#narcissist mother

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

#inner child healing #reparenting #narcissistic abuse #emotional abuse #healing from abuse #psychological abuse #self love #boundaries #childhood trauma #narcissist mother #energy vampires #drama #toxic person #control freaks #emotional safety #emotional intelligence

[whatwedoinsilence]

Abuse comes in waves. So does pain.

You spent months being civil with each other, kind even. They do things for you, buy you clothes, groceries, say nice things and ask about your day. And you start to forget. You start to feel guilty. Why did I hate them? Why was I angry? Why did I want to leave? That was awfully mean of me. They need me. If I leave, they'll be all alone.

Then it all comes crashing down. One little thing lights up the flames and sparks a reaction. It happens fast, but feels like it lasts a lifetime. They say "things they didn't really mean", they "let anger get the best of them", and you're at the receiving end, scared, alone and not able to react.

And you start to remember. You place this memory with all the others, like a bunch of crystal ornaments on a shelf. You start noticing the patterns. You even make excuses for them. I was too loud, too aggressive, too mean. I deserved it. I deserve this.

Hours later, when you're safe and sound in your room, the reaction finally hits. You cry and sob, you want to scream but know you can't. You want to leave but have nowhere to go. You have no choice but to stay put and feel the pain. The pain from this moment and all the others that preceeded it. The pain from all the chances you had to leave but didn't take. The pain from all the instances you believed they changed.

And you know, once they wake up, it'll be like it never happened. Kind words and kind gestures, all over again. And you have no choice but to play along, otherwise who knows what might happen.

Every week. Every month. Every year. A new little crystal ornament for my collection. A new memory for me to obsess over and try to prove to myself that it wasn't that bad, that I barely got hurt, that it could've been worse.

I wonder how long it'll take for the next ornament to arrive. I wonder if I'll have enough space for it on the shelve.

#child abuse survivor #living with your abuser #abusive mother #abusive father #abusive parents #abusive relationship #verbal abuse #physical abuse #emotional abuse #narcissistic behavior #surviving narcissism #narcissist mother #narcissist parents #narc abuse

[iridescentmemoria]

#Nmom #narcissist mother #bpd mother #toxic mom #toxic parents #toxic family #mom trauma #abusive mother #abusive parent #trauma poetry #childhood trauma #cptsd #grey rock #grey rocking #narc abuse #bpd abuse #trauma #trauma bond #Nmom abuse #vent poetry #poetry #mom issues #trigger warning abuse #trigger warning childhood trauma #silent treatment #first poem #first poetry post #my poetry #depression #anxiety

[pervigilatrix]

having to apologise to a narcissistic parent just so they'll stop guilt tripping you and causing arguments for no reason is sometimes just the most soul crushing thing you can do

#narcissim #narcissist parents #abusive parents #narcissist mother #mother #mum #parent #parenting #bad parenting #gentle parenting #abuse #parental abuse

[mafaldaknows]

“We trade trauma for wisdom…it deepens our eyes.”

Cole Sprouse

Listen to what he says about our culture of sensationalism at around the 24:20 mark and consider the damage that specific mentality of extremes has caused many innocent people in the entertainment industry via celebrity gossip news and social media.

It seems that few people these days are interested in knowing the human being behind the famous name; they want to know only about the paragons of virtue and the absolute monsters, so that’s what celebrity gossip gives them, with no room whatsoever for anything in between those two extremes.

Listen also to what he says about custody with regard to his parents. Sometimes it’s the fathers who are better equipped mentally and emotionally to raise children.

Ignore this sensationalist headline, ignore the previous weird interview elsewhere in which he smokes a cigarette indoors, and all that sort of nonsense. Give Cole Sprouse a shot at convincing you that he’s one of the most insightful and thought-provoking people who’s ever sat down for a conversation with Steven Bartlett on Diary of a CEO.

#cole sprouse #narcissist mother #child stars #that’s entertainment #we trade trauma for wisdom #sensationalism #intelligent #articulate #wise #insightful #thoughtful #thought provoking #diary of a ceo #podcast #Youtube

[flowersintheasscrack]

Of all the people I could envy. Skinny people, rich people, charismatic people, interesting people, morally aligned people...

I only envy girls with good mothers.

#i hate my mom #narcissist mother #my mom sucks

[screechwhisper]

You ever say something and immediately want to die because you know it's gonna make everything turn to shit

#personal #narcissist mother #bpd mother #abusive mother #fuck my life #i wanna die i wanna die i wanna die #god wHY DID I SAY THAT

[lisablack000]

It's not because we don't want to bother you. It's because we know you can't change it or fix it or you're just another flying monkey in the making. Either way, scapegoats don't ask for help because we know better

#scapegoat #scapegoating #narcissist #toxic family #narcissistic #narcissist mother #hate crimes #emotional abuse #abuse #hyper independence #dissociative identity disorder

[borderlinebelle]

so my dad is a wonderful man, a saint for enduring the 40+ years they’ve been married … 16 years almost killed me 🙂

#mommy issues #narcissistic personality disorder #actually narcissistic #narcissistic abuse #narcissist mother

[deadbodydemon]

why do mothers only see their daughters as extensions of them? why should i have to be forced to do the same things she did just so she can get some sick pleasure in knowing that shes the adult and she finally gets to ruin someone elses childhood and teenage years? why do i have to be parentified just so a 50 year old woman can lay in bed all day and do nothing, just like her mother did to her?

#toxic mom #toxic mother #narcissist mother #generational abuse #generational curses

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

#inner child healing #reparenting #no contact #scapegoat #narcissist mother #narcissistic abuse #boundaries

[ehh-all-the-good-names-r-taken]

rant..kinda

I don’t have a mom.

the woman who gave birth to me, we live together, eat together, and sleep under the same roof.

But a loving, kind, caring mother? No. Never had one, and if I did she died long ago. this woman I live with is just an adult who never healed from her truama and had a kid. Nothing more. 

It sucks to mourn for a mom when I see her face everyday. Thats what you do when your moms dead, you mourn. Even if she’s cooking in the kitchen or watching TV....I don’t have a mom.

BUT

There is peace in mourning, acceptance. I my mom doesnt exist and when this woman goes to yell at me, it doesnt hurt. Shes just another pained woman from a long line of pained woman. I have no obligation to her and its her responsibitly to take care of her problems, not mine.

I’m responsible for myself. She is responsible for herself. She is not my mother and I am not her child. 

Her words, her hate, her judgment, means nothing to me. A dead persons feelings have no effect on my life.

#mommy issues #narcissist mother #toxic family #rant #personal rant #i need therapy #delete later maybe #this sucks #eh

[minamimoriblog]

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#healing #narcissist mother #narcissistic mother recover support group #recovering #signs that you have narcissist mother

[libra-stellium]

When you’re coming out of being enmeshed with your narcissist mom and this song is hitting differentlyyyy

I told her 10 days ago I wanted nothing to do with her and she’s been texting every day since and this afternoon she texted and called and came to knock on my apt door calling my name 🙃🙃 I didn’t open the door or answer 🙃🙃

Now I’m in fight or flight mode in my own apt 🙃🙃

I can’t bring myself to block her number yet

#narc mom #narcissist mother #enmeshment #may be triggering

[shakemelikeasnowglobe]

It's so weird being the other daughter of an abusive mother, like how is the fairy queen of my childhood the evil witch of yours ?

#daughter of my mother #mother and daughters relationship #narcissist mother #dysfunctional family

[flowersintheasscrack]

Watching my mom watch a video about how to grey rock a narcissist is peak comedy like sis the call is coming from inside the house

#narcissist mother #toxic mother #the call is coming from inside the house