#starflungs personal tag

[starflungwaddledee]

just want to give a little heads up, but i'm going to be away for several days until tuesday next week! heading on an international trip for family obligations and will likely have little to no internet access!

i have a few things in the queue (gifts mostly) but won't be around to respond to new posts, dms, asks, etc, until i get back.

take care, see you on the flipside!

#starstruck dee #my art #starflungs personal tag #unlike starstruck-- as much as i love the sky-- i am terrified of flying *in planes*. i know all the tricks and have done all the therapy #i remain mortally and irrationally terrified of flying in planes. i can barely eat knowing i have to go on one soon. #i've also been quite running behind on socmed as a whole (due to this looming terror). i hope to catch up when i get back. #if i've missed a piece of yours lately i'm sorry!

[starflungwaddledee]

it's the day before my birthday, and my girlfriend surprised me with an outing to a local bird aviary/botanic gardens in the mountains!!!

this was an absolute delight for me, known bird enjoyer, and i got to have many cute and phenomenal birds perched on my head (which i loved and plushie magolor 'tolerated', on account of it being my birthday). i even got to see a nicobar pigeon, which i had never seen in person before!

they also surprised me with an early birthday present to use at the incredible mountain-top picnic spread my gf planned (😭😭) of this extraordinarily cute kirby themed liquid-glitter cup!!

and of course, in true starflung fashion i injured myself twice

once, not three minutes into the outing when my umbrella (which i only require because i'm allergic to both the sun and sunscreen) bit me, and my gf had to run to reception to get me a bandaid. later, when i just totally fkn stacked it on some loose gravel on a slope and i got the umbrella back by slamming it into the ground, along with my knees and one palm. but not the other palm, which was holding plushie magolor, who touched neither gravel nor dirt and never will while i still breathe!

#i am so accident prone and also stupidly fragile in every way. but i'm fine and i found both of these incidents hilarious! #i feel it is important that everybody know that my mum (who has dementia but recognises plushie magolor) asked “is that magolor” when- #she saw meta knight on the cup. i said “no that's meta knight” and she replied “oh i should have known. he's not as cute as magolor.” #and magolor's ego grew THREE TIMES that day let me tell you #the cup is also extremely important as a gift actually. i recently accidentally smashed a childhood glitter cup i've had my whole life #i adored it to bits; comfort item; it had toucans on it. i was quite devastated when it broke #but it's been impossible to replace (despite my gf's best efforts) and we knew no substitute would really hit the same. #but THIS is similar enough yet different enough and so *perfect* in its own right that it really... fills the spot. #my gf is phenomenal at gifts and surprises. truly she is unfathomable. i am so spoiled 🥺 #7inch plushie magolor return to dreamland #he does have other bows btw!! he's been dressing up for halloween and christmas and such but this is his Party Bow! #starflungs personal tag

[starflungwaddledee]

!!!! wow!! wow!!! thank you so much!! 🥺

i'm so so over the moon that folks actually like my little kirby corner; my art and comics and my aus and my headcanons and my sona!! aa!! thank you for being here!

as gratitude... i will do it. i shall deliver the forbidden texts... the very normal waddle dee lore! 🎀🌠 will take me an hour or two to polish it up probably, but keep an eye out...! 🥳🥳

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[starflungwaddledee]

Hi sorry to bother you but I just wanted to say that as an autistic person Starstruck makes me want to cry. I love her so much let her live the happy life she deserves with people that accept and care about her. That “otherness” or feeling of being “incorrect” and being seen as suspicious/ostracized for it was absolutely NAILED and it HURTS SO GOOD. I just really wanted you to know that. It’s nice to see someone like me in media, especially in something like the Kirby franchise. Thank you.

ohhhhh i am SO thrilled to receive this message because i am autistic, and by extension so is starstruck, and this was entirely on purpose! i'm so happy that you feel i nailed it! thank YOU for letting me know this; it's the highest praise i could have hoped to receive!

this was intentional autistic representation by an autistic creator and i am over the moon that it's connecting with you! her inability to "have the right magical signature" and her "mimicry of the signatures around her in attempt to fit in" is explicitly a (rather ham-fisted, if i'm being honest) autistic parallel, especially towards masking.

there are obviously parts of her story that aren't explicitly parallel (she is still a little alien after all, and there's going to be Fun Dramatic Aspects that my real life autistic experience sadly lacks), but for what it's worth i'm really happy that this purposeful allegory was noticed!

thank you again so much for writing in, it means the world

#also ngl but i just think like the entire kirby cast is pretty autistic in their own way #like we ALL know meta knight for SURE but the others too. at least imo!! #i have actually been wondering if folks were picking up on this tbh. it seemed so apparent to me but that's bc i made it so i knew #i've had some say 'oh it's the social anxiety' which.... yes. also correct. i also have that too & it is that as WELL but it's incidental #i think this is the first time that someone has directly compared it to autism. it's nice. thank you! #representation in media sure does continue to be like... a Certain Way. but i think you can just hit everybody with the autism beam #it's morally correct. #asks #starstruck dee #starflungs personal tag

[starflungwaddledee]

Do you take commissions? If so, do you have a commission sheet? I’m sorry if this is an annoying ask I just really love your work lol

not annoying at all! i really really appreciate this a lot, thank you!

i have done commissions in the past on other platforms, but for now i am not taking them here. i'm not saying that i never will, because sometimes life is.. you know. Like That™️. but for now i'm steering clear of it to try and keep my passion up! 👍

#i also frankly think- and i don't say this to be rude- but i think that most folks in fandom would think my work is overpriced #because i charge somewhat more professional rates. still not a living wage. still not what you could get as a non-freelancer #(deleted a lot of rambling about prices here but if anyone does want to hear it i can go into it sometime) #kirby characters are generally far more simplistic so it would be a whole different pricing bracket #but i think expectations in fandom seem different to an original content community where people are doing this for a living #the one person i've commissioned in fandom i was so shocked at the rate i paid like... 500% what they asked me. #(that is not hyperbole. i 'tipped' 400% and it still felt like the bare minimum. you *must* tip undercharging artists.) #anyway. i have a lot of thoughts about monetising my art but at the moment this is still a no. i'm sorry! #i do really genuinely appreciate it though! if i ever open them i'll be sure to post here about it! #i'd also like to do art trades a little more regularly in the future (not rn) ; so there's that too? but we'll see. again i'll post about i #starflungs personal tag

[starflungwaddledee]

do you have any tips for leaving compliments on other people's art ?? your tags are always so well phrased !

oooo oooooooooooooo uuhhhhhhhh hmmm!

firstly, thank you!! i'm rather glad to hear that! i try quite hard to leave meaningful comments so it's nice when folks notice or appreciate it!

outside of commenting on the work, i first consider the tone of what i'm saying and who i'm saying it to.

i always try to make sure that what i'm saying will be appreciated by the person! that's the point. for the most part i leave comments to bring joy to the op, and thank them for their hard work, for being here and sharing art that made me happy! if i'm speaking to a mutual or friend, there's gonna be inside jokes and probably an amount of casual yelling. possibly even a little friendly roast, if i know them well enough. if i'm speaking with someone i don't know as well i try to keep it a little more professional, but i keep in mind that this is a fandom so an amount of yelling and screaming is expected. i tend to think about what i would like from someone else.

also if i notice that a caption or a blogs about is not in english i double check. if english is not the first language of the artist i make sure to construct tags that are easily translated and i use only and exclusively positive phrases. saying things like "delete this!!!! /pos" or "eating my own hands" can be totally lost in translation. i also keep in mind the age of the OP. don't tag as though you're Looking Disrespectfully at the art of a minor, even if that's your favourite blorbo.

as for how to comment on art or storytelling itself, this is indeed a learned skill, and it can be helped by training your eye to understand different things in artwork. but it's easy to start practicing! this is intuitive to me now, but an easy way to begin is to pick out one or two things that really stand out to you on a piece. (examples could be line quality; is it smooth? neat? textured? full of emotion?, shading: is it crisp? atmospheric? realistically rendered?, or colour choice: is it vibrant? is it moody? is it perfectly on model?) and draw attention to them and how the artist successfully used them to make the piece work.

if the piece includes design-work, pick something of that which you like as well. (clothes, colour choices, abilities, parallels to other characters, totally new or unique concepts that you haven't seen before. if you see your favourite colour combos or notions, let them know, but if it's a stranger remember they made the design for themselves, and you just share (good) tastes!) if you really want to make an artist/designer/storyteller's day, try to find the Little Thing that they've snuck into their art or design that ties into the story or lore that they are telling. even guesses to this end tend to be appreciated!

generally useful things you can also comment on are how well an artist has utilised a medium for its strengths, especially if the medium is a little unusual. if someone @'d me in particular i make sure to acknowledge that too because they probably read me for something and i should acknowledge the effort!

another thing i also always, always encourage, is to try to periodically share and comment on the work of people who are either less experienced or who have less visibility than you. especially if you have more of a platform! if you want to keep your blog clean of too many reblogs for aesthetic or professional reasons you can even go through and remove them later, but sharing the work of smaller accounts- even temporarily- makes such a huge difference! and encouraging + supporting younger or beginner artists is something we should be endeavouring to do as much as possible!

at the end of the day, i always just try to be very earnest in my tags.

there is generally no reason to withhold any praises i can think of, because it's usually nice to have your work perceived and appreciated! i personally loooovvve long rambling tags, screaming tags, stuff like "AAHH NOOOOOOO (THE BLORBO)" and so on. i try to leave the kind of thoughtful comments that i like (and am lucky enough) to receive, and i try to share artwork from a wide variety of people!

#asks #it's something you can get better at with practice and with training your eye to see Little Things in artwork #at understanding the components that an artwork is made up of; and picking the bits that are actually Popping Out to you in the moment! #i hope this helps?? it just takes a bit of Time. moreso than just hitting the reblog button! so i understand why not everyone can do it #i tend to shove stuff into my drafts for weeks/months and will go through and add tags when i have some downtime. #but all my stuff is also queued for the most part. #also if i ever tag something an OP is uncomfortable with; i am trusting they would reach out to me!! #sorry to all the folks who's pictures of galacta knight i have reblogged just going like UHHHHHHH because my brain short circuited #starflungs personal tag #<- sorta?

[starflungwaddledee]

I have to ask you a question, I'm sorry it's just that you seem like a nice person and I don't want you to get seriously upset by what I'm going to say and I don't mean this whole thing to be negative.

With all of that out of the way: why do people like to make angsty stuff so much. Like I get it, it's to make aus or even have hcs about those said characters. But I have seen people who make angsty stuff and never continue their work about said angsty stuff and said people who said that the angsty stuff was going to have a happy ending never came though, it's just disheartening to see and just to see that whole bandee getting turned into Morpho thing basically reminded me of that. :/

Look I'll say this with an open heart, I tolerate angsty stuff and for those who make it to have character development or even tell stories and to help people explain hcs about certain characters, I can totally respect and understand. Sometimes we don't have to make happy stuff, sometimes we need to have a story to be told and such, and I wish you the best of luck with your whole bandee au.

Then again I'm very very very sorry for what I said and I hope you can forgive me for that. :[

hey there! I'm not upset by this at all, it seems like an honest question and i will take it in good faith. but it has an extremely simple answer: people generally make content because they enjoy it.

you can also make content for money, or because you think it will do well on social media when you crave ~*~The Numbers~*~ (most of us are at least a little guilty of this). but in terms of a question like this:

"why make that sort of content?" it's because we enjoy it.

why people enjoy angst and its contingents (dark stories, violence, drama, tragedy, etc) is extremely individual. it's like asking why someone likes any genre or any trope, or hell, any flavour in food, any animal, any hobby!

it can be confusing or hurtful when someone doesn't like something that you think is cool and exciting and perfect in every way; and it can be even more confusing- or even scary- when someone likes something you really really don't like.

but, and this is something which I think tends to come with age, it can also be very liberating! someone liking or disliking something in contrast to you is not remotely a bad thing!! it doesn't mean that you are wrong for not liking it, or that they are wrong for genuinely enjoying it*. you're just different; and that's cool and exciting!

because you asked me, i can tell you why I personally like angst:

⬇️ continued under the cut. not because of any content warnings, just because it's long. i also address the comment about discontinued work. ⬇️

I like to write drama and angst and put characters into the proverbial blender because:

I like to see characters be unfathomably and inspirationally strong in the face of incredible adversity. I like to see characters go absolutely insane trying to save their loved ones because they cannot imagine a worse fate than that loved one not being with them. I like to see characters fight and fight and fight for the better world that they know they deserve, that their loved ones deserve, and to never give up on each other even when things look absolutely hopeless. I like to see characters hit the despair event horizon; to realise everything is lost, that they've made a mistake, that they'll never get back from this-- and then to do it anyway. and at the end of it, I like to see those characters be happy; to see them comforted and recover and cry with relief because they made it, despite everything.

for that reason, angst and tragedy and drama hits a niche for me that can't be filled by fluff alone. i can write the characters being happy much more easily than writing a whole other plotline. but i like to see them be happy despite everything that tried to prevent them being happy, first.

many folks probably like it for other reasons. and not everybody who likes angst likes happy endings; tbh that hits a different spot of catharsis too! heck, not all of my endings are happy, but most of them are because i find it a bit more personally rewarding!

as for artists or creators who started a work and never finished it; i'm sorry, it sucks when you're invested in something and you don't see the finale. but please, don't hold it against any of those creators or conflate them not providing a happy ending with failure. it probably hurt them greatly to have to give up on telling a story they clearly cared about enough to start and share in the first place. art and storytelling (especially when you are providing it all from the heart for free on social media) is extremely hard work- whether it be fic, art, or sequential comics- and the ability to do it can leave you at any time without warning.

all of this said; if you personally don't like angst, I actually already content warn for it on my work! you can block this tag >> cw angst << or any of my specific AU tags if one is worse for you than the others.

or, perhaps my art just isn't for you! if you don't enjoy my content and are only 'tolerating it', then there's nothing making you look at it. you can either blacklist my tags, or block my account so that none of it shows up on your timeline. I'll continue to draw what I enjoy, and that will include my AUs (including the angsty ones), so if you don't want to see them i suggest you do whatever you need to cultivate your online space accordingly!

anyway, this was long, but i wanted to give you the time of day anon, because you seem genuine. and maybe you haven't had the chance to learn some of these things yet, so i hope you'll find some of this a little helpful! i will say, however: i've seen asks like this sent in to people in much worse faith. i'm going to make abundantly clear that i won't tolerate that here or give the time of day to any rude behaviour. liking or disliking angst/tragedy/whatever does not and never will make you morally superior than the next person; it's just a matter of a variety of personal taste.

and we're all different. and that's cool and exciting!

*i'm putting this here as an important footnote, but i obviously don't mean shit that is objectively harmful or intentionally malicious. i do also think that as online creators, especially in a shared space like a fandom, it's important to listen to tag requests and to cw appropriately for all sorts of things. i myself only just learned that people need warnings for eyes and eye contact! i expect people to cultivate their own online experience, but i also expect this to be made easy and facilitated by comprehensive and considerate tagging and respect of boundaries. i'm still learning but i'll always do my best to tag appropriately!

#asks #starflungs personal tag #see how i tied that together? cool and exciting!! #ooauaughwgh even when i'm writing a long ask response i'm still a sucker for a narrative that ends where it starts lmao #edit: in hindsight i want to put a tw on *this* but i'm not sure what. creative guilt? augh. it's in the ask itself so i can't even hide it

[starflungwaddledee]

i just want to make a tiny mention of this, but i've noticed lately that even excluding asks i'm starting to struggle to stay on top of responding to everything. i'm not sure if there's been an uptick in interactions (i think so), or if it's just that my cfs is kicking my ass more (it's also this)

and i'm so so grateful and i read and love every comment and engagement, but i can't always think of things to say in response! i also get very nervous if i leave something a few days without responding because i then feel kind of embarrassed to respond to it so late 😭💦

i'll still continue to do my best to get back to everyone where i can, but if i don't respond it's nothing personal! i'm just a little swamped haha 😅

#if you've tagged me in something (especially gift art) and i haven't gotten back to it please just send me an ask with a link! #i would never purposely ignore something! if i've missed it it's an accident!! #i have a bit of a hard time sorting the notifications on tumblr and wish it were a bit easier to navigate the tabs. maybe i'm just old #anyway. this is obviously a flattering problem to have and it's probably nothing but.. i get anxious about this sort of thing #i want to do my best!! people take the time to reach out and it means a lot; thank you! #starflungs personal tag #delete later

[starflungwaddledee]

hey hey all!

just want to touch base to say that i'm still running a little behind on a lot of things! new posts, answering messages, responding to mentions, and so on. if i haven't gotten to your dms in particular i'm super sorry-- i know they're there!! i didn't forget you!! it just takes an amount of time i'm having trouble stringing together right now!! 😭🙏

going to be pushing content by others into my queue and getting that back up and running over the next week, then i'll be working on my entry for the kirbyoctournament! fresh shiny new art in particular might continue to be a little delayed as i keep up with modding/co-hosting responsibilities, but we'll see how it goes!

#i was invited to cohost the tourney this year which is a huge honour! #and if you're following along you might have noticed i am taking it SoOOOOo casually. SOOO incredibly chill about it. #i'm clearly someone who would be totally a-okay doing an Average Job at this! definitely not determined to do The Best Job #if i made a completely mid impression that would be FFffFFiinne! not utterly preoccupied making sure i am indeed Helpful and Useful #definitely *not* trying too hard or being a frantic little people pleaser. just the normal amount! normal amount. #ha ha ha! #starflungs personal tag #delete later

[starflungwaddledee]

Do you have, or plan to design a gijinka of Starstruck waddle dee?

i can confirm that i will almost certainly never do this, actually. i won't say 100% never just in case, but like... 99%. for multiple reasons, 1) bc she'd just look like me and that defeats the point, and 2) most importantly, i'm here to Draw Orbs! i want to draw orbs!

i've drawn humans in my webcomics for 10+ years, and so drawing gijinkas of any kind right now is broadly unappealing to me. i just really like the shape language of the kirby characters as they are. comfy cozy, y'know?

if i were going to do humanoid design work of any kind, what i would probably actually do is fashion/outfit designs, likely with a magical girl flair. almost like cosplay, but not "being the character" rather an impression inspired by the character. i've admittedly spent 10+ years doing that too (flunked my career as a fashion designer due to the gfc and went into designing magical girls instead) but i still find translating motifs and themes into outfit designs quite enjoyable!

#one of the earliest things i considered drawing when i started getting the big Kirby Brainrot was a marx inspired magical girl outfit #still think it would slap tbh #asks #starflungs personal tag #starstruck dee

[starflungwaddledee]

extremely important birthday update this is not a drill i received sofubi finger puppet bandee figurine!!!! i have had my eye on this one for some time but it's been very hard to get in my country!

i also received other fantastic gifts (including a matching magolor sofubi to go with bandee... of course... 🍎 and a 30th anniversary necklace with the lor's wing on it!) which i may talk about later if folks wouldn't find that annoying, but this is the one i screamed about the most!

#this just about completes my list of desirables in the current bandee merch category!! #admittedly there are not many great ones of him and i'm very fussy actually. #i already have popstar bandee+kirby which is i think probably the best piece with him imo #and earlier this year my girlfriend ALSO tracked down the nigh impossible to find discontinued kawasakis sweets apple pie bandee for me #her magnum opus i think #but LOOK AT THIS ONE. his arms are up SO high. there's a bootleg where his arms aren't as high but it's not as good. arms up!!! #and the wink!!! augh!!! anyway. wow!!! what an incredible day. thank you everybody for such thoughtful gifts here too!! #i am a little speechless with gratitude. it means the world! #starflungs personal tag

[starflungwaddledee]

had a nightmare that i woke up and overnight someone had just sent an ominous "comm'd you >:)" comment on one of my posts here. so i looked around in confusion and finally went to my email, where i found their request. they wanted a fully rendered animated comic, with a motion background that the character would walk around and interact with, as though it was a 3D game scene.

their character was a mario rpg oc (simply called 'pink mario') who was about what you'd expect, and the reference was simply a recoloured official render; except the eyes had been scratched out and were junji-ito like black pits 😬

it was apparently due in two days, and i was pretty sure 'pink mario'- who had started moving around in the reference image- was gonna jump out the screen and get me if i didn't deliver

they had (somehow) paid me a whopping $17 for this task.

#“why don't u monetise” LET ME TELL YOU #anyway i haven't actually played any mario so perhaps pink mario already exists. who can say #the $17 was the scariest part. or maybe the tight deadline without a rush fee 😂 #cw horror #maybe???? just in case #starflungs personal tag

[starflungwaddledee]

Whats starflung favorite cake

french apple rum cake!!! [x] it's my current favourite and so we had it today for a birthday cake!

if you mean starstruck dee and not me personally, she is a sona so i think she'd also like this particular cake very much! bandee's definitely convinced her on the relative superiority of apples 😂

i also think that every single cake eating critter on popstar would go absolutely off the rails if you introduced them to pavlova [x]

#asks #starflungs personal tag #cw food

[starflungwaddledee]

do you take commissions? Your art is amazing!

hello there! thank you so so much! i'm so glad you like my work! i have definitely taken commissions before (I've been a 'professional' freelancer for over a decade) but i'm not sure i'll take them here

turning my art into "✧˖°. product ˖°.✧" made me lose my passion for it for a very long time. the desperation to increase my reach (for financial survival) in the face of algorithms and so on had me practically pulling teeth just to pick up the tablet pen. i'm actually currently scrambling desperately up the steep steep slope of a 2-3 year chronic burnout/depression by my fingernails; not that you'd know it, with the number of comics i'm putting out 😂

but making art for kirby (and now sharing my work with the fandom) has completely changed my life, no joke. i wake up in tears some days just because i'm so excited to write and draw and make things. it's been so long. so i'm a little scared to lose that creativity and spark again after just getting it back!

that said, thank you so much! someone wanting to pay cold hard cash for your work is always an incredible feeling. i can't say that i'll never open commissions here, because i am currently missing it as an income stream, which is very scary. especially if it were for kirby-like OCs which I find so enjoyable to draw! we'll see. but thank you!! thank you 💖

#asks #replies #starflungs personal tag #if the commission prompt was stuff like canon kirby characters or a fun scene; maybe i'd do it just as a request tbh #especially if i found it compelling! something to do with any of *my* AUs or headcanons i almost certainly would! #i can't imagine anyone would want that but like... idk! if you were like “HEY show us what happened to bandee after morpho ate him” like #i'd absolutely delight to do that for free! yknow?

[starflungwaddledee]

just wondering, what's your taste/preferences in music like?

i would say fairly broad-- i'll go everything from cartoon musicals to hard dubstep-- though not infinite. i lean pop and dance and electronic and alt rock, because i'm a basic b.

according to my spotifystats, my current top genres are: Modern Rock, Metropopolis (?), Pop, Indietronica, Hopebeat, Indie Poptimism, and Modern Alternative Rock. some of these are words i recognise.

my favourite artists for over a decade had been florence + the machine, snow patrol, and owl city (due to Ratio Of Songs I'm Insane About), though at this point it's as much nostalgia as anything and not many of their songs are in my current circulation

overall i tend to prefer things that are high energy, but there are certainly mellow tracks i love as well!

update: i looked up metropopolis. it's a correct assessment, i can think of half a dozen songs in my current circulation that fit this, down to the urban lyrics.

Metropopolis is a modern music genre that blends elements of pop, hip-hop, and electronic music. It is characterized by its high energy, catchy melodies, and use of electronic instruments and sound effects. The lyrics often focus on urban life and the challenges of living in a big city.

#my most played from the last month is actually a fairly sombre song i am *desperate* to draw some tragedyangst to... but.. cheesy #one time discover weekly combined several things that i enjoy separately. like making a smoothie from an entire meal of different items #and recommended me a Pop Dance Track cover of the Wellerman with extremely generic club bootyshake lyrics #and anyway it made my top 100 last year. so like. hopefully that helps. i'm cringe but i'm free. music time is me time. #music #starflungs personal tag #asks

[starflungwaddledee]

AAAHH Hi again!

Ur art, OCs, & comics are SO INCREDIBLY AWESOME & CUTE!^^ I really wanna make more fanart of ur Lil dee! To be honest, your art really inspires me! ✨️

I really hope you enjoy some of my fanart I made of you! (Sorry if i'm rambling) And if it's all right with you, I would like to be your friend. If you want. I really like making new friends! (If that's ok with you)

helloooo! thank you so much for the kind words about my work, i'm so happy if i can inspire you with your own creativity! i've of course enjoyed the pieces you've drawn of starstruck very much! i think i reblogged them? if i missed one let me know! thank you for thinking of her and sharing them with me!!

rambling is also okay anytime! added a cut to trim this down: topics include generational friendships and adult responsibilities therein, and also autism making socialising hard

wrt to being friends, i need to make clear that i'm an adult!

i hope it's obvious that i am quite friendly, and i always love to see folks i recognise-such as yourself!!- around. i'm more than happy to chat in comments/asks and such! if you are in my notifications regularly (especially with comments/tagged reblogs/etc, as those don't get compressed in my activity window) you can assume for now that i'll recognise you and be delighted to hear from you any time, and so i do consider that a baseline of friendship already.

but, while i aim to be kind and approachable to everybody of all ages, and i have several friendly mutuals who are minors, i don't want to be close friends with any minors. i just think it's a safety boundary i shouldn't cross and that it's on me (as the adult) to enforce said boundary.

a mutual of mine (who is also an adult) said that they don't hold extended private conversations with any kids. i think that's a good base rule, especially because i think i'm on the slightly older end of folks in this fandom! if this is the wrong stance to have, i'd happily hear otherwise, as i'm very new to being in a fandom space like this where there are a lot of minors active and wanting to interact with me. i'm doing my best but i'm happy to learn, i genuinely want to make a safe and welcoming space!

i hope this doesn't sound at all negative or like i'm rebuffing you or being rude >_< like i said, i'm friendly!! i consider there to be a baseline of friendliness with people who are taking the time to interact with and leave nice comments on my work already, or who have drawn me gift art and such. and maybe this is a bit autistic of me, but i'm not sure what else 'friends' would entail beyond that point! you can feel free to enlighten me, this could just be my age showing too 😂

#the autism is sooo strong for me and i've never been good at “making friends” bc i tend to just assume... i'm being friendly #“what else is there” 😭😭😭😭 like socially... i don't know what the difference is here besides just spending more time together #which happens naturally when you engage with each other! right? waauuhrrghggh socialising is soooo hard #also i can clarify in case anyone feels left out: i'm not out here like.... idk being fun + *more* friendly elsewhere!! it's just this! #i'm just here chatting in comments and asks! i'm not on discord. i'm barely in my own dms 😅 #starflungs personal tag #asks