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#and i think it may be bc they isnt specifically a nonbinary pronoun? its just gender neutral
theygender · 2 years
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I finally got up the nerve to ask my spanish professor if I could use the nonbinary pronoun elle in class and I was worried the answer would be no since it's not an official pronoun, but he said yes! I got to use the correct gendered words for myself on my test today, and I didn't know just how much gender euphoria writing out the phrase "cuando era niñe" and ending my adjectives with -e was gonna give me but I'm gonna be happy for the whole rest of the day now. I'm also glad bc like... now if any other nonbinary students want to use a pronoun that matches their gender in their spanish class it should be easier for them. I've already done the hard part of coming out to my professor at a community college in the bible belt, explaining the movement for a gender neutral spanish pronoun to him, and providing him with resources from a spanish LGBT organization. And I let my pride club know what he said so now if any other students ask the organizer about using nonbinary pronouns in their spanish class she'll be able to tell them that the prof is okay with it 💛
#rambling#i just keep repeating the phrase 'cuando era niñe' in my head#no era niña o niño. era niñe <3#ive used the elle pronoun in online spaces already but like. for one thing im not involved in a lot of spanish spaces online#and for another thing theres a difference between referring to myself with a pronoun on the internet#and getting to refer to myself with a pronoun in real life in my class and have it recognized as correct by my professor#its very gender affirming#tbh the euphoria im getting from using elle for myself in spanish is making me consider using a neopronoun in english even more#like. they pronouns dont exactly give me gender euphoria. its more like the absence of dysphoria#i only ever really notice if someone gets it wrong. if they get it right my brain just interprets it as normal and glides right over it#and i think it may be bc they isnt specifically a nonbinary pronoun? its just gender neutral#same with all the words that describe me in english. kid/sibling/partner/etc. theyre all gender neutral#they dont tell you much about what my gender IS. they just avoid gendering me#which is correct! i generally do not want to be gendered#and i do notice and appreciate when my family uses gender neutral words to talk about me now#bc its a welcome change from the previous daughter/sister/etc and tbh gendered words give me more dysphoria than gendered pronouns#but when it comes to pronouns specifically... maybe i might. want? gendered pronouns?#ones that at least when theyre used in lgbt spaces would communicate not just 'this person has a vague gender'#but 'this person is specifically nonbinary'?#ive been eyeing e/em pronouns for a while and tbh i think it would be cool to use that pronoun set#bc it would match with the first letter of my name AND the pronoun i use in spanish#i think i might bring it up to my partner and friends to see if they can help me try it out#i dont think i would get rid of my they pronouns but maybe i would use they/them publicly and e/em privately#my business pronouns and my party pronouns
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unholyplumpprincess · 3 years
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hii ik this isnt really related to much but do you have any advice for people who may think theyre non - binary?
I do!!!!! So nonbinary is our blanket term, there's lots under its spectrum much like Queer! And the thing that classifies you as nonbinary? You don't feel 100% binary in one lean (boy/girl)!
Even people who feel 80% girl/boy but 20% Nah are nb! Etc! And there may not be a term for how you feel, so don't feel pressure to hunt down a Specific term! An example being: I call myself a Nonbinary Girl (or as some genius called it: Femmeby!) bc there is no SPECIFIC term for how I feel!
And just because you're nonbinary does not mean you need Any androgyny! You can look and feel masculine and feminine and like your boobs or hate em or like ya dick or hate it, havr dysphoria or Not have dysphoria, etc! It doesn't matter! You are you!
Try the label and see how it fits! Explore your pronouns with trusted individuals! And if you end up preferring mixed pronouns, neo pronouns, or even the ones you started with- it's all okay! And same with the term Nonbinary! Don't think it fits you? Not a problem! Comes with gender exploration! You may change your mind TONS of times till you find the right shoe that fits!
And you don't gotta change ur name either! If you like your name, you like it! But if ur not a fan THEN IT'S NAME SHOPPING TIME BABEY!!!!
I wish you luck on your gender exploration and wish you nothing but support to finding what makes you comfy!
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trickstarbrave · 3 years
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i get to make posts abt whatever i want and i like the long form ability tumblr has so im gonna make a post here abt it instead of a 29 tweets long thread abt it on twitter.com’s hellsite even if its a bigger thing there for ppl to yell at me: 
“how can you be NB and a woman? why even bother being aligned? why be more than one category? how do you know this isn’t a common experience with womanhood and it’s just misogyny?” 
there is no one experience of womanhood. this is true. i don’t know if this is a truly common or uncommon experience. i dont know how every woman feels. maybe a great deal binary women feel the same way, and maybe how i feel is entirely different from how women feel. but gender is not just an internal thing but an external thing. it’s, for me, both. no, wearing a dress or feminine clothes doesnt make you a woman and wearing masculine clothes make you a man, but how we live our lives and process our own thoughts is informed by the society and culture around us. all i can do is use that lens i have been given to interpret how i feel.
i dont think i am a binary woman. i use he/him and don’t like she/her or many feminine parts of language used to describe me, which isn’t something i see many binary women do. sure i can use pronouns i dont even like, much like how i can change my name to something i dont like, but im more so in the business of doing things that hurt no one for my own comfort and going from there. still though, not all of my behaviors are not unlike how i think womanhood is. i experience society primarily as someone interpreted as a woman. im okay to a degree with it too. i am subjected to misogyny and sexism. i am a primary target of those. i feel i have a vested interest in women’s rights not just because someone may mistake me for a woman but bc for all intense purposes i kind of am one. i love women and my attraction to women is based on that. i am attracted to other nb ppl with a relation to womanhood. 
for me it means i am partially out of the box. standing with one foot in and one foot out of it into something that isn’t manhood. for a while i assumed if i dont feel 100% like a woman the alternative was manhood. or gender fluidity. or that there is only a handful of experiences you’re allowed with being nonbinary like being entirely third gendered or agender. i relate to womanhood, and sometimes i dont at all. i feel it doesn’t quite fit, a label that applies only half the time and the other half manhood doesn’t apply to me at all either. for women’s issues and women’s spaces there are times i will be heavily involved and present bc they are issues that concern me and have resources i want and need. 
binary society, however, says you’re not allowed to have these varied experiences. you either feel like a woman and use she/her pronouns and look and act a certain way, or you feel like a man, use he/him pronouns, and look and act a different way. that if you don’t your existence is incoherent and irrelevant. it does not account for what each of these parts mean and serve (how pronouns can be very different from presentation or how people can be unable or unwilling to present a certain way), it just says “this is a list of things women do and this is a list of things men do”, and i say “well i do a lot of things on the woman’s list but don’t fill in the checklist entirely”. im on the fringe of womanhood, but orbit it enough that it’s still applicable as a category. 
not everyone will feel like me and reject being a woman and a man entirely, but i reject the idea that there is two distinct boxes that can only be solved by adding a third or fourth box. being nonbinary for me is existing in some level outside of strict boundaries or roles to any degree, and that means you dont have to reject womanhood or manhood to do so. you dont have to reject femininity or masculinity to do so. that some of us will be close enough to the box it might seem like it’s unnecessary to count us as outside it in any way but i say it does matter if we say it does. maybe most people exist outside of these boundaries to varying degrees and it doesn’t impact them, but it impacts me. being nonbinary means you may not be easily understood by other people. just like how bisexuals do not need to have an equal amount of partners who are men and women to be “real”, their bisexuality is important. if a bi woman dates 30 women and 1 man genuinely then she is still bi, not “basically a lesbian”. if a bi man dates 30 women and 1 man, he is not “basically straight”. i am not “basically a woman who should change my pronouns and language”, im woman aligned nb.
nb ppl can also be gay, or lesbian, or bi, or any other complicated sexuality bc they are unaligned and like women or men specifically, or only like nb ppl like them and we dont rly have good words for that ppl recognize. a binary gender system is like binary code, which means youre either a 0 or 1. theres no room for numbers between that, nor numbers outside it. all you can do is break the binary system that no longer servers a good purpose. and that also means we have to think in different ways about sexuality as we know, which was informed by a binary. 
nonbinary isn’t a clear cut thing. it isn’t as easy to understand as manhood and womanhood. our society wasn’t built to explain and understand it so i don’t fault people who dont. but trying to simplify nb identities into something easier to understand for you is wrong. being a woman or man isn’t smth as simplistic as people like to act like it is either. for now this is how i feel and communicate it. im a nb lesbian. i use he/him. pronouns dont determine my gender as unaligned nb ppl can use any pronouns like they as well, and manhood is more complex than simply using 1 set of pronouns. if you think im a man you look silly. if you think i share everything in common with women you look silly. it isnt entirely intuitive or straightforward but i am making due with what i have in a way that doesnt hurt others and isn’t based on bigotry. i dont reject womanhood because of bigotry, i know it exists and i fight against it. i love women and feel im close enough that women can love me too. i feel alienated partially because im a lesbian even, and other lesbians go through this to varying degrees too. 
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knifekris · 5 years
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PLEAS tell us about your au....... and i hope you'll feel better soon!! stay careful and dont get sick please 😔
im already sick anon im sorry 😔 HOWEVER…
[ QUICK DISCLAIMER this tyzias uses they/he pronouns which is slightly different from the standard they/them i use but its butch lesbian indulgence hours and im God. anyways. ]
[ALSO UNDER THE CUT BC THIS IS LONG]
lemme tell you about zizi “tyzias” strider
alright so the premise for this au is basically “dave still had bro as a guardian but tyzias’ baby meteor crashed on top of dirks and smushed him” so alpha dave goes “well fuck i guess i have a troll baby now”
when i was talking to my roommate about this they put the mental image in my head of like, alpha dave with one of those baby carriers with grub tyzias just on his chest while he was fighting the clowns on the white house and while that may not be canon its Really Fucking Funny to me and i hope i get around to drawing it
um um anyways dave wasnt about to assign an alien baby a gender so he kind of left some of his shit for them and some shit hed think rose would leave for a girl or w/e but for the most part just stuff he Thought Would Be Cool– basically what dirk got originally but w some more variety and probably less anime shit because i actually like tyzias . anyways. they still get lil cal bc i feel like thats probably narratively important and for the most part tyzias is just like “yeah thats my puppet lil cal he’s pretty neat i guess. anyways”. obviously theyre going to treasure anything and everything dave left for them bc theyre sappy like that and literally dont have anything else.
it took a couple years for tyzias to realize how different they are from their human friends and they have this really deep insecurity stemming from when they realized theyre not a human like their ‘dad’/’bro’ but a troll like the condesce and they dont know SHIT or FUCK about troll culture or physiology except for whats out there for them to find which isnt a lot. so they get this weird irrational fear that if theyre not careful theyre gonna end up violent and bloodthirsty like )(IC who is a person who hurt not only dave but also rose and is actively making theirs n roxys lives hell and its a lot of “im so different from everyone i know and its in an arguably bad way”. especially wrt molting and blood color n stuff they dont have any explanations for anything except “im different from my friends and its weird and i dont want them to know because then they might think im weird or even BAD for being a troll”
they work REALLY hard on not letting this insecurity get in the way of who they want to be for their friends– which is to say they want to be someone dependable and  a person to lean on and to look to for support. **!!blood player hours alert!!** tyzias feels responsible for the people around them (jane roxy jake) and wants to do what they can to ensure that they all stay safe and happy because other than a long-dead alpha dave these are the people that they have and thats really important to them.
i know theres no class or aspect doubling within the kids but i reaaaalllyyy wanna make them a seer of blood but might settle for mage. seer would help out wrt the game over bullshit because you have to think about where dirk was during the fight and why he wasnt IN it and why he didnt go with john and roxy to the new timeline and stuff. these are all things that make me wanna reread homestuck so i can get a cohesive thing going on. anyways.
dirks version of masculinity affected a LOT of stuff in homestuck and so did lil hal and with both of those things gone u gotta think about like. for example jake and how hes all gung-ho about being a Dude and Manly and the way he goes about exploring his gender kind of cluelessly. and i dont want to make tyzias more ‘woke’ than they necessarily WOULD be in their scenario but i like to think theyd get a decent grasp on what it meant to be a butch lesbian– or at least enough to find comfort and joy and happiness in it while learning more about it and themselves as they grow. the internet exists on earth b. im allowed.
anyways jake and tyzias are best friends and its the most wonderful dynamic thats come out of this thing (there are a lot of good dynamics. i have a lot of very specific self indulgent things going on in this au.)
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[ tyzias noogying jake and saying “hey you fuckin’ nerd” while he yells “JEEPERS, ZIZI” ]
tyzias and jake get to talk about things like masculinity and what even is a gender in a post-apocalyptic wasteland/on a deserted island and i think esp with tyzias’ aversion to showing what they look like or sending pics jake would go about assuming that tyzias is his Dude Friend until one day they have a conversation where tyzias goes “no bro im a lesbian” and jake has this moment of like. “… :D well thats neat buddy”
anyways tyzias encourages jake to go out and explore the island in SAFE and HEALTHY ways and they voice call while hes out and about so they can sort-of hang out as best as you can across spacetime and its fun. they like talking about stories (usually movies and shows) together bc its their common interest. 
zizi is really into storytelling and writing which is kind of a mirror of dirk/dave being really into drawing while holding onto zizi’s interest in literature and history n stuff.
as for roxy i think itd be really neat if tyzias’ “what is gender in a post-apocalyptic wasteland” thing inspired them to think about themselves and what their gender is vs. janes and maybe (or definitely) they come out as nonbinary and jane gets to be confused by zizi and roxys “weird pronoun preferences”
shit there is SO MUCH to think about with this. fuck. send me more specific questions so i dont just get caught up in my brain with all this. theres so much.
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u-l-i-a-n · 5 years
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Long triggering story ahead
Make sure to check the tags before reading further to keep yourself safe, okay?
Anyways, here’s the story of my abusive friendship that lasted 8 years.
I can pretty confidently say 2017-2018 was the hardest year of my life so far, but it was also the one that set me free from HER (avoiding naming her bc you could definitely find her otherwise)
I’m very very bad at math, so bad that I ended up having to repeat my last year of middle school, and I’d decided to go to the other middle school in the area so i wouldn’t have the same teachers. I was pretty quickly adopted into a fairly large friend group that liked to hang out in the library, SHE was apart of that friend group. she also sat next to me in math class, and we very quickly became friends that were nearly inseparable. 
At this point in time i’d gone a few years without any real friends and my social skills were very poor, as well as my anxiety rendering me nearly mute (it still does this, but it was worse before) as i was the closest with HER, she became my “anchor” in most social situations, where i could be comfortable talking with everyone if she was talking too.
This, was where the abuse started. Where she would playfully hit me in the arm. HARD. every day, multiple times a day. I’d complain and rub my arm and she would dismiss me saying she “hadn’t hit me that hard” (I got it confirmed with another person she let one of her punches out on that it was hard as hell, and lord help you if you hit her back with the same strength)
This went on throughout high-school, along with more and more manipulation, and emotional abuse. If i did something without her approval she would be angry with me, she wanted me to keep my hair long and would get angry when i cut it, even if it looked better. If i was getting new glasses and decided on a style that she hadn’t picked out she’d be angry with me, if i wanted to see a movie she didn’t want it would take weeks of begging and making deals to watch things i had no interest in to appease her.
It was frustrating, and we argued CONSTANTLY on every little thing. She lied, pathologically, and would always try and prove herself right by yelling and hitting me in the arm until i backed down, even on things that were obviously incorrect (like: ”all raccoons are born with rabies, only gay men can get aids, japan is filthy and people shit in the streets, Spanish is the same thing and Mexican” i know, fucking crazy)
*There was one particular event that took place sometime between freshman and junior year, where on the multiple prompting of “she’ll stop hitting you if you hit her back and don’t back down” where I took that advice, and in my bedroom when she was staying over (as she did nearly every weekend, even if i didnt want her to) she’d hit me during an argument and I hit her back, this went back and forth until she got angry and angrier, until suddenly i was on my back with her hands wrapped around my throat. I remember staring at her in the eyes, until slowly she let me go. She said she didn’t know what happened, that she had “blacked out”. She didn’t apologize. I forgave her.
During this time, the friend group that we were apart of bisected and grew in different parts, some being the kids interested in theater and some being interested in other nerdy things, like video games and anime. A lot of the time, the few other friend that i had that weren’t HER often asked me “why are you still friends with her, she treats you like shit” and you may also be wondering at this point “Ulian what the hell why were you still around this person???”
Well, I’d convinced myself that she needed me, like i had once needed her as a buffer and anchor for social interaction, that i somehow owed her my patience and forgiveness for the things she did, and continued to do.
A certain event led to us breaking apart for a time, that event being her handing me a letter after several weeks of telling me how angry she was that i continued to interact with someone she didn’t like (even after she’s lied about the person being mean to her, but at this point i knew over half the things she said were lies) the letter, in briefest terms, was her blaming me and how i acted for her wanting to kill herself. She literally wrote the words “You make me want to kill myself”(hypocritical since her stance on self-harm was that people only did so for attention and people who committed suicide were weak) I couldn’t handle it, I couldn’t handle the idea that something i did would have made someone want to die, and couldn’t handle that she’d just slip me a letter about it while at school and expect me to be fine.
My depression got worse, i avoided her for a time and my mental health was bad enough that it had a physical effect on me that other people commented on. I thought i was sick, and missed about a week of school.
eventually, and unfortunately, we made up. With me conditioning that she needed to treat me better, specifically “hey stop hitting me maybe??” and for the most part she did, slowly she stopped hitting me and things were much better. for awhile at least.
skipping forward a bit, we graduated, and she convinced me to go with her to college (we lasted 2 semesters and then stopped). Eventually she convinced me to start working with her at our local grocery store (bad idea) She constantly pointed out that my home life was shit and I was eager to move out of the house, and after finding a third roommate, I was living in the same house as HER (horrible idea)
although her hitting me was now something that happened very rarely, her manipulative tendencies and emotional abuse increased. And also spread to the people around us. While living together, any small mistake i made was blown up out of proportion (like not doing the dishes when she said to even though she never ever did them) and she made it seem as if i was lazy, as if i was childish and needed her in order to function. she made it so the way she treated me made sense to other people, and that i deserved how she was acting towards me.
She even threw me a kiddie themed birthday party for my 21st birthday, with a bunch of baby decorations, like think winnie the pooh themed stuff.
She constantly undermined everything i said or did, made me out to be irresponsible, invaded my privacy by forcing me to let her use my phone and computer and give her access to it, told people my secrets that i told her in confidence and bad mouthed me behind my back (as i found out from our 3rd roommate and also my GRANDMOTHER)
She also made me feel as if I couldn’t return home, that my home life (which isnt great but no one is degrading or hitting me hmmm) was horrible and that i couldn’t go back there, which i later realized was her manipulating me into feeling as if i HAD to stay with her and had no where else to go.
Living with her made all the things she did and the horrible way she treated me pile up, and left me short tempered. I knew that something needed to change, and I thought that I could get through to her and have her change how she was behaving.
We argued again, after the time she had choked me i’d backed down quite a bit, and started hating arguing since i knew she’d never listen to me. This time, once again, i argued and didn’t back down when she yelled at me.
So she SCREAMED at me, loud enough to make the house shake and have my cat try to intervene, and she threw the closest object she could find at me full force (a penny, but still scary as hell in context)
I was quiet, and I waited for a time for her to calm down. i asked “Are we going to talk about this.” and she replied “No.” And i walked out the door.
Because when i get truly, viscerally angry or upset, my response is to remove myself from the problem. I walked out the door into the night to calm myself down, shaken from the realization of the situation i was in and knowing that I couldn’t stay with her.
I began telling our other roommate and her boyfriend about the things she would say to me about them when they weren’t around, I’m not very proud of going against someones trust but at this point i was desperate to have someone on my side and willing to help me get away from her when our lease was up.
During this time she had manipulated me into coming to conclusions that i would NEVER come to on my own, such as thinking our roommate who had clinical depression only wanted attention, which is something that someone who also has depressions and many friends with depression and actively learns and cares for people with mental health issues wouldn’t ever think on my own. its not in me to think badly of other people for no reason, while she (her words) hated everyone around her by default.
eventually our roommate confronted her, and she managed to twist things around and cause a lot of tension, leaving me feeling trapped and hopeless in a house with someone who had the potential to hurt me, and also my pet cat.
She threatened things i cared about and intentionally tried to upset me, specifically threatening my cat, who is a huge emotional support for me. It sounds funny, saying i was upset because she threatened my cat, she and her mom laughed about it. no one laughs when i tell them what she was saying.
Things like “I’m going to hold her down in the drive way and have (roommate) run her over” and “I’m going to shove her in the oven and cook her alive for you to find her when you come home”
Yea, not funny. you can see why i was upset about it. She apparently couldn't, and refused to stop even when i asked her to repeatedly.
She also fully knew that i was pansexual, hell i was the reason she was even slightly okay with people in the LGBT+ community. She wasn’t great about specifically me though, and when i told her about being nonbinary she made fun of my chose name (called me Uvula) and refused to call me by my preferred pronouns.
When I came out to our roommates she said she would never call me by that stupid name or by they/them because i don’t “act nonbinary” (get a load of this guy)
Her last day in the house, she was upset with me for going into her room to take back my heated blanket that she’d taken from my room without permission (my room was cold as hell, i wasn't going to wait for her to come home at 1 am and and she already had a heated mattress pad)
I took it back of course, and our roommate asked what she was upset about (roommate and her bf had bought some food they didn't want to share, which we already discussed was fine) I told her honestly and carefully didn't badmouth HER since she was already mad, and i wanted things to be less stressful.
She blew up at me while we were at work and came for her things that night to go back to her parents house. we took care of her cat until she could figure something out for it.
During this time and the time i last saw her, several things happened, since unfortunately we worked together
She cornered me in the bottle trailer (literally a semi-truck that has bottle returns in it in huge bins. she was standing at the door and could close it at any time) and called me a horrible friend, and also a huge bitch, while we were supposed to be working and she was in a position of power over me. I panicked and said nothing.
She often made me up to an hour late for my lunches, since she was promoted to manager, and liked to skip my breaks and all around treat me like shit compared to every one else.
Despite all of this. . . I still felt as if i could forgive her, if she somehow proved she could do better that i could be friends with her again. Until she ruined that for herself by telling me that my dead father would be dissapointed in the way i was acting.
 No. hell no. I was done, she didn’t deserve my forgiveness. And i finally realized that it wasn’t my job to “fix” her.
When the lease ended I moved back in with my parents, and I quit working at that job in September.
I haven’t seen her in over half a year and many of the people who knew me when she and I were close have commented on how much happier i am, and how much more confident i am in myself.
I’m sure i’ve missed a lot of things, and I know I didn’t really go over the positives of our relationship (There were some! i swear!) but if i did go over everything it would be the length of a novel.
I got away from someone who was hurting me, I decided my happiness was more important than catering to someones every whim, decided that i deserved happiness. And I learned to NEVER let someone treat me like that again, to surround myself with people who make me happy.
I hope, in whatever way, this story of my 8 year horrible friendship helped you.
And if SHE is reading this. . . Go fuck yourself.
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nieloxychen · 7 years
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on nonbinary representation
while i am perfectly happy as being seen as a void, as a magical craeture or sth (mainly bc i question me being a person a lot due to neurodivergency/mental illness idk which or what exactly haha), i also hate that people cannot understand, no matter how much i try and explain.
now, that may or may not be because of me being bad at explaining, but i know from other situations that having good representation in media (mainstream or not) can go a long way. both in helping ppl who this is representation for feel less alone, less weird, less wrong, and in helping others understand more easily.
nonbinary characters do not happen a lot. and when they do they are usually aliens, robots, in other ways dehumanised, or used as excuses and to delegitamize gay characters and relationships (like all gems in steven universe tbh. theyre aliens, might work for bigender ppl but are shown as general nonbinary representation, theyre “not lesbian bc they dont have a gender”, etc)
there are few examples of good representation in media, and none at all that i can think of in mainstream media. more examples of bad or not great representation overall, but those dont really help. if you use they/them pronouns for example, both with specific characters and characters that do not appear for long, without explicitly stating some connection to the character being nonbinary, people will assume that you use those pronouns bc their “”real”” pronouns havent been revealed yet. this of course completly ignores that not all nonbinary people use they/them pronouns, id argue that not even a majority use them, or even only them. just using they/them pronouns is not representation.
of course, no matter how awesome your character is, and no matter how much nonbinary people may love and appreciate them, theyre not neccessarily god representation. especially if theyre the only character that is in any way noted to be nonbinary, and theyre very explicitly not human, or alien, or portrayed as abnormal. these characters can be nonbinary, in fact it makes sense for them to be (why would magical creatures or aliens adhere to western notions of binary genders?), but if its just them? youve got a huge problem on your hands. take for example roswell from the adventure zone (not mainstream media but ive been thinking abt them so ill use them as an example). theyre a golem made of clay and a bird. theyre magical in nature and nonbinary. their wiki page states that theyre agender, but i dont remember their creator ever actually saying that. which is a problem. it is not representation if its alluded to, its not representation if it is to be assumed that they are nonbinary. now i also dont remember roswells creator ever saying that they were intended as representation, but the fandom sure likes to act like they are.
theyre an awesome character, one of my faveourites to be honest. but theyre not good representation. not once is it stated that theyre nonbinary or agender or anything in that direction, they are a being of magical creation, which can easily be dehumanising. i love them, i identify with them, but they dont count as representation.
on a different note, i just realised that my bar for representation and identification with a character is set so low that i will identify with them if they use they/them pronouns (another example in my case would be napstablook from undertale, who btw also isnt good representation, but their pronouns and them being nonbinary are commonly ignored by the fandom anyway so :/)
i dont remember where i wanted to go with this, but maybe posting my thoughts on this is interesting anyway for someone
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godzas · 3 years
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the updated athree lgbt hcs list. im insane
masumi: is clearly gay but we havent had the talk. also nonbinary and he/they/xe. you need to really coax him to talk about gender or tell you hes not cis hes like a cat
sakuya: is a cisgay, figured it out a while ago hes just chilling
itaru: gay and nonbinary. he/they. most of his like for women was built up in high school after being extremely insecure. he had a fling with tonooka and thats partially why he repressed it
tsuzuru: gay and cis. figured it out in high school and his family is very supportive. he wishes his parents would stop showing him pictures of men and asking if their cute
chikage: GAY. genderfluid he/it/she. number one woman disrespecter. also homophobic
citron: how could i forget him. bi. why is everyone in spring gay except for him. sorry buddy. yes bi and nonbinary. he/they
tenma: gay. gay. cis as well but hes questioning whether he may be genderfluid because he has been getting le gender envy from everyones fave gnc king. i have a full tenma gay plan in my mind its too complicated to list out
yuki: bisexual and genderfluid nonbinary!! he needed a lot of time to grow into himself and he still has a lot of trauma from his childhood, so he isnt entirely comfortable yet. but hes trying every day to unlearn what was drilled into him as a kid
muku: bi trans! he likes neopronouns but hasnt found any yet that are specifically his. hes like the textbook anxious ftm. someone tell him to stop practicing with his binder on holy shit did he do track w this thing on muku go to the doctor how are your ribs
kazunari: bi trans! i dont have much to say on him i just think hes swag. he supports everyone else so much hes the lgbts biggest fan. you bet he goes all out for pride and decorates
misumi: i wrote masumi wtf two. anyway san uses he/they/san/tri pronouns because i think san as a pronoun sounds so cool. gay triangle
banri: bi nonbinary. he likes some neopronouns but not many. hes picky and changes them depending on the day. hopelessly mlm
juza: some sort of mlm and nonbinary! ive seen some epic she/they/he juza and i like that. weve all seen the their typo for juza. they/them canon
taichi: ^_^ bi he/they he hasnt gottem a handle on gender yet. i love him so much he has def had a crush on nearly every mankai member but got over it. and they are cute to boot
omi: gay cis. was def dating nachi you cant deny it. wait i had a terrible idea. i wont elaborate but man thats sad. omi hunk and i want him to be a bear sooo bad he would look so good
sakyo: trans bi. hes never rlly loved anyone besides izumi, but did have some men in his early ginsenkai career. the first transmasc present father
azami: bi and nonbinary! im not sure if i want him to be afab since i try to keep my trans hcs within canon. no hes transmasc now him and sakyo are trans buddies sakyo gives him his testosterone shots and thats father son time
tsumugi: bi cis! is this our first cis bi so far. well anyway hes gay for tasuku, and yknow they dated in college but broke up bc of godza. he dated a girl after that, so hes bi. i dont talk enough abt tsumugi hes interesting. he/she
tasuku: the only gay man who likes cars. i have lots of evidence for gay tasuku and wouldnt it be sick if he was trans. get that jacked after transitioning. would love that.
azuma: genderless bi! he still uses he/him but it likes to switch it up sometimes. she has had lot of time to figure themself out and helps other mankais with identity. i luv azuma
homare: gayest man alive. well who wouldnt find maters and lightinings relationship homoerotic. oh my apologies you were talking about real cars. hes cis but gnc
hisoka: gay nonbinary!!! i love hisoka so much they are soo wonderful my little cat man. catgender marshmallowgender sleepygender. chikage goes crawling through mogai and retrieves genders for them. he/they/ it for fam
guy: he hasnt figured it all out yet! it knows its fine with he/it but he just became his own person give him some time hes got a lot to catch up on
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