I've never liked the conception that aspec people "can't" feel attraction.
I'm not incapable of it. I simply Don't. The same way I don't write with my right hand, don't have brown eyes, and don't breathe water.
Do I have the ability? I mean, I've never tried to be attracted to someone, so it's hard to say. But the phrasing the "Can't" make it feel like a disability. But this is not something that makes me disabled (not that disability would be a bad thing).
It's certainly a different experience, but it's not a lack of anything. The experience isn't dominated the absence and inability of something.
This is the way my life is. It's not something I can change by trying, but framing it as something I can't do, as if that's the only way it's acceptable not to be attracted to someone, somewhere, eventually--I don't like it.
Just because someone doesn't experience something doesn't mean they can't. Just because someone doesn't feel a way doesn't mean they can't.
It just means they Don't.
that ‘pakige?’ post but me, a couple hours after posting a fic, like ‘comints?’
I haven’t seen Nabari no Ou (tho I'm going to start it now that you mentionned it!) but Shimanami Tasogare doesn't have a bad ending. Without spoilers, it’s really a sweet manga. I have the impression that the goal was to tell an encouraging story and above all to inform peopel about several queer identities. Of course there is some hard moment but overall it's really sweet. I encourage you to check it one day if you feel like you can ^^
Warning for anyone who may be tempted to start Nabari because of me, this is official art for the series I have had saved for like 5ever.
Nabari, is loosely, about this 14yo boy named Miharu, who lost his parents in a plot-related tragedy many years ago and lives with his grandparents now. And then he realizes his family was a ninja family and he has this godlike ninjitsu called the Shinrabanshou that basically can do whatever the hell he wants it to do.
But he doesn't actually know how to make it work, and he's extremely apathetic and depressed, so he doesn't really want anything enough to make it work, either.
So the various ninja clans realize he has this thing and they all, in various ways, try to get it to use it for themselves. And then he runs into this young intersex ninja named Yoite, who is ostensibly on the side of their worst enemies, who threatens Miharu's friends and family if he doesn't agree to help Yoite "Never have been born."
(Although at this point, I should mention that the anime does not make Yoite intersex explicitly, but he is explicitly intersex in the manga. FWIW)
So Miharu agrees, and they both sort of set out on a quest absolutely zero other people want them to be on in order to figure out how to make this stupid thing work so Miharu can make Yoite never have been born, and they bond and, arguably, fall in love. And Yoite stops wanting to die (although I'm compelled to point out that in this series, never having been born and dying are not at all the same thing) so badly and Miharu starts becoming invested in his life and care about people, and.
Well, I'll stop there to not share All The Spoilers.
The anime doesn't exactly end badly, but it does end tragically, and somehow the gay couples/implied couples all end up sadly but the straight couples make it out okay, and that annoys me in retrospect although it didn't really register at the time.
I have heard the manga ends much better, but I have not once heard that it ends happily. I actually have the fist 6 volumes still on my manga bookcase, and then sort of lost track of it because Money, but the college friend read the scans and filled me in on some of the other stuff.
I do still like Nabari. It didn't make me angry the same way that Banana Fish. The tragedy is much more narratively sound (although I have many arguments I'd like to make about the anime version of it that I know don't track for the manga), and frankly, cathartic, and I don't think it's a harmful tragedy in the way Banana Fish is.
Thanks for recommending Jeweler Richard. I'm reading it's official eng translation and enjoying it so far. Actually I knew of it and tried the anime, but dropped it at ep.1. So thank you for making me want to try it again. ❤️
Ahhh, honestly, I am so non-pushy abut recs that I never would've recommended it directly to someone who had already tried it. I just talk about it so much, I guess people get interested?
But yes, the novels are so much better than the anime. Which, of course, I adored the anime, but it really works best as a kind of ad for the novels, which are way better, in my opinion.
I'm excited to get my copy of the English! And I'm happy you're enjoying it!
I'm reading Shimanami Tasogare. It's a sweet and short and queer manga.
Ohhh! I'm avoiding that one because it's by the same author as Nabari no Ou, which is also queer, and which I absolutely adored, but the ending--the ending of the anime hurt bad. My best friend in college and I marathoned the entire 26 episodes in one weekend, and then spent hours sobbing Sunday morning. I don't usually. Actually. Cry, at the end of manga or anime? Prose tends to hit me emotionally much harder.
I know the manga ended a bit differently, but I'm still kind of gun shy over the whole thing.
It's a bit different knowing the author is queer, but I'm just anxious about trying it, I guess?
am currently reading a really sweet (and surprisingly deep) manga called witch hat atelier! it's about a girl named coco who has an accident with magic and has to go apprentice with a witch named qifrey to learn how to un-curse her mother
and theres a lot of worldbuilding and lore and magic as a metaphor for hoping for kindness and goodness against a disjointed world,,,,,,,,, and also the characters are absolutely *delightful* and endearing and i love them all
so that's what i've been reading lately :D
This is the first thing I've seen about that series that makes it seem worth reading!
So, followers, tell me what you're reading!
Seigi and Richard are so lucky they met each other, so they could be the best, happiest, most ridiculous versions of themselves.
The height of the YuuMori fandom included:
Someone complaining to me that anything Sherliam was in the main tag for the series
People getting into an argument with each other on my blog about shipping
Constantly being harassed for "Where do you get your raws?" no matter how many times I answered this question, and subsequently people getting mad that I pay for the magazine and how that's too exclusionary
Someone telling me I was too active in the tag and to stop
People yelling at me for not liking Death Note or shipping Light and L
People yelling at me for like every single opinion I held/hold
People telling me I was rude and mean in general and especially in response to asks
The utter madness that was the RP-verse on twitter and its complete inescabability
It wasn't exactly, like, super fun? While I miss getting so many asks, and I do miss interacting with some of the people, especially the ones who sent really interesting questions, it's much. Calmer now.
Someday I will hyperfixate on something while it’s actually at the height of its popularity and has a large and active fandom, and then I will be UNSTOPPABLE.
The FDA gods have granted me clemency for the weekend and I have handled my car issues, so hang with me! We can also chat about volume 11 of JR.
I was planning on doing a stream this weekend to get some writing done and maybe talk about YuuMori (there's a new chapter on Sunday, but unsure if I would stream before or after, depends on what people would want)
That depends on the FDA right now, so we'll see.
Anyway, if you'd like to get annoying pings to see when I'm doing streams to chat about nonsense and writing, come hang out.
Me: Ah, new Jeweler Richard content. Time to incessantly mock my beloved queer softies with awkward feelings
having signature jewlery that u always wear is very important i can’t explain it
Am I, like, the only person who doesn't think Hudson would be all that impressed with or enamored by William?
(Setting aside the fact that they've sort of met now--or at least been in the same room--and we weren't really shown the reaction)
She deals with Sherlock, who is as brilliant as William is, and just as dramatic and annoying. And she is a spitfire with very little patience for his nonsense, and thus she would likely have little for William's bullshit. And she knows he's a criminal. She came to dinner anyway, apparently unbothered.
When she met John, he was, being John, very polite, friendly, and open. She was not taken in by this and instead very suspicious of him (because Sherlock got along with him). Manners meant little to her. She wasn't dazzled by them, at least. Nor by Milverton's oily politeness. She's smarter than that.
She's not dazzled by Mycroft's money, either. In fact, she says Mycroft is worse than Sherlock--so "well-mannered, well-spoken, wealthy, obnoxious genius," is...clearly not her thing.
She's made no comments on any lavishness at Universal Exports (she's been quite quiet and nervous-looking since arriving, really).
I can't think of a single time she's been awed in the series at all, least of all by manners and money. She's a practical, independent, strong-willed, intelligent woman. I don't think it would be easy to impress her.
She got off on the wrong foot with Adler at first because Adler teased and implied complete impropriety happening in Hudson's apartment with Sherlock. Hello, William's existence basically implies impropriety with Sherlock.
She's not dazzled by Mycroft's money, either.
She would be fed up with them.
I mean, kind of. Hudson is really very much the kind of person to whom kindness and goodness matters. She complains about Sherlock's childishness, but she also acknowledges and gets soft over the fact that Sherlock can show he cares and be quite considerate to her. She approved of John not because of his manners, but because he got into a bar brawl to protect her.
So I think she'd like William, eventually. But I think she'd treat him the same as the 221B boys: with affection, but no dazzlement.
Saying “you too” when technically inappropriate is an accident borne of compassion and kindness and i refuse to feel ashamed
No consideration at all
@quill-of-thoth is cheating on me
This kind of dismissive heartless is how relationships die
@quill-of-thoth is cheating on me