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thebibliosphere · 5 years

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(If you’re in a difficult place right now or don’t have the energy, please ignore this ask. I won’t be offended.) When I have a bad health day, irrational fears start to take over. I’m a single mom to two young kids. How do you keep your head positive when your body feels like shit or if you’re having an episode or feel so weak you’re gonna pass out? It’s counter intuitive. A positive mind feels so fake when I’m in pain. And physical stuff is bad enough without the anxiety of failing my kids.

Heh, you caught me just as I was about to fill out my therapy work sheets so… yeah, here’s the thing, there’s no one size fits all for this type of thing, but I’ve found EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) to be extremely helpful with helping me deal with my chronic pain and all the other shit in my head I have to contend with on a daily basis.

I’m going to put this under a cut cause it will likely get long, so if you’re on mobile and don’t want to read, you may wish to start scrolling now.

My therapist specifically went out and got qualified in this type of therapy in order to help me, after she read some studies on how it’s being used to help people with chronic pain to better process their pain. It doesn’t remove the pain, but it can help some people to better manage it, which in turn lowers stress levels, which in turn lowers stress hormones, which in turn directly affects certain types of chronic pain, and can help to manage the stress/pain cycle many people suffer from. And considering my body is so fucked up that stress can tip me over into an anaphylaxis episode, I really cannot stress enough how important and vital EMDR has been to me in helping me manage that stress level.

It’s also been really useful for me in starting to overcome certain traumas and triggers, making my world slightly less traumatizing and anxiety inducing to live in on a daily basis. I really don’t know how to describe it, but it’s like the method gets both parts of my brain talking to each other again in a way no other form of therapy ever has, and suddenly it becomes easier to deal with the thought or memory, which then in turn makes it somewhat easier to deal with any new events normally associated with that trigger. It doesn’t make me feel numb or suppress or remove the memory, it just helps lessen the emotional response and better regulate it.

I’m still very much in the early stages of this type of therapy, but it’s helped me a lot so far in terms of lessening my intrusive thoughts, lowering my stress and anxiety, and also helping the “positivity” to feel less “fake”.

If anything it lets me acknowledge my feelings from a safe emotional space, so instead of “fake it till you make it” I have come to terms with the fact that I will sometimes have moments of absolute soul obliterating rage and grief, and rather than try to bury them or push past them, I will instead take the time to sit down cry my eyes out. Crying, as it turns out, can be quite good for you, it helps the brain balance out certain chemicals and is a bit like trying to hit the reset button on the brain.

So rather than put a brave face on it, I’ll lock myself in the bathroom if I don’t want anyone else to know and I will sob it out, and rather than feeling like a failure for those moments like I used to, I now know that’s normal. That’s part of the grieving process, which is something I will likely always be going through because of how my life is. I have no constants, only variables (far more so than other people), so coming to terms with that and allowing myself to experience it rather than constantly fighting it has been beneficial. Hugely overwhelming and majorly exhausting, but helpful.

Cause being positive doesn’t mean feeling no negative emotions ever, it means dealing with the emotions, all the rage, the anxiety, the pain, the loneliness and everything else in between, and letting yourself experience them without falling into a spiral because that’s all part of the human experience. Nothing is constant, everything is variable and as terrifying as some people may find that, for me it’s a great source of comfort. It means one day, with the right medical advancements, I might get better. It could mean the opposite too of course, but I’m not going to dwell on that. There’s no point, it’s all, to quote my favorite angel, quite ineffable.

And again, this is not a magic cure and it won’t be a good fit for everyone, it’s just what I’m currently doing to try and unfuck my own head, and it’s been very helpful, especially cause I can’t take any meds and sometimes regular talk therapy would leave me feeling triggered and escalate into an episode all by itself. EMDR has been bloody hard work, but it’s also given me my perspective back in some instances, and helped me move on from some things I thought I’d never come to terms with. So if you’re struggling and you’ve tried other things? Maybe look into giving it a go.

Also reaching out to support groups can be very helpful. I don’t know what your life or social situation is like, but a lot of the time we can feel very isolated and alone with our conditions. That’s precisely why I started blogging about my illnesses the way I did. I never wanted anyone to feel as lonely as I did, even if it meant having only one other person in the world who understood. Online facebook groups can be a good way of finding other people who might understand, and they may be able to point your toward face to face groups if you’d like the real world social interaction. You could also try googling for them.

If you have friends who are willing and able, opening up to them on what you’re going through and talking about your limitations can also be very validating and reassuring. I lost a lot of face to face friends when I got sick, but the ones who understood and stuck around? Who made accommodations to ensure I could be part of the social group? Literal life savers.

And you’re not failing your kids. You’re trying your hardest, all the time, even when it doesn’t feel like it. And that’s all anyone can ever do.

Take care, okay? And I hope things improve for you.

#chronic health tag #mental health #therapy #EMDR #nightgnome

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kiyabujayniah1996 · 4 years

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musingsofthelittleone-blog · 6 years

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I’ve been using humor to deal with my anxiety –and so far it’s been working.

Disclaimer 1: This worked for me, which does not necessarily mean it will work for anyone else. I suffer from anxiety, but I do not have an anxiety disorder. Big difference. If you are someone who has an anxiety disorder or suspects that they may have a mental illness, ask a professional for help. This will not replace professional or medical help. Also, there may already be an established form of therapeutic intervention which uses similar techniques. I honestly don’t know if there is (and if you do know, please enlighten me).

Disclaimer 2: If you’re someone who believes strongly in the supernatural, such that imagery of demons and devils would induce additional fear/anxiety in you rather than humor, then perhaps this isn’t the ideal technique for you.

I have found that in dealing with my anxiety, it has been beneficial to make use of certain types of imagery –imagery that is both significant in the conceptualization of my anxiety, and powerful in its ability to help me overcome it.

I first found myself doing this spontaneously after reading the novel “The Screwtape Letters” by C.S Lewis, a humorous and yet profoundly wise satire which consists of letters written from a senior devil to a junior devil. The gist of the story is that a newly-graduated devil has been entrusted with the tempting and corrupting of an unsuspecting human being, and the senior devil (Screwtape) is supervising him, advising him on how to proceed and reprimanding him whenever he fails. For starters, I highly recommend this book. Although the religious, particularly Christians, might appreciate this book in a more literal sense than others (although it is not meant to be an actual metaphysical description at all), even those who hold different beliefs, including atheism, can gain enjoyment and insight from this gem because it is in fact a depiction of the human condition –which is, by definition, known to us all. It is a psychological book that conveys human weakness and strength, and accurately tells the story of how we advance towards happiness and fulfillment, and how exactly we may fall influence to thoughts, decisions, and beliefs that hinder us on that journey. There is something to be taken from this book for everyone.

While reading it, I could tell that I was learning a lot. What I did not expect, however, was that I would end up using the imagery from the book in order to battle my own “demons”, so to speak. I found myself, after having finished the book, discerning my thoughts with more clarity than before. When anxious thoughts about an uncertain future would make their usual attack, I would suddenly find myself giggling (a quite unusual and unprecedented reaction on my part). I couldn’t help but recall the passage in the book about anxiety towards the future:

*Note: since this is written from a devil’s point of view, “the Enemy” refers to God, and everything is reversed, such that what is recommended is what should be avoided, and vice versa.

“The humans live in time but our Enemy destines them to eternity. He therefore, I believe, wants them to attend chiefly to two things, to eternity itself, and to that point of time which they call the Present. For the Present is the point at which time touches eternity. Of the present moment, and of it only, humans have an experience analogous to the experience which our Enemy has of reality as a whole; in it alone freedom and actuality are offered them. He would therefore have them continually concerned either with eternity (which means being concerned with Him) or with the Present –either meditating on their eternal union with, or separation from, Himself, or else obeying the present voice of conscience, bearing the present cross, receiving the present grace, giving thanks for the present pleasure.

Our business is to get them away from the eternal, and from the Present. With this in view, we sometimes tempt a human (say a widow or a scholar) to live in the Past. But this is of limited value, for they have some real knowledge of the past and it has a determinate nature and, to that extent, resembles eternity. It is far better to make them live in the Future. Biological necessity makes all their passions point in that direction already, so that thought about the Future inflames hope and fear. Also, it is unknown to them, so that in making them think about it we make them think of unrealities.

In a word, the Future is, of all things, the least like eternity. It is the most completely temporal part of time –for the Past is frozen and no longer flows, and the Present is all lit up with eternal rays.

[…] To be sure, the Enemy wants men to think of the Future too –just so much as is necessary for now planning the acts of justice or charity which will probably be their duty tomorrow. The duty of planning the morrow’s work is today’s duty […]. This is now straw splitting. He does not want men to give the Future their hearts, to place their treasure in it. We do. His ideal is a man who, having worked all day for the good of posterity (if that is his vocation), washes his mind of the whole subject, commits the issue to Heaven, and returns at once to the patience or gratitude demanded by the moment that is passing over him. But we want a man hag-ridden by the Future –haunted by visions of an imminent heaven or hell upon earth –ready to break the Enemy’s commands in the present if by doing so we make him think he can attain the one or avert the other –dependent for his faith on the success or failure of schemes whose end he will not live to see. We want a whole race perpetually in pursuit of the rainbow’s end, never honest, nor kind, nor happy now, but always using as mere fuel wherewith to heap that altar of the future every real gift which is offered them in the Present. It follows then, in general, and other things being equal, that it is better for your patient to be filled with anxiety or hope (it doesn’t much matter which) about this war than for him to be living in the present.”

I have discovered that there is merit not only in remembering this passage as a piece of wisdom, but even more so in remembering it as having been spoken by a struggling devil who is trying to ruin my day as much as possible –one who is, according to the book and my own beliefs, ultimately destined to lose. When anxiety strikes, I imagine Screwtape (which, in my mind, resembles the comically depicted monstrous antagonists of cartoons, fairytales, and folklore –a cross between smeagol from LOTR and the androgynous red devil in heels from the powerpuff girls) whispering the thoughts into my ear. This provides me with an instant alarm: you’re giving in to negative thoughts again. Now that I’ve noticed, imagining (1) that the thoughts are coming in from outside of me, (2) that I have the ability to stop listening to that voice, and (3) that that voice belongs to a comical personification of my anxiety GIVES ME AN IMMEDIATE TOOL TO DIFFUSE THE SITUATION. I’m sure it will not always be so easy –the more realistic and immediate the anxieties are, the less easy it is to attribute them to unrealistic obsessions that will not serve me. However, I feel like I am at least training myself to deal with more difficult days that may come.

Now, for the psychological aspects of why I’ve found this imagery useful.

First of all, although anxieties undoubtedly do emanate from within, they are inevitably rooted in the without. Anxieties are produced from a combination of genetic/hereditary predispositions towards neuroticism (the personality dimension on the Big Five) and previous experiences in which we have learned, either first-hand or observationally, to be anxious. Although our genes are inside us and contribute enormously to who we are and how we experience the world, we are not the origins of those internal workings. They are passed down from our ancestors; they are ancient, evolutionary, and historical. They have contributed to our survival as a species (or else, they would most likely have been eradicated by now); but just because they can be adaptive doesn’t mean that they are optimal in our current environment. It’s good to have fear, because without it we would end up dead quicker than you can say “bear attack.” However, there are times when anxiety and fear are counterproductive and maladaptive: when anxiety impairs daily functioning and creates distress. What’s more, on a more conscious level we have learned, while growing up, to be anxious by discovering that the world is dangerous and ambiguous and that the future is uncertain. We have watched others in their anxiety, we have listened to their anxieties, and we have internalized their fears. We have had rude awakenings, unpleasant surprises, and have been betrayed by life and its creatures. So, in many ways, seeing our anxiety as an inner voice that is rooted in an external orator is not entirely inaccurate.

Secondly, there’s the issue of control: I can stop listening to that voice. At first, I was uncertain whether imagining these thoughts as originating from the outside would be useful. Seeing as the process had immediately yielded such positive results, I was quickly inclined to think that that must be a good way to think about it –but that led me to the task of analyzing why this is a good thing. Conventionally, I have learned that it is important to have an internal locus of control, meaning that the more we feel that we are in control (rather than feeling that externals, such as circumstance, are in control), the more we can behave proactively. At first, I speculated that delegating my anxious thoughts to an imaginary external entity should in fact displace this locus of control, and was thus confused as to why I felt more in control of my thoughts in doing so. What I soon realized, though, is that the idea of controlling or stopping our own thoughts is actually quite ambiguous. On the one hand, we like to think that if they’re our thoughts then we can simply stop thinking them. But, on the other hand, if they are our thoughts then they are already inside us, they are part of us, fused in with our identity. They are intertwined with the rest of us, and so it is conceptually difficult to differentiate between the thoughts we don’t want and the thoughts we do want. ‘Can we really escape ourselves?’ I think it’s possible that many of us may, perhaps subconsciously, struggle with this question when trying to block negative thoughts. To make matters worse, stopping our own thoughts seems to require an extraordinary amount of willpower. It is an act of transforming yourself; it is more than simply “not listening to thoughts.” The truth is, it is a lot easier to stop listening to someone else than to stop listening to yourself. In line with the way we deal with all external things which bother us in our daily lives, I found in fact that my sense of control returned with more ferocity when I externalized the source of the thoughts that keep me from peace and fulfillment. I can hang up the phone, I can close the webpage with the hateful messages, I can unfriend a person, I can block a contact, I can turn away and leave when I’m dealing with an actual voice that I don’t want in my life. And so, I found it extremely helpful to blame Screwtape for filling my head with nonsense and purposely distracting me from the task at hand: dealing with the present moment, going to sleep because I need to wake up in the morning, focusing on writing my WIP, enjoying the company of a friend, listening to the professor in class. Screwtape is trying to take away all of those things, and I can simply damn him back to hell.

Thirdly, and I think this part is absolutely crucial, it has been useful for me to personify my anxiety in the most comical way possible. That sudden little smirk or giggle is often enough to interrupt my progression into despair and bring me back to a moment of lucidity and clarity. I also like to imagine my anxiety as a demon because in Christian imagery and tradition, the devil is referred to as “the bringer of light”, “the liar”, and “the enemy of mankind.” These three nicknames have been incredibly suitable in dealing with my anxiety. First of all, the “bringer of light” refers to the fact that what’s being said and suggested seems noble, good, smart, and wise. It seems wise to think incessantly about potential problems in order to be more ready for them when/if they arrive, or to attempt to fix the unfixable and change the unchangeable. However, in line with his second nickname, all of this is a lie. I’m a worthless person who is incapable of anything? That’s a lie. In psychology, we refer to such thoughts as being cognitive distortions. They are unrealistic, exaggerated, irrational beliefs about the self and the world. “Nobody loves me” –I’m pretty sure we can all name at least one person who loves us. “It’s the end of the world” –is it really the entire end of existence? And then there’s the third nickname, which is actually my favorite. By calling him the “enemy of mankind”, we are actually correcting a common misconception, which is that the devil is the enemy of God. He’s not God’s enemy, he’s ours. By being called the enemy of mankind, that means that he is our size. He is not God’s size. Your anxiety is NOT more powerful than you. It is your size. You CAN tackle it. If you can’t tackle it on your own, then other humans can help you. The human race has been busy coming up with ways to destroy your enemy, in the form of psychotherapy as well as pharmacotherapy. And never forget, no matter what, that God is always stronger. If God is Love, then regardless of what you believe, know that by being determined to learn how to love yourself you WILL overcome that which tries to teach you otherwise.

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