#Watashi to Otto to Otto no Kareshi

[bengiyo]

Not sure if you’ve already answered this one or not but I’m curious what your top 5 BL character development moments/achievements would be?

My personal fave is Charn’s process of opening his heart to Tin and how it changed him but didn’t detract from his sassiness.

Hmm, this is an interesting one to consider. It requires the character to change in some way. It's notable because a lot of times it only happens for one of them.

Alex from The Warp Effect

I actually really like the arc for Alex. I think seeing a character reckon with the consequences of his choice or lack of choices was really well done in this show. I like that part of learning for him was about how his people pleasing hurts the people he's trying to appease and making the choice to take better care of the people around him by being a more active participant in his own life.

Nakamichi Misaki from Me, My Husband, and My Husband's Boyfriend

I think I really liked how much she learned that she can choose the kind of relationships she wants from the people around her. I like that so much of her learning about what kinds of love are possible is grounded in her genuine love for Yuki. I have some complex thoughts about where the show chooses to end, but I like how assured she seems about her own life by the end of this compared to the way she seemed trapped at the beginning.

Uea from Bed Friend

Continuing even into Middleman's Love, I really love that Uea learned that he doesn't have to dim himself. He is beautiful. There's nothing wrong with that. It's not his fault that people treat him a certain way. He is also unwell. I'm glad he admitted that and is getting help. I'm glad he's built a support network that knows about his struggles so they can take care of him. I'm glad he severed ties with his horrible mother. He is thriving as himself and not who he was told to be.

Kawi from Be My Favorite

In so many ways I thought Kawi was an incel at the start of the show. I like that so much of his arc was about seeing people around himself in a kinder way, and also treating himself more kindly. I like that he had to face that no matter what he tries he will always eventually lose his dad. Grief is one of the constants of being alive. Everything dies, and so we have learn to cherish what we have and accept that nothing lasts forever. I actually came to like Kawi by the end of the series and could see what Pisaeng saw in him originally.

Amane in If It's With You

I love this boy, and I love how much he's comfortable with the fact that he's attracted to men. I like that his journey with Ryuji is learning that he doesn't have to skip over the cute stuff about first love and run directly to the apps and hookup culture. I like how, even though I wasn't necessarily keen on the chaste ending, it didn't feel like Amane regressed into a sexless being. It's hard for a lot of us who didn't get to have these cute experiences as teens. Dating is hard. We didn't get to practice in simpler settings. I like seeing Amane get a second chance at high school love and blossom as a result.

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[blmpff]

Me, My Husband and My Husband’s Boyfriend

(Watashi to Otto to Otto no Kareshi)

New upcoming japanese drama, starring Furukawa Yuki (Restart After Come Back Home) and Honda Kyoya (Jack o'Frost).

Plot: The show follows the story of Misaki Nakamichi, a teacher who has been married for 5 years to her attractive husband. On the outside, she has a life that many would be envious of. However, in reality, her marriage is in trouble due to the lack of intimacy. Her husband only sleeps with her once a year, on the day of their wedding anniversary. Misaki Nakamichi continues to question her husband’s sexual desire for her when their next anniversary arrives and she receives a shocking confession from him. X

Storyline's a trip: Married couple. Husband one day wants to divorce (wife refuses) since he's been cheating on her (with a male uni student) and it so appears the student is an ex-student of the wife who had a crush and tried to get to her through the husband. Now he wants both. X

To be released first on Paravi from March 28th 2023 and the rest will air later in the year on TV Tokyo. X

pics credit: top X, bottom four X

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[801number]

Me, My Husband And My Husband's Boyfriend

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[mysterygrl20]

im gonna be disappointed if me, my husband & my husband's boyfriend doesn't end up poly. like pls give it to me

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[heretherebedork]

I like this but it worries me at the halfway point of the show, honestly. That is real early for them to be accepting this... even if it's just the start of a discussion... There is so much between them and I love it for exactly what it is, messy and poly and complicated but also just people loving each other and trying to figure out how to make it work and what that even means to them, what does making it work mean in this kind of situation? What kind of home can they build together?

(Shyuuhei loves them both and they love each other and Yuuki loves him but can Misaki love him as well? Can their marriage survive and can their relationship continue and can they find what they need in each other?)

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[mygwenchan]

Watashi to Otto to Otto no Kareshi: They really said this one is for the bisexuals who are also poly enthusiasts, but still want to be in a closed relationship 💖

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[dirhwangdaseul-archived]

"me, my husband and my husband's boyfriend" adaptation

@keyhologram

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[ginnymoonbeam]

I finished Me, My Husband, and My Husband's Boyfriend and I'm genuinely astounded at how complex and realistic its version of polyamory is. I figured we'd have to wade through several iterations of closed triad or quad stories before getting something this expansive in its understanding of nonmonogamy.

Ending spoilers below the cut:

I love the conversations Misaki has with Maki and Daiichi, I love that Daiichi is not suddenly and magically comfortable with sharing a partner and that Misaki is not suddenly and magically attracted to Maki (although give it a shot, girl, let things settle and rotate that in your mind for a little while and you might be surprised). I love that she ends up in a place of "I don't have to love everyone the same way, I don't even have to love them the same way they love me, if we can be honest with ourselves and each other we can have good relationships that bring us joy." This is how I think about love, and how I've experienced it most of the time, and I almost never see it articulated on screen.

My only wish is that we'd been given more at the end - for both Yuuki and Misaki I wanted to see them get the pleasure and connection they've been denying themselves. I didn't need an explicit scene (and the ending does imply that one way or another they're about to sort out the sex no one's been having), but in lieu of that I would have liked a little... something more of on-screen warmth and closeness. The resolution happens so fast and I'd have liked to get to bask in it a little more.

Other thoughts... all the judgements each of them hear at various points are so real, I was wincing several times. Yuuki's sister is so good, I loved her subtle way of giving him support. The conversation with Yuuki's parents was awful and so hard to sit through, but hearing him speak out for himself and then having both Shyuuhei and Misaki backing him was so good.

Every character is drawn so carefully and beautifully, and with such compassion. It's probably not as satisfyingly romantic as many people would want, but to me it was beautiful.

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[pandasmagorica]

Completed first watch: Me & My Husband & My Husband's Boyfriend

Episodes 1 & 2, episodes 3 & 4, episodes 5 & 6, and episodes 7 & 8 of 10 previously watched. Latest watch of episodes 9 & 10. Japanese series.

And done. And kind of an open ending. The characters haven't necessarily achieved happiness yet, but they have the potential to. Poly-ness has not necessarily been achieved, but neither has it been shut out as an option. And I finally believe that Shuuhei does care about Yuuki and Misaki and wasn't just seeking a place to stay.

And I enjoyed this series and can recommend it, including to my poly friends. You do need to be okay with bittersweet, open endings.

Spoilers follow

This came out more positively than I was expecting. Yuuki and Misaki divorce (Misaki's divorce outfit appears stunningly traditional, by the way) and the three of them continue to live together. Misaki is open to loving multiple people in different ways, and exploring what that means and what form that will take. While that seems she might be diluting the meaning of poly (and maybe she is - I'm not poly and don't want to define it for others), she is definitely exploring what it means to say you love multiple people.

This is a bittersweet story that could have ended quite badly, and it didn't. It also didn't try to wrap everything up in a neat bow or force a joyous ending. The ending was earned, and I appreciate that.

Well worth watching, and not a big time investment at under 5 hours.

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[bl-recs-and-reviews]

I finally finished Watashi to Otto to Otto no Kareshi. And I'm left with the need for more. Taking into account that it seemed like the whole polyamory side of it was gonna sink faster than the Titanic I'm pretty pleased with the ending. But it's still an open ending that barely sraches the surface of what you could eplore or do with poly relationships. All in all it was a fun watch, and I enjoyed it plenty, but I'm still starving for some form of poly content that will feel satisfying

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[bengiyo]

Me, My Husband, and My Husband's Boyfriend Eps 6-10 (Finale) Stray Thoughts

In the first half, we met Misaki, a teacher who has been having a difficult time with the lack of physical intimacy with her otherwise loving husband, Yuuki. Despite her frustrations, she was trying to tough it out, but eventually learned on her anniversary that Yuuki was seeing another man, who turned out to be a former student of hers that also continues to express romantic interest in her, named Shyuuhei.

Misaki and Yuuki were not happy with the mess they found themselves in, and both attempted to cut Shyuuhei out of their lives, but it was killing Yuuki. Not wanting to let Yuuki become another unfortunate statistic about gay men, Misaki invited Shyuuhei to live with them.

This is most certainly going to become messy, but I'm intrigued by Misaki's desire to stay with Yuuki in a way that works for him, even if it means adding a third to their dynamic.

Meanwhile, Misaki has been reconnecting with an old friend, Maki, who I'm sure has romantic feelings for Misaki as well. I am bracing myself for lesbian disappointment.

Episode 6

Already we're starting with Misaki deciding to start doing her hair quickly in the mornings. Don't know about that.

Regardless of what happens, Shyuuhei should learn to cook while he's with them. Seems like he's overly reliant on his partners to take care of him.

Oh boy. Shyuuhei has joined a team of women who all find him attractive. Bracing.

I'm glad Maki exists. The other teacher has overstepped and can't really offer a useful perspective right now. It's fascinating because Misaki is not taking from these conversations what I think others want. Instead she immediately reworks their dynamic to try to make the relationship more equal.

How many people does it take to change a lightbulb? Three. One to be young and eager to be helpful, one to cause concern because she's still adapting, and another to supervise because he knows this is all his fault.

Why is the video for Our Dining Table so shit, but this one isn't?

Oh that was a cool long panning shot to show the passing of time. Excited for the sense of anticipation it's building with Mio and her ongoing frustration with Shyuuhei.

I hope Daiichi isn't going to be an actual romantic complication, and just inspires Yuuki to talk to Misaki more. Still, I worry about how distant they feel.

Burning a flame over both of their portraits is so unsubtle I love it.

Feeling some kinda way about the kissing their letting Shyuuhei and Misaki have in comparison to Yuuki.

Oh here we go next episode with everyone overstepping.

Episode 7

I get Yuuki feeling like he needs to do something here, but he unfortunately cannot give Misaki what she wants the most.

I am relieved that Misaki has finally made the informant a family problem. I think this is the first time we're seeing the three of them work on an issue together.

The confrontation with Misumi was intense. I get where Misumi is coming from, but I'm also glad that Misaki is defending her husband and her family.

I find myself rooting for these three constantly. I want them to solve this complex collection of dilemmas.

Oh, Daiichi is flirting. I suppose we can't always get what we want.

Makes me a bit sad that we don't get to see Misaki smile this easily or laugh at home.

Meanwhile, Yuuki is about to implode from restrained desire.

Every episode gets even more messy. Goddamn.

Episode 8

I just find Misaki so fascinating. Yuuki may be worried about her leaving, but she told Daiichi flat out that ain't no man like her man.

I like Yuuki's sister. She has avoided their family for the rude way they treat her, and urges Yuuki to do the same. She knows the arrangement with Shyuuhei is unusual, and doesn't pry. Her recommendation is only to make sure he and Misaki take care of each other.

I'm not sure I believe Misaki about only seeing Shyuuhei as a student, but I am curious to see where this goes now that she can't lie that he wasn't conscious when he kissed her.

I don't know what I expected of Yuuki going to talk to Daiichi, but both of them being forthright feels correct for their characters. It's rather sad, because as sweet as Daiichi is I don't think Misaki could be with him.

Okay, Yuuki is going too far, but goddamn is Furukawa fit. Still not a great way for Misaki to be confronted with the physical reality of it all.

Oh, Misaki tries so hard, but it can't work this way.

Well this Christmas party turned sad quickly.

Episode 9

I like that Shyuuhei isn't stupid. He sussed out quickly that Yuuki only got aggressive with him so it would push Misaki.

Wow, that was one of the most difficult breakups I've ever seen. Honda Kyoya is good. You can see the moment his hope breaks and he has to accept that they can't be a triad. And then, they still happily agree to get together for New Years. Just wow.

I like how we keep tying back to some of the professional stuff. Misaki's student managed to get back into school properly, and now Yuuki managed to help his client by sharing the emotional truth of his struggle about his marriage.

I'd like to see Shyuuhei make a comic about the way he wants to love.

Oh man, Misumi sharing that she resented Misaki's marriage this entire time, and was happy to wreck it so that she wouldn't be alone with her own pain is almost too much. Misery loves company personified this way hurts.

"It's alright if you want to dislike me, but I don't want there to be any misunderstanding between us," is the energy I want to carry through my 30s. I like the resolution between these two.

Ah, Yuuki's parents are making me sick to my stomach. I haven't been this stressed from a show in a long time. I'm glad Yuuki came out, because the only other choice was to inflict even more horrifying closeted conceits on future children.

Shyuuhei is tapping in!

Episode 10 (Finale)

Oh, gross. The dad has been manipulating Yuuki for a long time to try to make him not gay.

Yes, Misaki. Destroy them.

That was awful, but I'm glad they were all together in the aftermath of that.

OH MY GOD IS MY MAKI LESBIAN DREAM RISING IN THE FINALE?

Man, we confirm Maki likes Misaki just to offer the comparison between Yuuki's inability to reciprocate Misaki's feelings for him as well. Now she's also caught in the polyamory difficulties.

Seems like they figured out their dynamic right as they finally let go. Curious how formally divorcing, living together, and letting Misaki figure things out with Maki and Daiichi will go.

I don't mind the way that ended, with them all seeming each other in ambiguous ways at the end. Still! I needed to know that someone was giving Misaki the attention she needed!

Final Verdict: 9, Recommended for queer cinema fans. I would not recommend this to BL fans. There are satisfying gay moments in this, but there's also crippling homophobia and multiple direct confrontations with homophobes. I enjoyed seeing such an empathetic exploration of polyamory. I still don't think it's something I'm geared for, but I liked unpacking this with Misaki, Yuuki, and Shyuuhei. As always with Japan, they toed a very careful line here.

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[jjsanguine]

#me: damn i wonder who is this bespectacled woman in maki's house that misaki is confiding in #watashi to otto to otto no kareshi #me my husband and my husband's boyfriend #maki

[bellepark]

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[heretherebedork]

Well, you gotta have someone in the group willing to just say it, apparently. Oh, Shyuuhei, tiny poly baby, finds the two people he loves the most and just wants to be with them because he just wants to live his life, to love the people he loves, never just one, and to be loved in return... and he is the most dramatic in love boy about it, who loves with his whole heart and doesn't hesitate, is always honest to a fault and here he is looking at the people he wants to love together and... he just wants to be together and living doesn't seem to have space for them.

All he wants is to be able to live freely and love freely but every time ...

He is the dreamer, the lover, the one who wants to be loved and to love in return and loves too much, too differently, in a way the even the people he loves and trusts and tells struggle to accept or understand. He is too much and he loves them but they cannot keep him because they cannot accept him as he is.

Now, can Yuuki and Misaki? Can they love him as he is, can they love each other and him and share that love?

(Also, death means lying on a rooftop and not thinking.)

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[mondstalgia]

I finished Watashi to Otto to Otto no Kareshi and I have absolutely no idea how to feel about it. Basically the second half of the drama went in absolute circles like the writers themselves had no idea where they wanted this to go. Like from one moment to the next the wife is suddenly totally fine? That is beyond unrealistic. Exploring polyamory is definitely very real but under those circumstances and with how deeply she was hurt? No. Not a good nor healthy example. And like not all of it was bad, they had some very important conversations in this drama and the way they stood up for one another as well as for themselves was great I just- no, something just feels off. At one point they clearly established that this isn’t working for anyone and then suddenly in like the last half of the last episode the wife decides hey maybe it can and boom, no more conflict that has built over 9 episodes? No.

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