#ppl with a uterus

[inkskinned]

so one of the things that's so horrifying about birth control is that you have to, like, navigate this incredibly personal choice about your body and yet also face the epitome of misogyny. like, someone in the comments will say it wasn't that bad for me, and you'll be utterly silenced. like, everyone treats birth control like something that's super dirty. like, you have no fucking information or control over this thing because certain powerful people find it icky.

first it was the oral contraceptives. you went on those young, mostly for reasons unrelated to birth control - even your dermatologist suggested them to control your acne. the list of side effects was longer than your arm, and you just stared at it, horrified.

it made you so mentally ill, but you just heard that this was adulthood. that, yes, there are of course side effects, what did you expect. one day you looked up yasmin makes me depressed because surely this was far too intense, and you discovered that over 12,000 lawsuits had been successfully filed against the brand. it remains commonly prescribed on the open market. you switched brands a few times before oral contraceptives stopped being in any way effective. your doctor just, like, shrugged and said you could try a different brand again.

and the thing is that you're a feminist. you know from your own experience that birth control can be lifesaving, and that even when used for birth control - it is necessary healthcare. you have seen it save so many people from such bad situations, yourself included. it is critical that any person has access to birth control, and you would never suggest that we just get rid of all of it.

you were a little skeeved out by the implant (heard too many bad stories about it) and figured - okay, iud. it was some of the worst pain you've ever fucking experienced, and you did it with a small number of tylenol in your system (3), like you were getting your bikini line waxed instead of something practically sewn into your body.

and what's wild is that because sometimes it isn't a painful insertion process, it is vanishingly rare to find a doctor that will actually numb the area. while your doctor was talking to you about which brand to choose, you were thinking about the other ways you've been injured in your life. you thought about how you had a suspicious mole frozen off - something so small and easy - and how they'd numbed a huge area. you thought about when you broke your wrist and didn't actually notice, because you'd thought it was a sprain.

your understanding of pain is that how the human body responds to injury doesn't always relate to the actual pain tolerance of the person - it's more about how lucky that person is physically. maybe they broke it in a perfect way. maybe they happened to get hurt in a place without a lot of nerve endings. some people can handle a broken femur but crumble under a sore tooth. there's no true way to predict how "much" something actually hurts.

in no other situation would it be appropriate for doctors to ignore pain. just because someone can break their wrist and not feel it doesn't mean no one should receive pain meds for a broken wrist. it just means that particular person was lucky about it. it should not define treatment.

in the comments of videos about IUDs, literally thousands of people report agony. blinding, nauseating, soul-crushing agony. they say things like i had 2 kids and this was the worst thing i ever experienced or i literally have a tattoo on my ribs and it felt like a tickle. this thing almost killed me or would rather run into traffic than ever feel that again.

so it's either true that every single person who reports severe pain is exaggerating. or it's true that it's far more likely you will experience pain, rather than "just a pinch." and yet - there's nothing fucking been done about it. it kind of feels like a shrug is layered on top of everything - since technically it's elective, isn't it kind of your fault for agreeing to select it? stop being fearmongering. stop being defensive.

you fucking needed yours. you are almost weirdly protective of it. yours was so important for your physical and mental health. it helped you off hormonal birth control and even started helping some of your symptoms. it still fucking hurt for no fucking reason.

once while recovering from surgery, they offered you like 15 days of vicodin. you only took 2 of them. you've been offered oxy for tonsillitis. you turned down opioids while recovering from your wisdom tooth extraction. everything else has the option. you fucking drove yourself home after it, shocked and quietly weeping, feeling like something very bad had just happened. the nurse that held your hand during the experience looked down at you, tears in her eyes, and said - i know. this is cruelty in action.

and it's fucked up because the conversation is never just "hey, so the way we are doing this is fucking barbaric and doctors should be required to offer serious pain meds" - it's usually something around the lines of "well, it didn't kill you, did it?"

you just found out that removing that little bitch will hurt just as bad. a little pinch like how oral contraceptives have "some" serious symptoms. like your life and pain are expendable or not really important. like maybe we are all hysterical about it?

hysteria comes from the latin word for uterus, which is great!

you stand here at a crossroads. like - this thing is so important. did they really have to make it so fucking dangerous. and why is it that if you make a complaint, you're told - i didn't even want you to have this in the first place. we're told be careful what you wish for. we're told that it's our fault for wanting something so illict; we could simply choose not to need medication. that maybe if we don't like the scraps, we should get ready to starve.

we have been saying for so long - "i'm not asking you to remove the option, i'm asking you to reconsider the risk." this entire time we hear: well, this is what you wanted, isn't it?

#where's the word woman in this u might wonder if u suck #good news i am nonbinary and have a uterus so that is something that can happen #im also gender fluid tho which means im immune to certain psychic damage bc if u call me a woman i'll be like <3 okay <3 #writeblr #the tightrope of ''ppl need access to this'' #and like also #''what the fuck is going on over there'' is like. so difficult as an activist #i was <3 punctured <3 during mine #and almost bled out on the table :) they didn't have anyone standing by bc it's ''just a little insertion'' #so i started crashing and i vaguely remember apologizing for the fuss as i heard my heart rate monitor start going <3 tachycardic <3 #she wasn't even a bad doctor tbh #ps btw the reason i even HAD a heart monitor is that i have a genuine heart condition and they knew GOING IN that there was a chance #i'd crash on the table #like my heart just likes to do fun little tricks and <3 stop working <3 (i do not want to discuss the specifics ty i am okay im ontop of it #and they were like 'oh u will be fine' and then she did do a puncture thru my uterus . pop! #and im sitting there dizzy and feeling my heartrate start to drop bc it feels almost. beautiful. like. the whole ground just #woosh! out from under you. and shit is like grey's anatomy. i'm looking up at her grey eyes #she's old she wears this nice shawl she's like got Cool Lesbian vibes and people are sprinting into the room #from other parts of the clinic unrelated to me. while the monitor is like a little aria singing #and shes like hey youre okay stay awake stay with me something went wrong we have to keep trying #and i remember thinking - i was trying to think of nice things. i have so many beautiful places that now overlap #with this terrible memory #i became dimly aware that there was too much on her wrists and hands. like #that was too many liters #and then when they had finished all this. i packed up and drove myself home #i have had (bad thing) happen to me. and the same feeling happened after #that numb almost lamblike bleating. you cry without noise. like. ur body is so shocked and ur mind so empty #you just stare at the road and everything everything is happening behind glass and static and you are standing so far away from it #while you hold ur hands at 10 and 2. and something in ur brain is SCREAMING at you - IT WAS BAD AND IT SHOULDNT HAVE HAPPENED #and ur just watching the alarms in your body going off and youre thinking. a little pinch! ha. i think i just lost something important.

[penicillium-pusher]

Something I've noticed lately is that every time I go to the doctor and they ask how long I've been on testosterone, they are always surprised when I say ~6 years, like in a way that suggests they don't interact with people who've been on t that long, and I'm just so??? What? Do transmascs not ever visit the doctor after just starting t? Where are the longer term t users and why am I one of the first ones in this establishment

#this has happened with like almost 10 different doctors in multiple different locations like this is a Pattern #including planned parenthood btw #in a relatively safe city to be trans mind you #so it's not like these doctors have never interacted w trans patients #and in fact a few have specifically stated theyve worked with many trans patients #so the shock at six years is very confusing to me #it doesn't feel like that long #and theyre always like “oh wow so a *really* long time then” #??????? #anyway I'm getting my uterus out next week and its a little fucked up from t and my doc said shes seen this in ppl on t for a long time #and again im like. is 6 years a long time. #excuse me? #what do you meeaaaannnnnn #6 years is not long

[angelsaxis]

So, I understand the need for inclusive language about reproduction but I've personally not been that fond of things like "birthing person" and vagina/uterus haver. It makes me wonder why, in all these PSAs, people never write them in the second person? Why not "if you're capable of becoming pregnant, here's X information" or "if you menstruate, do Y". Sometimes even "person with a uterus" or "person who can give birth" or "people who menstruate/can become pregnant" is better than the organ/capability first like idk. This might be semantics or petty but for me as a nonbinary person, I'd like to have be referred to as a member of a group of people who can become pregnant, not "a birthing person".

#angel posts #like its just bugged #*me #i totally understand inclusive language obv but i wish ppl would spare the words #those PSAs that said ''if you have X organ you need to do Y or be aware of Z'' #always came across better than....fucking birthing people. uterus haver. vagina haver.

[soldier-poet-king]

Will my suffering never cease

- went to good Friday evening service even tho it's not a day of obligation, didn't go yesterday evening to Maundy Thursday for a variety of reasons

- priest manages to fit homophobia and transphobia into his sermon. Not even gay marriage. Just unions, that let ppl share taxes and have hospital visiting rights. And big bad scary surgery. Like. Completely unrelated to the matter at hand. Says SO LITTLE abt the Passion, managed to talk for 10 minutes without really saying ANYTHING. Takes Pilate's 'what is truth' and instead of engaging in the long philosophical and theological discussion around that question, decides to use it as a rallying cry against wokeism and a godless progressive society.

- my two ex best friends were there. Ran into them. + One's husband, who I introduced her to a decade ago. Like I'm mostly over that, no longer shitty and resentful, fully know that it was partially my fault and born from my own terribleness at 19 and undiagnosed untreated mental illness. Still uhhh hurts tho??? As a reminder?

- music bad. Ok I'm petty. I'll give the trads (1) point. I don't like guitar mass. I will NOT agree with the trads in assigning moral weight to my aesthetic preference. It's simply a preference, which does not make any musical form inherently superior to the others. But the triduum really lends itself to Latin hymns and chants, in my heart. My other fave church music is traditional Black spirituals. I would greatly prefer either. But just. If it sounds like an acoustic version of a pop love song. I just. I can't. I KNOW I'm the weird about Jesus romantically girlie. But I am not vibin with this folks

Literally would have simply Walked Out. Hit da bricks during the homily. But was with my family so 1) cannot out myself 2) did not have house keys on me, so I was suck regardless

Anyway I said I wasn't going to do fun things today but I'm so upset and cranky and I did chores all day, I am going to catch up on dungeon meshi. Marcille is my best favourite cringefail girl I'm obsessed with her and surely the wlw neurotic fussy mage who loves her friends will not betray me like this

#the duality of fran #faith tag #also like #.highly unlikely that i was the only closeted queer person there #and obvs extra full of the triduum a lot of non regulars attending #so GLAD that they decided to make it such a lovely and welcoming environment for THE BIGGEST MOST SIGNIFICANT WEEKEND IN THE FAITH. #surely this will encourage people and make them feel welcome and loved and cared for #yes yes there's that flannery oconnor bit abt not judging priests harshly #but also. its one thing to have a bad homily #not discussing the philosophy of pilates question is fine. i get most ppl are not versed in greco roman thought #but the absolute just. whining reactionary social conservatism #ON GOOD FRIDAY??? #even going as far as to be like 'those few of us who keep the faith' #okay sir. this isnt some uwu im so special and faithful unlike all those abomination degenerate queers #gonna get gay married for tax purposes/green card out of spite #(green card both ways i can get u cad citizenship lmao) #remove my reproductive system. idgaf. uterus free to a good home. all it does is give me health problems anyway #tho that last one is less dysphoria and more just. it's a fuckin pain in my ass medically speaking #also the triduum is THEE celebration for the gay chrisitans. its john the beloved. its judas. its projecting for us ok

[andiv3r]

All day I've been like "what the fuck oh my god ow what the fuck I am in pain why" and then I just now remembered that I am a uterus-haver and this pain is similar to what I recall from two months ago, AKA the last time I bled on every article of clothing I own.

So it's probably cramps.

#cw periods #andiv3r rambles #ughhhhj this is s h i t #so much pain #and i know some ppl r like “why dont you know when it starts?” #well my periods could be a week apart or four months apart :) #so trying to predict them is literally fucking impossible #and yes #i do frequently forget my own possession of a uterus #my brain sees myself as a man & then forgets i dont have the parts that most guys i know have

[rebellum]

The weird thing about the "well trans men have it easier than trans women because if you completely pass and go stealth and are gender conforming then you only experience horrific discrimination in medical care!" Is that, like

You know trans women pass too, right

Like that statement is gender neutral

If any trans person, regardless of assigned gender, passes, then they are safer than any non-passing or visibly gnc person

It's like these people think trans women are doomed to never ever be able to ever pass. And it's like. Do you guys... actually talk? To other trans people? Are you part of a trans community? Like, not just reblogging or retweeting stuff, but a community where you know people's names and speak to them and they know your name and speak to you? Cause it seems like you have never spoken to another trans person before.

#ITS SO WEIRD. ITS SO WEIRD SEEING THE CONTRAST FOR ME IRL VS ONLINE. #luckily i live in a place thats overall really trans friendly to ppl #and my trans communities are accepting and not weirdly transphobic towards any group in particular #so its just weird. to go from irl or my discord conmunities where we are all allies and just chill with eachother #to tumblr where there are even other trans people that are like “actually only trans ppl who were amab are oppressed” #(thereby leaving out ppl who were afab and completely overlooking the experience of anyone intersex) #also. dont get me wrong. pre/non-op trans fems get discriminated etc in healthcare too #but like. its REALLY REALLY REALLY bad for people with vaginas (whether neo or born) #and really really really bad for anyone with a uterus #like. if you can get pregnant. you can get raped and forced to carry the baby to term and the entire time be in extreme medical danger for #being a gnc pregnant person. #like trans ppl with uteri are in more danger than cis women or trans fems when it comes to reproductive healthcare.

[cheapcheapfaker]

On one hand i would like to have a large baby. my family and gilgamesh’s come from a long line of beefy, nine pound plus chunkers. I was 9 and something lbs with a full head of hair and almost a week late. I want that baby fully cooked and maybe a little overdone. tons of studies not just anecdotal show that they just seem sort of… nicer and easier to deal with, like the biggest of the litter. they sleep more. they dont struggle in general as much and they gain weight easily and they also move a little slower. not saying they dont hit milestones but a fat ass baby will stay in its potted plant lump stage a little while longer before jumping into the running around sticking fingers in outlets stage.

on the other hand, i am so so concerned for the sanctity of my gooch. a nine pound baby will tear my grundle asunder. my taint to shreds.

#the thing nobody talks about pregnancy is you already have to deal w constipation cause your body has bigger priorities #& your uterus is freaking the fuck out next to ur intestines #the chance of hemorrhoids before birth is very common #my pussy? i believe in her. #my gooch? he’s a sensitive soul. #its also a bit funny when people say things like ‘we have been having babies for millenium’ #technically yes. but at these sizes w our modern nutrition? we sure the fuck haven’t #they actually gave prenatals to pregnant ppl in developing countries and it led to MORE complications and deaths #bc the prenatals weren’t also paired w high quality modern medicine #so these large babies were just causing all sorts of chaos compared to smaller more easily birthed babies #the way our reproduction system is they are just very large parasites #they’ll steal your teeth and rip open your gooch

[everlocked]

if you don’t have a uterus literally shut the fuck up about abortion. like i s2g if i see another cis man thinking his skydaddy god has anything to do with my reproductive rights

#i don’t care if you have a uterus and don’t support abortion #that is a okay and i respect you #i just don’t respect ppl without uteruses feeling the need to go off about this

[ilikeyoshi]

guess who got told to their face today by an ob/jyn that "a full removal of the ovaries AND uterus is the best solution to your combined issues of PMDD and gender dysphoria." i am over the FUCKING MOON!!!!!! NO MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL HAS EVER BEEN SO SUPPORTIVE OF THIS BEFORE THEY'RE ALWAYS WISH WASHY (FOR THE DUMB SEXISM REASONS BUT ALSO THE MUCH MORE VALID "YOURE 30 AND NEED UR BONES AND HEART" REASONS) AND IM JUST LIKE. CRYING. I'M SO HAPPY.

#now we just have to convince insurance (in part by doing other things to further prove that it's necessary) but like!!!! #the fact i have a doctor in my corner??? the fact i'm being referred to an ob/gyn office that SPECIALIZES in gender affirming care???? #the fact that even though the 'More Legitimate' issue of PMDD only requires the ovaries to be removed #ppl are considering the fact i need my uterus removed for gender dysphoria reasons is JUST AS IMPORTANT???? #lies on the floor. i am so fucking happy. i can't wait to get to work on this. #what a time to be alive!!!!!!! #yoshi talks #medical talk //

[aeide-thea]

help

forget 'uterus havers,' i just saw 'my penis holding coworkers' in the wild and i'm dying

#like the context was extremely full of people trying to be trans-inclusive but overlooking very basic shit #like 'bottom surgery exists and people do in fact get it ever‚ ergo birth genitals ≠ forever genitals necessarily' #also 'the category of people who menstruate once a month ≠ everyone who has a uterus' #or even 'everyone pre-menopause' thanks to a little thing called hormonal birth control and also the fact that cycle lengths vary #anyway getting mad abt oligomenorrheal erasure is probably not actually the hill i want 2 die on #really i just want us all 2 contemplate whether the image is 'cupping their penises for comfort like some ppl apparently cup their breasts' #or whether it's more of a 'work circlejerk' situation #many beautiful options available 2 us here imo

[inkskinned]

you have to go to work so you can pay for your doctor, who is not taking your insurance right now, and if you say i can't afford the doctor's you are told - get a better job. it is very sad that you are unwell, yes, but maybe you should have thought about that before not having a better job.

(where is the better job? who is giving out these better jobs? you are sick, you are hurting - how the hell are you supposed to be well enough for this better job?)

but you go to the doctor because you had the nerve to be hurt or sick or whatever else. and they tell you that it is because you have anxiety. you try your best. you are a self-advocate. you've done the reading (which sometimes pisses them off worse, honestly). you say it is actually adding to my anxiety, it is effecting my quality of life. so they say that you are fat. they say that all young people have this happen to them, isn't it a medical marvel! they say that you should eat more vegetables. they say that you probably just need to lose a little more weight, and that you are faking it for attention.

(what attention could this doctor possibly give? what validation? that's their fucking job, isn't it?)

there is always a hypochondriac, right. someone always tells you about a hypochondriac. or someone who is unnecessarily aggressive during the worst days of their life. or someone looking "for a quick fix". or some idiot who wasn't educated about how to properly care for themselves who just abandons their treatment. and again, the hypochondriac, the overly-cautious hysteric. these people don't deserve to be treated like humans (right), and since you might be one of these people, you also don't get treated like a human. because those people can really fuck with the system, you now have to pay for it. and besides. you're actually probably faking it.

(more often than not, you find a 2:1 ratio of these stories. for every "hypochondriac", there are 2 people who knew something was wrong, and yet nobody could fucking find it. the story often ends with pointless suffering. the story often ends with and now it's too late, and it's going to kill me.)

you are actually just making excuses. someone else got that procedure or that diagnosis and he's fine, you should be fine too. someone else said they watched a documentary about other inspirational people with your exact same condition, maybe you should be inspirational, too. you're just too morbid. your pain and your experience is probably just not statistically concerning. it is all self-reported anyway, and you're just being a baby.

(once, while sitting down in the middle of making coffee, you had the sudden, horrible thought - i could kill myself to make the pain stop. you had to call your best friend after that. had to pet your dog. had to cry about it in the shower. you won't, but that moment - god, fuck. the pain just goes on and on.)

you know someone who went in for routine surgery and said i still feel everything. they told her to just relax. it took her kicking and screaming before they figured out she wasn't lying - the anesthetic drip hadn't been working. you know someone who went in for severe migraines who was told drink water and lose weight. you know someone who was actively bleeding out and throwing up in the ER and was told you're just having a bad period.

in the ER there are always these little posters saying things like "don't wait! get checked today!" and you think about how often you do wait. how often the days spool out. you once waited a full week before seeing the doctor for what you thought was a sprained wrist. it had actually been broken - they had to rebreak it to set it.

but you go into the doctor. the problem you're having is immediate. the person behind the counter frowns and says we're not taking your insurance. you will be paying for this out-of-pocket.

they send you home with tylenol and a little health packet about weight loss or anxiety or attention deficit. on the front it has your birthday and diagnosis. you think about crying, and the words swim. it might as well say go fuck yourself. it might as well say you're a fucking idiot. it might as well say light your money on fire and lie down in it. and the entire fucking time - the problem persists.

it's okay. it's okay, it's just another thing, you think. it's just another thing i have to learn to live with.

#spilled ink #warm up #can you tell what i'm mad about today specifically #i will say that there are a LOT of things that go into this. like a lot. this is ungendered and unspecific for a reason #it isn't just sexism. it's also racism. and ableism. and honestly classism. #and before a healthcare professional reads this as a personal attack: i understand ur burnt out #we are ALSO burnt out. your situation is also dire. this is not an attack on you. #this is a commentary on the incredible amounts of bigotry that lie at the heart of capitalism #where people have to pay money out of pocket to be told to fuck off. #your job is important. so is our humanity. and if you cannot accept that people are fucking mad as hell #at the industry - you are probably not listening . #anyway at some point im gonna write a piece about sexism specifically in medical shit #but i don't want terfs clowning in it bc they can't understand nuance #> it is true that ppl w/a uterus are more likely to experience medical malpractice & dismissal globally #> it is also true that trans people experience an equally fucked up and bad time in the medical field #> great news! the medical industrial complex is an equal opportunity life ruiner :) #(if you find it necessary to go into a debate about biology while discussing medical malpractice #i want to warn you that you're misunderstanding the issue. because guess what. #cis MEN might experience this. particularly black men. particularly disabled men. #so YES having a uterus can lead to more trouble for you. but this happens a LOT. #instead of fighting those ALSO experiencing your pain.... try working WITH them. #which btw. is like. actual feminism.)

[ofherlionheart]

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#unhinged shower musing of the day #a/b/o bodyguard au #(stay with me) #where in a group of cohabitating alphas #one of them suddenly presents again as an omega #surprise uterus!! #freak of nature or medical miracle?? #who's to say #but a lot of ppl who should not have opinions on it want to loudly give fucks and or perform five billion ethically questionable lab tests #ergo #the bodyguard #so like. is this something or do i need fucking sleep #yes im thinking about the sex changing fish #why are't YOU thinking about the sex changing fish

[catboyrightsdefender]

i have a medical appointment that im dreading tomorrow and im already sick to my stomach thinking about it

#cw possible dysphoria inducing content in next tags #.txt #its to uh. uterus checkup ig + discuss possible hysterectomy but man it makes me so dysphoric thinking about it. killing myself #i hate being reminded of my body fr. #also the thought of having to wait in a gynaecology waiting room with women....i want to die #wanted to get a friend to come with me so its like we're expecting parents coming for an examination or smth but no one was available.... #ill try to play it confident ig. not think about other ppl #really hating it here but at least it will be done ive been procrastinating this for way too long #doesnt help that ive been very dysphoric in general lately smh

[sunkern-plus]

i forget i'm chronically ill all the time until (random bowel problem that no normal human has) (random gas problem that no normal human has) (random sensation of my ovaries being torn out through my stomach) (random extraintestinal ibs fatigue that makes me not do anything)

#actuallyibs #i don't know what the weird period symptoms are though #the diagnosis is practically inconclusive because (thing i don't want to get into) and my ovaries (aside from a slightly enlarged one) #and uterus are normal and supposedly i don't have any endometrial tissue in any inappropriate places #but i have these random endometriosis like symptoms even OFF my period whenever i have weird hormonal issues #my gyno's suggested it's a pelvic floor thing but that doesn't sound completely right because it also effects my INTERNAL organs #so i swear it's some weird cafab intersex thing i've never heard of but my genitalia and chromosomes afaik are normal for perisex afab ppl #my hormones if i remember are weird but i'm LITERALLY on progesterone to treat this problem #which suggests i've had high testosterone and symptoms of it for a while but i don't have pcos is the thing #i don't know WHAT'S wrong with me at all

[hannahhasafact]

I truly don’t want to go back on birth control simply because keeping up with it sucks

But.

The amount of pain I am in today because of my uterus being a shithead. Truly makes me wonder if I need to go back on it.

#ramblings #my period took forever to come this month and decided to come with a vengeance #and ppl ask ‘well why don’t you get the implant?’ I cannot trust myself to not pick at something under my skin #‘why not the ring or things like that’ personal reasons #but today. hoo buddy. today my uterus hurts so much #like if this is how bad periods get there’s no fucking way I’d wanna have a baby #like I can function technically but good lord

[humanrinds]

you will never have as big a kink for bathroom related things than a deranged terf on twitter does

#i wish i was joking about this #don’t take this as me kinkshaming tho #ppl people who drink piss are more normal than terfs who wax poetically about their uterus lining being flushed down the toilet #👻