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vexx-the-egg · 1 year

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*puts on shades* Hello there favorite meme blog. I am here once again to ask about stuff that are not memes because it makes sense I swear. How do you cope with the feeling of losing a best friend? For context of the question, nothing has happened between you two, its just the love has seemed to have left.

I'm a bit high rn anon so I apologize if this is a bit messy. But this is a very good question ! And I'd be happy to answer.

Their are many many ways to coep with losing a freind. Weather it's flooding yourslef with distractions. Reaching out to other freinds for suport. Or suddenly obtaining full enlightenment and letting go of all earthly desires. All of which are good and dandy but don't really ....dooooo anything. And I think that's Wack as hell. So my dear anon here is some extra advice. When it comes to matters of a cold sardonic chill in the place of your warm relationship. All you really need is time. Relationships of every kind, but MOST of all friendships: is that of a turning wheel. Even your most hated freinds enemy can become a close ally. And visa versa. Hard times were bound to happen eventually. No relationship is perfect or without change. It is very likely that your freind may just be contemplating personal change, as a person. And because of that they maybe either dealing with personal feelings or looking for new things to focus on that may be different from what your used to. If it's the second one, all you need to do is re-establish common ground. Try out new things that you may be able to share in common. If it's the first. Then you really really should talk to them. Be honest and tell them that you may be afraid of losing them. If they ask why. Don't be afraid to be honest and tell them about how much they matter to you. Most knee jerk reactions would tell you that this is "cringy" or "controlling" but in order to connect again. Both of you must be deeply honest. Or you risk losing somone you love, without ever even saying the truth. Without knowing if things could have been saved. Theirs bravery and strength sometimes in being honest and you never know when you may be doing the other person a favor. Sometimes it takes some honesty from you for another person to show how they really feel. At the end of the day I can't promis it will work our. But I can promis that no relationship is fully one sided. And its very likely that if you care for this person they probably care for you as well. Who knows they may bee feeling very simulare. Be honest. Be open and be brave anon. No matter their answer things will be alright and good things will cycle back.◇

Non high Vexx will review this later and post notes below:

Sober vexx here! If you made it this far thank you for listening to me ramble incoherintly. Here's an actual clear minded response: Losing freinds can be scary and confusing. But it is something that everyone goes through in their life. Like any broken heart, the key to getting through it is emersing yourself with new experiences and letting yourself feel what you feel. It can be hard, to struggle with the idea of change, but know that like all things this to will pass. If your friend is drifting away then it is important to give them space and consider their feelings as well. As high vexx said you could tell them if you get an opportunity but that doesn't mean things will automatically swing your way. And they shouldn't to be fair, friendships should always have freedom of choice. Just as somone chooses to spend time with you you must respect when they choose not to. Know that this does not mean you a bad person. As people can have a mirad of reasons to want space that don't personaly involve you. If it does happen to involve you, then take it as a learning opportunity. Not a death sentence. Focus not on the bitter end of this relationship but the gratitude you feel, for all the happy times you had with them. Over time new people will cycle into your life once again. Sometimes that can be strangers who make your life better then you could have imagined, sometimes it can be an old freind under a new light. Give it time anon. And things we'll get better

Good luck anon!

#anon #asks #ive been hearing the meme-blog more and you know what its actually growing on me haha #starting tk think its cute yeah ty for looking at my memems guys #feel free to respond if u wana anon ill write ya more #sorry om so high tho hopefuly sober vex will take it form here :3 #hehehehe

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taeyungie · 3 years

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hi, i don't really know who to tell this to but i saw you answer that last anon so kindly so...here i am. i just feel so lonely recently here. friends i would speak to daily, our messages became fewer and fewer. i know the pandemic and everything makes things harder on everyone but i just feel so alone. other friends i had here have deactivated without even saying anything. i just feel almost like a stranger here now. out of place in a way. like i just don't belong.

oh, hello sweetheart. first of all thank you so much for reaching out and trusting me enough to talk about this, i really appreciate that ❤️

i'm not sure if what I'll say will comfort you in any way but I'll do my best. i apologize if that's not what you were looking for, since i'm not in my best mindset right now either, my mind is kinda fogged and my approach isn't 100% positive right now, i hope you understand... but I'll do my best.

i really, truly understand you. i really understand every emotion you wanted to express through your message, and i'm so sorry that you have to go through this. i know how hard it is, we tell ourselves that we're overreacting and we try to balance everything and always do our best, but always having all these bad thoughts at the back of our heads that are never giving us time to breathe. it's this inner sense that tells us we don't matter to anyone and that no one cares if we're here or not. and i honestly can tell you that i know that this drop of activity on tumblr really did make everything so much worse, everyone has felt the impact of it, this is also why a lot of people leave/don't feel happy here anymore. because as much as there's still this small group of people around, it still feels kinda empty? but sometimes i tell myslef that those who were on tumblr for years now feel more upset because we're not used to this feeling, we're not used to tumblr being this quiet, and it makes us feel weird, like we don't belong here, like people don't care anymore.

i think that people come and go, you know. i absolutely understand that friends online mean sometimes so much and we don't want to lose them, i know how attached we can get to each other. but it's not that important, because no matter how quiet it will be - we will always belong here, this small community where we share the passion and love is the place exactly where we should be and where we will always belong. there's always place for everyone and no one should feel excluded, because people come and go, and as simple as it sounds... unfortunately, it's just the internet, people sometimes don't have time to stay active anymore, maybe they don't enjoy being here anymore, maybe they found something that makes them much happier or they simply lost the interest, there's a lot of reasons. but it will always eventually happen, to you, me, and everyone else who's here now, we all will leave and won't come back at some point. some people have this amazing luck to get in touch with their online friends in real life, but if we don't - that's okay too, because we still made a lot of memories and had so much fun together. moving on from something shouldn't be always a bad thing, thinking about things like this we should only relieve good memories, but it's never okay to hold onto your past, no matter if it's good or bad. in situations like this it's always the best to think about yourslef first, to take care of yourslef in the first place, sometimes a break is a good idea too. because our health and well being is always a first priority, and sometimes being on social media will only make it worse, especially when you feel that way.

it's important to give yourslef time, to be upset and sad as much as we need because we need to be able to release all these emotions. give yourslef a couple days, maybe weeks, or months if you feel like it. if you work or go to school, try to focus on that but don't let it make you more stressed and sad, your mental health always comes first. if there's anyone you could spend time with in real life, just to distract you - please do that. try to not escape from people, i know it's exhausting and you won't feel like you want anyone else near you but it's so important. because loneliness is tricky, and it'll tell you that you don't have anyone but at the same time it won't let you go to anyone. please also remember to eat properly, you have to have the energy. but always just give yourslef time to recharge first, sleep as much as you need and rest. do only things that you enjoy at the moment, don't push yourslef to do anything even if you usually like doing it hoping it'll make you feel better, because sometimes it doesn't work. skip using social media, in this cade using tumblr, because that's the main source of your feelings right now, so please just give yourslef time off of it. as hard as it is to stay away from it (i'm honestly going through the same thing rn because i desperately need few days off haha) you have to make sure to not use it for majority of your day. and it'll get better, i promise ❤️

there are always people coming in on tumblr, there will always be someone who will be looking for friends too, it's so easy to meet people here. even if you lose connection with your current friends there always will be someone who will love to stay by your side, because you're a lovely person who's worth all the attention and love ❤️ remember that you'll always belong here. it'll be all good in the end ❤️

#i wrote you a very long message but tumblr gave me an error when i tried to save it the first time and i literally cried #because it was all gone and i couldn't remember what i said anymore KANSJSJSKS but i hope this is okay too #anonymous #answered

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