#dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome

[frogaroundandfindout]

Ik people say there’s a lot of Parentification going on in dick and Bruce’s relationship because Dick took care of Damian while Bruce was gone, but I want to read a fic where the Parentification follows the textbook definition

“when a child is regularly expected to provide emotional or practical support for a parent, instead of receiving that support themselves”

AND I want the bat siblings to all fucking realize it and be like yo it’s actually weird that we all jokingly call our older brother mom because of how much he takes care of Bruce and us????? Like that’s weird right???

#dick grayson #richard grayson #nightwing #Batman #Bruce Wayne #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome

[melmov]

Watching the people you care most for have more important people to care about

#yeah… #I’m having feelings… #dick grayson #nightwing #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #batfam #fanart #dc #dc fanart #nightwing fanart #art #my art #digital art #doodle

[undertheredhood]

bruce after gotham war: why don't my children talk to me?

dick who is so done with him: it's the way you act! it's the way you act!

#dc comics #dc universe #dcu #batman #bruce wayne #bruce thomas wayne #nightwing #dick grayson #richard grayson #richard john grayson #dick even does the hand gestures to get his point across #bruce thinks it's very annoying but too bad for him because dick will continue to be annoying him until the end of time #sometimes you just gotta fight your dad who is a paranoid furry #the batkids (especially jason) are cheering dick on #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #dick is carrying this entire family on his back #dick grayson needs a break #dick grayson is so done #dick grayson needs a vacation #you know you've fucked up when you've got dick grayson calling you out for your bs #when it comes to calling bruce out on his bs dick grayson is never wrong

[galaxymagitech]

“You have to understand that I know. You’re right. You’re right to hit me. You’re right to say all of that…it was my burden to keep, my blame to take, my lie to tell. Not yours. I’m the oldest. I carried that. So you didn’t have to.”

Dick no—

#this run is so messed up #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #batman #dick grayson #tim drake #jason todd #dc comics #dcu #dc #batfamily #batfam

[goodoldfashionedengineer]

#batfam #batfamily #dc #dc polls #dc poll #poll #dick grayson #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #batkids #batsiblings #these are the two I have seen most often #yes there is an entire tag about dick having eldest daughter syndrome #but tim is also eldest child coded in my opinion #I know a lot of oldest children who played the therapist in the family and thus relate to tim a lot #polls #dc comics #batman

[melloollem]

Richard Grayson was decoded by Nothing New-Taylor swift.

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I'm too lazy to work on it now.

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[sourslices]

hc that the titans know/knew dick better than the batfam — and it makes sense, but i dont feel like elaborating on this part. anyway...

it'd be nice to see too, yk... considering dick is the eldest in the batfam and (in at least fan content) he's known to be very caring about family and yadda yadda.

dick was the first. the first child hero/sidekick, the first robin... the leader of the titans. a charismatic leader, a faithful friend. most people idolise him, and even if you get disillusioned after getting to know him personally, there's still a certain amount of admiration and respect that will never go away when it comes to nightwing.

this also works with the yj universe — esp yj because dick's the youngest out of all of them (not too sure abt the titans, but ik he isnt the youngest)

damian's perhaps the closest to dick out of the batfam. most people are aware of the distance between them and him but jason and tim don't realise that they don't know a lot about his brother...

it starts with cass calling him out for pretending to be okay and even trying to adjust his body language to hide his fatigue and his wounds. it goes on with jason commenting about a movie night that dick had wrestled everyone into (the movie had been steph's choice btw) and then either roy or kori respond like this.

jason: *off-handedly commenting abt the movie night and dick*

roy/kori: ???

roy/kori: we saw that movie when it came out. dick hated it and swore not to watch it ever again lmaooo

or maybe it was food. jason talks abt alfred's meals and then kori chuckles and recalls how dick had told her that he wasn't too fond of alfred's cooking. jason had been like "???" because dick always acted like he loved it and then roy goes like no lmaooo dick finds most of alfred's food kinda tasteless. something about british men and not knowing how to put seasoning

when jason confronts dick, dick admits to it

dick: okay yeah true

dick: i didnt rlly like alfie's cooking when i first came here but he got better... gradually. it's better than before but

dick: ...if you ask me, i prefer his baking.

jason: roy said smth about him trying to make one of your ma's recipes

dick: i never asked him again.

dick: (starts thinking about how he had nobody to teach him how to cook like his parents did and becomes SadTM)

and then cass damian and duke all go like "??? im not alone ??" because in reality they all find alfred's cooking a little... subpar. its not bad per say but u have to rmbr alfred is old white british man and there are battles you lose. anyway, cass damian duke and dick all bond over this because they thought it was only them who found the meals prepared a little... yk. alfred still works on getting better but there is nothing that will beat food made by hands who know how it shld taste yk...

(sorry about the alfred slander)

anyway, tim starts to realise despite being dick's little brother, and the only little brother dickie had for a while, there's a lot he still doesnt know abt the guy. which is funny because tim used to essentially stalk him

kori and dick make up after a long discussion about assault and victim blaming and there are a lot of apologies and they resolve their remaining issues (that doesn't mean what happened was okay, or it was forgotten or whatever)

dick actually asks for some space and tells her their friendship will probably never be what it was and kori is sad but is like. okay. they're still friends after a few months of distance and a lot of therapy on dick's side. he didn't blame her for any of it but he still needed... time

roy and dick also sort their shit out. im unclear as to what that shit actually is because roy used to adore dick when they were speedy and robin but whatever they sort it out and there's some homoerotic tension between them im telling u... dick still asks for space el oh el it takes a while to recover from years of distance and they're not the same

but just because they aren't the same doesn't mean everything's different.

the titans are subjected to the changes in dick and they watch him interact with the batfam, meanwhile batfam realises they don't know a lot abt dickie while watching the titans take care of him in several different ways while they, despite being a family of investigators, didnt know smth was up. it's mostly donna who does the "taking care of"

ik i actually didn't mention many of the titans but... yeah

#dick grayson #donna troy #roy harper #kori'ander #did i spell it right #hope i did lol #batfamily #teen titans #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #he needs to be taken care of #and he does! by his friends #titans are found family #you can pry those ideas from my cold dead hands #in a better world we would have never had kori as a victim-blamer #the mirage shit was a MESS.

[tailsfromthecrypt]

Dick Grayson absolutely sobbing while singing Oldest by Brooke Alexx at the top of his lungs

#dick grayson #richard grayson #dc universe #Batman #dick Grayson has eldest daughter syndrome

[lothioriens]

sorry I forgot to post about this one do you still think I’m hot

summary: No amount of experience with ghosts ever took away the feeling of just missing something, the way Dick felt when he tried to look this one in the face. He remembered it like a scratch in the record, skipping over the same moment again and again, until he got a headache and had to turn away.

These days, Dick focused his eyes on the hair. At least the hair stayed.

“Hello, Jason.” He murmured, and took a sip of his sparkling grape. . . . Or, Dick learns to let go.

#dick grayson #jason todd #dick grayson & jason todd #discussions of death #haunting #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrome #dick grayson fanfiction #my fanfiction #bee buzzes #archive of our own

[imtiredthatsalligot]

F Scott Fitzgerald, Tender is the Night/ New Titans #55/ I.B. Vyache Conversations over Sanguinacchio/ Tales of the Teen Titans #50/ Unknown/ Grayson #9/ Fleabag Episode 2.6/ Outsiders #8/ Hera Lindsay Bird, Mirror Traps/ Robin and Batman #3/The Amazing Devil, Farewell Wanderlust/ Batman Year 3/ Natalie Wee, Our Bodies and Other Fine Machines/ Preludes to the Wedding Nightwing vs Hush  

#I'm having thoughts #this has been in my drafts forever #dick grayson #nightwing #bruce wayne #batman #bruce you gave the poor boy eldest daughter syndrome

[tarucore]

screenshotting this one bc I can acknowledge that I’ve got shipper goggles on and op isn’t about that life which is fair but

I feel like batfam fans misunderstand the term parentification a lot and conflate it with Dick filling a parental role for his siblings, which might be part of the “oldest daughter syndrome” that’s so often pinned on him but that isn’t what parentification actually means

If I say that Dick Grayson was parentified, then that isn’t referring to him taking care of his siblings, it refers to the way Bruce treated him. As someone capable of taking care of his emotional needs and not as the child in need of care in the relationship

Parentification is a term that’s been around for decades, and while having to care for younger siblings might be a part of the definition, it focuses mostly on the role reversal of the parent-child dynamic. I’m not going to get into the psychology of it but being parentified has very little to do with if he actually acted as a parent for his siblings and everything to do with if he acted as a parent for Bruce

This is honestly why I prefer the term spouseification, which is less ambiguous than the term parentification and I feel accurately describes their “equal” relationship and the type of emotional abuse that Dick went through

Also from what I’ve read, Dick doesn’t act as a parental figure for any of his siblings except for Damian. While he might have given extra emotional support to Tim due to Bruce being Bruce, Dick still fits solidly into an older brother role. I’m not even going to touch on Dick’s relationship with Jason which is too weak to even be considered fraternal never mind parental

#cw abuse #cw emotional abuse #dick grayson analysis #dickie bird #idk why I went off like this but parentification really has nothing to do with the siblings #like that’s not the psychological term #eldest daughter syndrome is mostly a pop psychology thing #it might be a real phenomenon that is heavily influenced by parentification but they aren’t synonyms #I’m hesitantly tagging this #brudick #just because I mentioned I ship them and want to do anyone that blocks that tag the courtesy of ignoring me #bruce wayne #and another thing!!!! i don’t consider dick’s relationship with damian negatively at all #it was extreme circumstances as comic books often are and they have a very healthy parent/child relationship from what i’ve seen #*

[melmov]

I cast: curse of the eldest (can’t ask for help)

#dick grayson #nightwing #jason todd #red hood #dc #art #my art #digital art #fanart #dick has eldest daughter syndrome #cant ask for help or burden anyone but will always be there for everyone else #Jason sees right through him but he doesn’t know how to make someone feel comfortable with being open #ugh I have so many feels #I’m about to make dick and Damian art because me and my youngest siblings are closest and idk how to even talk to the others

[punkeropercyjackson]

I have the reverse of the Cain Instinct.My siblings can do no wrong in my eyes even when they're being huge dickbags and when people are mean to them my reaction is to yell at them to get off their asses or hit them.The Nightwing Instinct?Idk

#this post was brought to by the 'was bullied growing up due to the normalization of peer abuse and has intergenerational trauma' gang #the batkids #la familia jackson #ruby and yang #dick grayson #jason todd #tim drake #cassandra cain #duke thomas #damian wayne #stephanie brown #percy jackson #nico di angelo #hazel levesque #estelle jackson #yang xiao long #rwby ruby rose #ruby tag #batfam #teen titans #pjo #rwby #the anomalies #eldest daughter syndrome #siblings tag #traumatize your parents back #💌 #trans 4 trans and autistic 4 autistic found family realness #black/latino #summerposting

[wondertwinsenthusiast]

When I said I want Dick to pick Damian up and run for the hills after Gotham war I did NOT think the other 666 batkids would be included in this. Oh well, fuck. How did he even tell Babs? "Congrats you're a mom"?

#gotham war #batfam #dick grayson has eldest daughter syndrom #dick grayson #damian wayne #bruce wayne is a dumbass #batkids

[archeronlochan]

you know what we don’t talk about enough?

dick grayson’s anger issues

#it’s just not mentioned very often in fanwork and it’s kinda key to his characterization imo #Jason is always the “angry one” but dick’s just better at controlling/hiding it #he has the calm scary anger and Jason is the loud one #fucking eldest daughter syndrome at its finest #dick grayson #batfam #dc comics #batkids #nightwing #dc robin #robin #angry!dick grayson #dick grayson characterization

[celestial-ringleader]

“. . .I still feel like I’ve got a circus tent on my back. . .this is like a ballgown made of kevlar!”

I’ve been thinking way too much about Dick as Batman............ @ronnyraygun

#ive been forced into a role i didnt want bc i dont want to be like my adoptive dad but also #no one else is gonna do it so i guess i gotta #dick grayson #nightwing #richard grayson #dc fanart #listen ive been staring at all those batman variant covers that have religous symbolism #and the muse just possessed me #not rlly eldest daughter syndrome but more like #this was such a good era for him #i blame ron for kicking me in the ass to do it instead of sitting on it forever #dick has such an atlas complex bc of his survivor's guilt and i love him for it <3