#self-recognition through the other etc etc

[vaguely-concerned]

okay. listen. a Concept. garashir roughhousing (gone (psycho)sexual) and at one point bashir wakes up from the high of finally getting to express all his repressed aggression in a safe space with someone who not only accepts that in him but can match him and is actively Into It, especially when he stops holding back some of his lil gmo twink strength, to be horrified like 'oh my GOD garak your nose is bleeding hang on I'll get a napkin or something I'm so sorry holy shit' and garak's lying there woozy with lust gazing up at him with wide betrayed eyes like 'no wait don't go you haven't even stabbed me yet :'('

(obviously this is mostly a shitpost, but I'm just saying I think they could provide a certain kind of space for each other that way. julian gets to have a place to live out all the rougher, less socially acceptable sides he usually has to downplay and push away to seem as non-threatening as (augmented) humanly possible with someone who loves him and who appreciates getting the entire spectrum of julian bashir, from the most obnoxiously annoying and needy to the unsettlingly coldly ruthless and back. and garak gets to have the shit beaten out of him in as medically safe and infinitely loving way as possible and/or finds he can still use his bloodied hands and take care of someone with them. this to me is the definition of what one might call a win/win situation. like don't get me wrong they would be having a lot of embarrassingly tender yearning gently-stroking-your-hair-and-holding-your-hand sex too. but. also this. which I think is also very tender, just in a different way. do you feel me.)

#garashir #star trek #star trek ds9 #ds9 #julian bashir #elim garak #this is my design etc. #the 'smut must contain this amount of meticulous psychoanalysis to really get my rocks off' post is so real #to take it up a tier: they fucked like this once after 'our man bashir' and it freaked julian out so bad they never had sex again #until post-canon cardassia times #when recognition of the self through the other is a jumpscare you wish you hadn't enjoyed quite so much #...when my brain starts going over into fic mode for this show it's going to be over for me I suspect

[sergle]

genuinely @ that ask you answered: as a trans woman some of the most genuine kinship i have found has been with fat queer cis women. especially if they have PCOS or something similar because like. their story mirrors mine so intensely (and their perscriptions, lol) and it's so natural to relate on literally everything about conventional attraction and clothing not fitting quite right and the way society views you

it's refreshing and delightful to find yourself in people who are different from you 💜

I REALLY think there are so many shared experiences there!! yeah! and god, with PCOS, that has even more similarities in the shared experience venn diagram. I don't talk from that perspective but just being a fat woman, in both cases, womanhood/girlhood isn't inherent and it isn't given freely, it's conditional, it's worked for. the specific types of clothing to look feminine, the clothing not fitting, the makeup, the hair, the nails, the body shaping, the put-togetherness, all in the pursuit to be read as "girl" first, instantly, before anything else. something that another woman might have already, in her default state, regardless of the clothes she leaves the house wearing, or if she can do makeup well. She can dress up and wear makeup and enhance her femininity too, but she doesn't Have to do it, not in the same way. I have actually literally already been thinking about this, bc it's a funny thing!! in some ways, I never got to Be a girl, I was fat first and girl second. nobody looked at me and just saw a girl. I've talked to some other fat women about this, and apparently it's a pervasive feeling, that "fat" is, in itself, treated almost like some other third gender. so there's a lot to relate to lmao, in friendships and relationships w trans women, going "ah, those things you feel obligated to do in order to meet the standards of womanhood, I recognize those, I do them too"

#edit: SCREAMING I did not mean to do such a wall of text. ok. #long post #self recognition through the other etc #anyway this isn't to present womanhood as this long-suffering prison of agony #but there's something to be said abt knowing that you don't tick the boxes in your default state #and also the way that this feeling brings certain women together #I didn't even touch on the obvious Combo there #stop me if I'm making no fucking sense here #sergle answers

[rosae-sloth]

Aku & Dazai first meeting/recruitment: short story 'A Heartless Dog' by Asagiri Kafka

Page 01 & 02

(other pages under read-more)

#Bungou Stray Dogs #a heartless dog #akutagawa bsd #dazai bsd #might've already been uploaded but i know there's still quite a few folks that haven't read it yet so ~! #really wish they'd make an anime throwback version of this tbh #i mean ... we got the tiny flashback snippet but ~m~ #gib more bby Aku content you cowards lol #its a fairly short read but there's a lot happening between the lines imo #a lot of things to be unpacked and inferred etc. #smol Aku not being particularly liked by his own lil comrades in spite of the fact he actively defended them... #but also his meeting Dazai and not seeing a human being... #parallels. highkey. #something something ... recognition of the self through the other something something alienation and distortion of the self... #but also.. on the day Dazai became an Executive was the same day he recruited Aku #... that was his 1st act as an Exec ;__;

[renfriscreyden]

Now that jaskier is confirmed to be bisexual we finally have some representation for the lonely yearning annoying creative bisexuals! A true win!

#recognition of self through the other etc #jaskier #the witcher #the witcher spoilers #the witcher season 3

[theyarebothgunshot]

i just visited a new client, and her 25 year old son was sitting on the couch scrolling on his phone. he was on tumblr 💀💀💀💀

#at first i wasnt sure #but then he started to talk about avengers and comic con and buying merch #and his mom told me he is autistic #it tracks 👍 #i literally did a double take but i know our beloved hell site when i see it shshdhh #i think he felt a certain kinship tbh. self recognition through the other etc

[songsintheattic]

i have exactly zero normal feelings about homeland and about carrie mathison

#something something recognition of the self through the other etc #homelandposting

[bruisedark]

making some UNNERVING connections about characters i’m obsessed with in this chilis tonight

#art #jesse pinkman #camille preaker #charlie kelly #idk what to tag this sorry lol #i just love failures with trans energy….recognition of the self through the other etc etc #trauma is also a factor i guess

[themthistles]

ksj made so many intentional parallels between juwon and jeongje. parent who's (at least initially) cold and uncaring, sees child as extension of themselves, projects resentment for deceased spouse onto them, is a horrific influence in their lives in general. both have their fancy hobbies and licenses, are well off, a bit entitled, have degrees from prestigious foreign institutions (jj's is fake but whatever). i think just like lcj is what awaited hyuk in the future if he stuck w/ hkh, jeongje is what juwon would've ended up as if he never came to manyang and had his entire life and worldview uprooted

#do i think hkh would ever forcibly institutionalize juwon? #probably not #only because it would not look good for his reputation #juwon isn't likely to abuse drugs or alcohol like his mother #but he has frequent outbursts/panic attacks/etc in the drama clearly his mental and emotional health are. not good #so one day he may snap #i don't want to think about what happens after that cause it makes me want to chew glass goodbye #juwon loves mirroring guilty characters who talk about life being hell #this is why he clocks them on their bullshit so easily #any other person hearing jeongje say he's in metaphorical hell would go :( that's sad #juwon however is like that's exactly i would say if i fucked up i know what you did self recognition through the other (derogatory)

[grey-wardens]

i love gale but i think one of the reasons why he doesn't make my brain rotate as much as the others or whatever the saying is, is because he reminds me of myself too much 😭

#like i understand why people love his romance and it really is cute but i don't think i can ever do it myself! #it hits way too close to home for me #self-recognition through the other etc

[magnoliamyrrh]

laughing my ass off im in the german airport bored out of my mind when this girl starts talking to me and weve both lived in /// in the mojave like. the instant look on our faces gjdkskd out of all places

#were both desert rats from the mojaves fuckshit central look of recognition of the self through the other #etc etc etc #one of those places where its like ahhhhh. if u know u know

[artekai]

Guess what movie I watched

#i feel bad for saying this because it's so easy. it's too easy. what would i even add. the movie is there. it says everything. you can watch #but i'll say it anyways since we're here. #new headcanon that m//3gan was fross's comfort movie after his parents died and he watched it 80000 times back to back and learned nothing #nd that's why he's like this now #i don't care that this movie came out like 30 years before fross was born. idc idc. it's so easy. it's too easy #i just know he watched this movie so much it started blurring the lines between fantasy and reality and then he went up to lis and he went #well where's my killer robot? 🤨 #and she was like. well we don't do that here. we only make green robots #and he was like #oh.... that's fine... no it's ok. i guess i will go become a roboticist. and get a job at FAS. so i can make a killer robot myself #since you clearly don't want me to be happy 💔🥺😩 *ant_with_bindle.png* #anyways yea i made this post just so i could share the TRUE and REAL SECRET story behind fross's decision to side with FAS 👌 #also. remember how i mentioned fross would watch a//tla but skip z//uko's redemption arc bc self-recognition through the other (derogatory) #well. same applies here. he skips that one scene where g/emma says that m//3gan is just a distraction and those feelings won't go away etc #he's like GTFO WITH THAT MORALISTIC CRAP!!!!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥 SHOW ME THE YANDERE ROBOTS 🔥🔥🔥🔥 #anyways i think you can tell i liked the movie. it had a bunch of the things i like 👍 #oc: fross #oc tag #ramble

[heart-forge]

thought about zed gender and then about gender wanted to ask if you have advice or tips for someone who is non binary but unsure what pronouns to use?

My advice will always be don't worry about it that much. I've been NB for a long time and I've never had a pronoun used on me that's clouds parting, trumpets blaring kind of revelation. I don't think it matters all that much—to me that is. Obviously if someone does have the trumpets blaring that deserves respect (and the inverse, if there's pronouns that make you devil hell-barf then that decision should be respected as well), but I think if you're hanging out in the meh zone and not really having the big breakthroughs that we expect from coming out media, don't push yourself.

Just vibe, try new ones, discard old ones, and remember that pronouns are not the be-all-end-all and some people are using them for convenience sake rather than any kind of gender euphoria. you can also consider other things: titles like ms miss mr mx, gendered nouns like prince princess, girl boy kid; presentation, the way you're dressed and perceived; even shit like your voice or whatever. pronouns are a convenient lingual slice of the gender pie and you can just plop that down on a paper plate and send it down the line if you want to. cis people aren't getting giddy about their own pronouns (hell some have forced themselves to forget what a pronoun is, because they're dumb) so I think it stands to reason that while it might be a nice feeling, it's not one we HAVE to have in order to party.

Find what makes you feel good and chase it, find what makes you feel bad and avoid it, and if something isn't doing much of anything then whatever, fuck it.

#talkForge #fuck it we ball etc etc #sorry if this isn't very useful I'm pretty blase about it #I'm a real 'i dont care about any transcendental knowledge of the self through recognition of the other #i just dont want anyone in my business' type I think if I hung around people that cared about that kind of thing as obsessively #as I've seen floating around I'd have a perma headache

[cacaitos]

only respect for the girlies and their devotion to images and ideals and their ego-destroying sisyphean pursuits.

#txt #like the dependence of their identity coming from exactly one exact person that placed them out of their insignificance and gave them value #through *their* ideals. sure fine very wide description average is it manipulation in its origin discussion etc etc. idc about that. #moreso the more key element here is any sort of. idealization? whatever the nature of that ideal is. it's admiration #and as ideas tend to be. they can't be reached or fulfilled in their entirety because theyre not real. so that in combination w identity #dependence ultimately leaves them stuck in a loop of perpetual dissatisfaction with themselves. #and with ideals i mean of people. constructions based on incomplete perception of them. made willingly (tho unconsious) or externally #and like what they want isnt grandiose or existential but just recognizal and understanding #and like what they want isnt grandiose or existential but just recognition and understanding. and dare i say love sometimes as an extention #of those two (not applicable to everyone. kinda unlikely in fact). thing is that the learned way to recieve the indulgence of recognition #they have to feed the ideal or unintentionally end up doing it. but ironically like that all they end up #doing IS building up the hill for themselves. most of the time (more like the ones im interested in anyway) this problem is self imposed #did they not hold the unaproachable perception of the other (formed by a poor self steem let's be honest) they could engage each #other in more equal and genuinely constructive terms #but thats not fun so tragedy it is #LB

[juriyuna]

"headcanoning a fictional character as neurodivergent is cringe/bad/etc." well personally i love playing armchair psychologist to my blorbos

#character does something that comes off a certain way and i'm like #''oh hmm i see [takes out clipboard]'' #(or just that ''same hat!'' meme or that ''self-recognition through the other (derogatory)'' post lol) #this isn't about any characters specifically #but it probably applies to like 50% of magireco's cast #honestly since being a mentally ill teenager is hell #i wouldn't be surprised if there was a high ND rate among magical girls in the PMMM universe #kyubey sees a girl struggling with anxiety/depression/ADHD/etc. and goes 👈👀 YOU #(not to mention the trauma that can result from *being* a magical girl)

[filipofmounthonora]

Jaric

ummmm ok! but im being noncanon and tangential about it 🥰 whatever all our souls are made of ours are the same [deep unrestrained weary sigh] ft sophie

send me a pairing and/or prompt idea and i'll write something about it! <3

"Aric…?"

Sophie clutched her arms, her skin crawling with the sickening realization: "All this… Kingdoms ransacked and pillaged, people slaughtered—my friends hurt and killed! And it was all for… for—"

"For love," the Snake said softly.

A horrified laugh burbled out before she could stop it. "Love? What would you know about love?" she spat. "Your brother told me everything. Drove your mother away, did you? I can't say I'm surprised. Only a murderer with just as rotten and sadistic of a soul could 'love' a monster like you—and that's to say you even have a soul at all!" The Snake rose from his seat, but she stamped out her flash of fear. "I'm sorry, did that strike a nerve?" she taunted, fighting down burning bile. "Go ahead. Kill me. At least that creep won't get to live again."

For a moment, they were at an impasse, eyes locked and jaws tense and shoulders rigid. Sophie's chest heaved in angry, shuddering bursts, but the Snake remained as glacial as ice. She watched for any hint of movement, bracing for a sudden attack…

"What makes you think you're any better than me?" he asked instead.

Sophie froze. "Excuse me?"

The Snake shook his head, hands settling on the teapot. "During your First Year you terrorized and attempted to kill the entire School for Good, you did kill all of the wolves and fairies, tried to seize the power of the Storian to serve your own gain—" he narrowed a glance at her as he smoothly poured two cups— "now doesn't that sound familiar. But shall I go on to the wars you started? Shall I mention Rafal?"

Sophie colored scarlet, whether out of fury or terror or shame, she had no clue. "But I've—"

"Changed?" The Snake scoffed loud enough to make her jump. For a moment, she expected him to whirl back to her furious, teeth gnarled and scims sharpened to points—but his shoulders sagged and a long-held weariness crept into his bones… In a blink it seemed as though the Snake was gone, and in the monster's place stood just a boy.

"There's no changing Evil like us. We'll never be satisfied alone. Not until we find love as brutal and selfish as our own." He sighed, as if he knew exactly how hard it was to try. "But you know that already."

Sophie watched him, pulled uneasily closer as he settled the teacups on their saucers. His body seemed to shrink into itself, much more cautious than the confident villain Tedros had fought. Was it a trick of the light, or had his face changed as well? Gone was the hard, cold glare, replaced by unfocused, dark and sunken eyes. It was getting harder to see him as Rhian's copy, two sides of the same manipulative coin. She had very nearly been swayed by the Lion. How did she know this wasn't some kind of trick as well?

"It's why you were drawn to my brother," he continued, "and Rafal, and Tedros before him. All your life, looking for the one person who'd complete you, who would love you despite every foul thing your soul was tainted with. But here you are again. With no one."

"I have Agatha," Sophie insisted weakly.

He met her gaze. "And I had Aric, once."

There was a force behind his eyes, a simmering fire that made her own eyes water and sting. Conviction and rage that had been tamped down to resignation, a person just like her who'd tried so hard to be Good, only to fail over and over and…

Japeth gestured at the chair opposing him.

Sophie took it.

#sge #school for good and evil #the school for good and evil #miles writes #sophie of woods beyond #japeth of foxwood #i could go on and on about these two the japeth sophie friendship agenda is REAL #its about self recognition in the other (oh god oh fuck is That me????) #its about japeth finding out arics death through a storybook about a girl who is so so much like him #its about japeth the parasite. etc #miles answers #whoops almost forgor that #aneyway sorry cats this is probably not what you wanted <3 #frenemies au

[rentokinozaki]

so awesome that miss july couldve been a slippery rock and it would have the same overall effect. but they made them a person + optimized them for the cleanest shot right into my amygdala. very cool

#every time i read other ppls analysis it leads to the conclusion that maybe im just full of hate. curses for 7 generations etc #recognition of self through others etc #this is not negative btw. SOMEONE has to keep books in this house.