit. I think it might be my favorite fruit now, too,” Hyrule said.

Sky raised her eyebrows with a smirk and shared a glance with Twilight. Twilight could barely hold back a giggle, and had to hide it behind his fist.

“She was really cool,” Hyrule finished. They leaned back on their hands and stared at the fire with a dopey smile on their face.

Warriors chuckled and leaned forward to rest his elbows on his knees. “Sounds like you really liked her,” he said.

“I did. I almost wish we could go back into town tomorrow,” Hyrule said. Then, they froze, their eyebrows furrowed, and they slowly leaned forward as the realization hit.

“I’ve never wanted to go to a town before,” Hyrule said slowly. Their voice was slightly distressed. The others looked up from their game in concern, but Sky, Warriors, and Twilight were smiling so no one was too concerned.

“Why do I want to go back? Why do I feel so fluttery talking about her? Did she curse me?” Hyrule frantically turned to Warriors and grabbed onto his arm. “Am I cursed?”

Warriors laughed as he gently pulled Hyrule’s hands from their intense grip on his arm. “You’re not cursed, Rulie. Sounds like you might be attracted to her.”

Hyrule’s expression turned even more confused. “What? Really? But… I’m ace! And aromantic? This has never happened to me before!”

“Malon is the only person I’ve ever felt any kind of attraction toward,” Time said.

The color drained from Hyrule’s face. They very, very slowly turned to look at Time. “Do I… have to… marry this girl?”

“That’s not-” Time began.

“I’m not ready for marriage!” Hyrule exclaimed.

“Woah, Rulie, calm down. You don’t have to marry anyone if you don’t want to,” Warriors said. He was trying his best to be calm for Hyrule, but internally he was giggling. He had the same reaction, once.

“Ignore the old man,” Legend said.

“Good advice,” Four mumbled, still focused on the dice. Wild nodded in agreement. Time sent Four a glare, which she resolutely ignored. Wind stifled a laugh behind a hand.

“What Time was trying to say,” Warriors continued, “Is if you can feel attraction only sometimes you’re aromantic or asexual. It’s a spectrum. I’m aroace but I’ve still felt attraction to a few men.”

“So… what do I do about it?” Hyrule asked.

“That’s the fun part. You don’t have to do anything about it,” Warriors said. Hyrule’s eyes were wide as he latched onto every word Warriors said.

“Really?” Hyrule asked.

“Yeah, really. You can recognize the feeling, but if you don’t have any desire to act on it, then you don’t have to,” Warriors said.

“I’ve felt attracted to a few people over the years. I did something about it once, but not the other times,” Four added.

“Huh,” Hyrule said. Their gaze fell back to the fire as they considered Warriors’ words. “It was fun for today, but… I don’t think I want to do anything about it.”

“Yeah, sticking with the aro/ace crew!” Wild cheered, giving Hyrule a thumbs up from across camp. Hyrule giggled and returned it.

“Your very first attraction,” Legend said as she slung an arm over Hyrule’s shoulders. “Our little Rulie is all grown up.”

Hyrule laughed and gently shoved them away.

“Ah, I remember the first time I felt attracted to someone,” Sky said dreamily.

“Let me guess,” Twilight said with a grin. “Sun?”

“Pipit, actually. You met him, right?” Sky asked.

The group fell back into amiable chatter as Sky recounted his story. Hyrule leaned back on his arms again and fell into thought. They were jolted out of their mind as Legend put an arm around their shoulders again.

“Hey, you good?” Legend asked.

Hyrule considered, then smiled and nodded. “Yeah,” they said, leaning into Legend’s side. “I’m good.”

#happy pride 🌈#HAPPY AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY #FEEL SEEN FELLOW AROSPECS!!!!!!!!#linked universe #the lu boyos #lu hyrule #lu warriors #lu legend #aromantic #pride month drabbles

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