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INFP/INTJ relationship compatibility

: the main problem is emotional incompatibility. INFPs need a partner who understands them and values their emotions, and INTJs are way too detached and self-absorbed to care about that. They show care in different ways, ofc. The real problem in my experience, is that the INTJ isn’t transparent about their agenda like the INFP, and they are able to manipulate and bend our lives to their Ni will, unconsciously leveraging on our Ni critic. INTJs can also be too slow, forgetful, and unassertive, which are not characteristics that make me feel secure and protected. 

On the other hand, INFPs are too emotional and irrational for the INTJs. When our emotional needs are unmet, Si child becomes selfish and out of control, therefore we get in the way of the INTJ’s endeavours and basically prevent them from getting what they’re after. To the detriment of the couple, not just of the INTJ. This leads to bad decision making and lack of mutual respect, in the long run. Then they become stuck in an unfulfilling relationship, isolate themselves from the rest of the world, and slowly kill each other. 

Ofc experiences may vary depending on the nurture of both, that’s just my experience and I don’t mean to discourage this pair necessarily. It may probably work out in other circumstances, like with every type combination - it’s not one size fits all.

ambra

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(Sometimes I worry that I fall into this category, but then I remember that most men instead call me the most reasonable and insightful woman they've met which is the polar opposite of argumentative…)

Men and women have been inversed. Masculine traits are discouraged in men and feminine traits are discouraged in women. So women become masculine and men become feminine. And they do so because they compliment each other and will always respond to each others' polarity.

A loudmouth masculine woman, if she has any sense will girlify herself right before your very eyes when you outmasculine her.

Just like there can only be one angry person in a conversation; forcing the other to want to de-escalate, If you overtake the role of masculine and you commit to it, you'll push her out of it.

Similarly if a girl is being feminine, but you are also persistently feminine, she'll take on the masculine role because she's reacting to the polarity of your interaction. Or, if she's self-aware, she'll walk away.

But self-aware women are incredibly rare. If you want a woman to stop being masculine, I'd recommend experimenting with outmanning her.

part 2

Thomas Begen Well for example if you treat a woman's words with too much weight, AKA, overreact to her words or take anything she says seriously, she will respond with a masculine frame; the one she believe you failed to take.

She will start to become dismissive and roll her eyes in response to YOUR words, which she was what she expected to happen, but since it didn't she has to take the masculine role, because order must be established in one way or another.

If you are not establishing order yourself, she will become the orderly one, and she will resent you for it.

If she is in the role of already dismissing your words, then you are just dismissive to her dismissiveness. Which is pretty easy to do since you are the man, you have all the resources, so you can just do as you please and pay her no mind.

If a woman is being cold, don't pursue, don't react, take away your presence completely.

A lot of men seriously underrate the power of their presence. It's literally so calming to be in a man's presence, even if it's a feminine man. Women who do not have the presence of a man in their life are in a state of CONSTANT anxiety. Take it from me who lived with 3 other women and no men for 3 years… it's day and night.

Just you existing around us is valuable. That's what we don't tell you.

Ellie

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masculine and charisma

I would recomend you watch other Se users but especially Infj's, analyse their body language and the way they act and implement their traits into your personality.

And obtaining masculine traits will naturallly make you more sociallly attractive in general. Learning frame control is a big one. Part of frame control is to act without caring if others will respond to it negativally because at the end of the day if you are acting with integrity and humility then you shouldn't care.

Also don't be scared of exposing your flaws, don't show them off but if it's apparent then own them. That will help with Se inferior.

And don't take social interactions too seriously, you should take on a more reactive role in social interactions because that allows you to get in your head.

Craig Fergerson(Esfp) is a great example of someone who just lets things flow and a example that social interactions are not as hard as we perceive them to be.

Kevin p

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ENFJ AND INFJ DIFFERENCES

The ENFJ is in the mind temple.  They seek accuracy but risk incompetence if over confident.

Origin is validation.  They search for accuracy and correctness in intellectual, personal, and educational pursuits.  

Vice -pride

They are very confident in their skill and knowledge.  Confidence is rarely a problem for them.  

INFJ is in the Soul Temple.

They seek the true identity of those around them.  Connections are important.  I will stop at nothing to obtain the object of my desire which is feeling close and connected with those I want most! 

Origin is intimacy.  

Vice is lust.  They lead by pursuing the objects of their desire which they believe will make them more whole.

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ENFJ/ENFP Differences

ENFPs are entitled and self-centered. They use wrath to hold others accountable and absolve people so they can be forgiven themselves. Their cognitive origin is justification, as they constantly judge what is and is not justified.

ENFJs are hypocritical and cruel. Their pride is used to fluff themselves up when, deep down, they don't think they're worth it. When they are humble, they look in the mirror with sober judgment. Their cognitive origin is validation, and they live and die by words of affirmation

emily rose

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kill the weakness

ill the weakness, 

30 January 2024

I have not been working for the past two weeks. I feel like my mental state has not been the best. It’s actually pretty bad. I feel like lately, I am definitely UDUF. I have really fallen out of having a good routine. I need to be self disciplined, and take care of myself. I have been playing games of chess like a madman. I need to find a way to ration the number of  games that I’m playing. I need to cut back. I need to stop playing so late I need better sleep hygiene. I need to get to bed earlier. I need to wake up earlier and get my day started on a good foot. I don’t have any excuse.

Also, I realized that losing at Chess has really started to affect my mood I need to regulate The number of games on playing, so that I don’t go down a rabbithole of losing multiple games in a row like I did yesterday, which was fucking ridiculous. It’s not just about losing all of those games in a row on rematches. That kind of mindset can end up, hurting me badly in another life situation. I also need to learn how to regulate my mood better. I’m not sure why it’s something I struggle with so much. As. Ambra said, if something is wrong with her mood, that means that something needs to change. I need to do more self reflecting. 

Overall,   still feel like I have a lot of room for growth. I feel like I’m very underdeveloped, and it makes me very dissatisfied with myself. Part of me is so embarrassed that I feel like I don’t even deserve to live.Basically, I am being weak. I need to stop being weak. I need to be strong, be impenetrable. I need to build myself up. Why is my development so stunted?

It angered me seeing that gorgeous Latina at Athletica last night and not feeling like I’m able to make anything happen with her, especially, when it appeared like a black guy who is a solid foot taller than me, was getting to interact with her and potentially getting her number. At least that’s what it looked like. Although, it could’ve been something else. They could have already known each other. 

But either way, I’ve experienced these feelings in the past, the feeling of Envy, seeing guys who are taller and much more attractive than I am, who seemingly don’t have any difficulty approaching, or making conversation with an attractive girl. I feel completely inept and impotent when it comes to making those kinds of overtures. It really says a lot about me as a man that I am almost 40 years old and I am still underdeveloped in this regard. 

At what point did things go wrong? I guess you could say that things started to go wrong in my childhood, but if not, then, certainly during adolescence. Because of my health issues and other issues I dealt with early on, I was very mistrustful of people, and had trouble relating to people. For that reason, in addition to perhaps, being highly reclusive by nature, I didn’t actively form friendships, or try to work on my social skills and social development. Aside from the few friends that I had during, and after high school, for the most part, I didn’t actively try to form or maintain relationships. But you could say that I actively avoided forming or maintaining relationships with people.

In addition, with all the time that I have had off, I should have spent more time, self reflecting, and journaling. I feel like I should probably work meditation into my daily routine. Even though, as it is, I already have so many different rituals in place, it’s tiresome. Perhaps I should think more like Kobe did and ask myself, what will help get me the best outcome? He realized that his performance was suffering due to lack of sleep. It’s not always about what I wanna do. It’s what I need to do. It’s what I should do. Sometimes I need to ask myself that. But I often forget to.

I’m also a little bit worried because I haven’t been working for two weeks and I don’t know how the new job is going to play out. All that I can say is that I am also trying to line up a job at Lola 41. I feel like I am able to have two jobs lined up, that should ensure that I earn enough money for the time being.