#'this is a group of rich people' thing

[sciderman]

I swear I have read your big post regarding Peter Parker's neurodivergence and why it is best to avoid labelling him, but he definitely has a weird brain

Can't find it and feel kinda sad about it cuz I deeply related to it

i know exactly which post you're talking about and i can't find it either! i've raked through my archive, and it's just - nowhere to be seen. i think tumblr eated it (it happens.)

really, tumblr's search functionality is so so useless, i don't know what to tell you. there are plenty of keywords i can search to find it that post, but the search functionality actually just does not work!

undiagnosed audhd-addled peter parker, my darling, my light, my life, my everything.

i think peter parker's such an interesting creature to write, because a lot of people will point to a certain behaviour about him and say "this is an autistic thing, right?" but a lot of those behaviours are actually, in my head, tied to certain traumas in peter's life too.

people say "oh, the food thing, peter's a picky eater because he's autistic" and yes, absolutely. but also it's tied to his trauma with his parents.

peter gets overstimulated, and yes, it's an autism thing, but also he was bitten by a radioactive spider and his senses are dialled to 11.

it's a similar case i've found for myself, too – where a lot of friends i have kind of diagnose me because i have autistic traits, but actually - i'm hesitant to claim the label or pursue diagnosis because, actually, i know where these certain behaviours come from, and they come from certain traumas. there are events i can pinpoint in my life and say "yep. that's where this behaviour comes from."

so - i think there's a lot of overlap between trauma and autistic traits. the brain is very complex! i think the reason for that overlap is maybe as simple as the fact that people with autism and people with trauma are both doing the same thing - developing behaviours to protect themselves or soothe themselves. so - i think it's nice to be able to see a character like peter parker, who may or may not be autistic, but recognise behaviours in him and see yourself in him.

people who go undiagnosed for whatever reason - people who are really good at masking - so good, in fact, that they have no idea they might be on the spectrum - everyone and anyone at all can look at peter parker and recognise themselves. because i think we discredit the thought that every single brain does the same thing! develops certain behaviours in order to survive. every brain has that same software - we've just all been faced with different hardships that we need to overcome, and that's were all the differences come in.

autism is a spectrum, i guess - everyone falls into it to some degree. and i think events in your life probably push you along on it. but i don't know, i didn't study brain science. probably what i'm saying is very stupid and uninformed. of course there's brain chemistry involved. but i know people in my life living with autism and certain events in their life have exacerbated certain behaviours or made coping with it a lot more difficult. so maybe trauma is a catalyst.

#a lot of my traits have been exacerbated lately and i remember it was much easier for me before #and some of my friends have said “oh it's because you've been masking too long and now you're facing autistic burnout.” #and that made sense to me i think. #but then i found out about the stress thing. me overproducing stress hormone. and that's a very physical thing. #and that explains why i've been overstimulated more than usual lately. and why everything feels like too much. #and i wonder how many of these traits of mine are going to subside once i have lamar removed #and it makes me wonder a lot of things. and it's so weird how much your brain is tied to your biology. #i wonder how much i'll change. i wonder how i'll feel. i wonder if i'll still feel like me. i wonder how much me is me right now. #and how much of me is being altered by weird freaky hormones. who am i?? who will i be?? #i'm almost looking at this as like. a superhero origin story of some sort. like this is my spider-bite moment. maybe. #will i be different? will i cope with things differently?? now that my body isn't fighting something anymore?? #maybe i'll be normal. i don't know. i don't know. #i don't know what it'll mean for me. #but all of these things mean i relate to peter parker in a certain kind of way #i don't think you have to be diagnosed with autism to recognise and empathise with those traits i think #i think everyone can see themselves in peter. and i think that's the benefit of having characters that aren't diagnosed. #because there's so much overlap in the human experience. and certain feelings aren't exclusive to just one group of people. #peter has such a rich identity actually. it's an autistic thing. it's a queer thing. it's a jewish thing. it's a trauma thing. #there are so many overlapping parts of peter's identity that inform who he is and how he behaves and it's never just one thing. #it's a product of all of his things. #just like me! just like everyone. #so me? i guess i can be a million things. you can explain what i am in a million different ways. #a hundred different psychologists can all come up with different ways to explain why i be the way i be. #i don't think it's something that can be simplified. #sorry wow. i'm really going off here in the tags. #i hope people don't think i'm stupid. i don't know brain science. i'm just philosophising as usual. #sci speaks

[dyna-myght]

Abortion isn’t a class issue. Why do people so badly want to make abortion about everything else except the women who are affected by it.

#rich people in any group will have it easier #i just. I literally don’t see any point in bringing up women who have the means to travel to get an abortion #has anything to do with the men voting to take away our body autonomy #it feels like people just wanting to blame anyone and everyone rather than like critically think about it #like. it’s all just talking points for social reward rather than actually caring for the cause #they just want to be told they are on the right side and doing the right thing #without any true substinance to their words and not even understanding why they are saying them in the first place

[v-arbellanaris]

I have no idea why but I absolutely hate how Ameridan' story was handled, they basically dumbed it down to him worshipping both the creators and andraste/chant of light, which kind of proved Cassandra's dumb (and incredibly disrespectful) point of an inquisitor having "room for another god". It's also so unfair how they made the evanuris to just be power hungry slavers and tyrants, my only hope is that if the creators were disproving then I hope it would be the same for the chant of light and maker (seeing asnit was solas who made the veil and not the creator) I really hate how centrist the game has gotten, like flat out, whenever I hear the words grey morality and nuance I can't help burn cringe, that's how much dragon age has ruined it for me.

It's also so incredibly funny how the devs are genuinely surprised that most of the players are pro mage, like of course we are?

i think it's particularly extremely aggravating, the way bioware writers write about a pantheon as if polytheistic religions are simply a thing of the past and dead and some kind of mystery/mythology. according to bioware, this kind of writing for polytheistic religions is fine because no real religion these days would everrrrrrr worship multiple gods /sarcasm. (note that the links are just some examples and not comprehensive in the least)

there's a lot of writing choices i quite simply disagree with in dai, and there's some that are just... i don't even disagree with them because that implies it's something to argue about. some of their writing choices are just wrong. after borrowing so heavily from ethnic groups to shape their fictional histories, the disrespect of writing their fictional oppressed minorities as being responsible for their own oppression because they were not "open" enough to include/absorb expy christianity into their religious beliefs and fought back against violent colonialism. the resulting clumsy collation between isr*el and the indigenous people of the americas wanting to reclaim their lands stolen from them by white colonisers makes my blood boil.

ameridan is just another piece of the puzzle that makes me seethe. we have a man who apparently ~existed before hostilities between the elves and the humans~ which is now the fault of drakon's son who invaded the dales after ameridan was long gone. that's already absolute bullshit because ameridan lived in the fucking dales. elves only started living in the dales AFTER ANDRASTE'S REBELLION. after the fall of arlathan, and hundreds of years of enslavement at the hands of tevinter humans???

additionally, the battle of red crossing happened in 2:9 glory, but tensions between the elves and humans had been building up since the second blight. drakon the first died in 1:45 but the elves apparently did "nothing" to help montsimmard when it was overrun by darkspawn in 1:25 divine - twenty years before his death, there was already simmering resentment. additionally, it was drakon the first that expanded the orlesian empire and the orlesian chantry - wotv2 notes his battles against the darkspawn did more to spread the chant of light (specifically, the orlesian chant of light which he, yknow, fucking made up) than any of his other attempts. by the time the exalted march on the dales happens, over three quarters of thedas is under orlesian rule. maferath himself handed the dales to the surviving elves from andraste's campaign in -165 ancient and the elves lived in the dales peacefully until the orlesian chantry was salivating at its borders. and the orlesian chantry has a history of wiping out "cults" - i.e. other sects of their own religion that differ from belief, no matter how minor, to their own. including, notably, the wholesale genocide of a non-violent sect centered around fertility rituals and, later, the dragon worshipping sect in haven off their own land. (and i'm willing to BET MONEY that they were originally alamarri themselves, considering that andraste was brought there to rest, and considering how cultural variance in religion usually occurs [i.e. through the blending/adoption of folk beliefs or the cultural/religious practices from Before]. so the andrastians slaughtered the cult AND THEN TOOK THEIR FUCKING LAND.)

the entire way andrastianism is treated in inquisition makes me violent. and unfortunately, it does not look like it's going to change - there's been multiple statements about how the maker's existence will continue to remain "a mystery" out of a reluctance to confirm or deny the existence of a One True God which, coupled with how they've shat on every other religion in the game - the tevinter chantry, the qun, the stone, the elven pantheon, every other sect worshipping the maker/andraste - gives me absolutely no hope that the writing team is going to get their heads out of their asses about it.

#asks #bioware critical #dai critical #and tbh at this point i really think anyone acting like the writing team is being geniuses or whatever is kinda racist and deluded lmao #most polytheistic religions surviving today are inextricably linked to ethnicity and culture and rich histories of surviving and resisting #colonialist attempts to wipe them out. i feel like comparatively there's fewer polytheistic religions in ''the west'' (more specifically #rooted in white culture) as a result of that. but bioware didn't borrow from THOSE white-rooted polytheistic religions and cultures #they borrowed from native; jewish; roma; even hinduism when it came to the dalish elves but people want to act like the only thing bioware #is pulling from is fucking norse mythology. borrowing character archetypes from norse mythology and planting them onto your #fictional ethnic minorities based off real life religions and people. IS NOT ACTUALLY GOOD WRITING. when you dont CONSIDER the implications #like Gods Not Being Good or having Separate Morals To Humans is a huge theme for norse mythology #but not so much afaik in other polytheistic religions TODAY??? #fucking bioware SHOULD HAVE JUST USED NORSE MYTHOLOGY AS A BASE FOR THE ELVES FROM THE START #and NOT brought other ethnic groups into it??? #the moment they did they SHOULD HAVE been considering the implications of their writing. and that they didn't and continue NOT TO #is actually something people are allowed to be fucking upset about!!!!

[ctommyisnt]

DUDE I would give anything to be super rich and house cool artists like they did way back when in the renaissance. I struggle with the art and creation my brain simply isn’t made for it (not that I don’t try) but I LOVE commissioning I LOVE giving people money!!!!! I would have so much fun just giving a funky little artist a pool house and unlimited art supplies and let them do whatever they want. Sure make a painting of my ocs while your at it but I love your sexy landscape scene go crazy

#if I was rich in this modern century I’d buy myself a nice house in the countryside and go ham #but then I’d start commissioning people like crazy #I’d find someone I really like and just ask them to be my personal oc maker #I’d have a different artist for different ocs #and then I’d put them all in a little group chat and maybe switch it up a bit #I’d ask someone to paint my house or my dogs #I’d ask someone to craft me a dope chair #or an awesome sculpture #and I’d love it #it’s so much fun #in my opinion my favorite thing about commissions is tipping after I get the art #bc the artist is always so happy I love it #I love the art people make me and I love their art AHTHKFKFFN it’s awesome #I want to be rich so so bad

[rotisseries]

actually now that the clique thing is a few days old, i didn't really get involved for a reason and I don't feel super strongly in either direction

but I will say that like. while there's certainly a problem of less interaction on the fanworks/posts from less popular blogs, this isn't really a byler exclusive issue? this happens in most fandoms these days, interaction is just on a decline in general which IS. a problem but not really a "byler tumblr is cliquey" problem. in regards to any actual cliques I wouldn't say they don't exist but I don't think it's "the popular kids" themselves doing this. I don't know if the rest of you have some other bloggers in mind that I don't know about, but as someone who is mutuals with a fair amount of who I thought were the popular blogs, they are always very nice and welcoming to me, and actually easy to talk to once you just. see them and talk to them as a normal human and not an omnipotent fandom god. so this is all to say that if there's a clique issue I think it's from the outside. I think maybe people are perceiving these bigger blogs who all happen to be friends as these untouchable idols in fandom and it's. making it cliquey from the outside. like are they a clique or have you just convinced yourself they wouldn't want anything to do with you and isolated this group from everyone else. this isn't to say that people can't be assholes of course just that I don't think any of this is intentional

#I think a lot of post interaction problems are also just probably coming from the fact that I don't think anyone checks the tag anymore #I certainly don't. I just keep up with what my mutuals are posting #and my mutuals are posting their work and they're sharing their friend's work or the work their friend shared from someone else #so if you're a little known blogger it can just be harder because. your posts just aren't making it as far you have a few followers #and they have even fewer. and so unless you get an anomaly popularity boost it'll be harder for a post to get traction #also “it's a clique bc all the popular blogs are friends and only associate with each other” well they have been friends for months #or a year now. and also probably were not as popular when that friendship started #so it's more like. a friend group forms and then when one of you gets a popularity boost so do the others bc you're friends #and then next thing you know it's a friend group of popular bloggers #anyway. all this to say get out and make some friends! either I'm right and this will actually fix the problem #or there really is a clique in which case why tf would you want to associate with them anyway #but genuinely this is rich coming from me actually known to most as godawful at talking to people irl #but it's really so simple to make tumblr friends it just requires you to be a little brave and genuine #if you see someone posting a lot of cool stuff follow them!! and then get in their askbox and talk to them about something #if they have an au you really like talk to them about that if they have some music they've been posting about check it out #and tell them what you thought! #just like. be friendly and open they'll probably respond in kind and next thing you know you have a really cool friend #anyway if you're one of my mutuals and you saw me like a post the other day or whatever that might feel contrary to this #well the other day I was just watching things go down lmao #I didn't care what any posts said I was busy with my own discourse lol #(and also if you're ANOTHER mutual wondering wtf this post is about don't worry about that) #idk I think I just. haven't really witnessed cliquey behavior but I see posts about this with enough notes #that sometimes I think. well you guys gotta be experiencing SOMETHING so idk. idk #I guess this is another “some people just have friends” post #anyway I think a good thing to remember here also is that we're arguing about popularity on Tumblr Dot Com. brother we are bloggers #and we're calling it cliques. like a highschool movie

[bandzboy]

trying to find information of the next kpop boycott is literally impossible and the only thing i find is a*mys saying people are only boycotting bc people are praying on bee tee ess’s downfall while they are not active like ???

#this is just a group of people but the way #these people spend the whole boycott last time making it all abt themselves and their faves is crazy #most groups especially from the big four #AND ESPECIALL YOUR SEVEN MEN #would not be that affected bc they are rich??? #i would even say that stans from bigger groups should do it #bc they impact would be enormous #but you refuse to do it bc you can go on a day without streaming a song 💀 #this is boycott is not abt you or your faves this is abt taking a stand #basically stand in solidarity with palestinian people #and tell people to be aware of things they consume #kpop has rotted these people brains to the point #they can’t do something as simple as not streaming and buying what is life #but anyways if anyone knows something abt a strike/boycott #and if it’s happening pls let me know so i can post abt it #tris.txt

[eusuntgratie]

Alright I'm still emotionally recovering but some highlights from my first pens home game:

- geno doing his goofy then slutty warmups right in front of my eyeballs ☠️

- zucker giving me the best view of his adorable ear flower? Hot girl shit. I got a pic for the girlies.

- dumo is the cutest motherfucker alive DO NOT get me started

- seeing Sid geno and Tanger up close and in person does nothing for my ability to function like a normal human. They're so PRETTY I LOVE THEM

- why does tanger have to look so feral and beautiful during the anthems it's a lot to deal with

- murder face Kris unfairly jailed

- so many g/geno faceoffs

- Danton heinen screaming FUCK!! coming off the ice in the evil second

- Sid obsessively retaping his stick TWICE in the third. My beloved superstitious neurotic baby.

- the crowd chanting for Jarry 🥺

#i know im forgetting a million things i wanted to document #additionally #couldn't get a kids size dumo jersey even at the rink 😩😭 #justice for dumo #hes her favorite i want to get her one so bad #a super fun moment after the game was when my brother asked me if the sens goalie is like incredible or something #i deserve an award for not bursting into tears #lastly there was a little boy in a giroux flyers jersey #brave soul but it made me 🥺🥺🥺 #this was my first time in the lower bowl do rich people just go and talk about their lives? #like pens fans were overall lovely #a dude apologized for saying shit in front of my daughter #like dude i said worse in her ear five seconds ago but thank you 💜 #but there were two groups of people just #talking about their lives? #in their seats? #while me and my daughter screamed ourselves hoarse right next to them? #weird #pens #pens lb #except way late #i cant tag for organization im tired

[mycological-mariner]

*incoherent screams of frustration and tears of exhaustion*

#I bloody hate Christmas #imposter syndrome was so bad at the christmas dinner too I wanted to curl up and die #everyone is very sweet so I can’t complain #but re-enactment is very much a rich persons hobby or at least independently wealthy #I may drop out of doing actual events which. sucks lol #but I can’t afford it #I haven’t been able to afford food for two weeks let alone a bloody uniform #I can still help out. managing the website and etc #but all the things I want to do and love to do I can’t afford #no wonder most reenactors are older well off folk or younger people who’ve been brought up in it #not to mention coming home and finding empty beer bottles littered everywhere #my mums coming tomorrow and shes ain’t given a time for arrival #I gotta work out sleeping arrangements get food clean the house do dishes etc #I just want to sleep? #I really really bloody hate Christmas for many many reasons #but stress of planning and getting shit in order is top of the list #christ #I want December to be Over #just depressed bc now I may not even get to meet up with this group when they’ve been so lovely bc… well fuck man. #just so much on my plate rn. I haven’t been able to relax. oh well. no choice but to do what needs doing #I just wish it wasn’t so much that needed doing #no wonder I’ve been having heart troubles

[van-goghs-smoking-skull]

#gypsy punk #music #Gogol Bordello #Wonderlust King #another thing I miss - travelling #*looking at the map in the background* been there and there and there... #(not rich - I just used being able to chat with and hang out with locals to my educational advantage #very much a 'new history of time' - so much for the idiot narrative that anyone in the military is just a bloodthirsty murderer #idk hanging out seems so much more fun to me so... #and Gypsies or Roma - depending on what the specific group preferred to be called - are easy to get along with #as long as you treat them like people and not shit - funny how my laundry came back fine but other's laundry had extra holes) #(don't be a dick to other cultures challenge right?)

[sweetenby]

Who knew the next big thing on tumblr would be everyone learning that people have different past times and interests

#The new trend is everyone baffled that people do/don't go to the club #The world is very varied and rich and full of people with diverse interests #And that's wonderful #Unfortunate that's not the take away from this #The things tgat bring you joy are boring or a bad time to some people #But the things that bring you joy also bring other ppl joy too #And you can make friends with people in both groups too!

[craycraybluejay]

I can be trusted with a loaded weapon!!

I asked these ppl why not trust me with a gun and they LAUGHED 😭 THE FUCKIJG NERVE 😡

But like. With love, I can be trusted with a gun. I have no desire to off someone by accident or on purpose if it'll ruin my life. In fact, I remember gun safety rules by heart pretty much even tho I only heard them once. Most important of which is "don't point a gun at someone/something you're not willing to shoot or 'treat the thing like it's loaded even when it isn't/even when the safety is on.'" I'm the best at gun safety. In fact, I should be given a pistol, a machine gun, a shotgun, and every other type of gun for free because I'm just so good with guns.

#cw guns #gun safety #i miss shooting ranges they were rly fun #and I'm actually a pretty decent shot #not perfect but alright #guns are fun 👍 and also i support gun rights for all #obv don't let small children around them and don't let people who threaten to kill others in a serious matter at them but like #people SHOULD have a right to self defense actually #and it shouldn't be only hyperconservatives who have a clean background bc they're rich and have never sought treatment for their anger #issues that have them #curious how specifically poor and marginalized groups who often get funneled into mental 'health services' against their will #can't own a gun quite as easily as rich people who actively decide how things in their and others lives go #like bro they can kill someone and straight up pay their way out #and yet for some reason its always the poors who are 'dangerous' even tho we are all very much aware #that if someone is shot on our watch we don't have the kind of safety net that rich people have #that makes us MORE gun conscious- not less #as a leftist i am pro gun and i HATE how its considered a conservative belief

[petrovna-zamo]

Get fucked

#out of touch rich celebrity leaving their castle in bev hills to scream about the unsightly unhoused #this is why this woman is my enemy #she also personally campaigned the WeHo city council against an increased minimum wage #aka where the majority of her restaurants are and employees work #sorry local Los Angeles things #anyways I’m not a fan and roll my eyes every time she’s brought up #for reference Caruso is an anti choice Republican who changed his party affiliation to Democrat right before his run for mayor bc this is LA #so don’t pretend to care about women or the LGBT community or any other marginalized group when he’s donated millions against these causes #all these famous fucks are showing their ass endorsing him because he’ll criminalize homelessness #who cares about abortion rights when confronted with those living on the street #these people could use their enormous wealth to actually donate to organizations helping people but that would mean they have to care #anyways if you’re in the US and haven’t voted yet please do #if you read all this I’m sorry #had to rant #dl

[el-im]

*tevye voice* but on the other hand, it is impossible not to acknowledge some of the particularly christian themes in the wrath of khan--

#i understand the irony of using tevye here but i cannot hear 'on the other hand' without thinking of him #also. VULCANS?! #coded as jewish? christian? japanese? lets take a vote #in which everyone voting only votes for the group they belong to because they see similarities between their cultural experiences #and outlooks and spock's. #which. let me clarify. is a GOOD THING. me seeing some vulcan practices as distinctly japanese and others seeing it as something else is #WONDERFUL and exactly what star trek is about. would just. love to see the diversity of responses i'd get if i asked what people saw in #vulcans. i know some of the specific jewish elements nimoy brought to the table in his characterization of him re: the rationalists and #kabbalists/the greeting being a blessing #but im not interested in canon #im interested in what people see of themselves reflected in the vulcans #as individuals #captain's log #trek #i forgot what i was talking about #im writing abt the genesis planet for a big secret ent project and referred to it in my head as the 'jesus planet' and then went. that's #rich for someone who just said that vulcan philosophy more closely mirrors buddhism than western religions #because its uhhhh where spock was resurrected #hi everyone #whats going on with all of you

[mottinthemainpot]

I forgot I have a skills group in the morning and now its 2 am… I don’t want to go

#i hate being an adult doing adult things #i wanted to just sleep all day #so much i need to do but keep forgetting to do it 😅 #i have to go cuz they took my money and if i go to all the sessions i get my money back #but if I don’t they keep my money #sneaky bastards knowing how to keep people in these things #it was like 60 bucks #everyones always like go to therapy you need therapy like ok chumps that seems like a rich person’s privilege #I should go into a time management group instead #or living with adhd group #or how to stay organized with your plans group #or how to commit to something and finish it group #or how to sleep properly group