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hell-raven · 8 months

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absurdly long tangent/analysis

EDIT FROM THE FUTURE: this isn't to dissuade anyone from interpreting the canon as they want i just wanted to share my personal opinions based on the preexisting canon that may or may not be very passionate, please just have fun do whatever you want none of this is fact

i really hate how utsuho is flanderized to death and constantly boiled down to "the dumb bird girl" because if you actually sit down and Read her dialogue instead of relying on secondhand information you learn quite a few things about her (when i say this is absurdly long i mean it so keep reading at your own risk)

extrapolating from her own dialogue:

she actually wanted to blow everything up in th11 for real and it wasnt just a "hehe whoops" kind of thing. she was bestowed an extremely powerful ability and deliberately wanted to use it to cause destruction/take over gensokyo

she is extremely knowledgeable about her ability and job (anything related to nuclear power and regulating the flames of blazing hell, or just things about former hell itself)

she takes her job very seriously and supposedly does it very well

but there are a few things that get people: she has poor memory, other characters refer to her as "birdbrained" or "empty-headed, and there are a select few instances of dialogue from hisouten/gouyoku ibun that catch peoples attention. its one of those things where because other characters (and people) say shes stupid, it influences everyone else! in my opinion, i think her own actions straight from the source are much more indicative of who she is rather than the quick judgements of other characters.

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the first major point before i get into the specific dialogue in the fighting games: "kanako needed an empty-headed hell raven, and utsuho fit the bill"

what exactly is meant by "empty-headed"? this is going to be more of an abstraction, so definitely take it with a grain of salt. we dont know much about utsuho before she gained her powers, just that she worked as a lowly hell raven that helped around the palace of the earth spirits/hell. to me, it sounds like an incredibly mind-numbing job that really doesnt require much thinking to begin with, so of course you wouldn't expect some kind of supergenius from it. im also going to go out on a limb and say that utsuho was a candidate for kanako's plan because she's also considered a pet. many unfortunately conclude that pets can't be intelligent, and even the title of "pet" carries the connotation of inferiority. even if she was truly empty-headed as previously suggested, this doesn't mean that she stayed as such with no change at all. when i first played th11, i would have never guessed that she would be "the stupid one".

small note: ZUN's comment on her theme ("even a fool that possesses great power can't cause too much harm")

the problem i have with this is that she really would have caused a lot of harm if the protagonists hadn't stopped her. you could say shes a fool for letting the power get to her head, but objectively i cant exactly point to anything in th11's dialogue/scenarios that suggests she's foolish unless you really want to count bad memory-retention as such. not gonna argue this too hard, but it seems like "fool" is a word thrown around very freely with little thought to how you can actually apply it to a situation.

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IN HISOUTEN: sanae beats her up and afterwards says "youre trying to help me, actually" to which utsuho is like "Oh Ok". you could argue this is probably her dumbest moment, but would you really not follow or listen to the person who defeated you in battle? its not the most defensible point, but she didnt even seem completely oblivious either when she was asking sanae about the incident. my personal interpretation is that she has a bit of a short temper related to how important her job is. there are plenty of other 2hus who are generally sillier than this, it doesnt make much sense why utsuho is the only one who gets this treatment.

IN GOUYOKU IBUN: utsuho doesnt notice reimu before she starts blasting her to bits, which to be fair reimu wears all red in Hell (her fault honestly) + correct me if im wrong but is the power of nuclear fusion not extremely blinding? supporting this, in the events of GI its also implied that shes being overworked due to the oil incident, and we already established that she takes her job very seriously, so to me it makes sense that her first thought is to "remove the contaminant" and to use a lot of her energy in the process. a lot of people in general sometimes get wrapped up in their own work to the point of hyperfocusing, i say the bird can do it too

i also havent brought up the fact that we dont exactly know wtf eating a god does to your brain, whos to say it didnt fuck with you a little bit?

past all of this though i still think utsuho is funny as hell with her particularly bold and uncaring personality, its just that people seem to think that a couple of goofy moments make up her whole character and its just mildly annoying to me.. subterranean animism will probably be my favorite portrayal of utsuho because of how seriously they all treat her (mostly) but overall i wish more touhou fans would actually indulge in the source material and think a bit deeper about this neat little piece of fiction that i am WAY too passionate about (also its just way more fun to look at characters from a complex perspective)

#raven.txt #touhou #long post sorry #i realize how funny this looks from tumblr user Hell Raven i promise im not mad i just have many thoughts

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its-irsaa-fyp · 7 months

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Why do you hate oc bloggers?

Note: I finally received an anonymous ask 😭❤️ I achieved one thing!! 👍🏻 Lowkey wondering what post of mine did you saw to think such a thing?

Because they shit talk yui, makes yui seem like an oc or villian saying things like she is bitch etc etc, degrade her, Body shame her, saying she is weak, useless, dumb, they make her seem like a bully and a bad person and when you try to reason with them you are either blocked for no good reason or either they say things like "I don't care, i hate her no matter what you say" .

I had alot of fights with wattpad oc shippers and this behaviour was seen that's the biggest reason I don't like oc but right now saying this don't twist my words this hatred is directed towards toxic one not good one just because I dont interact with them doesn't mean, I detest them I just don't like when they hate yui and that's it.

And to be very honest if you don't say idiotic things about yui, I as a sane person will have no reason to hate you but if you receive hate because of hating yui than just stop playing victim card and go like "yui stans are toxic" and "ohh look a mid yui stanner". I literally received these comments ( they are real) whenever I defend yui they are triggered and say things like these.

If you send another ask with saying things like" Ohh!? why do you hate oc blog ____ oc blogger likes yui!? " bro I won't reply because again this post is for toxic one not good and I can see clearly and have my judgement to see how good they are I am not an idiot to hate or dislike someone for no good reason.

#admin irsa #Admin talks #Admin

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thestobingirlie · 1 year

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i find it so weird how people will write steve as naive. like, saying steve doesn't know how to smoke weed (when he implies he has canonically). or the whole eddie knows all about kink and steve's never heard of spanking in bed before. i don't know if it's linked to the whole "steve is dumb" thing, but i wouldn't be surprised. it's ridiculous. steve would probably have the best understanding of people since he's actually good with them. he was popular ffs. people talk to him, he would probably have a good reputation with the general town (not the resentful or judgemental nerds. sorry robin and eddie). i'm just so tired of it. i barely read fic for this fandom since it's so hard to find anything where the characterization isn't completely off.

i definitely see the dumb steve thing (partly i think they just want to make eddie seem smarter, so dumb steve down to compare), and it’s so stupid. i think it also comes from the whole feminisation steve thing. they want to make him seem more innocent and naive. and it’s gross.

oh, and definitely because people watch steddie scenes and read steddie fics but don’t actually watch the entire show. or at least don’t rewatch it.

you’ve got entire groups of people that were shocked when a tiktok told them jonathan and steve live within a mile of each other. WATCH THE SHOW. it tells us that!!

anyway…

yeah, so you’ve got people writing steve as a total lightweight, someone that’s never gone to parties and never done drugs, and it’s like, can you pretend to understand the characters? at least a little?

(this is also something that bothers me about a lot of steddie shit where people have hopper Hate eddie because eddie sold weed, as if hopper wasn’t busting steve every weekend absolutely sloshed at some party. i’ve only seen one fic that said it was because hopper’s a hypocrite and i loved that! he laughs about busting steve for underage drinking and then makes a snide comment about busting eddie at the same party.)

sorry, this answer is kinda all over the place lmao.

but yeah, steve’s popular, he’s charismatic, he knows what sex is (he’s a teenage boy, he probably lived off kinky sex jokes) , and he’s smoked weed before! and i don’t think he has a terrible reputation. i think around school he’s seen as a man whore lmao, but people respect the harrington’s, and i think that would extend to steve.

also yeah, i used to be reading multiple fics a day, but so many are just ooc now, it’s a struggle.

#steve harrington #eddie munson #steddie #jim hopper #stranger things #asks #anon

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littleguyconnor · 4 months

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Why People Think Heavy Is Stupid And Why That’s Not Okay

This is in no way going to be a cohesive read I am just writing this because it pisses me off.

First of all. Let’s start with his broken English. Time after time after TIME people treat individuals who don’t speak English perfectly as stupid, or that they somehow don’t understand what you’re saying to them. This has absolutely nothing to do with their intelligence. If anything, they’re smarter than you because they know two fucking languages and are fluent in both. Yes, fluent. Let’s take a look at the definition of fluency: “Able to express oneself easily and articulately.” There. That’s fucking it. Does that definition say anything about having perfect grammar and being hyper-formal in your vocabulary? No. It just means you’re able to say what you want to in a way that makes sense. Heavy already does this. He’s more than fluent in English. Native speakers make mistakes all the time with grammar, and forgetting word definitions and which version of there, their, they’re to use is so common it’s become a joke. But no one says that this means you’re stupid. I mean, come on, you’re a native speaker! …But as soon as someone who learned English as a second language messes up, they’re idiots. Suddenly you have to talk to them in a baby voice because they don’t understand. Hell.

Another thing, violent=stupid. Why. Have you failed to consider that these men are fucking mercenaries and that it is in fact their job to be violent? Christ, Scout is stupid and violent and he doesn’t get smashed down to just those two character traits. He gets to have depth. So why is it that this treatment misses Heavy? Again, let’s look at the definition for violent: “Using or involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something.” And again. This definition Says Nothing About Intelligence. If every other merc gets to have multiple facets of their personality looked into and explored then why is Heavy labeled as the brute. People give Pyro more depth, and they’re probably the most one-dimensional character out of all of them. Ms. Pauling is violent. Everyone is fucking violent but it doesn’t matter because they’re more than that. They’re capable of thinking about and doing things besides being destructive. APPLY THIS TO HEAVY AS WELL.

Using Scout again as an example (I don’t dislike him or anything I just see it often with him). I’ve seen so many comments along the lines of “he’s so dumb :3” and that’s treated as a joke, an endearing trait almost. But anyone that’s not him who doesn’t articulate themselves Perfectly gets seen as stupid and it’s suddenly not a good or cute thing. If you hate stupidity so much and think it’s such an awful thing then lay that judgement equally or shut the fuck up. Being stupid isn’t a morally questionable thing. It has nothing to do with your existence as a person deserving of basic respect and rights.

#tf2 #tf2 heavy #sorry I am. Just. So fucking angry right now about this 💀#long post

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chronicallylatetotheparty · 6 months

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Perfect Paradise Ch.12:

Don't Talk 'bout Me Like How You Might Know How I Feel

Summary: Back to school.

"H-hey, dude!" Nino rose from his seat to kiss both of Alya's cheeks.

"Hey," Alya returned the favor and plopped down. "Ughhhh!"

Despite his nervousness Nino grinned as Alya let her head fall back and look up at the ceiling. "Rough day?"

Alya slid her hands over her face before sliding them down. "They published some trash in the opinion section about Kagami and I am this close to letting him have it."

"Same guy? I'm surprised they still hire him."

"We don't even know each other and I hate him viscerally!"

"We could always tp his house," Nino suggested jokingly.

"No, that won't work. He lives in an apartment."

Nino chuckled.

The waiter came by with two coffees.

"Thanks dude. We're good for now."

"Oh thank god." Alya grabbed her steaming mug of black coffee and sipped.

"Can you even taste anything while burning your tongue like that?" Nino smirked.

"No comments from the guy trying to stay awake until next week," Alya replied, gesturing to his quadruple expresso mocha.

Nino lifted his drink. "Perks of being the Turtle. No crashes or jitters."

"Lucky! Remind me when that happened?"

"Sometime during university. Woke up after an all nighter with no hangover. Kim was soooo jealous!" Nino laughed.

Alya laughed with him. Likely imagining the look on Kim's face. "Was that before or after...?"

"A few months after we broke up, yeah." Nino thought back to that year. "We were still giving each other space..."

"... Because falling back into old habits was too easy," Alya sighed. "Man, we were dumb."

"Morono-sauruses," Nino agreed, staring at his coffee.

Alya scoffed but grinned. "What about you? I hear you finally performed in a club. And not just any club, Le Chemin Sombre!"

"Adrien and I got married!" Nino exhaled in a rush.

"Are you fucking kidding me!?" Alya slammed her palms on the table.

"Not so loud!" Nino stage whispered, leaning in.

Alya glanced at the handful of other patrons, who gave her a look at her outburst but otherwise returned to their own mornings. Copying Nino, Alya lowered her voice and scooted closer. "WTF dude? What do you mean you're married!?"

"Well we went to City Hall and filled out the paperwork..."

"Nino, I swear if you don't-"

"He's worried about the kids okay?" Nino ran his hands over his face. "Dude just straight up asked me to take care of them if he couldn't and I just- What was I supposed to say? 'No'!? Yeah right."

"Did you want to say no?"

"No, but... Gah!" Nino dropped his head to the table.

Alya moved his coffee to the side so it wouldn't spill. Patting him on the back.

"I'm not upset," Nino sighed. "Just... processing."

"Right... And it's got nothing to do with Adrien proposing for practical reasons," Alya stated a bit too reasonably.

"Adrien's my bro, dude. Y'know I love him more than anyone."

"Mm-hm. I know. It was kinda obvious when you became his kids' third parent."

"I just said it's a marriage of convenience."

"Actually meant before that... Way, way before. But speaking of the kids, do they know?"

"Not yet."

"Hmmm," Alya said, stressing the silent judgement.

"We're going to tell them!" Nino replied defensively.

"Uh-huh." Suddenly remembering her coffee Alya took a drink.

"We are!"

A few tables away, covered by a minor invisibility Mirage, Wayzz and Trixx played with sugar cubes.

"Oh, things just got interesting," Trixx grinned.

"Must you look at the Young Master like that?" Wayzz asked, poking her cheek with a teaspoon.

Trixx floated out of reach. "Not so young anymore. And it's not my fault your Avatar likes the dramatic ones," she teased.

Wayzz didn't deign that with a response even if he did agree.

(Read the rest on AO3)

#Perfect Paradise #ml au #ml fanfic #nino lahiffe #alya cesaire #adrino #ml #miraculous ladybug

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tomurasmoleunderhislip · 4 months

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~ LaVeyan Tomura with Theistic Satanist S/O ~

Au, and self inserted obv because I'm Theistic Satanist myself

Ngl I can picture him being atheistic satanist, like being atheist, but sexier and more iconic mmm yes ugh 🤭😩

Genre: headcanon writing, crack, fluff mostly, suggestive in end

Warnings: last genre I mentioned, my opinions and views, if you can't stand them go away or I'll spray you with satanic water

YOU HAVE TO HEAR ME OUT OKAY? I feel like he wouldn't like abrahamic religions, he hates being controlled, told what to do, what's right and what's wrong. He despises hero society, so it wouldn't be surprising if he despised Abrahamic God when it's same like with the heroes, they view them both like complete good that do nothing wrong, they're innocent in the eyes of brainwashed people and he's sick of it, he doesn't want that.

He knew about satanism before and how misunderstood it is, he used to be in none religious path, although he was always curious about satanism and was willing to learn new stuff about it. He found LaVeyan Satanism to fit him the most and joined it, he likes how it teaches people to take their own responsibilities for their lives, actions and behaviour, and how they're the one who decides and shapes their own destiny, not some god, how they embrace freedom, he doesn't believe much in supernatural beings, but is down to learning about some of them if they're interesting to him, he's curious about paranomal and likes watching videos about them sometimes, he's not sure about what comes after death, but finds different theories about it fascinating, he enjoys some deep late night talks. Almost same goes for magic and witchcraft, he doesn't believe much in it and doesn't understand it but he's curious about it, maybe he might try it, magic always fascinated him since he was a kid anyway.

Even though he's atheistic and LaVeyan, he disagrees with Anton LaVey's views on theistic/spiritual satnism who says it doesn't exist and isn't part of satanism. He thinks Satanism is all about personal path and beliefs, it's not same for everyone. He basically doesn't give a shit, as long as it's not harmful, do what you want and he approves.

When I came into his life and after we got close he found out I'm Theistic Satanist he wasn't judgemental or mad, nor surprised, he was rather all curious, excited and slightly teasing. Even though he knew I didn't and wouldn't do something like that he would mess around and say stuff like "are you sacrifing people to Satan?", "Were you drinking blood while I was asleep last night?" just to annoy me a little on purpose and mess around, because he knew I heard shit this at least few times before from dumb people.

Loves to listen to my random informations about deities I worship and about my beliefs, he finds it wholesome how passionate I am about it and sometimes insane how much I know about them because when I find something interesting, I dig in so deep there's almost no returning, he sometimes wonders how the fuck do I get such detailed informations, I can write whole book with all of them how much I have them. He wasn't surprised when I told him I have whole account for Theistic Satanism and plan to make my own website to educate people who just want to understand it, and newbies into it. He enjoys helping me edit photos for for posts, finds my way of posting satisfying and brain scratching, he's a bit sick of those same Baphomet and goatheads background photos everyone else uses for post about Theistic Satanism, so he likes something new and different.

Finds it absolutely hilarious how I deal with hate comments, he's glad I don't take shit seriously and mess with their heads instead, he even joins me when he's in mood to drive someone insane, though some of my replies are jaw dropping and how unfiltered they can be. When I'm busy and someone attacks my post he defends me in comment section like a lawyer then slams his desk from frustration when everything disappears because I blocked the person during argument between them and their comments disappeared, still laughs because they got cutted off before they could say anything else.

Sometimes he calls me spawn of satan.

He loves watching people go insane over my pfp and get so offended over one picture because the original didn't even looked the closest to Jesus when you think about it.

When he found out I like stuff that is seen as disgusting and sick by most people he started spoiling me with them. I like animal bones and skulls and Satan likes them too? He orders them on internet and even saves some chicken bones he had after KFC or lunch, he learned how to clean them just for me, he finds bones cool anyway so he doesn't mind. I like shark teeth? He orders them, he wasn't expecting me to make him necklace out of them too as a thank you. I like dead bugs framed and in jar? He started collecting dead moths around his room. I love big hairy and ugly spiders? He got me wholeass tarantula pet. I like snake skin? He gets some and so be it. He even got me books of prayers, rituals to Satan and some goetia books when he found out I like learning about demons too.

He used to find it a bit weird, but then cute how devoted I am to Satan and how I see him as a dad figure, when he learned more about him from me, even though he doesn't believe in supernatural beings much he places some tiny offerings and gifts for him on my shrine/altar for Satan that he feels like he'd like them. I found that out by finding some random dragon toy on altar.

He shat himself a little when satan's candle's flame went tall and bouncy quickly after he placed something on altar, but he chilled out when I told him he didn't mind and actually liked it. After seeing that he was questioning his views on supernatural, specially after thing or two got knocked out off satan's shrine out of nowhere while window is closed, it looked like someone smacked it to get attention but they're invisible, sometimes he finds it funny, a bit creepy but still funny.

He got a little heart attack when he entered my room once and saw me for first time in black robe with hood on sitting by altar in dark, but bursted in laughter. He sometimes teases me for it but now less since I told him I wear it when working with demon/god who prefers black to be worn and something formal/extra. He even got himself one to match with me, he likes wearing it randomly around house to scare the shit out of me, usually he stays in the hallway or follows me around quietly then just waits until I realize someone's behind, sometimes he gets impatient and just grabs me.

Likes hearing out prayers and poems I wrote on my own and also helps me make them sound better if he has any good ideas.

One time when he was gaming he smelled the fire and thought shit was burning in house, he jumped from his seat in slight concern then saw me in room just burning a paper with some sigil...he was just standing there in disbleif before waving it off getting back to his business.

Sometimes takes photos of me when I stare at candle so long and moon, he finds it hilarious because I look like some kid that found new toy. He often looses me in store when we go in it together and always finds me where candles, plants, herbs/seasonings are, but also glassy stuff such as vases, jars, cups and plates. He finds it a bit annoying how easily I get distracted but also adorable that he can't get mad at me and yell at me for it. Secretly gets stuff I touched in store to surprise me later. He loves how I'm so fascinated with such simple things.

He likes to poke me sometimes and annoy me during my meditations but knows when is too much and when to stop. He couldn't stay with me in same room when I meditate because he would laugh out loud, I look like dead Victorian man just laying/sitting there, he had to leave. Sometimes he tries things I'm doing, found meditation awkward until he found out there's dark type of mediation music, I shared some with him, he loved them and felt so relaxed, he uses it when he can't sleep, it knocks him off easily and calms him down.

Collects feathers he finds outside, flowers, pretty rocks and shiny things for me. He dries the flowers before giving me them because I prefer them like that. He gets in return casted spells for him, handmade necklaces and bracelets. I infected him with my obsession with scented candles, he started getting them too and giving me jars/containers they were in after they melt out completely because he knows I make candles too. I make some for him too, he likes how they look on top, they have some herbs and crystal chips, sometimes glitter. AND ALSO INCENSE, one of his favourites are sandalwood.

Goes on nature walks with me, he likes them, we're always on places where nobody is, the only thing that could be heard are wind, birds and leafs cracking when you step on then. We sit on bench together and lean on eachother while watching clouds in the sky and butterflies flying around, we don't mind silence between us, it's not awkward but more comforting and peaceful. All fun and good until a wasp shows up, I jump and run around from fear. He's just laughing and watching in satisfaction and entertainment until one flies at him as well, he starts running away with me.

He asks me often about witchcraft and wants to learn more about it, he was in love when he found out the truth of it and wanted to try it himself. He finds it attractive how I stand close behind him and guide him in spell casting while leaning on his neck or shoulder. Goes even more crazy from inside when I hold him for waist or hip and talking close to his ear, he gets goosebumps and slight shivers. Sometimes he gets distracted and just looks at me and my mouth while I'm explaining him stuff, it only gets us both distracted, he gets all breathy and hungry then witchcraft lessons become a makeout session instead, he just pins me down on floor with his weight and presses his mouth on mine, or it becomes a "cowboy" game if it gets too heated..💀

@lovesickvamp @wholelottawidows I GOT DISTRACTED IDK WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME AND ALL FUCKING DRAFTS, I JUST KEEP ADDING THEM, THEN DON'T KNOW HOW TO END SOME FICS SO I JUST START ANOTHER WRITING 😭😭😭

#shigaraki #tomura #shigaraki x reader #league of villains #tomura headcanons #tomura x reader #shigaraki tomura #shigaraki fic #tomura fluff #shigaraki fluff #canon because i said so #i miss his blue hair #i love him sm

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volunruud · 6 months

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the "reasons not to get pregnant/have kids" list is full of misogyny and reasons regarding a mother's physical appearance and her worth (and/or conflating those reasonings). they do not resonate with me at all, as a woman who really doesn't care about how i look necessarily or how my body changes as time goes on.

here is MY PERSONAL list of reasons to not fall pregnant and have children:

pregnancy:

my age. i'm too young.

pregnancy sucks, it's painful, dangerous, and long. *insert most common pregnancy symptoms and issues here* *insert less common pregnancy symptoms here* (yes we have all heard of common symptoms like morning sickness up to more scary symptoms like death so i'm not going to list all those. look up a list of what happens to you during pregnancy and ask expecting mothers if they want to share)

labor. need i say more

surgery. stitches. recovery. pain.

difficult pregnancy. sure i could have an easy pregnancy. or maybe i won't.

the chance of miscarriage.

the chance i'll need an abortion.

pregnancy/labor emotional trauma due to mistreatment (from family, partners, doctors).

money. expenses. $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

i'd probably need a c-section which is a whole ass nightmare

subjecting myself to other mother's/people's opinions and judgement regarding literally every single choice i could ever make. "are you doing a hospital birth vs home birth, are you drinking coffee, oh youre not breastfeeding?" etc. i literally hate people and their dumbass opinions so this is a big one for me.

being subject to people touching my belly. and people getting offended when i say no (if they even bother to ask first)

not being able to smoke or drink. i love drinking and smoking. i smoke every day and i don't want to stop.

lacking a "maternal instinct" to the point i don't even believe it's real or it's very rare... i think it's mainly an excuse or justification. or a coping mechanism.

unprompted really invasive questioning. by everyone i know. no matter how well i know them. absolutely dreadful.

i like going to work. i don't want to miss a lot of days or take off for maternity leave.

have to get new clothes and my old clothes probably won't fit after pregnancy. so even more new clothes for after.

being asked if i want a girl or boy. this to me is a really dumb question because the answer is extremely obvious and also i have no control over it

hosting/planning a baby shower for myself sounds like a nightmare. i'm not even gonna think about it. and gender reveals are dumb as hell.

raising children:

constantly being reduced to "just" a mom. this one isn't too obvious but it's little things. like when random people will refer to you as mom or mama instead of your name (this may be a southern thing though).

no sleep

screaming. crying. shitting. vomiting. always cleaning up after someone and it literally never ends.

it takes an astronomical amount of EFFORT and DEDICATION. frankly i'd rather put this energy into video games and my art for the time being.

having to put someone else first. i live life for myself. i put myself first and prioritize my own needs. i don't want to change this any time soon. i love myself and dont want to waste my youth (and money time energy etc etc) caring for a baby/toddler.

if i had a girl: having to constantly defend her from misogyny and body shaming (which is a big concern and something i fully expect from my family). trying to shield her, and failing.

if i have a boy: the fear of him growing up into a misogynist, which i don't think i could fully stop that honestly even though i'd try my best. also comments like "boys are so much easier than girls" piss me off.

having to miss work for my kid if they're sick or anything else.

have to put them in school and go to school meetings and events. picking them up and stuff.

they'll probably have annoying ass kid friends that they hang out with.

no guarantee of unconditional love. no guarantee of cherished memories. that's obviously the hope/goal i guess? but it's not promised to you just because you had the kid and raised it

no guarantee of someone to care for you when youre old. i know several people who consider this a valid reason to have the kid in the first place (and not a mere justification after you fall pregnant "well at least i'll have someone to take care of me!" yikes)

need more time to develop/heal due to my young age and circumstances.

i'd have to rearrange my house or transform a whole room. i like my house and rooms how they are right now.

less time for my cats and work/hobbies

i keep many toxic plants and breakable items. that i want to keep.

the way that it's extremely easy to traumatize a child, without even intending to. it's impossible to avoid. if it's not me it's someone else. with my anxiety i'll just be dreading the day something horrible happens, or thinking too much and doing the wrong thing. idk this includes countless scenarios.

i work with several mothers my age and every day they never stop complaining. i really doubt if anything about young motherhood is rewarding.

in my opinion, the social aspects of pregnancy are worse than the physical issues. like i'd rather do morning sickness than tell everyone 6262646967 times a day when my due date is etc etc etc. it just sounds so miserable. but then again i just kinda hate talking to people. i think it's that i already hate small talk and making conversation with strangers but the additional dialogue about pregnancy and children makes it so much more unbearable. so the fact we're adding in new things to say and for people to ask about? yikessss noooo.

also i would include things like "men objectifying my pregnant body" "men with pregnancy fetish" but i try not to let a man being a piece of shit perv ruin anything for me personally. and i don't think you should either (but if this is a reason for you i think it's valid).

there are many other reasons regarding the father as well. if he abandons you, cheats, doesn't pay child support, is a shit father, etc etc etc. these are extremely concerning and affect so many women and these are major reasons to consider not having a baby and to re-evaluate who you're having children with. but i'm not really including these because i think if these reasons resonate with you personally, you should not be with that man at all. like DO NOT have a baby with him but also don't be with him. because maybe you could happily have a baby with someone else (or be happier with someone else).

like i said this is my personal list as of right now. i'm 23 and don't plan on having kids for a while. so these could change but i'm not going to edit this list. i made this because i need reasons that don't solely revolve around my appearance or tie my worth into my appearance (like a certain other List). i wanted to express that there are so many reasons to not get pregnant that ARENT stretch marks and hanging non-perky tits (both of these things i have anyway so i'm not worried about my body changing how it looks). we CANNOT make it seem like the worst effects of pregnancy and motherhood is a mere few stretch marks!!! that's LITERALLY the least of my concerns.

#own #ya im selfish and i consider that a great thing #pregnancy #i did put this under a cut but decided not to #hopefully yall have long posts turned off on tha dash

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Gwen will stay low for a while until these all dies down, so that’s a bummer. I hope it doesn’t make her decide to pull back and kill her passion with releasing any music in future, it’s just not a good atmosphere. But irritates me a lot that fans blamed her or her PR. It’s like victim blaming. Taking someone’s words out of a context is a fallacy, the person should never be blamed for it. It’s not just lazy journalism, because it was done intentionally to create a false narrarive to atract public attention. It’s no different how Fox News make their stories. Unfortunately it’s just how it is today, but we need to be smarter and have better judgement. Sorry for the rant I’m deeply disappointed with the fandom, who take this on Gwen because stupid media behaviour and society where common sense and logic takes the back seat.

They intentionally took that snippet of a dumb comment of her deeply relating to Japanese people and their style to make it seem like she thinks she is genetically Japanese. It was clickbait and it worked. Also, the people that keep sending Asks wanting us to criticize her continuously it’s not going to happen. I’m getting tired of seeing the hate and the judgments from the comments on IG and Twitter so I don’t want to see them here too. We get it

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Ever since that picture of Snow White with the creepy CGI dwarves dropped, I've seen people posting hot takes about Rachel. Here's mine.

I feel bad for Rachel Zelger. She is getting a lot of undeserved flack. Bigots are calling her "Snow Brown" and other hateful things, despite the fact that she's literally a white latina, who is olive-skinned. (Again, I think a lot of it is bigots being angry about "wokeness", but that's a whole other can of worms.) Rachel's position about this specific adaptation is completely understandable.

This movie is shaping up to be pretty bad. Not because of Rachel Zelger. This is already the second time the release date was delayed. I don't think it's just because of the strike. It genuinely seems like Disney is going back to the drawing board multiple times and it's not coming together. I still don't buy their excuse about the dwarves, since they look like they just slapped some CGI figures over the other actors. No one can come back for reshoots, making this even more awkward. Usually movies with this much production troubles never turn out to be good. The same thing happened with Artemis Fowl, and I suspect the same will happen here. I don't blame her for not liking this movie. This wasn't the first time an actor hated the movie that they were in. Robert Pattinson famously mocked the Twilight movies as they were coming out. So why is she any different?

Having said that, I think her comments about the OG animated version were a bit tone deaf. Love it or hate it, Snow White is one of the first full length animated movies ever. If it wasn't for it, the whole animation landscape throughout the world would be different. Hell, this movie along with Carl Barks comics are the whole reason why anime characters look like the way they do. You have to give the movie some respect for that. Her dissing it and brushing off completely makes her come off as disrespectful and like she has zero understanding off the character she's portraying or animation as a whole. The comments she made about the prince, by extension, Jeremy Renner, makes her look even worse. She should've thought through her comments before spouting them out.

Snow White isn't one of my favourite Disney movies. It's certainly a product of its time, and has a lot of issues like not giving the prince more screentime (even if it's understandable why) or it prioritizing random scenes with the characters working or goofing off instead of proper character or story developments. At the same time, I think Snow White's a bit more feminist than what some people are giving her credit for. She is assertive, capable, adaptable and hard working, which are all feminist traits. While I'm childfree by choice "leftist", even I admit that being a mother is a lot of hard work and takes a strong person to do. There's nothing wrong with someone wanting to have a family one day or being like me and never having any at all. Feminism is about choice, after all.

Yes, Snow White as a character needs an update. However, I still think you can do that while also keeping the core of her character and not turn her into a girl boss. That is certainly possible. Vil from Twisted Wonderland is a great example, and he comes from a Disney property too. Despite technically being inspired by the Evil Queen, a lot of his good traits are taken from Snow White and Adam. Like the original Snow White, Vil's hardworking, capable, adaptable, quick on his feet, kind, caring and wants to help out everyone around him become their best selves. He also lacks some of Snow White's glaring issues like her extreme naivety and dumb moments. (Seriously, why did she let in the Evil Queen into the cottage, especially when she was told not to multiple times and the birds attacked her?) But at the same time, he is also incredibly flawed. He's domineering, harsh, impulsive, overly critical, in his own head and super judgemental. These negative traits flesh him out and make him seem more human compared to the original, who was a very flat character. Hell, same can be said about Mary from Once Upon a Time. Disney can do it. They just didn't here.

I think we can all agree that Disney should've casted actual little people as the dwarves, the conservative "media" bullshit making their own movie is fucking laughable and the Disney Princesses can fall in love and be strong characters. Characters like Tiana and all of the other Renaissance prove that. I want more romance in Disney movies again, dammit!

#aqua rambles

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cto10121 · 2 years

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R&J Clown Takes Round ♾ —Part 8

In which a Reddit short with the question “Which fictional character(s) are wrongly idolized?” brings the anti clowns once more to the yard. A lot of garden variety hate and rehashed old chestnuts—but at least one truly jaw-dropping, unhinged take.

“jUST dUMB kIDS!!!”

Juliet is 13, not three. First the Orlando Bloom version where they had poor Juliet on a swing during her most erotic soliloquy, and now this. What is it with these productions’ obsession with infantilizing her apart from being part-and-parcel with misogynistic Victorian purity culture?

So. Once more with feeling. While Juliet is 13, she is no immature dummy with a dummy. She eagerly anticipates orgasming on Romeo’s dick—this is literal canon. Not all 13-year-olds are alike in maturity. Juliet is obviously on the high-end scale, and purposefully written that way. She is literally ready to smash.

*pushes up glasses* “acTUALLY”

This was corrected later on in the thread, which quickly devolved into whether or not R&J is a tragedy or not. But I’ll correct it here because ho, boy, the confidence.

Arthur Brooke’s poem is titled “The Tragicall Historie of Romeus and Juliet” (give or take a misspelling or two), not “The Most Excellent and Lamentable Tragedy” (title of the quarto edition). And no, it is not darker than the play. If anything, it is lighter. I did a whole read-through with commentary of the poem on my blog. Suffice to say, Shakespeare did a lot of clean-up of Brooke’s mess, turning his dull morality fable into an actual tragedy with real drama.

Romeo Hate Dumb (Reprise, encore plus bête)

Where the hell are these English teachers coming from? Oh, right, barely literate warm bodies hired by a underfunded public schools attacked by right-wing and elite faux liberals who want to privatize public education and keep down the masses. Almost forgot.

Melinda Taub? Rachel Caine? Is that you?

Yawn. OP, this is just dull. These clowns are tired even of their own shtick. Plus, there’s all this hemming and hawing. If you must clown, clown to the back seats!

That said, here’s something new: “a line implying judgement in the beginning.” How mysterious, OP. Do tell. Me, I can’t really think of any. The Prologue Chorus is neutral to slightly biased in favor of the lovers; Chorus 2 is a little less so, particularly “alike bewitched by the charm of looks” description. That still isn’t judgment, though. Overall, the play more often fully embodies the lovers’ perspective than critique it.

Romeo Was X, Juliet Was Y

Romeo was 20 while Juliet was 14. Romeo was 17 while Juliet was 13. Romeo was 48822 while Juliet was 9310. Romeo was a T. Rex while Juliet was a raptor. Romeo was a discord mod, Juliet was his kitten.

Romeo the Rapist

Now this is what I call a clown take.

The confidence. The delusion. The initial, rather basic age gap pearl-clutching before the cha-cha slide into an accusation of statutory rape. The mic drop of an deranged edit when OP is called to elaborate. The casualness. “Yeah, R&J is a text filled with the threat of rape and relationship abuse. It was very much so not a good situation. Love me some Shakespeare, but this just isn’t his best. :/”

I don’t know what deranged anti fanfiction OP has been reading lately, but this take beats them all. Stunning. Incredible. Legendary. Unbeatable. Somewhere a small, proud tear is rolling down Khachaturian’s cheek. This is it. He had found it. The perfect setting for his masterpiece. What can possible best this spectacularly unhinged bit of clownery?

…I stand corrected (?)

I don’t know Discord from discord, so this comment is as impregnable to me as the Dead Sea scrolls. I’ll just leave it up for you guys that know Discord more than I do and who will fully appreciate the clownery of this take, if any.

Meanwhile I’ll just be here thinking of a strange RetJ fanfic AU where Romeo makes Juliette his kitten. If you know what I mean.

#romeo and juliet #romeo hate dumb #rj clown takes #r&j clown takes #rj clownery #some days i am starved and others i dine richly #that retj kitten au is disturbingly alluring #reminds of me that cat!tybalt résj fanfic #that one lives rent-free in my mind

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Something tells me a lot of the aggression in this fandom towards Bran and Tyrion is partially, if not fully, thinly-veiled ableism. I’ve seen so many people pressed about Bran’s simple existence and the fact that he has an arc lately, as well as people who are angered by Tyrion’s arc and behavior. I get that the show butchered both their characters, but it took a huge shit on the development and personality of so many others. I don’t see anywhere near as much hatred of, say, Jon, as I do of those two. Tyrion can be a douche, admittedly, but I don’t see anyone being as angry about the things Euron did (and the way his character was SIGNIFICANTLY dumbed down) as they are about Tyrion’s drinking and whoring. It’s funny, because when Robert Baratheon did it, it was fine, but when Tyrion behaved the same way, while being, even with how the TV series slaughtered his character, much more complex, cynical, and insightful, certain people in the fandom got REALLY mad. I’m not even going to bring up the at least 25 “I want Bran to die” comments I’ve seen on Reddit and on here. Honestly, it might be my bias as someone who’s resonated with Bran from the beginning, but it always makes me angry when I see that because other characters who survived the show don’t get as much hate as he does. I’ve also been seeing a LOT of ableist memes about Bran being in a wheelchair, and I’m not going to discuss why that’s fucked up. Another thing I’ve seen that people have used to justify hating him is that “his arc is boring”. I don’t know if we read the same books or watched the same show, honestly. Bran has a rich character arc and (in my opinion) one of the most interesting plot lines in the show. I understand if people don’t find a plot without violence or sex “fun” (even though that itself isn’t a fair judgement, because there were scenes of Bran learning about past events that involved fighting, and of course the White Walkers’ attack on the Three-Eyed Raven’s cave), but if you want to watch something that’s all violence, jokes, and sex, go watch Deadpool for fuck’s sake. But don’t come in here and shit on Bran’s arc when Sansa’s has an equal amount of violence, and Arya’s has an equal lack of sex (until the Gendry scene, which was disturbing in and of itself). Basically, I’d say a lot, if not all, of the shit people say about both Bran and Tyrion is gross and has a lot to do with them being disabled main characters.

#game of thrones #asoiaf #game of thrones discourse #asoiaf discourse #bran stark #tyrion lannister #ableism tw #i could just be overthinking everything but a lot of this bullshit is DEFINITELY because of ableism

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loverofhimbos · 2 years

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Marauders HC Dump because I can’t sleep and am thinking about them :)) Specifically, about Peter

Peter likes to make Sirius look bad lol

like-that’s their relationship. not i’m a hateful way-i mean in a “mess up his hair and stick dumb spit balls into his clothes” kind of way. peter is also the first one to call him out on his bull shot if Sirius is getting a little too cocky (simple things like asking a perfectly logical question that makes Sirius fumble bcuz he doesn’t have logic)

Peter also is the one of the group to be the first to call them all handsome. without fail, he is always cooing nonsense at them if they spruce up their look a bit. this goes especially for Sirius when he gets his leather jacket and eyeliner of course. (but you know that peter is definitely trying that eyeliner at some point)

Him and Remus also bond by being the ones to ‘suprise’ people when they show that they can actually be reckless and not just extremely witty and sarcastic. (and by their eye-rolling at the dramatics of the other two). but Peter is the first one to break into locked doors or just run head-first into a situation because he 1) is a dumbass and 2) knows he can get out of things easily because he has the Dumb Blond Boyish Charm act down to a T.

He also is a collector-if he sees something that reminds him of one of his friends (like a broom-shaped collar button for James on banquet nights for the Quidditch team or Mary’s favorite sour candy or a hair clip that would match Lily’s favorite blouse or—)

He is also very shameless about his music taste. Which is the kind of stuff that would have his music-snob friends turning their noses up and and giving him dirty looks for (although it’s probably still good music like Bee Gees or Toto Wham when they come out lol) But he is very firm in his love for them-and even turns it up obnoxiously as payback for the 3 hours straight of the Diamond Dogs album. He also had a habit of dancing with Marlene (which usually include her gf Dorcas, by extension, although she only shows her head fondly and enjoys the songs) because they share similar taste.

He and James actually support different professional quidditch teams (bonus points if they are rivals) and both of them get just a little too into it over the lunch table. It’s very tense air when they start debating the skills of their teams, but it’s all harmless any how. Also, Peter has a really good impression of their mutual favorite sports caster that he just-breaks out at random.

He and James also have snide jokes from their childhood together that they refuse to elaborate on, but apparently are the funniest shit they can possible know. Peter has a very quiet, inward snickering sort of lqugh which is direct opposites of James (who’s laugh is of course very loud and fun)

Peter is the go-to guy for an engaged listening ear for prolonged periods of time. He can’t pay attention to his potions lecture but he can instantly jump in and hear Mary talk about every little social happening and actually be following along. This leads to knowing looks being passed between them when an object of their gossip does something yo prove their point, which Sirius is a little jealous of. Remus also catches on to these things, and is more direct about his judgement, often commenting on them to Peter, which makes the entire group lose their shit.

I just keep seeing a lot of weird hatred and mean head cannons about Peter/his relationship with the others. I would like to spread love because they all make me do happy

#counter act the negative nannys by completely drowning them out with my adoration #i love every single one of thd marauders #you cant just have connections with some of them #or else why would there be four of them hm? exactly. i better not catch any hatred towards any of the main people #i cant even take negative words towards any of them-#because when au say they are the highest source of my happiness…..i aint playing around :/#marauders #marauders era #moony wormtail padfoot and prongs #peter pettigrew #remus lupin #mary macdonald #james potter #sirius black #marlene mckinnon #dorcas meadowes #lily evens #my love <3

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i'm not going to address anything you said because they're valid points, but this:

Thanks for the ask! Also, your ask comes across as very mean girl and backhanded and condescending at times, so maybe you should keep that in mind. Your attempts to be genuine are overshadowed by your condescension, judgemental and backhandedness, unfortunately.

fucking hurts as someone who is also autistic. the reason i said you and your friends act like mean girls is because, like i said in the first ask, you guys are cliquey (definition: narrow exclusive circle or group of persons especially: one held together by common interests, views, or purposes). what i didn't add in the ask is that the memes you guys made of dani, and all that extra stuff, was in my opinion, mean girl behavior.

it doesn't have anything to do with tone, it's your actions. i can't read tone. not to be an autistic stereotype, but while i aced my math, grammar, science, and history ACTs, i bombed my english.

understanding tone is hard for me.

having autism, just like you, i can't "attempt" genuine. especially not over text. it's something im working on, but has plagued me my entire life. i wrote in my ask that i may sound hypocritical, because i wanted you to understand that i'm being genuine, since i know you have autism too. but just reading the words "condescending, judgemental, backhanded" hurts so fucking bad. like a slap in the face for just being who i am.

as someone with autism, i really don't understand why you would use say something like that.

To start off with the end of your ask, maybe I said something like that because you said the same thing to me and because that’s genuinely how you came across? Autistic or not, the way things are said & what things are said does hurt other people sometimes (which is why I personally sometimes use tone indicators or write a little note like “the caps dont mean im mind im just excited!!”)

And I mean, if memes are the issues that you have with that whole conflict and not dani’s weird rape apologist accusation comments or ableist comments, then sort your priorities out I guess? I personally don’t see the issue with making memes about someone who hates on your analysis and calls you weird shit. We make memes about dani, dani answers 15374849 different anons now and then/makes 15374859 different posts about how dumb henry analysts are, life goes on, it’s a symbiotic relationship. And also re: the clique thing, there’s nothing cliquey about it. Some people are closer than others. I’m low energy sometimes so I end up on chatting w people I know sometimes because that takes less energy (and when a bunch of random people accuse you of being pedophiles, it also tends to make you want to interact with random people even less.)

You’re gonna have to be more specific about actions then, because what you mentioned seemed to all be related to tone, and the action you listed re: the memes, like I said, I don’t think is a big issue. And hell, let’s both be autistic stereotypes- because i’m the opposite. I aced my english but cried through every math and science exam and bombed them! But even then, understanding tone is still hard for me too.

When I talk about attempting genuine, I’m talking mostly about how you’re making what seems like good-faith comments one second and then the next second comparing my analysis to a car wreck and saying it’s been disheartening or whatever to watch me and james etc go down this rabbithole. Do you not see how that comes across as non genuine/as hurtful? And RE; the hypocritical thing, I just applied that to the “being anonymous” part of it, because that’s all you mentioned re: hypocrisy.

And now you know what it felt like for me reading your ask. And now you know how you came across in that ask, and as much as it sucks, even when people like you and me don’t mean to come across as hurtful or condescending or “mean girls” sometimes, we still do and people still get hurt by it, even fellow autistic people as with what happened here.

Like I said, in the beginning, I said it because it’s how you came across, and I said it specifically because you were making a post about me coming across as mean, all while accidentally coming across as mean on your own. I wouldn’t have even brought it up if that wasn’t what your ask was about. There’s no slap in the face for being who you are, simply a matter of how what you said came across & how sometimes things don’t come across well despite the best intentions. Like i said- how would you take it if I sent you an anon where one second i was saying that your posts got me into analysis etc and the next second i was saying that something you really enjoy (going down analysis rabbitholes) was like a car wreck? I don’t think you’d appreciate it very much, and I think it would come across as confusing and backhanded, which is how what you sent came across to me.

#st anons

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thank you for being so honest. i will be really honest in return that i've also thought of you as an asshole due to recent events. but i really think you're making good steps on a path of growth that will lead you to become a better, and more importantly, happy person. and i am genuinely pleasantly surprised and proud to see your response compared to how you were responding a few weeks ago.

i think i may have struggled with a lot of things you are now, in particular with online drama. it's hard, but i think you would really benefit from not involving yourself in online drama as much as possible. that sounds flippant and like i'm saying it's an easy fix, but i understand the pull to touch drama that you aren't directly involved with, or wanting to comment and poke the bear. it's not worth it. :(

it's hard but this will all pass with time. i'm sorry you're still receiving hate mail due to this all. it doesn't make it any better, but people will get bored and move on if you do. maybe in the future people who you've hurt and don't feel comfortable talking to you, will get to the point that they'll be okay to hear your apology. don't dwell on it too much in the meantime, you'll only eat yourself alive.

surround yourself with friends who will keep you accountable for your behavior. it's okay if you lash out or fall back on old habits, no one should expect you to be perfect, just learn how you can take accountability and learn for the future. listen to friends who tell you when you're being out of pocket or telling you you're getting too heated and resist the urge to double down on behavior that you're called out for.

i seriously wish you well, you're young and it's going to be ok. sorry for the long reply as well but i really hope my words helped you some, coming from someone who is a bit older than you.

Thank you for the kind words. I won't lie that yes, I have absolutely been an asshole. I turn I'll be more open with you. Ever since these events happened, conflict has made me outright sick to my stomach. I actively avoid it now due to the spike in anxiety it causes me, and I consistently have nightmares about the idea of conflict.

I was raised to always defend myself by my father, and I won't lie in saying that it has absolutely clouded my judgement. Sometimes, there are times that you must back down when provoked. Not every fight is worth it, not every single thought or opinion you have must be shared no matter how important you think it is.

I will also be open in the fact that this drama has directly affected my friend group. I do not have friends anymore because people have reached out to them, under the cover of anon, to spread the "truth" ( read: calling me a racist who hates ESL people and tells everyone to kill themselves for dumb opinions ) about me and turn them against me. I don't know what motives they have outside of just wanting me dead, after all, someone on ARR called me a waste of oxygen outright. I wouldn't doubt many others think this as well, but know how to hold their tongue.

Thank you for wanting to talk to me, by the way. Your kindness is more than anyone has afforded me so far, not many people are willing to hear that I do want to genuinely change. I don't take pride in being a horrible person; I want to be someone who people love being around and enjoy seeing, not someone everyone grumbles when they come into the room.

I don't know what my actions will be. I enjoy the game very much still, but the community has absolutely made it a trigger for me and on websites like Tumblr, and flight rising, reading comprehension is scarce. All I know is that I will move forward, even if the anxiety attacks keep me up at night and the guilt eats me alive, the time will still pass.

I hope that one day, everyone will be able to see that I've changed. And if not, I hope the people I have hurt are doing better with me not around. All I have ever wanted in life was to make people smile, even if indirectly.

I hope today is kind to you, anon, and may the rest of the week be the same.

#my asks #ask: anon

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