no, but really, we need to talk about the casual objectification that has become the fallback discourse of the internet: if you're pretty and dressed nicely, you're a slut. and if you're even vaguely outside of their body standard, you're fucking disgusting.
too-frequently, people position sex workers as being "the problem". they sneer you're addicted to pornography, you don't know what a real woman looks like. but real women are in pornography. the real bodies on display are not the issue here: the issue is that other people feel extremely confident when commenting on someone's physique.
2000's super-thin is slowly worming its way back into the public ideal. recently i saw someone get told to "go for a run", despite the fact she was on the thinner side of average. not that it would ever be appropriate to say that: but it's kind of like sticker shock when you see it. people think that is fat? holy shit. do they just have no idea about things?
but what are you going to do about it? that's the problem, right. because chances are - you're a normal person. we can say normalize carrying fat on your body, but we are not the billion-dollar diet industry. we are not the billion-dollar fashion industry. we are just, like. people. who are trying to make content on the internet, without being treated shittily.
as someone who has been on both sides of things: you are treated better when you are thin and pretty. this is statistically correct. i am not saying that you cannot be bullied for being thin; i'm saying there are objective institutional biases against certain bodytypes. there are videos of men and women who lost weight all saying: i now know for a fact exactly how much worse you're treated. in the comments, some asshole inevitably says something akin to you deserved to be dehumanized when you were fat.
which means that ... the easiest thing to do is be pretty and thin. it is the path of least resistance, because of course it is, because any time you post a picture of yourself without a thigh gap, someone immediately comments something like you need to try a diet.
the other half is also dehumanizing though, huh, just in a different way. when i put on makeup and nice clothes, i am told i slept my way to the top as a professional. do you know how many women in STEM have told me they purposefully dress to "unimpress" because they already struggle to be taken seriously and if they're ever considered pretty - it for some reason takes away from their authority.
so they make it seem like it's your fault. you, existing in a body - it's your fault! if you didn't want shitty comments, don't have a body. they position us against each other like chess pieces; vying for male attention we don't even need.
and i can be an authority on this unless you think i'm fat and unattractive. when i am pretty and thin, i'm an activist. when i am just a normal person who makes a good point: i am immediately dismissed. nobody fucking believes you if you're not seen as attractive. you literally lose value. you cease to exist.
but the whole time, it feels like - is anyone actually grounded the fuck in reality? the line of "pretty and thin" keeps shifting. nobody seems to understand what "a normal weight" even looks like, because it's not something that exists - you cannot tell a person's health by looking at their body. even if you think you could tell that, even if you're sure a person is dangerously overweight - people are not your dolls. they do not need to be dressed up or displayed properly to soothe your aesthetics. you aren't concerned for them, you're stealing their agency. you don't get to say if they're "allowed" to take pictures and post them on the internet - you don't get to tell them how to exist.
people hide behind "the obesity epidemic" without any actual qualifications. they crow things about "normalizing unhealthiness".
but it's bullshit. i have visible abs. there is a pair of parallel lines on my body, even when i'm relaxed; where my obliques meet my abdominal wall. i am proud of this because it means i'm strong, because i overcame an eating disorder only to be ripped as fuck. it is genetic and physical luck that i even get any definition, i'm pleased as punch.
but it does mean that my abdominal wall sticks out a little bit. the other day i posted a video of myself dancing, and, for a moment, my shirt slipped. you could see a little bit of my stomach. i was cartwheeling to the floor. moments before this, i'd had my foot over my head.
a guy slid into my DMs. a row of vomiting emojis prefaced: you should really lose some weight before you think about dancing.
i stared at it for a long time. there was a time when i would have been triggered by this, where it would have encouraged me to starve myself. i would have ignored the fact i'm flexible, agile, good at jumping: i would have lost the weight for a stranger's passing comment. i would have found myself and my body fucking disgusting.
and for what? to please what? because why? so that he can exist in this world without an unchallenged eyeball? what would my self-hatred even accomplish? usually i write paragraphs. obviously. on this particular occasion, in this body i've been at war with for ages: i just felt exhausted.
it shouldn't be even worth saying. it shouldn't be hard to explain. all of this emotional turmoil when he cannot even comprehend the most basic truth: i am not an object on display for him.
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haha oh no im definitely not at all disturbed by the prevalence of leftists on all platforms who are loudly 'anti-genocide' when it comes to the palestinian cause (and a couple others at best :3c) yet the only time ukraine [ʊkrɐˈjinɐ] leaves their mouths is in critique, in stark comparison to the former or in complaint about their (american) government sending aid.
at first what i saw often was pointing out the differences in western media framing [ukraine vs palestine], and that's fair (until the words and the agenda of western journalists are used to paint, as a whole, ukrainians who have been actively going through genocide as some kind of white supremacists hogging the blanket of global attention when they kinda just want to live and have the rights to their own land, culture, names and families)
but no one is even caring to do that anymore, today bitches just invent metaphorical scenarios and people to get mad at and to throw an entire ethnos away because wahhhh i decided that you care for X but not for Y!!!.... all while doing the exact thing they are condemning. the exact absolute same and they don't even hide it but do lack the self-awareness to realise
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hey, you might wanna block this person, you’re one of the few that they follow, i’m afraid that they might try to target you
https://www.tumblr.com/crispydreamsong
Thank you for the concern.
I've blocked & reported them before. I genuinely don't understand why people I've blocked can still tag me.
I'm so glad that Tumblr still hasn't done anything despite the fact that I've been getting harassed by multiple people for the past two weeks. (/sar)
I hope all these people know that I'm not scared of them. I don't value the opinion of anyone whose vocabulary only consists of slurs.
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While I think the admins will see the fandom appreciation for Fred and make them a positive figure regardless of any previous plans, with the current situation between Bad, Tubbo, Fred and Ron, I think it would be a really cool twist if the letters with Fred are a manipulation, either by the Federation higher ups, or by Fred themselves.
The Federation have manipulated people through messages before, so the idea that the letters were discovered but then continued by someone else under the pretense of being Fred isn't impossible to imagine (look at what happened with Cellbit and the code sword research). There is also the possibility that the letters may have never come from Fred in the first place.
But Fred could also be doing the manipulation as well, because Fred is an A rank worker. They don't get that rank for nothing, they get that rank for conforming more than the B-D workers, for being less unique, for aligning more with the Federation's design and values (something, it is worth noting, that Bad knows about because of what Ron told him, but Tubbo doesn't know because the books he found mention nothing about that). So who is to say Fred wasn't told to keep in contact, and followed this order without issue to see what info they could get from one of the islands newest troublemakers?
Fred did show them the maze, which appears to have given the islanders access to more info on the Federation which you would assume they wouldn't want, but the Federation also tasked Jaiden to clear the Bluebird Dungeon, another old Federation facility which also gave them more information. So, it is still possible...
I don't know, I just think it would be a really cool twist on it's own, but also at the moment Tubbo does not fear the Federation, and it would be impactful for him to be shown how they can manipulate, control, and harm people (or make them 'fall in line', as Cucurucho said about Tubbo to Jaiden). It would also just be such an angsty twist that in an attempt to help what he saw as an innocent Federation worker (Fred), Tubbo was being manipulated and instead threw another innocent victim (Ron) into harms way. That the kidnapper was the one who was actually keeping the innocent person safe, and the person who tried to help his friend actually caused them harm? THE DRAMA!
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FUCK I need to start checking people's profiles more often I've been DUPED
It was such cute art and when I go to consider following them, BAM!! A WHOLE BUNCH OF WEIRDO SHIT I NEVER SAW!!
You South Park pedo/incest artists weird me tf out dude why do you DRAW STUFF LIKE THAT???
Just block and report guys. Block and report sigh
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hi!! can i ask why people are so against having bot followers? does letting them follow you put your account at risk or something? because i've always just been okay with my follower count going up even if 30 of them are bots lol.
Anon they're bots, often they comment with malicious links and send spam dms, the less spam is on the website the better it is??? It shouldn't be rocket science 😭 I'm glad you're having fun seeing the numbers go up tho
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