#i'm not here to label her but I've always felt and written Ronan as if he was demi and idk this makes me happy ok

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Just found out about this quote by Maggie Stiefvater and I'm-

"I was an unsexy teen. I don't mean I didn't look sexy, although I didn't. I mean that I didn't think about sexiness. I was disinterested in dating, didn't care if I ended up in a relationship, didn't think about if other people were sexy or not. Growing up, I never had band posters on my walls or crushed on actors or actresses. It was hard for me to remember what people looked like, period.

I spent my childhood thinking I was an alien and being made fun of for being unable to talk about crushes or sexiness—it's been over three decades, but I still remember a bunch of school kids snatching my sketchbook full of animals and drawing penises on all of them before giving it back to me to see if I would cry (I did not. I didn't understand the interaction to know who was in the wrong, perhaps I was wrong for not finding it funny?).

Why am I typing all this? Mostly because I would like to update the record for the other folks who feel like aliens. I grew up before the internet, so I didn't know there were others out there like me, that I was an acceptable and recognizable part of the spectrum of girlhood, and that the parts of me that were different all came out in the wash anyway, that adulthood could look any old way I wanted it to, no matter what other people were making of it.

I still don't really think of the world in a really sexy way (sorry to readers who are still hoping for me to level up to TruSexy), but I no longer feel like an alien. I've met enough of me out there to know I'm just one of the many variations of human. So this is just me telling those of you who feel like you are not like other humans that maybe you actually are—maybe that human is me."

I'm not here to put labels on real life people and Maggie herself doesn't want that (understandably) but this is making me feel SO validated for my "Ronan Lynch is demisexual" headcanon

#she's based Ronan on herself we all know this #and this IS the demi experience is it not #bruhhhh #i'm not here to label her but I've always felt and written Ronan as if he was demi and idk this makes me happy ok #the raven cycle #trc #maggie stiefvater #Ronan Lynch #demisexuality #demisexual #asexuality #asexual #ace stuff #aroace tag