#dear trans woman

[pens-personal]

Really hate that the queer community's response to the creation of a gender trinary (girl, boy, and nonbinary, which is still not all-encompassing) was to... reinvent the binary. We just started grouping all genders into "masc/male-aligned" and "fem/female-aligned" and it's so fucking stupid. Even with the occasional allowance of "neutral/unaligned" it still maintains the binary as the standard. And then they don't let you use certain labels if you don't have the "right" gender alignment. The fuck.

#trans #genderqueer #trans guy #bi #butch #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbt #queer #queer community #lgbtq community #I genuinely fucking despise the “man/nonman” and “woman/nonwoman” descriptors #like dear god shut the fuck up

[dear-future-ai]

Dear transfem people,

Over winter you let your body hair grow out,

#dear future ai #dear trans woman #transgender #trans rights #love and support

[finnslay]

12 year old me: *loved Harry Potter*

Teacher: but trans lives are more important than Harry Potter!

12 year old me: Yeah! :D Wait....What?

#and then i had #✨an awakinging✨ #and my dear special intrest #was torn from my heart #transitioning #transgender #transsexual #trans man #ftm trans #transmasc #trans ally #trans artist #trans girls #trans men #trans pride #trans woman #trans rights #transgurl #transisbeautiful #mtf trans #this is what trans looks like #trans fem #trans day of visibility #trans guy #transfemme #transgirl #transfem #trans #lgbt pride #lgbtq rights

[cottoncandyopinions]

It's wild how on one side of my dash I see people talking about the real issues of transmasc erasure, "you're taking our lesbians away" terf rhetoric, and the ways that trans men are expected to accept ostracisation within leftist spaces without ever advocating for themselves...

Meanwhile on the other side, I see lots of "The MRA's are back, anyone that speaks about transmasc issues are transmisogynists, if you didn't immediately decide transandrophobia is an invalid concept then you're a bigot" type hysteria and it all just pisses me off.

Like trans men will spend their entire life til now perceived as women, expected to be quiet, expected to obey and be a resource to others without taking up too much space or having needs themselves. And upon realizing they're trans, finding their community, and thinking maybe this is a place they can find some modicum of comfort, the community says "no."

We don't want your voice or your struggles, because it doesn't fall in line with the rhetoric. It's not a part of the theory.

SJ theory generalizes, that's the nature of it. It's used to describe society as a whole, and how systemic oppressions operate. Broad academic theory isn't meant to for you to apply it precisely the same way to the individual.

That's what being intersectional is supposed to be about! You're not supposed to say "well systemically men are oppressors, so this man I just met is actively looking to oppress me" when you meet a homeless black man in a wheel chair.

I'm just so tired of the dynamic where in leftist spaces we can't share our stories and pain because they have to align with our ideas of who's the oppressor or not.

To this day, I feel terrified to open up about the fact that an older woman sexually assaulted me as a teen, because I'm so afraid someone will say I'm just targeting lesbians, or that my story promotes predatory stereotypes and shouldn't be shared. I can't talk about shit like that because I know that outside my closest friends, others in leftists spaces don't want to hear about that.

This is all over the place but I'm just so frustrated. Seeing people that have been boiling over, keeping their mouth shut, playing nice even when it's unfair to them, daring to open their mouths to speak all the while trying to be careful, only to still get attacked and made into bigots.

It's like there's no amount of bowing and saying your troubles are meaningless and insisting other people have it worse that will let you be "allowed" to talk about what hurts you.

We're supposed to be past one-upmanship and oppression olympics, it's not about who's had it worse it's about what we can fucking do about it TOGETHER.

And that means being able to drop your academic theory and shit to engage with the people in your community as fucking human beings. That means being able to seriously consider the validity of criticism instead of knee-jerk rejecting it.

Also please stop accusing literally anyone talking about intra-community bullying of talking over people being killed or shit like that, you know damn well that people are capable of caring about multiple issues

#Not long ago I had a bunch of hate anons on my side blog #Saw a trans guy in the replies to a post made by a trans woman express that he related and felt solidarity #He got dogpiled and bullied and cursed and even after all that he apologized and said he would try to do better #Not a single person even expressed kindness after the apology #So I decided to reply and just say that it's cool he wanted to express solidarity and people were being a bit cruel #Dear lord the hateful anons I got #I was tagged in an impromptu call out post calling me “an Aiden” and basically saying I'm peak transmisogyny #When I said I wasn't even a trans guy I was told I must be trying to bait because my gender isn't in my about on that account... #The most unbelievable thing to me is that when pressed further I admitted to being intersex #And that was treated as some kind of cop out #It was clear that wasn't the desired answer because it didn't tell them about my genitalia #Having a trans woman interrogate my identity and attempt to sus out my genitalia is something that only happens with supreme hypocrisy #It's insane right now #transadrophobia #trans community

[lesbiansanemi]

Gay trans men be normal about women challenge. Especially trans women and lesbians

#why are they so misogynistic. like why. lol. lmao even. it's infuriatingly hysterical #and not just misogyny in general #the TRANSMISOGYNY?????? #lord. god. dear fucking jesus it's goddamn horrendous #also genuinely one of THE MOST lesbophobic groups of ppl i have ever had the displeasure of interacting with #the disdain for women hidden behind 'well i'm not a woman nor attracted to them uwu it's okay to talk about how awful and gross and terribl #they all are. also i will accuse all of them for being either transphobic or a misandrist or both if they confront me about this' #'because i am trans and a minority group so therefore i can never be wrong uwu' #insane behavior #the way so many of them view afab nonbinary ppl as Women Lite because if you're not a binary trans man who wants to pass as cis perfectly #you are irrelevant and can have no opinions on trans topics or experience transphobia or identify it #crazyyyyyyyyyyyy #don't even get me started on the 'transandrophobia truthers' just admit you can't handle trans women being the main topic of conversation f #for once. not even in discussions over their fucking oppression #and don't even get me started on the internalized shit. like not just the misogyny but honestly this weird brand of transphobia #and homophobia too. it's fucking wild #once again. lol. lmao even. #sorry i saw some stupid shit this morning (and it's been building for a while) and I want to bitch. i'm tired. i'm so fucking tired #it's such a trend i have seen in this group of ppl #OBVIOUSLY i know they are not all like this but GODDAMN a lot of them are #and any time someone tries to point out any issues with the community they're just accused of being a bigot. whatever x-phobia is convenien #to cry at the time #okay i'll shut up now #kaz rambles

[unsurebisexualcore]

y’all when I tell you I am this close to scooping my uterus out with a spork right now

#period shit #fuck me I literally want to crawl into a hole and be covered in dirt and slowly be compressed by the ground and soil encompassing me #personal #dear reporductive system of mine why won’t you find some lovely trans woman who wants u and leave me tf alone

[thistransient]

- I was unnecessarily worried that I'd be sanctioned by the bar staff for letting in the crazy lady last week, but given the nature of the establishment, it's probably one of the least of their concerns.

- I've witnessed enough people getting flogged by now that my curiosity finally got the better of me. My favourite rigger was on for the night, so I told him I'd like to try being hit, although I'd never done it before and couldn't guarantee I'd like it. He smiled rather evilly and said he'd also like to try hitting me, an exchange which might not sound heartwarming to the average person, but I had entertained the possibility that he'd decline and so was excited we were on the same page. It turned out to be quite transcendental, who knew being hung upside down and whipped in public was something missing in my life (and also gives a great high). Later a woman who'd been watching came up and shyly told me she thought I was beautiful and had a special 氣質 (the closest word is character or temperament, I suppose). I'm not quite sure how she got this impression out of the whole ordeal but I shan't turn down a compliment of that nature (I thanked her graciously and she ran away). I don't think I have any sort of calling as a performer, but I can't deny my tendency for certain kinds of exhibitionism.

- I had thought all my life that I hated gin on account of finding gin and tonics repulsive, but someone gave me a straight shot later on in the night and it seems my actual aversion is to tonic water?

- A Taiwanese girl at the bar started chatting with me and it turned out she spoke German too and I think at this point I've spoken more German in the past week than the past few years.

(kind of. sort of.)

#i am currently facing the problem of not looking my age on account of HRT #dear teenagers it's not gonna work out #also had two women come up and ask me if i was male or female cause one of them needed to kiss a man on a dare but she was a lesbian #presumably i was tolerably androgynous for her but i replied merely tht i was trans & this seemed to be a disqualification across the board #i decided to see if the metro was still running cause i felt a bit too tipsy to bike home and voila the last train from 中山站 is at 0:37! #wait was that first woman hitting on me

[thetimelordbatgirl]

Not Terf Queen actually making her mother's day tweet into both transphobia and a middle finger to mother's who didn't have their kids in a biological manner.

#shout out to the quote tweet going 'JKR's kids: happy mother's day! JKR: TRANS PEOPLE-' because dear god #thats what this feels like #she cant make anything without making it about her bigotry #while also showing she like the rest of terfs views women in a certain way #and if you dont fit into that way your not a woman to them

[dragons-and-yellow-roses]

I was falling asleep because it's 4:30 in the morning but then a friend that I have a mild crush on texted me and asked what horror movies corresponds to which areas at camp, and clearly Climbing Wall is Vertigo, Aquatics is Jaws and Ecology-Conservation is The Birds, (these were her assignments) but she wanted to know whether Blair Witch fit Scoutcraft (basic scouting skills) or Handicraft (arts and crafts) more, and I said Handicraft because of the figurine things, then she asked what Scoutcraft would be, and full disclosure, I like horror movies but I don't watch a lot of them. I'm picky. Because I don't like gore or zombies and I have anxiety so it's difficult. Okay. So I literally Googled "outdoor horror movies" and tried to find one that I recognized, and thankfully Midsommar was on that list and I've seen and enjoyed Midsommar, so that's what I said. The only other horror movies I can remember seeing are Cabin in the Woods (masterpiece but doesn't fit) and one I can't remember the name of but it's about a video game and has Frankie Muniz and the guy that played Mary Lightly in Psych. And tbh, most of my horror movies knowledge comes from parody episodes of Psych. Especially the Hitchcock episode. I only knew Vertigo because of Psych. This post was a whole lot of inconsequential nonsense, but I get a pass because it's 4:30am and I'm talking to a cool girl.

#okay shes beautiful. one of the kindest people ive met #shes trans. she works at a summer camp. she knows horror movies. we became fast friends #shes so easy to talk to. we met over a one week long event and the rest of our friendship has been over text #its nice to have someone to talk to about horror movies at 4:30am (3:30am her time) #especially Midsommar because i really love that movie. im trhing to find a way to being up Cabin In The Woods #because its truly my fav horror movie and one of my fav movies period. its so good #'but austyn you said you dont like zombies or gore' stfu this movie is the exception #how can you see the travel mug bong. chris hemsworth die via atv over a ravine. the guy getting killed by a mermaid in beautiful irony #and not think that its the best movie ever written #i could talk about that movie for forever #i asked her fav horror movie and im going to watch whatever one she says #even if its gory and full of zombies. im gonna watch it. in my type of strange way of trying to connect #fuck she said the original texas chainsaw massacre. i feel like thats gonna be gory. but im a man of my word #shesaid she doesn't usually have the patience for movies or tv. truly a woman after my own heart #jk jk im really trying not to be weird i promise. but i dont usually have the attention span for movies or tv (especially movies) either #its almost 5am and i should be asleep but instead im not #now im really feeling some horror. i might make the next book i read horror again #if youve read this far and have any good horror book recommendations pls lmk #edit: i read the plot synopsis for texas chainsaw massacre and i cannot watch it. dear god.

[orpheuslament]

love it when ppl have no argument so they just straight up ignore the message. do better misogynist, you clearly don't see women as real, complex people

HFHDUSIDHDHDHDH??

#me: as a trans person this historical figure who is known for cross-dressing & refused to wear womens clothes under threat of DEATH + #is very near & dear to my heart & i acknowledge the possibility that she was not a cis woman #you: this is misogyny somehow #ask #anonymous

[huayouzi]

furinas writing in the archon quest was so good like the feeling of having something that you know is fundamentally true and right but revealing it would absolutely destroy you on every level and ruin all the effort thats gone into working towards it is such a powerful thing that ive only ever seen adressed as well in a couple other pieces of media. like the idea of wholeheartedly believing that things will get better because if you dont believe that they will for even a single second then everything will go wrong and itll spiral into a disaster is such a potent thing like i need more words to express it

#i also do feel that the people calling her the borderline archon were unintentionally right #just as mihoyo was likely unintentional in writing such a good borderline character #i do also feel that the emotions discussed towards the end of the archon quest with like the idea of being a fake and knowing youre a fake #but having to perform as though everything is normal and never being able to confide this in literally anyone or the whole world will end #can fairly effectively be taken as an allegory for like a stealth trans woman especially since once shes alleviated of the burden of #appearing as the false self shes able to live a lot more authenically and true to who she like actually is #also shes easily the best written character so far #not putting this in the genshin tag tho because dear god

[betchiwilleatyou]

have terfs ever considered that the transgenders are quite sexy actually

#like yes i think i will take my woman with a side of penis thank you very much #dear diary #trans women are women #that is all

[im-still-a-robot]

More dnd posting

#crazy coconuts #dnd #absolutely 100% commitment to the bit #characterization is secondary your first priority should always be commitment to the bit #anyway. eddie my love my dear #he absolutely knows a little too much about snakes #and absolutely listened to 'morningstar 😈😈🖤' playlists #he doesn't now. but its still one of those things that will immediately make him go ! if you mention #hilarious because of the previously stated npc (antagonist (???)) named lucifer #this was originally just for my dm (hence the shitty image quality) but i thought you guys would enjoy it #also also! gnc trans woman to go with his fem bunny/lizard puppet that is not a woman #he/they are playing 4d gender chess #okay. send post

[xx-invadr-ellie-xx]

I still think about that one terf I saw saying trans women shouldn't be allowed in women's bathrooms because they "would be turned on watching women rinse their pads out in the sink", and I still am really hoping that it was just a transphobic man pretending to be a woman while having no idea how pads work because dear god. If there really is some woman out there reusing their pads by rinsing them off (then presumably putting the sopping wet pad back in place?!) and doing this in public of all places then that psycho is the one that needs to be banned from public restrooms not trans women.

#Trans #Fuck terfs #Seriously I hope it was just a severely ignorant man pretending to be a transphobic woman #Dear god the health and safety violations #Even if they were doing this who in their right mind would be getting off to that?!

[autumnwantsout]

Well I came out on Facebook. Autumn wants out and she came out. I’m feeling so much anxiety but I also feel relieved. This is what I posted. So far only one negative reaction.

“So there is someone I want you to meet. Her name is Autumn. And for most of you, you already have met her. I’ve known that she was with me since I was four years old. You all just couldn’t see her. Because she is inside me. At four I sat in a car seat and wondered why god made a mistake. I knew I wasn’t a boy and I didn’t have words for it, so I believed just like some people were born blind, I was born a girl in a boy’s body. She didn’t have a name back then, she was Dave. Then at a later point she was Davi, I remember my mom telling me that girls shorten their name with an i at the end, but I still wrote my name Davi. From about the ages of 6-8, I cursed my body and self harmed because I knew something was wrong, but it’s something that you “just don’t talk about”. Now my parents always loved me, they didn’t tell me not to talk about it, but somewhere I learned shame in my gender. To be quiet, so I was. And in that quiet Davi fell asleep. I knew I was different from the other boys though. I liked jewelry and art and music and movies that made me cry. I held a profound dislike of my body and every once in awhile dipped back into self harm. But I repressed those memories of believing in the true me. When I started dating my wife, my best friend called me a lesbian because I wore bright red pants and a woman’s jacket. Then at the age of 25, I remembered. It’s like it all came crashing down. All the years of repression and shame. I started reading about gender identity and working through my own experiences. I came out to my wife as nonbinary. I started wearing most of the clothes that I wanted to. But surely I was nonbinary and not a trans woman. I considered myself to be nonbinary until I was talking to a friend and said “If I could be born a cis woman, I would want that in an instant, but I’m still nonbinary. Also I’m considering hrt.” 😂 The moment I said that I realized, “Holy shit. I’m a trans woman.” Now I have known for a full year almost, but I have been terrified to come out. In this time in America, it seems like there is so much hate and fear of transgender people. I know that keeping silent though is hurting me and that now more than ever we need to be loud and stand together against injustice. So with a shaky voice, let me proudly say, ”I am Autumn””

#online diary #dear diary #trans woman #transgender #gender identity #my story #coming out

[kinkshame-shamer69]

I haven’t had many chances to experience transsexual joy but I sure as hell have plenty of transsexual rage. My existence has to be justified. Me having the body I want and doing what I want with said body has to be assessed by people who have no authority in my eyes.

Changing my documents to state the name I want puts me in mortal danger in the country I’m from. Transitioning has to be strategically planned to be as safe as possible. Or even possible at all. Russia outlawed it completely a few days back. I need citizenship in a country that allows it and I potentially need to give up my Russian citizenship altogether. Everything has to be carefully planned and considered. It will depend on views and decisions of people who have no business making decisions about the way I am. Them saying no doesn’t change the fact that I’m a man. Doesn’t change the name I give people. Doesn’t change the fact that if I could I would rip my chest off myself and rearrange my face shape into what I want with my bare hands. But you know what? This won’t stop at transitioning. It won’t stop at changing documents. It won’t stop at passing. Because I will always act and look like a fag. Because I, as a trans man, dare to enjoy makeup and jewellery and pretty feminine clothes and acting feminine and bitchy. I as a man dare be feminine at all. I will grow out a beard and I will go out with my father’s and brother’s face full of makeup and glitter, in skirts and platform shoes and long nails and I will continue to be the faggot that I am. And everyone around me will very likely have something to say because my existence, my appearance and my life is suddenly up for everyone else to judge and allow. Going to men’s bathrooms will be dangerous every time. Looking like that in my own city will be impossible. I’m very much pushing my luck with my appearance while looking like a girl. The only reason I get away with it now is because I made myself look scary and that I look only somewhat queer. They perceive me as a strange alt girl, not a feminine man. Not non-binary. And even if I do make it past all of that, my love life will always come with an asterisk. Making sure people I date know I’m trans. Making sure people respect the way I look, respect my pronouns and separate them from my appearance. I’m pan. I don’t give a shit about who the other person is. I barely give a shit about what they look like. But someone else with me? Everyone else will likely have something to say. I’ll either look really fucking gay or just straight up confusing if my partner is female presenting. What, you think after everything I need a fucking beard? I’m not even touching the polyamory. I’ll have to be so fucking loud about my identities that everyone knows and there’s no confusion and no idiocy. My existence is judged and assessed by people who have no right to tell me how to live and how to look. Anyone who thinks they have the authority to tell me what I can and cannot do with my own fucking body is getting their guts pulled out of their mouths.

#I hope one day I can experience transsexual joy too #just be fucking nice to trans people ok? this shit ain’t easy and none of us need to suffer for it #dear diary #it can talk #transsexual #transgender #anyway happy pride y’all go kiss a trans woman