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has it really been three whole years? has it only been three years?

or: how to miss something that never really leaves and how to know when something is dead or dying or sleeping. happy three year anniversary dream smp, i hope it was worth it.

david foster wallace, infinite jest (via tiktok) / tumblr replies, @goosekid / "cheater, cheater" twitter, @/mangobaii / tumblr, @hiveswap / tiktok comments, @/ashmanathletics / aeschylus: the oresteia, aeschylus / road to hell (reprise), hadestown

#four years. it feels... unreal.

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shelby’s recent statement on twitter

#shubble #shelby grace #tw abuse #<3

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I'm going to clarify what happened on Lexie's stream because someone thought I was saying Wilbur was also Lexie's abuser.

Lexie is a UK based content creator. She ran in the same circle as most of the Brighton crew that included Wilbur and Shelby. Four months ago (? I think), she came out with a story on youtube about how she'd been dating another content creator and the relationship had been incredibly abusive

In her stream today, she and Shelby talked about how talking to each other and having each other for support is what made them realize the extent of abuse they'd both suffered by their last boyfriends. They did not share the same ex. Lexie's abuser was another CC in that circle of content creators.

Shelby commented on how Lexie's story has not gotten nearly the support that her own has.

Lexie commented that whenever she talked to other creators about wanting to tell her story it was specifically the male cc's she knew that would tell her to let it go.

Lexie also said, despite her talking about her abuse before ever publishing that video, very very few people in their friend group have distanced themselves from her abuser and still make content or socialize with him.

Lexie and Shelby's abusers are all come from that same circle of content creators that hub in Brighton. Any male cc that isn't an abuser in that circle are at least complicit because they have chosen to side with their friends and stay silent.

If you are a fan of any of the people in that Brighton group, you should be very very aware of the people you're supporting. The cycle of abuse will always continue as long as people think there's profit in staying silent.

#tw abuse

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I've been drifting away from both Tumblr and MCYT for a while now. This was the nail in the coffin.

I have another blog for art, and a third for other fandoms, but I doubt I will use either as often as I used LNLU. There's never been a community I've connected with quite so deeply as this one. Your creativity, passion, and kindness carried me through awful times far more than any individual creator could. It was not all rainbows and unicorns. It ripped open some old wounds, and left some new ones as well. But I want to carry forward the good things. I'm in touch with most of my friends on other platforms. If I've missed you, feel free to message and ask for my Discord.

A few final words, though.

We can never fully know what these creators are like when they're off-screen. What we see is a carefully curated picture of who they are, with flaws either scrubbed away or humorously exaggerated to the point of dismissal. Being aware of this does not mean assuming the worst. It means being realistic. When the people who truly know them become vulnerable by sharing the truth, believe them.

Be cautious of stereotypes. Anyone can be a victim or a perpetrator. If abusers could all be easily recognized at a cursory glance, if the signs were only a simple checklist of traits and deeds, if they were all so obviously monstrous that only a fool could have ever admired them - then far fewer of these people would get away with doing what they do.

They might be charming, attractive, thoughtful, intelligent, or funny.

They might only commit "minor" abuses, the kind that by themselves seem not to count but when taken together will wear you down.

They might blame you for what they do, claiming that you gave them no choice, or using your own symptoms and mistakes against you.

They might not realize that their behavior is abusive, or they might attribute it to other issues they may deal with.

They might apologize profusely and promise to be the sweetest person in the world for you, never to genuinely change.

They might degrade themselves, saying it's "just the type of person they are," and expect you - the one they hurt - to relieve them of their guilt.

They might be victims of something or someone else, too. They might truly be suffering.

But none of that makes your suffering acceptable.

If someone belittles, insults, pressures, screams at, willfully crosses boundaries, lies to, guilt-trips, or mentally, physically, or sexually harms you or someone you care about, there is never any obligation to accept that treatment. No matter what real or imagined position over you they might have, no matter what's going on in their life or in their brain, no one has the right to abuse their power like that. They are wrong.

Anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong, too.

And to other survivors of abuse: it wasn't your fault, you deserve better, you are stronger than you know, your worth never depended on them, and you will heal with time.

Goodbye from LNLU. I love you all.

#tw abuse #important

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from shelbys alt

#the truth should be pretty obvious by now. #shame on everyone who was awful to shubble. #and especially FUCK WILBUR SOOT #tw abuse

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Since i deleted the prev post on this I wanted to repost about the abuse resources. Again some of these hotlines are US specific (though the information is still valid/important!). I encourage anyone to add on to this post with non-US resources.

Abuse is hard to recognize even when you've experienced it before, it looks like many things and you can and deserve to get out.

National domestic violence hotline

Love is respect

RAINN

Futures without violence

WOAR

The Trevor project

TNLR

Resource on what DV and abuse looks like

#important #tw abuse

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hope the rest of your day goes well jo <3

Thank you <3

#gonna go make some tea and watch a show or something. #asks

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I have very little input other than what many others have already said. But if you use your brain for ten seconds, it's not hard to think of reasons why Shubble might not want to explicitly name the person who abused her.

This is a person who has a much larger platform than they do, who has an extremely devoted audience, and who they believe to be genuinely dangerous. There could be legal consequences, interpersonal consequences, career consequences, or a threat to their safety if they are too specific. What Shubble has done here is ensure that they can speak out safely, while any retaliation from their abuser will come across as a confession. That was a smart way to handle this, and we need to take care not to accidentally sabotage that approach.

What's more, her story was explicitly told as aid for people to recognize whether their own experiences were abusive. It's very possible that she did not want criticisms of this one specific individual to overshadow the cause of helping other victims. That broader awareness and discussion about identifying red flags must be the focus, and preventing future harm must always, always, always be the priority.

At the same time... please do not shame people for protecting themselves. Nothing is entirely certain yet, but given that Shubble gave as much detail as they could short of saying his name, it's only natural for people to draw their own conclusions. And it's only natural that people, especially other abuse victims, would want to detach themselves from someone if there's even a remotely believable chance they did something so heinous.

Let her tell her story at her own time and with her own comfort and safety coming first. Do what you need to protect your own health. Do nothing that endangers victims of this person or of others.

There's my piece. That's all.

What an awful thing to wake up to. I'm just... I feel so fucking sorry for Shubble.

#i struggle to think of any other person it could be and i'm distancing myself accordingly. #i still hope to be proven wrong. fucking hell. i really hope we're all wrong. #tw abuse #discourse

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What an awful thing to wake up to. I'm just... I feel so fucking sorry for Shubble.

#tw abuse

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Defending Niki Nihachu on the internet isn't enough, I need a gun

#briefly reviving this blog because people CANNOT be normal about sa survivors #joking at the expense of predators =/= joking about grooming itself #discourse #tw sa #tw grooming

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you're someone's hated tumblr

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LOVE U 4EVER JO!!!!!!!!!! new start YAY :D

LOVE YOU TOO <3

#asks

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Enjoy your new freedom, Jo! :D

I will never forget this blog o7.

o7

#asks

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Screw it

Art blog is @ijdragonfly

New fandom sideblog is @many-whelps-handle-it

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Infinite in Both Directions

@sketiana // cells undergoing mitosis // neutron stars colliding // 'saturn', sleeping at last // voyager golden records // diagram of an atom // diagram of the solar system // 'a toast to the alchemists', laura giplin // neural stem cells // ciliated ventral epithelium // 'constellations', the oh hellos // jwst deep field // 'singularity', marie howe // heart of the phantom galaxy // 'zephyrus', the oh hellos // apoferritin // aerial view of a forest // a graph me and my project co-chair made to model angle over time of our payload // molybdenum and sulfur atoms // unknown // pillars of creation

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I am strongly considering making a new blog. I won't delete this one because there are still things I am proud of here and I'm never giving up this username, but I've become weary of this side of MCYT fandom and I just. Need a fresh slate.

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I was formulating an essay-style response to that steaming pile of garbage in my head while I watched it but then I realized I'd rather enjoy my holiday and stop thinking about that bastard forever

But one thing: let me just say that the wildest fucking thing about that video was how he spent 30 minutes meticulously establishing his own history as a defensive serial liar in even minor situations and even included a bit showing that he knows how to falsify evidence, and then tried to use an anonymous pastebin statement allegedly from a victim who has now left the internet as his Hail Mary. If you're willing to pick apart video evidence where alleged victims with nothing to lose show their full faces, long documents backed up by links from the wayback machine, you can't in good conscience believe a single link from a man desperate to save his career, either. There's a small chance he's honest here, but it won't matter - he's his own worst enemy.

If this is really his last word on the matter, we're probably never going to get the whole truth, but this whole debacle has confirmed just how miserable his fandom was for me - if not forced by outsiders to apologize for shit that does not matter and that you had no part in, then you're surrounded by people spreading some of the most vile victim-blaming rhetoric you've ever seen for a guy who does not and cannot care about them individually no matter how much he presents himself otherwise.

I won't forget seeing "she was 17.95 so it doesn't matter" from someone I thought was a friend. I won't forget the cutesy little nicknames you came up with to avoid the congitive stress of your precious guy being an accused groomer. I won't forget the harassment you little shits openly confessed to with no remorse. I won't forget how you laughed at victims for being emotional about a potential betrayal, or dictated what a real victim should look like. I won't forget and I'm certainly not ready to forgive. I'm not forgiving the people who mocked and belittled you for harmless fun once, either; they're as much responsible for the sour state of things as the man they hated before they were given a viable excuse. Whatever the reason, this place became a black hole and I don't want to even be close to it.

It's not worth it. I'm done. I'm not talking about that motherfucker ever again, and please, hold me to that this time.

#discourse #the dream situation #tw grooming #tw victim blaming #vent #negativity