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Sport is life

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#me and m

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guinea pig

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traitors uk s1e3 is so absurd it makes me crackle because

i've never seen so many grown adults, grandfathers and grandmothers even, cry and wail like pissy little children at a grand breakfast table overflowing with food

like, my lovely brothers and sisters what on earth are you doing i rewatched it a few times just to sit and laugh

#the traitors #traitors uk #claudia

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Girlpool—Before the World Was Big // memorial bench quoting Toni Morrison's Sula // @inanotherunivrse // Iain S. Thomas, I Wrote This For You // Zadie Smith, Swing Time // Fall Out Boy—The Kids Aren't Alright // Audrey Emmett // Mikko Harvey, "For M" // Mahmoud Darwish, Memory for Forgetfulness: August, Beirut, 1982 (tr. Ibrahim Muhawi) // Langston Hughes, "Poem"

#missing all my friends right now #i want to cry wow #friendship #personal #toni morrison

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Show up at work like hi boss sorry I'm late my I was helping my mother track down one specific 90s dungeon crawler for the purposes of obtaining a muffin recipe the developer hid in the files

#food #personal #favourites #ohmygod i need to try this #today evening i know what im gonna make

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reblog if your name isn't Amanda.

2,121,566 people are not Amanda and counting!

We’ll find you Amanda.

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i woke up today and ran into the bathroom like an idiot because ADVENTURE

my forever mood

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jason molina’s writing advice to matthew j barnhart via his blackberry in 2008 

#writing #writing advice #personal

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couldn't not share this. so many people i know can benefit from reading this. including myself.

gifted kid this gifted that. we never realize how much harm its doing until you find yourself falling off that cliff and realizing how detrimental it was.

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couldn't not share this. so many people i know can benefit from reading this. including myself.

gifted kid this gifted that. we never realize how much harm its doing until you find yourself falling off that cliff and realizing how detrimental it was.

#reading #personal #essay #reading list #art #trying to reach it to everyone but idk what exactly to tag #gifted kid burnout #gifted kid syndrome

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Happy boop day🥰

#boop #no more april 1st only boop day #the cake looks lovely

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And like orpheus, I looked back to see that she was gone

#boop #it's goneee

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if you need last minute boops, you can spam OP

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Please 😭

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Fully embracing referring to Israeli and American soldiers as terrorists, because that’s what they are! Arab people have had to deal with you calling them terrorists for more than a decade now, when it’s precisely these countries that have been killing our people and either being glorified for it or it being ignored entirely because it’s easier to turn the other cheek than to truly care. But they are and have always been terrorists.

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Something that literally changed my life was working with a friend on a coding thing. He was helping me create an auto rig script and was trying to explain something to me but his words were just turning into static in my brain. I was tired and confused and there was so many new concepts happening.

I could feel myself working toward a crying meltdown and was getting preemptively ashamed of what was about to happen when he said, “Hey, are you someone who benefits from breaks?”

It broke me.

Did I benefit from breaks? I didn’t know. I’d never taken them.

When a problem frustrated or upset me I just gritted my teeth and plowed through the emotional distress because eventually if you batter and flail at something long enough you figure it out. So what if you get bruised on the way.

I viscerally remembered in that moment being forced to sit at the table late into the night with my dad screaming at me, trying to understand math. I remembered taking that with me into adulthood and having breakdowns every week trying to understand coding. I could have taken a break? Would it help? I didn’t know! I’d never taken one!

“Yes,” I told him. We paused our call. I ate lunch. I focused on other stuff for half an hour. I came back in a significantly better state of mind, and the thing he’d been trying to explain had been gently cooking in the back of my head and seemed easier to understand.

Now when I find myself gritting my teeth at problems I can hear his gentle voice asking if I benefit from breaks. Yes, dear god, yes why did I never get taught breaks? Why was the only way I knew to keep suffering until something worked?

I was relating to this same friend recently my roadtrip to the redwoods with my wife. “We stopped every hour or so to get out and stretch our legs and switch drivers. It was really nice. When I was a kid we’d just drive twelve hours straight and not stop for anything, just gas. We’d eat in the car and power through.”

He gave a wry smile, immediately connecting the mindset of my parents on a road trip to what they’d instilled in me about brute forcing through discomfort. “Do you benefit from breaks?” he echoed, drawing my attention to it, making me smile with the same sad acknowledgement.

Take breaks. You’re allowed. You don’t have to slam into problems over and over and over, let yourself rest. It will get easier. Take. Breaks.

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