#female socialization

[recycled-cotton-knit]

This one is for the TIMs 💕

#radblr #radical feminist safe #radical feminists do interact #gender critical #radical feminism #radical feminists do touch #radical feminist community #male socialization #female socialization

[inqilabi]

modesty culture is still a culture of sexualization

#feminism 101 #female socialization #womanhood

[redditreceipts]

female socialisation vs. male socialisation in one picture

#radblr #radical feminism #radical feminists do interact #radical feminists please touch #gender critical #feminism #terfblr #gc feminism #gc feminist #gender abolition #radfems please touch #radfems please interact #radfem safe #listen to trans women #misogyny #male socialization #female socialization

[butch-reidentified]

it's so cute how everyone acknowledges grooming as a real thing but as soon as we say (such as in conversations about female body hair removal) girls/women are groomed our entire lives to appeal to men, we're "misogynistic" for "calling women stupid"

Edit Jan 7, 2024:

My wife thinks I should have included an analogy in the original post (like the CEO example in my recent reblog), but in my conversation with her she pointed out that under the broad definition of grooming, all raising of children could be considered "grooming them for adult life." She makes a good point!!

The actual definition isn't inherently about sexual predation despite what the internet may have led some of you to assume. This is a good opportunity for me to remind *everyone* to fact check *everything* you learn online before repeating it to anyone and possibly spreading misinformation - including definitions of words you learn online! We ALL do this sometimes!

Screenshot below of #2 and #3 under the definition of "grooming" (#1 is obviously about animal fur lol):

I do find it interesting that the broader definition (#2) inherently includes what is detailed in #3, yet #3 was explicitly added (I assume at a later date than #2, given the context and numerical order). It's redundant, and I do have some criticisms of the way it's worded/the specifics of it. I wonder how other dictionaries define it.

#mine #grooming #feminism #femsoc #female socialization #feminist theory #feminist discourse

[tedhugheshater]

Men have intellectuals; women have manic pixie dream girls. Men have classics; women have shallow chick lit. Men are depressed; women are hysterical. Men have unique innovators; women have pick-me's. Men have confidence; women have vanity. Men have correct anger in the face of injustice; women have exaggerated feelings of self-victimization.

#mine #methinks #🐝 #radblr #double standards #feminism #female socialization #hall of fame

[annarexcouture]

So, because I'm a beautiful woman, the only reason any man wants to talk to me is because he wants to fuck me? Is that what you're saying?

[nakanx]

this is why it’s so important for feminists to talk about motherhood as well, instead of just saying “everyone should be child free” and leaving it at that. this is a HORRIBLE double standard that i’ve even noticed with my parents (my mom works during the day and dad stays home). when my mom is sick, she still does what needs done. my dad, however, hides in his room and ignores all responsibilities. it has nothing to do with who does the majority of the household duties and everything to do with male vs. female socialization.

#male socialization #female socialization #parenting #motherhood #radical feminists please interact #radical feminism #radical misandrist #radical feminist community #radical feminists please touch #radical feminst #radblr #radical feminists do interact #radical feminist safe #radfem #radfems do touch

[lilithism1848]

#radical feminism #feminism #sexism #anti capitalism #socialism #female socialization #sex based oppression #gender roles #male violence #feminist theory #feminist #anarchy #trans exclusionary radical feminist #radical feminists do touch #radical feminist safe #radical feminist community #radical feminists do interact #womens rights #fuck the patriarchy #intersectionality #activism #international womens day

[pussy-ache]

#female socialization #shaving #radical feminism #choice

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: Pleasure-Centric Sex Ed. Facts Every Woman Should Know

Some basic sex education: Decentralized from men and heteronormative perceptions of sexual pleasure.

Important for everyone AFAB with any sexual orientation: heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, asexual, trans, non-binary, etc. Here are some ways to reclaim your sexuality from the patriarchy and heteronormative gaze.

Understand your anatomy, seriously. The clitoris is the female sex organ responsible for pleasure, not the vagina. While you may think of the bean as an isolated love button, it is actually anatomically analogous to an inverted penis and extends internally through the inside of your vaginal wall and the inner lips of your vulva. If you want to more aptly gauge your state of physical arousal, evaluate for hardness in addition to wetness (yes, it looks like a mini boner, lol).

All female (genital-induced) orgasms are clitoral orgasms. Whether they're external, internal, or both. Like its male anatomical equivalent, every clitoris has its own unique shape and size, which can be best stimulated in different ways externally and internally depending on your personal anatomy. Common pleasure zones include the external head "the clit," the "G-spot" (around 2-3 inches deep on the front of the vaginal wall), the "A-spot" (around 4-6 inches deep on the front of the vaginal wall), and anal region (stimulates clitoral legs for some AFABs).

Remember your brain is one of the most important sex organs. Sex is as (or more) mental as it is physical. According to Dr. Emily Nagoski, it is more common for AFABs to have a responsive desire style (aroused by their external environment/erotic cues that stimulate the 5 senses) versus a spontaneous desire style ("heat of the moment" sexual desire that requires minimal foreplay/build-up for pleasure and gratification).

The cervix height and density changes (and can affect how you experience sexual pleasure) throughout your cycle. If a certain position hurts sometimes and is pleasurable at others – whether alone or partnered, know this is normal. Your cervix tends to sit lower with a firmer texture from the end of your cycle and progressively raises/gets softer (thanks to rising estrogen levels) until it reaches its peak height & softness around ovulation. The cervix opens slightly during ovulation and right before/during menstruation (haven't seen a study researching the correlation between cervix opening and higher libido, but I would love to see one on this due to the correlation here for so many women). Learn what positions and techniques are most enjoyable for you during different times of the month (consider this practice as cycle syncing for your sex life).

#sex education #sex advice #female sexuality #sexuality #patriarchy #intersectional feminism #female pleasure #female socialization #women's health #women's rights #health and wellness #femme fatale #dark feminine energy #dark femininity #it girl #high value woman #the feminine urge #high value mindset #female power #queen energy #dream girl #female excellence #knowledge is power #femmefatalevibe

[radsplain]

what’s so funny to me is the fact that i see SO many more trans-identified women identifying as trans masc now instead of as “Trans Men” because even subconsciously they’re still not comfortable fully identifying as “men” (probably because of the ingrained imposter syndrome that women tend to struggle with, except this time they actually would be the imposter, but i digress) whereas the vast majority of trans-identified men rarely identify as trans femme but rather loudly and unashamedly as “Trans Women,” most likely due to their sheer audacious levels of male entitlement and confidence. Like lmao

#an underrated and frankly hilarious example of female socialization imo #radical feminism #gender critical #female socialization #radsplain.txt

[haggishlyhagging]

Another way to solve the paradox of depressed wives reporting their marriages as happy is to view the socialization process as one which "deforms" them in order to fit them for marriage as now structured. We cut the motivational wings of young women or bind their intellectual feet, all the time reassuring them that it is all for their own good. Otherwise, no one would love them or marry them or take care of them. Or, if anyone did, they would be unhappy and feel caged if they had wings and could not fly, or unbound feet and could not run.

There may have been a time when this made sense. It might well be asked if it still does. But whether it makes sense or not, we are quite remarkably successful. We do not clip wings or bind feet, but we do make girls sick. For to be happy in a relationship which imposes so many impediments on her, as traditional marriage does, a woman must be slightly ill mentally. Women accustomed to expressing themselves freely could not be happy in such a relationship; it would be too confining and too punitive. We therefore "deform" the minds of girls, as traditional Chinese used to deform their feet, in order to shape them for happiness in marriage. It may therefore be that married women say they are happy because they are sick rather than sick because they are married.

There are some researchers who believe that this is indeed the case. They note that our standards of mental health for men are quite different from those for women, that if we judged women by the standards which we apply to men they would show up as far from well. A generation ago, Terman could judge women who were conformist, conservative, docile, unaggressive, lacking in decisiveness, cautious, nontolerant to be emotionally stable and well balanced. They were the women who had achieved an adjustment standard of mental health. They fitted the situation they were trained from infancy to fit. They enjoyed conformity to it. They were his "happily" married women.

But modern clinicians see them in a different light. Inge K. Broverman and her associates, for example, ask whether a constellation of traits which includes "being more submissive, less independent, less adventurous, more easily influenced, less aggressive, less competitive, more excitable in minor crises, having their feelings more easily hurt, being more emotional, more conceited about their appearance, less objective"—a constellation of traits which a set of clinicians attributed to mature adult women—isn't a strange way of "describing any mature, healthy individual." These researchers conclude that we have a double standard of mental health, one for men and one for women. We incorporate into our standards of mental health for women the defects necessary for successful adjustment in marriage.

We do our socializing of girls so well, in fact, that many wives, perhaps most, not only feel that they are fulfilled by marriage but even hotly resent anyone who raises questions about their marital happiness. They have been so completely shaped for their dependency and passivity that the very threat of changes that would force them to greater independence frightens them. They have successfully come to terms with the conditions of their lives. The do not know any other They do not know that other patterns of living might yield greater satisfactions, or want to know. Their cage can be open. They will stay put.

-Jessie Bernard, The Future of Marriage

#jessie bernard #marriage #female mental health #female oppression #female socialization

[chlorinatedpopsicle]

Recently, there's been a popular post on radblr discussing how women aren't allowed to have fun like men are, and how men get applauded for doing stupid shit while women get mocked.

I just stumbled upon an example of this in the wild.

Someone on r/stupidfood posted a vid of this woman who filled a fanny pack with spaghetti and ate it while skydiving. It was funny. She was clearly just being silly for silliness' sake.

Not only was the post tag calling her "stupid", the comments were like 95% making fun of her, calling her an idiot, criticizing her skydiving etiquette, saying the spaghetti looked gross, and just generally bitching about anything and everything.

I was SO GLAD to see these people in the comments pointing out how weird that is:

They're absolutely right. If it were a guy doing this, people would just think it's funny!!! People would be in the comments calling him a legend and a mad lad.

Filthy Frank could eat ravioli out of his shirt pocket as a stupid joke, and people could understand that he was doing a deliberately stupid thing as a funny bit. But when a woman does something similar, it must just be because she's stupid and annoying and probably trying too hard to be quirky. Fuck off.

#mine #misogyny #female oppression #gender roles/norms/stereotypes #male bullshit #why we need female only spaces #female socialization

[queerism1969]

#abortion rights #abortion #reproductive rights #roe v wade #pro choice #reproductive health #pro life #radical feminism #intersectional feminism #feminism #patriarchy #male violence #beauty standards #misandry #female socialization #reproductive justice #transgender rights

[pussyistheforbiddenfruit]

I wonder how long men have to rape, abuse, kill, beat, hurt, terrorize, enslave, harm, torture, suffocate, mock, insult, traumatize, torment, mistreat, molest, overburden, mutilate, oppress, ill-treat, objectify, sexualize and degrade women until they finally wake up the fuck up about male nature.

#blackpill feminism #pinkpill feminism #radical feminism #female separatism #female socialization #male nature #males are predators #men are superior #men are the problem

[hadesoftheladies]

it isn't empowering for girls to see adultified/sexualized adolescent female characters in media, actually. get that child a pack of legos, a nintendo and a juice box you creeps.

#mine #radblr #female empowerment #women in media #girls in media #she should be climbing trees not trying on makeup cry about it #female socialization #girls #it is very important that girls be allowed to goof off in books and movies actually #especially now #they need whimsy #not whatever the fuck is happening at netflix and disney