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“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”

-Brianna Wiest, in Thought Catalog

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Happy for you Yuna!

I fell in love with my bestfriend. But he didn’t chase me. He had his doubts about me. Means he is careful about who he lets into his life. He didn’t whisper sweet nothings to my ears. But he will always answer my phone calls.  He doesn’t parade our relationship on social media.  I am not his shiny new toy. I am his hidden gem. He doesn’t put me first. He has his parents, his beautiful nieces and nephew, his siblings, his health, his life. He wasn’t jealous if I talk to my peers or work with other guys, he lets me grow. He didn’t care that I had 2 million followers. He knows all the 10 real friends I have and their names.  He can’t remember the title of my songs, but he remembers his niece’s birthday. He didnt forgo his friends for me. His friends were there for him when he needed them before i came into his life. He would never immediately agree to my thoughts. He tells me if im wrong. And when im right, he acknowledges it.

All this time I thought love was all about how a man should profess his love, flowers at my door, letters saying he’s in love, enslaving his entire being to me, but here is this person, who just wants to be sure he is the best man that he can be for himself, his family, and the world. And at the end of the day, he tells me all about it. All these things that he does or does not do, for some reason, he wants to share all of them with me. 

And at the end of our every conversation, he lets me know that he loves me too.

I am his best friend. And for that, I am the luckiest girl in the world.

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All these pretty little things ❤️ 🌹

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Had a chance to try out this shop over the weekend to get a little Bit of HK feel. #foodporn (at 香港仔車仔麵 HK Boy Cart Noodle)

#foodporn

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When I saw their Facebook post stated that today is their last day of sale, I was rather disappointed as I have not go and check out their factory yet but guess what hub got for me 😍 !! The remainder of Doraemon comic series ! Thank you so much @the_dream_above_you !! #doraemoncomics #toraamanclosingdown #toraamanclearancesale

#toraamanclearancesale #toraamanclosingdown #doraemoncomics

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Are you ready for something funky ? Here comes the spicy mango #cafehoppingmalaysia #funkydrinks (at 10 gram)

#funkydrinks #cafehoppingmalaysia

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" You may say I'm dreamer but I'm not the only one " - as sung by John Lennon #dreamcatchers #love #dreams

#love #dreams #dreamcatchers

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Vinyls player with the Beatles at home Never come into my mind that We are such an old soul but I am so glad that we both are . Old is gold .

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Hello you beautiful orhids, it's good to have some plants around . More orchids planted around Al-Bakri's court. #ourbodyspace #peaceofmind #zen (at Al Bakri Court)

#zen #ourbodyspace #peaceofmind

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Matcha ice cream - Reminiscing good old days in Japan. My first visit to the family mart Malaysia. I can tell how excited my parents are to walked into the family mart just now . (at MyTOWN Shopping Centre)

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Unicorn

<p>Photo Title : Unicorn Pop Cake <br> Photo Source : from iPhone 6<br> Date : 19 Mar 2017<br> Restaurant Name : NIL<br> Location : Solaris, KL

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#unicorn

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Forget about the age, you guys deserve a life as colorful as rainbow filled with lots of glitter dust and unicorn farts ! #🦄 #🌈 (at Solaris Mont Kiara)

#🌈 #🦄

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Post oncall meal 🍳 🍞 🥗 🍄 🥔 (at Antipodean, Menara Tan & Tan)

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The sunset , there are times we forget to look up upon the skies. I am glad that I look up and saw this mesmerising view . Don't forget to breathe . #throwback #scenery

#throwback #scenery

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Very much needed Refreshing lime juice after a walk at Jonker . #roadtrippin #roadtrip (at The Daily Fix Cafe)

#roadtrip #roadtrippin

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Oh oh now I Know ! #calantheartcafe #positivevibes (at Calanthe Art Cafe)

#positivevibes #calantheartcafe

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Good Morning Boost the Asian Dolce Latte way . (at Starbucks Malaysia)