#living as an aromantic

[aroaceqoutes]

Living w/ aromantics💚🤍🖤

So I'm staying with my grandparents and my aunt for a while, not realizing that we all have something in common. My grandparent's marriage was arranged, despite that they manage to live comfortably and even happily. My aunt on the other hand is not married, the only out of 5 siblings which can seem irregular but she has always been my biggest role model. And then there's me, they live in a quite town embedded with nature and old styled everyday objects like any typical village. The life that they have explicitly seems lonely and boring but if you just stop and look, it's actually very peaceful and healthy. Living with them has thought me that there is no one way of living, none of them has a particularly romantic life but just sitting down at the dinner table made me feel more love than any other dinner table in my family. It's so genuinely soft and caring, though not perfect. Yes the house can get suffocatingly quiet at times, but knowing that my grandparents have successfully raised 5 stable adults is enough for them to block out all the silence. We all aren't born with partners, but we all are born with family, Whether it be by blood or founded in unusual places ..

#aromantic #asexual #aspec #aroace #aromanticism #aro #ace #arospec #asexuality #living as an aromantic #familial love #old aroaces #older people #seniors #life is beautiful #life #love #i love my aro community #i love my ace community #i love my family

[chaoticusnerdalis]

#living with adhd #adhd hacks #actually adhd #aromantic #asexual #garlic bread #audhd

[knifearo]

being aromantic is like. hey btw you're going to live a life that is the culmination of most of society's worst nightmares. sorry lol ✌️ but then you turn around and take a really good hard look at it and it turns out that living in that nightmare is fucking awesome and you get to wake up every day and take that fear that other people have and laugh and hold it close until it's a great joy for you instead. and being happy is a radical act that you define instead of someone else. and you're sexy as fuck that's just a fact of life i don't make the rules on that one

#aromantic people are just sexy i'm not making the decisions here it's just facts #course ur hot as fuck. it came free with the aromanticism #being sexy is just default settings for aromantic people 👍 #hope this all helps. anyway i'm on my 'i hope i die alone <3 i can't wait to die alone <3' kick rn #i think the existential fear that people have of Not Partnering specifically is so. well. #obviously that shit is strong and it is SO awesome to be free of it. #realizing you're aro and you don't Want a partner can be such a hit to the solar plexus #cause society says that's the only thing that'll make you happy. so either you go without that thing or you force yourself #into doing something you don't want which would make you unhappy anyway. #so you think it's a lose lose situation and you have to come to terms with what amatonormativity presents as the worst possible situation #but then! whoa! turns out personhood is inherently valuable in and of itself and romantic partnering is just a construct! #and that nightmare is now your life to do with as you please... define as you will... structure as you want... #best case scenario. is what i'm saying. #every day i wake up ready to spit all that amatonormative rhetoric back in life's teeth by being alone and being happy #and it's so fucking satisfying. every day. #fucking JUBILANT being by myself. and i love being a living breathing 'fuck you' to the romantic system #you need a partner to be happy? oh that's sooo fucking crazy guess i'll go be miserable then. in my perfect fucking dream life lmao #yeah obviously it's the worst possible outcome on earth to die without a partner. so terrible. can't wait for it :) #aromantic #aromanticism #aro positivity #aroace #arospec #sorry to bitches who are sad about not having a partner. i could not give a fuck though get better soon #you couldn't EVER pay me enough to go back to a mindset in which my inherent value wasn't enough by myself. #FUCK that shit. absolutely miserable and a bad life outlook in general. like genuinely do the work w/ amatonormativity and get better #life is something that can be so fulfilling whether someone wants to kiss you or whatever or not #i'm on antidepressants and i have people i care deeply about. what the fuck would i need a partner for lmao

[thebasementgirl]

#yeah #I'm a fan of romance #but I don't want to live one #asexual #asexuality #ace #ace memes #aromantic #aro #aro memes #aroace #aroace memes #ace girl #aro girl #aroace girl

[fiadhaisteach]

This popped out of me today.

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week

#aromantic #asexual #lgbtq+ #acrylic painting #acrylics #living a creative life #aisteach posts

[fizzyoz]

aroace people are so cool because if they live without a spouse and it’s just them theres so much more room for pokemon plushies and other trinkets

#might live alone with may b a cat for this reason #not aroace tho i just enjoy my own company #aroace #asexual #aromantic

[radios-universe]

i need a stronger word than friend. not best friend no because. no. no no. you just don’t get it.

sure, this is my best friend, this is my closest friend.… but. it just feels like an understatement.

they’re not a partner or a significant other, no, it’s not like that… but we’re built for each other. soulmates. twin flames. the half of me i’ve been missing.

so like… where… is the word for that. i cannot keep saying ‘my friend’ whenever i am talking about them on here i’m going insane

#this is a real aroace struggle #especially because we’re both aroace #this is the lifestyle we live #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aromanticism #asexuality #actually aromantic #actually asexual #aroace #aromantic asexual #i’m tired #zzzzzz #soulmates

[redysetdare]

enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

#aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aroace #loveless aro #loveless #non-partnering #nonpartnering #non partnering #nonamorous #aplatonic #enough of amatonormative tropes in media!!! enough 'you're miserable without love' stories!!! #less “you're too focused on ambitions to make you happy that you dont let yourself fall in love” #more “you're too focused on finding love to make you happy that you wont let yourself live” #more “there is so much more to life than love and so much more that can bring your happiness if you just let yourself experience it.” #maybe I should write this story #and when i say love i mean all love. not just romantic love. #which is why i tagged aplatonic too #while i mostly see this trope in terms of romantic love i think there's something to be said about #telling stories where people are perfectly content alone too #it doesn't have to be sad or pathetic to not have friends by choice. they dont have to be a miserable person to not have friends #i think we need more variety in stories where it shows people just content in their lack of love or relationships in all shapes #not everyone wants a family not everyone wants friends not everyone wants a partner not everyone wants love #some of us are content without. that should be explored without the need to fix it.

[fawndlyvenus]

You know what’s funny? How I can say that I headcanon a character as somewhere on the ace spectrum and/or aro spectrum, and within minutes I am being treated as if I am somehow very unintelligent and know nothing of the world.

#venus speaks #ace #acespec #asexuality #aro #arospec #aromantic #asexuel #Seriously tho let me live in peace #and bonus points for people trying to tell me – someone on the ace spectrum – that I don’t know what those really are #I’m just so damn tired of not being allowed to talk about and/or bring my own headcanons to the table anymore #And it’s also not just me. I see it everywhere and it’s honestly making me upset and uncomfortable as hell

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Due to that post I made re: why it's hard for aros/aces to imagine a future for themselves because society tells you a romantic partner will always take priority, a lot of people (aros/aces and allos alike) are sharing stories about how they have been discarded by their close friends and it's breaking my heart. But allos and aspecs coming in and sharing how they have the same amount of love for their partners and their best friends/siblings is healing it.

Still, there are people in the tags saying that aros/aces can "never offer their partners the kind of intimacy they need" and so they shouldn't be "surprised" when they feel closer to partners than their friends. You guys are missing the point.

The point is that we should NOT be ranking our relationships. People aren't there to be ranked on a scale of "This person is my number one and this person comes after that." The point is that you need multiple people in your life. One person cannot - and should not - be responsible for giving you everything you need. Different people will give you different things that you need in life and you should value all of them.

The idea that a romantic partner will give you every single thing you need in life is a toxic idea in itself and puts undue pressure on said partner and the relationship as a whole. A best friend won't give you everything either. You NEED multiple people in your life and they will all give you a part of what you need, but there is no one perfect person out there who perfectly gives you exactly what you want. We need multiple people and they should all be valued by you. Love is not limited.

#aro stuff #ace stuff #aroace tag #aro #ace #aromanticism #asexuality #aromantic #asexual #aroace #This idea that a romantic partner comes before everything and everyone else is a very Western idea too #I'm grateful that I live in a culture where family and community are important parts of life. #I'm lucky that my best friend considers me as important as her husband #i'm lucky that I'm close to my family and have unconditional love from them #why do I have to rank the relationships in my life #a mother with two kids can love and prioritise them equally #as my own mother does #why is it impossible for some of you to imagine doing that with other relationships in your life? #(i wrote this when I was sleepy and wrote unrequited love instead of unconditional love i'm so dumb lol #i do return my family's love)

[random-human-being2311]

i hate the stereotype that ALL aroaces are loveless because like.. no??

Loveless people are amazing and extremely valid, but I'm certainly not one of them.

I personally am extremely aroace and extremely loving. God was like "ah shit we forgot to put romantic and sexual attraction in this mf let's just platonically supercharge them to make up for it".

And to me personally, my aroace identity goes hand in hand with my being extremely platonically loving. The two aren't opposing forces, they're joined hand in hand, interwoven through each other to make a beautiful patterned fabric filled with many different beautiful colours.

My best friends are the loves of my life. They're my platonic soulmates. I would want to spend the rest of my life with them. I adore everything about them, and try to help their best side shine through so that everyone else can see their wonderful glimmer. I could spent eternity hanging out with my best friends and never run out of social energy because I don't have to attempt to conform or hide the weirder shades of my personality. Just being around them is so easy and freeing and just always fills me with such joy.

But oh, because I don't want to kiss them it's not real love and somehow less meaningful than romance???

Fuck off, amatonormativity.

(THIS POST IS NOT TO BE USED AGAINST LOVELESS AROACES IN ANY WAY, EVER. YOU GUYS ARE VALID, YOU'RE ICONIC AND YOU NEED MORE APPRECIATION. SENDING INFINITE GOOD VIBES YOUR WAY.)

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #platonic #aromantic asexual #aro #ace #sorry to any aplatonic or loveless aroaces this may accidentally reach #i just felt that if allos can go on about romantic love every minute of their lives I can go on about platonic love once in a while #that one's ramblings

[aromantic-diaries]

There's people who think aromanticism isn't real but my brother in christ i'm not even sure if romance is real but you don't see me bugging people about it

#aro #aromantic #arospec #we are both equally confused by eachother hallelujah live and let live i'm just minding my business

[meaningless-mayhem]

Being asexual and possibly aromantic but also being a huge shipper and hopeless romantic is such a wild experience ngl. I'm always freaking out about my favorite ships and giggling internally reading ship fics, getting invested in characters finally kissing or reading about their pining and their love and I think "I want what they have!!"

But then sometimes you have a slamming realization that your sweet shipping scenarios you imagine in your head look totally different irl and that you are extremely aspec.

One time I went down a YouTube rabbit hole and stumbled across Vsauce's "Why Do We Kiss?" video and let me tell you. When I saw that stock video footage of two people kissing each other I was a little flabbergasted lmaooo

#i mean this doesn't apply to all aspecs obviously but like #that stock video footage #they were kissing but it was more sucking each others faces and i was like wait #do people actually do this #lmaoo #it lowkey repulsed me oops #it hit me so hard but it also kind of validated my asexuality a bit too lol #ace #asexual #asexuality #aro #aromantic #aromanticism #aroace #this also may be because i dont watch live action shows or movies that much but still #does anyone else feel like this #ill be hardcore shipping something but i see one minute of irl relationship stuff and feel extremely disconnected #idk if im making sense #id like to hear some thoughts #might delete later but just wanted to get my thoughts out there #someone's probably said something like this before #edit: adding tags #yeah for me imagination of my ships kissing 👍👍👍💖💖 #vs #footage of irl people kissing/live action kissing scenes 🫠 #fandom #fanfic #fanfiction #my rambles

[lloydofhyrule64]

Jesus: If there is only one lesson that you take away from my teachings, let it be to love all people of the earth unconditionally.

Modern Evangelicals: …Unless of course they’re BIPOC, right?

Jesus: I’m sorry, what?

Modern Evangelicals: Or if they identify as anything other than straight or cis?

Jesus: Wait, no, that’s not what I-

Modern Evangelicals: Or, worst of all, if they have a different opinion than us, or they try to question our way of thinking, or if they dare to challenge the corrupt leaders that we blindly worship, or if they-

Jesus: No, no, no! STOP IT! The whole freaking point of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is that you love and respect people regardless of their differences, because at the end of the day you have to realize that they are a human being just like you, made in my father’s image, and loved dearly by my father. So when you hate that person, you might as well shout out that you hate me and my father, the very people you claim to worship and love with all your heart! Is this starting to make sense now?

Modern Evangelicals: …

Jesus: …

Modern Evangelicals: …

Jesus: …

Modern Evangelicals: Fuck off hippie.

Jesus: Well, I tried.

#Gay #lesbian #trans #trans rights #blm #black lives matter #aromantic #asexual #pansexual #demisexual #nonbinary #christianity #jesus christ

[arromantica-lucha]

the fact that my friend discovered she was demisexual and aromantic because she met me and i explained what those were is why its so important that aspec identities get talked about in the real world and not just online cause a lot of people just wont ever be in these spaces

#and im not saying its the job of every individual aspec person to inform the public about everything #but if there are groups you are capable of talking about it with or there are ways to sneak it into the mainstream more and more #thats how more people get to stop living miserable lives since they didnt know these identities were possible #cause she was MISERABLE thinking about her past romantic relationships and being in any future ones #and now we have sex and hang out and thats so much more fulfilling for both of us than how we lived before #aromantic #arospec #aspec #asexual #aroace #aroallo #alloaro #queer #acespec

[genderkoolaid]

i think i've said this before but i find it very amusing how since making this blog i have become even more engaged in feminism, interested in my own identity as a (multigender) woman, and more critical of casual misogyny. running this blog has even more deeply entrenched my human love for women and my understanding of misogyny is as massive force of oppression or that feminism needs to be more revolutionary and unsettling. caring about trans men has helped me care more about everyone.

#m. #i say ''human love'' bc i wanna be clear i mean love AROMANTICALLY!!!!!!!!! #i do desire women carnally but im talking abt like. appreciation for your fellow living being type shit #this is emphatically not political lesbianism