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I have made it too deep into Anti-Racist tiktok.

either I am not in a strong mindset of understanding to take in what I'm trying to be told about how my existence intersects with racism, negligence and upholding white social constructs.

OR some rude ass bastards are using the goal of being a better ally as bait to deny parts of mine and others existence, tell me the only good ally is one who gets shot, and then mock those who get mad about it.

I honestly can't tell the difference. and its kinda hurts either way.

#anti racist tiktok #tiktok #allyship #being a good person is hard #and i know its supposed to be #but i also know there needs to be a better way to get these message through #i cant tell the real from the bullshit #and neither can their comment sections #please send help #i feel like im drowning

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sticker design for pride this year! 💞🏳️‍⚧️

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I just need to vent a bit... so here's my list of things my dad has said that make me want to fly into the sun. This list is the last 2 months. I will update it as time goes on.

• Its not ok to punch Nazi and white supremacists

• Democrats are Nazis

• If he ever had sex with a trans women and found out she was trans after the fact he would kill her.

• Everyone wants sex. If you dont, or are not attracted to anyone, you are sick.

• Trans women are not really women and trans men are not real men. They can call themselves whatever they want but its all delusion. Top surgery should be banned.

• The LGBT community support Pedophilia.

• Refused to take the Covid 19 Vaccine because of Democrats and Faucci. (note: this is a summary of a 2hr rant)

• Trump is the best President we've ever had.

• IRS and CIA and FBI plotted against conservatives and Trump.

• Capitalism is Good and improving our quality of life.

• Herd Immunity is a Joke.

• The don't say gay bill is good. Chidren shouldn't be aware Trans/Nonbinary people exist and gay romance should only be known if someone they know has two dads/moms.

• Systemic Racism no longer exists in the U.S.

• Its ok to be racist to Indian call center employees and those whose main language is Spanish.

• Him not enforcing gender stereotypes on his children is why I am queer.

• He thought only Republicans voted for black and women rights to vote (note: he has since researched this. with assitance, and is now confused)

• Would "abort" a child after birth if it was "disabled enough"

• Roe v. Wade being overturned is a good thing.

• Socialists are a "Facist Regime."

• People in cities deserve less say than rural American because "they don't understand real life" Rural Votes should count at least 5x more.

• BLM and RoevWade protests are Riots and deserve to be violently put down.

• People working in minimum wage jobs don't deserve enough money to live because they aren't real jobs. They also don't deserve to have families.

• Screaming Dyke (derogatory) at his child anytime they cut their hair "too short" in order to bully them into keeping their hair long.

• January 6th insurrection is a lie made up but the "left"

• January 6th insurrection was a peaceful protest but "left wing facists" snuck in to make a fuss.

• Thinks being racist is funny because I react negatively to him saying racist things.

• Trans individuals should have their own sports league and not "destroy the dreams of real men and women by tainting or taking away their victories"

• Consent is only needed for sex.

#racism #transphobes #toxic dad #things he says #i am trans and ace #my sister is bi #i dont know why I still talk to him #he ignores all boundaries i try to place #hes getting wose #parents #i am definitly his least favorite child

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We live in a society in which everything is sexualized, and yet heterosexuality is somehow decoupled from the sex part of it.

Being straight is so ubiquitous, it’s somehow not thought of as a sexual thing most of the time. I think it has something to do with conflating sex and love, which is a whole other barrel of monkeys. But I think this explains so many homophobes and exclusionists’ views:

That simply being gay is seen as being openly sexual, even when the person in question is just kissing or holding hands with their partner, or even just mentioning their orientation

That an asexual person mentioning that they are asexual is “dragging people into their sex life”

Meanwhile, a straight person mentioning that they are straight, talking about their partner, and being openly affectionate in public with them is not seen as being unnecessarily sexual or corrupting the children because that’s just love

Related, that assigning children as heterosexual and joking about it is normal (onesies with “ladies man” and such on them)

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Memes of the god who is too gay to function

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Shout-out to everyone who got bullied a fuckton in school but tuned out most of it because you didn’t understand social stuff and because sometimes it took WEEKS to even realise, “Oh. They were being mean.”

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Thought I’d commemorate Ace Week with some simple little artworks of some silly little creatures. ✨Go and be amazing, fellow aces.✨

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#this one hits home #mother

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Look, the majority of the Internet right now seems to be here to try and make the world a better place; which is great! Absolutely LOVE seeing everyone stand up and demand rights and better lives.

But there is one problem. I am seeing a LOT of people, who care very much, get burned out and jaded because they try to be active in every, single, movement that enters their sphere of awareness. And others in these movements don't help.

I constantly see videos and posts saying "if you aren't an active part of [social movement] your not an ally, you're the enemy" and "if you're not leading the protests, you're as bad as the white supremacists/homophobes/Mega Corperations.

The problem is, that's not sustainable. You have to have a life, have happiness, outside of bettering the world. So how do you balance this? feel like a good person while not burning through all of you empathy.

Pick 2.

Pick two movements. Two activism to focus you attention and the majority of your efforts on. They dont have to stay the same movements, you can rotate around as you feel you need, and you can still participate in other groups protests, but only be truly active in 2.

For me I focus on LGBT Activism (specifically Trans Rights) and Social Assitance Betterment (Healthcare and Poverty focused). These are the movements I put the most effort towards; actively researching, participating in events and meetings, seeking to improve understanding/inclusion around me, and fighting for rights at local, national, and world levels.

This is not to say I ignore other movements, I still listen to whats going on in the world, I heed calls to arms given by other groups. When I can, I march in BLM protests, boycott when needed, and record people being harassed by police. But I'm not active; These other social movements do not take up my energy on a day to day basic. I do not keep more than general knowledge on these subjects and I'm not a good source of information. And I don't need to be.

I keep the balance in my life, help where I can, focus my energies, sympathize with those who put their energies elsewhere, and take time to live my life with happiness. I only get one of these lives, and if I burn myself out trying to be the perfect ally/activist, if it gets to the point where I can't care anymore... then I become part of the problem.

So I pick 2, and live the rest of my life ensuring that I have enough happiness/life to care about the rest as well. Because only when your needs are met can you be a successful ally in the long term.

#social justice #human rights #activism #self care #social movements #focus where you can #be a good person #burn out #should be avoided #i watched my father burn out and become the villain #he went from being a human rights activist to a trump supporter #be good to yourself too so you have the capacity to be good to others

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do you ever project on a character so hard you start questioning your sexuality and gender?

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4 Months Ago

Me: hey Dad, plz get vaccinated

Dad: Its not even FDA approved, I won't touch it til its been tested.

Me: But you'll get it after its been approved?

Dad: Ya. but not until.

Today

#vaccine #get vaxxed #he doesnt wear a mask either #dumb ass trump synchophant #he says he doesnt care #cause so 'few' have died #and its not that dangerous