#and I love relationships in media

[silly-witch]

Being aromantic but living in an alloromantic society has really fucked me up huh

#broccoli roots #I hate that part of being aromantic was having to come to peace with it #that the life I thought I wanted (I really wanted to get married and have kids. I still want kids and a life partner would be cool) #vs the fact that the love in the equation is out of my reach because I just don't feel romantic love #and I love relationships in media #and seeing my friends so happy in love makes me so happy for them that just screams why not me? #am I really so fundamentally broken inside that I can't feel something as intrinsically human as love #and that is definitely a mental demon talking. but it doesn't stop myself from feeling inhuman because of it #like I'm looking in on the human race and tried to make an equivalent of my obsessions to something as special as love #ah well I'll get over it #aromantic posting #aromantic #aromanticism

[redysetdare]

enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

#aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aroace #loveless aro #loveless #non-partnering #nonpartnering #non partnering #nonamorous #aplatonic #enough of amatonormative tropes in media!!! enough 'you're miserable without love' stories!!! #less “you're too focused on ambitions to make you happy that you dont let yourself fall in love” #more “you're too focused on finding love to make you happy that you wont let yourself live” #more “there is so much more to life than love and so much more that can bring your happiness if you just let yourself experience it.” #maybe I should write this story #and when i say love i mean all love. not just romantic love. #which is why i tagged aplatonic too #while i mostly see this trope in terms of romantic love i think there's something to be said about #telling stories where people are perfectly content alone too #it doesn't have to be sad or pathetic to not have friends by choice. they dont have to be a miserable person to not have friends #i think we need more variety in stories where it shows people just content in their lack of love or relationships in all shapes #not everyone wants a family not everyone wants friends not everyone wants a partner not everyone wants love #some of us are content without. that should be explored without the need to fix it.

[googoogagahearteyes]

Just a statistic I’m interested in finding out :)

Like for me it would depend on who it was etc etc but overall still a yes bc it would be funny yknow

#no this is definitely not bc i just watched to all the boys ive loved before for the first time #after bingeing #xo kitty #poll #romance #fanfic trope #but irl #tatbilb #to all the boys trilogy #but also literally all other fake relationship trope media #fake relationship #genuinely interested in the outcome of this #:)

[bunubunss]

victor, you'll always be loved ♡

#yoi #yuri on ice #victor nikiforov #victuri #ice adolescence #digital art #bunuart #artists on tumblr #digital illustration #yuri on ice fanart #yoi was such an important piece of media for middle schoolme #being in the closet and completely scared of the implications of coming out #having an anime i enjoyed depict a queer relationship and show how supportive those around them were was such an eye opener for me #im rambling #but i love this anime to pieces lol

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Assisting Acquaintance Acquired.

[First] Prev <–-> Next

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen ning #wei wuxian #Ignore how Wen Ning's hair looks here because I messed it up. Let's pretend he just sported a different hair style for a brief moment. #I am not exactly great at consistency but I am trying very hard to work on that (immediately messes up again). #Absolutely *love* how Wen Ning clearly remembers and admires WWX...who does *not* recognize him. #This is the best day for Wen Ning and it means *nothing* to WWX. A painful one-sided crush made worse. #It is bittersweet to realize that we care about someone more than they care about us. Sometime we pour love into a relationship- #-with someone who just can't reciprocate. It isn't always a conscious things either. Some people just aren't aware we care. #And painfully - so painfully - You can't make them aware. No act of kindness or gift or self sacrifice will make someone care about you. #You can martyr yourself for someone and they will continue on unchanged. #I think a lot about the parallels between WN and LWJ. Not foils - just reflections. A theme repeated. #People who give so much of themselves to someone who doesn't have the capacity to give any part of themself away. #I will die on the hill of 'Wen Ning would be the love triangle romance if that trope wasn't being avoided'. #And to be honest - thank the stars above that is the case. I do not know any good love triangles in media. #We are skipping some of the sad Jiang Cheng content because I really want to finish season 2 before May. #Sorry JC emo moment lovers...I'll deliver another time.

[gay-rad-desert]

Charlie putting the padlock on the bridge for him and Tao was actually one of my favourite scenes of the season. The way this scene shows the importance of friendship and puts platonic relationships on the same level as romantic ones is so fucking refreshing to me. Taking such an inherently romantic action and just making it not romantic in the slightest but about Charlie's love for his best friend that is equally important to the love he has for his boyfriend is so beautiful and important to me.

Heartstopper obviously does put a huge focus on different queer romantic relationships but I absolutely adore the way the second season portrays queer friendships and doesn't make them seem less worth than the romantic ones.

#i love how alice oseman writes any sort of relationship #i think it's very nuanced and every relationship is different and important #and i think part of why she does write relationships so well and so realistically might actually be because they're aspec #it's nice #it's good #i love to consume her media #bc it makes me feel seen #heartstopper #heartstopper spoilers #heartstopper netflix #charlie spring #tao xu #alice oseman

[inkskinned]

"the strike is gonna kill my favorite shows" babe okay if you don't want to think about the human livelihoods at stake (you should really be thinking about the humans though) like. think about what happens after this. when writing pays you enough to eat; more people get to be writers. more stories. more interesting plots and ideas. think about what gets made when artists aren't starving.

you've been complaining for years that tv is going downhill. part of that is because the writers aren't paid enough - a screenwriter needs to be able to live with a very low paycheck while being virtually anonymous, so as a profession it self-selects for a very slim number of people. part of bad writing is burnout and the absolutely criminal amount of influence corporations have over scripts. writing is actually a craft, despite what people who love chatGPT will tell you - and, as a craft; it takes time, diligence, and support.

and yes, i understand. you have a connection to a piece of media, which is what writers want. but we regret to inform you that your blorbo is as real as the image in the mirror - is your reflection actually you? can the reflection ever show anything but the truth? as writers, our work is the reflection. you can't keep throwing our bodies under buses and then being shocked that our work is bitter, 2d, "needs revision". imagine what gets made when the artist is inspired and has the time, space, energy, and fucking budget to actually make what makes them happy.

i love you so much. but also, really - and for real - before anything else, please remember it's human livelihoods at stake.

#tbh i think we're about to see another rush of “reality tv” #idk how well that same approach will go for streaming services bc that's a lot of how cable skirted around the last one #but also at the same time social media exists and reality tv has been dying pretty significantly - #there's a huge push for 'definfluencing' and being LESS involved in parasocial relationships which is VERY GOOD #but i wouldn't be surprised if netflix starts some kind of big brother/love island/etc #im writing this to seduce one very specific person #it's you

[willowser]

when you and bakugou are in the early, weird stages of your relationship, before it's official, he screenshots every snapchat you send him that has your face in it, not knowing it alerts you every time 💀

#LMAOOOOO #i love the idea that he's so uninterested in social media that he's like. a bit dense about it alfhsiakal #and later kirishima tells him....'you know they can see that you've done that....right ??' and he wants to die LMAOOOOO #i just thought about this i'm cackling #✿ willow writes #✿ thoughts: bakugou #✿ theme: pre relationship bakugou

[catboyrichardkarinsky]

the struggle when you want to go "finally! a story that focuses on friendship over romance!" but then you start shipping them. I'm sorry aro nation (I'm aro) i do like the idea of stories focused on friendship but sometimes the chemistry is just stronger than intended

#this is about: #trobed #gelphie #the old friends from merrily we roll along #stucky #(I'M NOT INTO MARVEL ANYMORE. I'M JUST REFLECTING ON MY PAST RN.) #probably more I'm forgetting #worth mentioning I'm aplatonic as hell. i love platonic relationships in pieces of media but this miiight have to do with me being apl

[m0e-ru]

draw souyo. please

yeas boss 🫡

#p4 #persona 4 #souyo #souji seta #yosuke hanamura #arttag #tappous #art req tag #// SORYR LMAO I GOT THE WRONG ORANGE AND IT LOOKS LIKE THEY FUCKING ATE CHEETOS AND DIDN'T CLEAN UP imsososry #// I should also explain my relationship with syou like. I don't think it's bad I just think I got desensitized with all the oversaturation #// in the tag like yknow love who you love but it gets a bit boring unless I see a minimum 3k word essay about them with citations to #// official media HAHAHA anywuay I think soujis got more important things on his mind <- obssesed with one sided syou because it's funny

[booknerdmusician]

there are many things that left me utterly happy about gotg vol. 3, but one I haven't seen many people mention is that Peter refers to Mantis as his sister at least twice in the movie. Like obviously they are all a big found family and they call each other as such. But there's something about the aknowledgement of Mantis put in the same regard as Peter's grandpa on earth. Something about the fact that he considers her as well as a blood relative because they are both the children of Ego, and Ego raised Mantis to be a tool in the same manner he would've done so with Peter if he had the chance, and they were both taken advantage of by him. And despite all that they both went through because of Ego, they at least managed to find each other.

#gotg spoilers #gotg vol 3 #can you tell I love healthy sibling relationships portrayed in media? #also I haven't watched the holiday special so for all I know peter and mantis could've been calling each other brother/sister since then #and this could very well be old news but shhhh #also I watched the latin american dub so i'll have to wait for the digital ver to come out so I can check it there #guardians of the galaxy

[occidentaltourist]

bbc: Some sweet #Silvacre content for your FYP ❤️

#silvacre #suranne jones #rose leslie #vigil #the bbc making a silvacre fan edit was a pleasant surprise :) #i saw the streaming numbers for vigil 2 were very good (understatement) #which makes an s3 at least a possibility #if they can write a story suranne and rose would sign on for #i'm counting on what suranne said that the continuation of the love story is a big part of what brought her back #the series does a good job creating dramatic tension and conflict within a happy relationship that doesn't involve cheating or one dying #if they do a 3rd season i hope that continues #i mean the series started with amy in the worst possible place emotionally and psychologically so surely they wouldn't go there again #s2 with its wlw mlm solidarity/parallel storyline and giving us more insight into amy and how far she's come since s1 #on top of all the other things i liked this season (which i enjoyed quite a bit in addition to the ship) #at heart it's very critical of the british government and military/war machine and some reviews seem to have missed that part #anyway i'm pleased as punch that a prestige bbc drama has two women in love at its center and a lead as compelling as amy #and that it's pulling in the numbers even without the submarine and claustrophobia (admittedly a cool premise) #keep making the fanvids bbc social media team we appreciate you #queue

[brucewaynehater101]

The number of times I've seen people argue that Bruce is a decent father and that he is not abusive absolutely blows my absolute mind.

Yes, you can hc whatever version of Bruce you want. You can even blame it all on bad writers or reject canon. You can claim comic!Bruce isn't your Bruce and main a different version of him. Those are all valid.

However, you can NOT say that he has ever been justified for hitting his kids. There is no excuse for him willingly laying his hands on his kids. It doesn't matter if the person is drunk, drowning in grief, lost in emotions, whatever. Hitting kids is not okay.

Continually, the physical abuse is a very obvious sign of Bruce being a shit dad in the comics. On top of that, there is so much emotional abuse and manipulation as well. He's shitty as fuck to his kids and there's no reason this is okay. He may love those kids, but that doesn't excuse his behaviors.

Anyways, reject canon Bruce all you want. There's certain aspects of other characters I reject, and DC stands for Disregard Canon. Feel free to have whatever version of Bruce you desire.

What is NOT okay is excusing or accepting canon Bruce's actions/behaviors as acceptable.

#dc comics #dc universe #batman #bruce wayne #I've seen people argue that bruce can hit his kids because they are all vigilantes #what kind of stupid ass logic is that? #tw child abuse #tw abuse #i don't like getting into arguments with people but some of these excuses floor me #“they're both adults” no. that's not how child-parent relationships work #even after a kid becomes an adult the parent still has some level of power over the kid and the relationship is not equal #bruce is and has been the adult for their entire relationship. he's the parent #even if they weren't parent and child people should not be resorting to violence to solve arguments #people out here arguing Bruce isn't a shitty dad at all and still deny it when shown empirical evidence #good dad bruce is great (and shown in some media) but isn’t universal #blame the writers or say you don't accept that version of bruce but don't say he isn't canonically shit #yes bruce can still love his kids and be abusive. the two aren't mutually exclusive #bruce wayne bashing

[the-martyrfication-of-the-matron]

I disagree that the daddy kink convo should've been replaced with a heartfelt meaningful conversation about their mutual issues with their fathers because as much as you complain that the relationship isn't developed for Buck, it isn't developed for Tommy either, and it would be a disservice to the reserved guy that Lou says that Tommy is to make him immediately open up to someone without showing the proper progression and storyline leading up to that

the kink convo worked for both characters (both are just dawgs i guess), it was very mutual, and i still don't understand the perspective that Tommy's comment came out of nowhere, i run based off of the assumption that all flirty buck convos are... flirty...????

I understand why people want this, because the acknowledgement of Buck's parental issues comes with a burning desire to have a genuine conversation about it, but something that fits his character should not come at the cost of another character.

A scene should fit to everyone involved, and at most, it should've been a kind of... maybe a conversation of buck going 'yeahh... i got issues with my dad, that's why Bobby means so much to me, he's kinda like the dad i never had.' and Tommy's response being 'Yeah, i see that... my dad sucked but i had Gerrard who sucked too, so... yeah... he's the dad i already did have lol.'

OH...

OH WAIT...

ITS ALMOST LIKE THEY DID.

this conversation should happen eventually, but when it actually has meaning. At a point where Tommy is actually going to be willing to open up a little more (since we kinda see that he is a little bit more reserved with Buck still in this season), and maybe it's in favour of servicing Buck as a character, or Tommy, or BOTH. But you cannot put a character on the line bc you pearl clutch over the fact that your 'baby' pretty boy fucks severely.

#i dont even give that big of a fuck about this ship guys okay i just dont get the drama #theyre grown men #let them kink it up #the season as a whole was kinda messy so lets just ignore your lack of media literacy for a moment and then we'll wait for s8 where they #realise yall lack the nuance to think critically and dumb this relationship down for you and make them the stereotypical palatable gay ship #so you shut the fuck up... and then you'll probably cream yourselves over how much you love it #brain rot. all of you. you cannot comprehend anything ever oh my god #911 abc #911 show #IM HERE FOR HENREN AND MADNEY OKAY #IM SICK OF TALKING ABOUT THIS SHIT LET ME TALK ABOUT MY ALTERNATIVE MADNEY WEDDING IDEA OKAY #bucktommy #kinkley #evan buck buckely #tommy kinard

[akai-anna]

shinichi: *takes a deep breath* shinichi: i lo- anyone who has spent five seconds around shinichi ever: yes, you love ran, we know, you love mōri ran so much, she's the light of your life, you love her so much, you just love ran, we KNOW , you love ran you fucking love ran ok we know, we get it, YOU LOVE MŌRI RAN. WE GET IT.

#detective conan #mouri ran #kudou shinichi #meme strikes #la junk talks #detco posting #shinran #my beloveds #i swear this is the last one for today #but... you have to admit. it's accurate #no one simps like kudou shinichi #(to be fair sasaki shuumei is on a similar level. but shinichi and sasaki simp in different ways sooooooo...) #i love how the whole class is invested in their relationship lmao #and you know they all know how much a simp he is for ran #it's just so obvious. when he looks at her with stars in his eyes and a matching blush #i love how in the first ep/chapter it's already established #how much he loves ran #(and same for ran too... god i fckin love them all right?) #this just fits for him #if detco characters had social media his classmates would make fun of him like this #and i bet ran would be all confused (pre-confession) or (post confession) a blushing mess (but delighted) #Shenanigans in Beika-verse this is a thing i bet and would totally exist #that fic changed my brain chemistry and is an endless source of Happy Hormone Cocktail #anyways happy sunday everyone thank you for coming to my ted talk

[miscellaneousqueer]

can more women kiss each other in the 21st century please?

#i love a good queer woman period drama but i just rlly wanna see girls kiss in this century pls #like I want to see them in a big city living their lives and being youn people and falling in love #I want more wlw media where they’re teenagers #something like heartstopper or young royals or rwrb but more focused on a wlw relationship #heartstopper #young royals #red white and royal blue #queer media #lesbian period dramas #a league of their own #Dickinson