#abusive brother

[randombook4idk]

people will talk about how it is important to recognize abuse and how it comes in many shapes and forms, but the second sibling abuse gets brought up, you then have to shut up, because you clearly don't have a sibling if you don't think that bullying them, making them fear you, screaming at them, putting them down, beating up them up, emotionally/physically abusing them, giving them trauma, guilt tripping them and other abusive behavior is an ok thing to do.

#you cant say that abusive behavior isnt ok in romantic/platonic relationships #and then turn around and say that it's ok if it happens between siblings #because siblings hating each other is soooo nAtUrAl it's in their DNA/s #teasing your sibling isnt the same as laughing about how you nearly caused your siblings death or how you gave them trauma #yeah i saw those tiktok screenshots on instagram and as someone with an older sister i despise them same as those memes of olders siblings #(mostly older brothers) joking about beating their little brothers up #sibling abuse #toxic siblings #older sibling #older siblings #younger sibling #younger siblings #middle child #abusive sibling #abusive siblings #abusive sister #abusive sisters #abusive brother #abusive brothers

[mime-rodeo]

“siblings hurt each other but at the end of the day, they've got each others' backs—”

no stop it.

there's a difference between playfully insulting or fighting with your sibling and intentionally hurting them.

there's a difference between playing a harmless prank on your sibling and genuinely terrorizing them.

there's a difference between smacking your sibling once and actually physically abusing them.

there's a difference between calling your sibling an idiot as a joke and calling them worthless and a burden and feeding on their insecurities.

please know the difference. sibling abuse is a very real issue and it's the type of abuse that is somehow least talked about. people think that it's normal, that it's just bickering.

and yes, often times, it is just bickering. but not always. if someone tells you that their sibling is being abusive or toxic or hurtful, please believe them.

anyone can be an abuser. and anyone can be abused.

#sibling abuse #tw abuse #siblings #abusive siblings #abusive brother #abusive sister #abusive brothers #abusive sisters #family abuse

[oasisr]

I really believe that my entire family has NPD at this point. And, everyone needs therapy.

My brother borrowed my mom's car last night. This morning, our enabler mom and I went in the car to go get coffee.

I immediately noticed that the car stunk. It had a horrible smell.

I found red solo cups in the passenger seat, and mom found fast food bags in the back seat.

My brother had taken his daughters and his girlfriend to get hamburgers, but they left the half eaten food in the car all night. It started to rot and smell odorous.

I told my mom that it was not okay that he let the girls trash the car, and that they should never be drinking and driving.

Mom said it's not a big deal and we should just go get coffee.

I said, "Aren't you going to call him and tell him that it's wrong? Why don't you have him clean the car?"

She said that I'm weird for being upset and that it's none of my business because it's not my car.

Last time my brother borrowed the car, there was a bottle of vodka in the passenger seat.

He has had two DUIs, and has had his license revoked.

I don't even understand why she would want him to drive the car in the first place.

She kept telling me over and over to mind my own business, and that drinking and driving isn't a big deal because she threw the trash away.

I told her that she could have lost her car if he were to get pulled over, plus his teenaged daughters were in the car too! (He also lets his daughters drink and smoke weed. That's a whole other story.)

I admit that my anger took over and I lost it. I started yelling at my mom to listen to me, and to stop saying that it's okay for him to drink and drive, and leave garbage in the car.

She kept saying it's not a big deal. I started screaming at her. I just couldn't keep calm. I felt like she had no common sense or common decency to stand up for him.

I can't understand why no one in the family has to face any consequences. But, if I say I don't agree with something because it's morally or legally wrong, then I'm the bad person.

I've been crying and hyperventilating all day long because she just seems so lost. My entire family is lost. I don't even know what to do anymore.

#dui #drinking #drinking and driving #narcissistic mother #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissist #narcissistic #abusive family #abusive mother #abusive brother #cptsd #c ptsd #npd #aspd #antisocial #narcissism #narcissistic abuse #raised by narcissists #narcissistic parents

[traumatizedjaguar]

My father is an extremely misogynistic, racist and LGBTphobic person. He was always advocating for women and girls getting raped, murdered and tended to think of gays as some otherworldly gross unnatural creatures as that's how he treated them. He is so deeply insecure he sees everyone as beneath him, especially vulnerable groups of people he hates on, and he always would argue when he was proven wrong; when he couldn't handle being wrong he's said before, "well idc if Im wrong because im still right." He also has the belief, stated in his own words, that because he went through abuse growing up that he has a right to abuse others now. Verbatim he said, “idc I was bullied a lot growing up I have a right to bully others now.” He is a grossly childish man who decided to repeat his childhood abuse and probably parental relationships with his wife and kids. He's stuck in his childhood abuse and by the time I was 15/16 I knew what my issues were, was very honest with myself and knew to work on generational trauma. I was older than a 50 year old man by the time I was 15/16.

#my text #abusive father #familial abuse #sibling abuse #abusive brother #misogynist #feminism #women's rights #abortion #feminist #male violence #male predator #male privilege #patriarchy #egotistical men #male entitlement #entitlement issues

[alostlittleriverlotus]

vent, personal

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I dunno, man. But seeing a cute pic of our brother as a kid come up on the Google thing and he's just being autistic/adhd and so focused on a new game on his DS on a Christmas morning years ago makes us wanna fucking cry.

The same kid that bullied us, made us hate ourselves, said no one loved us. The same one that in a fight last fall, defending calling me all those things even as far back as when I was fucking 4 and 5 and he was 7 and 8. Saying I deserved it because he knew I was terrible.

Our parents love looking back on the cute memories. But seeing pictures of my brothers being cute innocent kids and us being a "happy family" fucking stings and triggers me. Cause he WAS just a kid back then. I thought he would have grown, but no. He stands by insulting me and bullying me and abusing me for years and sees that I deserved it cause I was "annoying" and had emotional problems.

I hate those fucking family photos. They just show a family that wasn't the reality. They show me happy when I was so fucking suicidal and miserable. I hate seeing the cute innocent kids in those pictures. I hate seeing my brothers when they were sweet happy children, especially the one brother. The other one just struggled, but him? He was purposeful in mocking me. I thought he would have grown up and seen we were all kids in a shitty situation not having our needs met, but no. He defends telling me I was a mistake and our parents regretted giving birth and he was excited to see me until I started talking and he realized I was annoying. I hate it. I hate those fucking photos. I'm fucking crying.

#personal vent #trauma #abusive brothers #abusive brother #sibling abuse #triggered #actually traumatized #actually autistic

[lyricreed]

Dude having an abusive older brother you used to admire and love and look up to is so weird cause like

I love you so much for raising me but that’s also the exact reason I resent you so much. You still brag about me being your best friend to your friends. All my friends hate you for everything you’ve done to me.

I cry at night remembering you screaming at me throughout my childhood. You’re the only person who can make me really, truly laugh. Nothing you say is funny anymore.

Every time you leave the house I hope you die and never come back. When you moved out to live with your now-ex-girlfriend I sobbed myself to sleep every night because I missed you so much. When you came to me to vent about your fears of parenthood I told you you’d be a good father and even though I didn’t believe it, I actually meant it.

I’ll never feel safe until you’re out of my life or out of yours. I had a dream about you dying the other night and cried so hard I couldn’t go back to sleep.

I still comfort you whenever you air your troubles and frustrations out to me, even though I was a child when you first started and I’m still so young now and I shouldn’t know how to help you. And I don’t. And you never listened to me like I always do for you.

You’re the reason I flinch so hard whenever my friends try to touch me. All I’ve ever wanted was a hug from you. Your touch makes me feel so unsafe and afraid it makes me sick.

I’ve been working my whole life to make you not mad anymore. Now I’m mad at you instead and I never want to feel angry again because of you.

I’m not a child anymore but thanks to you I’ll never grow up. I can’t tell if that’s what you wanted.

And without you I wouldn’t be who I am today and I’m still puzzling out if that’s a bad thing or not. You have dad’s eyes and I have grandma’s. We both have mom’s face.

And yet I only see you when I look in the mirror.

#silly little vent post #textpost #a bit sad #trauma #big brother #tw abuse #tw trauma #tw vent #older brother #abusive sibling #abusive brother #vent post #personal vent

[wastedchildhood]

can my brother stop replaying the same fucking cycle of abuse over and over again

#ok to rb #ptsd #trauma #actuallytraumatized #vent #tw abuse #toxic brother #abusive brother #abusive family #abuse survivor

[creapysummer]

i think my brother might be abusive but i don't know i'm probably just being dramatic but i need advice

to preface this he's three years younger (he's almost 12 and i'm 15) than me and also has adhd and a few other things that might just be the reason he acts like this (that's what my parents always use as an excuse) but i don't know

my brother has always been "a troubled kid" he gets in trouble at school he gets suspended he just in general is not a good kid, to counter this i've always been good, i barely ever get in trouble, i've never been to the principles office, i get good grades whatever

i've never gotten along with my brother he's just always been really mean to me and a lot of the time when he does something to me i get the blame for it because i'm older so that's always been cause for bitterness towards him

(also i just want to add i do not blame my parents for any of his behavior i love them and they love me very much)

my brother has a way of ruining everything for me whether that's me having a nice moment without my mom or someone else he can't just let me be happy

he says a lot of things that he doesn't think are as bad as they are, he's frequently sexist to me (telling me to go back to the kitchen, make him a sandwich, whatever) he thinks it's a funny joke. he constance bashes my interests and things that make me happy and insults me and my friends

i'm also not the only one who doesn't like him, he's generally hated on my school bus and it's gotten to the point where people target me because of him sometimes he tries to embarrass me in public and is really rude to everyone because he thinks it's funny.

my parents both excuse his behavior all the time but for different reasons my father thinks it's just kids being kids boys being boys shit but my mom uses his adhd as an excuse saying that he can't help it and stuff. he also threatens to kill himself because he knows he can get away with anything that way even though i know he would never do it even though i can't say that because then i just seem like an awful person. i can't stand up for myself without seeming like the bad one

he does things to me that would absolutely not be acceptable for a parent to do to their child, he hits me knowing that i'm not strong enough to fight back he tries to punch me just so he can see me flinch and i don't always feel safe near him and he's threatened me with actual knives before.

i do not see him as my brother, i don't know how i can and i fully plan on going no contact with him once i'm older. my online friends that i've never even met before are more of family to me than he is and you know how friends will argue about whose sibling is the worst? all of my friends (all but one also has younger brothers) fully agree that mine is worse.

i just want a real sibling like i hear stories about and all my parents want is for me to get along with him and i'm so sorry i can't do that for him

i think i'm probably being dramatic but i literally cannot handle his cruelty and manipulation

#i think im probably overreacting so take this with a grain of salt #sibling abuse #abusive siblings #abusive brother #asking for advice #is this abuse #younger brother

[thedepressedweasel]

Another childhood memory has just resurfaced. When I was pushing 15 and it was a very hot summer day and my (now ex) older brother was eating something and then, just minutes later, he suddenly let loose a big, loud burp, to which I jokingly called him a “pig”, to which just out of nowhere, he literally straight up dead ass screamed at me like “I’M GOING TO BASH YOUR HEAD AGAINST THE WALL AND ENJOY IT UNTIL IT TURNS INTO MUSH!!!!!”

Like, he’s really a lot like my egg donor. I can’t wait to never see them again!

#i hate my brother #child abuse #sibling abuse #childhood abuse #abusive brothers #abusive brother #abusive siblings #abusive family #abusive childhood #traumatic childhood #childhood trauma #trauma #ptsd #cptsd

[one-abuse-survivor]

(kinda urgent??) how do you get out of an abusive situation when you're both minors? like the abuser is 13 and you're 17 and has beaten you and threatened to kill you many times? and you have a 6 year old sister that needs out too?

I'm asking for a friend, cause they need help. They are actively thinking of leaving their situation and can't stay with me, they have a 6 year old sister, and their younger brother is so abusive I'm worried he's going to actually kill them. They worry the same.

They need to find ways to leave safely, stay safe, and about finding safe places while managing to go to work and school.

Things are getting even worse over there and their Nan has basically no backbone when it comes to the brother, she was going to call the cops on him but stopped when he ran out of the house.

They won't be an adult for basically a whole year, and I worry for how much damage he can cause in that time.

They are unsure if anyone else can take them in as well

Neither of us know what to do, we need all the help we can get.

Hey nonnie. This is gonna be a quick reply since your ask is urgent, but I hope it helps.

Since I don't know where you live or what your friend's circumstances are, it's impossible for me to know what the best course of action is, but my first instinct in this kind of situation would be to call the police or your local child protection services.

If the threats and abuse happen again before your friend can take any other action, I'd say call the police as it is happening. That way it'll be easier for them to gather proof than if they arrive in a moment of calm.

Otherwise, look into what child protection services are available in your area and get in contact. They often have a working online chat that doesn't leave traces in your browsing history. If a minor describes what's happening, they will alert the relevant people to investigate. All your friend has to do is give them the information, and they will take care of the rest. I would do this in a moment where the abusive brother isn't physically present, in case him finding out they've contacted CPS makes the situation escalate.

This is not something minors can solve on their own—it has to be passed onto adults. So I'd say grab the attention of any adults possible: teachers, family members, authorities, local child support, anyone who will listen.

#Ask #Abuse #Death threat tw #Abuse tw #Abusive brother #Abusive sibling

[1pcii]

I can't believe I'm being endeared to zo/suke as much as I am considering I generally dislike sasuke shipping as he tends to be used as nothing BUT a shipping vessel. but honestly an anti-government pirate/swordsman boyfriend would be so good for his whole deal in a vacume...

#like most of my sasuke ships are characters that either missing nin or... neji 'slave revolt' hyuuga #so a pirate honestly would work with his personal ideals which is what matters most to me #not to mention the similarities they have #both swordsmen. both like onigiri and hate sweet things. intoverted. loving. selfless. both gay. both my favoritest character ever #there's also conflict you could find here too. they both have an unhealthy obsession with becoming stronger for differing reasons #sasuke's as primarily a self-preservation matter as despite konoha's claims of safety he was constantly being targeted and attacked by his #abusive brother #and to an extent for the sake of protecting those he loves. this isn't shown as much however because he has #had to distance himself from them all because of itchi's 5 step lifeplan for him #zoro on the other hand similarly obsessed because of his need to be able to protect his crew #I feel sasuke would feed into zoro's protective instinct and zoro would feed into his competitive one #they could be so doomed yaoi when you think about it #like I get the vision now #my knee jerk negative reaction was a purely emotional one built from the sanctity of my lavender marriage w sasuke but I get it #psii.txt #nightblogging #<- being so literal rn it's 3am I have an exam Tommorow. all the clichés so I'm on here saying unhinged shit 😭 #sorry sasuke

[bythewaygoose]

I just want to be at peace

#i want to share something but im to scared to do it #help #abusive brother #toxic family #vent #peaceful

[screechwhisper]

He's a fucking psycho wtaf

#personal #bipolar brother #abusive brother

[beybuniki]

alternative universe where there are TWO epic fail sons in the todoroki familiy

#i cant get into itttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt but dabo/toya and shoto goign through the same thing and toya being overwhelmed #because he hasnt worked through his own abuse yet so how is he supposed to be of any help to little shoto aoughhhhh lets throw up together #so much projection and resentment and guilt and unfair and immature beahvior we're all walking on egg shells in that beautiful house #bnha #todoroki toya #dabi #todoroki shoto #saw this pose and wanted to make it about the todoroki brothers holding hands i need them to hold handssssssssss #toya au

[alostlittleriverlotus]

personal vent, tw abuse

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I wish I had been an only child. None of the good memories were worth that. I am so numb to the pain and suffering cause it's the only way to not sink into the idea that it was my fault. But when I feel it, it fucking hurts.

I'm breaking dosn. I wish I had been an only child. I hate the idea that we would grow up and be super close. Cause we aren't. He's fucking 25 and defends the shit he said to me when I was fucking 4 and throughout my entire childhood until he stopped talking to me when I was fucking 14. My mom always convinced me he didn't mean it, he really did love me, that's just how boys are, that's just how siblings/brothers can be, that she was picked on too and she and her sisters grew up to be close.

No. Fucking no. He doesn't even feel fucking sorry for me. He has seen every breakdown I've had, every episode, every fight as ME BEING FUCKING MANIPULATIVE!!!!! He thinks I'm taking advantage of them by standing up for the fact that I'm fucking disabled and can't do shit!!! That me being angry at the abuse and neglect is MY FAULT and me taking advantage of our parents' endless kindness!!! He never gave a fucking shit about me. Whatever little care he had is fucking dead.

I hate him. I fucking hate him. I wish I was an only child. I was as lonely as one anyway. Then fights wouldn't be as often. Punishments wouldn't have been as often. And I would have never been made as suicidal as I was being constantly belittled and mocked by those two. I fucking hate them and I fucking hate how little was done to protect me and I hate that even therapists I had defended the idea that's how boys and siblings are and that THEY were picked on too and now they're close.

There is no closeness in this gamily. I'm fucking alone and I'm fucking breaking down cause I saw a photo of my brother being a happy autistic/adhd child and hyperfixating on a cool new game. Because he was adorable and seemed so sweet. All the while he fucking hated me and resented me and told me awful things that made me wanna die. I was willing to accept and forgive, accept that we were traumatized neurodivergent kids being abused. But no. He's 25 and still defends that shit. He's 25 and says little me as young as 4 years old DESERVED IT because he knew I was terrible!!! I WAS A FUCKING PRESCHOOLER YOU JACKASS!!!!! And it hurts. It hurts so much and I'm tired of having to defend myself by being angry and defiant and numb to the worst shit.

#personal vent #trauma #childhood trauma #triggered #sibling abuse #abusive siblings #abusive brothers #abusive brother #I hate that there is so little about siblings that are abusive #outside of like sexually abusive siblings which great that there's info on that #but there is so little about stuff especially when they're emotionally/verbally abusive #actually traumatized

[2000sbigbr0]

Having a mean older brother that forces you to watch scary movies because seeing your scared face makes him hard >>>>>

#1cky br0ther #fauxcest #sibcest #sister x brother #brother x brother #ftm nsft #mtf nsft #trans nsft #ftm dom #dacryphilia #abuse k1nk