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kagrenacs · 2 months
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Awe ): I wanted to see photos of other lesbians with facial hair to see what I can expect with my transition. Instead the tag for butches on T is largely YOU ARE RUINING YOUR BODY. YOU ARE RUINING YOUR PURE WOMANLY BODY BY PUTTING THAT EVIL HORMONE INTO IT. THE TRANS HAVE BRAINWASHED YOU. Like fuck offfff
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queers-gambit · 7 months
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And Let Me Love You Anyway
[ part two of two ]
prompt: you embark on a secret but passionate affair with the Rogue Prince, and when his wife, Rhea Royce, passes away, he chooses you to wed next - a decision that angers his niece and changes history.
pairing: Daemon Targaryen x female!reader only description given: red hair and Daemon's able to lift you
fandom masterlist: House of the Dragon
word count: 6.3k+
note: what the fuck is this, Cherry? also two parts 'cause author gets carried away!
warnings: show spoilers, cursing, author has small bouts of feministic ideas, author also really likes the "little birds" storyline (let her live!), wonky brain is wonky, i think hurt and comfort, angst, very mild NSFW (female receiving oral), technically alternative timeline 'cause this goofy-ass author has an overactive imagination, #icanmakehimworse, another reader-episode-insert (this warning is for the fucking losers in my inbox).
part one: "Tell Me Every Terrible Thing you ever did, And let me love you anyway," - Edgar Allan Poe
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"Alicent, we're late," you sighed with a frown, wiping your sweaty palms nervously as your necklace was latched in place and perfume spritzed on your pulse points. YES - that included your ankles.
"That's the point, sister, we're supposed to be late. It sends a message."
Your eyes rolled, snipping, "The King will not be pleased. I am not his wife, he can get angry at me, you know!"
"He'll manage," she snapped, glancing at Talya. She continued, "He dismissed Father for telling him a truth he would rather ignore. So much so, after years of service, he'd - "
"Yes, yes, the King removed Father as Hand, sent him back home," you nodded with understanding. "But we both know how he feels about his daughter, The Princess! The rumors circulating would cost him his life in the end, we are lucky he was only sent home!"
"Rumors! Rumors, sister, truly!? Tell me, do you think Father lied?"
"I know he didn't."
"Exactly why we're late to tonight's affair," she huffed, fixing her hair in the mirror again. "It's a statement, it's deliberate. We will stand out, prove we are not happy with the turn of events. Why offer Rhaenyra blind respect when she continues to do as she pleases - regardless of consequences."
You paused, sensing her anger brewing and trying to distract, "You know, Ser Lyonel Strong is not a bad replacement for Father."
"This is not about Ser Strong."
"Isn't it? Father's served long and faithfully, but perhaps it is time for a new guidance. Lyonel Strong is a smart man - qualified, even!"
"Yes," she agreed, turning to face you in a shimmering emerald gown. "But this is still an injustice to our family that I fear I cannot overlook any longer. It's been weeks..."
"Yes," you allotted, nodding with a sigh. "All right, yes, you are right, sweet sister. This is all just - it's a lot to take in, to try and digest. And we talk of playing a game with the Throne - I do not think we've the strength to endure alone."
"This is not about Lyonel Strong, sister! It's about Father and the disrespect the Crown continues to offer. Remember that," she advised softly.
You nodded, "I know, sister."
She frowned, "And remember... They aren't our kin. Despite previous displays of kindness, the Targaryens have made it clear that we are not family to them. They are not blood to us, sister; they will protect their own, not us. If we wish to survive, we will need to ally ourselves."
"I understand," you told your younger sister. "I am not arguing, I know what our reality is now - I merely implore to explore the routes that won't label us as traitors."
"I know, we have much to discuss going forward. But none of that for now," she took a long breath, smiling as she looked you up and down, complimenting, "you look stunning. Truly, you might outshine the bride tonight."
"Let's hope it doesn't come down to that, and that The Princess has a mature bone in her body - though I do not hold out hope." You smiled at her, "But enough about me, you look - you look like a Queen, sister-dearest. Gods, you're gorgeous, you look just like Mummy." The two of you shared an emotional, watery smile; embracing tightly as reality settled in your guts: it was you two Hightower Ladies against the whole of the Targaryen clan. "Come," you decided, taking a deep breath, "are we ready to go? Any later and I fear we might not get any cake."
"Oh, you and cake," she smirked, looking you over in a matching emerald, lighter-weight gown that had layers of thin fabrics clinging and dripping from your form. Golden jewelry was clasped around both your necks, wrists, tight around your fingers, and plugged into your ear piercings.
The Queen took your arm and left the dressing chambers you took refuge in, coming to a gasping halt when you were greeted by a well-groomed man in green velvet. "Father," Alicent exclaimed in shock.
"My daughters," he smiled, offering both arms, "I do believe we are now fashionably late. Hmm?"
"Exactly as we intended," you mused, taking his arm. "How is this possible? How are you here?"
"I was invited, if you believe that," Otto answered, the three of you walking slowly. "Though, I suspect your sister had something to do with that?"
"I only told Viserys I'd be deeply offended if you were ignored for this event," Alicent quipped.
"None the less, I am happy to escort my daughters to such a historic event," he spoke diplomatically, aware of the guards and servants milling around. Otto lead the way to the Throne Room - where you could hear King Viserys' echoing speech from the foyer.
None of you spoke, approaching the open doors and pausing to let everyone see the united Hightowers. Alicent wore her dark auburn locks pulled back from her face to cascade in thick ringlets down her back, your own Hightower-red hair left down around your face with the longer locks pinned off your neck. The entire room - the entire court - all wedding attendees and royal procession stared at you three in shock for entering during the King's speech. Your statement was clearly made.
Even from this distance, you could see how startled Rhaenyra was by your arrival, needing to fight off a smirk of amusement in order to keep your neutral façade.
You and Alicent walked arm-in-arm with your father, the once-Hand, down the stairs and up the aisle of banquet tables full of people, staring forward and giving no emotion away. The people buzzed in quiet gossip. The attending Hightowers of Oldtown, sitting closest to the royal banquet table because of their relation to the current Queen, stood first; everyone else following in a show of respect.
You and Alicent paused to let Otto sit with his relatives at the lower banquet table before joining arm-and-arm together. Over the muttering of the entire room, you whispered almost mutely, "Be kind, remain composed, we'll kill 'em with kindness."
Alicent gave a subtle flex to give indication she understood.
When you looked up at the table you approached under the King's heavy glare, you noticed there was an empty chair between Ser Strong and... Prince Daemon? Was that really him? When did he get here? Why was he back? It's only been a few weeks!
Your shock did not slow you, and as you approached the table reserved for the Royal Family, you saw Daemon smirking at your theatrics. Alicent did not let you part from her side as she greeted Princess Rhaenyra with a sickly-sweet voice, "Congratulations, stepdaughter. What a blessing this is for you."
She ignored any other reaction to let go of your arm, kiss her husband's cheek in greeting, stand beside him, in front of her chair, and stare forward with zero other emotion.
"Congratulations, Princess," you whispered, bowing your head. "Your Grace," you acknowledged, doing the same and taking the empty chair between Lord Hand and Rogue Prince only to stoically stare forward in silence. You did as Alicent did, not looking at any other, and just waiting for a pregnant moment that seemingly never ended.
"Please be seated," Viserys finally permitted, everyone sitting at his behest. He cleared his throat, whispering to Lyonel Strong, "Where was I?"
"The joining of the two Houses, Your Grace."
You swallowed when a warm hand laid on your right thigh, Viserys continuing his speech. You glanced at Daemon, seeing his smirk, and instead of throwing his hand off you, you laid your own over his to give a long squeeze. You had wrestled with the idea of his favorite whore, Mysaria, and the idea of whatever he did with Princess Rhaenyra for weeks. Then when you heard word that his wife, Lady Rhea Royce, had met her untimely end, you knew he was involved, yet said nothing. You could only think deeply about what it all meant - and how you fit into the equation that was Prince Daemon Targaryen.
Tell me every terrible thing you ever did...
All you could understand was the overwhelming affection you held for him. His shocked-wide-eyes found yours for a long moment, seeming communicating telepathically - you telling him you wanted him. His hand tightened to keep hold of yours, hidden from the public for the time being.
And let me love you anyway...
You tuned back into the King's speech in time to clap with the others, showing your support of the union you technically helped influence between Targaryen and Velaryon.
However, you caught the way Alicent glared at Rhaenyra, sighing to yourself; having heard through long private dinners what Alicent came to know and why this upset her so much. How strange to learn Ser Criston Cole admitted to Ali that he was coerced into soiling the Princess' purity - not her Uncle Daemon, like rumored. Yet none the less, the girl had sworn on her beloved, dearly departed mother to Alicent that she was still a maiden... A huge, glaring lie - that both you and Ali took personally.
You found all of this terribly interesting, yet did not let the distain show so boldly. After Daemon came to you in confession, you had yet to speak a word outside of public politeness to the Princess; feeling betrayed by what your lover had told you. He had been right: you were Rhaenyra's friend, she wasn't yours. So, you demoted yourself to create distance.
When the drums rumbled and the Princess took to the dance floor with her intended, you spared Daemon a look and muttered, "You do not have to look so annoyed."
"I'm not, sweet one."
"Nor so amused," you tacked on.
Daemon smirked at you, leaning in and pondering, "I am only wondering if you would care for a dance later, my Lady?"
You lied, speaking in a teasing tone, "I'm not one for dancing, my Prince."
"A single dance with me, then. Just one, pretty lady."
"You're pushy," you whispered, nudging him to keep quiet; but the grin on your lips assured him you were completely enraptured by his antics.
He sat back with a smirk, watching his niece and her fiancé dance. The entire courtroom clapped at the end, others flooding to the spaces around them. You glanced over as your sister stood from her seat, meeting your eyes and offering only a soft smile before descending from the table to approach your aunt and uncle from Oldtown - standing with your father on the side of the room. You sighed under your breath, your lover tightening his grip on your thigh.
Daemon made for a great distraction. "Did you hear the news?" He asked softly, reaching for his goblet of wine with his free hand.
"Which news would that be, my Prince?" You asked casually, pretending your heart wasn't hammering in your chest.
"Of my dear wife's passing."
"I did, actually," you fought off your smirk. "I am truly sorry to hear of it, I understand Lady Rhea was truly one of a kind. You shouldn't speak ill of the dead, love," you reminded in a whisper.
"Hmm. Don't be sorry, I'm not," he eased.
"You're not? Your wife died, Daemon..."
"I know," he met your gaze, "I'm not sorry because now it gives me vocation to follow my own desires."
You smirked, "Which desire will you follow first?"
His hand tightened to a bruising grip. He was not able to answer yet because your gaze was caught by movement, Rhea Royce's cousin approaching slowly, evidently a cup or two deep in the wine; making you remove Daemon's hand so you both could sit casually - without touching.
The man gruffly leered at Daemon, "In the Vale, men are made to answer for their crimes." Your lover spared you an exasperated look as he tacked on, "Even Targaryens."
"Who are you?" Daemon asked dully.
"This is Ser Gerold Royce, my Prince," you told him softly, "of Runestone."
Daemon perked his brow, asking sarcastically, "An excellent show of your knowledge, my sweet lady, but what does that matter to me?"
You didn't answer, Ser Lyoel Strong (who was listening in) didn't answer, because Ser Gerold was approaching the table by climbing the stairs. He growled at Daemon, "I am cousin to your late Lady wife."
"Ah, yes... Terrible thing," Daemon offered. "I'm positively bereft. Such a tragic accident."
"You know better than anyone, it was no accident."
Through a smirk, Daemon quipped, "Are you confessing some guilt, Ger Gerold?"
"I am making an accusation."
You shared a look with Lyonel to your left, catching sight of the King's turned head - showing he was listening, too. Daemon easily deflected, "Here, in King's Landing, men are made to answer for their slanders. Even old bronze cunts like you." This angered Ser Gerold visibly, the man stepping closer, but obviously restrained himself. Your lover continued, "The truth is I'm glad you've come. I wish to speak to you about my inheritance."
"What inheritance?" Ser Gerold demanded.
"Lady Rhea and I had no heirs. As her husband, whatever she was due now passes to me. She stood to inherit all of Runestone. Did she not?" Daemon had Ser Gerold pinned by legality, the man looking disturbed by his own realization. So, naturally, Daemon taunted, "After my niece's wedding, I plan to fly to the Eyrie and petition Lady Jeyne myself. Perhaps I'll see you there, Ser Gerold."
The man sheepishly walked away, his inebriated mind whirling with possibilities. You glared, pinching Daemon's arm so you could scold him when he turned to face you, "That wasn't very kind."
"And?"
"You don't truly care for Runestone," you snapped. "Now that man will fear for his home, fret over the laws, and that's not very nice."
He sighed, "What would you have me do, sweet one?"
"Leave House Royce to grieve and rearrange their succession without your pettiness."
Daemon smirked, "Whatever my Lady wants."
"You're dreadfully annoying tonight, do you know that?" You whined. "I'm going for a dance, and no, this is not an invitation to follow," you warned him - albeit playfully - before standing to excuse yourself.
"Sister," Alicent paused you before you could pass her by. "Are you well?"
"Yes, yes, just felt like dancing, too much energy to just sit. Come join - "
"No, no, I should sit. Eat," she smiled. "Perhaps tonight will be when you meet your match and we can plan another wedding."
"Perhaps," you mused, squeezing her hand. "You all right? What did Father and Uncle say?"
"Later," she whispered. "Go on, go."
You joined the stream of people dancing, instantly grinning when you were welcomed joyfully by different suitors. The band played a lively beat, the crowd cheering in rhythm; you being twirled around men and women with matching grins.
You heard your name being cheered through a small giggle.
"Hi, Princess," you greeted Rhaenyra as you both marched along to the beat. You reminded yourself this was all a game and if you wanted to survive, you'd have to play your part strategically. So, you quipped as you danced with Ser Arryn Blackwell, "Nice party you've got, huh?"
"Oh, you know how we Targaryens do," she teased. "Where've you been lately? I feel as if I've hardly seen you."
"Just busy with chores since Father was replaced as Hand," you answered, spinning under someone's arm.
Nyra didn't comment on that, instead, waiting a few moments before complimenting, "That's a beautiful dress, really goes with your hair!"
"That's what I hoped for," you gasped girlishly, deciding to play nice when she reached for your hands. You felt weak for a moment, but the truth was, you missed your friend... So, you might've giggled a bit when you joined hands, dancing together instead of with anyone else. With kindness, you offered, "You look gorgeous, as well, Princess, I love this dress - "
"Yes, yes, we all look fantastic," Daemon interrupted abruptly, crowding over you, asking quickly, "can I speak to you a moment, my Lady? The Princess won't mind, right, Rhaenyra?"
"Uh, no, I guess..." She eyed the two of you with suspicion as she stayed in-beat with the music.
"Daemon, not now - "
"We need to talk," he pulled you from where you danced, glancing back at the head banquet table as he took your hand, and lead you deeper into the crowd. He turned you to face him, pacing a small circle around you, demanding, "Do you still want to marry me?"
"What? Why are you asking now?"
"Because I just asked your father for permission," he seethed, pausing in front of you, "and he outright refused, saying he's negotiating with the fucking Lannisters. I need to know what you want."
"I was not aware what I wanted mattered to you, the man who views marriage as a political arrangement," you eyed him with a curled lip of annoyance.
"What arrangement could I want? Your sister is Queen, my family is bound to the Hightowers already. My political marriage is recently dissolved, I am free to do as I please, regardless of what others want or say - "
"Then tell me what you want. Tell me plainly what you want from me, Daemon, no more pretty words and veiled truths. Be plain."
"You said I had a year, and look - it's been weeks. Weeks, my love, how much more plain can I be? I'm here, now, free to marry, and I need to know if you still want to marry me. I'll marry you tomorrow - "
"Oh, please! Would you steal me away?" You mocked with a chuckle. "Take me to Dragonstone? Make me your little wife that you'll come to resent, too? Just as you did Rhea?"
He reached out to aggressively hold your cheek and jaw. "I had no choice in my first marriage, I could never come to resent you - you're all I've ever wanted. I'd do anything for you," Daemon snarled over your lips, "including risking your father's wrath. I'd do anything to make sure we end up together, you are my heart - do not forget that."
"Then pull out your sword, cut them all down," you purred, feeling his hand tighten, "and claim me as your own - do not let anyone stop us."
His lips hovered over yours, breathing the same air, and before he could respond or kiss you, a woman screamed shrilly from behind you. Daemon instantly latched onto your body as a crowd formed to your left and right, and when you both looked, you were shocked to see the commotion happening at your feet.
"Love - "
"Daemon," you paused him, shocked as Ser Criston Cole was engaged in a fist fight with some Velaryon knight before Ser Laenor Velaryon, the groom, was tackling him to the side. What an interesting display of protectiveness from Ser Laenor over his knight.
Daemon rushed in your ear, "Do not look - come away with me."
"Wait," you held his hands to your waist, letting him crowd into your back as Cole had punched Laenor to the side and straddled the blonde on the floor once more.
He landed one blow before the knight was brandishing a dagger; but the White Cloak caught his arm and easily snapped it broken, startling the crowd. Beyond your ring of spectators, other men were trading blows and engaged in their own fights; total chaos taking over the whole of the Throne Room. You flinched back into Daemon's embrace when Cole screamed like a wild man in the mountains, repeatedly pounding his fist into the knight's face; literally caving it in, creating a human minced meat pie.
Someone better contact Mrs. Lovett!
"No more," Daemon decided, Cole rearing himself back as Daemon stooped to heave you over his shoulder. He was able to find safe (enough) passage through the people, approaching the royal banquet table. "Hey, hey," he whispered, setting you down and taking your face in his hands, the wailing of Laenor Velaryon seeing his murdered knight echoing in the Throne Room. "You all right? You hurt? Look at me, love, are you hurt?"
"No, no, I'm okay," you whispered, swallowing unsurely; reaching up to hold his wrists. "I'm okay."
"Sure? You shouldn't have seen that - "
"It's all right," you assured, stroking his wrists. "I'm okay, Daemon, truly. Just... A little startled, maybe?"
"What's this then?" Harwin Strong smirked, panting lightly from his rescue mission as the Princess was attending her father, the King. "You two hit it off then, yeah? Is it me or are sparks flying?"
"Something like that," you whispered, trying to regulate your breathing after the adrenaline-inducing scrimmage.
"Easy does it, love," Daemon whispered, keeping you close as you didn't let go of his hands; wanting to stay connected. He told Harwin, giving a half-shrug, "They aren't sparks. She's everything to me."
"Perhaps your second wedding will go better than this one," Harwin sighed, hands on his hips.
"In some cultures, deaths at a wedding are considered good luck," you muttered, Daemon snorting lightly in amusement before running his thumbs over your cheekbones in soothing gestures.
"Didn't your wife just pass, Prince Daemon?" Your father demanded publicly with a heavy glare. "You'd offer insult to her memory by remarrying so quickly?"
"I've grieved Lady Rhea plenty, Ser Hightower, it's time to look to the future," Daemon declared, eyes daring your father to challenge him. "The Lady Hightower and I will wed. The sooner, the better, in truth."
And history would never be the same.
"What?" Rhaenyra demanded, whirling around at the news, making all others pause in confusion. "What did you say?"
"That I intend to marry the Lady Hightower."
"Her? Her? Fucking her - who is more prude than woman?!"
Well, that was mildly offensive...
"Rhaenyra - "
"What makes you think you're worthy?" She demanded of you, turning from her father to stalk across the platform. "Worthy of a man like Daemon, of a husband like Daemon? You've done nothing to - to deserve such a title! The title of Princess, of wife!"
You were honestly confused to your core.
"I deserve a man like he - not someone like you!" She continued, shocking the group as the Kingsguard cleared the Room of any lingering stragglers to keep this as private as possible. "You think I didn't see you on my tour? You were fawned over, all wanted to talk with you, but were forced to line up for me! You rejected them all on your own, and now I see why! You wanted to wait until the Lady Rhea passed, which makes me wonder - what part did you play in that?"
"Rhaenyra!" You gasped.
"What? Honestly, it would make sense - the day Daemon's banished, you weren't seen! I wouldn't be shocked if you were seen somewhere lurking in the Vale! You cannot have it all - you've always wanted my life, and now look! You have to have what I have, and now you've taken a liking to my uncle after our scandal! What? He wasn't interesting before? You heard rumors about us and decided you wanted him for yourself? Just because he was mine first? You just want to be me, you always have - you've always reeked of jealousy! This is all you wanted, to steal my family, and - "
"That's enough," Daemon tried. "You are out of turn here, Rhaenyra, do not make this worse."
"Why? Because little Lady Hightower's façade of being a respectable, pure woman is now tarnished?"
"We share one dance, albeit intimate, sit next to each other at a single dinner, shared some conversation, and you now think it's appropriate to call my virtue into question? What of your own, Princess? You just admitted to scandal with Daemon - but I wonder why the service of Moon Tea if your virtue was unimpeachable?" You demanded, feeling defensive on a new level. Even Alicent straightened up at your words.
However, Daemon rushed to add, "With all due respect, Princess, I don't want you, and you can't claim me as your own when you never had me. You might be angry, but it is no use to take it out on my intended, she is of rare stock and breed - she will not be questioned. Nor will my intentions with her."
Rhaenyra snarled, "Yeah? You don't want me? Well, you wanted me enough to try and fuck me at that whorehouse!"
There were gasps and murmurs all around, but Rhaenyra was glaring at you and Daemon, still standing together. His arms actually dropped to hold your waist, keeping you close as he snarled at his niece, "But I didn't. If memory serves right, I walked away!"
"You wanted me!" Rhaenyra raged. "You always were and always will be mine - regardless of the whores you bed in the meantime! And I want you, I am not yet married - "
"Yet I will not be who marries you, I am betrothed to another," Daemon reminded with a venomous tone. "There's nothing you offer that I want, Rhaenyra."
"I am not some inexperienced little girl anymore, I'm a woman grown, and I could do more for you than she ever could!"
"Rhaenyra!" Viserys roared.
Everyone knew she had gone too far and there was no coming back from any this. After a beat, Alicent stepped in as if questioning for the first time, "And yet, sister, you said the Princess was served Moon Tea? If Prince Daemon did not touch the Princess, does this mean she still," she scoffed as if the idea were absurd, "sullied her maidenhood? Before marriage?"
It should be noted that Ser Criston Cole was already gone from the hall at this time. In fact, he lingered just outside a side door, listening, in case his name came up. When Alicent spoke, he straightened up and started the slow trek to the Godswood.
"Ser Lyonel? Do I misunderstand?" Alicent pulled the Hand into the fray.
"Well, that's what that would sound like, Your Grace," he agreed begrudgingly. "Moon Tea is beneficial to prevent unwanted consequences outside of marriage."
"From what I understand, she was served by Grand Maester Mellos himself," you told Ali, minds strung together by a common thread. "The castle likes to gossip, you can learn a lot if you just listen."
"This is..." Viserys seethed, "Unacceptable."
"I'm sorry, Your Grace," you instantly apologized.
"No, no," he deflected, hand held up, "you have a duty to the Realm to flesh out any deception. And this," he directed his glare at his daughter, "is a grand deception that cannot be undone, unknown, covered-up, anymore, Rhaenyra!"
There was a meltdown. Everyone began yelling.
Viserys was enraged. Rhaenyra was desperately trying to plead with her father. Lord Corlys was demanding to know what the hell was about to happen with the impending marriage to "the future Queen". Ser Strong was trying to keep the people from each other's throats.
His sons stood to the side and just let them all fight.
Daemon kept you out of the line of fire, away from the action; sighing as you deflated into his chest. Over it all, Viserys' voice was angriest, and you heard, "You are no daughter of mine! The position you have put me in tonight - I cannot undo this, Rhaenyra! I should have never disinherited Daemon for you, breaking centuries of tradition because I wanted to see your mother in you! You have spat in my face around every bend, but this? This is unforgivable, we will not recover from this and I will no longer endure your insolence!"
"Father, please, let me - "
"No," he snarled, "I have had it with your disresepct the past several years, this is beyond any scale." You blinked up at Daemon, his lips curving down as his hands tightened around your form. And then, Viserys said the words, "I made a mistake naming you my heir. You may marry Ser Laenor, if you so choose to, but after that, you will reside on Driftmark with your husband - you will no longer inherit the Iron Throne after me."
"Father!"
"No," he snapped, "you've exhausted my patience, Rhaenyra!" Viserys roared. "And while Daemon might be unpredictable, the woman he wants to marry is not - and from where I am standing, she will make a far better Queen than you!"
It was quiet as everyone forgot their own selfish woes as father disinherited daughter.
"Your Grace," your father tried to step in, "with respect, why not place your son, Aegon, in line after you?"
"Oh, for the love of the Gods, Otto," Rhaenyra raged, rounding on your father, "give up this campaign, you get all you want and more! Your daughter is Queen now and your other daughter will be Queen after that, aren't you listening? Your grandchildren will still inherit the Throne!"
"That's it," Viserys breathed, needing to hold onto the banquet table for balance as all eyes turned to him again. "It's time to do what I should've done all along. Rhaenyra," he shook his head, "I can no longer have you as my heir, this type of behavior cannot stand. I will give you permission to marry Ser Laenor, and if he chooses not to, I will allow you to reside on Dragonstone until a match is made. Until then," his eyes shifted to where you and Daemon stood, "I name my brother, Prince Daemon Targaryen, as my Heir to the Iron Throne."
"You would not name your son?" Alicent asked in mild disbelief.
"No," Viserys told her, "no, I would see my brother as my heir. Should Aegon prove to live up to his namesake, we can talk about succession again, but I know my brother is capable... And though he might be overly wanting, he will learn patience, because I know the love of a good woman can change a man for the better."
You smiled, feeling emotional for a moment, but Daemon asked for you both, "Brother, do you mean to give your blessing?"
"Of course," he nodded once, "why waste a good wedding tourney? We shall announce on the morrow our new intentions - to crown Daemon as heir and marry him to the Lady Hightower. This matter," he panted, glaring at everyone, "is resolved, I will not hear more. Make the preparations!"
It happened in slow motion. Rhaenyra's rage flared to a temperamental height previously unknown; lunging to seize her father's Valyrian Steel, prophesy-engraved dagger, turn, and charge straight for you as the remaining audience shouted in panic. You felt Daemon try to push you behind him, but instead, your own temper flared and you stepped up to meet Rhaenyra; catching both her arms to hold her at bay.
Daemon was at your flank if you needed him, otherwise, he kept the Kingsguard away from you two - knowing this needed to happen now. Or else something worse would happen later...
"For fuck's sake, Princess! What is this? Jealousy? Huh?" You asked through your tears, struggling to hold your old friend's weight away from you. "What is this jealousy, Nyrie, hmm?"
"Don't call me that," she grit. You just sighed, pushing her back a little but not enough to overpower her; the girl's anger making her stronger than you would've previously guessed. "You've gone too far," she seethed through tears.
“I? What have I done but what was expected of me? Forever upholding the Kingdom, the family, the law. While you flout all to do as you please! Where is duty? Where is sacrifice? It’s trampled under your pretty foot again!"
"You think you finally get my life, huh?" She snarled. "You won't ever be accepted - not as Queen - not as part of this family! You've wanted this all along! Haven't you!?" She struggled against you, hands sweating. "You've always wanted my life, that's why you stuck around! Your mother died - so you tried to take a place in my family, make them yours - and now, look! You're nearly there! Pouncing on my uncle the moment he's widowed!" She snarled, bearing her teeth.
“Exhausting, wasn’t it? Hiding beneath the cloak of your own righteousness. But now they see you as you are, Nyrie," you whispered with a broad smirk.
"You aren't fit to play this part! To have my life! You'll never be accepted as their Princess!"
"I wager I'll do a better job than you ever could," you hissed. "There's not much to live up to, you don't leave a lot of room to fill."
She screamed when Ser Harwin's arms seized around her waist, but the momentum of him pulling her back and Rhaenyra's thrashing cause the Valyrian Steel dagger to slice your forearm. You yelped and reared back amongst the startled gasps and panicked murmurs from the crowd, Daemon catching you. The dagger clattered to the floor as Harwin backed up several paces to keep the belligerent girl at bay. You whimpered quietly at the sting, a pool of blood forming to the side you held your arm at.
"Fuck's sake," Daemon growled, "lemme see, lemme see, my love, c'mere," he winced, looking around before using his own belt to yank free and tourniquet around your lower elbow. "You're bleeding a good bit," he whispered, "you'll need stitches, sweet one."
You pouted at him, wincing again in pain when he tightened the belt.
Around you, the Kingsguard was ordered to escort Rhaenyra to her chambers, and the moment she was marched out of sight, Daemon was warning his brother that she knew about her secret passage door and parts of the tunnels.
Go stand watch," a personal guard was ordered by the King. "Someone go - go find Ser Cole - I want him posted in the Princess' passage, he's trusted to us."
Alicent slunk off to do exactly that, and she'd tell you later that Cole was found only moments from taking his own life. He was overjoyed to hear the King had requested him personally to stand guard for such a sensitive situation.
In the meantime, Lord Corlys Velaryon and his wife, Princess Rhaenys Targaryen, thought it best their son not marry Rhaenyra; now that she had been disowned, she was less appealing. Viserys was free to offer her again later if Laenor was not married in that time and if she showed true change, but after tonight, nobody thought that possible.
Daemon tried helping your wound, your father approaching as he laid a clean cloth over the cut. Your lover tisked, "It's deeper than I thought. We should get this looked at."
"A moment," Otto prevented.
"If it would please you, this is not an injury I'd like to wait to attend to," Daemon sighed, nodding at your bloodied forearm that he held.
"I only meant to say, you have my blessing to marry, my Prince," Otto nodded at him. "Seeing the kindness you show my daughter, I feel... Content knowing she will be loved and cared for."
"Thank you," Daemon nodded.
"Yes, thank you, Father, but we really must be going, this doesn't feel very nice," you rushed to explain, watching him nod and eye your injury with worry.
"This way," He even instructed, a few handmaids rushing forward to help herd you away.
"Doing all right, love?" Daemon muttered as you walked.
"Bit shocked," you admitted.
"I'd say," he mused.
"It burns," you pouted at him.
"We'll get everything tended to, you'll feel better soon," he soothed.
You peaked up at his worried brow, pouted lips, darting eyes; whispering, "You're heir, again, Daemon."
"So it would seem," he deadpanned. "Can we not talk about it now?" He requested quietly, "I only wish to see to this wound of yours."
You nodded, and once in Mellos' chamber, you were left alone with your father - since Daemon was not yet your husband. Otto was silent as your forearm was stitched carefully; the bleeding staunched, herbs stuffed in the wound to prevent pain and promote healing. As you let Mellos wrap you in gauze, you glanced at your father.
"So... Your blessing, is it?"
"He's different with you already," he nodded stiffly. "And after his nieces' display tonight, I can think of no better future Queen."
"I do not wish to talk about future station, Father, but instead, that... That Daemon makes me happy and I am relieved you have given us your blessing. It would've felt very wrong to marry without my father in attendance."
Otto wasn't affectionate in the least bit, but he showed his love by doing his best to understand situations before passing judgement. It created a sense of trust and security between father and daughter. So, he asked earnestly, "And you will overlook what he did with Princess Rhaenyra?"
"He told me of it all the morning after it happened, I've had time to think, and I've had time away from him. I know what I want, Father, and while Viserys has changed history - again - tonight by naming Daemon heir, I know he is the man I want for the rest of my life."
"I see," he nodded. "Then... By all means, I will see this union happen."
"Thank you," you whispered, the Maester tying the gauze. "Thank you, Grand Maester," you spoke calmly.
"Of course, uh, um, Princess."
"I don't think I'll get used to hearing that," you whined, standing off his table. "Will you talk to Daemon for me, Father? I think you need to clear the air... I will not say the King will instill you as Hand again, but if I am to marry the Prince, I will need there to be peace between our families."
He nodded, opening the door for you, "It will be arranged, my daughter..."
As Otto took his leave, Daemon, pacing the hall, approached you. He took hold of your waist, asking, "Are you all right?" You let him hold your injured wrist in a soft grip, viewing the wrappings.
"Yes, Your Grace," you teased, watching his pale face flush.
"Don't start with that."
"Mellos just called me Princess."
"You are," he grinned. "And we will be married in less than a week's time."
"I can hardly wait," you whispered, letting his lips find yours in a searing show of rare public affection.
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f1ghtsoftly · 4 months
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When I first became radicalized in 2017, I felt extraordinarily hopeless. The gay and lesbian friends I grew up with, were mostly addicted, traumatized, still closeted. I had a friend who had recently died from a heroin overdose, another who had been kicked out by his conservative parents. My lesbian friends had mostly transitioned, some were in the sex industry.
When I was formerly introduced to queer theory, I became enraged. It felt like what I, and more importantly my friends, had experienced growing up was being papered over-turned into an intellectual exercise for the rich. I was disgusted. I was angry. I felt betrayed. Like the promise of “it gets better” was just marketing.
Most importantly, I had nobody in my life I could turn too to talk about how I felt. Most of straight people I knew reflexively denied anything of the sort was going on, most of them wouldn’t entertain discussions of homophobia, likely out of guilt for their own behavior and beliefs, just a few years ago. A lot of gay people I knew couldn’t talk about it. Many gay people took any criticism of transgender ideology at all as immediately threatening, a perspective I understood but felt was incomplete.
The movement has grown so much since then. We are regularly covered in major publications, there are feminist gatherings all over the place in the US. Women in the UK have had a string of judicial victories that will hopefully allow them to organize women more openly.
There are a lot of aspects of the Gender Critical Movement I don’t like. I don’t always think Transgender people are treated with respect by self-proclaimed feminists and I wish Lesbians, Autistic women and CSA Survivors were platformed more often as leaders. I think collaborating with the organized Right in the US is a mistake that we should avoid when and where we can help it. I worry many individuals anger at transgender ideology is simply a masked hatred of gender nonconformity, I don’t know how to weed those people out of a movement effectively.
However, I do think that we can begin to rebuild a Women’s Movement from this moment. Something that addresses the challenges of today’s world while retaining ideological links to the past and puts forward concrete, measurable goals that will help all women lead. The point of feminism isn’t just to hang on to the analysis and legislative victories of the second wave (although with the way things have been going, that is also pressing). It’s to push it forward, I want us to be more than just a reaction to a co-option of feminism and gay rights. I want us to put forward an alternative vision of the future, one that honors our bodies, respects our dignity and pushes us further along the path of liberation.
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Hello and welcome. My name's Rachel. I made this blog because I'm interested in learning more about Islam. I feel called to Islam, but my heart is still torn because of fear and bad circumstances. So please be patient with me as I learn and grow. Insha Allah I will gain the courage and willpower I need to overcome all barriers between me and Allah.
I am not yet Muslim though. I have not taken my shahada. Please do not pressure me to grow faster than I am ready. I will take it when I am ready, when I am able to live a muslim life and exist within a muslim community. I have many barriers in my living situation and in my habits that keep me from being openly muslim or doing things like salah. Rather than judging me, please keep me in your prayers so that I might overcome these circumstances and be free to pursue faith as I choose.
I ask that men, please do not DM me. I am not comfortable with talking to men in private at this stage in my journey. I do not wish to invite any more negative temptations into my life than already exists. Muslim women however, please feel free to reach out. I am all by myself in my journey right now and I hope that will find friendship and sisterhood that will help me grow into a better person.
If you want to know why I'm interested in Islam, there's a few reasons.
Firstly, I feel abandoned by western feminism and I seek real and true sisterhood, without compromise. It feels like Muslimah are the only ones who truly understand what sisterhood is supposed to be, rather than just using it as a means to fuel her own ego and wealth at the expense of others. I feel like I have been encouraged to make myself vulnerable and unprotected for those with the worst intentions.
I have been taught that I am wrong for feeling violated by the exposure of my chest and my hair and I must learn to enjoy being objectified. I have lost all faith in western feminism to help women at all. Western feminists will never look after me or come to save me. It is every woman for herself, so long as she is sufficiently naked and consumerist.
All this, in the name of making a point for a movement that does nothing to actually help women in the worst situations. So for this reason, Islamic ideas of womanhood and the rights of women are highly appealing. Islam gives me the right to gatekeep my beauty. Islam gives me the right to protect myself from the predatory eyes of evil men. Islam tells me that I do not need makeup, or fast fashion, or plastic surgery, in order to be a woman because I was made exactly how I am meant to be by Allah. In Islamic feminist thought, I feel truly protected and liberated from the male gaze.
Some struggle to want the hijab. I struggle because circumstance will not allow me to veil myself. Hijab is a beautiful gift to protect women.
Another reason is because it is fully compatible with my own experiences of the supernatural, as a former neo-pagan and occultist. Through following these paths I saw some of the worst of humanity and I've experienced first hand how these things are not only real, but dangerous. Nothing I ever contacted or indulged in ever felt anything like Allah. No other spirit ever offered me guidance, respect, or protection like Allah.
I will not go much more in depth, because I know I should not project my sins, but I feel it is important to explain my background so you can understand where I am coming to Islam from. I was not a Christian, nor a Jew, nor a Buddhist. I was raised new age, I bounced between polytheist practices that led me down the dark path of the occult and Satanic. Now Allah has blessed me with a change of heart. I hope Allah will forgive me for what I did in ignorance. It is a long road ahead for me, but there is nothing beyond the power of Allah.
So that is why I feel called. There are many reasons, but here are a few of my thoughts on the matter. I have a very complicated life situation and a very complicated relationship with faith. I pray only that my heart be softened, my gaze turned to the straight path, and that the right doors will open to lead me toward truth and goodness in a state of flow and ease. I wish only to be a good person, live a good life, know community, know love, and know spiritual fulfillment. Please pray for me so that the right doors will open for me and lead me into a virtuous life.
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Opinion | Women are leading a revolution in Iran. When will Western feminists help?
By Masih Alinejad
A new popular uprising is taking place in Iran, and this time women are in the lead. It’s incredibly inspiring to see — for the first time I can remember — unveiled women marching at the front. They have overcome fear and are challenging one of the main pillars of the Islamic Republic of Iran: compulsory hijab.
These women are marching shoulder to shoulder with men, chanting against the whole regime. They are facing guns and bullets and demanding an end to a system of gender apartheid.
Mahsa Amini was only 22 years old. She wasn’t uncovered; only a few strands of her hair showed. And yet she was arrested by the so-called “morality police” and packed off to jail. Three days later she was dead. Many Iranians are convinced she was killed —a belief reinforced by countless individual experiences with the brutality of the security services.
The news of her death has triggered outrage throughout Iran. Tens of thousands of demonstrators are defying security forces to ask why an innocent young woman lost her life to religious radicals who merely wanted to show off their militant male power. The compulsory hijab is not just a small piece of cloth for Iranian women; it is the most visible symbol of how we are oppressed by a tyrannical theocracy. Now, by drawing attention to that injustice, Mahsa’s death has the potential to serve as a new turning point for Iranian women.
They deserve the support of their Western counterparts. Yet so far we see little evidence that women in Europe or North America are willing to take to the streets to show their solidarity for a women’s revolution in Iran.
Recent experience has been discouraging. Over the past decade, we’ve seen female politicians from democratic countries — including Ségolène Royal from France, Catherine Ashton from the United Kingdom, and Federica Mogherini from Italy — don hijab on their visits to Iran. All these female politicians are quick to assert their feminist credentials in their own societies — but when it comes to Iran they go out of their way to show deference to the men who have elevated misogyny to a state principle. A regime that abuses and harasses millions of women each year does not deserve our respect. To do so makes a mockery of all our talk of universal human rights.
When the Women’s March took place in Washington, D.C., in 2017, I was happy to join. Along with the rest I chanted: “My body, my choice.” Some women might well choose to veil their faces and bodies in accordance with their religious or cultural beliefs — but that should be a matter of their own choice, not a rule imposed by the whips and clubs of men. Yet Western women seem only too happy to succumb to the standards dictated by the male tyrants in countries such as Afghanistan and Iran.
I don’t consider such feminists to be true advocates of women’s rights. The true feminists and women’s rights activists are those in Afghanistan and Iran who are stepping forward, at great cost, to resist the Taliban and Islamic republic. They are the true feminist leaders of the 21st century, risking their lives by facing guns and bullets. They will go on fighting against the regimes, and we who have the privilege to live in free countries should actively amplify their voices. This is the moment for women in the West to stand with Iran’s mothers, daughters and sisters.
I will not remain silent. I will continue to speak out until compulsory hijab laws are abolished. Like the women now taking to the streets in my home country, I, too, have been targeted by the regime. I have chosen to speak up despite that regime’s attacks on my family, and its attempts to have me abducted or killed. In this, I feel deep solitary with the thousands of women protesting in Iran. I will continue to do what I can to support their struggle, to help them achieve their rights.
My wish is for all of us to be louder than the tyrants. I call on the free world to join the protesters in calling for an end to the murderous regime of the ayatollahs. Iranian women are fighting to recover our dignity and exercise our personal freedoms — so that, one day, all Iranians can finally choose our government in free and fair elections. We shouldn’t be afraid of the religious fanatics and the jihadists. They are the ones who are frightened. It is why they seek to keep women down. Women in the streets are paying with their lives for change. But too many in the outside world are shaking hands with our murderers.
I am asking all Western feminists to speak up. Join us. Make a video. Cut your hair. Burn a headscarf. Share it on social media and boost Iranian voices. Use your freedom to say her name. Her name was Mahsa Amini.
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lorillee tell us about tsunade and sakura
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tsunade. my best friend in the whole wide world. i knew i was going to love her before she showed up and i was completely and entirely vindicated shes an icon shes a legend she is the moment. theres not a single thing i dont love about her shes seriously one of the greatest characters of all time in any media ever everybody WISHES they had tsunade. shes like srsly so important to me and like okay the thing with a lot of "feminist" characters in a lot of media/fandom is that people assume that in order to make a feminist female character she has to be #feminism #girlboss #queen etc and cant lose at anything and Totally Owns The Boys With GIRL POWER ! but tsunade sucks at gambling and summons a giant slug (which im aware comes from the story she & jiraiya & orochimaru come from but in any other media she'd get something traditionally Badass tm like a wolf or something but no she gets a GIANT SLUG) and is more than happy to throw hands with an annoying 12 year old and gets drunk on the regular and has an obscene amount of debt on her hands and her pet is a pig but is absolutely able to hold her own and gets to be hokage and do cool and epic things and is so so so everything all of the time. im srsly obsessed with her relationship with jiraiya and orochimaru like you already know this but it genuinely kind of makes me ill that in the infinite tsukuyomi despite everything he's done orochimaru is literally. HES THERE. HES THEREEEEE like srsly what if we all blew up and died. huh
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her relationship with sakura is also so so good and it actually kills me we didnt get to see it explored more because like pre-timeskip sakura doesnt really have a lot of confidence and doesnt really feel like she can contribute that much because shes next to three insane powerhouses who were kind of just born like that but after spending two years with tsunade and being able to come into her own shes much much more confident and outspoken and like its very clearly tsunade's influence that got her to that point and theyre so important to me im so fr. and of course tsunades relationship w naruto is also so insanely eveyrthing as well hes litearlly her special little boy like because he mouths off to her all the time but also clearly respects her so so much and she yells at him for being a brat but also clearly does enjoy their back and forths and SHES SO EVERYTHINGGGG its seriously . the situation is dire. shes so everything to me.
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sakura..... sakura........... SAKURA.................... shes not even deeper than she seems if you HAVE EYEBALLS. WHICH APPARENTLY THIS FANDOM DOES NOT. LOL <- most passive aggressive lol in the history of lols. literally everybody ever is so wrong about sakura and the situation is actively dire its either "shes a bitch and annoying and a STUPID GIRL for [xyz stupid reason]" or "well im going to FIX sakura by making her a cardboard cutout #girlboss with three personality traits i think are generically cool on there and completely eviscerating her canonical personality and relationships because um well shes too annoying/stupid/useless/girly/whatever" its not even fine. the situation is dire. every time somebody complains about sakura i become further cemented in my opinion that she's never done anything wrong in her life ever. but the complaining aside shes srsly so important shes so good. i love her so much. like we've already talked about this a bit but it makes me srsly crazy insane her sense of responsibility for things that arent her fault (see trying to kill sasuke at the bridge) and i love her easily irritable nature and how much she cares like her fake confession to naruto is srsly biblical sakura moment and of course speaking of her relationship to naruto is seriously ITS SOOOO GOOODDDDDD like they are srsly best friends in the whole world and its so sickening theyre so cute and so good and so important like the progression from "the kid who everybody hates is obsessed with me and i need him to knock it off Now" to "my best friend whose chest i would cut open to massage his heart just to keep him alive" IS SERIOUSLY CRAZY INSANEEEEEEEEE ITS SO GOOD........... ITS SO EVERYTHING.............. ITS SO SO SO IMPORTANT. TO ME. and its honestly devastating kishimoto didnt give her and kakashi more scenes together if im being truly honest but their relationship too is soooooo soooo so cutiepie shes literally his special little girl............. anyways sakura i love you i love you so much sorry i wouldve probably typed more but ive been running around since 3:30 am and im about to crash. if im being real
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2024 is the year I have slowly lost my love and respect for Taylor Swift.
I love Taylor for her music and the person I thought she was and in a way I still love her, but in 2023-2024 it feels like the person who I thought I loved isn't the person who I thought she was. And I just began to lose my respect for her. Here are some examples of how I've lost my respect for Taylor as a person.
Not one word of support for Palestine. Not even wearing a Artists for Palestine pin. She went out of her way in speaking out against Trump and Blackburn, but she can't tweet or speak out ONE ounce of support for Palestine. Instead she entered her Football girlie for one of the most racist cultural appropriating football teams since the Washington Redskins during her Bread & Circus era.
And before anyone says "what about other artists" I direct you to this
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Yes more artists should speak up, not just Taylor. Billie Eilish should speak up. Olivia Rodrigo should speak up, Miley Cyrus, Beyonce, Halsey, Lorde and more should speak up for Palestine. Taylor Swift is one of the biggest names in the industry, if not the biggest and one word from her and her thousands to millions and billions of fans will show their support for Palestine and demand a ceasefire. Like I don't know how else to explain how vital it is to use your voice as an artist and a huge platform as Taylor has.
She stopped speaking up for the LGBTQA+ community in 2021. She had all Pride month to speak up and could've used the Eras tour to speak up for us, especially in states that were heavily anti-trans and anti drag queen. But she didn't. Instead she propped up her precious racist Matty fucking Healy. She can have Trans performers in her music video and drag queens, but she can't speak up for them?
Taylor the climate criminal, need I say more?
Taylor the Billionaire. No one person should have this amount of money and it needs to be talked about more and honestly Taylor in 2024 is starting to feel like the female Elon Musk.
Questionable associations. David O'Russell. You can't tell me with a straight face that Taylor's team do not run background checks. Either they didn't do said checks or they did and Taylor did not care and would tarnish her image to work with a predator just for an Oscar. The Matty Healy fling. A brief fling and it was brief because everyone showed their complete disgust and contempt for it. Brittany and Jackson Mahomes friendship. Jackson is on video assaulting a woman. Taylor is a SA survivor. Brittany told the victim to "get over it" Taylor is shown high fiving Jackson, Taylor is shown for months with Brittany despite being a SA apologist and even having dinner with Brittany after the charges are dropped. Revolting. Taylor doesn't care about SA unless it's about her or how it can benefit her.
Continued silence on important issues when she said she would use her platform and voice. BLM? Nothing. Abortion/women's rights? Nothing. LGBTQA+ rights? Nothing. Palestine, absolutely nothing not even the bare minimum. The closest she'll get to using her platform is telling her fans to vote. Nothing but the bare minimum white feminist centrist rhetoric.
Ever since the countdown to Midnights and Midnights' release, the vibes I got from Taylor were not good. And something just felt off. 2023 and 2024 was just a mask off for Taylor and showing us who she really is and that she isn't who we thought she was.
And before anyone comes at me and says "Taylor is not an activist" yes, but she specifically made Miss Americana to tell her fans she would use her platform and voice to speak out more on important issues. She has done nothing. At this point I wish Miss Americana was never made, and I'm pretty sure Taylor wishes she never made it as many of her fans are disappointed in her silence throughout the years.
At best, Taylor is a coward. At worse, Taylor doesn't care beyond the glass house she has built her career on.
At this point all it feels like is she cares about the fame of her success and from her relationship with Travis and the profit of her brand and nothing else. Nothing about her is authentic, everything is performative. It's all about control and profit to Taylor Swift. It feels as though she's ostracized everyone in her audience who isn't white or heterosexual and made it clear we need to find a new guiding light and I think we should.
And in her own words she is telling us who she is
“i just think it’s so frilly and spineless of me to stand up here and say ‘happy pride month!!’ while people are coming for their necks.”
"My entire moral code is a need to be thought of as good"
" Spineless in my tomb of silence "
'I never had the courage of my convictions, as long as danger was near.'
"I've never heard silence quite this loud"" You should find another guiding light "
"You're on your own kid"
"Do something, babe, say something" (Say something)
"Lose something, babe, risk something" (You're losing me)
"Choose something, babe, I got nothing" (I got nothing)
Despite all this, I still love her and will continue reblogging gifsets, but I am done defending everything she does and intend to hold her accountable because when you love someone you just have to point out when they are wrong and just have to hold out hope they will be a better person, even if that hope is so very low.
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Look, I don't actually hate or even necessarily dislike religious women; they are victims of patriarchy, too, just like the rest of us, and I firmly believe that radical feminism is beneficial to all women and probably attracts most of us for roughly the same reasons. BUT that doesn't mean that I appreciate religious women posting their religiosity onto my posts. All patriarchal religions as a rule have some pretty misogynistic teachings in them, and adding a bunch of stuff about God in there makes it pretty easy for conservative men to appropriate my posts to reinforce their patriachal worldviews, even if you don't necessarily agree with them yourself. These men don't want the sex trade to end because of the abuses committed in it to women; they just see those women as "dirty" and "tainted" and don't want them to cause them to be "tempted." They don't want to abolish gender as a hierarchical system designed to oppress women; on the contrary, they wish to enforce it, and their main beef with genderism is that they think it allows people to follow the "wrong" gender roles, not that it rigidly reinforces the idea that women have to be one way and men have to be another. And inserting God into radfem posts? Yeah, conservative men see that. Religious talk is their usual schtick; they know that if they use the "God" angle to insert themselves and their male worldview into the conversation, they can mess it up from the inside. They can undermine the entire point. I can already think of at least two different conservative men whom this has happened with, and they have taken loads of credit away from feminist women who actually had those ideas first, and then twisted them into something sexist instead. Remember, ladies, feminism is for women. Now, I'm not going to argue with anyone over whether God does or does not exist, or what sex God is, or anything like that. That sounds pointless and unnecessarily divisive without hard proof any which way, and I don't want my blog to be about that. But what I will say is that, regardless of what any of you (or even I) may or may not believe, theologically speaking, I still feel that it's important to me on this blog to approach radical feminism from a more or less secular point of view, and I would like things to stay that way. You don't have to agree with me, but please respect my boundaries about this. Thank you for your consideration.
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This is by no means a positive or "super dramatic art" with my mascot. I dedicated this drawing to the disaster that happened yesterday, and in this art I put my emotions and everything that I feel about the current situation in my country, and probably in the world as a whole.
Not many of you know or have heard about the terrorist attack on 03/22/2023 in "Crocus City Hall", Moscow. To put it briefly: two masked men broke into the building and opened fire on people, and later there was a fire. It is known that now about 93 people have turned out to be dead, and some also a large number of people are injured. You can read more about everything in open sources.
It is infinitely painful for me to watch world conflicts and violence, to know that animal cruelty reigns in the world towards each other. It also hurts me unbearably to understand that my country and my people are considered cruel bastards who only know the principle of "Kill or be killed", and do not even think that you do not think so. Of course, I'm not talking about ALL people, and I know for sure that many people have a different opinion and a different position, but it still hurts me that at some point in my life I may be called a murderer or an accomplice to something terrible, just because I am Russian.
In addition to the external negativity, my people also face great injustice towards us from our government. Not many of you know that there is no law on domestic violence in Russia, that the LGBT community, and now the feminist community, has been recognized as extremism, and that at least LGBT people are forcibly "treated for their ailment." And I've listed only a small part of everything that's going on here, and I'm not talking about how all this shit affects adults, as well as children.
I wish there was just peace and harmony, that people loved each other, respected, appreciated. I wish I could just have the fucking blue sky above my head and know that no one is suffering, that there are no world conflicts and wars, and just fucking enjoy this fucking short life. I just fucking want to live, not exist.
I'm sorry for a lot of emotions and opinions that no one asked me for, and I'm sorry if I offended someone with my words, but I had to speak out, and not be silent like a fool in a rag and endure shit.
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Dear Caroline:
By the time you will be reading this, is you are doing it with any synchronicity with my writing, it should be New Year in the States, so allow me to begin with the best wishes for the coming 365 days. May they bring peace, closure and the satisfaction and happiness you deserve.
Confucius gives a disproportionate importance in the Analects to the rectification of names, that is to say, that things and names should match the traditional meanings, expectations and social roles and realities with which they were associated. I bring this up because while you are being edgelordy and provocative in this rescued, youthful post of yours, and opening yourself to misinterpretation, much of this is generated by the meanings we imbue in words. I am pretty sure you both were and are a feminist for a definition of it as a movement that advocates equal rights for both sexes predicated on a general equality between them, and in other posts, you've given clear evidence of this type of belief. But words have many meanings, and acquire many more through their social use, and the feminism you seem to be reacting against is more an systematic ideology, or collection of ideologies, mostly associated with the Social Justice Warrior Left, the intellectual apparatus they've created (patriarchy, ecofeminism, strong social constructionism) and their inquisitorial and sectarian practices in society. One of the consequences of the latter is that some areas have become axiomatic and beyond the pale of any discussion, and get you tagged automatically as 'worse than Hitler'. This has also happened with genetics to a point, and is probably a sad but inevitable swing of the pendulum in the opposite direction of previous obnoxious practices and beliefs.
Yes, there are true things that one cannot talk about without provoking a storm of rage, which is really sad, but it is what it is. You know more than I'll ever do from your experience about boy and girl differences in math clubs, and have probably read some research; I haven't, but just assuming some plausibility for the argument, one could think of many possible explanations, and the truth is probably some mixtures of nature and nurture. one common argument that is made is that although distribution of intelligence in the genders is pretty similar, the tails are more accentuated for men, and that would explain what you talk about. Perhaps women are less wired for STEM, but this lack of wiring might be partially in-built or socially constructed - I haven't read studies about it so either option, or some degree of combination of the two seem reasonable.
And I am really sorry you'd have to tiptoe around what you feel as the truth - we live in a partially fallen world. My take from your post is a respect and admiration for your prioritizing truth and your tact at being able to adjust to different scenarios. A second, lesser takeaway, is how much you people seem to love the word 'shibboleth'.
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So little trouble do men take in the search after truth; so readily do they accept whatever comes first to hand.
Thucydides
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loves-em · 8 months
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CASUAL STUDENT EXCHANGE WORRIES (MILD)
I do stuff. Not rarely, at that. Said stuff is me being part of any school project I can get my hands on. There's many reasons for that, but that's not going to be the point of this post.
Currently, one project is most intense; the student exchange program.
So many preparations going on right now! My city in Germany has a partnership with one in Ireland, and my grade school is partnered with their boys' secondary school. I already went to Ireland in spring and stayed with a great family there. Incredible people that made me feel so comfortable. On Friday, my "host brother" (we will call him A.) will come over to Germany and stay with my family for about 9 days.
I'm worried.
Our house is all tidied up with very little exceptions, but it's natural for it to be a bit messy when a whole family lives there after all. But that's not what worries me, it won't bother him much.
We had to clean up my little brothers room because A. will sleep there, my brother will stay at his dad's. So A is staying in someone else's room. But I don't worry about that either. He's going to be okay.
I worry about us.
I had a conversation with him when I stayed at A's. It was one about capitalism and socialism. I had learned about it in school and A. hadn't yet, so he asked me to explain core principles, some pros and cons, too. A simple task, just like in class, really. When he figured out I was a socialist after I told him something along the lines of "personally, that's one of the main reasons I prefer socialism", he stopped me in my tracks because 'I'm biased'. I told him anyone he could ask is biased and that I'm trying to make it as neutral as possible. He didn't want to continue the conversation and, against my wishes, we switched topics.
Now I'm incredibly worried. What if I say something feminist or socialist and or something against racism or homophobia? He's not homophobic or transphobic (confirmed), I doubt he's racist as well. But I don't know if he's the type to say "Feminism is cringe, women have it so easy", it's not something we talked about intensely yet. Also, I know he (working class family) is a hardcore capitalism stan (class traitor!). He's a great guy personality wise, always respectful, too! But I don't know if I want someone like that in my house if he's a class traitor or anti-feminist.
Maybe his views have changed, maybe I can convince him of other things eventually. I desperately want to stay friends, but that's as unsustainable as capitalism if we do stay friends under these circumstances. A meme that reminds me of this:
1: "We can disagree and still be friends."
2: "Yes bitch, about Pizza topping not human rights!"
I guess there's nothing for me to do but wait until A's here. In the meantime, there's homework to do and tests to study for.
If anyone reading this (no one will haha) has advice, do tell!
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Genderism To Female Angels Is Apparently A Thing...(I’m Not Really Surprised...)
[Note: Reading This Is Optional...so only read this post if you want to, but after I post this, I’m gonna write a theory about Kris from Deltarune. also this will be for Mature Audience Only, So Not For Kids. also please don’t reblog this without permission.]
so yeah, ya know how their is that whole Males that think they are more important than Females, well it’s not like some Toxic-Feminist are doing any favors by being just as bad as some Toxic-Males in this world, in my view, both Toxic-Males and Toxic-Females pretty much suck....
but anyway it is thanks to a video I found on Youtube, that talks about how there are Female Angels, but of course it talks about those who say that there is only “Male Angels”, which what do you suspect when it is Toxic-Masculine Humans who try to make females, both human and angel, to be not as important as their male counterparts.
talk about a “boys only club” that pretty much is just full of Toxic-Masculine energies....there is a reason I had to use the word “genderism” in this instead of the other word, some might understand why that is, but anyway besides that.
the point is, that there is some form of discrimination to Female Angels.
and I know that I am the only Earth Angel (Defective type) that is Nonbinary, I don’t really know if there are other Earth Angels who are Nonbinary or not, or if there are, I haven’t been able to find any info that shows there are other Nonbinary Earth Angels.
plus in this modern age, there wouldn’t just be Female Angels that are shown gender inequality, but also those who are Nonbinary.
the video I found out about that talks about Female Angels, is called “Proof there are FEMALE ANGELS. The concept that there are only male angels is Debunked!!” and it was uploaded by someone called Jail THEOLOGY.
not everyone has to go check that out, and I guess if some want to, they can, but it’s okay that not everyone checks that out, only do so if ya want, it is optional.
also if it is true that Jesus had a younger twin sister, which this talk has to do with something I wanted to look up and then found out there is some info that talks about the whole what-if type talk if he had a younger twin sister...
and I got curious and decided to use my pendulum to ask about it, and I was given a clockwise fast for “Yes”, so it is either true or it is on one of those prank kicks and it could be pulling a prank on me.
but it could be possibly true, but if it does turn out to be true, this could mean that Jesus’s baby twin sister, had become a victim of the gender inequality.
why is it only the Father, Son and Holy Spirit...?
why isn’t the Mother and Daughter isn’t included...?
(even if it turns out those two are only included in some beliefs.)
it might have to do with the inequality of the Feminine energies.
I know I got trust issues now that has to do with Masculine Angels (both who are Fallen Angels and the ones who aren’t Fallen....) and I think there can only be some Masculine Angels I can trust, but not all of them.
also I would like to mention that, ya know about the four horsemen, correct...?
well I decided to add them to the list, of those who I wish I could punch in the groin. even if it is more of a wishful type list and I know it might not be possible.
but half of those who are on the list, are humans and some are male angels...
Mammon is still at the top of the list, and he probably knows why...
also I had decided to add Dunkle Cain’s Possible Bio-Dad to the list...
Cain and Seth are technically brothers, and if their descendants ended up marrying each other a few generations later, that makes them both Grand-Dunkles, being a mix of a Dad and Uncle.
also yeah, like I pointed out before, at least I think I might of mentioned it...
both Cain and Abel are also on that list, Abel isn’t exactly innocent either.
at least the info about Pagan’s way, seems a bit more respectful of the balance, and not use animals like what Abel did.
you NEVER use a animal in that kind of sacrifice, because it is disgusting and wrong, and what Abel was doing was just that.
and it doesn’t help that Cain wasn’t given the proper emotional help that he needed before it became too late, and his depression both his spiritual and emotional depression, I mean.
ended up reaching a very dangerous breaking point where it ended up mixing with some very dangerous negative energies.
plus if you think about it, Cain was technically not the first to take a life.
and if a certain about Adam and Lilith prove to be true, then it could be possible that Adam could be seen as one....
but then there is the fact that there were other humans besides Adam, Lilith and Eve, that were part of different human tribes, and had those Staff Groups...
and then there is the info that has to do with Lucifer having been the Planetary Prince, well he is a former Planetary Prince now I think.
then there is the theory I have that has to do with Lilith, having been Onya from that book that was by Timothy Wyllie (and Watcher Angel Georgia)
and if this theory proves true, this would mean that Lilith had a childhood before she was made to be Adam’s wife, she use to be a kid and who over time, grew, and had a bond with some large birds I think...?
the info about some large creatures in that book, I think they were called Founders...? shown that they had formed a bond with the girl called Onya.
who I believe could of been Lilith, before she she was abducted and taken to be Adam’s wife.
but for all we know, it could be possible that Lilith was gravely wounded, thanks to the one who wanted to get rid of her, and had lied that it was the birds that had done her in, despite the bond they formed.
it might be possible that the trauma done to Lilith, had made her forget who her original self was, and she was made to believe she was only just created and had no childhood or past that was outside of Eden.
not everyone has to agree about this theory, but I believe it could possibly be true.
when Lilith was still Onya, or like her original self before she was taken to Eden, she likely had trusted someone who was in on the whole plan to get rid of her.
she was gravely wounded and was close to death’s door, but it might be possible she was healed but also abducted and taken to Eden, to be made to be a obedient wife, and there was that problem with the three angels who tried to force her to go back to Adam against her will, even if it does turn out that the Heavenly Father had told those three jerks not to do so, and only let her come back by her own free-will.
when the Goddess was wrongly dethrone, during the Indo-European Days, it is possible it caused a imbalance between the Masculine and Feminine Energies.
so it makes sense that those who are influenced by the Toxic-Masculine energy, would believe there is only Male Angels, and there are no Female Angels.
even if the video that talks about the debunking about the whole “there is only male angels” thing....but it also brings up about Transgender, which it could be possible that some Angels (not just 100% Humans) could become Transgender.
like having been originally created to be “Male” but feeling that doesn’t match who they are on the inside, and they prefer to be called she/her and feel they are more of a Female Angel than a Male Angel.
and the same can be said for those who feel more like a Male Angel than a Female Angel.
also I think I should talk about Transformers: EarthSpark, in the next post before I talk about the theory about Kris from Deltarune, so after this, I need to talk about Transformers: EarthSpark.
because it will have to do with some dirty shisno, that of course got a problem with some elements in it, yeah well, this Earth Angel has a problem with jerky shisno humans who.......yeah, anyway saving that for that post that will come next after this...
anyway, we know there is that whole male superiority, and there is only some males in this world, as well as some nonbinary-men & enboys, who are better than some of the males who got a bit too much toxic-masculine energy in them.
and there are some females, who are full of toxic-feminine energy, but thankfully, it isn’t as high as the toxic-masculine energy, but that doesn’t mean it is still not a problem.
it is good that the video can acknowledge that there are Female Angels, because there are some Male and Female Humans in this world, that might not accept it as the truth, and only believe that there is Male Angels only.
and if there doesn’t seem that many Female Angels, maybe it is because they choose to live on Earth, and become Grandmothers, Aunts, Mothers and Sisters.....well maybe not all of them, and some still live in the ethereal realm.
also, it might be a weird thought, I had a thought about wanting to take two pieces of bread, and place them on each side of the Horseman called Famine’s face, like placing each part of the bread on each side of their face.
but then that might not be a good idea, and it might be better to use like fake bread for it, like maybe like plush bread as a substitute.
I think it was a few days ago when I had those thoughts....
they and the other three, are still staying on that list I had made...
anyway, finding out about the video that talks about how there are Female Angels, and how it debunks the whole there only being Male Angels.
it just shows that there is some form of gender inequality and it doesn’t seem all that surprising to me, if it can happen in the mortal realm, then it can happen in the ethereal realm.
also as weird as it might be, I think I still would want to grab both the Antichrist and Jesus by their ears if they cross lines they shouldn’t...
even if I can still believe in Jesus, well the good side of him.
and yeah, he is technically family, because we are both descendants of King David, but lucky I’m on the side that isn’t allowed to take that throne, cause once again, being a descendant of King Solomon and his son, who is named Rehoboam, is more of a blessing than a curse.                                                  
and I guess it doesn’t really matter that my soul being born was either a surprise or accident, I think I have accepted it, and I know I don’t really work 100% the same as other Earth Angels.....though, maybe that is a good thing.
plus I use gems now, to help protect myself, as well as use as sealing charms and limiters, and my needing to use them for sealing charms and limiters, partly has to do with the whole freaky stuff that started to happen right after my starting to use the pendulum, like anything I hold with just my fingers, like a pen or bottle of pop, and probably would happen with a bottle of water as well...
it would start to move like my pendulum when I start to think either clockwise or circle, and the only time that the program for the gems had broken, to act as sealing charms and limiters for that little thing, was when I had to take off one of my gem bracelets, because it had started to become a bit too snug.
so I had to re-do the whole food salt thing, and prayer, and make sure the gem bracelets still worked as sealing charms and limiters, even if some of them are taken off for long periods of time.
of course I am still wearing them, but because of some other reasons, I had to take some of them off again.
I also tried to double check just now to see if it is still working, and so far it is still working, but I think it has this type of trembling thing....like maybe it has to do with how it still works, but the items will still try to move either clockwise or circle.
I know I will still have moments, where I will need to take my gem bracelets off.
but I still rather keep them on the rest of the time, when I don’t have the moments where I need to take them off.
plus even if some might not believe in it, and I’m not sure if it will work for everyone, but I guess my using gems for sealing charms and limiters, might be seen as a modern way.
but I’m not sure if it would work for everyone, I mean I guess some could try it.
and yeah when I used the food salt, I had figured out it is best to hold both the food salt and gems together, and then I pray to both the Heavenly Father and Earthly Mother, then I would then sit the gems with the food salt on them, close to a window, or I guess I could sit them anywhere I guess, I also put them on a paper towel, cause well, there is the food salt.
food salt that we eat, is the best I can do of course.
anyway I can wait a few hours to get it, and once I do, I will need to clean some of the salt off of my gems, and then throw the leftover salt away that ends up still being on the paper towel.
it might seem weird, but not everyone has to agree with it.
plus food salt is a great substitute so far, I don’t really have that Holy Salt stuff.
though I guess in theory, food salt could possibly become Holy Salt through prayer, that is a theory and could be seen as a possibility.
anyway, besides using gems to act as sealing charms and limiters, I also want to use them to heal me and help fix what might become broken.
like if someone has moments where, they might feel a certain way on the inside, like not really feeling happy or mad or sad, or whatever type of feeling that might be in the place, that might not make sense to some, but I wont force others to try to understand.
oh yeah, and that freaky thing with the radio is still happening. 
I think it ends up being different at times, like the single being good, but then when I start to get my hand close to it and even point the fingers to it, it starts to go from the green light on, to the green light being off and the single becomes not as great, which seems like the opposite of the other times, when the single seems poor but when I put my fingers close to it, it becomes better.
other times, it seems it acts normal and even if I do double check it, it seems I have no influence on it, so I think it only happens on certain times, like maybe only once in a while.
also, besides the whole Deer suppose to be my spirit animal...
is it possible that a person can have more than one spirit animal...?
well, maybe I can talk about that theory another time.
still gonna jokingly call myself “The Radio Earth Angel”, which once again that freaky thing with the radio, still reminds me of Alastor from Hazbin Hotel.
but at least it isn’t fully like his powers, thank goodness for that. XD 
anyway maybe that video I found, is in a way, pointing out how those who believe there are only Male Angels, are being full of Toxic-Masculinity, that would possibly go for both the Male and Female Humans, even if the video doesn’t really say that those who believe there is only male angels are full of toxic-masculinity, but in my point of view, it does seem that those who think there can’t be any female angels, could be infected by the toxic-masculine energy.
if some people can be infected by the toxic-feminine energy, than the same can be said for those who are infected by the toxic-masculine energy.
anyway not everyone has to agree with this, I don’t believe in force converting, and if some want to convert, it should be of their own free will and accord.
and using aggressive or passive-aggressive means, is wrong.
and even saying that if ya don’t convert to the religion, ya will end up going to hell, oh, and let’s not forget misusing the words “may god have mercy on you.” or “may the lord have mercy on you.” just because ya believe in a Goddess.
well I’m pretty sure I did point out that I still believe in God, but because of reasons I started to believe in a Goddess now as well.
I think what happen a few years ago, when some toxic-religious jerk kept throwing those misused words at me, that might count as toxic-religious trauma.
and like I pointed out before, I ended up having my feelings hurt and started to cry, and even when I did pointed that out, they kept throwing those words at me, yeah....they really should of at least tried to understand what they were doing was not helping and they were being a dirty shisno and a jerk.
plus a person doesn’t need to be religious or spiritual to end up being hurt by a toxic-religious person or group, that will end up causing emotional and spiritual harm to someone or others, and cause toxic-religious trauma.
and yeah, like I pointed out before, I had to block that toxic-religious jerk who kept throwing those misused words at me, of course at the time, I don’t think I had realized that the words they kept throwing at me, were being misused.
I know my feelings were being hurt really badly, and I was crying.
but no matter how many times I had tried to point this out, they just kept throwing those misused words at me, probably thinking they were “helping” and “saving me” when really they weren’t....
I just want to hope that I don’t run into them again, I can’t remember the name they went by before over at the place where it hall happen, and I guess it is fine that I don’t remember the name they went by during that time.
it might be possible that toxic-religious jerks actions, had caused me to dislike toxic-religious jerks that cross the lines, there can possibly be different levels of it.
and how they hurt me, and possibly others they have hurt, had caused some form of toxic-religious trauma, though if some info about my past lives go, they really wouldn’t be the first to cause my soul some toxic-religious trauma...
not everyone has to believe it, but it can be possible that toxic-religious trauma can also happen in your past life, and perhaps more than just one of them.
and of curse, Toxic-Satanist will be included in those past life traumas....
note to self, add Toxic-Satanist to that list, along with some Toxic-Nuns and Toxic-Priests/Pastors/Preachers that act inhumanly and had crossed lines they shouldn’t of....
even if the list is more of a wishful type list that is the type that shows a list of those I wish I could punch in the groin, but I know I might not be able to.
but it is like, a list to get some feelings out, ya know....
anyway, it’s fine that not everyone ends up reading this.
but I want to point out, that it is a good thing that video points out about how there are Female Angels, and how it debunk the whole there being only male angels thing.....it just doesn’t seem right, and it’s good that more humans are coming to the realization that something is wrong with the whole “all angels are male and there is no female angels”...
I also believe it is possible there are other life forms besides humans that are out there, it just doesn’t make sense if humans are the only ones who are sentient, and there can be other worlds out there with humanoid life.
I mean, I do find a character like Garrus Vakarian from Mass Effect, attractive. he kind of has this attractive voice, and yeah I find some of the male aliens from Mass Effect to be attractive, even the Quarian ones, and ya can’t really see what they look like when they wear those helmets.
and I could probably make a list of reasons why I had found myself, not feeling as attracted to real life humans, and only find some CGI-Humans and some 2D-Humans attractive.
yes, even though I am Aroaceflux, I can still feel some form of being attracted to those that I might end up getting a small crush on....
of course one of those small crushes, happens to be Doctor Deep from Sonic Prime, still gonna view him as a Egg-Himbo.
and for all I know, I might end up getting a small crush on Megatron.
well, it’s not like there wont be other fans who end up having a small or big crush on Megatron.
also besides my view on Doctor Deep being a Egg-Himbo, I’m still gonna view Eggman from Sonic Boom, as a Egg-Himbo as well. 
anyway, I’m still glad that video talks about the whole there being female angels, and also debunking the whole there being only male angels.
once again, checking that video out is optional, and it’s okay not everyone watches it, and who knows, maybe there will be a video that talks about the theory about Jesus’s younger twin sister, and how it might be possible that she could end up having descendants, which might not be correct but it is just a theory that she could possibly have descendants....
anyway with that said, and I really don’t have much to say in this post other than the stuff that I already said in this post....
I’m going to get to writing my thoughts about Transformers: EarthSpark, as well as the human jerks that seem to have a problem with some of the elements in it, then after that I will get to work on the theory about Kris from Deltarune.                                                                                                     
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hey I'm fairly new to Tumblr (not a minor tho lol, just behind the times) and I was wondering if blogs usually have a theme within a theme?
Like, at a glance I saw yours is about trans people and feminism, specifically the problems biological women have, but do you also speak on other feminist issues?
Idk. I wholeheartedly believe in feminism, and there are some men who call themselves trans who do horrible things (and you're right for talking about them) but also I feel like you're using your platform to demonize transgender people.
Wasn't the argument that "all XYZ group wants to do is sexually assault kids" used against lgbtq people for forever? Non-white people too?
I guess my main concern is that you seem like a really smart and justice-driven person, and I respect that you fight for what you believe in— I just wish you would think about how you argue your points.
Stay safe out there. Stay true
hi! first off, thank you for being so polite.
i do actually talk about other feminist issues! some of them include: porn, prostitution, surrogacy, fgm, and general misogyny that women face in all aspects of our lives.
you're right though, a lot of my blog is dedicated to talking about transgender people. this isn't to "demonize" them, as that word implies im making things up or exaggerating. i simply try to talk about things as they are in our current world. the transgender movement is a serious threat to women's rights - hell, it's not even a threat, it's an active corroding force. if you're interested in learning more about why, i and other radfems/rad-adjacent feminists would be happy to explain.
you're also correct that same-sex attracted people have been called pedophiles throughout history. however, i'm not really sure where you pulled the idea that i'm calling all trans people pedos. i do reblog stuff about confirmed trans pedophiles - but those are individuals. as for your comment about non-white people being called pedophiles: racism and homophobia are different forces, and i feel that i can't speak on the racism aspect.
i thank you for your compliments, and i think you seem like a thoughtful and intellectually curious person as well. however, please understand that i have done a lot of thinking about my beliefs, and that none of my critiques of trans people or patriarchy are accidental.
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girlboss-enthusiast · 2 years
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So. I do not consider myself a radfem, TERF, or even gender critical. However, I have found myself reading more and more posts from radfem accounts and I'm kinda scared to say that they're starting to make more and more sense. I still support trans people, and most of the ones i've met are genuinely nice people that I wish all the best. However. I just dont buy into everything thats being said about including trans women who have not fully transitioned (aka no top/bottom surgery, hormones, etc) into women's bathrooms. I also feel ( no matter how hard I try to deny it) uncomfortable at the thought of letting trans women into lesbian bars, because its unfair of women to show forced attraction to literally the thing they came out as not being attracted to? Does that even make sense? Im confused, and worried, because most of my friends are very liberal an dsome are even trans/non binary/genderfluid, etc. and as much as I love all of them, Im starting to see things that they say or do that just dint make sense and seem suprisingly like something the media has brainwashed them into believeing and parroting. Idk what Im looking for- clarification? Reassurance? A horrible response so I can go back to hating/being against "TERFS"? Sorry for the long ask.
Hi anon! You totally make sense. I think a lot of us now-radfems had very similar experiences. I know I did. I'm no feminist scholar, but I do like to babble talk, so I'm going to give you my perspective on your points, then some resources that might help you sort things out. Though I am not going to touch on philosophical topics like postmodernism because frankly, I'm still trying to understand the details myself. First off, I know trans people whom I like very much. I used to ID as nonbinary and I still have friends from that time period who are pro-gender ideology. I don't think that individual trans people are evil, want to cause harm, or are intrinsically bad people. Personally, I approach the groups of trans people and Trans Rights Activists differently; the former are regular people who are doing their best to survive, like most of us. The latter are the ones pushing gender ideology into the public view and causing harm. There is considerable overlap, but this Venn diagram is not a perfect circle, so I'm being super-specific for clarity's sake. That said, some radfems genuinely do hate all trans people. I disagree with this, as you can see*. I take what I semi-jokingly call the JKR stance on trans people: many of them are good people. All of them deserve absolutely every human right that anyone else does, including respect, protection from violence, and medical care.
But there's a phrase that goes something like "Your rights end where they encroach on mine." That is my problem with gender ideology and the trans rights movement. Because proponents of gender ideology and trans rights are genuinely encroaching on women's rights. They are passing legislation to change the definitions of gender to be based on feelings and not on any material facts, suppressing not just the needs but the very existence of biological women.
Your mentions of lesbian bars and women's bathrooms are perfect examples—the eradication of female-only spaces in favor of ones inclusive of trans women (males). Women are being de-centered from womanhood—not just in feminism, or even in pop culture, but in the experience of being female and having female-specific needs.
So, why is this problematic? (PS: I don't know how much radical feminist theory you've read, so apologies if you're already familiar with these concepts.)
Female socialization begins at birth (or even before) and consists mainly of the stereotypes of femininity being enforced on us. This socialization is part of what creates the divide between the oppressed and the oppressor. This is true regardless of when a person transitions; they could be ten years old and still will have lived 10 years being treated as their biological sex. This is just true, regardless of what anyone says. There are countless studies on the topic, which I can link you if you want, and of course, our own lived experiences—females are treated differently (worse) than males, and it starts before girls can even consciously realize it.
So, females want our own spaces because we have different needs, for physical and social reasons, and those are being taken away. This isn't ~TERF hysteria~ but objectively true; males want into our space and society is being convinced to let them have it. In fact, I would argue that trans-identified males (trans women) are appropriating oppression for claiming discrimination when females assert boundaries for their female-only spaces. It is fundamentally unfair to expect women to drop their boundaries to be inclusive of males.
(oh god I wrote literal paragraphs on other material consequences of gender ideology...not posting them now but can share if you're interested)
You also mention that you've noticed your friends parroting ideas that don't make sense to you. You aren't imagining that or making things up. The words "groupthink" and "thoughtcrimes" get thrown around a lot, but I really do believe there is a massive suppression of critical thinking or even asking good-faith questions about gender ideology going on—you are socially punished for questioning it, and sometimes legally punished. So, many of your friends may be supporting TRAs out of fear. Some might feel powerful because of it and be happy where they are. Some might buy into gender ideology because it's easier than thinking critically about these concepts—I was like that for a long time. Gender ideology gave me nice, pat rationalizations about my own feelings, cushioned me from acknowledging the reality of misogyny, and provided a friend group based on the queer community. But it is fundamentally not true, and I decided I care more about truth than my own emotional comfort.
(That said, it did take me years to come to this conclusion, so I empathize very much with women who also take time.)
So what I'm trying to say here is that your concerns are valid. I encourage you very much to do your own research and form your own opinions on the topic of gender. Contrary to what some TRAs say, reading or watching radfem content is not going to brainwash you. For all I know, you'll think, "wow, this is bullshit." (I suspect not, but you never know.)
Regardless, learning about radical feminism will inform you, and you can take what you've learned and decide what to do with it. Please remember that you are a smart woman who doesn't need to adhere to the gospel of any community because they say so.
(And for what it's worth, I've found radical feminist communities to be much more open to differing opinions and debate than queer communities ever were.)
Here are some resources:
Material Girls: Why Reality Matters for Feminism - Kathleen Stock (I adore this book. She has a very measured take on the topic and concentrates on the impacts of gender ideology as a whole rather than on individual cases.)
JKR's infamous essay, if you haven't read it
Detransition: Beyond Before and After - Max Robinson (A tentative rec because I only just started reading it, but it's an account of a woman who underwent transition due to dysphoria, then detransitioned as she discovered radical feminism. Short summary of a complex book, but it might be worth reading.)
Good luck, anon! Please feel free to DM me or send me another ask if you'd like. I 1000% will never out anyone who contacts me.
NB: Can any of my followers contribue video resources anon might find helpful?
*I want to acknowledge that as a 30-something bi woman in a long-term het relationship who doesn't do much social media (or even interact with many people IRL), I haven't been exposed to the bigotry, hate, and occasional physical violence that, for example, an early-20s lesbian might have. I'm sympathetic to women who've experienced this and understand their anger.
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female-malice · 2 years
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sorry you're getting attacked for not wanting to fuck every woman on earth. some very weird people on this site tbh.
i see top surgery no differently to nose jobs and bbls and lip fillers, etc. they're all done due to body dysphoria and they all are automatic turn offs to me. if women wanna get these surgeries then that's their decision, but me and my vagina don't owe any of them anything. i'd never be in a relationship with someone so mentally ill and insecure as to get cosmetic surgery of any sort. lesbians don't exist to be validation machines. we're allowed to be turned off. we're allowed to say no and have preferences.
i blame tumblr's "uwu soft girls let's hold hands" weird anti-sex homophobia for this. we're meant to be chaste and pure, otherwise we're objectifying women just like the men do. and that's why we're not allowed to go "actually i find the surgery you chose to get disgusting and will never let you touch me" without being called incels and monsters.
anyway, sorry idiots are trying to coerce and manipulate you into apologising for not being a community vagina. xoxo
Yes exactly!
I feel nothing sexually for Kim Kardashian. If Kim K started a tumblr and posted about getting coerced into plastic surgery, I still wouldn't feel attraction.
Breast implants are also uncanny valley to me. I love Azealia Banks and I used to find her super attractive. Apparently, wiry petite woman like Azealia aren't currently "trendy," but she's so gorgeous. And she raps about pussy. Of course I fell for her! But she did end up getting breast implants though. I never thought "oh AZ! I wish you didn't get implants! For my sake!" That's ridiculous! I love and respect her just as much as I always did. I'm just no longer attracted to her in the same way.
Anyway, you're 100% right about "uwu soft wlw" homophobia. They really have a fit whenever we talk about our sexual desire.
Lesbians have sex all the time. We think about sex all the time. Our sex drive is what brings us together! It's kind of important in that sense. If you look throughout history, a lot of historic lesbian leaders and heroines were highly sexual. They had a powerful drive to be with woman and a deep appreciation for lesbian romance. And that motivated them to improve life for all lesbians.
But lesbian sexuality is not about having sex with people you're not attracted to for "woke" points. Lesbian sexuality is about desire. We should be allowed to talk about desire. But whenever I talk about desiring women in the "wrong" way, I get labeled a misogynist. And the "wrong" way usually has to do with breasts for some reason. I don't know why feminists have so many hangups about breasts.
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sayitwityachest · 2 years
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Lesbians and Bi women have differing and specific experiences- this is indisputable and needs to be respected. However, some women use this fact as a shield to be grossly misogynistic and biphobic. One of the best examples is this weird obsession with bi women and whether or not they are attracted to or will date a man at some point. God I've seen so many fucking posts with lesbians crying about this shit and talking about how valid they are for the resulting distrust and/or disgust in bi women in general for an experience they had or-OR SOMETIMES LITERALLY DIDN'T HAVE.
Here's a funfact: I'm a bisexual woman and i've felt the misery and rage they describe towards other bi women for "choosing" men/boys over me. It's terrible, it's all consuming, and most of all, it's completely pathetic. Now, that's not to say it isn't understandable to feel that way, but it's another thing entirely to take those feelings and decide that it's the other woman's fault (or in this case, all bisexual women LOL). It's definitely easier for me as a bisexual to look over those feelings and figure out that they are unfair and unreasonable for me to have, it's definitely easier for me as someone who not only has, but listens to and values, female bi friends to know my insecurities are not truly founded, but come from the fact that we grow up in a heterosexist society that only shows opposite sex relationships as an option and stresses to women and girls how a man is the best and most important thing you can have in your life. But just because it might be easier for me to sort through those emotions, doesn't mean it's not terrible, and it certainly doesn't mean that lesbians shouldn't be expected to figure their shit out instead of taking it out on bi women.
I've seen other bi women chime into these conversations like "this has happened to me, it sucks" only to be very swiftly struck down with "this is not something you as a bisexual can understand." (Usually said with more scorn and mocking) It's almost funny to be honest, the way some bi women on here try time and time again to be "good bis" just to keep getting shit on. How do these lesbians know how bisexual women feel? It seems we are constantly told we have no idea how they feel, and i'd have to agree that i have no way of guessing what it's like to be a lesbian, the same way they have no idea what it's like to be me. I can however, read the feelings they describe and recognize those very feelings inside of me, the ones that i know are wrong and come from a place of self-loathing. I can know that because i feel such strong attraction and chemistry to women, i only want to be with them, so any reasoning of "well bisexuals cannot understand because they can ChOoSE a 'het' relationship and access all heterosexual privileges, so no they don't understand how this really feels" just shows how little they understand bisexuals and obviously biphobia. No bisexual can access all het privileges because we are fucking bisexual. It doesn't matter how repressed or closeted we are because those themselves are not heterosexual privileges (just one example). And i know damn well that I won't have any of those privileges because i cannot be with a man, i can't do it. There are many times i wish i were capable of it, but i just don't see it as a possibility.
All this to say, I'm really fucking tired of this shit. I'm tired of having my own feelings and experiences explained to me. I'm tired of supposed feminists exposing their own blatant hypocrisy again and again and everyone applauds it. I am so tired of these straight women on radblr who think it's okay to be biphobic. i'm just so tired of all this shit.
"log off" maybe. but it happens irl too, all the time, at least on here i can see what other bi feminists are thinking and take comfort in that.
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