People using the phrase "starting a family" to mean "having children" has always irked me.
Family and children aren't synonymous. My husband and I started a family when we got married and we have been a family for 11 years.
Day 25: Family
A lot of my Arya posts involve Jon but… honestly? That’s in canon too. There is literally no family Arya thinks about more than Jon. And this line says a lot about their relationship. ”Needle is Jon Snow’s smile”. Home for Arya, and also for Jon, is with each other. Jon and Arya have an intensely powerful bond that is stronger than any in the series. Not only do they always think of each other but Arya executes a Night’s Watch deserter partly because this man betrayed Jon by deserting. Thinking Arya was married to the psychopathic Ramsay Snow makes Jon do something nothing else could: break his vow of neutrality. They may be far from each other but never far from each other’s heart.
Lyanna may be dead but she’s still an important part of Arya’s family. Arya is basically Lyanna’s successor. Ned says to Arya that she looks and acts much like Lyanna. Lyanna was said to have a wild beauty and it looks like Arya has inherited that from her. Arya is also great on a horse just like Lya was said to be possibly the most skilled horse rider in the North. And just like Lyanna, Arya loves flowers!
One of the sweetest moments between Ned and Arya is when Ned tells Arya “the lone wolf dies but the pack survives”. Packs are essentially wolf families. And Arya doesn’t just include direct family as part of her pack. Her friends (Gendry, Weasel, Lommy, Hot Pie) all become part of her pack and she does everything she can to protect them.
"The gloomy news"
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For this new drawing, I was inspired by a painting of Peter Fendi called "The sad message" painted in 1838. I love this painting and I wanted to make a french version
So many cousins
Years ago, not too long after we married, my husband came home from work with a story about a crazy landowner he’d met (He is a forester, and helps landowners with forestry issues). He told me the story at length. This dude was Bonkers! Driving a tractor naked should NOT be a thing. Eventually I said, “Uh, Honey, was his name Mike?”
And it was
And I told him, “Ok, that’s my father’s first cousin on his mother’s side. Small towns are Very Small. Be careful who you tells stories about unless you know how everybody’s related. But, yeah, he’s Bonkers. And pretty much all your in-laws are outlaws.”
He spent YEARS telling that story, and ending with “And all my in-laws are outlaws!”
My Nephew/Godson Brian graduated from Yale University.
Daughters of Edward Darley Boit (1882) by John Singer Sargent (American, 1856 - 1925). Four-year-old Julia, sits on the floor, eight-year-old Mary Louisa stands on the left, Jane, aged twelve, and Florence, fourteen, stand in the background.
The family donated the painting - and later the vases - to the gallery.
every now and then i have to think of the roman family from two thousand years ago that buried their little daughter in a boy's athletic-themed sarcophagus and i weep a little because that's the softest declaration of love i can possibly imagine
Encanto major spoilers alert!
I’ve noticed a theory going around that Mirabel will inherit Abuela’s position as candle-bearer, and although this is an interesting idea, I would like to point out that there actually might not be a candle at all anymore.
At the start of the movie we see the magic spread out from the candle creating the enchanted Casita.
But at the end of the movie after the family have rebuilt the house with the help of the villagers, the magic spreads out from the doorknob Mirabel takes hold of.
The carvings on the door don’t show Abuela or anyone else holding the candle anymore.
And I watched closely and although there were normal-looking thin candles in the new house here and there, there was no ‘magical’ candle anywhere to be found.
The doors were also in that sparkly state of flux for the ending, so the carving with Abuela holding the candle that was on her door earlier in the movie wasn’t visible either. Perhaps it will never return and isn’t meant to.
So the magic the family has is no longer from the candle that originated from Abuelo’s sacrifice and Abuela’s desire to protect her family, but is now from the family’s acceptance of one another and themselves in all their imperfections, especially in how Abuela embraces Mirabel as just as special as the other family members even without a magical gift.
Perhaps Abuela carrying the candle around at times was symbolic of her carrying her worries about the magic one day disappearing if she and her family couldn’t stay worthy of the magical gift. She wanted to keep it close. She wanted to keep it safe.
So there not being a frail flame for her to carry around anymore could very well symbolize how she is no longer burdened by the fear they will lose their magic. None of the Madrigals are, because together they know their worth, their courage, and their family bonds don’t come from a magical candle. They simply exist. So they’ll be just fine.