#if ur not there ur just not there

[stuckinapril]

so unimpressed w men rn. it’s just so whatever

#guy who got my number at the boba place is the driest texter in history turns out! #i’m just kind of convinced that most guys r better in person but this is just boring #cianna from 6 months ago would be trying to carry the conversation rn but i just let it die bc im BORED #i am no longer doing the heavy lifting in the talking stage #i can do equal lifting. that i can do. but not the heavy lifting #if ur not there ur just not there #also a massive ick of mine is when guys fucking misspell and this one MISSPELLED #ur 21. get it together. #my best friend is also in a very ‘unimpressed w men’ phase rn #except im very capable of being single and doing my thing and she’s very. not. #she is back on hinge unfortunately. don’t think this will go well #meanwhile i’m in a very not looking for anything phase. if u say hi i’ll say hi back #but i’m not going out of my way to put in effort #fuck that #p

[bevsi]

“spotify stops tracking today so we can listen to cringe!!” free yourself from this mental prison at once

#bevfoolery #DONT CURATE UR WRAPPED… just listen to whatever u want omg…

[cozylittleartblog]

cant tell you how bad it feels to constantly tell other artists to come to tumblr, because its the last good website that isn't fucked up by spoonfeeding algorithms and AI bullshit and isn't based around meaningless likes

just to watch that all fall apart in the last year or so and especially the last two weeks

there's nowhere good to go anymore for artists.

edit - a lot of people are saying the tags are important so actually, you'll look at my tags.

#please dont delete your accounts because of the AI crap. your art deserves more than being lost like that #if you have a good PC please glaze or nightshade it. if you dont or it doesnt work with your style (like mine) please start watermarking #use a plain-ish font. make it your username. if people can't google what your watermark says and find ur account its not a good watermark #it needs to be central in the image - NOT on the canvas edges - and put it in multiple places if you are compelled #please dont stop posting your art because of this shit. we just have to hope regulations will come slamming down on these shitheads#in the next year or two and you want to have accounts to come back to. the world Needs real art #if we all leave that just makes more room for these scam artists to fill in with their soulless recycled garbage #improvise adapt overcome. it sucks but it is what it is for the moment. safeguard yourself as best you can without making #years of art from thousands of artists lost media. the digital world and art is too temporary to hastily click a Delete button out of spite

#not art #but important #please dont delete your accounts because of the AI crap. your art deserves more than being lost like that #if you have a good PC please glaze or nightshade it. if you dont or it doesnt work with your style (like mine) please start watermarking #use a plain-ish font. make it your username. if people can't google what your watermark says and find ur account its not a good watermark #it needs to be central in the image - NOT on the canvas edges - and put it in multiple places if you are compelled #please dont stop posting your art because of this shit. we just have to hope regulations will come slamming down on these shitheads #in the next year or two and you want to have accounts to come back to. the world Needs real art #if we all leave that just makes more room for these scam artists to fill in with their soulless recycled garbage #improvise adapt overcome. it sucks but it is what it is for the moment. safeguard yourself as best you can without making #years of art from thousands of artists lost media. the digital world and art is too temporary to hastily click a Delete button out of spite

[redtail-lol]

If you use arab.org like I do please consider taking the extra 30-60 seconds to click on ALL of their causes. Palestine is important but so are the environment, refugees, children, women, and the impoverished across the middle east and it doesn't take away from Palestine to click for multiple causes. The arab world faces a lot of problems and they only get worsened by how western nations have oppressed and attacked them. Clicking is small but it generates something and overtime it does benefit the greater good. It takes all of us clicking as often as possible but we can do it! It's really easy and safe and they have proofs on their site on how they do make an impact and are donating your click money

#arab.org #palestine #save palestine #free palestine #gaza #gaza strip #free gaza #save gaza #middle east #arab #please if you can't donate to causes use this site #its safe its free and anyone can use it #just turn off ur adblocker #for arab.org only #women's rights #save the children #help the poor #save the environment #help refugees #click to help

[genderkoolaid]

i don't know what autistic person needs to hear this but they are not watching you. the entire world is not constantly waiting for you to do something weird and laugh at you behind your back. you do not need to constantly self-police whenever there's the slightest chance another person might see you. you have a right to be your autistic self in public spaces. stop fighting yourself for their sake.

#obv this is not an autistic exclusive experience #this post is just For autistics whose autism has fucked w their whole sense of personhood and reality #if you are not autistic + relate to this feel free to just replace autistic w whatever u want in ur mind #m.

[claredanko]

80 years old... he shouldve been at the club

#i dont even jnow who im referring to just insert ur old man here #journal

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

#warm up #writeblr #this one has bothered me for a bit #any time a woman does something even passingly annoying we treat it like a fucking crime #hey man. women are allowed to be annoying. everyone forever is allowed to be passingly annoying #as long as they aren't hurting anyone/thing #like u wanna know something? i find it super annoying that men don't wear seatbelts #why arent there thousands of comments on driving videos thats just like : men try not to die in a car crash challenge #''this briefly annoyed me''. okay??????? AND????????????????? go get ur self a cookie and calm down about it #ur not entitled to control other ppl's experiences and emotions just so u can maintain ur own peace #if being briefly annoyed ruins ur whole day! you! need! therapy!!!! #men try not to become immediately angry about nothing challenge: level impossible #ps author is nonbinary. we didn't even get into the gender presentation thing #the fact men think it's SEXY that my voice is on the lower end....

[bulkhummus]

do you understand how funny this is

#…….. cecil.. babygirl…. this queer knows ur terrible impact <3 #just genuinely so funny to me #maybe im just drunk but this is so fucking funny #and sad but we wont think abt that #wtnv #welcome to night vale #cecilsweep #sexymanotd

[pikslasrce]

im ngl that scene in the lighthouse when hes trying to jerk off to the idea of a hot mermaid but keeps getting distracted by unsightly visions symbolizing his guilty conscience and descent into insanity is so real like. it really is like that sometimes

#piksla.txt #its just like when ur trying to think of smth sexy and ur like 'ooh think. uh. hot vampire ladies uh. think think think' #and ur brain keeps reminding you of like. deadlines and chores and unpleasant memories like shoo! go away!! im trying to have a fun time #its literally that . anyways robpat SLAYED slayedddddd #hall of fame

[songbird-is-crying]

i think it's personally homophobic and downright diabolical that there is not a medieval calligraphy manuscript font available when changing the appearance of your tumblr blog

just saying

#calligraphy #fonts #who out here on the fonts tag #sometimes i scroll through various fonts and try out the weirdest and deeply unnerving ones #just for funsies #dongle and frijole are some of my favorites #tumblr #pls get ur shite together i need this

[padmestrilogy]

has it ever been more over

#just collecting my fave hate tweets. yes i hate u and ur ahsoka pfp specifically and i can never have fun #mandalorian critical #ahsoka critical #<i think both of those tags are dead but o well #star wars

[lesbianmarrow]

femslash rarepairs save me

#honestly that might be my favorite kind of fanfiction #just like a pairing between 2 women that hardly anyone has ever considered but the writer develops it and fleshes it out and ur like woah… #syl posts

[wetslug]

ppl who r using poll results as a way to Prove Something about society or come to any conclusion.. i hope you are aware that tumblr users are one of the most biased population groups you could conceivably find. gob bless

#sis the variables... remember stats 101... ur data is only as good as ur sample #its like asking around at an old folks home and coming back saying 98% of those surveyed love prunes. therefore 98% of people love prunes #ok to reblog btw #polls r still fun i just hope you take into account who is responding to them

[lautums]

I A HOMO. 2 REÁL IS 2 REÁL !

#disco elysium #my art #harry du bois #fanart #disco elysium fanart #this was actually meant as a study and not a big one at that #but I had the idea for the shirt and made myself laugh #if you're wondering ab the axe its just bc the ref had one and he deserves one I think <3 #BUT ALSO THE PEOPLE SAYING THE ANIMATED VIDEO. UR SMARTER THAN ME AND UR CORRECT

[stuckinapril]

lol I can’t fucking afford groceries, so sorry my attention isn’t 24/7 on Palestine 🙄

listen i feel u. i do. but i honestly cannot get over how immature these asks are (and i've received a few of them by now, cannot imagine the volume of them actual palestinians get) bc it should be an unspoken caveat that a lot of these posts are not targeted at people who're living paycheck to paycheck, working busy lives, have copious amounts of shit to deal w etc etc. the problem comes in when you go out of your way to ridicule genocide by sending asks like this, especially to people who lost family members to israeli attacks. i know this isn't the social etiquette site, but someone has to tell you it's incredibly rude, distasteful, tone deaf, disrespectful...

if you can't afford to do anything, okay. keep it pushing instead of going to people's inboxes trying to make an obvious point.

and if you do have time or money and you're not doing nearly enough, you are the problem.

it's literally that simple.

#palestine #this ask feels so unserious i hope ur just trolling and ur not actually incensed enough to inform a stranger of this on anon #if ur trolling then not funny... and if ur being serious then reevaluate ur manners idk #ask

[inkskinned]

fucking hate it when the stuff everybody says "actually works" does actually work.

hate exercising and realizing i've let go of a lot of anxiety and anger because i've overturned my fight-or-flight response.

hate eating right and eating enough and eating 3 times a day and realizing i'm less anxious and i have more energy

hate journaling in my stupid notebook with my stupid bic ballpoint and realizing that i've actually started healing about something once i'm able to externalize it

hate forgiving myself hate complimenting myself more often hate treating myself with kindness hate taking a gratitude inventory hate having patience hate talking to myself gently

hate turning my little face up to the sun and taking deep breaths and looking at nature and grounding myself and realizing that i feel less burdened and more hopeful, more actually-here, that i am able to see the good sides of myself more clearly, that i am able to see not only how far i have to grow - but also how much growth i have already done & how much of my life i truly fill with light and laughter and love

horrible horrible horrible. hate it but i'm gonna do it tho