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i keep seeing that post about how frustrating the buff guy -> petite girl type genderbending is, and i wanted to add my two cents regarding the addition of ‘just swap pronouns and don’t change the design’ approach because i think these are two sides of the same coin, as they both fail to really delve into what i think is the most interesting aspect of this design exercise.

the reason i find genderbending to be such a fun and interesting challenge is because, if you actually want to be good at it and put thought into it, you have to really consider the character’s canon gender expression and think about what it means to them and how it reflects in their outward appearance and presentation.

is this male character buff because he likes to work out / be strong, or does he aspire to achieve conventional heteronormative male beauty?

is this female character a tomboy because she likes to express herself in a more masculine way, or is she doing it to fight gender norms?

the answers to those questions should produce very different designs!

this website loves to say that gender is a spectrum, but sometimes i genuinely wonder if people actually understand what that means. 

gender expression, much like gender, is also a spectrum, which is why keeping the character exactly the same won’t always work, in the same way that just making the character conventionally attractive won’t always work. but sometimes, a buff dude would actually just be a hot girl. lady bane, however, would 100% look exactly the same.

#gender

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#funny #that one girl looks so done

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many such cases

#US

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I've decided I'm tired of being ol' Cookie Masterson and I'm gonna get into identity theft!

#cookie.txt #txt

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Nate: Amongus.

#relevant #ydkj

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You Don't Know Jack (1995)

#ydkj #special interest spotted in the wild

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I had a dream about a cowboy movie last night and I woke up to write it down so I would remember

#save

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Stinky group of gamerz

It came to me in my fever dreams

tag yoself, I’m Chilskyrim

#dungeon meshi

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#bonequest #nsfw text

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me every day without fail: I'll do [chore] when I get home

me when I get home:

#honestly #how does this always happen

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#bonequest

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I feel the constant clawing need to justify my own existence.

#i know i don't need to. and yet. #cookie.txt #txt #when body trauma and exotrauma collide #though at least i know i'm not the only one with this problem

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wow i would not say this in front of anyone i know publically or even in a private chat let me post it on tumblr where the same friends and also thousands of strangers will see it

#honestly

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The inside of my ear drum is violently twitching and it sounds like a Gmod server in there

#shane.txt #txt #like when objects repeatedly hit each other

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

#socializing

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1 week until the spring restock😅

Shopblushdaisy.com

#sunny

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source

my main blog

#hair