#q slur mention

[blissfali]

i love being queer

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[musclesandhammering]

I could get cancelled for this immediately, but does anyone else get really irritated when you see a certain subset of the queer community inserting themselves into other subsets’ issues?

Like when cis gay people think they can speak for trans folks just because “well we’re all lgbt.”

Or like gay men thinking they can make misogynistic comments about lesbians and use the word d*ke etc just because “well we’re lgbt too”.

Or (and this is a big one lately) queer women inserting themselves into conversations that are about issues specific to queer men, and acting like they have exactly as much credibility in the argument because “well we’re just as lgbt as you.”

It’s just like… yeah we’re all queer. But each individual group is their own mini community, and they all have their own things that are specific to them, and if you aren’t in that exact demographic then you don’t have the experience necessary to add your input on those topics. And if you go ahead and shove your way into the conversation anyway, then you’re like… only 5% better than a homophobe. If that.

#scrolled past a thread on Twitter earlier about how Billy porter complained about media giving Harry styles #who is maybe straight maybe not #so much attention for doing things that openly queer men have been doing for ages #so obviously very much a debate that should be happening between queer men and nonbinary folks as well as gnc straight guys #but the ENTIRE comment section was either straight women or queer women #most of them were Harry styles stans #and it was just so annoying cause like you guys aren’t the ones this conversation is about #you’re not the ones directly being talking about or effected by this topic #and yet you’re here dominating the conversation arguing with actual gay men over something that affects them #… just because you got mad that someone insulted ur senpai 😒 #annoying af #queer issues #queer discourse #q slur mention #lgbt #anti harry styles #just in case lol

[gnometa233]

I know I said this in tags at one point and maybe made a post about it a long time ago but we have to stop assigning morality to having sex and/or are in relationships. Some people with the worst opinions of all time fuck nasty, even if it's missionary style with lights off. Some people who say the most bigoted, mind numbing bullshit are in long term relationships. I love celibacy sweep as much as the next person but we have to do better. Especially on the so called "queerest website in the world" where it's a well known fact that it is much harder to get into relationships/find people to fuck when you're queer.

And I'm not even either of these identities but some of these posts DO devolve into just hatred against asexual/aromantic peopme

#acephobia #q slur mention #lgbtq+ #lgbt+ #lgbt #queer #celibacy sweep #disk horse #queer discourse #lgbtq+ discourse

[perfect-bi-paradise]

I swear, you can type out the most sensible reasons why you don't want to be called qu**r, and privileged shit people will call you three other slurs and send anonymous "kill yourself messages" while claiming you're some how the bigoted, hateful one. I'm not a fucking slur, I am a trans nonbinary bisexual who loves who I love regardless of gender. I'm not interested in reclaiming the term qu**r, and I don't appreciate spoiled children and enabling tone deaf narcissistic adults who know better trying to force a term onto us that we have repeatedly asked them not too. You're not being "quarky" or "weird" when you choose to disregard our right to not reclaim a violent, anti-LGBT slur, you're just showing how much of an entitled bunch of assholes you truly are.

#battleaxe bi #lgbt #lgbt discourse #anti mogai #queer is a slur #q slur #q slur discourse #q slur mention #anti slurs

[stfudiscoinfernoed]

Usually when someone says they're just "queer" it's mostly biphobic bisexuals but often times it's polygamy/kinky/"aspec" cishets

Most people I hear using the term in general are people who can't reclaim it at all but it's a convenient word to claim to be part of the lgbt community without actually being lgbt

We need allies back no one wants to be an ally anymore

This hasn't been my experience. Most people I see who use queer are LGBT, but they have also decided that queer must encompass whatever other identity they have: ace/aro, poly, kinky, etc. There are definitely cishets and cis aroaces who call themselves queer but ime they aren't as large of a portion. This is what I consider one of the most frustrating things about acecourse. It's largely an intracomminity thing that the cishets don't care about, but you'll have like a panromantic demisexual argue you're a facist because you don't consider all aces/aros oppressed queers.

#q slur mention

[brujxshop]

Q***r buttons available at BrujxShop

#lgbt #pride merch #lgbt merch #lgbt pride #bi pride #trans pride #lesbian pride #gay pride #gay #bi #lesbian #trans #q slur #q slur reclaimed #q slur mention #buttons

[tomboyfriends]

i could go the rest of my life without seeing the terms wh-rephobia and sl-tshaming. i fucking hate those words. similar vein as q---rphobia. it’s all just misogynist language trying to parade as socially conscious.

#ok xavery #q slur mention #censoring also bc i don't want weirdos in my notes

[transinclusionary]

Were you the person cosplaying as a transwoman when you are AFAB? Because that's just sick af. I've seen post circulate around you - I just came here because I recently followed you ... and .. now .. Idk ..

I used to used to refrain from confirming my gender with anybody, due to how uncomfortable I was about my gender being a talking point online. I have always struggled with my gender identity. The idea of people focusing more on what's under my clothes instead of the content of my character really bothered me. I believed that since people often call out racism without people assuming they belong to the group they're advocating for, that I could do the same for transphobia. Oppression is not comparable, however, and I realized that this did not work for these discussions. If I am to effectively advocate against terfs and for trans people, I then need to use my privilege as being cis passing in discussions. I don't really love people online knowing my gender, because I dont really know my gender either. But this feeling is the exact same thing trans women constantly go through: the feeling that their gender is constantly subjected to ridicule by any random you encounter, both online and IRL.

I have never said that I was a trans women, merely deflected whenever someone asked me about it. In retrospect, it was a selfish thing to do that I definitely regret. I started this blog as a teenager and it's aged with me to mid twenties. If I could, I would go back and re-do some interactions. The mistakes have been uncomfortable but necessary learning lessons for me. I learned I can not effectively advocate if I keep my gender a secret, because it means I refuse to do the same thing that trans people are expected to do.

I wish I could go back and state what my gender was when it mattered. I didnt know entirely how to classify myself, however, so I redirected any attempts to talk about my gender identity because I myself didnt want to think about it. I dont feel cis, but I also dont feel trans, so how can I tell someone what my identity is if I dont know it myself? However, since my gender identity will never be a trans woman, it wont hurt me to confirm with people as much.

I came to the conclusion that I can not have both my ambiguous gender identity and be a terfexclusionist. I chose to sacrifice the comfort of my ambiguous gender identity, in solidarity with trans people who are expected to disclose. Unfortunately, the world we live in is that we are representatives for our gender (which I think is bs). We all deserve to live as individuals and not spend our short lives worrying about how our life will influence the collective's public perception on others who share a gender identity. Unfortunately, this not how the world operates, especially not online as it pertains to trans people. You speak for members of your gender identity when you're anything other than cis, heterosexual, and endosex. Instead of selfishly denying the reality that trans people are forced to be model minorities, I instead adapted my advocacy to better fit this unfair aspect of life. If trans people are forced to cater to cis people's comforts for their safety, it should be up to cis passing people to (safely) show to cisendosex people that it's not just trans people who care about this. This is obviously a fine line, as you dont want to advocate in a way that might cause more violence than it helps. I'm still figuring out the best way to do that. I make mistakes, unfortunately I am not perfect nor will I ever be. But the mistakes help me learn who I want to be, and not starting this blog with everyone knowing my gender was one of those mistakes.

You're right, cosplaying as trans women is disgusting, I've seen it both IRL and online. It pushes trans people out of spaces designed for them, and that's something I would never want to do. However, my refusal to confirm my identity should not mean people just assume I'm a trans woman. I do not believe trans people should exclusively be expected to call out terfs. It means that cisendo people are not doing their jobs as allies to use their priviledge to call out bigotry.

I never started this blog thinking anyone would actually follow me or even have opinions about me. I definitely did not think "terfexclusionist" or "transinclusionary" would be followed by anyone other than my best friend. This blog initially started because of my (admittedly) unhealthy anger about the absolute refusal of terfs to admit that they are doing is wrong. To this day, the rhetoric that terfs spew almost brings me to tears of frustration. The LGB community makes me want to pull out my hair and scream. This is why I often take extended breaks from this blog. I still probably can develop a healthier way to cope with the anger. I want to do something to help this epidemic, but I'm just one person. I just want to do the right thing, but it is often unclear about what is the right thing to do. This is why I appreciate having my followers give me feedback, both positive and negative, as it allows me to introspect.

If you want to remain followed, that's fine, but do not feel pressured to. Life is way too short to continue following someone you dont feel comfortable with. I am always open to any suggestions, criticisms, and concerns by both anon and DM. This goes for both you, anon, and any other of my followers. Please never hesitate to reach out. I appreciate you (and all my follower) for caring about doing the right thing and keeping me on the straight and narrow. Have a good day.

#also jsyk im not at all comfortable with being referred to as AFAB #im absolutely certain you were wanting to be as inclusive with your language but i dont like being called that #especially when someone is criticizing me #to me it is just a nicer way of saying 'you have a vagina' which makes me want to retreat into a hole and die #it's the same as AMAB #please use these terms sparingly #and not at all when you're referring to me #i have a similar relationship with poc where i think it's a nicer way of saying 'colored person' since im descendant of american slaves #i should definitely put it somewhere visible on my blog to please refrain from AMAB AFAB and POC when talking to me #people have been very understanding to me about me accidentally forgetting to tag q slur reclaimed and i really want to continue that #not mad at all! #this is jsyk #ask answered #radfem mention #terf mention #radfem tw #terf tw #cissexism tw #cissexism mention #q slur mention #transmisogyny mention #transmisogyny tw #transphobia tw #transphobia mention #this post literally took an hour and a half to type because my phone died half way through and i had to retype #🥴

[the-proship-hellhole]

Would you consider yourself ‘radqueer’?/ gen

Mod Niecest doesn't consider herself q*eer. I am bisexual. Period. End of. I also do not subscribe to the "radical" side of any ideology. ~💚

#mod niecest #anon asks #q slur mention #q slur

[willmike-what]

“I’m a gay man/I’m a lesbian and not queer! Queer is a dirty word and a slur!”

Alright you can feel uncomfortable with the word but please don’t refer to it as a slur or use the above sentence. Queer is an umbrella word for all lgbtia identities and radical feminists and or people who are part of hate groups like gays against groomers associate the word with grooming (kids)

If you actually knew one thing about queer history you wouldn’t call it “dirty” or a slur.

It is a slur, even if it’s been reclaimed by a lot of people in the LGBT, it is still a slur. i treat it as such and so do the people I know in real life.

Do you think the R word isn’t a slur now because it’s been reclaimed by the people it was used against? It still is and people still dislike that word. So are you going to call them ableist for not liking and not associating with that word?

I know LGBT history, and to me I dislike that word heavily. It makes me feel horrible when I say it out loud. This is something that I have felt heavily on since I heard it, and again. That word is a squick of mine.

This is a blog for problematic fiction and discussions on it, not gender discourse. I support the LGBT and I support people who use that label. I just find personally think of it with how it was used in the past, and because I think about it like that, it’s revolting to me. Just the label, not the people.

#charlie rambles #charlies ask box #q slur mention #anon

[transradfem]

idk how obvious it is but this is a sideblog and I follow a lot of fandom types on my main. wow crazy I have interests and hobbies! anyways I have a splitting headache so I’m irate and a bunch of people who are mutuals with each other keep reblogging the same goddamn posts about how “if you think q**** is a slur then you don’t belong in the community and I don’t wanna be friends with you. you’re just as bad as conservatives”

I hope i don’t need to explain to my audience why this is just, so false. but also yeah, if you think my trauma around that word is worth pissing on just because you like being edgy, I don’t want to be friends with you either!

#idk i'm rambling #q slur mention #q slur discourse #radfem

[unlicensed-un-proffesional]

Not taking sides or anything, as the little centrist fuck I am apparently, but I just find queer discourse on all sides so interesting. There’s like, two kinds of camps for heteronormative gays, which is “Who’s the man and who’s the woman?” And Very Gender Conforming. These camps doesn’t really touch anything outside the circle, and considers outsiders or people who like to more play around with gender roles, relationships, and their femininity and masculinity, to be deviants. Not necessarily malicious towards them, just would rather not show something like that to the Grander Public. On the very opposite end, it’s the exact same but kind of reversed? More of the same with a coating of counter culture, which is exactly what the previous one is trying to be too, It’s weird. This isn’t really discourse I guess, but a common element I’ve seen popping up, distinct camps people will take, opposed to one another, and it’s influenced by their own ideals, preferences, and experiences, and instead of realizing it’s a personal thing for everyone, tries to make it the new norm, specifically by appealing to the current one.

Personally if I was in any position, I would try to shatter any preconceived notions of normality, it is a flawed notion and something that holds humans people and persons back from personal and societal progress. I don’t like the “We’re normal too!” attitudes of many queer rights movements and peoples, trying to appeal to the cis-het sense of comfort and normality, because it’s so simple and eye catching and easy to understand, like the fake smile of a secretary and her obviously fake soft voice she puts on telling you to wait until he’s ready to see you. It’s disgusting to me! It’s patronizing, and belittling not on a level of age or maturity although it certainly does that, but on a level of philosophical progress. Really, nothing is normal, and you’re stupid if you think anything is, because everything will change, and nothing will stay the same or mean the same things, so really, what the hell is “normal” really about?

When will we learn nature is unnatural? When will we learn there is no nature? That we are all nature? Human nature is somewhat of an oxymoron, as we as humans separate ourselves as entities independent of nature and its cycles, while desperately trying to appeal to a sense of nature and normality. Nature is a freak of chance born to grow and kill its own. God was made from nothing and has no reason to exist except to perpetuate existence, and as we are made in Gods image, we are meant to simply exist as there is no greater purpose. And that’s enough, it’s not disheartening to me, it is simply fact. I hate the magicization and mysticism of nature and humans and technology, because it eventually leads to an organized religious thought and belief in something, beyond rational or reason, and into fanaticism, and not the kind an individual can be proud of, it isn’t losing yourself in the love of your craft or the pursuit of an ultimate thought that drives you mad, you know, the respectable stuff, but a call to a flock from shepherds and become philosophical slaves to a pattern of thought, and I hate organized religion for that, it’s a blight on a humans ability to reason and their individuality. But, I respect the decision to be a slave, it is a noble one apparently, and who I am to deny a martyr’s nobility?

I believe in a Jesus, a God, a Heaven and Hell, and many more written in other old books, but I do not worship any God or gods, because there is no set universal hierarchy to tell me to, and one of us, any one of us but only one of us, could overthrow top-dog-arch-angel-capital-G, maybe only with the support of everyone, but it’s only one of us, because there is only one of you, or me. This set idea of hierarchy and order is in fact unnatural, and man made, hell, if it is made by the gods, or is God’s will, I say, fuck God’s will. What God says is not always right, because I decide what is right and wrong, and I decide what I do depending on what I want to know and feel. Righteousness is not handed down by hierarchy, and morality is not taught by God, it is all you, the individual, who has been swept up in a sea of millions of others, in an even bigger sea of time, and space, much bigger than any of us can consciously or subconsciously know, but we are still mightier than God over the kingdom of our own fates.

And that’s why I hate saying queer people are normal, or the attempts to heteronormatize queerness into either The guy and The girl dynamic, or the just two gals or just two guys dynamic, because when it feels obvious when other examples like it haven’t, it’s because it is made in an attempt to rationalize queerness and queer thoughts into the larger system, and you can tell when it’s done legitimately and from a place of trueness like queer people of a specific kind, or for the sake of being less offensive to the Grander Societal Eye, (mostly in corporate advertisements trying to take your gay money) and even if I was cis-het, I’d still hate the system and its mentality. It is desperate to incorporate new ideas into itself, and when it finds a conflicting one, like anti-capitalism, it just picks out the less desirable bits until its a little useful shell of its former self. It’s really about a lot more than queerness, it’s about the caged thoughts of people who thought they were on earth, slowly realizing they’re just floating through space too. I describe myself as an inverted centrist. I’m everything on the outskirts and the scraps of whatever I like. I hate using these words like centrist, communist, right-wing, because their meanings and values are as solid as the dollar, and I want to stop putting my faith in United Debt Notes.

Yeah that’s right, you thought this was just about the interactions happening in your sub community! Bet you didn’t expect me to extrapolate a larger narrative about a collective consciousness that silently influences all of our thoughts and a larger narrative of the folly of modern thinking’s refusal to leave the past and use it as a represented microcosm of a much larger human condition that seeps its way into everything we see and do social, did’jya?

I’m sorry, I’ve been testing this new thought process. I call it three dimensional thinking, because it shapes a subject like it’s a 3D object, with theoretical height of thought, theoretical length of thought, (not necessarily regarding time per se) theoretical width of thought, and the secret fourth element to a three dee thing, the depth, a triangulation of its height length and width. It can be hollow however, or spongey, weird depth, so be careful, donut thoughts are an easy trap to fall into when exploring 3D thoughts with a 2D mindset. Not to say one is good or the other is bad, but they have a time and a place, and while 3D is a literal upgrade, I’d rather use simpler tools sometimes, as they can prove more effective. It’s more about preference and mental diseases than anything, don’t trouble yourself too much. Thinking in 3D will actually be harder, take up more time and energy, and be more confusing than 2D thinking, but there are some concepts you can only comprehend in a new dimension and can’t properly be replicated without immense dedication. Also, as demonstrated, three dimensional thinking can become near incomprehensible at times, but it all makes sense, it’s just very non linear and is very expansive compared to 2D. Don’t even get me started on 4D stuff! Because our language is made for 1D and 2D thoughts to be conveyed, if I tried to translate 4D thought into this language I might as well sound like I’m on drugs. Unfortunately, I’ve been sober for the past month, and my memory is still as spotchy as ever even without alcohol.

HOLY FUCK WAIT! Someone coined my dimensional thinking idea first?! Well, there’s is stupid, as it isn’t actually about thinking thoughts, just processing outside stuff. I want to talk about the actual realms of thoughts, like how in my mind math is blue and english is red, or how my internal avatar is a drawing but they live in a 3D thought house. Really, the words I use are just shadows of thoughts, like how a 3D object casts a 2D shadow for a 2D being to see and mistake it for only being that and nothing more, when really, all they see is a shadow of its true self, or how we would see a 4D being, casting its 3D shadow as all we can see and comprehend. So yeah, mine’s better. My little thought train goes choo-choo and it has polygons, that’s what I mean by dimensional thinking! And I think I did a pretty good job. (Am I laying it on too thick?)

#i am very pretentious #it's my character flaw #society #i guess #it's a #long post #with #stupid thoughts #late night #late night thoughts #late night ramblings #late night posting #minor politics #i think #thinking #lgbt stuff #q slur mention #it's your right to feel uncomfortable #sorry for that #i won't stop tho #it's not like i'm going up to you and yelling it in your face #the internet is not like talking to people in real life and too many people think it is #we actually don't have a word for what internet communication feels like #and because we have no word we have no reference so we default #thought process #thought processes #processing thoughts #we don't have a word for what an iphone really is because it certainly isn't i and it certainly isn't a phone the words are a remnant #this got out of hand #philosophical

[tiny-green-house]

people in fandom spaces are so eager to label f/f and m/m ships as “queer platonic” and im positive it’s because people still view genuine homosexual relationships as gross and obscene. the stuff like handholding, cuddling, kissing on the cheek and etc. are the palatable surface level shit that they can pretend is platonic, so more acceptable. but once you introduce a sexual relationship, which is a part of most people’s romantic relationships, now it’s weird and disgusting and not cute at all! bonus points if one or both parties of the “QPR” identify as asexual - now they’ll never have to have gay sex, even outside their “queer” friendship.

the relationship can be romantic in every way besides explicitly saying it, and people will still label it queerplatonic because anything’s better than gay people having happy romantic AND sexual relationships.

#tw q slur #q slur mention #mine

[justanotherbloodywoman]

Quando o povo se assume queer...

Não dá pra saber nada daquela pessoa, só que ela se acha muito peculiar e diferente, o que é sinônimo de alguém que não vale a pena se conhecer.

#kweer nonsense #q slur mention

[skydalorian]

Hey so why do people in the queer community seem to LOVE sighthounds? As an ace and pan and gender-whatever-the-fuck person with a Windhound and a Borzoi, I am LOOKING and have noticed in media and in real life that uh...we like the long dogs.

#I've tried to look into it via academic sources as well #and I got nothing #the bonds I forged between a leabian or gay older couple at the dog park with a greyhound or Italian greyhound or whippet or whatnot #those speak true #and they always give me a 'look' and im like #yea of course i'm also gay to whatever extent is on your radar #haven't you seen my weird sighthounds? #q slur mention

[campcrystal-lake]

IDK I just don’t know how you can be so devoid of empathy that you just… I dunno, I guess just assume that a bunch of LGBT folks are lying about their relationship with the q slur? That they’re just lying about having had that word used on them in a derogatory way and in a way that has led them to continue to find it traumatizing (or at least uncomfortable) to hear, especially when used in reference to them?

Like, I’d really love to live in the world that the “queer is not a slur” folks live in where a community can just get together and decide all at once that a slur no longer has any negative impact on people. It’d be really great to be able to just blissfully pretend that this word hasn’t and isn’t still being used specifically to deride LGBT people.

#theres a fight over at the morgue #q slur mention #just my onion