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*flips hair* I have never blocked anyone because I'm nosy, but I want to know #4!

What was the last straw that made you finally block that annoying person?

I am also nosy...to my detriment sometimes. Which is why it takes me so long to actually block people that I should probably have blocked a lot sooner. But I do have a story.

4. what was the last straw that made you finally block that annoying person?

I've kind of vaguely mentioned this when asked before but I'll talk a tiny bit more specifically here. Not too specific because I'm not trying to start shit buuuuut....also they are definitely not the only person I've blocked but I think they might be the most recent one? I don't know.

About a year(?) ago I had to block a couple of people because they were starting to make me uncomfortable. I was being tagged in all sorts of posts (and to be clear the posts weren't bad, they were even positive! kind posts even) and something about what was happening was rubbing me the wrong way.

Actually before I keep talking about this, I feel like I need to talk a tiny bit about myself because it's important context. This also might surprise people considering how much I overshare on here, but I am, at my core, an extremely private person. I do not like attention. I get anxiety when my follower count goes up here (genuinely love all of my followers and this is definitely a me problem). I live in fear of being secretly recording for some stranger's tiktoks. I don't want my face seen by people. I do not wish to be perceived. It is 100% a trauma response and I am aware of all of this. And this is extremely important to why I blocked these people.

It is slightly easier for me on tumblr than it is in real life, but this is quite literally my safe space that I have built for myself. It's why I'm comfortable sharing things here. I have no issue being tagged in posts. I have no issue with people wanting to talk about things I've said or if they tag me because they want me to see something. So getting tagged in seemingly genuinely kind and positive posts should be fine, right?

Well, yes and no. The posts I was being tagged in felt...hollow to me. Like I was being tagged in an attempt to build a platform instead of because they actually wanted to tag me. I was being tagged in posts thanking me for participating in a fandom which kind of made it seem like the reason I was posting about anything was for accolades and that...is simply not why I'm here. I am not here to gain a following. I am not here to build a platform or to help others build a platform. I am here to post silly little posts about my shows and my life and also now keep track of character's glasses. If I wanted to build a platform, tumblr is not what I would be using (and honestly if I wanted to, I genuinely think I could be pretty successful at building a platform and gaining followers and other platforms. I would consider myself highly marketable if I wanted to go into that industry).

But the last straw for me? What finally did it? Why I finally blocked the people whose vibes have felt off for me and clearly did not know me well enough to know that doing what they were doing was quite literally the opposite of something I am comfortable with? It was when someone (again not naming names because I don't think they had bad intentions but were just so horrendously misguided as to allow themselves to ignorantly do this) who did not follow me, did not reblog any of my posts, did not like any of my posts, had never replied to any of my posts, nor had they ever interacted with my blog or with me in any type of way (I checked because I'm nosy enough and petty enough to have checked that) tagged me in a post. To thank me. For participating in a fandom. And I am not saying anyone has to do any of those things. But if you're gonna tag me to thank me for participating...perhaps maybe at least like one of my posts about the thing you're thanking me for?

To be clear, this was a show that a lot of people were talking about at the time. I was not the only person tagged in these posts. I was for sure not the only person talking about the show. In fact, I probably posted a tenth of what other people posted. If that. And my posts, honestly, weren't very well thought out or coherent. They were my typical little silly posts. And I know people like those. But they weren't the same as what other people were posting. And to be tagged by someone that seemed to only care when it was something that could gain them notes and followers instead of someone who actually enjoyed what I was saying? Felt strange to me. And rather than start beef with a stranger on the internet I blocked them.

Blocking them solved the issue that was making me uncomfortable as peacefully as I felt I could. They no longer had the ability to tag me in strangely performative posts and I didn't start yelling at a stranger and potentially ruin their day. Or start drama that no one else needed to be involved in. I did make a small post about it at the time mostly because I felt so weirded out and I did feel a little bit bad about blocking them. But it was such a quiet thing that no one noticed and everyone moved on with their lives. Made things happier. For me at least. Probably happier for them too.

Choose Violence Ask Game

#ask game #choose violence ask game #i also want to be clear that i love being tagged in things #this was an extremely weird situation all around and likely won't happen again #because with the exception of this every time i've been tagged has been a genuine tag #and it makes me giggle and kick my feet and makes my day every time #im typically thinking awwww someone thought of me i love it how nice #this was just...strange. the vibes were off and i had to peace out #it's like when my old roommate would throw parties and invite me and i would go cause i lived there #but even though his friends were nice they weren't my people so i would irish goodbye to my older brother's apartment #i'm a big fan of just...leaving. no need to explain why. especially if the why might hurt and it's not something that someone needs to hear #cause i'm sure most people do not have the same issues i have with being perceived

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Let’s get the chaos started… number 3.

Ooooo you really meant it when you said let's get the chaos started.

3. screenshot or description of the worst take you’ve seen on tumblr

Not gonna lie, I used to have screenshots of things but I cannot find a single one. I don't even remember why I had the screenshots. Well that's a lie. I remember why I had them but not the context or what it was even about. (If you want to know why I had the screenshots that's a different story for a different ask and I honestly probably won't share it because I might choose violence but I'm not malicious and sharing that story at this point would be mean and malicious cause the whole thing is over now and has been for...probably damn near a year)

So a description of the worst take I've seen on tumblr? This is tough because I have been on tumblr for a very long time and I have seen some just god awful takes. I could talk about people defending the romanticization of manipulation again, I could talk about people defending sending any form of hate to anyone for any reason but particularly for not sharing the same opinion, but instead I think I want to talk about something I saw somewhat recently.

Why on god's green earth am I still seeing people conflating actors and the characters they play in the year of our lord 2024? I genuinely saw someone use the actor's names in place of the character's names when referencing a sex scene and certain movements of the characters during the scene. I actually had to shut down my laptop and take a walk after seeing that. Because good god.

Listen, I know that pair branding and fan service exists. I know actors have contracts and are paid to do these things. I know all of that. But I also know that at the end of the day, that's their job. And I know it can get confusing sometimes because of that. But I'm gonna need some people to take a step back and reexamine the way they are interacting with the media they're watching. Especially the high heat media. Because the second the pants come off, some people's common sense just goes out the window.

This is not to say that I don't like high heat shows, in fact some of my favorite shows are high heat and I enjoy those scenes, but I never, never ever never conflate the characters and the actors. And that's not just dangerous because of the high heat scenes. Some of these actors play awful and villainous characters and they are very good at their job. And that's just it. It's their job. They aren't the characters they play. They aren't even the persona they put on for the fans. They are their own people and to act like they aren't is quite frankly terrifying to me.

So by all means, talk about the sex scenes! Talk about the pair brands! Talk about the fan service! But for the love of god, do not get those confused. The people you watched in that high heat scene were the characters not the actors and quite frankly it scares me that anyone needs that said.

Choose Violence Ask Game

#ask game #choose violence ask game #i might have lied a little bit about pulling punches because i am not going to name names or anything like that #i'm not trying to start shit or be mean or malicious #i just want to shake some people sometimes #really wish i could have found those screenshots though mostly because i don't remember what it was about #and i'm curious what pissed me off so much i felt the need to start screenshotting things #cause it takes a lot to get me to that point

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I'm just saying that Yuan went after Qian's neck like

it was

the air

he has been

missing

#unknown #unknown the series #unknown series #i have been thinking about this for a week #yuan's lips were practically glued to qian's neck #and qian obviously fucking loved it

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🔥 choose violence ask game 🔥

the character everyone gets wrong

a compelling argument for why your fave would never top or bottom

screenshot or description of the worst take you've seen on tumblr

what was the last straw that made you finally block that annoying person?

worst discord server and why

which ship fans are the most annoying?

what character did you begin to hate not because of canon but because how how the fandom acts about them?

common fandom opinion that everyone is wrong about

worst part of canon

worst part of fanon

number of fandom-related words you've filtered

the unpopular character that you actually like and why more people should like them

worst blorboficiation

that one thing you see in fics all the time

that one thing you see in fanart all the time

you can't understand why so many people like this thing (characterization, trope, headcanon, etc)

there should be more of this type of fic/art

it's absolutely criminal that the fandom has been sleeping on...

you're mad/ashamed/horrified you actually kind of like...

part of canon you found tedious or boring

part of canon you think is overhyped

your favorite part of canon that everyone else ignores

ship you've unwillingly come around to

topic that brings up the most rancid discourse

common fandom complaint that you're sick of hearing

#feeling some type of way today #i blame work don't ask me about it i'm still seething #but do your worst i don't think i'll pull any punches #which i do sometimes because honestly it's just not worth it #but i'm still living in my work anger so let me channel that through violence asks

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Well look at that. Heckin unanimous. I’ll be liveblogging Deep Night I guess

I POSTED IT TO THE WRONG BLOG LIKE AN IDIOT. Let’s try this again:

Sorrt if you voted on the other one but that blog is for glasses only. Not my potentially unhinged ramblings

#ill probably only do one episode at a time #like all of my thoughts for one episode in one post #im sure there will be many #i am already aware of some things so im going in about half blind

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Han dropped a banger today and honestly listening to it just pulled me out of whatever mental funk I was just in. Bless

#stray kids #stray kids han #skz #god bless him honestly #Youtube

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We have not had internet for an hour and a half. It is Friday. Why will they not let us go home?

#rae irl #rae at work #i refuse to use pto but i should be at home right now #also this is indirectly a result of me complaining

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Did this while I was supposed to be working oops. I was tagged by the wonderful @pose4photoml to post what I collect so I figured why not? Cause I collect a lot of stuff:

1. Umbrellas - Obviously. I have a very specific design that I’m looking for right now that is very hard to find I might need to have one custom made.

2. Shot glasses - I used to have a much larger collection but it is no more. However, my older brother used to travel a lot for work and even thougb he lives 1000 miles away, he always picks up a shot glass for me wherever he travels so he can give it to me next time we’re together.

3. Travel mugs/reusable water bottles - I drink a lot. I am very well hydrated. It’s rare you catch me without some type of beverage.

4. Cardigans - I love a good cardigan. And also my desk at work is haunted so I need a cardigan to keep me warm

5. Manga - One day I will have space for just a manga shelf. One day.

6. Cruel polls - y’all already know and I’m sorry but not sorry enough to stop doing it

7. QL characters that wear glasses

I’m sure there are more things. I like my things. Looking at them makes me happy. But that’s all I can think of off the top of my head. Anyway not tagging anyone specifically but if you want to do it than *boop* you’ve been tagged

#tag game #rae irl #my favorite collection believe it or not is the shot glasses #listen i love umbrellas but 90% of my shot glasses are from my brother #who startes doing this because he knew how much it hurt me when i lost my original collection

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Thailand Part 1

Thailand puts out so much BL it will have multiple polls. Sometime. Eventually.

#cherry magic thailand #bad buddy #my school president #1000 stars #moonlight chicken #not me the series #he's coming to me #midnight museum #the warp effect #theory of love #i bet y'all thought i forgot #i haven't forgotten i've just been busy #but i'm back to make you choose things #happy friday i am cruel

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the screencap folder this was in is called "baby bird behavior" in my laptop

#love for love's sake #baby bird behavior is correct #look at them i love them

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I POSTED IT TO THE WRONG BLOG LIKE AN IDIOT. Let’s try this again:

Sorrt if you voted on the other one but that blog is for glasses only. Not my potentially unhinged ramblings

#reblogging for time of day crowd #guess who actually got some sleep last night

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I POSTED IT TO THE WRONG BLOG LIKE AN IDIOT. Let’s try this again:

Sorrt if you voted on the other one but that blog is for glasses only. Not my potentially unhinged ramblings

#whoopsies it was only a matter of time #honestly amazed it didnt happen right away #sorry guys this is why you should maybe actually sleep at night

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One half of my desk is papers and the other half is snacks/caffeinated beverages. What a year this week has been. I am now accepting thoughts and prayers

#rae irl #rae at work #i am also accepting the ability to sleep but idk if that can actually happen

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Will this vanilla latte save me?

#rae irl #rae at work #i think one of the baristas at my local place recognizes me now because i never go at lunch but when i gave my name she was like #right of course

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Babe and Charlie raising a toddler: Pit Babe 2: The Terrible Twos

North/Sonic/Kim get together: Pit Babe 3: Finally Poly

A Vampire Shows Up: Pit Babe 4: Retcon Some Lore

#pit babe #pit babe the series #pit babe series #pit babe 2 #i have to go back to work in 30 minutes and i do not want to #i need to inhale this mac and cheese and go grab a coffee

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*walks into my manager’s office with a question*

Me: “I’m about 70/30 awake/asleep right now”

#rae irl #rae at work #then he told me i need to ask my director the question cause he didnt know

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Pit Babe 2? PIT BABE 2??????? I may need someone to resuscitate me

#pit babe the series #pit babe 2 #ngl i did not see this second season coming #WAIT #if we get a second season and we DON’T get poly for north sonic and kim i WILL be rioting