#feminsm

[sinligh]

i want peace,

not the measured one that life offers me from time to time like a band-aid that will be ripped off before I heal

I want it like a graft,

patching up the exposed areas that i scraped off of my soul to feel lighter..

to move on.

I’m trying to write an independent story from all the tragedies of the women around me

digging my own plot with my nails on the exact same rocks that were used

to stone them..

carrying the guilt of that, the way they carried the shame of existence. The only difference is i refuse to ask for forgiveness.

sometimes it feels like all my feelings are over felt, if not by me then someone else.

I've seen it over and over again I, the eye of an outsider

or that of the storm

stood still when it all spiraled around me, I held on to the rubble,

and cemented myself back together

more often than not, I did it with rage so whenever i got spilled, like blood under an old rug,

with all my particles separated into different identities, unseen, uncared for while i floated in an astral projection status

Ironically, the core was always one

rage, rage again…

aging rage!

It's all that i know, it's all the shades.

I exist, Like an ugly bruise

Violet fading to blue, violent, contrasting the softness that i long for.

I can't seem to explain my existence to anyone, not even myself.

a bruise, self inflicted or not, I can’t stop examining it, obsessively

dissecting pieces of my soul, trying to find a marker for the malicious cells that overgrown my own.

In the daylight I get fascinated by the way it changes colors, and when sleep sits heavy on my eyelids i press on it harder,

curious to where will i draw my threshold line.. do i know how to exist without all this pain?

am i just a phantom of coping mechanisms, and survival instincts,

Shades of hysteria, along with estrogen ?

this world constantly seems bigger than me, that’s my only comfort.

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• Quotes: Taylor Swift/ Charles Bukowski/ Henry Miller/ anne sexton/ Louis Tomlinson/ Anaïs Nin/ Rainer Maria Rilke.

•original context: Sinligh

•Art reference:

1. painting by marta astrain. 2. Omen, 1886, by Emile Corsi 3. Oil paintings by Jen Mazza 4. Art by Liu Yuanshou 5. Art (detail) by Arthur Gain

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#sinligh poem #personal writing #on rage #female rage #on enduring #quotes #taylor swift #charles bukowski #henry miller #anne sexton #louis tomlinson #anaïs nin #rainer maria rilke #web weaving #word weaving #blotched words #compilation #spilled poem #literature #writers on tumblr #parallels #art #paintings #art parallels #art compilation #dark academia #exhaustion #feminine rage #feminsm #fuck the patriarchy

[delusions-inpink]

#girlblogging #gaslight gatekeep girlboss #female experience #coquette #female manipulator #cinammon girl #lana del rey #female rage #girl interrupted #taylor swift #my year of rest and relaxation #lana del ray aka lizzy grant #sleepy #girly blog #manic pixie dream girl #it girl #feminine urge #feminsm #female hysteria #femininity #the virgin suicides #otessa moshfegh #waifspo #2014 nostalgia #2014 aesthetic #2014 grunge #2010s #2014 tumblr #girlhood

[nobrashfestivity]

Guerrilla Girls (Grup d'artistes) Do Women Have to Be Naked to Get into the Met. Museum?, 1989 Graphic material, 27.3 x 71.1 cm

#guerrilla girls #protest art #met museum #feminsm

[leportraitducadavre]

There’ll be a time when women will stop basing their gender perspective on Hollywood’s performative representation, which gives them the most basic form of feminism. One day they’ll stop demanding a female character to be the paragon of feminism within the story and allow her to be just a character, with her faults and virtues, without the pressure of being the representation of their gender inside that universe. Male characters get to have complexities without being considered the portrayal of their real-life counterparts; someday women will too, we just need to get rid of the performative feminism that invades fandoms.

#feminsm #feminists #female characters

[morlock-holmes]

This recent post by @dagny-hasshtaggart brought up some feelings that aren't really related to the original point being made.

One of the reasons "nerds" think through social theory in these systematic ways is because nerds are pretty much by definition people who do not have strong instincts in this area.

If you are good at, say, mathematics, you will have these "eureka!" moments; you'll just suddenly understand how to go about solving what was previously a knotty problem, and, if asked to explain how you got there, may have trouble explaining it other than that "the thought comes when it wills," as Nietzche said.

Some people don't tend to have nearly as many of these "eureka!" moments, and they probably struggle with math. Perhaps they need a lot more instruction to understand math than some other people, and maybe they will never achieve the deep understanding that allowed some few mathematicians to transform society.

Nonetheless they probably can learn some basic, or perhaps even fairly advanced math, if it is laid out systemically?

But people really rebel when I suggest that social behavior might work the same way, that a person without the instinct for it might nevertheless learn to get along well enough through directed practice.

In fact, I feel that right now society believes two things simultaneously:

That the social norms and niceties of traditional society are no longer morally justifiable or even practical on the base level, and society must engage in a radical reinvention of its social norms;

Social behavior exists only as a kind of eruption of pure instinct, and cannot really be taught as a skill; success in the social realm depends entirely on preconscious processes that aren't subject to rational thought or systemization.

And if you think that it would be incredibly disconcerting and difficult to believe both of those things at the same time, then congratulations on getting my point and thank you for coming to my ted talk.

When I talk about mainstream pop feminism, like I did below, I never know whether to include my personal reasoning. On the one hand, personal examples bring things into the concrete world, on the other hand, I feel like the sympathy I get, (Which I appreciate, but I have other issues besides just feminism) sometimes gets in the way of something that I deeply want other people to understand.

Which is that the kind of mainstream feminism espoused by your favorite podcaster and retweeted by your friends and repeated on tv shows is even more schizoid about this stuff then most of the rest of society.

This is a movement that (I have recently been reminded) spread the hashtag #TeachMenNotToRape a few years back and which is also, in my experience, completely and utterly at a loss when confronting a man who says, "I'm scared to express sexual desire because I don't feel like I know enough about consent to be sure that I'm actually getting it."

The reason you want heuristics, or rules, or whatever, is that they let you reason about unfamiliar situations.

Like, say I see an attractive girl at the bar and go over and ask for her number, and she feels creeped out by me. Almost everybody I've talked to says, "Well, you can accept those feelings with grace and respect them, but you can't take responsibility for somebody else feeling creeped out, that doesn't mean every woman you meet in a bar will feel that way."

But on the other hand, say I see an attractive girl in headphones riding the bus with me, should I go up and ask her for her number? Well, most people say, "Well, no, in that case most women would be really irritated and even creeped out, and since you can predict that you have a responsibility not to act that way."

The reason some nerd might want more than that is because, you can't make an exhaustive list of every situation, right? If I'm on a cruise ship or a see a cute cosplayer at a con, is that more like the bar situation or more like the bus situation?

Here's a conclusion I came to about ten years ago,

"Well, allistic people have a magical instinct that lets them know when those kind of expressions of attraction are okay and when they aren't. The reason I don't know which is which is because I'm autistic. And since I really don't know which situation is which, the only respectful thing to do is to never risk being wrong. But that shouldn't matter right? Because Women Like Sex As Much As Men Do(tm) so eventually, since I'm going to parties and hanging out in really progressive spaces, women will ask me out pretty often and then I won't have to take those risks of hurting people."

This is where my allistic, feminist friends just grab the bridge of their nose and have to go, "Well, no, it doesn't work that way, I mean, those are things that I say all the time and you should still believe them, just not in this context, so-"

And that just kicks the can down the road, right? Now my new question is, "How do I tell the feminist advice that every guy should follow apart from the stuff that's meant for like, the alpha male creeps but not for me? And isn't it still really really dangerous for me to mistake one for the other?"

At which point they try to fob me off onto a therapist because I'm obviously a hopeless case.

And I guess I have two points:

The first is, how is a movement where so much of the verbiage is about "teaching" men so entirely unprepared to teach men how to do anything? Doesn't anybody but me find that completely remarkable?

Second, the thing that unites a ton of counter-feminist movements is not "men just want an excuse to be sexist" nor is it that those movements are "more logical" except maybe in the very limited way that they are concerned with collapsing that schizoid mental state where men must, and yet cannot, be taught.

They offer heuristics and ideas that allow men to make systematic sense of the parts of the world that they do not otherwise instinctually grasp. This can be done in a positive way which looks honestly at the world or in a deeply toxic and negative way based on completely untrue premises (e.g. radical inceldom) but I'm not convinced it can be done at all in the context of mainstream feminism.

You can't tell people that they need to go elsewhere for instruction and then be surprised and offended when they do so!

#politics #philosophy #pop feminism #feminsm

[fyregrl]

#She Hulk #jen walters #marvel #MCU #feminsm

[thewickedonee]

The amount of hate Megan Rapinoe getting is truly sickening

#uswnt #megan rapinoe #wwc 2023 #woso #women football #women's soccer #feminsm #they really hate us

[delusions-inpink]

‘You hate me, I thought sometimes, when you see me drink or cry or cut myself, but you don’t hate me in the right way. Your disgust is domesticated. I fear that your distaste is that of your average husband— not the glittering and sexual kind that you used to show me when you looked down at me, before I won you.’

— acts of desperation by Megan Nolan

#girlblogging #gaslight gatekeep girlboss #female experience #coquette #female manipulator #lana del rey #cinammon girl #sadgirl #hate men #female sadness #femcel #feminsm #female hysteria #female rage #female villains #books and literature #literary #feminist literature #taylornation #taylor swift

[honeytonedhottie]

Hi! I am in the process of making a page about like feminism and uplifting women and girls and stuff like that do you have any topics I can start off with. :)

omg yayay 💗💗💗 i'd love to give some suggestions :

u can start off by talking ab the different waves of feminism, when and why it started and the early stages of feminism.

i think a good place to start is always the beginning so doing some research on the start of feminism would be so cool to learn about i'll support 💗💗💗

#feminsm #advice

[aziraphalewearingacardigan]

Question: where has the energy gone when it comes to fatphobia? How about we stop staring and fight back against those fatphobic statements? There are literally three different TikTok trends with lyrics about being thin being cooler. Literally "I'm thin, I'm blond" as a way to say you're better than people. The song that goes "fashion, fashion, confession" or whatever talks about being a "size zero", and I see you guys editing your favorite thin characters to it and saying they have a "sluty waist". And don't tell me that it's okay because it's about men because you have the exact same energy for non men, just with different words (also, it's not fine when it's about men either. What about having a thin waist make it sluty? Just say you think it's hot.) I literally heard an influencer saying she's a skinny legened. What the fuck are we doing. We're asleep at our posts, not fighting back in the name of the fat community so we as a society don't have to hear this shit anymore. This stuff is sneaky, too, but it's not empowerment. It's bullshit, fatphobic nonsense.

#fatphobia #skinnylegend #feminsm #body posititivity #fat positvity #body neutrality #crowley good omens

[fionaappleenjoyer]

Often father and daughter look down on mother (woman) together. They exchange meaningful glances when she misses a point. They agree that she is not bright as they are, cannot reason as they do. This collusion does not save the daughter from the mother's fate.

#feminsm #mother #mother issues #radblr #radfem #radical feminism #radical feminist safe

[aloeverawrites]

Okay so I have a theory and I need help figuring out whether it's bs or not.

So I study childism which is the children's rights movement. And I'm interested in the women's rights movement or womanism. And it gave me an idea.

My theory is that some misogyny that people learn is a result of resentment against a person's parents, specifically the parents that's spends more time with them or their mothers.

If child abuse is common as the two harmful parenting styles, permissive and authoritarian, are common, then maybe people are associating that trauma with their mothers and expanding that to women as a whole?

So I need to research the following things to see my theory:

Do women on average spend more time raising children then men?

Are mothers more likely to harm children then fathers?

Are women more likely to be emotionally abusive then fathers?

How do people react to different kinds of abuse?

Are the children of abusive fathers more likely to believe in toxic masculinity and sexist ideas against men?

What are common misogynistic ideas?

Are misogynistic people and men more likely to have a poor relationship with their mothers?

Are misogynists more likely to believe in abusive child rearing techniques? Are people who were raised abusively more likely to raise their children the same way?

Do some kinds of abusive parenting encourage victims to be abusive in the future?

Are families where the cycle of generational trauma/abuse broken less misogynistic?

Is hatred of a minority a common coping mechanism for trauma?

And these things need to change in order to fix this:

Changing how we raise children to authoritative instead of authoritarian or permissive

Identifying child abuse and learning how to stop it

Encouraging people to study children's rights to be more intersectional

Encouraging people to study women's rights to be more intersectional

Encouraging men to spend more time on housework and child raising

Encouraging people to understand and heal from their childhood trauma in a healthy way instead of having them turn to misogyny and hate groups

Normalising talking about trauma and emphasising that being traumatised isn't being weak

So yeah, interacting with this can help me remember it and I'll try to research one dot point every time I remember. Please feel free to do your own research too.

#womanism #feminsm #men's lib #intersectional feminism

[dhaaruni]

Petersen writes that her “husband’s job sustains us financially”, an aside that reminds us a serious book author is in the same economic situation as a momfluencer. And this is the case for plenty of female writers. When poet Maggie Smith lamented that her now-ex-husband, a lawyer, prioritized his career over hers, it was hard not to think of the financial dichotomy that almost certainly backed up his assessment. In one sense, this isn’t about sexism, but rather about some careers paying better than others. In another, there’s a reason it’s women who often wind up in these lower-paid, creative, and flexible endeavors. Pregnancy, childbirth, and being the primary carer of young children are all roles which lend themselves to financial dependency, at least temporarily. Momfluencing offers at least the prospect of a middle-ground path: a way to work without having to be separated from your young children or spending your entire salary on childcare.

This is EXACTLY what I was saying about that Maggie Smith piece

#links #feminsm