#dare i say.... it's gender to me

[blastburnt]

there is just something about varsity style jackets and baseball bats that make something click in my brain. i WILL eat it up every time.

#dare i say.... it's gender to me #tbh it doesn't have to be baseball bats specifically. any sort of melee weapon in a varsity jacket is perfectly good #btext

[cock-holliday]

Thinking thinking thinking about Leslie Feinberg in Outlaw talking about gender and zie described hirself as a “transgendered woman.” Leslie had ID’ed as “trans” but I had not heard til that interview zie saying “transgender(ed) woman.”

I know zie considered hirself still a lesbian, and something under a trans umbrella, and while many were quick to assign “trans man” or “transmasc” onto hir, I knew that somewhere in a sense of womanhood, zie identified with a woman-adjacent label still.

I had not considered zie would combine hir sense of womanhood with the label of trans but it makes complete sense, and gives a whole new layer to hir sense of sisterhood with (amab) trans women!

Zie was a woman in a transgressive, transitional, transgender(ed) way. A trans woman.

What a concept of gender and transness that would make so many spaces spit blood. But it makes total sense!

Oh, to have more people recognize the trans umbrella (and frankly entire queer umbrella) as a spectrum of transgressive gender and not as mirrors for cisheteropatriarchy.

#leslie feinberg #outlaw 1994 #I’ve seen clips but never the whole video!! #in 1994 no less #damn wish id seen this sooner #leslie continuously rocking my world when it comes to gender understanding #the shit zie and Kate Bornstein did—partially just by existing—has had such a profound impact on me #everything both said was either relatable as hell or so jarring but understandable when I shifted my perspective #which forced me to accept the odd parts of myself #dare I say…the queerest parts

[fenitos]

A vagitus song

I breathed

and screamed

from my

new

lungs

#limbus company #project moon #kromer #lcb #im sorry this is like super experimental #it was fun drawing but idk!! idk #cw gore #cw blood #its not what i usually draw #so im sorry if this catches you by surprise #but this specific part from the song has me in its throes for a long time now #its very gender even if i dare say so myself

[falled-over]

since pepper was asking for it something that girls do that always makes me think 'cool gender' is not change their names despite it being historically masculine and re-defining the name through their identity and relationship to it.

#dylan mulvaney springs to mind. of course. along with some less famous examples. #shes a great example to give because a lot of things about her align with ideals of cishet feminine ideals and she could've changed her nam #to match. but chose to keep dylan. great gender moment #another thing that i always think is a cool gender is girls who understand femininity as non-necessary addition and arent afraid of #masculinity being a detractor in their appearance #this includes things like girls who talk openly about their dick or dont tuck or a girl i saw recently who rocked a full beard with #lashes a wig and a full beat #and donning a butch identity as a trans girl is always a 'cool gender' moment. especially if she feels little to no need to change much #about herself. the pressures to change yourself as even a cis woman are so high that cis women earn 'cool gender' points from other cis #women for openly combatting them by not performing. the same should be extended to trans sisters #i feel like the 'cool gender' moments most often live in autistic transmasc communities. who are more interested in the metaphysical. #(and there are less fun masculine compliments out there to give so cool gender exists to fill that hole) #but i agree with her. more trans girls and transfeminine people should be seen as people with 'cool genders' #not thinking of donning femininity when thinking of cool genders is indeed misogynistic. dare i say transmisogynistic #hope you guys enjoy me dickriding (so to speak) for the girls every few months. as pippa has pointed out to me many times its a core part o #who i am #what did she just send me hold on #'i prefer “niche enjoyer” to chaser actually' #(in response to me saying something about trans women being the niche in the lgbt im most drawn to. theres no way to say that without #it sounding weird. something something fetishisation often means genuine appreciation reads as predatory making uncomplicated love seem #impossible which further marginalises the fetishised community etc... im just chatting shit u get what i mean) #im like a platonic chaser. unless youre interested in doing something unlabelled with an emphasis on the psycho of psychosexual in the note #i would say that that role has already been filled but who is interested in upholding monogamy in this day and age

[drdarling]

#martti suosalo #yeah man whatever of course he looked like that in the 90s whatever just kill me #im gonna fuckign blow up #dare i say having a little bit of gender envy over this look as well

[bananonbinary]

also as long as im talking gender my therapist has brought up a few times that the way i describe my relationship with gender can also be applied to body type in many ways. skinny and fat are just as much a pointless and false binary as man and woman. i haven't actually been able to Internalize that yet but like she's absolutely right the idea of being A Fat Person who can't wear certain clothes or exist in certain spaces is entirely made up according to current social standards and, while the words are vaguely reflective of SOMETHING that's actually there, they're so subjective and relative that they're basically meaningless in terms of actually telling you anything of use.

#personally i like to call myself fat just as like. idk almost a dare? #like go ahead and call me fat i already did it and it has no teeth #but this is a really neat way of looking at it #especially for someone who says she doesnt really get the gender stuff #i think she gets it a lot more than most people

[snekdood]

Some of yall deeply underestimate how much some cis men are threatened by trans men and our masculinity. How theres so many cis dudes out there that want to rape us, thinking that will make us detransition. How many incels out there are mad at us for betraying womanhood and not sucking their dick. How much they want to force us to detransition, how much they want to kill us and force us into hiding which, to me, minus well be killing us since theyre smothering who we are for the sake of a status quo. We shake their fundamental understanding of the world. Its one thing for a GIRL to be a tomboy to them. They think its cute, like a baby pretending to be an adult. Its a whole other thing for someone percieved as a woman to try to actually be a man to them. They think thw fact we have the gal to assume we can escape their grasp, to escape the kitchen or whatever tf, means we're disrespecting them and trying to "destroy" them, rather than what it really is, us trying to be independent. We're the exact thing these types of cis men hate. Sometimes they tolerate (emphasis here bc im not saying they accept yall. Dont twist my words)trans women bc they fetishize them but they want to completely eradicate us becayse we threaten the patriarchy by virtue of deciding we dont need a man to take care of us, we want to be the man that takes care of ourselves.

#and bc ik how some of yall are on this site and how uncharitable you are let me be clear: just because they TOLERATE trans women/fems #sometimes. doesnt mean i think they actually respect you or see you as you. im not abot to say you somehow have it easier. they want to use #you and then dump your body somewhere. im well aware of that. but they *also* want to entirely entrap us and our identities and keep us #smothered with no escape. its why were seeing child marriage laws. its why were seeing anti abortion laws. its why we're seeing rights #stripped away from ppl wrongly percieved as women becayse theyre so threatened by us and how we think we can be on our own #that they have to try more extreme measures ro control us our bodies and self expression. its why candace owens goes on saying #'does women voting actually do any good for anyone??' #and no. entrapment isnt them somehow caring about us mlre than you. thats their alternative to killing us but its not an alternative bc it #fundamentally strips us of our rights and autonomy. and also. entrapping us and forcing us out of our gender. like i said. minus well be #killing us. its not likely we'll just get to run away free from these men if they get this type of power. its more likely they kill us for #even daring to betray them their values and words. #so how tf is anyone more privileged in this situation? in trans spaces? can we really fucking say someone has it worse rn. #is it really worth it to try to divide and weigh who has it worse. bc they want both os us dead for being who we are. #and its not like they dont offer yall an out to. its just their out is ALSO basically killing yourself bc they want you to conform to #cishet white manhood. #also it goes both ways. cis women are like this towards trans women. its the proximity effect. #where you get more upset with different people who are also more like you than other ppl #the difference i'd argue though is cis men- at least the ones in power- have more of an ability to remove us than cis women #like its easier for them to do.

[aromanticannibal]

the egg discourse is pissing me off so bad like what do yall don't understand in stop telling random people you know their gender better than them

#especially since half of the damn time it's seeing soemone being gnc in their corner and immediately being like AHA LOL EGG #bruh. leave people alone. this is a real person #and also like yeah I'm sorry but saying a guy is actually a woman because dude dared to do something “feminine” is counter productive #this isn't being all cute and saying you relate to something you're just telling soemone you think you know their identity better than them #just say oh I find this relatable as X gender idfk #I don't get why it's so hard to understand that some people don't want to get told what their identity is based on one random thing #this isn't fucking transphobia it's basic courtesy #idk it's annoying me

[bibastibootz]

he is everything, actually 😌💕

#and dare I say it..... gender!!! liking him in a gay AND a trans way ✌️ #he has bewitched me body and soul and I love I love I love him #sebastian bootz #tatort stuttgart #in eigener sache #mehl stuff

[hershelwidget]

IT'S EMMA ANGST HOURS

you know, I've written an awful lot of female/feminine characters that are treated harshly or without respect from their male/masculine counterparts. Emma is probably the biggest example of this, where she, the "only girl" in her Gup group, is often scolded like she's a child or protected from the outside world because she's too "fragile" and "weak". boy I sure hope this doesn't mirror past experiences i've had as someone who's grown up as a girl and OH WAIT IT DOES

The most tragic part of it is, no matter how much Emma tries to hold her own, she's just not able to get to that level of independence that other characters like Rosemary and Polly have, or hell, even Dashi and Tweak from the actual source material

Emma's the most held-back character I've probably ever written, period, and ESPECIALLY the most held-back lady

She's held down by her own self-confidence some of the time, but most of that is direct result of the constant misogyny, babying, and general disrespect by the people she's closest to. Regardless of if them mean it or not, it's still disrespect

#there's a lot of other factors aside from her gender that make people so shit to her in-canon and some of these may Also be a bit of + #+ self projection. as there always is. sadly #emma's my favourite gup spirit and i'm being SO CAREFUL about writing her for the webseries but i also have to remember that #not every experience with sexism/ageism/etc is universal. i am allowed to pull from my own experiences. i have to know this #im not sure why im talking about it now but it's especially important in regards to emma because she's one of the most frequent characters #yeah rosemary is important and polly is like the Main Antagonist but emma is overlooked despite appearing MORE than rosie. even in-rp #honestly i've been avoiding this subject for a long time on part of some personal shit about it but we had to get here sooner or later. so. #to end it off i think that emma should be allowed to be angry about this. i'm angry about it so why can't she yk #bottled up rage about this kind of thing hasn't been helping me and it certainly wont be helping her so i dare say she even should Yell #thanks for coming to my ted talk #hershel’s octonauts au #octonauts gups #i came here with emma angst and left with the basis for an essay on misogyny in yls jesus christ

[dootznbootz]

There's something so specifically infuriating when someone uses one of your experiences or your demographic in an argument, especially if said argument is about spreading hatred or is just so wrong. They "speak on behalf of the ___" to say such fucked shit.

"You're not thinking of the ___!"

"I literally am ___. You saying that adds nothing as you do not speak for me or for other ___. Shut up."

#I really really hate it. It angers me in such a specific way that just skldjf ksdl #... #vent below. idk. I'm really sorry #Mad rambles #Terfs will be like “oh think of survivors! 'MEN' can share women's spaces!” like shut the actual fuck up. SHUT UP. Shut your damn mouth #A terf is so much more dangerous than a trans person. Me. a tiny cis woman is so much more dangerous to a terf than a transperson is. #Because I will obliterate you. How dare you say you speak on MY behalf? As if I don't know what I'm fucking talking about. #as if you're “protecting me” by spewing such bullshit? by treating someone as a danger when they're not?! #Especially when they believe it's a fucking TRUMP CARD. Like mentioning it means they're right!!! when obviously they're not!!! #Or when they think the fact that I'm cis will make me agree with them! I'm cis simply because I am. I'm not better or worse because of it #being cis doesn't mean I'm fine with bullshit though! #I really hate feeling almost as if like...idk I'm “known” for talking about this but it's just so so infuriating. people will act like they #know when they don't. Obviously every experience is different and terfs who are survivors I hope you find peace and my heart goes out to yo #but you also need to get your fucking head outta your ass. Saying such things isn't the way to heal and you're hurting others with it. #It's NOT about hating men or trans people! the “men are always violent/women are always victims” mentality needs to fuck off #as if it's just the script of life and that it's inescapable no matter what. that it's the truth even if circumstances say otherwise. #...I'm going to possibly block the epic tag for a bit. I have the name of the saga blocked but like... It's just genuinely upsetting. #my story got picked apart too on how it wasn't actually that bad. that I'm actually the fucking worst. “Men are just like that sweetie” #BULLSHIT!!! Gender doesn't dictate a person's morals. Being good and kind does. It doesn't matter what form that takes! #not even saying HE'S good and kind as he's horrible and wonderful at the same time but about this stuff? Do what you want but #I DO think you're insane if you see it as otherwise and it makes me wanna lock my door. You're not a bad person probably but also 🙃 #I get that there's history but there's also the fucking TEXT. #I don't know. I'm really sorry #tw trauma #tw sa mention #I'm not necessarily against reblogging this (I don't care) but don't post with tags. please

[kakusu-shipping]

2 and 11 for your Mario S/I!!

Thankyou very much for asking!!!!!

My Mario S/I ref can be found Here and Info Here

2. How similar is your s/i to you? Are they a carbon copy, completely different or a mix of the two?

A lot of my S/Is are just straight me with a little idealization and a little warping due to just the nature of growing up somewhere different.

For my Mario S/I, he's a lot smarter than me, which isn't to say irl me is dumb, just not very good at retaining information, or using it to further a conclusion. My Mario S/I is, and is also very passionate about learning about the new world he lands in. (I like to think if I got isekaied I would be too but who knows)

He shares my special interest in Mushrooms, a lot of my taste in games, Bulling as a Love Language, Generally Chill Go with the Flow personality type, Fear of Bees, and a handful of other small traits that I don't wanna list too long.

He handles a bad situation way better than me. Like I said he's better at rationalizing and drawing conclusions, he's a lot more calm in a high stakes situation, good at talking something down, and reacting quickly to chaos.

For example in the events that'd be eventually rewritten as Paper Mario, Emile was the one to throw Luigi out of the castle, as he hung behind to find Toadsworth. He talks Bowser into instead of shoving him in the prison in his own castle to instead let him stay in his own room is the castle, and spends the rest of the game slowly sneaking all the trapped Toads out of said prison and back to his room until Mario storms the castle and saves them. I could never do all that, but he could, because he's cool under pressure and smooth with his words.

Side note this is also how my Mario S/I gets top surgery; He takes a very neutral stance to most schemes Bowser does, so when he was brought to Bowser for sneaking around the castle, and learned he had the Star Rod, he asked if he could get a wish, sense that's what the thing's for anyway. Bowser agreed as long as it wasn't something stupid like "I wish Mario had the power to defeat Bowser". "I wish for Top Surgery" is considered a Selfish wish by the Star Spirits and would never be granted, but Bowser did it, cause why not. He loves a selfish wish and is very Trans Rights

11. Does you s/i have one outfit they're always seen in or multiple?

He does have multiple outfits! Like Mario and Luigi he has all kinds of fits for different activities, not sports he doesn't do those, but like, Casual Wear and such. I actually drew us in a bunch of outfits you can see Here!

Though also like Mario and Luigi, I do typically just stick him in the Overalls look, for consistency sake. Either that or the basic Sona outfit of Big Orange Sweater

Oh! But actually a while ago I drew him in a few of my favorite Power Ups from the Main Series, I never posted it cause the image was more long than wide, and the sketches were pretty Eh in my opinion, but I'll post them now just for the sake of putting out all my art, even the stuff I'm not the proudest of.

The main concepts are his eyes and freckles change color to match the power ups, though he doesn't use them all that often sense he's an Adviser and not typically in any kind of direct line.

#Thankyou for asking #Long post #oh wait now I have to give it the #Emile's Arts #tag #aaaaaaaaugh man #Sorry this got so long this is PEAK brainrot as I've shown #I love you Bee Suit you're so cute and also I Hate you Bee Suit the buzzing hurts me so physically #A LOT of my S/Is are either Me but able to Fully use their Brains or Me but Able to lift a truck with one arm #That's it that's the self insert a good 90% of the time #I have a lot of Medical Field Idealization I think if I was able to Process better I would have a Doctorate #But because I'm kinda pea brained and have poor processing and struggle to retain information I can't #Also getting a Doctorate is VERY expensive??? I could never #So a good portion of my S/Is are Doctors in some way or another #Some gender of Mad Scientist #This will include this S/I he may not actually be a Doctor per say but he could he's very smart #Again I'm not irl stupid or nothin just really reeeeeeeeally slow #And they don't like that in public school how dare you struggle to memorize 9 subjects at once #Anyway!!!! #Thanks again for asking!!!!! #I looooooooove talking about my Mario S/I right now!!! It's a lot of fun!!!!! #ngl when I first made him despite it being the Mario Movie that pushed me to do it #I'd completely forgotten the Power Mechanic from the main games #fdkgjfdjgkfd I don't play the platformers I'm BAD AT THEM #VERY SLOW!! BAD HAND EYE COORDINATION!!! dfgjfdgdkfjgk #It took a different friend with a Mario S/I posting their S/I with power ups to remind me that was a thing

[arcann]

I think i needed signalis to give petite android girls a shot, elster takes her chest off and its no y/ako taro bs, you can see her fucking ribs and spine while she adds more armor to her body and it's so raw like yes I'll steal better parts from bodies that are identical to me and march through hell once more for the one i love.

#it drives me insane #and dare i say. gender

[hillerskaroyals]

growth is when wille is telling simon that august has them pinned bc they both clearly explain their sides and when simon accuses wille of telling someone he gives wille a chance to explain himself and call felice to confirm. this is such a far cry from all the heated, poorly explained arguments they’ve had in the music room it makes me wanna walk into the ocean

#i say that’s my baby and i’m proud #they both fully let each other explain and don’t cut each other off or storm off #therapy in motion am i right ladies #(ladies used gender neutral as always) #in terms of communication i might even dare to say that was their best convo yet #also ‘he’s got us pinned’ not team wilmon becoming a reality 🥹 #can you believe split screening s2 and hw has yr winning #who could have seen that coming #(me. very clearly in fact) #we’re back in our stream of consciousness posting era lads #(lads also used gender neutrally) #young royals #young royals season 2 spoilers #yr s2 spoilers #my yr thoughts

[barnbridges]

i hate the trend of "not every girl wants to be a girlboss" videos like. everyone acting like there's a societal pressure on women to overperform like. maybe let's focus yes on reassuring our sisters that it's more than ok that your job isn't your life but. the idea that this is specifically a mechanism against motherhood or tradwife-ism and not just the way the corporate ladder works is also just blatantly stupid.

#the ladder works by supporting the idea that ceo-s are special hardworking people and that you can be one #for you to keep on working your office job #that you CAN and SHOULD succeed at your job #that to me is not a gendered concept that is just pure greed #YOU need to find yourself outside of the corporation and your boss' gain. that's nobody else's job but yours. #thats been a thing for men as well dare i say #the soulless machine. read some fucking kafka. #idk it feels like they're piggybacking off an issue to promote tradwife-ism as an alternative #when sure tradwife is for some people but it can be just as soulless as a corporate job

[lo-fi-charming]

A child wanting to experiment with gender expression isn’t really an indicator of like having a trans identity per say. It means she is being influenced by our culture to associate some characteristics with being a boy and some being a girl: e.g., she is being culturally indoctrinated to believe in gender roles. Instead of going along with that sexist thinking, you could ask her what it means to be a boy, and why she can’t do or be those same things as a girl

hi anon! this is straight up some weird terf shit, and i wonder if you realize that?

for the benefit of my followers (and because i love an excuse to talk about my art/ocs) here is the comic anon is referring to

right, so, id say the main problem with this ask is you immediately dismissing a child's thoughts and feelings about their gender simply because they are a child. if only due to the fact that you and i, as Real Life People, should be able to have a mutual understanding that since i, a Real Person, am saying that the fictional character is gender-fluid, that would mean they're gender-fluid and there's not room for interpretation or argument bc i SAID they are? gender-fluid? and this is my character that i made up?

if your issue is simply seeing a comic depicting a young child Realizing Some Things About Gender, well that's definitely a you problem.

and i really must note it here, bc it's so amusing to me: this claim that victoria is only asking to be a boy all of a sudden bc they, like, want to do something but think they cant bc it's a Boy Thing? but nothing in the comic implies that. vic doesn't ask "can I be a boy tomorrow so i can go play in the mud and eat bugs and wrestle the other boys, activities which are forbidden to me because i am a girl, btw what's up with that?", they just ask it out of the blue with no apparent trigger. and the 'mommy/daughter day' line is only in there so i could have vic ask about "switching back" and realize that yes, they can be a boy or a girl (or neither or both) whenever they feel like it.

the thing is anon, if there was actually anything you brought up worth discussing, it's currently only in service of delivering a weird, terfy rhetoric, and thus is no longer worth attempting to have a constructive conversation about. im so sorry if you're having to learn this way..... maybe you should take a day or two to reexamine your personal reaction to my lighthearted comic and see how you feel afterwards

so... yeah? um this ask was very surprising to see, lol, and that's speaking as someone who's gotten transphobic anons on this account before. it's like im collecting all the variants... blatantly transphobic, transmed bullshit, and now terfy bullshit... wow! super cool

#echoecho #some anons on tunglr really be like ummmmm im sorry excuse me. are you talking about GENDER in here? #how fucking dare you... #well im so sorry fellas but as you should know by now. im a bit gender trash #as i like to say: no one's gender will remain un-fucked if i have anything to say about it #what a way to start my day! i havent even had breakfast yet