#but your parents also give you money

[countess-of-edessa]

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#it’s become obvious my roommate feels some type of way about the fact that my parents still contribute to me financially #which it’s a free county #she can think and be however she likes #idk im annoyed that i literally just venmoed her today for the chipotle she used her account to mobile order (and she specifically asked if #we could order together so she can get the points for her account) #and then when i mention me buying us chick fil a thé other day she’s like oh yeah i thought you were just using up the rest of your dining #account money but i can pay you if you want. #like yes it is fortunate my parents still help me (i mean #not extremely unbelievably fortunate; i think it is normal and good not to cut children off as soon as they turn 18 esp while they are in #school preparing for careers and unable to get jobs) #but your parents also give you money #the ten grand they gave you though was for your wedding which is in less than a year #it’s not my fault that you decided to get married which does kind of imply that you should be cut off from your parents and living off your #own income #it isn’t like my family is rolling in money. all our clothes are from goodwill all our groceries are freedoms choice commissary brand lol #my parents specifically chose when they had kids that they didn’t want them to have to work in college like they had and so made plans #early on to do help us with that because it was one of their core values. #and i still had a job in undergrad! they pay for my groceries and my textbooks anything i want that’s fun comes out of the money ive earned #working through undergrad. it really annoys me

[puppyeared]

Atla live action 😐

#thats my honest reaction 😐 #to be fair ive only seen 20 minutes of the s1 finale bc my parents are watching it but. mmmmm kinda mid #like. the casting is definitely an improvement since the last time they tried a live action but it feels like the writing falls flat #or maybe im being harsh bc ive only heard negative criticism on it beforehand. but fr anytime u bring up the original its already #good and not just because its the original. so much fucking detail went into it to the point of someone noticing azula wielding mai's knive #to how well thought out irohs character is used as a way of uniting the cast especially as zukos foil #i heard that sokkas sexism was toned down and i have to agree that feels like a cheap move. like i get WHY they think it would be better #but its not about how that reflects on real world its about how it affects the story. sokka starts out as a misogynistic asshole because #it makes it that much more impactful when he changes. toning that down makes it flatter and makes his character development weak #and someone pointed out they didnt even make him wear the kyoshi warrior uniform and i know it feels like such a small detail but #come on man. they did that in the original because not only does it help him really walk in their shoes - wearing 'feminine' clothing and #makeup and having suki explain its significance but it also ties in with the shows theme of harmony and intersectionality #i was also disappointed when they had the fire sages explain how the water tribe draws power from the moon because in the original it was #IROH who explained it to aang and everyone else BECAUSE we as the audience is under the impression hes with the 'bad guys' #and it builds up to how he learned from the other nations which reconciles his past as a war general and his character overall #AND its an excellent starting point for the cast and audience to understand how the nations arent as closed off as you would think #plus you would think its only fire nation doing propaganda but they expanded on that with earth kingdom censorship and it WORKS #a lot of things in the live action also feel arbitrary like. they gave momo a near death experience for 5 minutes for no reason #im firmly on the stance of bringing back filler moments instead of putting major events right after each other so that u give your #audience a sense of time passing and to really absorb the story. but i think thats more like shock value than filler and yeah its a small #thing to gripe about but those things build up and its really annoying. the thing abt avatar filler moments is that however small #its at least meaningful. hell even the beach episode emphasizes how isolated zuko and his friends are as child soldiers #i also swore to never watch the first live action since it was that bad but i really liked the stylized tattoos they used for aang #anyway. those arejust my thoughts. im not gonna watch the rest because im a ride or die for the original aftr growing up and #rewatching it at least 20 times as a kid. but theres definitely room for improvement and i wish ppl wouldnt take it as 'better' just cuz #netflix is adapting it. i wouldve killed for them to just reanimate the entire avatar series and touch NOTHING ELSE no redub #no changes to the story. just reanimate the thing and leave the rest alone and youd make easy money just the same #ALSO its very jarring not hearing jack desena and dante basco voicing sokka and zuko cause their voices were the most recognizable to me #i get that its because its live action but im allowed to feel a little sad abt that. and uncle irohs accent was really soothing #yapping

[voraxiia]

remember there was a time when i said i wouldn't know how to quit tumblr

( there's a small rant going on in the tags but the point is i miss it here ok and i hope everyone's having a splendid day / week / month and your favourite treat is on sale bc you deserve it )

#// i would like to thank my parents and teachers and everyone who convinced me to be a doctor #// i now have raging depriety and gastritis and there are firecrackers in my knees everytime i even slightly bend them #// i also cry when people are nice to me bc i'm used to being treated like i'm a dumbass b*tch #// and people refuse to teach you how to handle things so that when there are urgent situations they can take time to insult you #// instead of idk give instructions/orders what to do to be useful #// like if you really wanted to do everything yourself just shut up and do it it's quicker that way #// ' what are you doing ' idk waiting for you to send the link to access your brain and download the information we should magically know #// also bc i already have a diagnosis it's more tricky to ask for a leave for some reason #// bc apparently it'll easily become ' proof ' that i'm not fit for the job after all and 7 years of hard work and money will go to waste #// and i haven't even gotten my first paycheck #// so of course it would be better to wait my turn for 2.5 hours at the ED with a ' less severe ' diagnosis for the day #// like oh no my tummy hurts so much for some reason today but it's totally not bc of anxiety pfft what's an anxiety

[hauntingblue]

BACK TO ONE PIECE LETSGOOOOO

#nami put luffy in a cage.... dont let sanji see that.... again nami demonstrating how she is the strongest ever..... #why is franky the boat akshaksjskqjqk ROBIN NEARLY 1000 MILLION YEAAAAAHHHHH #sanji exploded </3 rip the smoking got to him..... luffys snapshot in the cage beaten up akdhsksjsk #jinbes theme is a banger.... buggy lmaoo chacho means president??? that is so funny... CHACHOOOO!!! also buggy owning croc money... banger #these two divas sitting cross legged on the couch bullying buggy.... ajhdkajsa buggys bounty akdhsksjsks #this whole episode was so funny lmao buggy.... #talking tag #watching one piece #episode 1086 #luffy wanted yamato to join the crew omg....... i mean of course but he was maaaad.... i kew yamato was a nakama for sure #marco telling luffy ace would be proud of him and smiling.... didnt that happen before and he got sad??? development #SERAPHIM?? THE NEW PACIFISTAS?? why tf does she look like hancock??? OMG MARGARET!!! FUCKING BLACKBEARD??? IN AMAZON LILY??? #baby angel mihawk too??? what is this.... KILL BLACKBEARD YES!!!! THROW HIM INTO THE SEA!!! LET THE SEA RECLAIM HIM!!! #so pretty sure what garp was talking about were the seraphim pacifistas..... just keep making things worse old man sure #koby is gay confirmed see.... helmeppo got got... the downsides of being bisexual... #BLACKBEARD GOT HER!!! GET YOUR FUCKING HANDS OFF HER!!!! #episode 1087 #hancock lying on rayleighs legs omg... those are her parents ALSO SHAKKY EX KUJA CAPTAIN AND EX EX EMPERESS??? RAYLEIGH????? #why does amazon lily have a giant portrait of luffy on the palace facade akdhaksjaka i mean i DO know why..... #who tf is wang zhi and what did koby do.... and blackbeard is NASTY!!!! RAYLEIGH GET HIM!!! this reminds me of shanks in marineford... a lo #koby kidnapped by blackbeard?? omg kuma....... he is alright.... why the cherry blossom petals in between them ajdjsksjwk #see how sabo is alive.... but why does koala have blue eyes and orange hair now.... luffy having a crisis #i was thinking is carobou om that fucking barrel and YES why us brook crying akdhsk what do you know #zoro using luffy's words against him.... but i dont think ace is a good example of this.... zoro and sanji fighting about who is on top.... #luffy asking robin for news.... BUT ROBIN I WANT TO KNOW!!!! omg this ending???? WHAT DID LUFFY SAY???? that was beautiful............. #he said he wants to give everyone freedom i know it... and he needs to be pirate king for that.... he knew since he was a child..... #omg....... the one piece is freedom for everyone and for some reason roger couldnt do it he wanted his son to do it..... #back on my theories grind.... #episode 1088 #LUFFY!!!! THE MAN THAT YOU ARE!!!!

[moregraceful]

planning funerals when you weren't expecting to have to plan them is a special kind of hell imho

#hey big guy in the sky can i have one single year off of this shit. no? ok #and paying for a funeral when you weren't expecting to but the parents of the deceased are embarrassed abt needing money. also hell #and i get it because running a gfm is absolutely humiliating!! but also when people wanna help you gotta give them an outlet to help #and if that's allowing friends and family to give you $5 so you can afford a service and a place to bury your child #let them do it #[points at bio wearily] don't forget. never forget. and never wait to say it #death tw #fresno oilers.txt

[the-starlight-papers]

Oh boy just found out that politics are coming directly to my conservative college campus this fall.

Yay.

#well thank god I’m cooping so I won’t be there I guess. #I still might drive in to protest because presumably there’ll be one #annother fun session of having people yell transphobic shit while we chant stuff like ‘hate has no place here’ #if I’m lucky the campus barstool account will post a picture of me at the protest again (this is not a good thing) #also sucks because my parents are just kinda like ‘well that’s how it is. people are allowed to have different political beliefs’ #like yeah they can have different political beliefs but I would like to medically transition and these guys want me to not #also I love working with kids and being a camp counselor and stuff #and some of these people would want me arested as a p/e/dofile because I’m trans and indoctrinating their children #so yeah sure they can have different beliefs but they don’t seem to understand that there are certain groups that want trans people gone #honestly my parents are both upper middle class white people. they come from a long line of college educated people in primarily white areas #both of them tend to preach tolerance to the point where I have to have the paradox of tolerance picture on my phone to remind myself that #tolerance is a social contract not a moral principle #(a good example of this is when I found out that a girl on my xc team had to move schools because she was bullied out of my hs #becuase she was homophobic. and he was like ‘well bullying is never the answer’ #ok but like you understand that she was probably harassing gay people at my school right) #in conclusion: pro tip for queer students choosing their college: yes they may give you lots of money. but is it worth your mental health

[sillypilled-friendcel]

"what do you know about drinking" "what do you know about smoking" "what do you know about weed" "what do you know about drugs" you do not know me or my life!!!!!!

#hes always like “what do you know” and then theres a chance hell call me the r slur #and like. i was a smoker for 4 years. i was an alcoholic for 6. #i did speed in muddle school #i smoked pot and had edibles. i had edibles woth my fucking parents. #amd then he complains that i have a vape (bought with my own money!!) and that my parents give me alcohol now (they gave my sisters alcohol #at 13!!) #like he smoked and drank around my suster with cigarettes and drinks my parents bought her #but the moment ma buys me a vaoe with ny own money or i have any experience drinking its awful #i guess its because shes sooo mature and hard working and ik just a disrespectful kid #even tho im a fucking adult now and he never had any right to treat me half the way he did/does #“i treat her like i treat my 10 year old brother” srsly. srsly?? am i 10 now? am i your 10 yr old baby brother now? no. im 18 fucking years #old and i had a totally different life experience than your brother when i was 10 too. we are not related. that is NOT what they meant when #they said to treat me like your younger sister. fuck you. fuck off. #also. im SORRY to your brother if this is how you treat him. but it fucking isnt. your kind to him. you play with him. u fckng LOVE him #while ur an absolute abusive POS towards me #u literally talk shit about me! too my friends!! what? u think my bestie since 6th grade and my cousin ive known all my life are gonna agree #with you? how fucking stupid can u be? #also. u r not the expert on disability just becuz u lost half ur foot and have adhd. ur extremely fucking ableist actually #“i could play sports and so cpukd this guy with a pacemaker i knew so no disability is ever an excuse you can do anything and also im gonna #call you (an autistic person) a retard and say the n word constantly and call children n word lettes!!!! becuz i am a totally normal and wel #well adjusted individual!!!“ #i hope someone hears you say half the shit you say and fucking jumps your ass #and i hope those fuckings pigs u love so much dont do shit for you #you ableist racist transphobic homophobic intersexist bigoted piece of fucking shit #like. if a form of bigotry exjsts he fucking loves it. #god. fuck you. fuck you fuck you. #i hope you fucking kill yourself

[beeseverywhen]

god the duality between 'I don't want someone in my house' and 'yeah I'd like my own kids and no way I'm doing that alone'

#like ppl who don't want kids should be free to live their lives without ppl being like 'watch out! your biological clock is ticking!' #that's bullshit ppl shouldn't say that. but also. i would like kids and #after so many years trying not to get pregnant and that seeming like a worst case scenario. so desperately wanting to not become my parents #now i am an age where I'd happily have a kid if i were in the right life situation & i don't feel I've got all the time in the world anymore #lol like. the space in between 'too young to have a baby' and 'old enough that i risk more health issues/ will be an older parent' #feels way way narrower than i ever would have assumed lol. esp. because all the parents in my family are so young. the idea of being an #older parent is so strange to me. I'm so aware of the things you can't do when you're older and how it's harder work to run after them #and like my body is already wearing out way faster than anyone elses. my health's only gonna get worse so. #being an older parent just doesn't seem an option. not to mention like. the older i am the less generations I'll get to see. #i want to be a great grandmother damnit. lol. #like I'm on a clock. to get over my commitment issues or it legit won't happen. but yeah. can't think of anything worse than having #to have someone in my house. if i was rich enough to have lots of space that's one thing but. I'm not lol. #and rich ppl rub me up the wrong way whenever they try and chat me up so doubt I'm gonna marry in to money looool #like i have come to terms with the fact that. if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen. id rather not get to be a mother than to settle #like that whole 'looking for a partner' dating life is not for me i can't think of anything worse. if it happens it happens #I'll either meet the right person who im willing to give up an empty house for or i won't looool #and it's not like im giving up the whole raising kids thing completely. #like I've got to play a significant hand in raising my siblings even if i didn't ask for that. I've got to see them grow and #help them reach those milestones. and whatever the circumstances I'm blessed to have had them in my life #even if i don't have my own kids I'm always gonna have kids in my life even if I'm an aunt rather than grandmother you know #I'm lucky to be in a family where raising kids is a communal thing. but yeah id love to have my own kids & have someone that looks like me #but I'm not willing to bring someone in to the world in non opportune circumstances deliberately. #like if it's up to me i want them to have 2 parents to look out for them and 2 parents that at least stand a chance of liking each other lol

[chicago-geniza]

Within a 10-minute interval

>me gagging on the Mucinex Man & his entire extended family

>me googling "what makes the body produce too much mucus"

>google: severe asthma, chronic bronchitis, especially alpha-1 antitrypsin deficiency

>phone alarm: don't forget to text sean back about pulmonary function testing for the severe asthma study & send your blood sample to the lab for alpha-1 antitrypsin deficiency genetic testing tomorrow,

#shitty lungs disease #It's your shitty lungs!!! #on the bright side if my lungs are shitty enough the government has to give me money apparently #and also give me one of them sick vests that vibrates all the mucus out of your lungs #due to my allergy the mold might have given me #bronchiectasis that's how you spell it. there's a specific subgenre of it w/ allergic asthma & mold allergy & mold infestations #& it's characterized by this is very gross but coughing up brown mucus plugs that you can test for mold spores #but i'm going to see if they'll do that test & if it's positive i get to uh. #sue my landlord but not in the litigious American way in the way that is like. Make him fix the house so other people don't get sick #And return 3 months' rent probably #Bc he says it's perfectly habitable and I have pics that would have the EPA up his ass #He bought the house with money his parents have him also he's like #Not exactly hard up you know

[wachi-delectrico]

Having an autism moment (I have experienced something minor yet so unpleasant i am at the brink of exploding in rage). Gonna go ride the bike for a while to calm down i guess

#rambling #Been telling my parents to not buy me shoes unless I'm there to try them myself #So of course my mom not only bought shoes without me being there but also bought the cheapest most counterfeit nike ripoffs #They were: heavy as hell; stiff??; so poorly crafted different parts of the interior dug into my feet #And the construction was so obviously poor both shoes had completely different problems going on with the fit like #Tried them for like a minute or two and gave them back to my mom #She told me to get dressed to go get them changed and i went ''no can you just give them back and get your money i don't want any of that'' #I'm not against counterfeit products but i AM against buying the shittiest most torturous stuff imaginable #I cannot imagine that store having anything good or comfortable at all #And I'm being very normal about it (i am so so so angry that felt awful i want to destroy those hellish shoes) #Murder murder violence kill kill kill

[stillfruit]

i hate spending money i hate how it makes me feel even if there’s no rational reason for it i hate the guilt and the burden and the anxiety and the fear and the pressure and t

#i've been planning to buy an ipad for ltierally years now to upgrade my drawing setup from idk 2014 #i did it today but fuck i hate how it makes me feel to buy things that cost a lot of money y #i have to make decisions and be responsible for them and i never make good decisions my track record on that is absolutely terrible #i always make the wrong ones and i feel guilty always no matter what i do #so it's so much easier to just? not do anything and stay stagnant but then again i can't possibly want that in the long run #bc not accomplishing or doing anything only mkaes me wanna die more #this is even if it's not my money or probably even more if it's someone elses bc this is my parents' gift to me but sfsvdfvjds i want to cry #they bought me one few christmases ago but i returned it bc it was just too much and ic ouldn't deal with it #why is it so difficult for me i cannot receive things #i'm buying all the accessories etc but like that's difficult for me as well #bc even if now i can comfortable afford this thing what if i can't in the future what if i need that money in the future #i've tried thinking this as a combined christmas birthday etc gift from my parents and my own gift for myself for getting my bachelors #but. yeah #i know how this sounds like if someone said this to me itd be reasonable to be like stfu youre getting an ipad what are you crying about #i know this is incredibly privileged whining about nothing but this aversion to gifts and spenidng money is just something that #bothers me about myself bc it's an example of whats wrong with me #i cannot imagine being a person who loves receiving and giving physical gifts how do you live with the implications of those #gifts are nice!!! but they're also a Lot for me #anyway waiting for the say i won't be on the edge for literally no reason <3333 #shit talking

[doggirl-narcolepsy]

welp back to bed with me.. beenn up for literally like 5 hours and I've been told my internship will probably fall through, though I won't know until literal days before I'm supposed to start. had to cancel what little plans I had for my birthday because of the weather and I haven't eaten anything in like 48 hours..

#vent post #you think you have some things settled and then everything just falls apart #I was fine with grilling alone with my parents and wife because at least I'd get to eat that day without feeling guilty for spending money #but since it's gonna be raining for the next week straight I think I'm just gonna cancel it all together #like wow you'll buy food to grill as a birthday present but not give me money for groceries.. just letting us starve... cool.. fuck you too #i also really wanted to go to the new queer bar for my birthday because they're doing their 1 year anniversary event the same day #but i have like... no friends #to the point that i only found out that a queer bar had been open in this town for 11 months a week ago #after a literal decade with no lgbt spaces in this part of the country #but hey what do you expect when your last interaction with an irl friend you had was “hey do y'all wanna go to this concert together” #just to be told they had bought tickets weeks in advance and didn't feel like telling you lol... last december

[radmista]

I need white people to shut the fuck forever about how scars form and heal, and how they "aren't that bad looking" when talking to dark skinned people

Yeah a white scar doesn't look that bad or obvious on your white ass skin, but when I'm multiple shades darker than you a bold white scar IS PRETTY FUCKING OBVIOUS

#supremely pissed at the advice I've been given by my white friends #i was treating my wound to the best of my knowledge to ensure i had minimal scaring (bc its in an area i want tattooed in the future) #and then they go and give me advice and are like and even if it scars it should be fine it'll fade and then you wont notice it! #like no you dipshits. it fades on YOUR skin because you're white and a white scar eventually bleeds into the background of your skin #since i started following their advice you can see an obvious demarcation in my wound healing from thin minimal dark scar to now a wider #white and stretched scar #im so unbelievably angry rn that i let them convince me otherwise #i dont mind having scars this isn't a beauty thing. its a practical thing. yeah ik you can get tattoos over scars if you pay good money #but shocker i didnt want to have to pay more money than I would have had my cut healed properly #like man oh man you'd think id know how deep wounds heal on dark skin after having it all my life and seeing how my parents wounds healed #also you can lighten dark marks on skin like scars or those fade on my skin. giant white scar tissue doesnt darken to match my skin #so believe it or not i planned and thought about this in depth. im just so angry i let them change my mind and now theres nothing i can do

[mediapen]

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#tbh im sick of being made to feel. not working class. because i am. but poor. like as though i am ACTUALLY poor (im not! i have Enough) #by the income metrics of EVERY university I’ve attended. like that’s how little you’re exposed to normal people? that you class me as #financially struggling? ME? and i don’t mean it in a shame way it’s so hard to articulate this because I’m just surrounded by people who #really would not be able to live on my family’s very normal income. but im sick of middle class students pleading poverty because their #parents aren’t throwing money at them and im sick of institutions recognising there’s a very real class inequality but doing nothing aside #from low income grants if we’re lucky or ‘widening participation’ grants that are so narrow and contribute so little as to effectively be #worthless. not to MENTION the way middle class students AND academics talk about the working class like we’re a stupid monolith #next person to talk about the way they need to support post-92 unis because education is a universal good and the working class need a plac #to go ❤️ gets shot. honestly. like i actually can’t do it any more. im sick of you fucking people #IM ALREADY IN YOUR WORLD. SURPRISE!!!!!!! stop pricing me out or microaggressing me into giving up. #this is also not about cost of living crisis this absolutely predates it like it is Hurting right now. anyway. #didn’t get the widening participation grant. 👍 so whoever the fuck did. Well im calling bullshit on it honestly. i commute 4 hours each way #because it’s the only way i can afford my ma at redacted prestigious institution please tell me more about how you can afford to rent in #london and have an income below x. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩 #dl