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yardsards · 4 months

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"i dunno, i don't think i have social anxiety or anything, i'm just awkward. like, i can do public speaking with no problem so long as i have a script, it's just that certain weird things make me nervous. it's fine, i just make it sound worse than it is when talking to my therapists." <=guy whose gut feelings are frequently convinced that basically everyone wants to beat him with hammers

#eliot posts #my mental issues just tend to manifest Weirdly lol #some things that make me socially anxious:#asking for things #approaching/talking to people individually when i previously only knew them in group settings #approaching ppl in general if i don't have a specific social script #talking one on one to much older adults #joining new groups of people where they know each other but i don't know all of them #also when ppl reference inside jokes to each other that im not in on i think they hate me and are leaving me out on purpose. bc they hate m #the middle stage between ''polite small talk acquaintances'' and ''actual close friends'' is both difficult and confusing AND scary #things that don't make me socially anxious that make most socially anxious ppl anxious:#public speaking #ordering food #making small talk when expected to #going places alone #so i'm totally mentally healthy see :)

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humans-are-tasty · 1 year

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casualbugenjoyer · 1 year

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I'm rewatching water 7 and ennies lobby and oh my God. Both Franky and Robin are super fucked up in water 7, but the each have a moment in ennies lobby where everything makes sense and they start behaving like somewhat normal adults. This happens after they've met each other and realized they were in the same boat and are somehow almost the same level of fucked up. Not to mention, it's the first time Robin openes up to anyone- let alone someone who is similar and has similar circumstances.

Anyway all I can think about is Frobin. They are everything to me. And they make so much sense. They both have autistism lmao .

Things that are not often looked at in future arcs that are really highlighted here include: Franky's anger management issues, Robins propensity to skip people's feelings for "a more logical solution", and of course both of their traumas influencing their decisions (based off of how people in their past got treated). Later both are more used for action and jokes. Franky being super 'super' and Robin being morbid. Give me more content with them that isn't flat!!!!!!

This arc is truly amazing, and honestly nothing in post time skip had gotten to this point yet. I hope it does, because it's really beautiful the way Oda highlights how trauma never leaves you. How unless you get help, or can get help, things won't change.

Idk this was a message that really struck with me. I really loved the idea that no matter who you are and what you've done, if you want to overcome adversity your have to trust other people. And I know that's a common theme in every arc, but it's one of the best in this one imo.

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babacontainsmultitudes · 1 year

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Over The Garden Wall but instead of Wirt and Greg it's Grant and Paeden that's it that's all I needed to say thank you

#dndads #I don't how much of the dndads fandom has seen otgw- but if you haven't I'm making you #it's one of those shows that pulls you in and you come out different y'know- it shifts your soul slightly to the left #also Grant and Paeden being kind of like brothers is an idea I rotate around a good deal I just think they could be very funny #so ok ok I think Sarah would be Terry? Could also be Yeet cause of the athletic shit but she's much more like Terry methinks #and Grant/Terry pretty cute but I think that's an especially good context for them #WALTER IS GREG'S (so Paeden's) FROG #the president yeah you know the one #Beatrice is tricky cause I could easily see her as either of the twins #but lowkey also Nick? but I guess she should be one of the oak boys cause well #birds #BUT THEN SEPERATELY LIKE #ah I suppose it would be weird to have some of the kiddads be kids and some be older (?) but nevertheless #I couldn't help but think that (adult) Lark would make a GREAT woodsman #and like he thinks that it's Sparrow's soul in the lantern #AND BEAR'RY WOULD MAKE FOR SUCH A GOOD BEAST #people need to draw him with the branch antlers they do they do #also I can't for the life of me remember the horse's name #but that's so Ron like it has to be #for all I know like none of you have seen this show but this is so real in my head I had to talk about it #otgw #grant wilson #paeden bennetts

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angorwhosebabyisthis · 4 months

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i think one of the things that upsets me the most about velma and shaggy's relationship in sdmi--and boy there is a lot--is that not only is her constantly ''correcting'' him for minor, harmless, and usually completely reasonable things with physical and emotional abuse, well. abusive by itself. but so many of the things he does that she treats him that way over are very autistic things, and what she subjects him to is textbook abuse aimed at autistics in particular. (including the part where she gets more and more pissed whenever attempts at said emotional abuse fly over his head, because he's too bad at picking up cues for them to land fully.)

[cws: anti-autistic ableism, ABA, self-harm, physical and emotional IPV, victim-blaming, and abuse apologism. it's a lot and it's really fucking bad lmao]

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like. there's a lot of examples there; shaggy's behavior coming across as autistic is worth a whole post of its own, and a lot of media depicts abuse targeted at autistic traits because ✨️hooray ableism.✨️but she straight up tries to Fix Him (read: force him to perform a Presentable Personality) by forcing him to wear clothes that are sensory hell, and trying to condition him to self-harm every time he does some small harmless, reflexive thing she thinks is Poor Socialization until he stops. and to catch himself doing it, and punish himself, without being prompted. i cannot fucking overstate how fucked up that is.

they even got down the fun little aspect of ABA where the methods of conditioning-through-pain are presented as toys and kiddish things: she gives him a rubber band to wear on his wrist, and tells him to snap it as hard as he can every time he says 'like.' 🙃🙃🙃🙃

like. this does not begin to scratch the surface of the abuse she puts him through in general. and again, characters being abused for autistic traits with the approval of the narrative is a common thing in media, which sucks. but holy fucking shit! they really took the 'violent ableism that is done to autistics irl' to the next fucking level here!

.......and it's portrayed as kind of cringey, immature teen drama on both sides. the self-harm, his dread over how much he knows it'll hurt, and the extreme pain it causes him to the point of screaming are all supposed to be funny. and her arc is all about learning to accept that she deserves better, because she was repressed and had low self-esteem and therefore putting him through fucking DIY ABA didn't make her happy.

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anyway if you couldn't tell i can't fucking stand sdmi velma and i have a lot of words in me about it. when one of your main heroes would have made a way more compelling villain as they are, on a more mundane level compared to all the wild fantastical shit they go up against, holy shit go back to the drawing board you have fucked up. she could have been genuinely good representation of a marginalized person dealing with the trauma of her experiences in some shitty ways she has to grow past, and an interesting flawed character, without being absolutely despicable--hell, she'd have made a great foil to pericles if they'd handled him decently too. they have a lot of parallels, which only gain more depth when you add their respective parallels with cassidy into the mix. and it really fucking sucks that we got this instead.

#sdmi #scooby doo mystery incorporated #velma dinkley #shaggy rogers #SDMItag #cws in post #sdmi velma lies at the intersection of A Lot of Hard Feelings for me; in ways both inherent and personal #so she is viscerally upsetting to me in a lot of ways mostly re: framing; and that makes it difficult to analyze her in a sympathetic light #even though i recognize she is very much a depiction of a hurting; traumatized person lashing out in nasty and interesting ways #but the older i get and the more perspective i gain; and the more i unpack and understand about my own experiences #the more important it feels to me to talk about this stuff #i still want to try writing fic sometime about newniverse velma and how she ends up being a non-abusive; less shitty person #without just *being* a completely different person who's All Nice Sweet Sunshine with No Hard Feelings About What She's Been Through #and about the confusion and grief newniverse marcie goes through when one day her loving girlfriend is gone #and in her place is someone who is so much like her and has clearly been through a lot; but is Different in ways that hurt more and more #that marcie keeps trying to justify and make excuses for; and sits in the pot and slowly boils #until she finally has to face that this isn't the girl she fell in love with; that that girl will never come back; that this is velma now #i'm totally not working through anything here lmao #and a nasty; pretentious; controlling; insecure young adult who's up their own ass about Being Super Intellectual and Telling It Like Is #abusing a teenager to make them stop saying 'like' because it's Annoying and What Stupid People Say and Not Gramatically Correct(tm)(tm)(tm #definitely does not hit dead on some very specific 'hi that scarred me for life and i don't think it's particularly fucking funny' buttons!#anyway. protect shaggy and marcie and daphne while we're at it #SDMIcrit tag #the crit files

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shikai-the-storyteller · 2 months

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Sometimes I forget how young Quackity is, but every once in a while it just kinda hits me and I'm like oh. He's still just a kid.

#i talk #qsmp talk #I hope he's doing ok and that whatever is going on in his personal life improves soon for him #and yeah 23 isnt a kid to some people but that's still a young person in my book #I dont mean this in an infantalizing way or whatever just #I remember being at that age and going through one of the worst periods of my life #actually no. that was in the middle of the worst period of my life #so yeah. I hear that and my heart kinda breaks a little bit #I hope he's doing ok #like even outside of QSMP stuff or whatever I genuinely hope he's doing ok #life's so hard man. even though I'm much older than him I still have days (like today and yesterday)#(and this whole week tbh)#where I just want to lie down and cry #life is hard being an adult is hard #idk. that just sucks man #he's done so many amazing wonderful things but I cannot imagine doing that at the age of 23 #in addition to whatever else he's got going on #maybe kid isnt the right word but he's just so young

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incrediblysincere · 3 months

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Having a job where i have to interact with coworkers all day has really made me notice how bad my social skills are

#like i like focus HARD on the work and i find it really hard to talk at the same time #which is interesting because i know my family/friends probably think i talk TOO much but its totally different depending on who im around #like if im with friends or people i feel really confortable with i can infodump for half an hour on shit they dont care about #but with my coworkers who are all adult men mostly 10+ years older than me and im laying i completely forget to talk #so with me its either non stop bullshit or just that fluoride stare #i know some coworkers are ok with it but i have at least one who clearly isnt a fan of long silences and tries to make conversation and #i realise i CANNOT hold a conversation with him so i probably come off as super boring #and even went prompted (asked a question) i usually just say Okey like ness and then go silent again #i dont mind that much but then sometimes i think back and im like wow. He was trying to talk to me and i probably came off as really boring #or shy or a stuck up bitch. which i dont think im any of #anyway im the 😐🧍autistic for real

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compacflt · 1 year

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I have an anecdote about when I worked for a company and a co-worker left to work in a different state on military aircraft. He had to get a TS clearance and because we had worked for several years together he asked if I would be okay with being interviewed for his clearance. I said sure and an interviewer w the gov, arranged to come to my place of work and conduct the interview there. I was asked questions about him like how well did I know him, and whatever answer I gave led to more specific questions like if I answered a question about knowing his wife, they would ask if I thought his marriage sounded secure etc.

This memory of that experience was on my mind while I read your story and I wondered who Iceman would choose for his TS clearance interviews (and who the gov would choose for him) and what would they say? I feel like their "secret" would be uncovered in even a low level clearance (years later I had to submit names for a low level Public Trust clearance for my job) It was so embarrassing because I did not have many friends I was comfortable submitting for that as I kept my work and home life very separate.

Anyway, that is my "cool story, bro"

Thank you for such a great and well researched story!

this is indeed a cool story bro and touches on what is literally my story’s fatal flaw, which is: Yeah, a shitload of people would’ve known about it. I am going to hijack your question to talk about that, so my apologies, though i will get around to your question by the end. This is gonna be a really long post. I have a lot to say and a lot of ground to cover.

So I wanna start out by talking about the structure of this story and its core conflict, because while I’d like to say this story is rooted in an accurate depiction of the US military, obviously that’s not true; it’s rooted in the dynamic of the story that i wanted to tell, which is the story of a guy coming to realize the truth behind a Big Lie—him passing as straight. And that’s a pretty universal story, but it’s made more specific by the fact that a) the guy canonically wants to be the best in an institution that enforces the Big Lie and b) the guy canonically is so successful because he follows the rules/orders of that institution. So, for character growth, to put it simply, the guy (Ice) has to come to the conclusion that the Big Lie is a lie by himself. He can’t be told/ordered that the Big Lie is a lie, otherwise he hasn’t grown out of “just following orders.” (I’ll get to the Big Lie in a second. I made charts and story structure graphs below.)

The only other story about a Big Lie I can think of off the top of my head right now is Passing (1929) by Nella Larsen, which is about a Black woman in Chicago trying to pass as both white and straight. It’s a great book and I’ll try not to spoil it, you should really read it for yourself, but the terminology I’m going to use in this post comes from an analysis of it, so just to bring you up to speed—Clare, the woman trying to pass as white, is recognized by a friend, another Black-but-passing woman, Irene, who is shocked that Clare has abandoned her heritage (the truth of her, that is) and married a hyper-racist white man who doesn’t even know that she’s Black. So the book sets up a dynamic of the Big Lie that I’ve outlined here (hopefully it makes sense):

I built on this dynamic for my fic. Ice is both a “dupe” and a “passing figure,” in that he believes the lie that he is straight and also passes for straight—but it’s also more complicated than that because he’s not actually straight (getting to that). Mav is an “in-group clairvoyant” and can recognize Ice as passing because he is also straight-passing. The Navy are a bunch of “dupes.” But…what is Slider, for instance, or your question’s hypothetical government official who, yes, will 100% find out because people always find out?

In comes my ginormous-and-overly-wordy WWGATTAI Plot and Character Dynamic Summary Graph. You don’t really have to read it all, the only important bits for this discussion are the leftmost column (“plot”) and the green quadrant (“out-group clairvoyants”).

To summarize—people who know the truth can’t actually act on it, because for Ice’s character growth to make sense, he has to come to the truth himself. This forecloses the possibility of any outwardly homophobic action (by which I mean someone like a govt official or one of my lame OCs actually challenging him on his illegal relationship) in the plot, because for 90% of the story Ice is so fragile that he would probably just cave immediately and double down on the internalized homophobia. So, for plot purposes, everyone—including Mav, as it happens—has to sort of tiptoe around Ice’s obvious not-straightness and give him an unreasonable amount of grace so he can figure it out for himself.

And therein lies the fatal flaw of this story. It is, like, not conceptually viable. Of course people would find out, of course the government would interrogate him about it, of course he’d have to confront the truth much sooner than TWENTY-FIVE years after he first starts messing around with Mav. Which literally breaks my heart because I didn’t realize it was a fundamentally busted story until long after I had finished writing the base plot & couldn’t fix the overarching problems 😭 The thing is, it had to be this way, because there is at least a thirty-year gap between TG86 and TGM22, and TGM is obviously the emotional climax of the series and my story had to match that. So—fanfic and its canon constraints, everyone.

But also… I can explain away these logical inconsistencies with story structure & character dynamic graphs to make the story make sense, sure, but it doesn’t change the truth of the matter, which is that… I hadn’t ever really thought about things like security clearances, and therefore wrote around them because I didn’t even know to consider them. And I know there are a bunch of other details in this story that betray my immaturity (anytime I talk about alcohol, for instance—I still am not legal to drink in this stupid country & have only cheap bad experiences to draw on; THE HOUSE—if i could rewrite this story from the beginning they would not have bought a fucking house together, what was I thinking???) and the lack of thought about the real-life logistics and consequences of secrecy is one of them.

And it’s exactly what I mean when I say “I look at this story and all I see are its flaws,” which is why I wanted to write this post & get it on record. I have just enough life experience to read my own writing and know that it’s fundamentally unconvincing, and not enough life experience to know how to fix it. :(

But, to answer your original question, you’ve got me brainstorming a scene where Ice is asking Slider to be his character witness & Slider’s like “Look bro do you want me to lie to the federal government under oath for you because I will” and Ice has to be like “Legally I cannot ask that of you but”

#in case you couldnt tell it really bothers me #idk what the age range of the ppl who read my fics is but i knoooow there are #some parts of this story where you read it and you go #yeah a little kid wrote that #if you asked me what a 401k is with a gun to my head i could not tell you #so the fact that people care about my opinions on these like really grown up adult problems is #literally like the highest compliment ever #but i feel bad that i don’t have the life experience to give a convincing answer & i apologize for that #ive grown up so much & so quickly working on this project both as a writer and as a person & so thankful for that #but it also means that i look back on even recent work & say WTF LITTLE KID ALERT #so #sorry i turned your question into a fiction lecture #but lol that’s like the one thing i actually AM a little bit qualified to talk about #and your question represents like the fundamental fatal flaw of the story i have spent literally 100s of hours on #so I wanted to talk about it #thank you for the ask <3333333 #my birthday is in a couple days so just thinking about getting older lol #edts notes #top gun #top gun maverick #icemav #tom iceman kazansky #asks #hope to one day put this energy into like a job or sumn

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rosicheeks · 5 months

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#gifted kid burnout is so brutal and I don’t think enough people talk about it #knowing if life would have turned out differently I could have been great #I wasn’t a prodigy by any means #and I don’t mean to sound conceited or anything #but I was pretty talented #when I was in high school - think junior year? I was in a college age opera and I was the only one who wasn’t in college in the whole thing #I was so excited to be an adult and for my dreams to become reality #and then life actually happens #and you’re already burnt out #and now I’m looking at all these younger people that are talented and I just feel envy bubbling up inside me #I wish so so so badly that was me #just graduating high school #with so much freedom ahead of me #but then I literally blinked my eyes and now I’m 25 #no clue what the fuck to do with my life #working with a bunch of young girls doesn’t help either tbh #I remember when I was the baby in most situations and now I’m older than most of them #and I’m just :(((#idk idk idk I’m just being dumb right now #wish I could go back in time #redo everything #shut up rosie

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dammarchy211 · 2 years

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The motherfucking uhhhhhhhhg

ARCHETYPE MASTERPIST

Oh please pleas read this whole thing and reblog Isswear I'm not insane and put way to much effort into it scratching at my cage bars also this is probabty the only time u guys will get more oc info than my insta story viewers so be grateful/s

The only real difference between a shadow and paper archetype is slightly different powers available, like shadow archetype's can sneak past things a lot. better due to being able to blend into shadows, and can teleplane without the user even knowing the ability since it's kinda just innate to their state of being (I’ll explain what teleplaning is too sorry this is so long—). The difference between forming one or the other can just be a difference in mentality, but it can also steam from fact that a shadow archetype can be easier to form for someone who's less artistic. Though personally I think it'd be cool if an archetype can be mad from anything that's relatively 2D.

imagine that Raz's doodle archetype wouldn't change much as he got older, or maybe become a tiny bit less "young" or simplified but kinda just, stay the same over the years, since he kinda just embodies Raz's younger mindset anyway. Raz's archetypes r split into the motifs of young and mature, whereas Dex's are themed after quiet and loud/showy. Here's something I said about dex's bandit archetype that sums it up p well

But the reason that Dex's 1st doesn't change while his 2nd one does is centered on the fact that the formation and purpose of his 1st archetype is just so heavily tied to his childhood, whereas the second is a mirror of his parents/what his parents wanted him to be, but y know, utilizing that for his own benefit. His second archetype has a loud showman type personality, and is, I have no idea how to put this other than, Cheshire Cat-y. For context be iirc I only put this on my insta story, his parents r two non-psychic magicians, who are "generally okay" with psychics but are rily dissatisfied with their son being one as [insert explanation screenshot I don't think I could articulate better]

As for his magician archetype's abilities though along with any basic paper archetype stuff he can summon as well as turn into a large playing card, which can help with any sort of platforming type activities, as well as suck up and shoot back out any enemies from his hat. Any other campy type magician abilities you can think of he can probably do too.

Dex himself probably argues the most with his own archetypes though only his second one really but I think Raz's would butt heads on the occasion as well, especially with his doodle archetype probably not listening to the other two that well lol. Also playing around with the scenario what if Raz were to be affected with any sort of mental affect that caused him to act erratically or against his own motives that his archetypes would be able to operate independently of him and be able to help the psychonauts still!

As for teleplaning here’s just what I have in my notes about it

I have no idea how to explain it other than just. That.

#my art #psychonauts ocs #psychonauts original character #psychonauts fanart #psychonauts art #psychonauts raz #psychonauts razputin #razputin aquato #raz aquato #raz archetype #psychonauts #Dex’s magician archetype’s voice claim is probably cuphead bc thats a voice I actually considered for Dex #i imagine he doesn’t change much hair and outfit wise as Dex gets older #though I might decide against that later lol #also Raz’s shadow archetype just point blank hates him #this continues when they’re adults but just lightly homoerotically now #because it’s fun #i would nickname him just shadow for simplicity but then I feel like I’m talking about the hedgehog—#my brain is SoFull and no one to talk to<//3

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haemosexuality · 4 months

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i feel like im probably gonna be talking about this a lot here since i cant talk to Her about it and it really is bothering me so much

#but i feel bad about this too bc it just feels like im talking about her behind her back. which i am kind of. aughhhhhh #its just. idk large age gaps have just Always bothered me no matter how much my opinions on everything else change!!! i think its a bad idea #and dangerous! almosf everyone else she knows thinks its fine so maybe i am just annoying and insane but i literally cant change how i feel #ive tried #like theres. so much that could go wrong here #hes 10 Years Older. hes had experience dating. hes been an adult for 13 years #shes 21. has basically 0 experience dating. and her mental health is really not great #like she just realized she liked men too a few months ago and shes been in this cycle of getting really really obsessed with guys older than #her really fast and everything they do really affect her. she has trouble recognizing sus behavior and is too afraid of upsetting ppl to her #own detriment #i really hope that this guy is normal (as normal as you can be when ur 31 being with a 21 yr old) but if hes not then this has the potential #to go so so bad #and im worried #no one else seems to be tho so idfk!!! am i just too child brained compared to people who date. maybe. but im so worried

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astrxealis · 8 days

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making myself suffer looking thru ffxiv stuff on tumblr when i could be playing ffxiv rn but i eternally love and miss ffxiv

#⋯ ꒰ა starry thoughts ໒꒱ *·˚#Ough... oooooggghhhhh..........#unrelated but i will probably make my next theme mr leon kennedy bcs how iehehebfknsnd i am over him lately #is... kinda insane! silly <3 #like. damn! damn. amidst darkest despair light everlasting.#ffxiv is so so so so so crazy from 1.0 to 6.0 and beyond and soon 7.x and and and #i miss raiding :( i miss my friends in ffxiv too. esp my best friend.#def will get back into raiding by the time 7.x ultimate comes out bcs GOD !!! god.#and okay pandaemonium & eden are my fav tiers aesthetic and story and fight wise #and memory wise bcs eden 9-12 was my first ever savage tier. meant a lot to me. still does #i played through that shit when i was . 14 y/o and newly 15 y/o LMFAO #and then pandaemonium just like. the year after. when i was 15 y/o... not even reaching 16. damn.#it's tough playing ffxiv when you're young but it's nice seeing more & more ppl around my age playing #even tho these guys most likely did Not start playing when they were like. 13/14 y/o. since i started on my bday LMFAO #it's crazy bcs i am playing w majority adults and maybe the occasional minor who is still like. at least almost an adult #^^ back then i mean bcs ok the closest friend i made when i was on eu was this guy 3 yrs older than me. that is already insane to me.#and my best friend since i'm now on oce is still a year older than me!#and it's silly (?) bcs eu i tried to hide my age at first but then they kinda found out bcs probably the way we r is just. too Different LOL #but i mean obvs it changed some stuff bcs it would be weird for probably 30 year old to be besties w a half their age kid #but the whole lil fc was just rlly sweet. :(( made a great friend i see as my big bro i am still friends w. that probably 30 y/o guy and the #kinda mom of the fc lowkey saw me & my twin as sweet kids. the person we got into xiv was like a big bro figure too and Damn his gf is rlly #cool! and the uni age students were super cool and fun to talk w. and the friends of my close friend who were also my friends were so fun.#i miss that but i look back on it all fondly ..... :3 and then w oce it's a bit more complicated bcs #i haven't had much time or opportunities to Find a group like that? but instead i found a best friend :((#rlly close in age and w similar likes and interests and personality..... etc etc etc.......#and separately the static i & my twin joined was. Funny lol! it's silly bcs we kinda had to hide we were lil 15 y/o kids w these guys who #were all at least uni. and all of these guys were def 20-30 y/o #and one guy liked making Daddy jokes (nothing bad tho LMFAO) bcs. hesperos sheesh!#silly bcs bunch of aussies and we were almost all miqos and Thankfully ye god one other filipino YAY !!!!!#anyway. max tags. so i love ffxiv man. i miss it always even when i'm playing it.

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absentlyabbie · 1 year

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i feel like we have given good, healthy air time to the relationship variations between parents and children (close, distant, abusive, complicated) and how it is okay to not feel about that dynamic the way everyone seems to suggest You Are Supposed To, but like...

kinda think we could stand to do that a little more for sibling relationships tbh. you see a lot of very broadly applied sentiments about how no one will be there for you like your siblings and no one will want to kill you like your siblings, or siblings having secret languages and having your back against others only to gleefully stab it at home.

but sometimes you are just Not Like That with your siblings. sometimes you're not very close, or don't understand each other, you don't share interests, or you had wildly disparate experiences growing up in the same house in a way that is difficult to impossible to bridge.

sometimes your siblings are horrible and you don't have to like them, and you don't have to keep letting them come back and try again. sometimes siblings are abusive to one another, hurtful to the point of scarring instead of healing.

it's okay to not feel about them the way it always seems You're Supposed To.

when we push back against the too-often damaging nonsense that is "but family is family", i think we could do better to remember and make room for that not just being relationships between parents and children, but between siblings and other family relationships too.

there's nothing wrong with you, if you don't feel close to your siblings, if you can't relate to the fond posts with tongue-in-cheek threats and teasing aggravation. you're not obligated to manufacture or even pretend that sort of bond if it doesn't exist or has been broken.

you are not the only one on the outside of a warmer world that everyone but you inherently understands. and the ones inside that world could sometimes stand to remember that those doors are closed (or barricaded shut) for others, and that it's no personal flaw, failing, or grotesque strangeness that you've not had the same experiences they have.

#i have two siblings #a sister who is older by 2.5 years who couldn't stand me from my literal birth #and to whom i no longer speak after years of trying to build a relationship with her when having a sister suddenly sounded nice to her #and a brother almost 6 years younger with whom i was close when younger #but became more distant from from his late teens to very recently when he went further right than i could reason with or weather #(he's learned a lot as an adult and we've had several good conversations and i have hope)#but with neither one of them have i ever had much of that dynamic you so often see talked about #as if it's universally understood by all siblings #and it took some time and work to stop feeling guilty or alone or broken somehow that i couldn't relate despite having 2

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byakuyasdarling · 10 months

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I feel the incessant need to put into my bio “my main F/O is an adult! He is an adult in his debut game! He is early to mid twenties but the end!” because of the fact D//GR has a lot of that “high school” trope stuff — though the game starts with them in a high school but obviously there’s the whole two years of missing memories stuff.

#// Byakuya in particular drops the line ‘the adults are talking’ (in reference to himself main). Though it may be an insulting phrase —#I don’t think he’d simply say that IF HE WASNT 💀💀#I mean all T//HH AND SD//R2 characters are confirmed adults — especially with the um… bunny figurines.#(as he thinks he is 18 — the two years of missing memories means he is 20 by the first game)#I’m also 100% sure the class is made up over numerous age groups though. and isn’t purely restricted to there ‘year lebel’#*level #but that’s another rant for another day — but Bya just fits the older half #plus he acts like an old man he may as well be one 😩🫶 ‘oh #*LH #I am wishing old man on him JUST FOR THE GREY STREAKS IM INSANE #actually this is all practically confirmed by Yas//uhiro but I should brush up on his lines to know for sure #(regarding his age and exactly how much older he is)#also it just makes more sense with the brainwashing thing #(explain later)

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katierosefun · 1 year

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hm i know the jedi order wasn’t perfect and i know that it was all politics but. ugh thinking about the wrong jedi arc again and yes i know the council was so sorry about how things happened to ahsoka but the way there will always be a tiny, tiny part of me that’s. like. scream. you’ve known this kid for years you know who she is. how can you believe that she’d really do something like this why didn’t you fight harder for her of course she’s not gonna come back how do you think she’s gonna come back when she thinks that her entire family betrayed her over the course of two seconds and it’s like. like all things, the situation is so much more nuanced and layered than that but thinking about the full brunt of that and also. hm yes maybe unpopular opinion ahsoka deserved to be a little bit bitchy at the council when she saw them again! i think she should have been a little bitchier

#caroline talks #i should be studying but.#just like. snapping into focus that she's a 17 year old girl #i think most adults would be pretty disgruntled and hurt at being accused of something they didn't do #and like. it wasn't just something contained within the council itself either #ahsoka's face was BROADCASTED. across coruscant. they made a whole political thing out of ahsoka's arrest later #and i know. I KNOW. i was so pained when i saw ahsoka being particularly hostile #towards windu and obi-wan bc *we know* as fans #that there was something going on behind the curtains and they aren't culpable actors here #and that they were all pawns in a much bigger game #and. the way i love windu and obi-wan and the council etc etc as one would just loving complicated people #but also. growing older and older and being like 'u know what. if i was 17 years old and someone accused me of something i didn't do #and if my family and friends all turned their back on me because of that. i don't think i'd really talk to them either'#anyways. back to studying for me #HAPPY TEN YEARS SINCE THE WRONG JEDI ARC IG #local girl found dead bc she was listening to dear reader on loop or whatever

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unproduciblesmackdown · 11 months

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similar to the greentext stuff - i was visiting with my neighbors and their grandkids were around, and I said to this eight year old, "Hey, you wanna know something cool? I was playing the game when the Endermen came out." and his eyes went wide, like this kid looked like i told him i landed on the moon. His grandma thought it was really funny, and she said she has no idea what i'm talking about, but her grandbabies do, and that's incredible to her.

oh that's fun lmao, when minecraft & that update's existed for more than your whole life, and yknow being that young and like Next Year fr is this huge time scale away, a couple of years is a quarter of your life thus far and like maybe nigh half of the part of your life you actually have longterm memories for....i was checking out this dev's blog's archives about a:tdd's release in 2010 & in one entry they compared the implicitly Roughly concurrent release of Minecraft and i was like hey whoah. forever primarily being a game i've Heard Of more than any more direct exposure so i had no precise sense of [before minecraft release] [after minecraft release] Year 0 there but it's like for sure back in thee day when minecraft was a new thing, huh

#add in that [i also basically Heard Of mass effect but that's a game series w/a 2010 median which i had Any knowledge abt already]#so i have that reference point for a still like [niche video for When You've Played These Games For Sure] there but then like #if you were ten or even 5 yrs younger at the time you May Well Be much more at sea as your starting point there #(but i mean not that much; i didn't know a ton. reread those wikipedia plot summaries myself)#enderman came out? happy pride #shoutout to this one time i crossed paths w/this kid who was at the time probably like late middle school early high school age #who started talking abt pokemon like Clearly A Big Interest and i'm like my only Direct experience is playing pokemon go but i know Some #stuff b/c i was 5 in '99 when it was first making that huge splash lol. can make Some remarks....but also just Listening Attentively To You #Monologue like uh huh go off....i sure remember like the Sense of a couple yr's sagacity like being 9 i think reading a book abt 6th or 7th #graders (i.e. two or three yrs older) like My God They Must Be So Mature....#and like ofc when skimming passages as an adult it's like omg l'enfants. Both Perspectives Being Accurate respectively lol #my vintage experiences like i've def saved things on the floppy discs of [save icons imagery]. have heard the dialup tones organically....#but also; say; Home Computers That You Didn't Really Need To Know Much Abt Computers To Use were forever an everyday thing for me #having been born mid '90s....vs like in the '80s being nicher but also like. the programs to amateur code not being As Complex either #like [working on cars] of yore vs more modernly lmao....plus ofc in their designs; opening up a desktop Tower vs what? a tablet??#ppl my age who had more substantial Online Access earlier than i did maybe having at least picked up some html; which i did not lol #also didn't have too much Gamer Experience ever; what i did largely desktop then laptop pc wasd+mouse style....#didn't have a smartphone till maybe 5 yrs after they were starting to become more commonplace #vs that again to an 8 yr old of today [commonplacer smartphones] is your whole life basically too. i remember when we flipped those phones.#(i do fr lol. did have one of those first for a good while.)#granpa granpa....mh being fourteen yrs old meaning like the Teen Fans of Today were probably not watching it as it aired lol #whereas i Was that teen fan of those yesteryears. and all my stories for it like fuckin uhhhhhh [crickets chirping] [studio audience laugh]#though You Don't Need The Fans like mh is a long movie ppl can newly discover Whenever that holds up; plus it has bonus lore #mostly what i could even Possibly bring is just the particularly nicher older bonus lore. but like grandpa simpson (the simpsons) for sure #which is to say: humorously irrelevant & perhaps somewhat cantankerous #whilest i'm vaguely aware there may have also been that minecraft resurgence (esp through streaming?) from 2020 on....#but evidently Like Mh something that continually revives / takes on New Fans / Participants #for sure i might well be playing some tf2 myself if i had the technical capability (i would have the poor personal ability i always did lol #real games of yore but it never gets old also. though i know Of Late there was a bot problem / just neglected maintenance? that get fixed?#These Have Been The Tag Tangents. maxed out thirty tags i know that's right

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