Do you think what Damon did to Caroline is the same as what Katherine did to Stefan? Cause I think it is and it pisses me off when I see people think daroline is the worst ship to ever exist but then proceed to ship steferine.
I love Damon and like Katherine way more than Stefan and Caroline, I prefer villains and anti-heroes way more than heroes, but I don’t understand how anyone can like either of these two ships.
Trigger Warning: Discussion of r*pe/SA
I agree, there is no difference in what Katherine did to Stefan and what Damon did to Caroline and Andie.
I'm going to start by saying I do not like either Katherine or Damon. Yes, I know it is a show about supernatural creatures and we have to suspend reality, but no matter what world/fandom we're in, there is still a moral code. If there wasn't, we wouldn't have "good" guys and "bad" guys.
I can overlook and move on from a lot of bad things because with most "bad" acts there are mitigating circumstances. I truly believe anyone can be pushed to commit a lot of the terrible acts on the show, like murder, given the right circumstances. Usually it'll take a lot more than what's on the show, but that's where we suspend reality a bit. However, rape and sexual assault, no. There is never mitigating circumstances. No tragic backstory is going to make me overlook this.
I do believe in rehabilitation, but because the writers refused to admit what they did, we never get that with either character. No matter how you see it, both Damon and Katherine compelled people's choose away and proceed to have sex with them. That is the definition of rape. I will not argue with anyone on this point. It doesn't matter what the person intended the second before. The moment Damon/Katherine took their ability to consent away, it was rape.
Personally, Damon is my least favorite character and Katherine is close by it. Yes, I enjoy some of their scenes and they are "iconic" at times, but I could just never get past those scenes. I dislike Damon more because he received no consequences. He got a happy ending while Katherine didn't, so I'm more at peace with that story arc for Katherine.
I want to put a caveat so everyone is clear: I am never going to tell people who they can like or not like or who they should ship. Everyone comes to the fandom with different life experiences and like different ships for different reasons. Fiction allows us to like our toxic ships or like our healthy ships, whatever helps us cope with reality. But I do think it is important to acknowledge the potential harm so that we can recognize it in real life. This blog is just my personal takes on the situations/characters.
If you want to like daroline or steferine, go for it. But, again, it's important to acknowledge the toxicity in both. We all love a good anti-hero and some people enjoy enemies to lovers (not my cup of tea), but be prepared for others to not like it. We could all use a deep breath and take a step back in this fandom when it comes to ships. A lot of them are really toxic and some are less so, but still probably toxic. But at the end of the day, being toxic online to real-life people will always be worse than liking a toxic fictional character. (this is not directed to anon, just a general note for the fandom because I've seen so many people get into such nasty fights over fictional ships)
Thanks for the ask! Sorry I went off on a side tangent there <33
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btw guys, ublock and youtube have been in an arms race for the past few weeks so circulating filter lists is pretty useless since youtube gets wise to each one in a matter of days. what you should actually do is remove all your custom filters related to youtube and then force update your filter list whenever you see the anti-adblock pop up again
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Literally love that tumblr has been very like anti revealing pics and implemented mature filters yet all of the little tumblr live pics makes it fucking impossible to even open the app without seeing mature or suggestive content @staff @support
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862 this morning wheeeee
I've been p consistent w output actually, which is higher than I thought it would be, and a pace I'm a-ok w maintaining, keeps me to my 25k goal for the month, esp since I'm usually adding a bit in the evenings when I edit
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hi kane and feels fans. anyone remember this post
well i do on occasion. and one of those occasions was yesterday after I'd been relistening and I thought huh! wonder if that's really accurate! so i did what any normal person would do with their friday night when confronted with such a question and spent 2 hours going through the season 1 transcripts with a spreadsheet on hand. tl;dr, the post above is not accurate. but i did find some other interesting features! results below cut :)
so here's the chart of every time kane says feels's name. internal monologue is in blue external in red, name is labeled along the x-axis. sorry for leaving off a title but this isn't science fair so it's whatever. now from this we can see that the above post is absolutely not true, kane actually refers to feels by his first name out loud most often and refers to him by last name more often internally. also notably, rarely uses his nickname.
now you may be thinking to yourself why is that graph so poorly fitted on the y-axis and that is because:
i also made a chart of every time feels says kane's name and BOY is there a discrepancy. over the course of the season feels says some form of kane's name over 1.5 times more (60:94) than vice versa. he also almost never refers to kane out loud by his first name in full, preferring his nickname, but internally prefers to refer to him by last name.
what does all this mean? idk. draw your own conclusions. but use accurate information to do it please 🙏 👍
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(cw reclaimed slur) may you please do a "girlboyboss" emoji? ^^
Yep! I should note that I’m making this in appreciation and solidarity with people who do reclaim that term, so if anyone’s uncomfortable with that, remember, it’s always your choice whether you follow me or not
[ID: the word “girlboyboss” written in purple bubble letters. /End ID]
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Alright, to ao3's soon to be arriving Wattpad Refugees, a basic guide to general user culture:
1.) Unlike Wattpads vote system that let's you like each chapter, the ao3 equivalent kudos only allows one per work. Everyone is generally quietly annoyed about this. To engage with each chapter, you're heavily encouraged to comment. Trust me, it makes people's day.
2.) Ao3 has no algorithm. By default it's latest updated work first. You can find things to your taste through searches, filters and tags.
3.) 'No archive warnings apply' and 'user has chosen not to use archive warnings' mean two very different things. No archives warnings means the work is free from any content that could require a warning tag (character death, graphic depictions of violence, non-con, etc). User has chosen not to use archive warnings means it could contain any of the warning content, be it hasn't been explicitly tagged. Treat it like an allergen. No archive warnings apply is allergen free. User has chosen not to use archive warnings, may contain traces or whole chunks of the allergen. If you're likely to have a bad reaction, maybe don't take the risk.
4.) Speaking of warnings, ao3 has very few restrictions on the type of work that's allowed. Whatever your personal thoughts or feelings on that are, thats how the site is. You're likely to run across some dark subject matters and a lot of people are uncomfortable with reading that. You're well within your rights not like these works and have your opinion on whether they should be allowed, but harassing the authors of such works (or any works) is more likely to come back on you than them. Ao3 operates on a strong policy of 'don't like, don't read'. Use the tagging system to your full advantage to only engage with the kind of works you want to see.
We look forward to welcoming you all and seeing the fantastic works you create. Happy writing!
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