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exploding-car-hammer · 4 months

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now that i've spammed and am for sure getting fucking banned, i will talk about Matt and why what he did is fucking disgusting and horrendous

many transgender individuals have had safe for work selfies and other pictures of themselves taken down or flagged on account of being nsfw. this is blatant transphobia due to multiple reasons

1. tagging something related to transgender individuals as nsfw when it is clearly sfw helps to perpetuate the bigoted myth that being transgender is a fetish or kink

2. by censoring our existence you are actively preventing us from even trying to defend ourselves from bigotry or attempting to correct stereotypes or harmful misinformation

recently the incidents have crossed the boundary even farther than usual with the banning of predstrogen. she had the thing described above happen to her because it had been mass reported by terfs and other transphobic individuals. after having the photo taken down she made a joke about wishing the ceo of tumblr @photomatt (im for some reason not allowed to tag him anymore) wash in a car crash involving explosions and hammers. he took this joke seriously and decided to do 2 things

1. ban her because he couldn't take a joke amd he couldn't handle having his transphobia called out

2. threatened to call the fbi on her because he couldn't take a joke and couldn't handle being called out

now i don't know if you know this but organizations like the fbi don't particularly have a great history with minorities. so calling them is basically equivalent to Matt walking up to her and shooting her in the face. if the fbi was called it wouldn't be a raid or a peaceful capture, it would be an execution.

and now we move on to what is currently happening. multiple users have been banned for joking about the situation or discussing it and he's attempting to hide evidence of his actions while also lying about what happened. his defensive statements only make him look worse because of his lies and other reasons such as referring to pred as "it" (according to her bio pred uses she/him). this is extreme transphobia and it needs to be pointed out, called out, and discussed. if these things happen we could hopefully see Matt pay for his actions (there's a legitimate legal case against him btw just pointing that out).

anyways im going to be posting this to my cohost and tranfem social accounts because im probably getting banned and i would like what i said here to be preserved.

don't be quiet.

your voice is important in this situation

#photomatt #trans #transgender #lgtbtq

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catgirl-kaiju · 4 months

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reminder that i have also had nonsexual photos of me tagged as explict and sexual. i rarely post even any nudity and when i do, i put them on a side blog and voluntarily put community labels and filterable tags on them. any time i post an appeal, it never gets answered. i'm not even able to appeal community labels on those photos any more, and it breaks my heart because those are some of my favorite photos of myself. i've straight-up stopped posting selfies on here partly bc i've not taken many that i enjoy enough to share recently, but also because it's just too much of a hastle.

i've had this same blog continuously since 2012, since before i came out. over a decade now. if i lost it, i would be devastated. i also have meticulously curated side blogs for all of my art and comics, and my headmates also have their own blogs under this account. all of that would be lost.

predestrogen did not deserve this, she did nothing to violate tos. and it very easily could have been me or any other transfem person on here.

i've met friends and lovers on here. my art has found an audience on here. i've been able to crowdsource financial help on here when i've been at my lowest. i don't know if i would still be around if this website wasn't available to me. the thought of some staff member just erasing my presence from here is legitimately terrifying to me.

i'll repost every sfw image i've ever gotten a community label slapped on here and i fucking dare staff to do it again. i fucking dare you.

i'm lucky that it's not very many, but it's still true that none of these are mature content. none of these are images a cis woman would get flagged for. fuck you @staff for your blatant transmisogyny. fuck you for never taking my harassment reports seriously. fuck you for letting terfs and nazis just keep on existing here no matter how many times they're reported for violating tos.

#transmysogyny #transphobia #predestrogen #community labels #censorship #queer #trans #girlslikeus #transfem #trans woman #trans girl #tumblr #fuck staff

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best-transgender-character · 4 months

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Hi everyone. I've been putting some thought into the best way to bring this up without making light of it, since this is a serious topic and this is a very unserious blog. I don't want to reblog a bunch of individual posts without context and explanations attached, but if I find posts that I feel are thorough and explain what is going on, I may reblog them. Here is a summary, for anyone completely unaware of what is happening:

A trans woman (Rita, URL was Predstrogen, now Cyprederone) has had her account falsely flagged as NSFW and banned multiple times as a result of a transmisogynistic harassment campaign against her. You may have seen people talking about how her transition timeline has been flagged mature content, multiple times.

Support have been unhelpful when it comes to the harassment, and dubiously helpful about restoring accounts until this latest event.

People reached out to Photomatt about the topic, who is the CEO of Tumblr. He decided to respond, claiming that Rita was personally harassing him and posting death threats about him. This does not line up with the official reason why Rita was banned, which was "sexually explicit materials". The "death threat" was a slapstick post about an exploding car full of hammers. Matt threatened to contact the police or FBI about the threat, used neutral pronouns for Rita despite being informed of her pronouns, and even referred to her as 'it' in one sentence. He referred to Rita as "pergstrogen" in one post, which may be a particularly unfortunate typo, but may also be an ableist slur. He also sent people direct messages about the topic. Matt denied any possibility of transmisogyny playing a part, and suggested that people who feel this site is not safe for trans women should just leave to a different site.

Rita has been banned for life. Several people criticising Matt for this have also been banned.

Please pay attention to this, read other posts about it, look at Photomatt's blog (archived as of 21/02) to see the way he has handled this and Cyprederone's blog to see Rita's statement.

Here are all of Photomatt's posts about the topic, please check the notes of them to see people's responses as well as people archiving his comments. Edit: These posts have been deleted. I'm unsure if there is an archive somewhere of the comments, but these links are now the webarchive links to these posts.

You gonna do anything or make any statement about the rampant transmisogyny on this hellsite (original post with they/them) (first edit with "the account") (second edit with she/her) (archive of most recent edit)

I love this site and I’m sorry so many people are determined to ruin it.

So, the terfs and neonazis are fine, but a trans women giving threatening you is where you draw the line?

You should really feel bad about how transphobic tumblr is

all you ever do is drop the ban hammer on trans women you don't like, while casually ignoring the harassment they face

can I report your beahviour, or?

it's been four hours and nothing you've said has made this decision look better

Why did you misgender her lmao

❤ (heart emoji) [I don't yet have an archive of this. Please reach out if you have an archive of this, although there wasn't much relevant in this post.]

I'm continuing to get harassment and death threats here

My Beliefs and Principles

Tweeting Rita's saved URLs

He is further arguing with people on Twitter.

[Edit] Staff have now made a PR statement about the topic.

Please give trans women your love and support, and remember that this is deeply serious transmisogyny, not just an excuse to joke about car hammer explosions.

#transmisogyny #this is a very link heavy post so lmk if i fucked any of them up #a previous version of this post included a link to a blog that was only visible if you have an account. that should be rectified now #added archived links for several of the links as well as added two new photomatt posts #cyprederone has been taken down

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littlest-bugz · 6 months

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. introduction post .

Hello!

My name is BUGZ ! I am a bodily 21 year old [polyfragmented] DID system. We collectively have ADHD, Autism, OCD and a few other comorbid disorders. They all affect our day to day, but we will likely only post about our experiences as a DID system. Collectively we use they/he/she pronouns!

Get to know us more below the cut!

[ byf and dni also below cut ]

About Us !

OUR FREQUENT FRONTERS !

As of Recently, we've been in a state of Resolution/Functional Multiplicity. Things don't really change much around here anymore. We do have a collective identity, which is the body's identity itself [though we did have someone split off based on the collective identity].

We collectively identify as transmasc, bigender, panalterous, omni oriented demirose, and ambiamorous ! This is an agreed upon identity the entirety of The Crew and Co. and is essentially for the body itself. Names, pronouns, genders and sexualities all vary from alter to alter individually.

On our page, you will find. . .

Lots of reblogs on random topics and hyperfixations

System Content [Mostly Text Posts and half-baked, lazy memes]

Original userboxes, blinkies, stamps. [The link to my hoards are below!!!]

Stimboards and Moodboards

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Flag and Userbox Reqs are open!!

Before you interact. . .

Our account may not be fully SFW, but we never reblog or post explicit material. I have a bad swearing problem, and due to my trauma, I have a hard time telling what is socially acceptable in regards for entirely being SFW. It's something I'm working on, but please be weary! We don't mind agere and petre engagement, just please know my blog is more skewed for mature audiences.

We almost never tag who is posting! We try, but it causes a lot of anxiety for a good amount of us. Please don't ask us to sign off our posts, as we feel it invades our boundaries. We're willing to give pronouns, but we generally try to keep our names more private.

We are endo apathetic. We honestly do not care if endos exist or not, we are just vibing in our own space. We only care about the misinfo on CDDs that is being spread. PLUS anyone is welcome on our blog as long as they don't drag us into any discourse/syscourse, aren't promoting misinformation, and/or being a generally bad or gross person.

We block liberally and without telling the blocked party. It's a force of habit that proves handy on the world wide web. We also ask you don't bother us to be unblocked.

BPD/NPD/HPD/ASPD havers are all welcome on our blog! If u believe in narc/histronic/borderline abuse, leave!!

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Do not interact. . .

Basic DNI Criteria [this is a link.] [note: some of the items on this list are repeated for ease of identification]

If you intend to ask about stances on discourse. [note: I'm always willing to be open to new lines of thinking and new ideas, as well as be corrected for any misinfo I may accidentally spread, but if you're going to talk down to me because I don't know or don't believe what you believe, I will block you. Speak to me as an equal or don't speak to me at all.]

pro/comshippers and pro/comship supporters.

transid/transx/radqueer or supporters [transRAMCOA/transProgrammer blocked on sight]

“cringe culture” supporters

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#poem posting - poems we make or poems we reblog

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more tba . . .

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pronouns.cc - has [some of] the frequent fronter's pronouns, names, and sign-offs. Only the peeps that are safe to say

personal blog - a wip but where I will post a ton of journal entry stuff! but not rn, unfortunately

art comms website - two of our hosts are artists and take comms- this is their site! comms are currently closed, except for the demented chibi heads [link]

my ko-fi - commission payments go here! The chibi head listing is on here! you can also donate if you feel inclined to, but it's 110% not expected

[note: you will probably see a linktree on some of these because I get freaked out by so many links on a page, but this is different bc tumblr is like my hub, if that makes sense?]

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t4transsexual · 2 months

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have you ever dated cis women? when did you decide to be t4t?

i have dated a couple of cis women, one for a little while and we didnt get on because she was one of those fems who doesnt want their butch/masc/transmasc partner to have feelings and needs and also didnt want me to say no to sex and we didnt last long because i was deeply unhappy with her

as for when i decided to be t4t, i guess its probably about time i open up about the specific instance(s) that lead to me deciding to be exclusively t4t, because i havent actually talked about what pushed me to make the shift into exclusively dating trans people. i was trying to run a more positive page and frankly i wasnt really ready to talk about this so publicly, especially with the terf/transphobe interaction i get almost all the time on this account, but i figure i can now and ill probably turn off replies if i can figure out how

tw for graphic description of sexual assault and transphobia under the cut

when i started medically transitioning, i decided to try dating guys again. keep in mind i had a lot of comphet before deciding i was t4t; i basically only really beat that around 2022 when i turned 20. and i matched with a cis guy on tinder, who looked like he had a lot of personality judging by his photos i was 18, almost 19 at the time

literally the first thing this man says to me, after i tell him im trans, is "oh, cool, i love femboys." red flag #1. i said, "im not a femboy, i present masculinely, dont call me that." he apologized, and we moved on

at some point, we're talking about sex. he says hes very subby and a size queen. all fine, i told him i was a stone top/dom, i didnt really like experiencing penetration and it was painful for me due to a condition i had at the time. he says thats fine, everythings good. this will be important later

later, he tells me he told his parents i was trans. i asked him why, given that he both didnt ask me first and said his parents were transphobic. he says "my mom asked, was i just supposed to lie?" i say, yes. he apologizes, i /really/ want to call the whole thing off at this point but he seemed nice enough that maybe he just didnt know trans dating as well as i did

the entire relationship, he just says transphobic shit. he told me that he "understood why people didnt want to date trans people, because its a lot of baggage." he was an active alcoholic by the way. and also dating a trans person. he would neg me for being trans and then turn around and say that i was such a hot guy. he even misgendered me one time, and got upset at me for getting pissed about it, and made me believe i was overreacting. he made me believe that he was doing me a favor by ever dating me

at some point, we're at my parents house, and he tells me he wants to fuck me with his penis. i tell him no, that i dont want to, that i dont know about it, that im scared, pretty much anything i can say to get him to reconsider, but he argued and said itd be good for me and that i can choose which hole but it became very clear to me that i had no choice. so i said he could fuck my pussy

it was excruciating. it hurt so bad, but i knew i couldnt say no. he couldnt stay hard unless he was degrading me and i didnt want him to, so he kept making me jerk him off so he could keep raping me

eventually he stopped, and i wasnt even really aware i had been raped at first. ive been sexually abused by several people in my life and generally it has taken me a while to accept when ive been sexually abused by a person. so we kept dating like normal, long distance btw, but my mental health was deteriorating. i was suicidal for the first time in a while. i was self harming again. i couldnt stop thinking about killing myself.

eventually, he breaks up with me for being suicidal. he says im guilt tripping him or something, i dont remember. and that was december of 2021

we go no contact. i still dont realize he raped me. but i knew that there was something deeply wrong in the way our relationship was

right after him, i dated a trans woman who we went to the same high school. just the difference in how i was treated by her than by him, with her she treated me like i was an actual equal in the relationship. with him, he felt he was superior to me; like he "owned" me, or something

we broke up, we werent really compatible, but when i got with her, she taught me what being t4t was, and the implicit understanding and the comfort and safety i felt. after we broke up was when i decided i didnt like men, and still remained t4t after

i realized what he did to me was rape nearly a year later. he correctively raped me for being a stone top, more specifically, and i dont think he wouldve been "empowered" to rape me if i was a cis man, or even a cis woman. i understand that the "off" feeling i felt throughout that relationship was because he, as a cis person, felt superior over me as a trans person, and felt that if he wanted to fuck me, i shouldnt get a say. he talked about doing other actions to me that i didnt want done at the time, certainly not by him, and if we werent long distance, he probably wouldve raped me several more times

being with my current girlfriend, we click in a way that i havent felt with any cis person, the women included. she definitely isnt going to rape me for being trans. ive undergone physical therapy so that if i ever got raped again, it wouldnt hurt as bad, and it worked and ive actually enjoyed bottoming (consensually) with my girlfriend. she makes me feel very safe, and we understand each other and each others needs as trans people very well, and being with her has helped me process the time i was raped, and the several other times ive been sexually abused by other people

now that ive had time to process these things, i would say that i dont feel the same way around trans people (including me) dating cis people anymore. when i first started this account, i wouldve never admitted this then btw, i fully did not think trans people should date cis people, because i had fostered such a deep distrust of cis people as a result of that whole relationship and assault. i believed cis people would always be bad partners to trans people, but i dont believe that anymore. in the very unlikely circumstance i find myself single again, i may even consider dating a cis woman again. but probably not, because ive grown to really like the implicit understanding that we as trans people get with other trans people

thats why im t4t, and when i became t4t was around the beginning of 2022

#shoutout to my girlfriend for putting up with whats left of me #even though she says its not something she 'puts up with' because she loves me #trans #t4t #transhet #transmasc #t4t mlw #st4t #trans man #transgender #also had someone who said i was 'missing the point' of being t4t one time #like earlier this year #took all i had to not be like #'nope. i got it'

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machine-saint · 9 months

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Maybe you will have some insight into this. You seem reasonable and are aware of things like sampling bias and I'm kind of confused: Why is everyone so confident that the posts that are getting flagged for adult content are disproportionately posts by/about trans women? I keep seeing tons of innocent stuff (pictures of mountains, pictures of food, silly comics etc) that has nothing to do with trans women, getting flagged. And also stuff about or depicting cis or not-specifically-trans women. Reporting systems are definitely ripe for abuse but there just aren't very many terfs on this website and the bit of looking around on their pages and tags that I did for as long as I could stomach it (admittedly not that long) didn't give me any impression of a coordinated campaign. Unconscious bias does exist but that applies to cis women and all lgbt people too... Mostly I just keep seeing stuff that goes like "I'm a trans woman and all my friends on here are trans women and our posts keep getting hit with the mature content hammer therefore it's targeting trans women hugely disproportionately" and that's possible but it also seems possible that if someone's entire social circle is trans women then they're not going to see all the other circumstances where the label is being erroneously applied and will be getting an inaccurate picture. and it's a picture that people who think that "how many lgbt people are on tumblr" poll is a useful source of data have been pushing so I'm kind of skeptical about how much people are accounting for sampling bias and similar things.

Sorry this got long. I was worried if I posted it not on anon I'd basically get harassed till I deleted so I'm hoping to get your take because this seems so obvious to everyone else but seems really faulty to me. Please feel free to ignore of course.

so i think there's two things going on here

tumblr was under investigation by the new york city commission on human rights and they reached a settlement a year ago. apparently their evidence wasn't made public but i assume that a government organization has better sources than "animalgirlnoun on tumblr's selfies got taken down". there's also been historical cases of people doing much more 'controlled' experiments, like removing the word "trans" from the title of a youtube video, in ways that show some pretty clear discrimination (in terms of effect). i've also seen people post screenshots of tags that you can't search for (which is clearly a manual decision on tumblr's part)

but yeah considering the fact that there are screenshots going around of, like, pictures of trees or abstract patterns that are marked mature i don't think it's really possible for us to say how much of the problem actually is tumblr's moderation being discriminatory (intentionally or unintentionally) and how much of it is it just being bad. even if you try to, like, upload the same selfie twice and call yourself cis in one and trans in the other, it's likely that any human review would be done by separate people. the youtube example only works because that's an automated process.

ultimately i think it's likely that tumblr's moderation system has some amount of anti-lgbtq bias but the only people that can really know that are tumblr themselves and obviously they're going to try to make themselves look good. i've seen every combination of [trans girl porn/cis girl porn] [labeled as mature/with no moderation label] and it's not like i'm keeping a running tally

#discourse

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dream-sans-mogai · 1 month

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Hey everyone! So, Tumblr decided I was too Transfem to keep my account apparently and after some terfs got a hold of my shit, my other account, over on @nooks-cranny-mogai, got fucking termed 🙃 for no fucking reason.

Supposedly I was harassing someone (I wasn't) so this is fun/sar. I get to come back here. As for archival purposes, nothing I posted to nooks cranny mogai was special beyond what I already had, I was in the motions of archiving these blogs. As for all the newer neopronoun flags I was posting, I'll be reposting them obviously.

I just wish Tumblr would get its shit together. I'll probably get that account back in 6 months like I did this one because it was falsely reported so 🤷🏽 I'm glad I kept this as back up. I already submitted an appeal so we'll see where that goes. I'm so sorry for the confusion but to be fair, I'm just as confused as you are.

The only other account I gotta worry about is that I've completely lost the mogai graveyard account. It's just dead. If y'all wanna make your own, go ahead but unless I get that account back. I'm not worrying about it. This fuckin sucks.

#clover speaks

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letitrainathousandflames · 2 years

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Hey sorry to bother. You reblogged something from Lychgate who has an nsfw Twitter (dickgate) where he posts a bunch of really graphic clonecest. He’s a know fetishizer of clones and clonecest.

I truly, dearly hope you reconsider supporting him.

Hi! Thank you for the warning. I don't "support" him or anyone, per se - I see art I like and reblog it. I'm sorry, but I'll have to do a small rant. Firstly: do I fall in the "fetishizer of clones" category? Because most of what I do here is ogle over them and write graphic smut of them with self-insert reader characters. Anyway, moving on:

When I reblog art from the small internet artists here, I'm not raising a flag or promoting them or anything, I'm just... slapping some pretty/cool/funny art on my blog bc I liked it, y'know? My reblog of some person's doodle doesn't - and shouldn't - mean an immediate display of my agreeing with everything this person says and thinks.

In fact, we share glimpses of each other's thoughts, headcanons, opinions with a reblog and we move on to the next one. I have mutuals who like all sorts of things I don't - soup, hiking, the brithish royalty, hunting. I still reblog their stuff, and that doesn't mean our opinions on those topics align.

Of course, I'm always grateful for warnings about me accidentally rebbloging content from a terf/nazi/homophobe/pedophile/scammer, etc, etc. because then I can erase said post and report the user who made it to try make Tumblr a safer community. Disagreeing on whether soup is good isn't the same as disagreeing on lgbt rights.

But when it comes to shipping... man, I don't really care, y'know? Since the clones are all adults, this falls to me in the "ship and let ship" category, and I really lack the mental energy to get into the whole debate of what artist is writing/drawing what about people who, at the end of the day, are still nothing but [adult] fictional characters.

Because here's the deal: who really cares about how or with whom these characters are being shipped? "The children"? They shouldn't be looking at art marked as 18+ in an account that says "no minors". People (like myself) with squicks/triggers/traumas? Tags and blocking systems exist precisely to aid you with that. I use them and I love it. People that Don't Like that ship and want everyone to stop shipping it because they said so? Tags and blocking, again.

I didn't mean to soapbox on your ask, anon, and I'm not even defending Lychgate here bc I don't really care enough about him or this debate to do so tbh.

But I want to emphasize that I only appreciate these kind of warnings when they are about serious, actively damaging stuff, like me accidentally spreading crypto-terf posts bc they're disguised as feminism, or me having some creepy teen groomer's pokemon content on my blog bc they made a funny joke.

I know your intentions are good, but shipping discourse of adult ships is, in my particular opinion, not that important. I don't even ship clones, nor do I care when I see works in which they are shipped. I'm just... detached enough to see they are fictional characters that anyone can get to play with in their own sandbox the way they see fit, and that's none of my business.

That's my stance on adult ships of - and I repeat it - fictional characters. Again, this is not a dig at you or any other person squicked/triggered by clone shipping, nor is a pro clone shipping post. In fact, I'm not pro or against anything when it comes to adult ships - i'm over 30 and way too tired to be screaming about any of this anymore as I did in my teens. Now I just wanna sit here and vibe.

Thanks for the heads-up, and for the opportunity for me to talk about this. Please understand that I mean all of this in the most polite and cordial manner, and expect the same in any further communication between us that may follow. Good night and have a great rest of week.

#fandom talk #shipping discourse #clone shipping #clonecest #long post/#anon #lychgate #clone discourse #please if any of u disagree with my stance you can just go you don't have to send a rude anon on your way out #we all get to curate our online experiences you don't have to bully me into sharing your opinions you can literally just unfollow ok #i wonder how many people will straight up skip the bit where i say i don't care abt clone shipping just to scream at me #that i'm a dirty inc*st supporter or whatever #read the thing for the love of god #anon ask

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ashandboneca · 1 year

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So I wrote on this day last year.

I was gutted when I found out that someone I had known for 8 years was a TERF. We had been involved in the same witchcraft tradition. She had given no signs, until she did. I wrote this to process my feelings and hurt.

She was talking about Alok, FWIW, who has said some pretty problematic shit.

This is long, bear with me.

Here's my question:

Do you think it is up to the members of marginalized communities to disavow and call out members of their own communities? For example, if a trans person says some shitty, abhorrent things is it up to the members of the trans/gender diverse community to call them out and hold them accountable? And to who's standard do we hold them accountable to?

I ask because part of the issue I dealt with this morning was around the behaviour of a problematic non binary person saying some very abhorrent shit. I pointed out that the fact that they were trans had nothing to do with their harmful words - but it was being used as justification of saying "i support trans people, but..". My point is that we can focus on the real harm they are doing without having it reflect on their identity as a representative of their entire community.

It's the same shit the Muslim community has been dealing with for more than 20 years in the west, that Black folks and Indigenous folks have been dealing with forever. Every time a Black person or a Muslim or an Indigenous person says something or does something awful, members and leaders of those marginalized groups are expected to stand up and speak to wyt folks to allay their worries. 'Don't worry, that's not who we are, etc etc'. Yet how long has the Catholic Church sat on allegations of abuse and CSA? Are wyt folks expected to stand up and speak to all marginalized communities and say 'it's okay, that's not who we are, etc etc'? Of course not.

Because if we start doing that for marginalized folks, you better believe that the cis-het community had better start combing news stories to personally disavow every single bad thing a cis-het person has ever done, lest they represent their whole community. Every cis woman needs to disavow Mary K Letourneau and Casey Anthony and Karla Homolka etc etc. Publically. Except... no, they don't, because those women do not represent all cis women. We, as a collective community regardless of gender should disavow those people because they are terrible predators, regardless of their identity.

I was told that I was being picky about language, that I was belittling someone for telling them that their language was an issue. I was told that I was playing the victim. I had allyship demanded from the 'AFAB women and girls', but when I stated that allyship is not conditional, I was told allyship was problematic. The phrase 'AFAB women and girls' would technically include trans men, which I don't think they would be keen to be included in and raised some red flags. It's a TERF dog whistle.

Anyway. I slept on it and I'm still angry and hurt. I'm interested in your thoughts.

Here are the screenshots. I am the purple dot.

#ashandbone.ca #ash and bone #terfs #transphobia #betrayal #queerphobia #queer witch #non binary #gender noncomformity

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RE: Newcastle Terf Rally

just going to put this here content warning for anti setmism and transphobia and other evils.

As some of you may know there was a planed terf rally in the city of newcastle upon tyne. it has now infamously got around the internet that a woman talking about the far right conspiracy theory of “the big lie” which i am going to put here is a flase hood to spread anti semtism and other kinds of hate. i felt like i needed some where to write this down as i was in the protest on the trans rights side. im the robot northerner in the red coat. the rally was attended by local far right groups on the terf side. which while that may sound scary there was not many of them as newcastle upon tyne it’s self has been some what resistante to the kinds of thinking that lead one tp have those views. the demographics of the group at the rally were the ussel suspects of the terf rallys middle aged (40-50), *concerned* perants and bio essentialist femanists. as well as some uni students who should know better. though often alot of the memmbers of this rally were not local to newcastle and actually often came form places southern of newcastle. i feel like this is something worth noting as there was a little preable on twitter about the terf train. how they started asking people if woman can have penises which one confused gordie was seen to have said “yea sure, i guess” the groups on the counter protest were local left wing orgs and lgbt groups. the northumbian IWW, the north east anarchist Group, North east agenst racism and LGBT+ Northern Social Group. as well as myself and many other protestors however this is my personal account of the events as they unfolded. the numbers of protestors vs terfs was 3/1 maybe even higher 11am the counter protest avrives outside newcastle civic centre there is speches about the nature of the terfs and refusing the claim that all trans women are dangerous. 12pm-1pm terfs start gathering behind the world war 1 merrolal called “the response” after they have set up there area of rally they turn to us and give the trans protestors middle fingers and backward V signs to show their contpept towards us. I should note at this ponit the northumbia police set up a line to sperate terfs and counter protestors so form this ponit forward i am not able to give much info on the terfside.

a line of women then got out their phones by the looks of it they were gathering video and photos of us as if we were creatures to be mocked. we sang songs and danced to make sure any audio that was used in the youtube video and streams whould not be able to be used. some of our number went to otherside undercover to try and see what they were saying. a memmber of the IWW turned towards me and said “they just qrouted main kampf” this is when we started going form defending trans rights in our chants to more anti fascist langure. I was given a microphone and for my part i tried to make them as unwelcome as one could. phrases such as “terf gan hyem”/ “terfs go home” and “no racism here” were shouted if they made it to the otherside i hope they did. I also shouted the signs that were on ourside “no terfs in the toon” “ trans women are women, trans men are men, non binary people are vaild and Intersex is beautiful” and “there is many, many many more of us then you” alot of these blured into one other arching statement of “your hate is not welcome here got back home” i had this mic for 2 hours i also asked people what they wanted to say or wanted me to say. as well as genreally checking if people needed any help or just were in trouble. i was armed also with a frist aid kit incase the need came for it. i handed the mic back to the IWW i held a trans flag and waved it proudly thinking my job was done. i waved it i span it around and then i had an idea maybe i could make little prank a place a trans flag in the terf crowd sadly the police told me to step back so i did. 2-3pm the terfs started to leave they had places to be but some stayed behid some of them approched a lad who had been protesting with us acused them of being transphobic for agreing with safegaurding messarges. another terf a proffesor confessed to being a tommy robbison surporter one of our number called her out on this. post protest as video came out i heared something at frist posie parker called “the (transphobic slurs) of newcastle are illiterate” and i feel this was aimed at us who used local dialect. afterwards the Northumbia IWW posted the statement of hypno-terf said about the big lie. northumbia police did try to arrest one of the lads in our nummber but thankfully they were able to walk free. my thoughts on this are that i am not surpised about that this is the group who pal around with the far right. for them to say this i hope this shows those who maybe misgudied feminists that the gender critical movement is a dangerous movement and not safe for those who are not rich, not white or that dont fit into that normal gender criticals seem to love. remmber at home if your reading this it is not a mistake that they had someone say this it was on purpose. they share the same bed as the alt right and glad made it so. these comments have been made in the wake of gender reform bill being rejected using section 35 of the scottland act by the Uk govement. it is a scary time for alot of us here maybe not as bad as other places but were already seeing MP’s talk about who the union is more inportedent then trans peoples rights. not on just right but on left of the house of commons as alot of people veiw the veto of this bill as “british democracy working as it is ment to” my final thoughts are we must overcome this anyway we can; a better world is possable and that we must always fight for it.

#newcastle upon tyne #terfs #gender critical #uk politics #transgender #trans rights #anti semitism #protest #iww #northumbria

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zapgag · 1 year

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yo whats up! i'm ozzy/graham. i didnt Just get here but also i did Just make this account. this is gunna be my pinned post where i put the basics so read this before you follow. or dont i guess its basically just a "here are my boundaires there is a very slim chance you might get blocked" post.

about me

i use he/toon/zap/cog. probably gonna make a pronouny but thats it for rn

im super into toontown corporate clash atm but i Do like other things i just cant remember what they are. stay with me here. ill eventually fill more of this out probably with a website too

dni/byf

this is gonna be real short (nevermind it wasnt) because i'm not personally a huuuuge fan of dnis, but as a quick guide - do not interact with me if you are a terf or any other flavour of -phobic against the queer community. or if you are just an ass in general. i block freely and without question there is no appeals process.

also i dont like osc fans. you guys are on very very very thin ice. sorry. if im not following you first and your blog is centered around the osc youre either getting soft/hardblocked depending on the mood

do not try to involve me in discourse at all ever i will automatically block you. flag discourse? blocked. label discourse? blocked. i dont care if its for some stupid or inane reason. the only way i will actually ever care is if youre warning me someone im interacting with is a pedo/nazi/whatever. otherwise go kick rocks.

#pinned #last updated: 2023-01-06

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scienceexclamationmark · 2 years

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I recently installed shinigami eyes so I went though my infamous TERF post to flag as many of them as I could and wow did it remind me how pathetic the movement can be at times.

There were a handful of blogs who had some kind of obsession with my post, reblogging it over and over again. Someone in the replies blamed me for another TERF in the thread getting her account terminated.

I'd almost feel sorry for them if they didn't insist on being so devoid of empathy themselves.

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ablednt · 3 years

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Actually helpful advice for the kids on this hellsite

Once again tired of "don't make a carrd or tell people your triggers" posts going around literally telling kids it's Dangerous to set boundaries. So here's what I've learned in my teen years on how to stay safe in the hellscape that's the internet.

Identity

You don't have to link all your social media together but you can if you want to. Don't give out something that is more private (like discord account, Skype or zoom account, facebook, Snapchat etc.) publicly or to people who aren't familiar with yet though.

Use a nickname rather than your real name or birth name, an account and name change may unfortunately be necessary so if you want to keep a name safe or use it irl then don't attach it to public social media. This can be fun though! Go apeshit coming up with different aliases and names! Call yourself lizard if you want to!

The only thing you absolutely need to put somewhere on your account (or carrd) is that you're a minor. You don't have to give the exact age but I promise this is important because even if there's plenty of context clues that you're a minor if you don't indicate this somewhere clear and adults start treating you like shit you need to be able to point out that they're knowingly doing this to a minor. That has saved me from gross bullshit a lot. Yes, people should default to treating people who's ages they don't know as a minor to play it safe but the majority of people assume everyone is the same age as them so you need to make it clear you're not an adult.

Pronouns don't make you identifiable and anyone who acts like putting your pronouns in your bio is unsafe is probably transphobic lmao. You don't have to if you don't want to (and don't mind people not using/knowing your pronouns) but it's safe to put them there most of the time. (The only exception I can think of is if you're closeted and your parents may find your account but in that case you should probably stay closeted online to unless you feel safe/know they aren't likely to find your account.)

You don't have to list every privilege you have and you probably shouldn't but if you're white you probably should indicate this somewhere. This is to hold yourself accountable because yes even teenagers can be racist and underaged people of color also deserve to feel safe. If you're nonwhite and don't feel safe doing so you don't have to list your race or ethnicity.

If you're part of a system/plural or questioning you do NOT have to say your systems origins, if you have DID/OSDD, or list your headmates/alters. The system community has a lot of people in it (and singlets adjacent to parts of the community due to bullshit discourse groups welcoming them) who will target underaged systems to fakeclaim them or harass them etc. I suggest having everyone use aliases/nicknames on a system account and you only tell your origin to people you feel comfortable around and safe with. Your safety and privacy is more important than your trendy system carrd goals I promise!

You shouldn't really just list any disorders you have but it really does no harm to put marginalized identities you're proud of on a carrd or in your bio. You might get a shitty anon or two but I promise people aren't going to dox you if you say you're autistic on your carrd or something.

I personally wouldn't list any special interests that are particularly recognizable (popular media should be ok but more niche stuff may not be) or publicly share a kin list just because you never know if you'll want to switch up your identity online to feel safe and the more things are clearly tied to your current nickname and handle the harder it will be to do this. However if you feel safe doing so it's not the end of the world. Just be careful about it and don't feel pressured to give more info than you're comfortable giving.

You do NOT need to tell people your trauma in order to tell them your triggers. If you need something tagged with a tw you really should indicate this somewhere so people know to tag it (unless you intend to send every you're mutuals with an anon with what to tag which is also an option but may be difficult) but you shouldn't tell them your trauma or medical history to justify it. Your boundaries aren't up for debate and you have nothing to prove. You should only talk about your trauma if you feel safe doing so (and even then please don't give identifiable details like.names of people involved or specifics as that can cause serious problems.)

Boundaries & etiquette

DNIs are good! BYFs are good! Anyone who tells you that they're not good or useful is absolutely trying to disrespect your and other people's boundaries. You can and should make a DNI and list the people you don't want to interact with. (Generally it's better to say groups rather than specific people or names because it's easier to again not be recognized if you need to change accounts/aliases but you can do this if you have strong reasoning and absolutely have to to feel safe.)

DNIs (and also.trigger lists) don't have to all be bad things! You can put fandoms that make you uncomfortable, things that trigger you but aren't bad inherently, etc. on these lists. They're about helping you feel safe not having the hottest takes or being the most morally correct.

Some people you should put in your DNIs as a minor are proshippers/anti-antis and MAPs. Both of these groups have been proven time and time again to groom minors online so the earlier you get away from them the better.

Once you have your DNI please do be aggressive in reinforcing it! Block people who break your DNI, tell people who complain about your DNI to fuck off! Do not tolerate people trying to debate the boundaries You have set this is your corner of the internet to feel safe! They can go somewhere else! Being blocked by a kid on the internet is not the emotional blow abusers act like it is. You're not mean for having boundaries please internalize this and stand up for yourself!

If other people have a DNI you need to check that before following them this is for both your own safety and theirs. If you're unsure what something on someone's DNI means ask around to find out before following just in case.

Do NOT get involved in discourse! This doesn't mean you can't ever take part in or boost serious things. Discussing/calling out bigotry (racism, ableism, transphobia, etc.) isn't discourse. Sometimes callout posts for legitimately harmful people is necessary so that's not automatically bad. But I'm taking about the shit that's #discourse. Stay out of ace discourse. Stay away from syscourse. Don't debate with terfs or transmeds or shitty people. I know it seems like it'd be cathartic to win debates with shitty people, I know there's people who will try to bait you into the latest argument over which lgbt+ identities can say what slurs or whatever the fuck the pointless bad faith argument is, and I know you want to prove that your marginalized identity doesn't make you a bad person like bigots say it does. But as someone who's mental health was absolutely destroyed by discourse as a teen it's not worth it. By all means discuss issues as they arise, broaden your perspectives and horizons, etc. but don't engage knowingly in discourse it will save you so much trouble in the long run.

Try to avoid talking to adults 1x1 if you can avoid it! It's okay to dm with an adult you feel safe talking to sometimes and while it's certainly okay not to interact with adults at all if you don't feel.comfortable it's generally okay to do so. But if an adult is going out of their way to consistently talk to you in private needlessly that can be a red flag. If an adult tries to insinuate that they're the only adult around you can trust that's DEFINITELY a red flag. Basically talk to people in places you can easily involve others if needs be. If someone sends you a dm that makes you uncomfortable screenshot it in case you need to show someone etc.

Don't discuss NSFW things with adults, in spaces adults have easy access to (for example a discord server open to all ages), or even with other underaged people who haven't indicated they're comfortable with it. There's nothing inherently wrong with being aware of nsfw stuff or experiencing sexual attraction as a teenager but it's very important that you don't put yourself in situations that may be unsafe for you or others. Most good discord servers have rules against this for this exact reason. Now, to make it abundantly clear, if you did or do ever say something nsfw and an adult takes advantage of this or responds in a way that makes you uncomfortable this is NOT your fault! The responsibility falls on adults to act appropriately but it's still a good idea to keep youeself out of harms way.

That's basically it on a general level. Once again, posts telling you not to make DNIs or carrds or trigger lists (all used to set clear boundaries) are very suspect and either grossly misunderstand how these things work or are intentionally demonizing them in order to have more opportunity it excuse to do harm. Setting clear boundaries is good. Doing things that help you feel safe and respected is good. Just don't go and get involved in discourse or give out personal information or anything.

#online safety #internet safety #DNIs #carrd #actuallyautistic #actuallyplural #long post #grooming tw #ask to tag

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autiedragons-ismoving · 3 years

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(we follow from another account

with a pink dolly parton pfp)

fronting: Kaz

pronouns: they/them

cc:

Sapphic/WLW/NBLW only blogs will be left alone when non-Sapphic headmates are fronting. MLM/NBLM only blogs will be left alone when non M/NBLM headmates are fronting.

NEED TO KNOW, BOUNDARIES, & GENERAL INFO BELOW

• polyfragmented diagnosed DID system of [number redacted bc it’s none of your business].

• we’re cagey with personal details & will not be showing the body’s face at any point. we avoid sharing face claims & headmate picrews. we’ve got toxic & abusive people chomping at the bit to find my online presence we do not wish to be identifiable. if lack of any personal info spooks you you’re free to leave but also… learn some internet safety basics

• we have a history of substance abuse and may talk about it from time to time. we are currently sober, in recovery, and doing so so much better. tagging isn’t always consistent on these things - we try to trigger warm but just a heads up.

• if this is still the same paragraph like five times i’m sorry. no matter how many times i delete it it returns. it’s haunting me.

We Block:

racists

antisemites

TERFs & SWERFs

transmed/truscum

queerphobes

bi/pan/etc “lesbians” & supporters. lesbian is an inherently mspec orientation and overlaps heavily with other mspec orientations. the addition of other mspec labels to the term is rooted in TERF ideology.

anti non-binary/anti-binary/genderqueer/transmasc/gnc lesbians

transandrophobia truthers. the body (and most headmates) are intersex, many of us are transmasc, and some of us are trans men. the talking points and language used makes us (transmasc headmates) ridiculously uncomfortable and we do not want to be involved with it in any way.

maps/nomaps/p*dos

pro-ed blogs

discourse blogs

endo systems, non-traumagenic systems, pro-endo, & pro-non-traumagenic. esp pro-endo syscourse blogs.

autism $peaks supporters, firm believers of functioning labels, & people who think cringe culture exists

disability porn blogs

disability/queer/trans/fat/native fetishists

wh*rephobes

blood quantum bootlickers

Boundaries:

Christians, Neo-Pagans, & Wiccans please ask before following. I block liberally.

please use the terms headmate or systemmate to refer to individuals in this system. anyone who refers to us as alters, parts, etc will be blocked. it makes us extremely uncomfortable.

we do not consent to any interaction with members of other systems who are BIPOC, Jewish, Disabled, Autistic/Neurodivergent, Deaf/HoH, Chronically ill when the body is not. i don’t want to talk about cultural topics, community experiences, individual experiences, mobility aids, sign/ASL, access barriers, or anything else. Jewish headmates in a non-Jewish body who have gone through the conversion process in the outerworld are the exception to this.

we are not your litmus test, your DIY 23 and me, your emotional dumping ground, your guilt pit, or your personal wikipedia page. don’t ask me if you’re Native or not, Jewish or not, Disabled or not, Autistic or not, etc. I don’t know you! i’m not here to make you feel better for wearing a headdress 10 years ago, or saying a slur in the first grade. please don’t dump that on me.

Blog Structure:

There really isn’t one. Some of us tag special interests, others don’t. We do our best to tag common triggers. Headmates won’t usually be tagged individually when reblogging or posting unless deemed relevant.

Current Interests:

Animal Crossing

Supernatural (i know)

Our Flag Means Death (i KNOW)

Squishmallows

Mushrooms/Mycology

Medical Science

Bee & Puppycat

Star Wars

The Simon Snow Series

the House of Romanov

Cows

Jewish History & Culture

Indigenous Culture & Practice (particularly SE Turtle Island)

Indigenous Art & Art forms

Meteorology (esp the April 2011 Super Outbreak)

#intro #fronting log #do not re blog pls

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enbykitten-blog-blog · 4 years

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please stop identifying as circumgender oh my god i’m begging you

[here is the original circumgender post link]

this was a troll account i made when i was 16 and truscum/transmedicalist/hateful. the circum— from circumgender was literally a circumcision joke that i picked from a list of latin prefixes meaning “around” and thought it was funny.

it was “reclaimed” from another obvious troll gender, “specialgender” (in reality i came up with circumgender independently on my own, but specialgender was the exact same thing so i rolled with it before i could “reclaim” it since it was obviously a troll gender). but circumgender got traction because people didn’t know if i was a troll or authentic, and because i knew how to orchestrate a huge scene online from previous troll accounts. i then later guilt-tripped a pride archive & flag creation tumblr with accusations of being truscum if they did not create a flag for this troll gender identity.

it was not “co-opted from intersex people” as i’ve seen some people claim. i’m literally an intersex (CAIS) trans guy. circumgender was something i pulled from the top of my head. being an intersex person whose coercively assigned gender not matching the one given to you at birth but growing into a body more similarly aligned with your preferred and/or presenting gender is an entirely different experience.

i’ve had people talk about circumgender irl around me without knowing i was the one who coined the term and it’s an incredibly embarrassing feeling. i am not at all proud that i’ve invented something that cis and terfs use to vilify trans people.

btw i’m anti-truscum now. i’m pro-mogai. identify as whatever you want as long as it’s a good faith identity, but circumgender was NOT created as a good faith identity. it was made out of vitriol for, at the time, nonbinary people who felt aligned to their assigned gender in some way. because i was a bigoted and hateful little teenager who was insecure with himself and his inability to transition and took it out on other trans people who WERE happy with themselves.

i’m 22 now, and i’ve regretted making this troll account ever since i turned 18.

if you feel like a person whose gender and biological sex feel mismatched, (IE, you were born AFAB and identify and prefer to present as a girl, but wish you were biologically male and/or had male primary and secondary sex characteristics due to dysphoria or whatever other reasons) that is a REAL thing and i emphasize with that. sometimes i feel like that too because of my intersex variation making transition not possible for me, so it’s easier and preferable just to present as a female, but wish i still was born amab instead. and i’ve met trans women who wear binders and present like they’re trans men, because they find presenting irl as a “boy, but not cis” comforting and preferable; but still wish they were afab because of dysphoria. —and while circumgender would otherwise encompass this feeling, it was NOT made as a good-faith identity. the way i originally described circumgender was NOT in good faith to that feeling. it was NOT describing that feeling at all when i coined it, even though it could encompass it. it is *not* an identity one should adopt for this feeling. i desperately implore you to coin a new term and let this one die. even those of you who are “reclaiming” it. —i think better alternative terms for this would be “he/him trans women” or “she/her trans guys” if your preferred pronouns aren’t typically associated with your gender identity. or even “transmasc trans woman” or “transfeminine trans man” as i’ve known a handful of people to identify as. i don’t quite think i’m explaining this in the best way. i really hope you’re able to understand what i mean.

i genuinely want to apologize for coining and otherwise inventing such a harmful term. i’m doing my best every day to be kinder and more accepting and welcoming to identities and pronouns and orientations that i previously would not have. i never again want to be like this hateful, gatekeeping teenager i used to be.

thank you for reading.

-kevin

#circumgender #enbykitten #specialgender #circumgirl #circumboy #... why did tumblr jack my url i'm just now noticing this. wtf.

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