#they just know what theyve read

[georgespaniel]

this is probably going to sound a bit spineless but it makes me feel sad knowing that people will think of me in a bad way because i like the 1975

#i saw a thing on facebook #and so so many negative comments #but someone said something liek anyone who still listens to them is telling on themselves #basically implying you're a bad person/agree with him if you still like them #and that kinda hurt #because while i know his core values and what hes like #he has irreparably damaged his and the bands reputation #and a lot of people dont know the nuances #they just know what theyve read #which looks terrible #and i know i shouod be more confident in ny morals etc etc #but i'm not lmao #and i don't want people to think i'm terrible for supporting them #it made me sad that i probably cant share my spotify wrapped this year #i wish i could shout louder about the nuance and the context #but even then #i still resent matty quite often #for his stubborness and his inability to apolgise and fofr doing that shitty podcast #fuck you!!!! #a talks #negative #neg

[milf-harrington]

I feel like eddies the "i know youre going to drink/smoke regardless, if thats what you want to do, so at least do it at home so we know youre safe" parent and steves the "i had to pick you up from a party you werent allowed to be at last night, and now youre hungover? I suddenly feel the need to vaccuum" parent

#im open to outside opinions if you disagree #but this just came to me after reading that last post #also regardless of where they stand on the fun - protective scale i KNOW steve is the kind of dad to pick up his kids #no matter what the time is or where the kid is #theyre doing something they shouldnt be and they want to go home? steves starting the car #hes just dropped them at a sleepover and theyve changed their mind? hes turning around #its 3am and theyre at an event 2 towns over and need a lift? hes grabbing his car keys #steddie #steddie headcanon

[pansyfemme]

thinking about an ask i got when i was 14 that has stuck with me forever because it was like. accusing me of lying about having bi4bi parents. why would that be anything even remotely interesting enough to lie about

#its cool and it made me rlly open to queerness at an early age bc even tho i didn't know my parents were bi- #anyone old enough to understand that they had lives before they got married and had kids would be able to read them pretty easily. #they had a lot of queer and trans friends too so i grew up knowing about everything #i was just a kid and didn't rlly.. think about the fact my parents had had other partners before eachother much and it never really totally #came up what the genders of those partners were. it wasn't a secret it just never rlly came up #my parents are now both of the mindset of the fact that they both still identify as bi but they don't feel the need to bring it up a lot #because theyve been married for 23 years. its not all that important anymore in their day to day lives

[daily-crabbys]

mmg,, i might hiatus again,,,

I'd hate to do it, but there's no joy in crab posts as of right now, and also as of a long while ago.

Managing messages and responding to people in replies and being tagged and all the stuff in inbox is. a lot.

I never intended or expected crab blog to get this big, and it feels like such a chore to do at this point. Not that I dont like it, and not that I dont enjoy the fellow crab lovers, but it's certainly overwhelming.

That plus other socials and such that I manage and real life stuff is just. IDK, it's a lot. Usually, if I get to this point, I just drop off, maybe delete the account if I really can't stand it, but I'm definitely not going to do that here.

At the very least, I'm going to empty out the submissions that have been piling up, but after that, I'm not sure. I may not even get through all of those, I've already been relying on those for a long time at this point, and I think that's pretty obvious.

It feels like a hassle to deal with those anyways since most people don't even identify what type of crab it is that they submit, so I have to take the time to find it, which is usually not at all easy. There are so many posts that I've just had to guess what to tag it as because I just don't know, and there's no solid answer that I can find, at least not usually.

Which is also partially my fault, I've never said anything about it before, and I never specified it at an earlier time to make incoming ones less stressful to deal with, but even so I just. I don't know, I don't.

I don't know exactly when it'll happen, but it's the most likely thing to happen from here. I think I'll modify some stuff about how I handle the daily-crabbys blog to make it easier on me when I come back, but I'm not entirely sure what that'll be. I've never managed a successful daily posting account before, I haven't the slightest clue how to make it all easier on me.

Sorry that this has gotten so long, I didn't mean to rant. There's just so much that I feel like I need to say.

This isn't something coming out of nowhere, and it isn't going to be immediate. I've thought about wanting to do this for a while, and I know I did this already not too long ago, but I didn't really change anything for myself, so I'm just burnt out a lot faster.

Sorry again, both for the length of this and the fact that it's going to happen, but I've just got to make things better for myself before I carry on long term. I really just fucked myself over by not doing this the first time, but if I don't do something about it eventually then I'll just end up hating this blog too much to continue.

🦀💜

#not crab posting #heads up that this is quite a long post so in case you may not want to read it all(dont blame you) theres just a few things to know #firstly this isnt a random decision i made. ive thought about it for a while and dont think i was ready to come back in the first place #second is that it will not take place immediately! i dont want submissions to sit for too long so ill empty those out before i disappear #this includes a few that i wouldnt ordinarily post or have never found the right time to post. theyve just gotta go #third is that it is no ones fault. well thats not true. its mine. i didnt make changes i should have the first time i went on hiatus #im suffering severely from that now and have burnt out wayyy too fast. which is again no ones fault but mine #im going to change things to make it easier to handle. i need to if i want to keep this going for a long time which i very much do #i just cant when the thought of posting on here every day makes me so unhappy. im just too overwhelmed #im not sure what the changes will be just yet but they're going to be beneficial to me greatly

[thedragonemperess]

Sometimes my online life and my real life intersect and it's always in the wildest ways possible

#MY IRLS ARE READING SMUTFIC THAT IVE WRITTEN AND SENDING ME VIDEO REACTIONS #IVE WRITTEN SMUTFIC TWICE #ONCELER/READER SMUTFIC THAT I WROTE FOR A MUTUAL #(ONE OF THEM C R I E D) #AND HUMANIZED PIXAR CARS FANFICTION THAT I WROTE FOR MY EXBOYFRIEND #IN WHICH CHICK HICKS GETS FUCKED BY TEX DINOCO LYNDA WEATHERS AND STRIP WEATHERS IN THAT ORDER AND THEN LATER IMPLIED ALL AT ONCE #(THE SAME ONE THAT CRIED IS GOING ON ABOUT HOW GOOD MY DIALOGUE IS AND IS LITERALLY GIGGLING WHAT IS HAPPENING) #and then of course some of them have been through this before because theyve actually read the onceler smut before this is them rereading i #because the original video i have of it came up in my snapchat memories #but were talking about it in a GROUPCHAT #and there are OTHER FRIENDS IN THIS GROUPCHAT #so the OTHER FRIENDS are sitting here like 'i didnt know you had this in you tony this just never seemed like you' #so im like 'is this how i got disowned from the friendgroup? on the basis of cringefail pornographic fanfiction ive written?' #and one of them goes 'as if wed disown you im more cringe than you are' #and a different one is like 'yeah weve seen worse' #it is a SUNDAY NIGHT #marankton speaks because why not #anyway

[dendixia]

What if. After all the eggs were left muddy and cracked they got taken back as they didn't mean to be given back like that. The worker that worked with them did such a lousey job they had to take them back.

But also all the eggs hate baths so so much and that's why this is taking so long. They're being little menaces god bless 🙏

#qsmp #den talkies #COPIUM BY TRYIBG TO BE SILLY #ok but if i were real with yall. #I think theyre either cooking an epic save mission and just didnt get to finish in time #theyre about to do Egg Olympics strongest egg wins it all #add a new egg Or the secret favela member and theyve got sth to do with this #i like to think they took em back either to fix 'imperfections' they left behind #or to take notes of why they work and other eggs dont i dunno #bc i think eggs that werent given to the residents werent given for the reason that they just weren't good enough #for what? who knows maybe theyre making lil killing machines shrugs #that's my cup of tea thanks for reading ^^

[wmnylander]

looking at the leafs fanbase & realising that most people have never watched a team sport before becoming a leafs fan and finally realising that’s why people act the way they do.

#morgan rielly i am side-eyeing you #this isn’t a shot it’s just mind boggling to me how some people genuinely do not believe this comes down to being a business #at the end of the day. #the fact the core have lasted as long as they have without the success to back it up would NEVER happen in any other sport/team #but because it’s happening in toronto & most people don’t know how team sports on a broad scale works #this is just seen as normal. its not lol. #most executives give you a window of like maybe 3 years max to try and get a championship once you have good players & if it doesn’t happen #someone or multiple people get traded like thats just how it works #i think people overreact because its toronto but people overreact because they’re exhausted theyve put up with almost a decade of this core #with literally nothing but 1 singular playoff round to show for it #so forgive people for reading into it #i’ve been here over 12 months only and i’m concerned i cannot imagine what it’s like for seasoned leafs fans

[thepavementsings]

how do y'all get over the anxiety of commenting on writers' fics who you think are beyond the level any engagement you can possibly provide? Genuine question like what are your tips.

#like real answers only please lol not the 'everyone loves every comment just say whatever!' #because one it's not that easy #and two ive heard authors be annoyed at comments that arent good or smart enough 😅 #like when an authors' writing is just so smart you feel like you cant possibly have anything valuable to say about their work back #that would be a worthy engagement to the amount of talent and intelligence they've already put into the work #it is much easier to yell back in my beloved bestie mutuals' DMs about something theyve written #or someone I know on the periphery #than to comment on the mutuals' fics that are like. the intimidating genius mutuals you havent built the rapport with #i always have so many of these big fics i want to say how much i loved but feel like i have to be smart enough to prove that i GET it yknow #sometimes I put off reading the ones i really want until i think im gonna be in the right mindset to understand what i think they want me t #which is maybe a bad way to engage but i struggle w this so much so any advice on essentially how to get over my inferiority complex thanks

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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#i started the semester off with such a level head but ive walked myself further and further toward i ledge i can feel crumbling #out from under my feet. i sit in small rooms where i feel the stress radiating from my chest down into my limbs. disappating into the floor #it makes me want to run and run and run but im so tired and the sidewalk is icy slick. and i feel like im at the limits of my abilities #and i know every grad student has that worry but what if its true. that i have a void behind my eyes and not enough depth of thought #anywhere it matters. how am i supposed to operate in this system when i can barely string together the words to understand what im reading #and itll never be any easier. what if im at my functional limit? what if i caught fire and burned away to ashes? what if i screamed and #kept screaming until someone told me patch up the open wound in my chest? what if i just stopped? #what if i could just let go of any need to feel like i have a purpose? what if i could just live? and feel the wonder of the things around #me. let go of all my emptiness #move at a pace that isnt breaking my neck. feel anything close to joy or if that's too much to ask then let me at least feel stable. just #for a while. just a little while. #and i know itll b fine. and i know im just being whiny bc things are hard and theyve been hard and theyll always be hard bc i refuse to make #things easy. but i just feel like im standing alone on a beach where the water's been drawn too far back #and i can see it rushing toward me faster than i can run. im just waiting for the tsunami to wash me away to nothing #unrelated

[summerendroll]

woahg.. forgot this first panel was from fun home

#just like last time i read stone butch blues rereading fun home is making me want more like #a femme ‘equivalent’. in quotes bc equivalent isnt the right word but like #i do wish i knew stories of lesbian history from the femme side. said only bc that is ME. not like waah butches everywhere #man i wish there were butches everywhere #theyve gotta be out there though right like older femme writing #NOT just lesbian that isnt masc not like just tv lesbian whos blandly feminine to be more acceptable to a wider audience or whatever #u know what i mean.

[opikiquu]

#★ my art #art #the amazing digital circus #tadc sona #tadc oc azzy #tadc oc #im a big fan of rabbits idk if yall know that #ignore the jax plushie pic im obsessed with bad plushy pics from amazon #theyre so funny lookin #also #he reminds me of those black cat clock thingies #if u read this tag #Please tell me if you know what im talking about. the cute cat clocks. IM NOT CRAZY THEY EXIST I SWEAR #theyve got big ol large eyes n they just Stare at u #i need to make a compilation of everytime i draw jax throwing my oc across the room #idk why i draw that so often. #Listen hes a bully #ok enough rambling sorrys

[apple-os]

ppl who like making friends solely with one-note cardboard boxes who will hang out with them when it's convenient and never open up about who they are as people and what their lives are like dni

#the salt just caught up with me and now im pissed #hi welcome to what i like to call a friendly reminder that hanging out with someone just because its convenient is kind of shitty #and a less friendly reminder that talking about yourself to connect with people is an autistic trait #and an even less friendly reminder that not telling someone if theyve done you wrong and then proceeding to blow up on them is ALSO SHITTY #ESPECIALLY. WHEN. THEY THINK. YOU'RE ON GOOD TERMS. BECAUSE YOU ACTED LIKE IT AND THEY CAN'T READ YOU. #IM REALLY FUCKING MAD #I THINK I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE. #the people who actually somewhat knew me and hung out with me and were on good terms with me think the same #so like BLEH MYEH :PPPPPPPPP #like okay youre entitled to your opinions but sometimes you need to keep those to yourself #did u see me insulting u to ur face #nope i have not done even once #and thats on getting better communication skills instead of lashing out at someone for trying to fit in with your own vibes #like yeah oversharing is my deal. anybody who sees me here knows that #i bond by being open with people about who i am and what i like in the hopes that theyll do the same #if u think im just around for gaming and making silly jokes u would be wrong. #but of course nobody told me people weren't there to bond like that which in my opinion shouldnt be on me #and once again i am outcasted over something honestly kind of fucking stupid #some of the jokes i made were stupid yes but thats solely because i severely misjudged the vibes #and checks notes oh yeah nobody pulled me up for it even once. #okay so let me get this straight you barely know me and have been making assumptions about me since day one #pretty much let me believe you liked me for two whole weeks instead of asking me about things or cutting me off #and im the one who gets treated like im in the wrong? okay #this miscommunication was not my fault in the slightest and i KNOW that #if you hadve just talked to me things would be fine but theyre NOT. #if you hadve just looked at my gosh darn profile and seen im the queerest fucker around making gay and homophobic type jokes maybe you woul #have had half the mind to ask me if i could stop making those jokes!!!!!!!!! #i am not transphobic!!!!!!! I AM TRANS!! I WAS MAKING A MOCKERY OF SOME TRANSPHOBIC CULTURE I HATE!!!! #i mightve vented on main ONE TIME under the guise of a silly joke but oh my god guess what?? that was an attempt to see if anybody related. #you never liked me in the first place dont lie to yourself

[tiredstressedemotionalmess]

everyday i get closer and closer to writing wholesome fluffy gerbert rpf entirely out of spite for the bert villianizers who turned me away from listening to the used for years

#every day i feel the need to apologize to bert mccracken for just. blindly taking fanfic depections of hom as fact #in my defense i was in middle school and i had never heard of the used to i didnt realize he was a real person for a WHILE #and then once i figured out he was real i literally knew nothing abt him aside from what was in fics and they all treated him the same way #so i just assumed there was some fact behind it ig?? 😭 #and then as i got older it just sort of clicked that Oh Yeah all of this shit us Made Up and maybe i should Fact Check This #and now the used is one of my favorite bands and i love bert so much and i am still so fucking angry that everyone fucking treated him like #shit for absolutely no reason they just. needed a villan? #actually no ik the reason is bc he fucking struggled with addiction and people love to villianize addicts #especially bc hes seen as more masculine than gerard so even tho gerard struggled with addiction too HES not the villian bc hes too SWEET #and PURE and SOFT #but bert's seen as more masc and tough and loud so OBVIOUSLY that makes him a violent and abusive addict bc ppl love to equate masculinity #with 'strength' and violence and i could absolutely write a whole fucking paper on this topic if i had time to organize my thoughts #and idk if im even articulating this well rn but yeah. it makes me so fucking angry and disappointed and maybe its a stupid solution but i #know there are still SO many fics out where that do this shit and ik its still fucking with ppls perceptions of bert bc ive seen it!!! #ive seen ppl talk shit abt him and they dont even know *why* theyre talking shit #they just think hes an asshole bc of bullshit theyve heard/read and im sick of it!!!! im gonna write a novel where hes the hero just to #spite you fucks!!!! fuck!

[slimywren]

yall have GOT to be more normal about deaf people

#maybe this is just the growing up with a teacher of the deaf and hard of hearing but yall need to seriously lower your expectations of what #deaf people can do. not even in an infantilizing way lots of people dont seem to realize that some deaf people cant read english because #they never learned english. “oh but they know ASL” that is american sign language not english. not every deaf person can read lips some dea #people are able to hear some etc. dont make fun of the way they talk dont call them deaf if theyve asked you not to. they dont have to #explain why but its often because of weirdos like this that they prefer to call themselves hard of hearing or experiencing hearing loss ove #calling themselves deaf

[crimeronan]

i think my thing regarding the 'ofc' debacle (as someone who doesn't even use it, but does read it) is that with acronyms each letter stands for something so it's strange to me to see a word, of, be put next to a letter that represents a word (c = course) and be called an acronym. also, we don't have acronyms for every common turn of phrase, which is why no one says "oc", because if they didn't want to cuss, they'd just type out "of course". i understand what you're saying, but I think I will always see someone type out "ofc" and think they're swearing.

here's the thing though. you're wrong and will remain wrong forever and your feelings don't change that. peace and love 💕

#replies #it has meant of course for literal decades. i don't care how you read it just don't say people said shit they Did Not Say. #reading it as of fucking course is fine. saying nobody would abbreviate of course at all is preposterous. #I GREW UP ON NEOPETS FORUMS. I KNOW WHAT THESE TERMS MEAN. #'nobody would abbreviate of course' yes they would. you know how?? by typing ofc #you can't tell me that no one would when hundreds-to-thousands of people have gone #'OH I THOUGHT I WAS ABBREVIATING 'OF COURSE' I DIDNT MEAN TO SWEAR :((((' #thousands of people who instinctively empirically know they shouldnt use terms the way theyve always been used online #that's how language evolves right. f always means The Fuck Word even when people say 'yeah i wasnt using the fuck word' #ofc discourse #is that gonna be a tag now. sure.

[bare1ythere]

Doing some Japanese listening comprehension practice and can someone tell me how to not despair over the fact that very simple listening comprehension is still extremely challenging when I'm able to do listening comprehension in spanish with relative ease*

*ignore the fact that I studied spanish formally for 12 years, including AP, and hear it at home and that I've been only studying japanese for a year. not relevant

#shut up me #sweating with exertion clutching my pencil so hard its about to snap listening to someone say like “the watch costs 4500 yen :D” #I get it eventually but im so slow I have to repeat what they said to myself and by the time it clicks theyve moved on #and even then... i dont catch all of it #and i know thats okay. my spanish teacher always said that its fine if you cant understand all the words when listening/reading #just try your best to get the overall meaning #but sometimes I struggle to fully internalize that.. #I just worry Im missing something or doing something wrong since im entirely alone teaching myself here #(I know im behind on kanji but you must understand how scary kanji is)