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tessenpai · 2 days ago
Chika and Satowa: Skinship
I absolutely love Chika and Satowa's relationship, to the point, it's probably the one I like most in manga. There are several reasons for that: The respect they have for each other, the understanding, the deep care... The way Amu-sensei has developed it over the years makes it one of the best slow-burn romances I've ever seen, one in which it never feels like it's dragging you along. No, they are not an official pair as of yet, but the process and the growth we witness as readers is so beautiful in itself, so inevitable, that you just enjoy every second of the ride.
This topic has come up recently in the Discord KOT server, and I must say it was such an interesting conversation that I had to write a post organizing my thoughts about it.
Skinship is something that any romance fan swoons about. We all love a hug, a caress, a sign of affection when we see our OTP. Skinship is especially important in Chika and Satowa's relationship, and it is something that has developed splendidly while revealing some other complicated stuff.
Going back to chapter 2, Chika and Satowa's first impressions of each other was... not ideal. They fought all the time and didn't seem to see eye to eye. That of course changes throughout the manga, as we all know. However, the skinship between the two, and the meaning of touching each other also changes dramatically.
In the early chapters of Kono Oto Tomare! neither of them seems to feel like touching each other is much of a big deal, yes he notices that her hand is small, but what really interests him is how her hands show her hard work. Touching her, at this point, doesn't really hold any romantic feelings on either side. He even takes care of her fever and stays over at her place, and it was no biggie!! But then a change commences happening.
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The first one to change is Satowa. She starts to get to know Chika better, and learns about his kindness and his dedication to Koto, as well as how caring he is towards his friends (took care of her when she was sick, told her she could talk about her family situation whenever she was ready, pushed her to have lunch with her school friends...), Satowa starts being aware of Chika as a man. Things that before wouldn't face her, now feel completely different for her
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Chika, on the other hand, still seems fairly unaffected by physical contact with Satowa at this point. He is not a guy that goes out of his way to touch people and is not a touchy-feely person anyways. However, when Satowa falls on his arms and very much reacts, Chika doesn't know what to make of that and mistakes her reaction with anger/embarrassment. When Sane comes through the door and sees them in that position, he scolds Chika, but Chika isn't really listening to him and instead is trying to understand the reason for her reaction. In the end, he concludes he must have touched her breast on accident and decides to receive Sane's punishment in silence. Because for him there is no other reason for her to react that way... it was a very innocent exchange on his part after all.
It all changes after The Incident. Yes, it requires capital letters and bold cursive letters, because when Chika's lips end up in Satowa's brow, a huge turn is made in their relationship. It was a very innocent accident. No real meaning behind it. But at this point, Satowa, who was doing fine in ignoring the awareness and keeping Chika as only a friend and clubmate, is unable to do so any longer. She didn't expect it, and she did not know how to react to it. For her, it was not only physical awareness anymore. And she had no way to ignore the feelings that were developing towards him.... although she gave it an honest try there, much to Chika's dismay, who couldn't understand why Satowa was suddenly avoiding him.
Let's take a moment to remember Chika is a kid that grew up with a parent that blamed him for everything that went wrong in his life, he was blamed for the trashing of his grandfather's shop, and he carries a lot of self-blame for his gang days when he used to hurt people on the daily with his fists. So of course, the only reason he can think for Satowa's sudden avoidance is that he must have hurt her. Tetsuki, an innocent bystander, tries to be a supportive friend and recommends Chika to give her time.
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You see, ever since he first heard Satowa play the koto, Chika has had as a goal to be able to stand by her side. For him, there is no one above her in the koto world and, the way I see it, Chika believes that if he can be acknowledged as fit to be a koto player by her side, then without a doubt he has earned the right to play it. After all, if he caught up to the person he most admires, anyone who said differently was not worth listening to. So when suddenly Satowa pushes him away, not only is he surprised, but he is hurt and lost.
After the school festival, Satowa is able to put in order her feelings. Hiro does this by "turning her feelings into her strength". Satowa's way leans more towards "the competition is near and I can not be distracted by these feelings. I don't even know what they are and I don't want to think about it. Koto and club come first anyways". Chika is giddy that their dynamic is back to normal. She has "forgiven" him and is not avoiding him anymore.
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As with music, Chika is a step behind Satowa when it comes to the milestones in their relationship. While Satowa was very much aware of Chika as a guy, he just admired her as a musician. But The Incident not only was a turning point for Satowa in realizing her feelings... But for Chika as well to start being very much aware of Satowa.
It is interesting to see the difference in this awareness compared to Satowa's. I believe Chika's feelings go hand in hand with his admiration towards her. The more he admires her, the more she observes her, and as a consequence feelings develop. But with that comes one thing Satowa did not have: the urge to touch. Satowa was always aware of why she was flustered and of course, would not willingly put herself in a situation where she would not be able to handle her feelings (by touching him). Chika on the other hand does not really understand the why of his sudden impulses, but he is VERY aware he has them... Because he needs to control them or otherwise Satowa could start avoiding him again.
He becomes acutely aware of wanting to touch Satowa all the time because he fears her rejection. He fears he can no longer be by her side if he gives in to his impulses. And we see several examples of this happening.
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Chika, in fact, believes him touching her makes her scared/uncomfortable with him. So any time he does end up touching her, he is very scared he has hurt her or scared her because he was careless.
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In this second incident, Satowa for the first time assures him that she is NOT scared of him. Granted, she was surprised, but not SCARED. "We spend all the time together, I am not scared of you in any way". And the relief Chika feels by her words is so sweet! He did not hurt her or scare her in any way, and she is not pulling away!! But of course, this was just an accident, not Chika actively giving in to his impulses. So he STILL has to control himself.
This second incident lets us know where Satowa stands where skinship with Chika is involved. What she says while running IS significant: "When you don't even know how I feel---". The problem is not Chika touching her (even though hugging/cuddling in bed might have been a little too much too soon for her), but the fact that that touch does not mean the same for him. From Satowa's perspective, Chika is still unaffected by the physical touch, while SHE IS IN LOVE WITH THE GUY and can barely contain her feelings as it is. Little does she know Chika does think touching her is a huge deal. To be clear, boy can barely keep his hands to himself half of the time. And only because the other half his hands are busy playing the koto.
And then, The Third Incident happens. It is so huge it shall be referred to as TTI. Yes, it gets it's own acronym:
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There is so much to analyze here. Oh boy. I'm going to give it my best attempt.
First off, this scene is parallel to the first time they touched (the first pic in this post). We have come a long way since then... They were two strangers at that time... In fact, they didn't really like each other. But now... They VERY MUCH like each other now. While Chika only knows he wants to touch her so bad that he has to stop himself from doing it because he does not think it would be welcomed, Satowa is aware of her own feelings and Chika's and does not find his touch unwelcome per se... is just that it would be better if they were on the same page as of what it makes her feel. What a catastrophic combination, because as a result Chika pushes her hand away, and Satowa thinks he is rejecting her. And when they are at granny's it all blows out.
Satowa is unsettled because he is suddenly physically rejecting her. Chika is once again scared of having hurt her. And he says aloud what his problem is: "It's for me, so I don't put my hands on you all the time".
Satowa... didn't really get his meaning. We all collectively facepalmed with Hiro and went together to scream into the void when Satowa said "Don't lie, you are not the kind of person who hits girls". But she DID get what he said afterward, or more like, what he did NOT say. When Chika apologized and stated he was "the germ", Satowa was absolutely heartbroken that her attitude made Chika apologize and think he had done some terrible thing to her. So the next day, and after reflecting on what to do with her feelings to not hurt him nor the club anymore, she tells him that he didn't do anything wrong that the TV program put her on edge and she dumped it on him. That he has never made her feel uncomfortable, not at all.
While, as an audience, we tend to focus more on Satowa in this scene, and how she is going by what Hiro went through when she tried to suppress her feelings for the sake of the club, this is a deal changer for Chika. And it's EVEN MORE of a deal changer after going to Satowa's house.
Remember when I said Chika is always one step behind Satowa?
Well, it's still true:
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These panels have so much significance... Chiharu asked Chika what he thinks of Satowa... And we can follow Chika's train of thought and how he derails it. He can only think about her when she received that flower, that moment when he could barely contain himself from dragging her to him... and then the "Win the Nationals" club poster flashes through his mind. Chika is not exactly the same as Satowa here. Satowa knew in a way what was going on with her but didn't want to acknowledge it. Chika on the other hand absolutely cuts that train of thought as soon as it goes in that direction. Is not that he doesn't want to acknowledge it... It's that he won't even allow himself to think about it. And it's to be expected from a guy who struggles to see himself as fit to play koto besides her... how to allow himself to openly be in love with her?
And somehow, Satowa gets it... Not that he is cutting the train of thought that leads to "I am in love with her", but the fact that he sees himself as below her. And she understands the only way for them to be together is for him to feel like they are on equal footing: "You have to catch up to me by Nationals. Catch up."
You see, in the same way The Incident made Satowa realize very real feelings were getting involved while for Chika it made him be aware of her physically, TTI let us see Satowa really wants Chika to be besides her... not just following behind her, while for Chika, is his moment to realize very real feelings are involved. See? One step behind. Hiro pushes Satowa even further when she helps her treasure those feelings instead of suppressing them.
But back to skinship... What did TTI do for their skinship? Well, after TTI Chika allows himself to touch her, and we can see him being more open on his protectiveness and how touching her, or her touching him brings him calm:
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And post-TTI/conversation with Hiro, we have a Satowa who is very aware she is in love and fully embraces those feelings as something beautiful. Uzuki's incident has even pushed her to STOP letting go of Chika's hand, physically and metaphorically. This is not the Satowa who would cower because she could not handle her feelings when he touched her... this is the Satowa who will grab Chika's hand no matter what. And following the theme of "Chika being one step behind", I wouldn't be surprised if one of the conclusions of the current arc is Chika acknowledging the fact that he is in love with Satowa. Letting himself feel it, without derailing that train of thought.
That theme is also the reason I believe Satowa will be the one to confess first, pushing Chika on the final step for them to be on the final line (or start line depending on your perspective). But it could also be Chika the one to confess, representing him having caught up to her... Symbolism, symbolism everywhere.
BONUS TRACK: While rereading the whole manga to put in order my thoughts for this essay, I just find hilarious how Luka hugged Satowa out of nowhere and Chika went: "Oh heck no, I have to control myself all the time and this dude comes and does WHAT?". Then, Luka referred to Satowa without honorifics, and Chika was downright IRKED (Chika, you don't use honorifics for anyone sir...). Is worth noting Satowa uses honorifics for absolutely everyone except Chika. To be fair, everyone uses honorifics with her, except Chika.
BONUS TRACK 2: Tetsuki the innocent bystander. Whenever Chika feels insecure about touching Satowa or having hurt/scared her? Ask Tetsuki, he has the answers. A true BFF.
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centrally-unplanned · 2 days ago
A Century+ of the Kurtzian Temptation
Partner and I rewatched (well, first time for her) Apocalypse Now this evening, and man does that hit hard after the debacle of Afghanistan had fully spun out its threads. Apocalypse Now always gained a lot of power from being an adaptation of a 19th century novel on colonialism, transplanted to the Vietnam War, and having to change almost none of its themes to still work. That act itself simply succeeding gave the film power outside of itself - the thematic universality was self evident. Adding another 50 years onto the pile and seeing a film that could take place in Helmud with nothing but a fresh coat of sandy paint is frightening - The Horror indeed.
I do think there is a deeper connection there, though. The surface reading of “war is bad and corrupting” of Apocalypse Now gives way to a more detailed understanding of the strategic contradictions of modern war, ones that relate to my own writings from before on the topic. The US military brass in the film have an understanding of their own war that is completely divorced from reality. They want to prop up the South Vietnamese government, they state their goal is to build an ally, but everything exists only on paper. Their allies are corrupt to the core; their own soldiers perpetually kill the people they aim to win over; the troops build a bridge every day that is blown up every night just to say progress is being made in the reports.
Colonel Kurtz has an “answer” to this dilemma - to go rogue, discard western morality, to *replace* the corrupt system they are propping up to one built by Men Like Him. In short, he wants to go Full Empire - a land run by a western elite built on superior force for the purpose of domination. And, critically for the film, this works to some degree - Kurtz gets results that other operations cannot, often with far less material*. The US has comically overpowered material capabilities in Vietnam, but it is all irrelevant as their goal is contradictory - to build a system that can survive without that military might, somehow achieved via that military might. Yet the US can of course never embrace the Kurtzian approach, as it clashes with the entire political and moral apparatus of our system - we prop up allies, we don’t Do Imperialism. And the genius insight of Apocalypse Now is that...the US system is right. Kurtz *cannot* Do Imperialism, his attempts to shed his morality and upbringing fail, it was a dream he could not live up to. And despite his material successes he finds himself asking for death when it comes knocking.
This is in fact a thematic change in relation to Heart of Darkness. The eponymous Kurtz of the Congo river is not Doing Imperialism for the mission - he is just a grandiloquent asshole. Which makes sense! Because in the Congo Free State of the 19th century, the West is very much Doing Imperialism. Like holy shit, the imperialism is off the charts, you have never seen this level of imperialism before. This was a system that was very much working, intensively effectively, the mission is not failing, and it needs no Kurtz to save it. Instead the contradiction Kurtz is exposing is the idea of the moralizing sheen Europe put on colonialism, the White Man’s Burden to civilize the world. The act of imperialism could never be ‘civilizing’, as the act itself was inherently de-civilizing. Imperial Europe could dominate, but it could never change the culture of its dominions (at least not in the way it intended; the unintended effects were legion), while it would itself be forever changed by own attempts. Meanwhile the US in the Vietnam of Apocalypse Now, as a culture that refused to explicitly dominate, found itself worse off in its ability to achieve victory while gaining nothing in its ability to achieve ‘civilization’, and degraded its own morality and soldiers in the process.
Afghanistan in so many ways is this ethos distilled. Nowhere has America tried to laser-focus more on the idea of the Civilizing Mission, called Nation-Building now. And nowhere have more well-intentioned men simply thrown their hands up in rage and disgust at the reality of that approach, like being told to stand back and do nothing as, say, the police force they were training for the Afghan government practiced institutionalized child sex slavery with no consequences. Every one of these people faced a Kurtzian moment of temptation, I have read too many accounts from veterans saying so implicitly, and some even explicitly, to just wipe the slate clean of the government we had built and forge something new, real, strong, and just. But of course the US system could not do that - instead we would drone strike Taliban fighters, and a few children on the side, and call it a day. Making friends with the horror of it all was the only way to survive such a civilizing mission, and how many Kurtz’s we made and broke along the way is surprising to no one who paid attention to how it went the last time.
(*I should note that Kurtz’s success is the least realistic part of the film; 1960′s Vietnam is not 19th century Annam or the Congo, while I do think there is some validity to his insight I do not think the US could have “won Vietnam” by going Kurtzian by any means. Its just not that important to the themes.)
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animanightmate · 5 months ago
I wrote an essay about the importance of rage, kindess (as opposed to niceness), and justice as highlighted in Pratchett's work, and posted it in a group of Pratchett fans on Facebook. It went like this:
This one [is directly relevant to Pratchett and his work] and covers: Anger and Kindness, among other things.
It's taken me a while to work it out, but one of the reasons why I still engage so strongly with Pratchett's work is because of these two themes running through the thoughts and actions of pretty much every main character to whose point of view we get to bear direct witness. That, and the notion of Justice as opposed to Mercy.
Pratchett's main characters are almost all angry, often as a ground state of being - Granny Weatherwax and Commander Vimes springing immediately to mind. Polly Perks (and, to be fair, pretty much everyone except perhaps Lieutenant Blouse in Monstrous Regiment), Archchancellor Ridcully, The Patrician, Susan Sto Helit, Esk, Glenda Sugarbean, Agnes/ Perdita Nitt, Angua von Uberwald, and Tiffany Aching, to name a few more, are people to whom rage comes easily, and is a motivating force. Even those who are seen as generally more easygoing or placid of temperament have illuminating moments of anger which tip them over the edge to somewhere inspired, and that click of fully engaged rage is often a pivotal moment (for a near perfect example: Magrat's core is revealed to be sheer, molten ire when her personality is ablated by the Faerie Queen).
That's not to say that inchoate choler is venerated - the malicious, bubbling spite of Corporal Strappi is vilified as destructive, and the ever-seething, undirected bile of Mister Tulip is likewise outlined as useless because he is unable to focus it himself (hence depending on Mr. Pin's guidance).
Which brings us to kindness. Pratchett's heroes have all realised, at some level or other, that anger is a force that can - and should - be used for good. Weatherwax and Vimes, in particular, are constantly vigilant against the darkness inherent inside themselves which could snap at any moment under the weight of a wicked world and set it alight for a better one to be rebuilt from the ashes. They know that they shouldn't (it's pretty much treating people as things, after all), but that's ever constant. That's not to say, however, that the anger is never shown, utilised openly, or acknowledged by those around them. Vimes and Granny have both owed their survival against powerful, wicked creatures to rage's primal surge, but also to the enormous, almost terrifying love they bear the world.
Granny tells us that kind is not the same as nice. Nice is pretty, petty, and a lie. Nice is slapping an attractive plaster over a wound without cleaning it properly first, or dealing with the thing that caused the injury in the first place. Nice paints a gloss over injustice and asks us all to be quiet for the sake of those for whom the world works just as it should. Nice is self-delusion, and a wilful one at that. Which isn't to say that we should never indulge in a little of that - peel every cover off the world and it's too much, too raw, all at once, and we all need our masks in this world of fake it til you make it - but the Turtle cannot move if it never acknowledges the epic tides against which it must strive, and the Turtle Moves. It must.
Because justice moved Pratchett and, through him, all his finest creations. His villains were remarkable for their ability to subvert justice, to delude - themselves and/ or others - and to take and take for the sake of sometimes strange, but, all too often, all-too relatable motives. Money, power, comfort and, above all: control. And his heroes were glorious for their ability to see past the smoke and mirrors, the age-old inequities held up as a normalcy that must be protected at all costs, and tear through unjust conventions to make the necessary changes for everyone to step that bit closer to being truly free, with all its inherent terrors and responsibilities.
Pratchett wasn't nice, or whimsical - he was angry and (increasingly explicitly) vocal about justice in his works. And none of his heroes - our heroes - are either. They are kind, they serve justice, and they kick arse on behalf of those with less power, but they are neither nice, nor insipid, nor silent. And neither should we be.
Change is uncomfortable. Change feels like a death, which is why, no matter how positive the shift, we all move through the grief cycle of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance and exploration. True bravery is being afraid of the pain of righteous change, of letting go of who we were, of bidding farewell… and doing it anyway.
Be brave, [Pratchett Fans]. Be bold and angry and loud about justice, and strive for true equity.
The Turtle Moves. And so should you.
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apricitystudies · 2 months ago
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this is the (extremely generic and basic) essay framework that i use for most of my papers! keep in mind this doesn’t account for the requirements of specific classes, subjects, or topics/questions at all, but i use it as a general starting point.
other essay masterposts: essay preparation, the 5 paragraph essay, how to research, writing essays when you don’t know where to begin
transcript below:
(title) a guide to essay writing by apricitystudies
(background section)
before you start: essay preparation. understand the requirements, dissect the question, create an essay plan, and create a research log. i go into more detail about this stage in my essay preparation post linked below!
the essay’s components:  from your planning, you should already have a working thesis, a list of main points, and a body of research. these are the building blocks around which you'll construct your essay. it's alright if they change as you go along! all you need is a rough idea of where you want to take your essay.
(introduction section)
introductions should go from general to specific.
1. the preamble. start with some background information on your topic. what is it about? why is it important? are there any terms you need to define? what you include here depends on the type of essay you're writing, but in general, a good preamble is one that can take a person with absolutely zero knowledge of your topic and bring them up to speed.
2. the thesis. this is where you'll state your thesis: how you plan to answer the question. a good thesis should be clear, straightforward, and relevant to the question. a reader should walk away from your thesis with a firm grasp of what your stance on the essay topic is.
3. the roadmap. this is an overview of how you will prove/expand upon your thesis. essentially, you'll list your main points briefly to show clearly how you will explore the topic and justify your thesis. a good roadmap should outline the flow of your essay and explain to the reader why you believe your thesis is true.
note: the introduction isn’t final! the introduction is (in my opinion) the most fluid of essay sections. it's perfectly fine if you choose not to start with the introduction or only write parts of it before moving on to the main body of the essay. what you want to say in your introduction often becomes clearer only after you've written the rest of it.
(the essay body section)
this is the main portion of your essay (the patty of your essay hamburger, if you will). here, you'll prove your thesis by illustrating how your main points relate to and support it. a typical body paragraph will go like this:
the topic sentence. this is the first sentence of your paragraph, and it states clearly and succinctly what the main point of the paragraph is. a good topic sentence should relate to the essay question AND support your thesis.
explanation. here, explain exactly what your topic sentence means and give reasons to back it up. for example, if your topic sentence is that the theme of loyalty is a source of conflict in 'Romeo and Juliet', your explanation could state that the main characters' are forced to choose between the opposing loyalties to their families and to each other, creating the central problem in the play.
evidence and elaboration. now, support your topic sentence with proof. this is where your research will come in. insert a piece of evidence that supports your argument, followed by an elaboration on how it does so, & repeat until you feel your point is sufficiently proven. your aim is to convince the reader of your argument and lay out how your research led you to your conclusion (i.e. your topic sentence).
link. this is the final sentence of your body paragraph, and it essentially reasserts your topic sentence. a good link will summarise everything you've just written and relate it back to your thesis.
a note on ordering your body paragraphs: your aim here is to make your essay flow as naturally as possible.  sometimes, the sequence of your points will be clear. one point leads to another. in this case, your paragraphs will already be in an order that makes sense and moves logically through your argument. sometimes, not so much. your points stand alone and have little influence on each other. in this case, place your strongest point last and your second-strongest first to make a good first impression and have a lasting impact on the reader. your weaker points should go in-between.
(conclusion section)
conclusions should go from specific to general.
1. restate your thesis. begin your conclusion by restating your thesis. what did the reader just read? try and paraphrase your thesis as much as possible to avoid being repetitive. this sentence should remind the reader what your argument was and what you were aiming to prove in your essay. again, it should be related to your main points.
2. sum up your main points. repeat the main points of your body paragraphs (i.e. your topic sentences). don't include any evidence or elaboration here; your goal is to recap how you have explored your thesis and answered the question. if this portion of your conclusion doesn't match the previous one, you probably need to revise your essay.
3. provide a final comment. this is the most freeform part of your conclusion, and it depends on your essay topic. it should illustrate why your thesis is important. does your thesis affect society? does it add to an existing, important dialogue? can it help to solve a problem? is there another aspect that needs to be explored further? are there future ramifications? your final comment could be:
X continues to be relevant even today, as its impact on ... remains clear in ...
X stands as an interesting and novel viewpoint on the question of ..., challenging the long-held notion of ... and offering a new and welcome perspective.
The issue of ... could perhaps be examined through the lens of X, which provides several possible solutions to ...
However, another factor to be considered in X is ...
X serves as a poignant warning of ...
(ending slide) thanks for reading! from, apricitystudies
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watchoutforintellect · 3 months ago
It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taught about myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.
James Baldwin, from “They Can’t Turn Back”
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With the school season closing in for me, I’m back to being tired all the time and incredibly angry. Why? Teenagers need nine hours of sleep. Most people need to wake up at 5:00-6:00 to get to school on time. Maybe that doesn’t sound too bad to you, but let me break it down a bit. 
School ends at 2:20. From personal experience, I’m going to say people take around 15-30 minutes to get home. The average teenager then spends 2.7-3.5 hours a day on homework. Also, there’s a “recommended” amount of homework, and for high schoolers it’s around 2 hours. Where am I going with this? Most people finish school and homework by around 6:00. 
Oh, that’s not that bad. Really? Remember how I said that we need 9 hours of sleep and that we need to get up at around 5:30 to get to school on time? In order to do that, one has to sleep at 8:30. 
8:30. And we finish school and the associated work by 6:00. That gives us 2 and a half hours of leisure time. Two and a half hours of leisure time. 
I also just want to say, this is a little off-the-top-of-my-head, so the numbers might be a tad arbitrary, but people also need time for dinner (20 min), bathing (10 min), grabbing a snack after school (5 min), and in my (and most Muslims’) case, time for four daily prayers (40 min total). For me, that takes another 1 hour and 15 minutes from my leisure time. For people that don’t pray, that still takes around 35 minutes total. Where does that put us? 1:15-1:55 hours of leisure time. 
The thing is, nobody actually sleeps at 8:30. Teenagers aren’t wired to sleep that early, because our brains don’t start producing melatonin until 11:00. That’s looking like only 5.5 hours of sleep, then, and only 5 hours of leisure time. I don’t want to research the effects of sleep deprivation a ton right now, but I think everyone knows that a lack of sleep is really bad for you. It’s especially bad for teens, since our brains aren’t fully developed. We’re more likely to be depressed, anxious, unmotivated, and unfocused because of it. And we still don’t have a decent work-sleep-play balance. 
 I just think it’s fucked up. There’s no way to win in this situation. I don’t really have a fun, strong, rally together conclusion. This whole thing is written badly, anyway, because I’m sleep deprived. But yeah. Fuck the school system. 
[Edit: This blew up a lot more than I expected it to. This was mostly a rant about my school in particular, but as people in the notes have said, extracurriculars and jobs make this worse. Some schools also end a lot later than my school. I don’t have any official evidence to back this up or anything, but I’m 90% sure that this is a lot worse for low-income families where people legitimately need to have jobs after school to make ends meet. Also, I have ADHD which means that for me, homework usually takes a lot longer than three hours. And my ADHD is medicated. Homework can take ages for unmedicated ADHD folks.]
Sources below the cut.
Sleep And The Teenage Brain  (I’d recommend reading this one.)
The Science: Why Adolescents Need Later School Start Times to Get Enough Sleep
Too much homework: Should we apply the ‘10-minute rule’ strictly?
Homework and hourly averages: How OPHS does after-school assignments (Look, I have no clue how reliable this article actually is but it quotes a Washington Post article that I’d link here if it weren’t for the paywall. Y’know what, here’s the Washington Post article.)
Also here’s a bonus quote from Sleep And The Teenage Brain. Even if you aren’t going to read the whole article, the quote basically summarizes my point. 
“Biology’s cruel joke goes something like this: As a teenage body goes through puberty, its circadian rhythm essentially shifts three hours backward. Suddenly, going to bed at nine or ten o’clock at night isn’t just a drag, but close to a biological impossibility. Studies of teenagers around the globe have found that adolescent brains do not start releasing melatonin until around eleven o’clock at night and keep pumping out the hormone well past sunrise. Adults, meanwhile, have little-to-no melatonin in their bodies when they wake up. With all that melatonin surging through their bloodstream, teenagers who are forced to be awake before eight in the morning are often barely alert and want nothing more than to give in to their body’s demands and fall back asleep. Because of the shift in their circadian rhythm, asking a teenager to perform well in a classroom during the early morning is like asking him or her to fly across the country and instantly adjust to the new time zone — and then do the same thing every night, for four years.”
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gaaandaaaalf · a month ago
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The World’s Most Important Libraries Aren’t the Ones You Think They Are, Jorge Carrión (from Against Amazon and Other Essays)
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catchymemes · 10 months ago
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yesninathings · a month ago
Me every time i write the body for my paper: the masterpiece, the eloquency, the talent, the emotion
Also me: takes 3-5 business days to write an introduction and conclusion
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woolfdaily · a year ago
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Virginia Woolf // Selected Essays of Virginia Woolf; Dafoe
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mournfulroses · 10 months ago
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Montaigne, from The Complete Works, Essays,Travel Journals and Letters
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beyoncescock · 10 months ago
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especially when the professor yells 5 MINS LEFT
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headspace-hotel · 6 months ago
What changed for me was that I stopped seeing the sacred as elusive and fragile, suited only to carefully maintained habitats.
The Christian viewpoint of sex as a sacred thing means it is weighted with devastating meaning; it carries the impact of losing something forever, of altering oneself permanently for good or for ruin. From this point of view, sex is a good thing, a holy thing, but if not done in the right way, with the right person, at the right time, its holiness shatters. It is because it is sacred that experiencing it imperfectly is so bad and profane (and so easy to do).
i have had many friends with a Christian upbringing who think this way. Their expectations about sex are often very unrealistically high, and at the same time, I feel that they deserve to feel more comfortable with their mental concept of sex.
but this post isn’t about sex, not really; it’s about good things and sacred things and holy things and how we’re taught that they are so easy to break. the body is a temple, therefore implicitly profane when treated wrongly, when adorned wrongly, when shared without the proper rites.
why do we think that sacredness, especially the kind of sacredness that relates to the body, is so easily destroyed? the body is remarkable for its resilience, its capacity to care for the spirit that lives in it and to close wounds and to carry scars. I think a scarred body is sacred. I think a tattoo that has no particular special meaning is sacred.
if we believe in the sacredness of life, perhaps we should believe in the endless, tenacious resilience and adaptability of the sacred.
I still think that sex is sacred. I think that handmade blankets are sacred, that meals cooked by people who love you are sacred, that messages scribbled on desks are sacred, and that dandelions growing out of cracks in the sidewalk are sacred too. I think all of our misshapen attempts to love are sacred.
The fact is that no set of moral rules about sex has ever been able to create love, or even preserve it. this is what led me to these thoughts—purity culture wishes to “preserve the sanctity of” sex, but abuse, controlling relationships, sexual trauma, those terrible things are not treated with the same solemnity. Sex before marriage is a deep, corrupting transgression, but it seems no fundamentalist man who has sexually coerced his wife or criticized her body has felt the chill of wild fear from realizing you have desecrated something holy.
and if we thought about this differently, we would realize how it could be, perhaps should be. that a man tearing down his lover’s self esteem or trying to exercise control over her body does not just “fall short” of his obligation to her, he profanes her. When invited into intimacy with her, he is stepping onto holy ground, and when he hurts or coerces her, he is spitting in God’s face.
but no. the thinking of purity culture treats the sanctity of sex as something that must be created under precise circumstances, a specific act that must be done Correctly, rather than a consequence of something deeply sacrosanct about loving and closeness or maybe even about bodies or touch or being alive and experiencing.
it got me thinking about what are the common qualities of things I think are sacred? They are all very ephemeral, very hard to describe. Someone said on this website that tearing apart a loaf of warm bread with your hands is sacred, and I agree. I think certain acts feel like holy rituals not because they are repeated regularly, done in a certain way, or connected to religion, but because they are clear, vivid reminders of being alive in a world where you care and are cared for.
I don’t think ritual should mean symbolism and detachment. I think ritual is an act of maintenance. The maintenance of love or something loved.
What is that quote about how love has to be made and remade every day? It’s like that. I think ritual, love, and bread are very interconnected. Bread was one of Jesus’s favorite metaphors. This is one of those things that makes it difficult to completely turn my back on the Christian faith. It has been corrupted completely in the modern church, but Christian rituals originate mostly as basic acts of care.
Of course we’ve lost a lot of things. One thing we’ve lost—and we probably didn’t notice what we were losing—is the sensuality of ritual, like how communion typically no longer involves tearing apart a warm loaf of bread and instead tiny cups of wine and individualized crackers. We’ve also lost the ability to truly contemplate that Communion is supposed to be eating the flesh of God, who is feeding himself to us. There is no good way to make that feel impersonal and detached and not-intimate. As an artist I never found much inspiration in comparing cannibalism to sex, but I find it resonant to do something worse, which is to compare Communion to both of those things. “Isn’t it weird that Christians are basically cannibalizing God” is actually quite a bit closer to the point than probably anything evangelicals have said about it, because it is in fact very weird. You are eating God, but you are tearing him apart in your hands and he is warm.
The symbolism is not abstract and ephemeral. Eating is an act of love toward the body. An act of being alive in an animal, mammal sort of way. In this light the fundamentalist Christian attitude toward sex comes into a difficult clash with the rest of the basic components of the faith. Under purity culture, remaining “pure” before marriage, “keeping” sex sacred, involves a psychologically damaging level of detachment from the physical wants and needs of the body—not only can you not have sex, you can barely permit yourself to think about it, or to explore and get to know your own body.
This is very particularly harmful toward women, of course, for whom deep-seated anxiety and lack of knowledge about one’s own body is likely to make sex un-enjoyable at best and painful at worst. But when you tell teenagers that they cannot masturbate, you are telling them that their lover must figure out what forms of touch are pleasurable before they themselves can. Not only is this just depressingly inefficient, and vaguely traumatizing in its implications, it is so much the opposite of what intimacy is that the words to explain it barely exist.
Purity culture, in accepting exclusivity as the primary characteristic of “sacred” sexuality, cannot escape seeing bodies as property and sex as territorial, related to ownership. Though it would deny that “your body is meant for sexual intimacy with one person under one circumstance” implies ownership, it shows intimacy outside of that person and circumstance as denying them something.
Sex and sexual pleasure is referred to with language that implies it is a resource. The language of “sharing” or “giving away” intimacy, or of “saving” it, is complete nonsense when you try to apply it to anything else. How can you “save” or “give away” being hugged by your friends, or staying up late with them laughing?
I once sat with a friend in a Waffle House at 10pm, when the place was totally empty and we could talk freely with the lady behind the counter. And this is, interestingly enough, one of those experiences that I identify as “sacred” but can’t explain why. Waffles are sweet and dense and soaked in butter, and the world outside is icy and dark, and the lady behind the counter sends me home with an extra tall cup of orange juice, for free.
Have I “spent” that experience, like currency, by experiencing it? Have I lost something by having had it, in the same way that someone “loses” their virginity, supposedly? I know for sure that whatever is gone now that the experience is over was something I never “had” in the first place, and none of us was “giving” anything to anyone else (even though I was given the orange juice)—again, because what part of it did any of us firmly own?
When something is sacred, even if you’re very clearly doing something for someone else, it is something you or you both or you all are simply there for, like being caught outside in a thunderstorm.
Teaching that an orgasm not given to you by your future life-partner is somehow stolen from them really denigrates the orgasm. And teaching that enjoying (or really, knowing anything about) your body on your own is denying something from your future life partner is nonsense.
“Virginity” is an idea with a very gendered history, typically, a woman “loses” her virginity” to a man, not the other way around. It is, of course, a nonsense concept; there are jokes about what happens to a person’s virginity when it is “lost,” but the jokes actually raise very good questions. If the person you are having sex with “takes” your virginity, that should mean they now have it, and the total number of virginities in the world never increases or decreases relative to population. But instead, they just disappear. Not only is it sexist, it’s vaguely reminiscent of the stock market.
The whole idea of the desire to have a say or involvement in your partner’s entire experience of pleasure and intimate love is frankly revolting to me now. If I viewed my partner as tainted because I was not the first to have sex with him, I would have to believe that whatever he can share with me is somehow finite. I would have to view that intimacy as a linear transaction. I would have to view sexual intimacy as a quantity of thing rather than an experience, and the feelings my lover’s body can feel as basically possessions.
How could I claim exclusive ownership of my future lover’s pleasure, their enjoyment and understanding of their physical body, their experience of love, their desire for love? Why the hell would I want to do that? Recognizing that they are a whole person means realizing I can’t “have” or “possess” any of them. That would—ironically enough—be treating my lover as an object.
The conclusion is this: the viewpoint of sex that supposedly preserves its sacredness does the opposite by treating it as a limited, transactional quantity contained within specific acts, and as something that is valuable based on its technical adherence to rules.
Sex is supposed to say something about our relationship with God, a living symbol of how God loves humans, is what they will say—but I can think of nothing more damning than trying to imagine what idea of God someone would get if all they had was the way Christians talk about sex.
They would conclude that there isn’t very much of God to go around, and that God is only interested in a handful of people who do everything right. God is fragile as spun glass and to even approach him should be frightening, should make you question your worthiness, because you might shatter the only connection with God you will ever have into a million pieces if you touch him wrong.
I do not believe that. I have no answers, only questions, but my major break away from the mainstream Christian faith must have come when I saw sacredness as existing in things that grow back and things that scar and heal and things that bloom again, rather than in things that break once.
Love is not something that breaks once. You are not something that breaks once. You are a dandelion in sidewalk cracks that will relentlessly grow back, and so is the love that is out there, coming to us ineffably in the shape of orgasms, waffles, and thunderstorms and leaving us changed, but not less.
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douchebagbrainwaves · 6 months ago
I think the place to draw the line at things that are really wrong. The most dangerous thing for the frontpage is stuff that's too easy to upvote. And I've met a lot of smart people to a project tends to slow it down. Startups are often described as emotional roller-coasters. Some would ask, why would one want to do it well, because they're untainted by experience. An organization that wins by exercising power starts to lose the ability to translate wealth into power.1 And yet Miller's metaphor stuck so well that to this day the activities of the committee are often described as emotional roller-coasters. Startups are right to be paranoid. Meetings are like an opiate with a network effect. Maybe some aspects of professionalism are actually a net lose. In those days you could go public as a dogfood portal, so as a company. Another sign we may have to choose between bad high schools and bad universities, like most other industrialized countries the US has lost the most civil liberties recently.
Kate said that she could never bring herself to publish any of them; write for a reader who won't read the essay as carefully as you do now with telephones. When you get a lot of customers fast is of course a way to make something customers actually want, and then poof, it's taken away. It's usually fairly quick to find a bug in something you wrote six months ago the average case if you release once a year is a lot more than money. Unfortunately the only industry they care enough about so far is soccer. But those few good programmers write a disproportionately large percentage of the money they manage: about 2% a year in management fees, plus a percentage of the gains. When we got real funding near the end of each film, so they know who might be sitting across that conference table from them. I was forced to discard my protective incompetence, I found to my surprise that I was hoping they'd reject it. And in particular, is a good candidate for something we're mistaken about. Don't try to fool us just by being here a lot. I don't care what he says, I'm going to number these points, and maybe with future startups I'll be able to have your application bundled with the OS. For example, I know that from my own experience as a reader. The disadvantage of this route is that it's still so poor.
But in fact the data was almost certainly safer in our hands than theirs. So I think people who are quite timid, initially, about the idea of being a yellowist. Those in the print media are boring. An idea for a product, hire a team of engineers to develop it people who do great work large grants of stock to simulate the rewards of a startup that succeeds ordinarily makes its founders rich, that implies getting rich is doable too. If you're content to develop new technology as fast as startups, the more you're picking the founders. And when I read, say, a list of articles that are interesting. When you install software on your desktop computer, and there is something deeper wrong. In the US it's ok to make career decisions on the fly. I might into Harvard Square or University Ave in the physical world. This essay is derived from a talk at BBN Labs. Ideally, no one needs Windows.
But wide-area bandwidth increased more than half of the venture business. Some of the more important for societies to remember and pass on the young side.
Thanks to Fred Wilson, Sarah Harlin, Sam Altman, Jessica Livingston, Hutch Fishman, Robert Morris, and Yuri Sagalov for their feedback on these thoughts.
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lifeinpoetry · 5 months ago
(the body speaking because there is something which cannot be said)
— Jacqueline Rose, from “Femininity and Its Discontents,” The Jacqueline Rose Reader
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inkipri · 2 months ago
wrote something... about being 20 and time feeling strange and how the sun and i are the same in many ways 
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writeexp · 5 months ago
The lie that the default is good
For whom? In pop culture and media, it’s almost always the bad guy trying to change something about society/the world. The real protagonist, the one who moves things forward in a story as defined by the Greeks, is someone who is actively fought against, and their loss is something to be celebrated. Never is the ‘’good guy’’ fighting for a better world, only a world as it was before, the default world we presumably live in currently, or something similar enough to it. Examples of this are movies like Lion King, in which a prince returns to his ravaged homeland to depose of the tyrannical king, who destroyed and enslaved the subjects of the kingdom. Now, in this scenario, Scar really is a bad guy, but Simba is not moving the society forward, just geting it back to where it’s once been.
One counterexample may come to mind, namely the dystopian novel. In dystopian fiction, the main characters ARE fighting for a better world against an oppressive government/ruler/organisation after all. It’s looking to be read maybe as a critique of the modern world, a condemnation of the things Powers That Be do. However, the world they bring about, IF they succeed, is often no different than our own, so they too can be read as a story about fighting a bad guy/group that brought change to the society some time in the past, and it was Evil, and should be fought against. 
In this way we vilify the people who want change, often framing them as the bad guy in the story/article/news report. People that are able to get their voices heard(pay for the content) enjoy their current privilege and can relate to the ‘hero’ of the story that’s fighting to reset the world to ‘normal’, and it’s those people who seek such stories, reaffirming the validity of their position in the ‘good ending’
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