#i'm not even sure young men being more feminist is true (well it's probably true when you compare it to like the 50s) but even

[maddy-ferguson]

women will literally accuse women and esp lesbian circles of "not unpacking ""man-hating""" alleged ""misandry" sweetie xo" getting offended ppl aren't appropriately uplifting how "men are amazing and awesome and attractive and i won't be shamed for thinking so" as if appreciating men is a real counter opinion than blame whatever gave women of every sexuality instance to be jaded weary cautious and tired and who'll complain every now and then and continue on with her life until she dies putting up with patriarchy. just welcome to the "woke" internet where misogyny's over and "man-hate" "shamed for not hating men" is worth springing to defences for

yeah i've only seen people talk like men's rights activists and think they're being unbelievably progressive on tumblr it's kind of fascinating. like i can see how seeing people hate on men could mess with people and stuff but you can't demand men appreciation posts that's literally the whole world outside of idk your tumblr dash (or even on your tumblr dash because fandom misogyny from people who think they're not misogynistic at all is really something). men get praised for "babysitting" their own kids like be serious? it's very let men be masculine

i don't think being like men are soooo gross and we hate them is actually constructive and it can definitely veer into transphobia (you'll always be a man/"a male" and thus a danger to women/why would you ever want to become a man they're the enemy and the bane of society etc) and homophobia relatively quickly?

but the way people ON TUMBLR ""combat that"" is often so off to me like if the most basic feminist principles offend you then i'm not really sure where to go from here. i remember seeing a post that was like "men aren't your enemy. they're your friend/brother/father/colleague/neighbor" with a lot of notes and like i don't know how to tell you this but that's literally who's most likely to harm a woman, the men she knows?😭 and obviously not every system of oppression is exactly the same but would you say the same thing to someone criticizing white people like...just very weird

i think women who are attracted to men and dating them making jokes about how they only tolerate being attracted to men because they have no choice and especially the whole i'm bi so i love every woman and only find 1 in a 1000 men attractive (very often said while in a relationship with a man) thing is obnoxious and annoying for like everyone who has to hear it lmao but also when women who date men make jokes about it (not about them being ugly or unattractive or whatever but about them being bad partners in general) it's like. what else are they going to do like you said they're gonna endure patriarchy for the rest of their lives and as girlfriends/wives/mothers they go through the most it's very bleak? idk. it's not like you can date a better man yourself out of patriarchy

of course men aren't a all as bad as the worst guy you can imagine and they're not all out to get you or whatever but saying things like "men don't all benefit from the patriarchy rich men benefit from the patriarchy but jake, 23, is not oppressing you" is like. kind of insane. jake, 14, was oppressing me like have you never interacted with boys in school😭 and it's not like it was entirely their fault we all have to outgrow misogyny it's just you know society etc but some of them never outgrow it lmao and just...the takes you see on feminism on tumblr are astounding i hate it here

#and like i do think that young guys who feel bad about themselves only having people who make them feel worse and who actively make them #worse like incels and idk youtube algorithms to turn to is a problem but like. again it's the same thing as white people who feel bad about #being white to me in a way like are women and GIRLS supposed to coddle them and say it's gonna be okay you're great even when they're #like actually harming them by being misogynistic to them? that's already what they're taught to do always #the notes on that male loneliness epidemic post i reblogged a few weeks ago still haunt me like OH MY GOD #and if you think misogyny isn't as prevalent anymore you're very naive. and probably misogynistic yourself #i'm not even sure young men being more feminist is true (well it's probably true when you compare it to like the 50s) but even #when men ARE like yeah women shouldn't have to do everything i can help with chores (the use of the word help is already a red flag lmao) #when you look at what they actually do they still do way less like i don't have links because these are tags on a tumblr ask but i read #somewhere that men think chores are 50/50 when they're only doing like 30% of the work? like it just seems hopeless #sometimes i'm happy and then i think about the mental load #sorry for not uplifting men 24/7 you can just hang out on the steve harrington tag or something there's actually a lot of people doing that #when someone said um does the ronance fandom not seem terfy to you...because of a post that was like can the lesbian ship ronance #be about the lesbian ship ronance not about steve A MAN #like you can't make this up #i meant it when i said the average tumblr user would benefit from being exposed to more misogyny like i swear they forget it's even a thing #like obviously they wouldn't BENEFIT from it lmao but their posts wouldn't be as dumb and that would benefit me🙏 #ask

[khalidplsstfu]

To Be Loved Is To Be Changed

It's kinda hard to belive that quote is attributed to a random twitter user. It's even harder to believe that it's true. Every couple of months, something happens to me that alters the way my brain works, maybe forever and i never really talk about it. The situation in this post is one of those situations.

A large percent of my 2023 was spent missing an ex- girlfriend. Very cliche, but also very painful. I questioned everything about the relationship, but mostly the part i played in it's disintegration. The ways in which i failed to be the lover and friend my ex needed was very heavy on my mind. which was weird because i literally never think about ways i failed. but that time spent reflecting on the days I spent being as unperturbed and unaware of my girlfriends feelings as a mostly homeless young man can be left me with me with something resembling an answer.

The reality was that like most men in my life, i put the emotions of those i care about on the back burner in favor of the results I wanted to see. Probably in an effort to protect my emotional self which had almost been beaten to numbness by a tramuatic childhood and young adult life. It's a practice i learned to use on myself, and then spread to other people as some type of barometer of how worth my time they are. Is it kind? Does it make everyone feel seen or heard? No. Did it save me from cold ravolii cans and nights using a bathroom handwarmer to stay warm? Yes.

This hardened dedication to my goals and absolute withdrawl from my emotional self without a doubt saved my life. It saved me from being a vagrant loser, another man who depends on the blessings of others to sustain his own life. But closing that door to how i felt had disatorious effects on my relationship, as i wasn't just closing the door to how I felt, but to FEELINGS in general.

"But that was then" I told myself. "Surely, with all the books i read, all the podcast and lectures and interviews with feminist rants i've consumed, i'm more ready to feel and be felt than ever. More ready to hear and be heard" At the time I was working at a shoe store where my closest thing to a work friend was a middle aged white woman who hated her husband and complained about him every chance she got. Which I gave her many, because learning from a old dude's mistakes is a big part of being a young dude. Anyway, the advice from my work buddy was very concise.

"contact her and let her know how you feel. It's the only way you'll know if she feels the same. and you'll regret it if you don't"

advice that good cant be ignored, especially if you kinda wanna do the thing you're seeking advice about anyway. so i did it. i wrote my greatest love letter ever. i was vunerable. caring. apologetic. everything i thought i was supposed to be. And surprisingly it worked. So well we hung out that night.

But something was diffrent this time. something that makes me feel that dark feeling in the pit of my stomach even as i write. The feeling that I was being mislead. being made a fool of. Too many quickly hidden phone screens and vauge answers. But like every other man, I was a fool. I said " I do not see" I was ready to bare the horror of trusting another human being with my emotions. If trust was a part of love, i was all in. After all, a life without love isnt much of a life at all.

Somehow, in my infinite stupidity, i decided to use some of my disposable income to celebrate her birthday. This was a decision so stupid i routinely beat myself up about it inside the safety of my mind. A decision so stupid the khalid that orginally met the girl in question simply would've never done it.

"Why would i spend money on a girl i barely trust" 19 year old khalid would say. And honestly that kid knew more than i'd give him credit for. But with our focus re-established, i decided to spend her birthday this year showing her how much she meant to me. I planned a day and fully funded it with the last decent check that shoestore would give me. I got two dinners and two tickets to the worst aquariam dallas has to offer and 7 grams of weed for us to smoke. All in preparation for what was a absoloutely horrible day.

Like most horrible days, this one started off relatively normal. I got high and dressed and mentally prepared to pay the debt i owe someone who i've loved for years. she showed up and was as beautiful as she always is and I started us on our way.

In all honesty the day remanined pretty good until we left the aquariam. At which point we lost the car so we couldn't return for a quick smoke after we ate. Frustrating, but instead of lumping my frustration on her i just tried to focus up and find the car. There was a very noticeable frustrated silence while we looked for the car but eventually we did find it. we smoked. and headed to applebees.

applebees. my home away from home. the home of the 4 dollar pint on friday night. in all honesty the perfect place to have your lifelong perspective altered forever, its almost like a fighting game stage in the way there's just limitless oppurtunity to see things you've never seen before. And that warm day in august, that's exactly what I saw.

In order for the events that happened that day, at that applebee's table to make sense to you dear reader, i have to provide context. Not to suck my own dick or anything, but im not a dude who just started getting pussy a week ago. I've been blessed enough to have a face that allows me to expirence the female form in a somewhat consistent way. Saying that to say, i know what it's like to be around good women. And shifty ones. And as me and my ex were having a beautiful day at that applebees table, I saw the shifty woman trademark. the ol "silence the phone and pretend they didn't see"

Now in the moment, i was salty. I felt a whole relationship's worth of mistrust and self consciousness flow through me. she kept trying to talk to me, and i tried my best to respond, but i felt like a dweeb the whole time. After all who was I in that moment? Paying for a date for a girl hiding her phone from you? Planning a day around someone not named Khalid or Khalid Jr? Putting myself in a position to see myself in these ways? what was i ?

I was changed. My first love made me a changed man.

To make a long story short, I've never been on a worse date in my life. I have to be honest and say that I found myself fighting back tears at more than one point. "You've gone soft. This would've never happened to you in 2020. Couple months alone and you lose your spine?" and more and more all played in my head as i sat in silence. At a table at one of my favorite establishments, with what i thought was the person that understood me the most, i felt completely alone. and that was enough to make me cry without being on drugs.

I don't remember how the rest of the day went exactly. I remember making a beeline for my home. saying my goodbyes. overwhelming dread. wanting privacy I couldn't have because i live in an apartment with one too many people. I remember her texting me, accosting me for my behavior. And i remember one sentence more vividly than anything she's ever said to me.

"You know, i don't really owe you anything" she says.

I was blown away. we'd spent days in love. nights looking out for each other. shared our dreams. our fears. the intricacies of our family relationships. young summers spent stealing time with each other. I felt I owed her so much. She took the time to try and see me in a way nobody else cared to. I spent so much time rationalizing her feelings. trying to empathize. and for what? did we owe each other anything? i didn't recognize the author of the messages i was reading. That was the moment that I realized that it didn't just happen to me. My love had changed her as well. I had given her the experience nesscary to guard her emotions and she had taught me to let my guard down. I don't know who made who worse. I'm scared to know in all honesty.

The story ends with me thanking her for the oppurtunity to "get her out of my system" and going about my way. I think about her often. My first love. I wish I could go back to 2019 and tell myself to make sure to enjoy every moment of her i'd have before it turns into dust. Nowadays every girl is like the new verision of my ex i met last year. Now I wonder did love make them that way as well, and if any of us can ever be saved.

#love #and #love-like #feelings

[kiefbowl]

There's a post floating around about all the trans people with eating disorders... Failing to mention that all the trans people with eating disorders on this site are female. There are hardly any male eating disorder accounts and I've never seen a trans woman with one, I wonder why 🤔

Hmm...just because you haven't seen it, doesn't mean those people don't exist. Especially since tumblrs aren't evidence - people lie and people don't have to disclose their medical issues online. Not to mention that tumblr is not, you know, a measure of reality. All signs point to in general this site being used more by women than men. I also have no idea what post you're talking about, I haven't seen it.

Granted, the straight narcissistic men who are motivated to transition due to fetishism are likely not suffering from eating disorders. However, that's not the only reason men have been transitioning. Gay men, for example, have felt a tremendous pressure to transition this past decade, and gay men are more likely than straight men to suffer from eating disorders. Anecdotally, I've encounter a small number of men who I perceived as transitioning due to trauma and falling into these "egg" communities (essentially, being groomed). I'm not saying that's a huge number of men, or that those men are either gay or straight or bisexual, or there is no fetishization factoring into that, but it rings true to me there is probably some amount of men who are transitioning not from porn exposure, but community exposure regardless if they're gay or straight (or bisexual). Traumatized men, I would gather, are probably more likely going to have eating disorders than your most privileged of men (many of whom are transitioning because of fetishization of femininity AND oppression - the most privileged of men are not handling the social conversation of privileged etc etc).

Now to your point, of course women suffer from eating disorders more than men (at least how we understand them). That's not even that difficult to believe. Seems logical that women would, with the intense body monitoring expected of women, yadda yadda we are treading topics that you and I both know well enough I'm sure. However, I don't want to hand wave issues that are inconvenient to my politics. I don't care what's inconvenient to what I believe, I want to believe what I believe due to evidence. Men who are intensely trying to transition physically - whatever the reason, seem like likely candidates to me to suffer from eating disorders. Men who are interested in seen as passing regardless of what they look like are probably not suffering from eating disorders. However, the same messages that might cause men to develop an eating disorder in these spaces and communities are going to also be seen by transitioning women, who are at a higher risk of eating disorders anyway. But, that doesn't mean I want the conversation of risk of eating disorders for those transitioning to go away, I just hope women (or trans men, w/e) can help frame the conversation. I suspect though that privileged men who aren't suffering from any eating disorders are more than happy to leverage the conversation for their own designs.

I just want to give leveled responses to these kind of asks only because I really, really discourage young women trying to get into feminist politics to get too wrapped up in tumblr appearances or rhetoric. I'm not more concerned about men over women wrt eating disorders, rather it alarms me to read "Failing to mention that all the trans people with eating disorders on this site are female..." as if that can possibly true, measurable, or matter. Think larger than tumblr, my loves.

[papirouge]

Hi need some prayers right now . Been feeling pretty down lately. i believe i wont see myself get married in my lifetime. It's a nice dream but i wont EVER ever sacrifice my standards for it and will 1000% choose to volunteer, have plants, pets, and sponsor kids on my own than negotiate on them --- No porn whatsoever, No alcohol, i consider myself a Christian prolife feminist and need a man who is similar, I dont tolerate ANY abuse since I came from an abusive home. I am working towards my goal of being a Dr. An obgyn specifically so if God doesnt have plans for me to have a Godly husband and family, then maybe His plan for me is to help other women with welcoming theirs into this world? *ps your stalin shitpost did made me snort 😭 thank you for making me laugh! I really needed it💕

Queen I know you sent me this ask a while ago but just so you know I prayed for you the very same I read it for the first time💙💙

It took me some time to reply to you bc to be honest I could have written this ask myself and it hit close to home so hard it was hard to handle...

I TOTALLY ENTIRELY COMPLETELY feel you about having such standards you hardly think it's possible for you to meet anyone living up to them. But the worst thing is that....they aren't even that hard to meet when thinking about it. Not watching porn, being abusive or a drunkard is a bare minimum. I too came from a abusive home and there is no way I would ever tolerate an abusive or violent partner. That's the case of most women I know. Same for wanting someone having their life together and not being a slug watching Netflix/anime or gaming all day....

Since when "the bare minimum" has become "standards" in men when these standards are the norm for women? Probably because expectations have always been higher for women? When for men it was only being able to provide for a family and moderately well behaved. But now that gender roles got broken (for good and bad reasons - I won't elaborate on this post), it's become quite chaotic. We have manlet, but not men. I can feel my body physically ache whenever I see these men curved into their seat on public transport, bending over their tiny phone screen, watching these stupid Netflix shows or worse, silly anime when they are 2 or 3 times the age of the characters... Even on a symbolic level it tells a lot - you know a civilization is cursed once GROWN ADULTS start looking up children antics. That's why many men behave like children : collecting toys, dressing up, shoving themselves into escapism do deal with the responsabilities they have IRL, whiny, over emotional (which often translates through abusive behavior), slave to their fleshly pulsion (porn addiction).... Homo degeneratus. There's no way women can respect mess. Hence radical feminism.

And then we act shook at divorce rate. Girl, your husband is spending more time looking at a screen than using his hands & his brain, OF COURSE his brain is getting fried and is for no use when around the house!

Being focus on what you can controlled is indeed the best solution to overcome this dreadful feeling of missing out on your own life. Do a list of all the list you managed to achieved this year. I am sure there are many💙 Being married with a man won't suddenly make your life better. Maybe the reason God hasn't put the love of your life on your path yet is precisely because He doesn't want you to be distracted by this relationship for now? I'm telling you this but I also tell myself the same thing. Maybe if I did get married 2 or 3 years ago my life wouldn't be where it was supposed to be. Only God knows.... But I'm also praying for God to give me the strength to accept my fate of being a lifelong celibate if that's His will and to bring me fulfillment through a Life within in Him💙

PS/ I'm glad my hottie young Staline simp post made you laugh. Only true queens got it right!!👸♥️ we are united in the non judgemental appreciation of the the timeless baes of History, regardless of what jealous, hateful receding hairline dudebros have to say!!😤

#answered #personal

[atozfic]

Love when people reveal themselves as being so obviously online and insulated in leftist/progressive circles that they seem to forget that the rest of the world is not nearly as accepting or supportive of not conforming of gender roles as these spaces are. Like when did you say the reason anyone likes femsub or the reason it's popular at all is because they're young or don't know anything about sex? To me it's pretty clear you were talking about it as a larger trend and why it's so much popular than everything else overall. And to be completely frank, what is the reason femsub is so much popular than anything else OVERALL (not why any individual person likes it or it has any kind of appeal), if not gender roles? Are women just naturally more submissive than men (not saying you think this)? Because I have seen people say this, yes even so-called "feminist" men and women, that my preferences are unnatural because men evolved to be sexually dominant and women evolved to be sexually submissive, and that I'll never be in a happy or satisfying relationship unless I make myself more submissive and change my preferences because men just naturally don't like dominant women. I'm pretty sure you would not like if I took those hurtful and negative experiences and said any woman is submissive is that way is because they're misogynists who just think it's all women's nature to be submissive. And I'm pretty sure of this cause of the way that you freaked out when you even THOUGHT somebody might be implying that when they weren't. So why the fuck is it okay for you to say dom women are the way that we are because we think we're "enlightened" or more strong or better than everyone else and only like what we like because we want to be ~not like other girls~ for attention because of your negative experiences? And I like how they only talk about submissive or vanilla women getting shamed, so true bestie, dom type women, sexually or otherwise, never get shamed for their preferences. Nope, never ever. It's not like people always joke about women "wearing the pants" in the relationship and how it means she doesn't respect her partner. It's not like assertive or aggressive women are called a "bitch" but when men act that way it's sexy. It's not like religion teaches women they have to submit to men or no man will ever love them or they'll never be happy. It's not like people say that women that want to be dominant are "acting like men" or "want to be men" and therefore are unattractive, as if dominance is inherently masculine thing. It's not like a lot of men genuinely believe that all/most women want to be dominated in bed and so they don't even have to ask, they just do things to you and try to dominate you without your permission or consent or without ever having talked about that kind of thing before. Nope, we must have it sooo easy because we've got grrrrllll powerrr on our side, all women love us cause they think we're such cool independent and empowered women, and all men love us cause they think we're just so cool and not like the other girls. Like honestly, I don't assume to know what they experience of submissive women is like or that they must have it so easy because they're preferences are in line with gender roles, because I'm not one and i know they don't always have it easy because I've heard of women in the irl bdsm community being treated badly by shitty men who think it's okay to abuse them or do whatever they want to them because they're sub identified (or sometimes just because they're women). So why is it okay for you to assume what are experience is like?

I'm not involved in any real life bdsm community because corona and I'm anti-social bitch but I do like to lurk on online communities for fun (something I should probably stop doing cause it's not good for my mento health luv lmao). This whole thing reminds me of these weird ass screeds I sometimes come across by straight male doms on reddit where they go on and on trying to reconcile their desires with feminist politics either because a) they're genuinely a misogynistic piece of shit and people call them out on it or b) they're genuinely progressive/humanist men who have some difficulty reconciling their desire to be dominant with feminism for whatever reason. And so they do this weird thing where they project these worries and insecurities outwards, and manufacture a situation where anyone who criticises gender roles at all is against them personally, and it would be so much easier if they were just a female dom instead, everyone would apparently have no problem at all with them then, cause grrrrllll powerrr.

I don't like to engage in armchair psychology but the follow-up ask from that anon made it pretty clear to me that they have some insecurities around reconciling their preference for submission with feminism because of some negative and hurtful experiences, and so they deal with it by projecting it onto anyone that suggests that gender roles might be why SOME people gravitate more towards it and why it's so much more popular than everything else. I'm sorry that those people said those things to you anon, they're wrong, but a) most of those people tend to be against all bdsm in general, not just femsub and b) you need to work out those insecurities by yourself. You can't lash out at anyone who tries to talk about the relationship between societal norms and preferences at all, it's not helpful or productive.

Also how do they know those people unfollowed you for that reason? Is that an assumption or a verifiable fact? I'm not necessarily saying they didn't either, I'm not a mind reader, but like, some people are just sexist and think women are naturally submissive, sexually or otherwise. I've met them before.

to quote my therapist: that was alot to unpack.

i'm gonna give a longer reply under the cut but i just want to state here i'm not posting this ask to offend or hurt, or even "one-up", the original anon who sent that ask regarding sub!females. i have no issue with them and, again, think they're in every right to send their original ask. i'm posting it because i do think this anon made some very interesting points and brought up alot of worthy of being discussed topics.

let me also put a disclaimer here that i am not a genius nor someone very well-versed in gender politics, i'm simply a twat on the internet with a negative mindset.

"Love when people reveal themselves as being so obviously online and insulated in leftist/progressive circles that they seem to forget that the rest of the world is not nearly as accepting or supportive of not conforming of gender roles as these spaces are."

this. omfg, t h i s. i see this so much, especially in my younger cousins/relatives who are just now beginning to develop their own political opinions. let's take the conversation away from dom/sub for one second and just focus on gender in society. one of the clearest examples of gender affecting the way someone is treated/viewed is something i've experienced first-hand: i was misdiagnosed four times before i was correctly given my diagnosis for ASD, because most of the studies regarding it center around boys and, therefore, most women go undiagnosed. in fact, for years it was believed only men could have it which is why there has been such a surgence in the past few years of adult women being diagnosed with autism. i remember hitting high school, experiencing academic burn-out (thanks to everything moving too fast + my classmates catching up to me intellectually) and having my teachers treat me like i was an imbecile, or i was lazy, rather than just someone with neurodivergence. (this isn't me implying tjat men with ASD have it easy or that society accepts them anymore than women, it's only easier for them to get diagnosed.)

"it's not like people always joke about women wearing the pants."

this applies to both the shaming of dom women and sub men. the amount of men who get treated like they're "losing their manhood" for letting a women(or anyone else) dom them is ridiculous.

honestly, I think at the end of the day (and to close up this whole issue-that's-not-really-an-issue), we're unfortunately always going to live in a world where people have opinions against either side of the dom/sub spectrum, or the whole bdsm community in general. the best thing we can do is try lessen the internal conflict, especially between dom and sub women. we gotta stop treating each other like the enemy when all we really are is people with a differing preference. at the end of the day, what someone chooses to do in their bedroom is no one else's business (unless it harms anyone) and we need to take away the importance we seem to put on it. we're on a floating rock in space, who cares if becky likes to peg her boyfriend on a sunday morning or if stacy likes to be tied up on a thursday evening?

also, anon, i like the way you worded this whole ask. despite it being long, it was easy to read and you made some great points. sorry my reply isn't more exciting, i just in general agree with most of what you've said.

#again i don't have any issue with the original anon who sent that ask #we all act on impulse when our enotions overwhelm us and i respect them for even thinking they needed to apologise #also have you guys noticed yet that i'm a little bitch who's afraud of confrontation??? #we love to see it 🤸‍♀️ #🎐: message board #anon asks

[topconfessions]

Hey, how are you doing? I totally understand if you need some time away from this blog after what happend. I can’t even imagine how it must be for you, as I myself felt so horrified reading what that anon said. I’m not sure what to say, I just hope you are doing fine and take your time to heal.

Thank you so much! I am doing better now and am well. It didn't really phase me or anything, but more so the sheer audacity to think she could send that and project it onto me as an Admin as if I'm supposed to accept that. I'm not going to discourage the thought of people knowing celebrities or friends of celebrities cause its real and does happen. But getting pissed on the behalf of someone else who isnt a responsibility to you let alone that person connected to a celebrity is a whole different story. I don't believe in shaming or blaming but aside from the fucked up tactics Seungri and others implemented at burning sun to prey on those women. In general, unless someone spikes your drink when you aren't looking or physically forces you into that area and situation, you yourself are responsible for yourself and how you got close enough to get into such a situation.

I'm just saying. It's a night club. Not women walking down the street alone at night. Its not what people want to hear but it's what y'all need to hear. It's not my place to presume nor assume the personality traits of these women but lets be for real. The average hyper self aware or introverted person isnt going to get pulled into something like that at a lounge or club unless they are impressionable OR VERY easily agreeable to shit no matter how off it sounds.

At the end of the day the mere topic of what that anon was raging about is a complex yet grey area. Therefore, not worth all the threats as in general you and I probably would never ever end up in a situation like that no matter what the circumstance is as we have limits, cautious outlook, don't party with men we don't know, don't get led astray from our group of friends we came with etc. I see burning sun as 90% The crooks fault and 10% on these girls / women not being able to curve them and physically keep themselves out of that situation. I could sum all this up in one simple sentence but too many young people who look at this blog get triggered and want to argue instead of accepting dirty facts of life that some and I truly do mean SOME of these women allowed themselves to get lured back and thought they were just mingling with rich investor men until these creeps manipulated and drugged them.

I don't have a mentality that the bad things that happen in the world can't happen to me cause I know it can.. But it's like those true crime stories like "for my man" and dating stories on tv 20/20 where to some degree the woman or girl put herself in that position and didn't hurry up and get out before it was too late.

If I get any asks about this I will delete them and not respond or let it sit. Period. People are allowed to lives their lives, but that anon and anyone else who wants to play outraged power feminist for others know damn well it's not like they went out to the dance floor and snatched up an truly unsuspecting girl by the arm against her will and dragged her to VIP section. There are just very tough and unfortunate tragic situations in life that happen that are actually WITHIN someone's control. Cause we have to remember burning sun is an upscale club / lounge. In any case if you are at a lounge, bar, night club or anything of the sort there has to be a SOMETHING on the women end of them getting to that spot in the first place.

Point blank period. If I'm at a lounge and a man approach me for whatever reason trying to get me from point a to point b it seriously won't happen. Even if I'm there for a good time ot meeting guys, just no. It would have to be a drink spike or a physical knockout for me to get back there and I stay hyper vigilant positioning myself at a spot in the club where I can see everything around me, without much behind me.

Besides there is a bit of hostess culture in upscale night life in Korea anyway. Its been more prominent in Japan, but like, the ideal of attractive hot young women just hanging around the business men or ballers in the VIP of anywhere as arm candy and service is a thing. It happens here in America too but its not a set in stone trend, here in America people throw shade saying groupies or thots i.e if chris Brown came to TAO nightclub and invited 4 attractive regular chicks by the balcony up to his VIP to drink and be around him.

People are very emotionally attached to media headlines and want to rage by fueling on the perpetrators, totally being obtuse and ignoring the "victims" part of how this came about from their circumstance or lack of.

I'm kinda sick of people speaking about burning sun like these girls got snatched from the 5th isle of the beauty section of an average Korean 7/11 for no reason. It's just a horrible cause of girls allowing themselves to mingle with the VERY WRONG men and getting taken advantage of. It happens all the time. Burning sun is just another Friday or Saturday night here in America at clubs especially with corrupt celebrities and politicians. From the 70s all the way up until 2010. Btw this isn't me writing it off cause it is a horrible case and situation. But lets not act like this doesn't happen more often or is the first club crime ever. People need fo grow up

Raging on someone over a kpop star who is nearing has been status won't do shit for you or your health.

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It's hard being a 16 year old who wasn't indoctrinated into the left dogma. Otherwise I'd probably be a racist and a bigot towards people that have never done anything to me. So I'm thankful that other such as yourself understand this, so thank you for existing - A Hispanic/Native American teen who's against bullshit

Heyy thank you so much for reaching out, message me any time :) 

Feminists and the like love to tell everybody how “educated” they are because they’ve listened to and read a whole bunch of nonsensical propaganda and take it as truth and everybody else should be “educated” the same way they have been. 

Unfortunately there is a lot of misinformation, false narrative and incorrect statistics spread by people who get paid to spread it, and whose jobs depend on it being true, eg feminist columnists, women’s studies professors, politicians and celebrities. Even more unfortunate are the ones who mindlessly believe it without question and let it radicalize their freethought, happiness and individuality. 

You’re the perfect and rare example of a young person having the bravery to go against the only views that are considered acceptable and you’re thinking for yourself, it’s really commendable of you and a great example to set for others in similar positions. 

I made a post about this last year but I think it’ll apply to you and others who may read this before going to college:

Things you really need to know before starting college

Colleges throughout the United States and many first world countries are becoming carried away with eccentric gender politics. Being prepared for this is vitally important.

Many new students will be subject to special training sessions and introduced to a new vocabulary with terms like trigger warnings, othering, microaggression, male privilege and safe spaces which I am sure you are already aware of since you are reading this on tumblr. You will also at some stage witness outside speakers being called out, abused and boycotted for breaches of sensitivity.

Colleges are changing their mission; truth seeking is being replaced by the more sensitive goal of making everyone, especially female students feel validated and any ideas that get in the way of this mission usually are not tolerated and even viciously shut down. Here’s some things to expect:

If you are a conservative, no one is that concerned with your feelings. You’re going to face a challenging intellectual environment and according to a recent UCLA study, there are nearly 5 times more liberal professors than conservative professors on college campuses. Your views are going to be tested every day but saying that, most of your teaches will treat you respectfully.

Your ideas though will face critical scrutiny and you may end up revising or abandoning some of them. But that’s a good thing, it’s what many liberal students are missing. What is not good is plenty of “educated” students and a few professors will see you as the embodiment of evil. If you express your opinions vigorously, some classmates will likely complain to school authorities that your very presence makes them feel unsafe and they will say some really nasty things about you. There is a bright side though. Even the schools overrun by the new orthodoxy, you will find great friends and allies, male and female, professors too - whether they agree with you or not.

If you are going into college liberal, idealistic and a woman, you face a different set of risks. You are going to find a large and excited group of gender activists - students and some professors - eager to recruit you to their cause. They are going to present you with shocking statistics on sexual violence on campus and theories about an oppressive patriarchy and they’re going to tell you how mistreated and traumatised you are.

It’s going to seem new and exciting to you and maybe a way to make new friends and fight injustice at the same time and you’re going to be tempted to sign up. You can do what you want but just be aware that most of the victim statistics you’re going to hear are either completely fabricated or wildly exaggerated. And the theories about women’s oppression, they’re twisted and surreal and are there to make you feel like you need these people to hold your hand.

As for trigger warnings and safe spaces, these are infantile, the opposite of empowering. It’s the fashion on many campuses to treat women as delicate flowers and fragile little birds but no, most of you are strong, tough and resilient, capable of empowering yourself without your hand being held by these people.

The gender activists you will encounter are going to tell you not to listen to or not to take the word of those who encourage you to think for yourself and be open to real facts and statistics and that’s true, you shouldn’t, you shouldn’t take ANYBODY’S word on these matters. This is your future. Your feminist foremothers fought and battled and won the right for you to be educated and on par with men. They knew you were tough and they wanted you to have the opportunity to put that strength to use. Please don’t waste it by falling captive to a pointless ideology or indulging in victimhood. Take serious classes, health care, science, engineering. Avoid courses that luxuriate female oppression. If you are serious about “the wage gap” then be serious when it comes to choosing your course.

If you are a liberal and idealistic man, you face an even greater risk. You probably think of yourself as open minded, well intended and progressive. But many on campus will not see you in this way.

Today many college women practice gender profiling and it’s the fashion among these activists that judge men by the worst members of their sex and women by their best. So many attempts to exonerate yourselves or your friends will be dismissed as mansplaining.

To save yourself from excommunication, you will be asked to engage in a fair amount of self-flagellation and male bashing but do not do it. Have some dignity for crying out loud. Don’t become the guy who sends out tweets like Arthur Chu: “As a dude who cares abt feminism sometimes I want to join all men arm-in-arm & then run off a cliff and drag the whole gender down in sea.”

Today’s campus manias aren’t going to last. Sooner or later the age old virtues of higher education will reassert themselves and bring back free speech, intellectual diversity, open inquiry, vigorous competition of ideas and mutual respect.

If you are a strong, independent thinker yourself, you can play a part in this intellectual renaissance. If not, don’t say you weren’t cautioned.

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