#pat phakphum

[mushiemadarame]

kissing galore ⇢ Ben Bunyapol Likhitamnuayporn as Pat Phakphum Tangwatthana and Man Trisanu Soranun as Jeng Kittiphong Atthachiranon (Step by Step, 2023, EP10)

#step by step #step by step the series #pat phakphum tangwatthana #pat phakphum #jeng kittiphong #jeng kittiphong atthachiranon #jengpat #jeng x pat #man trisanu soranun #man trisanu #ben bunyapol likhitamnuayporn #ben bunyapol #bibidi bobidi bu #no comment. don't make me talk about this i'll put my foot in my mouth. kill me.

[aprilblossomgirl]

Step by Step (2023) | ep.5

Pat, you’ll be sleeping in the same room as me. There’s only one room left. / It seems like it has to be like that.

#step by step #step by step the series #step by step ep 5 #jengpat #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #man trisanu #ben bunyapol #*gifs #the options are jealous jeng or late night jeng. i chose the latter.

[sparklyeyedhimbo]

this is how the scene went in step by step 1/?

#step by step the series #step by step #jengpat #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #man trisanu #ben bunyapol #sbsgifs #mygifs #i hate the green tint this scene had #furious about it #sajkdhjkfs

[boyslovesource]

- You're a chef so you need to wear a chef's hat. - Could you put it on for me?

#step by step #step by step the series #jeng x pat #jengpat #ours #by esme #gifs #thailand #stepbystepedit #man trisanu #ben bunyapol #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #tobelle #lextag #userpharawee #userjap #uservid #userlotad #mjtag

[lostyanting]

#step by step #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #jengpat #**

[neuroticbookworm]

Parenting in Step by Step, a defense

I saw a bunch of posts about how Pat is immature and has poor communication skills, and citing his parents' divorce as one of the potential reasons.

*baffled* W H A T.

I don't have the time or energy to rant about the "poor communication skills" read, so all I'm gonna say is that Pat was busy holding his mushed up braincells together for the majority of this episode and direct your attention to @shortpplfedup's crisp and hilarious Ten Movements that perfectly summed up Pat's emotional journey. Cut him some slack, for fuck's sake.

Now, onto Pat's parents and their relationship with him and each other. I want to highlight the writing and dialogue in their scenes, because it hurts my heart to see not a lot of people talking about them.

When we first meet them, both Pat's Mom and Dad express concern about his eating habits, but the parent-child dynamics in these conversations were very different. Pat's mom says it's not good for him to eat ramen for breakfast, but she quickly accepts Pat's excuse and goes back to doting on him. When she brings up Jeng, and Pat complains that she is nagging and changes the subject, she lets him.

When Dad comes into town a few *undisclosed unit of time* later, he basically asks the same question as Mom, but this time, Pat is a little elaborate with his excuse explanation.

But Dad doesn't let him get away with his bullshit. He offers up a few solutions and wants to work on them with Pat.

After he's sure that Pat knows the need to change his food habits, he then adds levity to the conversation, and goofs around with his son. (I will forever adore the Asian Gordon Ramsey moment, more father-son wholesomeness in Asian media, please and thank you)

(did y'all notice how both Pat's Mom and Dad call him adorable with very different energies? did ya? okay, good)

Now, when the time came for Pat to let go of all his frustrations and break down in front of his parents, I was worried that the show would lean a bit too hard on the parental roles, the good cop/bad cop gambit. But no, it surprised me. It sure started out that way, with Pat offering up an empty excuse to Mom's question.

Which is immediately followed by this look:

(more on this later, I have SO MANY THOUGHTS about this)

When Dad follows up with this statement, Pat's defenses begin to crumble.

He opens up about how he feels overwhelmed and disconnected with himself, and Dad responds with this:

He brings the realities of adulthood to the forefront, reassuring him that he has also been there before and that Pat will learn to manage it. Still in line with the roles the show had previously drawn up for them. When Pat continues, Mom moves to Pat's side as soon as they realise that Pat's problems include heartbreak ("Everywhere I go, it's filled with memories") and she hits him with this:

Oooooof. That's a hell of a line. Accurate? yes. Comforting? Fuck no.

That's when Dad moves to Pat's side, and tries to soothe him. The roles are flipped.

Pat then says that maybe it would've been better, if they had stayed with him all the time. Now, this can mean two different things: I wish I didn't grow up so I could've stayed with you and life would've been so much simpler; I wish you guys did not get divorced and we could've all stayed together. Mom chooses to address the first part. She says that even if they stayed together, no one could stay with him all the time.

Dad, then acknowledges the separation and they tell him, TOGETHER, that they will always be his parents, and they never stopped loving him. And that they don't hate each other.

The TEAMWORK here, between Pat's mom and dad is executed SO WELL. They love their son, and want to comfort and reassure him, and they do it together. They don't do the "one of us do the talking and the other one hmms in the background" bullshit. They both understand his pain and give him their individual and collective opinions. They are in sync with each other's thoughts, and it shows. Remember the look between them at the beginning of this scene?

This speaks VOLUMES. They know something is weighing on him and they can't let him excuse his way out of this conversation. They look at each other, a non-verbal "let's do this", and start talking to Pat.

Being in love with each other and being good parents are not strictly inclusive. The show did not leave this unsaid, either. They show us, how two people can move on and still remain in each others' lives as someone to lean on. Someone who will always know you better than most people in this world.

How some people saw this amazing back-and-forth and thought "yeah, they're incompatible, and they traumatized their son, and he now has communication issues", I'll never understand.

TL;DR:

Stop demonizing divorce and calling it the root of all childhood trauma

SBS writers are doing some things EXCEPTIONALLY WELL, and they deserve credit for it

#step by step #step by step the series #pat phakphum #jeng kittiphong #jengpat

[smittenskitten]

Pat is having one of those days

#step by step the series #thaidramaedit #step by step #ben bunyapol #man trisanu #asianlgbtqdrama #asiandramaedit #pat phakphum #stepbystepedit #prangon gifs #tw flashing #i made them go fast intentionally #so i ended up making more sets while doing the rewatch #always wanted to gif this scene #finally had some time to make it #there'll be more sets from previous episodes

[syrena-del-mar]

Jeng doing everything to remind himself that it’s not a date, but the sheer enjoyment that radiates off of his face just sitting across Pat.

#step by step #step by step the series #jeng x pat #pat x jeng #jengpat #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum

[istanchan]

Are Pat and Kawi “bad characters”?

I usually don’t go on TikTok to read discourse about shows. But I happened to stumble across this while looking for edits and it just made me so frustrated.

So op made a post about how they can’t stand Pat and Kawi from step by step and be my favorite. They went on to talk about how they don’t even understand how Jeng and Pisaeng deal with their respective partners. Honestly I didn’t really feel like talking about it but with the tens of other people agreeing with them I couldn’t stop myself.

There’s a lot to unpack here but starting off with explaining why the two characters act the way they do helps.

With Pat I feel that most people who watch the show forget that there is a 10 year age gap between the characters (and the actors). While that may not seem like a lot, the fact that Jeng is Pat’s superior and his social class plays into their dynamic and Pat’s behavior. I am more convinced now then ever that the purpose of Step By Step was to portray a realistic representation of how it would be to date your boss. It’s messy and hard to work through. Pat’s character at times is an emotional wreck, I’m not going to deny that, but he still manages to be mature even when his boss and his partner (I don’t think it’s appropriate to label jeng as his boyfriend) isn’t. Jeng completely disregards reality in episode 10, he leaves Pat to handle the brunt of the gossip. Pat after trying to talk with Jeng to mediate the situation, ends up doing what he thinks is best. His character is raw and real and messy at times but I enjoy watching it nonetheless.

As for Kawi, I feel that it’s not fair to judge his character right now since only 6 episodes are out and we haven’t really gotten to the climax of the show. His character is still growing and learning. But honestly in my opinion Kawi as a character is easier to comprehend and understand than Pat. I don’t think Kawi acts completely unreasonable. He does makes mistakes but he tries his best to fix them and better himself. Again like in step by step there is the factor of social class that comes in between Pisaeng and Kawi. Pisaeng is rich and is well known around campus. Kawi struggles to see how a guy like Pisaeng could like him.

It seems this is the common denominator for Pat and Kawi—their insecurities. And to me that’s a completely reasonable factor. For us as the audience it’s easy to rule out what behaviors we would want to change or fix with character we watch, but if we were in their shoes would act completely dissimilar? Life isn’t black and white, and making the right choices isn’t alway easy. I feel that many shows and especially these two show this.

This whole discussion takes me to this wonderful post that I think about all the time when I’m watching BL shows now:

By/For/About Queers Part 1 &

By/For/About Queers Part 2

Both be my favorite and step by step have proven to realistically portray queer experiences. While be my favorite still has way to go I’m surprised by how the writers handled Pisaengs road to discovering his identity. Talking about BL shows in the light of which ones are really for queer or and not just about queer people changes the perspective. I think this plays a small role in why these two shows may be hard to understand the characters pov. Many people that watch BL shows aren’t queer and even some who are, don’t watch BLs for to sympathize with a queer perspective. Many just use BLs as a way to escape this heteronormative world, and that’s honestly completely okay. I do it too sometimes. But that doesn’t undermine characters like Pat and Kawi or even Jeng and Pisaeng.

At the end of the day each person is entitled to enjoy media however they wish, that’s the beauty of the internet. So I don’t have any animosity towards op and all the commenters. I’m glad they have a different opinion so I can share mine.

#be my favorite #step by step series #pat phakphum #kawi x pisaeng #jeng x pat #jeng kittiphong #be my favourite the series #step by step meta #be my favorite meta #thai bl #thai drama #bl drama

[kuwentista]

#whipped ค่อย ๆ รัก Step By Step

#man trisanu #step by step the series #ben bunyapol #jeng x pat #pat phakphum #{ man trisanu } #{ my edits } #{ trisanu: gifs } #{ face } #*trisanu

[mushiemadarame]

tenderness 🥺 ⇢ Ben Bunyapol Likhitamnuayporn as Pat Phakphum Tangwatthana and Man Trisanu Soranun as Jeng Kittiphong Atthachiranon (Step by Step, 2023, EP10)

#step by step #step by step the series #pat phakphum tangwatthana #pat phakphum #jeng kittiphong #jeng kittiphong atthachiranon #jengpat #jeng x pat #man trisanu soranun #man trisanu #ben bunyapol likhitamnuayporn #ben bunyapol #bibidi bobidi bu #the yearning is unbearable

[aprilblossomgirl]

🙂 . 🥰 . 😀

#step by step #step by step the series #step by step ep 6 #jengpat #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #man trisanu #ben bunyapol #*gifs #*me in my emoji caption era* #basically jeng and pat through this episode

[vegasandhishedgehog]

I totally get Pat asking "Haven't I been strong enough?" because he's been harassed and unwillingly outed in that very office and was lucky to find a bitch who cared that made the environment not so hostile. He can't just look away. He can't just not be hurt by words written on notes, can't ignore people's stares or knowing how terribly this situation could impact his entire life. He loves Jeng. Pat can't help that and he is having the time of his life being in a relationship with him, but he is always aware of the cost.

And the conversations between them don't sate the worry that's burning a hole in his chest. It isn't that Jeng doesn't care or doesn't try to understand at all, but it wouldn't surprise me if he were trying to absorb as much magic out of the bubble as he could before it eventually fades. Both of them are handling things according to their own experiences and because things are still new and tentative and fragile between them and everyone else surrounding them, they haven't sought to work on a solution together.

The glass ceiling that has been looming above this whole time is coming down on them. Does it mean they're doomed to fail? Not necessarily. But there's going to be some serious injuries and patching up the damage afterward. I call it a glass ceiling because they're still able to look up and see the beauty of what's possible, but to truly reach it the ceiling has got to go.

And so it appears another BL will not escape the curse of episode 11. But that's to be proven until next week.

#jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #jengpat #step by step the series #step by step #step by step episode 10

[boyslovesource]

their little date 🥺🥰

#step by step #step by step the series #jeng x pat #jengpat #ours #by esme #gifs #thailand #man trisanu #ben bunyapol #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #tobelle #lextag #userpharawee #uservid #userlotad #mjtag #tuseralexa #thoresque #yes i am posting this cause of the tears of the last ep. here they were all smiley and i like them better like this 🥺🥰

[lostyanting]

#step by step #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #jengpat #**

[neuroticbookworm]

Fuck, he's actually dating Put. It's not a flashback. *deep breath* Alright, I'm ready, serve that angst to me on a platter

Someone give my beloved Jaab a hug right now!! Everyone is inconsiderate of his feelings; his crush, his friends, his brother. Un-fucking-believalble -_-

Ae is so gorgeous, I want to weep

*me literally seconds ago* I can do this, I can take the angst *me watching Jeng's heartbroken puppy dog eyes* Yeah, I can't do this

Food is Pat's love language and Put is failing miserably. While Jeng played a perfect hand in the last episode. Interesting

Well, that was a good temper tantrum from a grown ass woman

Jeng and Jaab are having so much fun making this woman squirm, and I LOVE EVERY SECOND OF IT

I cannot believe we got the PutPat kiss before the JengPat kiss

Maybe I'm just biased and delulu, but something about the dynamics between Pat and Put is not sitting well with me. I can't quite put my finger on it yet

I can't believe they put Jeng in a white vest and a black button up shirt and I can't even enjoy it peacefully because of all the tension in the episode

Pat is sooooo drunk and Jeng is sooooo smitten AHHHHH

OH PAT NO. You're sooo gonna regret that video. Goddamn, the second hand embarrassment is getting to me

So, everyone wearing a pink shirt in this episode was cursed to cry. @respectthepetty, I call upon you to explain this phenomenon

Pat, this is what happens when you let your ex wear you down into a second chance. You start having second thoughts. I can't deal with this boy anymore *throws hands up in the air*

#step by step #step by step the series #step by step ep7 #jengpat #jeng kittiphong #pat phakphum #jaabjane #jaab phumisit #man trisanu #ben bunyapol #saint paramee