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#i just turn the tap to hot water #yes i know it's less than ideal #but going downstairs? literally watching and waiting for water to boil? why would i inflict that on myself? #it's about coping and half-assing it baybeeee *awkward finger-guns* #anyways i only usually drink tea when i'm sick and my throat is sore so then i doubly need the lowest-effort solution possible #about rinari #mental health #i was so happy when i discovered this hack for myself tbh #the water is warm! it makes tea! i do not have to wait! minimal steps! good enough! #love queue too

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So, uh. I'm officially a Zweiradmechatronikerin mit Fachrichtung Fahrrad, or in English a bicycle mechatronics technician. As of last week.

(The Chamber of Commerce translates it a bit more literally as "two-wheeler mechatronics technician in the field of bicycle technology," which is a fancy way of saying I'm certified to repair all sorts of bicycles and pedelecs, or E-bikes as they're more colloquially called).

In other news, I'm still alive. I really hate the current European heat wave. The place I'm living is fairly old and not that well-insulated, so I spend most of my time hiding from the sun. :P

#about rinari #it's so fuckin weird like end of a (life) era i guess #i actually finished last week but have disappeared into kind of a hermit hole #i bombed the sales/consultation section because a) i was unprepared for a wheelchair instead of a normal bike #and b) my autistic ass is not picking up on ''subtle signals of purchasing interest'' #just ask me if you want to know about something or might be interested in buying something! xD #but i'm a little pisses that dragged my grade down from the 90+% i was hoping for based on my previous grades #anyways i know i'm a bad fit for a sales floor and people need qualified mechanics more than they need salespeople #so that doesn't actually much matter #rinari rambles in the tags

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#i love this #cool science! #nature #ecosystems #nature is amazing #trees #forests #matriarch trees #root webs #love queue too

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English: Prenominal titles may not be combined under any circumstances. If a person has multiple applicable titles, choose the most relevant one based on the present context and circumstances, and heaven help you if you guess wrong.

German: MISTER PROFESSOR DOCTOR

#it's true #languages #german #but also: good for them! #they earned the titles they should be able to use ALL of them if they want! #(well okay maybe the 'mister' isn't always earned and is a bit of an unnecessary gender indicator) #(but MAYbe also they're trans and that mister/missus is also EARNED) #love queue too

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YOU’RE NOT A FAILURE, YOU’RE A WORK IN PROGRESS!!!

NOBODY IS FINISHED YET!!! WE’RE ALL LEARNING ALL THE FUCKING TIME - AND BY THE WAY WE ARE CRUSHING IT!!!

#mental health #self esteem #still learning shit

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A window into anxiety.

I guess experience kinda fucked me up.

#about rinari #sometimes #anxiety #low self-esteem #I'm trying to get better #like on some level relationships should be mutually beneficial otherwise why have them? #but not all benefits are tangible #and it's not on me to decide what makes me ''valuable'' or ''beneficial'' to a person #that's on the other person to decide and me to accept (and try to change if i want/need to) #mental health #love queue too

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#yes please do #spiders #snakes #frogs #lizards #they may not be cute or fluffy #they may be shy #maybe you should not touch them #but they are important parts of ecosystems #and deserve to also live #and live in peace #love queue too #lovely art

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https://linktr.ee/myelasticheart

#disability rights #marriage equality #us politics #video #social commentary #love queue too

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name one native american intellectual off the top of your head, name one native american actor or actress off the top of your head, name one native american senator, one native american news anchor, or an author or a tv personality or a singer or a poet or a comedian, name a single native american teacher you’ve had, can you? probably not 

ok so now think of one native american cartoon character you know of or a sports team relating to native americans whether it’s their actual name or their team logo, or a town you live in or near with a “native” name bet a lot of these things came to you right away i bet you didn’t even have to think 

needing native representation in media, education and government are not decoy issues, the commercialization and appropriation of native cultures are not decoy issues, the lack of native representation is institutional oppression at work 

#I couldn't name any people #this is a problem #social commentary #uplift native voices #native representation #love queue too

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I decided to create something that I wish I had when I first got diagnosed with autism - so here’s my comic for ASDComicTakeover! You can find out more about the project here!

Keep reading

#autism #happy things #note to self #tips and tricks #adulting #this is so cute and i can use some of these #love queue too

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Shop , Patreon , Books and Cards , Mailing List

#mental health #reassurances #i needed this #love queue too

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having one of those executive function days where everything is too many steps

#about rinari #this is pretty much cooking always for me #too. many. steps. #pots and pans and cleaning up afterwards and all the ingredients and did i even remember to buy the thing and... #executive dysfunction #mental health #love queue too

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i feel like a middle aged mother when my friends start talking about guys they find attractive. i dont want to be mean so im like well he looks like a very nice young man i like his shirt :-)

#*snerk* #yep #this is my reaction too #i'm just like... uh yeah i guess he's nice? if you're into *that sort of thing* #(vague contrapoints reference there) #or alternately: kate mckinnon in that one brunch video #leslie jones starts talking about she would love for chris hemsworth to wine and dine her #and kate just starts chewing on her knife and is like ''yeah yeah yeah sure'' #(tangentially ghostbuster 2016 related) #about rinari #queer as hell #love queue too

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This is an adorable thing that cardinal couples do. Most birds only feed their young this way but cardinals feed their mates as part of their bonding rituals.

#bird kisses! #birds #cardinals #happy things #cute creatures #yes i know i'm anthropomorphizing #i know it's feeding as a bonding ritual #but i'm still calling it bird kisses :) #love queue too

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This is so important, stories like this need to be told.  The cultural insistence we have that parenthood is some kind of magical bonding that happens every time without exception does real harm to both parents and children, as you can see from some of these stories:

My father recently told me he never wanted kids, but my mother wanted them. She thought he would love us when we were born.

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I didn’t realize that a maternal instinct is not universal. You know how you see parents in the delivery room and they are crying tears of joy? I felt nothing. […] My boys are well cared for and I am always here for them, but it feels very unnatural and fake and unenjoyable. It is a bit like a retail job you don’t like where you put on a fake persona and slog through it the best you can. I don’t get to leave this job, though. 

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I also thought I wouldn’t mind missing out on all the partying and holidays because I would have the ultimate gift, a child.

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I always said I would never have children. I hate kids..I do. I am just not that type of nurturing person. I was always very careful to make sure protection was in use (condoms, birth control) but I am that .1% and apparently very fertile.  I do not have that natural motherly instinct that all women seem to have, you know..that one that kicks in the moment they know they’re pregnant. I have to work really hard at it and it’s exhausting. I miss my solitude and being able to “check out” of reality from time to time.

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Because kids aren’t the life completer we believe they are.

Are there people for whom having children completes their lives?  No doubt.  Are there parents for whom the downsides like sleeplessness and loss of personal time are outweighed by the love and joy they feel?  Of course.  Are there people who change their minds about wanting kids once they have them?  Sure.  But that’s not true for everyone.  It doesn’t happen every time, it’s never guaranteed, and the consequences are grievous when people who don’t want children have them anyway trusting that they will love the child and be happy.

We need to dispel the starry-eyed myths around pregnancy, childbirth, and marriage and create more realistic expectations.  Parenthood is too important a choice for people not to go into it with their eyes open.

#children #food for thought #i mean i knew I didn't want to physically bear children or deal with the sleepless baby nights #but i had been thinking about potentially someday adopting an older kid #but maybe i just shouldn't period #i am very selfish in regards to my time #which i am trying to modify #but. well. #rinari rambles in the tags #motherhood #social commentary #love queue too

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A note on the topic of trauma that I personally found helpful in accepting the idea that I am a trauma victim is that one of the most widely accepted facts in the field of trauma research is that abuse is often not the common factor in whether somebody will develop ptsd. 

Many people can go through awful things without developing trauma based disorders as long as they receive compassion and support in processing those events as they happen. The most common factor in developing something like ptsd is emotional neglect. And emotional neglect on it’s own can be enough. 

Whatever you went through was enough I promise, you’re not overreacting. Abuse and neglect are traumatic at any level, you don’t need to have gone through the worst possible experience you can think of to develop ptsd. If it hurt you then it hurt you.

#food for thought #autism #ptsd #trauma #cptsd #therapy #mental health #love queue too

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“May I please have your undivided attention” no I have ADHD you may have a ¼ piece at best

#i will try to give you my undivided attention if you ask #but like the conscious focusing takes effort #and i will be trying not to fidget and to *listen* #but i've recently just kind of given in and accepted that i can actually listen better while doing a low-attention thing on the side #about rinari #love queue too