#dear prudence??

[throwthewine]

I think this is where I stand right now. (Had to do this because of that last post lmao.)

(Don’t get me wrong—I do think the stuff in tier 3 is amazing, but they’re a little inconsistent for me they have a good handful of tracks I don’t really love or even tend to skip. To be fair, I could say that about any Beatle album though. Their placement is somewhat arbitrary! It’s hard.)

(I feel a little bad for putting Beatles For Sale in the bottom when it’s really not that different from AHDN and Help! but idk, I just think those two are stronger?)

#tiermaker didn’t include yellow submarine as an option #but it’s tier 5 #I think my love for MMT is probably surprising to some but #it’s highs are so high #(strawberry fields might be my fav Beatles song) #and at some point even the ‘filler tracks’ grew on me enough that I decided it’s just #absolutely solid and a delight #(your mother should know and baby you’re a rich man get stuck in my head constantly) #the white album is super hit or miss for me but it’s hits are just so good #dear prudence?? #helter skelter? wmggw? #martha my dear? i will? mother nature’s son? #so tired? yer blues? blackbird?

[pancakemolybdenum]

dear prudence

#rose lalonde #homestuck #lovisas art #been a while since i drew a homed stuck #btw this is a ref to one of the outfits in the siouxie and the banshees dear prudence video #no beatles shit

[jimmorrisonfants]

Siouxsie and the Banshees’s Dear Prudence cover by The Beatles (feat. Robert Smith on guitar).

#Siouxsie and the banshees #robert smith #the beatles #cover #music #tumblr #video #live #song #rock #album #80’s #80s #new wave #goth #dear prudence

[ubiq80]

Siouxsie & The Banshees featuring Robert Smith 1983

#siouxsie and the banshees #siouxsie sioux #robert smith #dear prudence #80s #80s music #80s bands

[thatbadadvice]

Help! Death is inconvenient!

Dear Prudence, Slate, 6 December 2022:

Q. Bothersome Burials: Is it appropriate to hold a funeral on a Saturday? I have recently noticed that funerals are more frequently being held on Saturdays instead of weekdays and I think it is bad etiquette. On most Saturdays, we already have plans for weddings, baby showers, birthday parties, ski trips, softball tournaments, etc. and I am perturbed when we are expected to change those plans to attend funerals. It seems to me that when you lose someone very close to you that you should be taking time off of work anyway rather than waiting until your scheduled day off to have a funeral and grieve. When you lose an acquaintance, or perhaps do not know the deceased but still want to support your friends and family, you should be able to limit it to a few hours during the week and not give up your weekend plans. Also, it seems inconsiderate to make the funeral home and cemetery staff work on a Saturday. I believe that Saturdays should be off-limits, am I mistaken about this?

Dear Bothersome Burials,

Funerals should absolutely never be held on Saturdays, for all of the excellent reasons you describe. It is inconsiderate in the extreme to interrupt people's ski trips even for legitimate reasons (whatever they may be — nothing immediately springs to mind, but the Bad Advisor is sure someone somewhere will be able to drudge up an example). To derail a romp on the slopes for something as inconsequential as a community gathering to grieve the departure of a beloved friend or family member from the plane of existence as we know it frankly defies comprehension. For the snuffing out of one's mortal lamplight to cause scheduling conflicts around more minor commitments such as weddings and baby showers is naturally a lesser infraction — attendees can always simply RSVP to the next one, or the one after that — but nevertheless impolite. Of course, few will share your deep concern for the wellbeing of those death professionals who work on Saturdays despite undoubtedly being, as you are, shocked by and entirely unprepared to accommodate the customs and traditions surrounding the inevitable fate, old as life itself, that awaits all of us. But your selflessness is noted here nonetheless.

If you are mistaken about anything, it is in failing to interrogate the cause of these breaches of etiquette. There was a time when people treated each other with just a little more consideration — when we left our doors unlocked, our unvaccinated children played together barefoot in the streets until dawn, and we dropped dead when and only when it was convenient for people's busy weekend schedules. My mother would have rather died than shuffle off the mortal coil just before Little Maydelayne's big softball tournament! Sadly, people these days think only of themselves, their own needs, and their own petty concerns — to say nothing of their unwillingness to sacrifice a day of fun and fulfilling work to attend the final celebration of life for some douchebag who had the gall to kick the bucket without checking their second cousin's day-off calendar first. Grief is already experienced for only those fleeting moments we spend attending funeral services; it is unseemly to defer our limited 40- to 90-minute mourning periods until such a time as we can gather together in meaningful community.

Alas, that's the world we live in today! We can lay much of the blame on the obvious culprits — video games, reefer, and heavy metal music — but we would be doing ourselves a disservice if we did not admit that we are responsible for making time for what matters. The next time a cherished friend, loved one, or colleague sets off on that long, mysterious journey to the undiscovered country, we must prioritize the apres-ski reservations at the lodge bar.

#advice #bad advice #funerals #death #dying #dear prudence #grief #loss #kids these days #what is the world coming to #the good old days

[wrathfulrook]

Far Cry 5 as Text Posts - John Seed

#fc5 text posts #john seed #fc5 #far cry 5 #the one that is blatantly just a photo of a book is from Danny Lavery's Dear Prudence book

[glidingsilvery]

Belle Épine (Dear Prudence) 2010

#Belle Épine #dear prudence #rebecca zlotowski #swann arlaud #Agathe Schlencker #SwannActing

[recliningbacchante]

#dear prudence #siouxsie and the banshees #hyæna #hyaena

[theoriginallittledarling]

Here’s a real musiciany post for all of you

Today I’ve been trying to learn the baseline in Dear Prudence, the real distinct part that stands out in the second verse. The entire baseline is on the D string

I first noticed that Paul slides out of each not before playing the next higher note each time, so I started trying to play it by playing the note, sliding down the neck, and playing the next 2 notes.

My brother told me that I needed to slide into the note rather than sliding out of it, so I started learning it that way; slide into the note, play the next note, then play the string open before sliding into the next note

After listening to it again I realized that he’s actually doing both, sliding up the string into the note, playing a half step next, then sliding out of the half step, then sliding back into the same half step, then playing another half step and so on

It’s such a good bassline and I’m really not a good enough bassist to be trying to play it

#but I guess that’s how we get better isn’t it #Paul sliding up and down that d string on John’s song #mclennon? #Paul McCartney #beatles #the beatles #dear prudence #hofner bass #bass #bass player #john lennon #white album

[superfluffychickens]

Baby Pru tries “dustbathing” on my lap!

#my mom chose her name from the Beatles song Dear Prudence #chicken #chickens #backyard chickens #chickenblr #farmcore #pet chicken #Pru the chicken #plymouth rock #barred rock #video #baby time 2023

[kdo-three]

Siouxsie and The Banshees - Dear Prudence (1983) John Lennon from: "Dear Prudence" / "Tattoo" (Single) "Hyæna" ( US LP|CD) "Hyæna" (CD) (2009 CD Reissue Bonus Track)

Post-Punk | Neo-Psychedelia | The Beatles

JukeHostUK: (left click = play) (320kbps)

Album Personnel: Siouxsie Sioux: Vocals Robert Smith: Guitars / Keyboards Steven Severin: Electric Bass / Keyboards Budgie: Drums / Percussion / Marimba

Robin Canter: Woodwinds The Chandos Players: Strings

Produced by Mike Hedges / Siouxsie and The Banshees

Recorded: @ The Angel Recording Studios in Islington, London England UK and The Europafilm Studios in Stockholm, Sweden July, 1983

Single Released: on September 23, 1983 Polydor Records/Wonderland Records (UK) in North America May, 1984 Geffen Records (US)

#Siouxsie Sioux #The Beatles #1980's #Dear Prudence #Siouxsie and The Banshees #John Lennon #Robert Smith #Budgie #Steven Severin #Neo-Psychedelia #Post-Punk

[bookgeekgrrl]

My media this week (10-16 Mar 2024)

📚 STUFF I READ 📚

🥰 Art Thief, Heart Thief (odetteandodile) - 58K, stucky white collar inspired AU - enjoyed how author took the WC set up (fbi art agent, criminal consultant) and made it theirs & perfect for stucky

💖💖 +195K of shorter fic so shout out to these I really loved 💖💖

Midlife Crisis (profoundalpacakitten) - MCU: stucky, 7K - reread, forever fave - the quiet, piercing, understated tenderness in this fic is unmatched

Progredi (justanotherStonyfan) - MCU: shrunkyclunks, 37K - the next installment in the fabulous Honey Honey series

Pistachios and Rose Water (goldsaffron) - The Old Guard: kaysanova, 15K - J&N spend 10 years putting down roots, building a home & collecting a found family as Nicky learns to express his love through food

Consensual Catfishing (foresthearts) - Stranger Things: steddie, 32K - modern AU, told via social media - delightful story! adored these characters & their voices and using all different sorts of SM to tell it. brilliant idea, adeptly executed. the art is also pretty great

they're going to send us to prison for jerks (greatunironic) - Stranger Things: steddie, 16K - another really fun modern steddie with a strong social media AU premise

Os Impurum (the_deep_magic) - The Eagle | The Eagle of the Ninth: Marcus Flavius Aquila/Esca Mac CunovalMarcus/Esca, 18K - solidly good fic about marcus/esca post canon, esp marcus discovering some new things about himself 😉

📺 STUFF I WATCHED 📺

Ghosts (US) - s3, e5

Game Changer - s6, e3

D20: The Unsleeping City: Chapter II - "For the Hoard!" (s7, e15)

D20: The Unsleeping City: Chapter II - "Treachery at Gramercy" (s7, e16)

D20: The Unsleeping City: Chapter II - "Two Sides of the Same Coin (Part 1)" (s7, e17)

D20: The Unsleeping City: Chapter II - "Two Sides of the Same Coin (Part 2)" (s7, e18)

D20: Adventuring Party - s3, e12-16

Um, Actually - s9, e2

D20: Fantasy High: Junior Year - "Cursed Out" (s21, e10)

D20: Adventuring Party - "Cool Ranch Communion" (s16, e10)

D20: Tiny Heist - "Big Little Crimes" (s4, e1)

D20: Tiny Heist - "Chicanery at Shoeby's Casino" (s4, e2)

D20: Tiny Heist - "Scheming and Scoring Fairy Dust" (s4, e3)

Agatha Christie's Marple - "The Secret of Chimneys" (s5, e2) [shout out to @leupagus for this rec; they were not wrong about the acting choices made here 🤩]

🎧 PODCASTS 🎧

Worlds Beyond Number: Fireside - Fireside Chat for WWW ep001 The Open Door

What Next: TBD - Instagram’s Pedophile Problem

Desert Island Discs - Cillian Murphy, actor

WikiHole - Lenny Kravitz (with Paul F. Tompkins, Drew Tarver, and Heléne Yorke)

This Cultural Life - Andrew Scott

Pop Culture Happy Hour - Our 2024 Oscars Recap

The Atlas Obscura Podcast - The Grave of XYZ

Vibe Check - Hey, Sis: featuring Morgan Parker

WikiHole with D'Arcy Carden - Fear of Dolphins (with Kumail Nanjiani, Emily Gordon, and Jonah Ray)

The Allusionist - 190. Craters

WikiHole with D'Arcy Carden - Tetris (with Adam Pally, Jon Gabrus and Blair Socci)

The Atlas Obscura Podcast - The Lighthouse Keeper

⭐ Vibe Check - A Special Conversation with Afeef Nessouli

Short Wave - What We Know About Long COVID, From Brain Fog to Fatigue

⭐ Decoder Ring - Why Stylists Rule the Red Carpet

⭐ 99% Invisible #573 - Toyetic

You Are Good - My Best Friend's Wedding w. Sam Sanders

If Books Could Kill - Lean In

The Atlas Obscura Podcast - Law of the Tongue

Imaginary Worlds - The Nine Lives of Red Dwarf

Today, Explained - Lip gloss, gum, and the Pill

Dear Prudence - My Ex Had Sex With My Brother. Help!

What Next: TBD - Is TikTok Cooked This Time?

Short Wave - Are We On The Brink Of A Nuclear Fusion Breakthrough?

Pop Culture Happy Hour - Love Lies Bleeding And What's Making Us Happy

Endless Thread - The Music Man, Part 1

Welcome to Night Vale #244 - A Multiplicity of Kevin

Today, Explained - Hollywood’s still not back

99% Invisible - The Power Broker #03: David Sims

Off Menu - Ep 233: Frankie Boyle (Live in Glasgow)

⭐ Hit Parade - Gotcha Covered Edition

🎶 MUSIC 🎶

The Donnas

Smooth Rockabilly

Respect: '60s Iconic Women

#sunday reading recap #bookgeekgrrl's reading habits #bookgeekgrrl's soundtracks #fanfic ftw #dropout tv #d20 #dimension 20 #ghosts (us) #the donnas #rockabilly #hit parade podcast #99% invisible podcast #decoder ring podcast #vibe check podcast #welcome to night vale #imaginary worlds podcast #off menu podcast #pop culture happy hour podcast #the atlas obscura podcast #what next: tbd podcast #desert island discs #short wave podcast #worlds beyond number: fireside podcast #wikihole podcast #endless thread podcast #today‚ explained podcast #this cultural life podcast #the allusionist podcast #dear prudence podcast #if books could kill podcast

[music-interpretation-review]

(Creep with Postmodern Jukebox is a contestant in the tournament, so it does not appear in this poll)

Videos under the cut

#chew on that #i know there's a lot of options but it was too hard narrowing it down any further #video #covers #cover #music #hayley reinhart #postmodern jukebox #casey abrams #morgan james #jeff goldblum #mildred snitzer orchestra #puddles pity party #long post #youtube #don't speak #seven nation army #black hole sun #lovefool #dear prudence #my baby just cares for me #can't help falling in love #i put a spell on you #sail #mad world #music review poll

[alrightsnaps]

can't stop thinking about charithra chandran as prudence daly i’m afraid

#the life and times #tlat #marauders era #prudence daly #marlene was right she's literally dear prudence 😭 #still on my tlat bullshit thank you very much #btw im THIS close to making a kathony edit with the quaffle and the snitch quote #no offence to edwina cause

[ubiq80]

Siouxsie and the Banshees. 1983

#siouxsie and the banshees #dear prudence #80s #vintage ads

[thatbadadvice]

Help! My Girlfriend Didn't Appreciate The Awesome Present I Gave her

Dear Prudence, Slate, 9 January 2023:

Dear Prudence, 

My girlfriend thinks I’m trying to undermine her. How do I prove to her I’m not? My girlfriend “Katie” (33F) and I (30M) have been dating for three months, and so far it had been going very well. I even thought we could become very serious. However, something has changed, and I’m worried that she’s getting cold feet.

This all started a few days ago, when my parents dropped by my place to chat. Katie was in the kitchen, making the two of us dinner. My parents and Katie have met a couple of times before, and they seem to get along. Additionally, Katie’s normally very calm and easygoing. However, when my mom walked into the kitchen to help out, Katie seemed to become irritated. She said that she “prefers to cook alone,” and when my mom grabbed a knife and some carrots and started to chop them up for her, Katie asked her not to cut them because they have to be cut “a certain way.” Katie told my mom that she didn’t want help and demanded that she go back into the living room area.

I’d never seen Katie this upset, and I wasn’t happy with how she treated my mom. When my mom left the kitchen, I hugged her and said, “Sorry about that.” I asked Katie what was going on and she said nothing, but at the time, I was alarmed and suspicious. Later that evening, I had to get some groceries, and while I was at the supermarket, I decided to pick up some Midol as a nice gesture. I didn’t know if Katie was on her period, but knowing that she isn’t normally this irritable, it seemed possible to me and if she was, she might appreciate the gift. When I got back, Katie was watching the World Cup, and I silently placed the Midol on top of her bag. Katie gave me a weird look and asked why I had bought her Midol, and I said it was because of how she had acted with my mother earlier.

Katie did not like this explanation. She said she was annoyed because she didn’t want someone interfering with her cooking, not because she was on her period. She said it made her think that I don’t take her feelings seriously and am trying to “undermine the legitimacy of her emotions.” I explained that this wasn’t true, but I don’t know if she believed me. I think the damage might have been done. How can I salvage the relationship and win back Katie’s trust? — Midol Mishap

Dear Midol Mishap,

Does Katie usually have a problem with self-soothing, or does it mostly happen during meals where people enter her space uninvited and intentionally disregard her stated preferences when she tends to act out like this? Does bedtime/bathtime usually go okay? Can you drop her off at the office without tears and a tantrum? Figuring out the answer to this question will reveal the extent to which this relationship can be salvaged, but I think you're in for an uphill battle if silently leaving a box of bitch pills on a woman's purse doesn't have her running back into your arms with relief and appreciation for the thoughtful care you showed her while she was being a real cunt.

Usually women appreciate being told that their emotions are wrong, and welcome thoughtful explanations from men about how the things they have felt and experienced are incorrect due to being incongruent with a man's feelings and experiences. But some women, and it sounds like Katie might be one of them, lack the self-awareness necessary to recognize that the things they believe they think they interpret as being insulting, disrespectful, and patronizing are not that way because some dude somewhere said so.

It might be worth opening up a dialogue with your mother about how to handle Katie; I don't mean to suggest that all women are the same (that would be sexist, yikes!) but you have both experienced what it is like to be under the thumb of someone as cruel and controlling as Katie, and you may be able to offer each other some comfort while you figure out how to get the woman you've been fucking for three months back on the right path, in terms of her behavior and emotional regulation. Meds are a great start — Midol is an absolute miracle drug for shutting down an ungrateful cow — but you can't just crush it up over Katie's ice cream every night.

The right solution is going to necessarily involve some effort on Katie's part to tell you only what you want to hear and agree with everything you say, and she might just not be mature enough to do that kind of hard internal work right now. A lot of people wouldn't — they'd say they have a right to assert boundaries, be taken seriously as full human beings, and not have their legitimate concerns belittled as mere hormonal hysterics of an unstable female — but it's possible Katie is capable of real change. The next time she has one of her little episodes, try using a little babydoll to coax Katie into seeing what a silly little monkey she's being when she rejects the precious opportunity to bond with your sweet mama by letting her do whatever she wants no matter what. Katie could speak directly to the doll about how she believes she thinks feels until she's ready to express the emotions you want her to have.

If you try this, you might want to wait until after dinner, when the knives are put away, just in case. Best of luck, dear boy!

#midol #PMS #advice #bad advice #dear prudence #sexism #misogyny #parents #parenting #cooking #too many cooks in the kitchen #too many cooks #just so many cooks