#i dont identify outside of manhood im terms of gender

[just-your-average-tangerine]

The line between binary and nonbinary trans people is nowhere near as clean as some of yall think it is

#transgender #trans #nonbinary #like i guess i would be considered a 'binary' trans man #i wouldnt consider myself that for two reasons #first because the idea that gender is binary is bullshit to begin with so why would i identify within it #and second because i am a man only in that i am a gay man #i dont identify outside of manhood im terms of gender #but my gender is so linked to my sexuality that it cant be neatly tracked onto a binary view of 'man' #but because i am a man other consider me 'binary' regardless of how i feel about it #and yet will still refuse to use he/him pronouns in favor of exclusively using they/them #but thats a different discussion #op

[gayteensupreme]

yknow i figured out why im so nervous about iding as a demiboy and stuff (not that i dont like the terms, i love them, but im nervous about being open with it) is not ONLY is having a gender identity outside of the gender binary inherently different, othering, and therefore somewhat nerve-wracking to be openly that gender to others, but also labels like demiboy, boyflux, demigirl, girlflux, etc, exist outside of the gender QUARTERNARY that cis people have created.

Since nonbinary people and acceptance of nonbinary people has entered the mainstream, cis people have wrongly and incorrectly created a gender quaternary to still have some resemblance of control over gender, despite gender not being theres to control.

now, instead of girl and boy, you have girl, boy, genderfluid and nonbinary - this mystic third gender that basically means you have no gender at all (although the specific label for that is agender, not nonbinary, but cis people dont fucking get that for some reason. like, agender people are nonbinary, but not all nonbinary people are agender.)

I include genderfluid here because a lot of cis people I know do accept genderfluid as a valid identity, but view it as like, only shifting between the other 3 genders they percieve - male, female and nonbinary.

But this quarternary is inherently AGAINST what being nonbinary inherently is. In fucking fact, being genderfluid makes you fucking nonbinary! (unless you are genderfluid but dont want to id as nonbinary, in which case you arent nonbinary)

Being nonbinary isn't what's "in-between" male and female, or completely separate from male and female, it means fucking EVERYTHING ELSE.

I'm a demiboy, and boyflux, and nonbinary. Those labels fall under the same umbrella of nonbinary. They're connected to being male, manhood, etc, and are still fucking nonbinary.

FURTHERMORE, I am AMAB. I'm not ashamed of this, in fact it usually turns out quite well in my favour when transphobes/enbyphobes try to refer to me with female terms in an attempt to trigger some sort of horrid dysphoria flashbacks. Like, no, I have quite literally never identified as female and no one else has perceived me as such. Get fucked.

I'm a guy. I'm a person. I'm genderless. I'm full of gender. I'm a genderless guyperson who is full of gender. It's contradictory, who gives a shit? It's how I feel. Gender is fucking fake. Be whoever you want to be.

Anyway, back to my point - cis people have also inserted this transmedicalist narrative to trans people. Trans people, in the eyes of cis people, MUST suffer some kind of crippling dysphoria. They MUST want to medically transition and they MUST medically transition at some point. Men must look masculine, women must look feminine, and nonbinary people must be androgynous. Trans men take testosterone. Trans women take estrogen. Nonbinary people take whatever hormone will make them androgynous. That's the cisgender narrative of being transgender and/or nonbinary.

But here's the thing: I don't have dysphoria. I don't want to medically transition. I don't want to look particularly more androgynous. Sure, maybe I wished I looked a little vaguer in gender, but not by much. I'm fine with being masculine, in fact I'm quite happy with it. That's how I define my gender. The connection to being a man is there, but saying I'm just a man is too limiting. There's more to it.

I'm a cis person's absolute NIGHTMARE when it comes to that typical nonbinary narrative. I shatter almost every "rule" set in it. (Not to mention that lots of cis people conflate "being nonbinary" with "being AFAB" which doesn't help.)

And so part of me is really fucking nervous to ID how I do in a society where I just don't fit the mold cis people desperately put together to maintain their control over gender.

#nonbinary #demiboy #boyflux #gender #gender is a social construct #ive been having some Feelings about this and had to put them out on the paper #feel free to rb btw this isnt like a vent or anythin

[genderplaylist]

(this is a submission that i’m reposting by itself because the coiner requested to remain anonymous! everything below this was not written by me!)

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this is the first time ive tried to coin anything :0

i have decided to coin new gender identities, specific to boys/masc-aligned this time bc they’re based on swedish words, and because they’re kinda for me, but they could easily be changed to be fem- or non-aligned! the words are swedish because im swedish and that is an important part of my personal identity so i should say these terms aren’t exclusive to people of scandinavian descent, but they are definitely made for us especially <3

pojkevän “loverboy”

also a word for “boyfriend” but dont worry about it lol. a masc-aligned or male gender identity for someone whose personal idea of masculinity is characterized by loving, protecting, kindness and taking care of others. to this person, masculinity and manhood are inherently gentle and caring.

stjärnpojke “starboy”

this gender could mean a number of things. it could be somewhat of a synonym for stargender, in that it could simply be a gender related to stars, space or the night sky. it could mean the person’s masculinity is related to what stars represent to them in a spiritual sense. it could mean that your masculine identity is meant to be pretty, or shining, or glowing. stjärnpojke is a word i use to describe myself and identify with heavily. so, what it means to me is that my identity is meant to be a source of light in an otherwise dark place. for myself and for others, it represents the stars that light your way when it’s dark outside, so the night doesn’t feel scary anymore. it can also refer to a masc-aligned person who feels spiritually or elementally aligned with night, without being related to the moon, which is typically associated with femininity.

i also tweaked some pronouns to use for myself, but they’re somewhat related to the genders themselves, so i thought i’d throw these in too. they might already exist in some variation so i dont wanna take credit.

lo(v)/lov(e)/loves/loveself

de/dem/dems/demself (based on the swedish words for it/its)

#submission #flags #genders #talky #thank you for the submission btw!!

[homosexula]

hmm thinking abt my gender and how i want to be called he/him and want to be viewed as a man but only in terms of wanting to be viewed as a gay man specifically except that in practice im actually bi and also i feel inherently alien to/outside of manhood/being a man but idk if its actually bc i identify that way or if its just from being trans and nonpassing so other people by default view me that way. idk i dont think the way i feel and the things ive experienced are necessarily the same as men but when someone calls me he or when i see a pic of myself where i look particularly masc it makes me feel good and when i see or interact w other gay men theres just smth inside me that goes “me! me!! thats me thats what im like!!”

#noodle speaks