#of the spectrum

[spinning-axis]

I saw barbie yesterday (Im late i know shut up) and like i Do Not underatand the extreme reactions to it.

I didnt find it particularly groundbreaking but it was very entertaining to me, a woman in my early 20s (the literal target audience).

And conversely i did not see any real misandry happening like what. The movie is poking fun at men and exploring (through shits and giggles) the idea that extremely unfair treatment easily leads to radicalization. And barbie apologises to ken at the end - its not really a well handled plot point but the general message is that no one deserves to be treated like theyre second rate.

And also at most the feminism featured is very much feminism lite - from some of the conservative takes and headlines you'd think veers heavily left - i didnt get that, but im also a regular at tumblr.com so what i consider far left and what not terminally online people consider far left is probably very different lol.

Anyways all that being said, the movie is not that serious guys. We are talking about a famous doll and her loser boyfriend with some feminism sprinkled in for flavor. Idk what made me write all that.

#barbie #ken #you could say the movie was #kenough #solid 6.5/10 #overhyped #and overpoliticised #on both ends #of the spectrum #barbie 2023

[necromimetics]

can’t stop thinking about my friend’s cishet partner who said last night that he doesn’t think anyone is the same gender. god-tier take.

#sky.txt #we were talking about how some people conceptualize nonbinary as like a 3rd gender #rather than a huge spectrum of experience #and he just hit us with that

[snakeautistic]

People underestimate how much it fucks you up to be subtly excluded as a kid. I would try to talk to my classmates and be met with disinterest or annoyance. The one friend I had, who I clung to and nodded along to his every word, had other friends he liked just as much or more. And his other friends didn’t care for me at all.

I look back at pictures from the time and see how separated I was from them. I remember knowing I was different. I remember posing questions about the world to the girls playing next to me and realizing that they had never asked the same ones to themselves. That the ways we thought couldn’t be more different.

I kept myself amused with my own fanatical stories and musings in my head. I would wander the playground on a circular path, imagining a friend and being sorely disappointed when it didn’t feel as real as I’d hoped.

There was a bubble separating me from everyone else, thin, and nearly invisible, but with a pearly sheen you could catch under the right conditions. I knew it was there, they knew it was there, and it changed me

#autism #actually autistic #autistic thoughts #autistic experiences #neurodivergent #autism spectrum #asd #autistic #neurodivergence #thoughts

[pigeon-cave]

Diagrams are helpful to me

#autism #actually autistic #pigeon thoughts #asd #actuallyautistic #autistic #autism spectrum disorder #disability #actually autism #adhd

[us-costco-official]

they were so funny for this

#aro #aromantic #aromantic spectrum #aro spectrum #arospec #aromantic spec #from the shelves of costco #5k notes #10k notes #20k notes #30k notes #40k notes #<- far too many

[itsaspectrumcomic]

A 2pm appointment can take all day when you're autistic

#actually autistic #planning #autism comic #neurodivergent #autism #autobio comics #funny #its a spectrum #edited to include links

[aspiring-apparition]

(I bring a sort of “Everyone has inherent worth regardless of their productivity” Vibe to every conversation that ableists don’t really seem to like)

#autism #actually autistic #neurodivergent #ablism #disabled #actually adhd #on the spectrum #neurodivergencies #neuropunk #autistic spectrum #autistic memes

[papier-ciseaux]

Happy ASAW 2024, here's something about community !

#aromantic #aro #asaw #asaw 2024 #aromantic spectrum #aromantic spectrum awareness week #aro spec awareness week #arospec #queer community #polyamory #bi #pan #asexual #ace #lgbtq #lgbtqia #LBArt #i simplified things a lot

[pinnakoladda]

hey as a local aroace, i want to specify something.

were no strangers to love. you know the rules and so do i (do i). a full commitments what im thinking of. you wouldnt get this from any other guy. i just wanna tell you how im feeling. gotta make you understand. never gonna give you up. never gonna let you down. never gonna run around and desert you. never gonna make you cry. never gonna say goodbye. never gonna tell a lie and hurt you

#asexuality #aro #asexual #ace #aromantic #aromantic asexual #aromantic spectrum #aromanticism #aromance #aroace #aroallo #asexual aromantic #arospec #acespec

[athena-theunicorn]

Happy ace day y'all

#ace pride #ace #acespec #asexual #asexuality #asexual spectrum

[adhdxxsdiary]

#autism #actually autistic #autistic brain #autistic adult #autism spectrum disorder #autistic culture #autistic characters #autistic experiences #being autistic

[inkskinned]

because sometimes there are invisible tests and invisible rules and you're just supposed to ... know the rule. someone you thought of as a friend asks you for book recommendations, so you give her a list of like 30 books, each with a brief blurb and why you like it. later, you find out she screenshotted the list and send it out to a group chat with the note: what an absolute freak can you believe this. you saw the responses: emojis where people are rolling over laughing. too much and obsessive and actually kind of creepy in the comments. you thought you'd been doing the right thing. she'd asked, right? an invisible rule: this is what happens when you get too excited.

you aren't supposed to laugh at your own jokes, so you don't, but then you're too serious. you're not supposed to be too loud, but then people say you're too quiet. you aren't supposed to get passionate about things, but then you're shy, boring. you aren't supposed to talk too much, but then people are mad when you're not good at replying.

you fold yourself into a prettier paper crane. since you never know what is "selfish" and what is "charity," you give yourself over, fully. you'd rather be empty and over-generous - you'd rather eat your own boundaries than have even one person believe that you're mean. since you don't know what the thing is that will make them hate you, you simply scrub yourself clean of any form of roughness. if you are perfect and smiling and funny, they can love you. if you are always there for them and never admit what's happening and never mention your past and never make them uncomfortable - you can make up for it. you can earn it.

don't fuck up. they're all testing you, always. they're tolerating you. whatever secret club happened, over a summer somewhere - during some activity you didn't get to attend - everyone else just... figured it out. like they got some kind of award or examination that allowed them to know how-to-be-normal. how to fit. and for the rest of your life, you've been playing catch-up. you've been trying to prove that - haha! you get it! that the joke they're telling, the people they are, the manual they got- yeah, you've totally read it.

if you can just divide yourself in two - the lovable one, and the one that is you - you can do this. you can walk the line. they can laugh and accept you. if you are always-balanced, never burdensome, a delight to have in class, champagne and glittering and never gawky or florescent or god-forbid cringe: you can get away with it.

you stare at your therapist, whom you can make jokes with, and who laughs at your jokes, because you are so fucking good at people-pleasing. you smile at her, and she asks you how you're doing, and you automatically say i'm good, thanks, how are you? while the answer swims somewhere in your little lizard brain:

how long have you been doing this now? mastering the art of your body and mind like you're piloting a puppet. has it worked? what do you mean that all you feel is... just exhausted. pick yourself up, the tightrope has no net. after all, you're cheating, somehow, but nobody seems to know you actually flunked the test. it's working!

aren't you happy yet?

#almost wrote the champagne line as ''effervescent'' but legit could not write it without saying ''effervescent like a snail'' #ah tumblr... #writeblr #warm up #idk . having trouble writing rn #ps i don't like to talk about it . it is my medical information. but before you ask. yes this is about being on the spectrum #i really don't like when ppl make my writing about how im [whatever ID]. i want it to ring true for the people who it rings true for #i don't want it to be like ''awwwww look at this person!!! she's the EXCEPTION!!! :)" ..... #no.... not really..... #idk something gross happens whenever i admit to certain conditions and i turn into like inspiration p*rnography #like yes they actually let us use keyboards these days #furthermore i just... dont feel comfortable talking about this part of me. i had too bad of a childhood. adhd is one thing... #this one im like. still coming to terms with. which is like. my own journey. #idk. just please be kind. some things are more private than others. this one feels private to me. #i do not know how to help others w/this . and i do not know how to help myself. i will talk about it if im ever ready. idk if that will #actually ever happen #ty in advance i love u im kissing you we are kissing somewhere on the spectrum

[snakeautistic]

Please, for the love of god, leave me CLEAR INSTRUCTIONS!!! If you think it’s implied, I promise you that to me it is not. If you give me poorly worded or vague directions I’m gonna spend half an hour stressing over the potential different ways to interpret them and either become paralyzed with indecision or inevitably interpret them the least correct way possible

#actually autistic #autistic rant #autistic thoughts #autistic experiences #autism #autistic #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurodivergent experience #asd #autistic things #autism spectrum #neurodivergence

[pigeon-cave]

Spectrum of overwhelm, now in triangle form due to popular demand

[Image description: A triangle chart titled, ‘Spectrum of Overwhelm.’ The three points are ‘404 Error,’ showing a person with an empty thought bubble; ‘wet beast,’ showing a person sweating and sobbing; and ‘rage beast’ showing a person clenching their fists in an outline of orange fire. The peak is the ‘404 error’ vertex, and the inside of the triangle here is coloured beige and labelled, ‘shutdown.’ The lower half is labelled ‘meltdown’ and is red on the rage beast side and blue on the wet beast side. \End description]

#autism #asd #autistic #actually autistic #disability #pigeon thoughts #adhd #actuallyautistic #autism spectrum disorder #meltdown #shutdown

[fallenstarcat]

sometimes i feel like people forget autism is a disability. and that’s not a bad thing! i’m all for disability acceptance, im proud of my disabilities. but i feel like we forget autism can hurt.

it hurts that i have to put more time and energy into socializing than others.

it hurts when i need to move so bad, usually cause im overwhelmed by either my surroundings or emotions, that i thrash and hurt myself.

it hurts that i cant be in places that are too loud or too bright, which on bad days can be as simple as a small, quiet noise or dim lights.

it hurts that i struggle to tell when im hungry, thirsty, tired, etc. so i can’t properly take care of myself. it doesn’t help my insomnia and i get very nauseas and get UTIs.

i 100% believe in autism acceptance. i don’t want a cure. but i also want us the acknowledge that it can hurt. it doesn’t mean my entire life will hurt, but some parts will. and i want a community where we can see both sides, see the hurt, and celebrate it anyway.

#autism #autistic #actually autistic #actually autism #autism acceptance #autism acceptence month #autistic things #autistic experiences #autistic community #autistic spectrum #autism spectrum disorder #autism spectrum #disabled #disability #disability pride #disabled pride #disabilties #autistic life #autism life #autism advocacy #neurodivergent #actually neurodiverse #neurodiversity #neurodevelopmental #developmental disabilities #developmental disability

[itsaspectrumcomic]

It's not that I don't want to visit, it just wasn't on the list I made in my head

#autism #autism comic #actually autistic #neurodivergent #planning #its a spectrum #edited to include links