#will have to prepare space for her

[dungeons-and-dragon-age]

Hiii everyone, say, how do your Hawkes go go about sharing their estate? If they do it at all? Is everyone free to come and go or are they more private? Or do they only invite their LI to stay? I'm curious!! :)

#lay rambles #my ocs #oc: liam hawke #oc: lilian hawke #both my hawkes are very social w their friends but i love comparing their boundaries around it #theres variation in rules for specific ppl with both of them ofc but theres still general differences #with liam its all very open and everyone can p much come and go whenever #they dont get extra keys (theyll get lost and he doesnt want randos finding them lol) but they know where to find the spare key #and bodhan and sandal and orana know to let them in whenever #hes very lenient in this this regard but he does have rules abt what he does and doesnt want them to do #mostly its about not making too much of a mess lol bc liam prefers to clean himself #(he doesnt trust the crew with his household and also he has particular ways of doing things and Hates when theyre done differently) #so things like keep your dirty garb at the entrance dont cook by yourselves (this was banned after they did it one (1) time lol) etc #also no fucking allowed. do that somewhere else for the love of the maker he does NOT want to walk into that in his own house #(and it also comes back to liam not trusting them with cleaning but also Not wanting to clean that up lol) #also he is not fond of them going into his room uninvited. most of the house is chill but that is *his* space #he accommodates these rules by e.g. having spare slippers and a little washing basin in the entrance hall for dirty shoes/feet #always makes sure to have snacks in stock that he knows they like #food will have notes abt what to leave for leandra/orana/etc but otherwise food is prepared with his friends in mind #and in general he'll make sure to adjust the space/routine in little ways to accommodate them #(air out when fen isnt there cus he doesnt like drafts; keep curtains open cus anders prefers open spaces; etc) #lilian on the other hand doesnt like when her friends come into the estate without a heads up (cept for emergencies) #but once they have her 'ok' its basically mi casa es su casa #dont yknow. overdo it and get too rowdy but otherwise do whatever #however. she also expects everyone to clean up after themselves. she aint here to play maid and youre all adults #also liam has a general 'please try to not be too wild when leandra is here' and lilian doesnt #not cos she doesnt care but cos leandra is bothered by sth she can speak up herself #oh and lilian uses the basement space as temporary refuge for anyone who needs it (mostly escaped mages) #also side note: both offered gamlen to stay but he refused (out of pride/remorse) #...this got long and i ran out of tag space lmfao so this is it for now xD

[guckies]

I feel like I get more and more pissed off anytime I watch q!Bad make a move. So here’s the rant after seeing the clip and following with what @/daisyychainssj said about Leo’s Ninho room:

Why on god’s green earth would he allow Bagi into Leo’s room and allow her to grab the warp into the room.

Yeah maybe it was to do with the size of the room but maybe they could have you know waited and asked to check Richas’ room or waited until her parent or Leo was online.

He also knows full well that there is hollow walls inside the Ninho that could be turned into unofficial/temporary rooms for those eggs and that Leo’s room doesn’t have to be touched at all.

But also since he remembers enough about the Ninho and how it works with his memory loss then he goddamn knows the significance of those rooms and he just broke the main fucking rule.

Which is that the ninho rooms are SAFE SPACES FOR THE EGG THAT OWNS THE ROOM, that ONLY the egg, their parents and TRUSTED individuals can reach.

Do Leo and Bagi know each other?? Hmm that’s looking like a solid no. How well does Leo know the new eggs? Wait they don’t know and neither does Leo because they just recently met. Do they forget Leo is shy and not always social? yes she trust the eggs she knows but how often does she get online for anyone but her family?? Looking like about 5% which is usually because Foolish or Roier have outside factors stopping them from taking care of her.

Also he’s not her parent, he doesn’t get to make decisions for Leo just because he took care of her like 2 or 3 times and he knows her parent. That’s stupid and demeans Foolish’s parenting.

In conclusion, Bad should have never stepped foot in Leo’s room with Bagi today. It makes no sense lore wise or even just him showing her. Despite his “respect” for all the eggs, he really needs to check himself first before he does anything. Because any time he’s messed with an eggs stuff it’s always been Leo and sorry but Leo isn’t Foolish. That dynamic should be keep completely separate and to say this isn’t disrespect is a lie because it is.

This isn’t even like bad roleplay anymore it’s just disrespect because how in lore will any of them know about it unless bagi uses it in front of them.

#rereading this and sorry if it was a little passive aggressive stuff like this just irks me so much #qsmp neg #qsmp discourse #bbh neg #qsmp #qsmp discussion #idk if it could be considered discussion but ill tag anyway #again this is in rp and it is my own opinion agreed or disagree just be prepared to give your reasoning bc disagreeing for no reason is dum #i had to get this off my chest because every move he makes recently has just been plain disappointing #like honestly didn’t put this in the post but do you think bad would have the same chilled reaction as foolish would if foosh let ElQ- #into dappers ninho room or even his house because he wouldn’t #he would flip if foolish did that but because he did that with faulty memories and just because its foolish hell get away with it #and sorry to the bbh defenders but frankly that’s disrespectful to leo cause it directly minimises her feelings about ti #just because he trusts someone doesnt mesn everyone else does and that doesnt give him the right to give them access to their private space

[indelicateink]

confused. are the screeners out or not? reports conflict.

because if so, journalistic integrity is kinda dogshit for some folks? did social media on this topic just become unusable for the next FOUR WEEKS while people in the know make reveals like the character spoiler today?

#c’mon i’m okay with low-key spoilers but we have 4 whole ass weeks ahead of us ppl #and i resent like hell that i’ll have to avoid the entire? iwtv tag? to stay unspoiled for potentially major shit bc damn #the lead-up is a big part of the fun? #kitten daddy’s going to be real with you he NEEDS THE SEROTONIN HIT from the deranged vampires bc he is going through The Horrors rn #like point me to the place on the internet where i can celebrate the promos and press and fic and art and interviews without #someone slapping me in the face with their knowledge bomb dick #i was not emotionally prepared for AprilMay to be that weird liminal space where #people like that one person who was perhaps struggling with some mental health issues vowed to the fandom she filmed her character marrying #ldl in s2 #and you have to play a tiresome game of guessing if you’re dealing with troll fever dreams or leaked information neither of which you want #you just want your daily dose of the deranged vampires #i mean if you’re cool with screener spoilers and you’re tagging accordingly god bless but #not everyone’s using the Haha This Is A Screener Spoiler tag #and i’m already tired

[opens-up-4-nobody]

...

#had an interesting conversation with my sister the other day. odd i guess bc my sister is pretty smart #on paper shes smarter than me. or at least less dyslexic than me #but she didnt seem to kno what cancer is. i mean like how it works. i mean. cancer is a mistake. a confluence of unfortunate accidents #leading to unrestrained cellular growth. when it metastasizes. when it moves to other parts of the body. those same cells continue growing #if u have smooth muscle cancer and it moves to your kidney. you body is trying to grow more smooth muscle on your kidney #at least as i understand it. and she asked why it wants to kill you. it doesnt want anything. it just is. its not a thing of malicious #intent. its neutral. it grows. it takes up resources. it takes up space. and it grows and grows until the organ it grows on stops #functioning properly. like a parasite she said. but no. not like a parasite. it grows like an empty space. a mass of flesh. a constant #obstructive pressure. it grows like only a tumor can. i dunno. it didnt seem to connect with her that this thing didnt want to kill our mom #but it did anyway. and she felt weird about how long she lived after they took her off any support. but thats how cancer kills #it stops an organ from functioning and most of those r important so it only takes one. so her heart kept beating for 12 more hrs bc it was #meant to beat for 40 more years. but not much it could do without working kidneys and without working blood #but that's life. that's death. that's nature. its all nutral even if it feels horrible to the individual. #i dunno. i thought it was interesting. shes 25 and her mother had cancer for 10 years so id think shed kno more #we're at a weird phase now bc its been a week since she died and everything feels normal. we'll see what happens at the wake this week #its been interesting for sure bc she was sick for 10 years but my parents didnt prepare at all for her to die #so my dad is scrambling to put together the pieces shr left behind to make sure that all the bills r paid and whatnot. he had to guess her #computer password. she didnt tell us what she wanted us to have. she didnt tell us the importance of her jewelry and who it belonged to #before her. i dunno. we're seeing the outline of my mothers Pathology in what she left behind. both in the physical objects and in the #feelings she imparted. i dunno. its been weird #unrelated

[poebrey]

gonna write a whole thing someday about how characters of color who clearly have a history of trauma or mental health issues aren’t given consideration or acknowledgement in the fandom imagination

#this is first and foremost about yennefer being canonically suicidal and it being never brought up in fandom #but people can talk about how they think she’s a bitch just fine like we’re all stuck in 2005 #but also applies to like just about every character of color who has a prominent role in sci/fi fantasy genre space #because they sure get made to suffer a lot by these writers but in the white imagination that’s not noteworthy at all? #but also Scott McCall #who deadass attempted suicide on screen in one ep? #suicide tw #which I have moved on from teen wolf but it for very obvious reasons another great example #or Michael Burnham who canonically had a fucked up childhood that gave her a lifelong martyr complex #but if you ask who clearly has ptsd on the show it’s not her because it needs to get spelled out even though she is the main character? #Or even Culber; they bonded once over how they both died! #but we don’t do that with white boy side characters 5-7 #they try to hate crime someone on screen and people are making shit up to justify before whatever media it is finishes airing #we talk about diversity in media #but one of the catch 22s is that more diverse media tends to be genre media #because that’s allowed to push boundaries #but as a fan of color you have to mentally prepare yourself for witnessing trauma every time #meanwhile the silly no stakes fun shows get majority white or entirely white casts every time #so you get this fun thing where if you’re white and want a fun escape you get a buffet of laughs #and if you’re a person of color at best you *dont* get to see yourself die on screen #anyways this has been a middle of the night that no one should be taking seriously #*rant #gotta make sure everything referencing tw isn’t in the first 5 tags or I might wake up to a whole essay crying in the inbox

[taylorswiftshipsbyler]

I didnt feel like writing a card for my mom's bday so instead I decorated the box that the chocolates I always get her come in☺️☺️

also. I can name all of the flowers/plants on here.

milkweed

lavender

sword ferns

jasmine

goldenrod

sunflowers

some random mushrooms in a plantain plant (plantains are actually really cool weeds that might grow in your yard. you can use them to soothe bug bites!)

violets

snapdragons

bleeding hearts

aloe

clover(like the little flowers)

virginia bluebells

and honeysuckle!!

and then there's also little bumblebees that I drew to fill up the empty spaces

#plants #its my moms birthday today so this is her present #these are mostly native to our area #my moms really into gardening #and one year she spent several months learning about bees to prepare to get a bee hive #and then we found out that our borough didnt allow them😓 #but now she loves bees a lot #and likes to plant plants that are really good for them and other pollinators #and we have like a yard with 2 different parts #so the part closest to the house is like a normal yard #and she has garden best there for vegetables n stuff #and then the back part has like a little stream by it #and she just lets all the plants grow #except for some paths and a space for our fireplace #but she did rip up some red vines with thorns on them #turns out they were and invasive type of rose #and then a bunch of milkweed grew there!! #which if you dont know is really good for butterflies! #but my mom is like a really amazing person #i love her so much and shes so cool #and shes also like really involved with our local politics #and one time she went to the school board to keep a book from being banned #but shes just like #the best mom i could ever ask for #my art #native plants

[pussy-ache]

while it’s been really nice to be able to help so many women (and myself) through radical feminism, there are a ton of women whose stories i know who i will never meet and sometimes it really does weigh on me

#like i was waiting for my dinner to heat up and randomly staring off into space #and i remembered this one woman who was an american on vacation in turkey. she was raped there and i helped her find help #she was quite literally kidnapped for 12 hours and raped and i helped her. she came off anon and literally i convinced myself it wasn’t real #but when i looked back in her archive she had made posts MONTHS prior about getting her passport renewed and preparing for the trip bla bla #like this woman really was stranded in turkey. really was abused. and came to ME for help? #i was literally 19-20 at the time. i was like just some random woman on the internet #and that’s only 1 wpman. 1. i used to get asks for advice on shit like that by the DOZEN every few hours #i used to answer dozens and dozens and dozens of asks helping women find this and do that and answer whatever i could #and sometimes i feel the weight of that still resting on me #like i never forgot any of them. i know anonymous stories of heartbreak and pain from other women #on top of my OWN unbearable pain #and sometimes it all hits me and i realize JUST how much of myself i have put into all of it #sometimes to my own detriment

[coloursofaparadox]

hnnnnnnnnnnnmmnn its overshare on the internet o clock

#my shitty ex has sent me a text asking to meet up and talk #and in a predictable move the text itself doesnt actually apologize or acknowledge that she did anything fucked up #it instead says 'we both did some pretty messed up stuff' which. uh. yeah. cool. thanks. #thats like prefacing an apology with 'first of all i still blame you but i guess i couuuldve had something to do with it' #and like. sheesh. my first instinct is to politely say absolutely not jesus christ how do you have the gall to ask me that #i could go my entire life without interacting with you ever again and i would be nothing but better off for it #but. i have not sent that yet. and it has been a while. because i really miss the friend group she....not stole exactly but #because i do not want to be in the same space as her i just. dont get to be around them much any more. #and fuck. i miss my dog so so much. i love lucas too but sarah was the first dog i raised from a baby #and she was just one of those animals that are just. like you love them all but some are different in a way where they're a part of you. #and sarah was mine and she took her from me and ive just barely gotten over it #i dont know if being able to see her again would make it worse or better. #but instinct is telling me to tell her that no theres no chance of us being friends. i need to protect myself and value my own wellbeing. #and that its not that i hate her because i dont but i do intensely dislike the ugly person i realized shes become #and i refuse to continue to let myself be hurt by that without speaking up. #but i still!!! havent!!! said no!!!!! #if i could manage it. and get through a talk with her. and be very clear that im here to attempty just...neutrality and a lack of hostility #and that friendship is not on the table. prep myself on my boundaries and rules for what i will not put up with #and accept that if she does something shitty in response to me keeping myself safe then i have to be prepared to call it off immediately #then. i would see my friends again a lot more often than just one on one every couple months because every group thing involves her #fuck. i dont know. i really really dont want to talk to her ever again but god fucking dammit. #im prepared to move on and rebuild my life and invest in other relationships. i am. ive done it before and slowly built from the ground up. #i can do it again. but it fucking sucks when its most of my irl friends all at once. #idk. idk. i miss my dog so much it hurts but it would be much worse to see her now after how my ex treats her when im not there to stop it #its just something i cant let myself think about or ill just spiral and i cant do that. theres nothing i can do about it. i cant stop it. #fuck.

[todaviia]

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#just spent over an hour writing an antrag for a severely disabled ukrainian refugee girl #who is being housed in a refugee mass shelter #(which has no space to safely prepare the special food she needs #and where only one of the bathrooms is wheelchair accessible #which is basically always in use bc theres too many people living in the shelter #shes living in one room with her whole family #which is obviously even less available space if you have to use a wheelchair) #and anyway the whole time i had to think about this absolutely braindead post #that some people shared on here #where it was framed as ~white privilege that the ukrainians got to move into the mass shelter facilities #while afghans (who often had been living in these mass shelters for far longer than intended) were moved to regular housing #bc our government finally realized after the taliban takeover that most of them wont go home for the foreseeable future #and like completely separate from any opinions about the ukraine war or weapons deliveries or whatever #if youve ever looked at people who had to flee from war #and thought wow they seem so privileged to me #theres something deeply wrong with you that no amount of reading leftist theory #or posting progressive shit on social media will fix #literally the only hope you have is go out and volunteer with real life refugees

[ybcpatrick]

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#shut up kell #i need to yammer. somewhere. #i have too much fucking happening to my brain rn #monday is the eleventh anniversary of nana dying. #i was eleven when she died. i've had to fucking miss her for as long as i got to know her. i don't know what to do with this #every single day after monday will be another day longer than the time i got to spend on earth at the same time as her #and i'm not well! and that isn't going to be something i can deal with this weekend bc i am going to be so busy #i've got barbie on friday. i'm going to a cottage for the weekend with my friends for meg's sister's birthday #which i wanted to say no to due to the timing. but of course i said yes bc i can't say no to meg literally fucking ever bc i'm tragic. #and i also know the blackout i'd go into for the first nine years after isn't smth she would want for me. so i don't do it anymore. #i'm going to have fun and i'm going to be fine but i would be lying if i said i wasn't regretting this fucking thing rn. i don't wanna do it #i don't want to do anything. i want to have time to prepare myself for this. i need to have space to get myself ready for this shift. #but i won't get that. and then it will be monday and then i will be in the true After. #i thought ten years would be the worst one. that was nothing compared to this. #and i'm sick to my stomach thinking about next year #and the year after it. and the year after that. and the years after those. #i shouldn't have to go through this. she should have been allowed to stay. i wasn't ready then and i'm even less ready now and i want her. #i want her back and i cannot fucking have her and i will have to live however many more years beyond this without her until i'm gone too. #and then i'll just have to hope and pray that i get to go wherever she went without me. #what a cruel existence. what a horrid thing to make me do. having to keep walking this earth as her ash dances on the surface of the sea. #i'm going to bed. i will not feel better tomorrow but i'm used to that. #i'm okay and i always am and i will make it through. somehow. kicking and screaming the whole way. #i'd trade all my tomorrows for just one fucking yesterday. yeah. fuck off.

[paneerlajwanti]

damn this means the medicines have actually started working...

#girl those executives are finally functioning #i had the energy to have a full ass conversation with amma yesterday #and i got out of home to help her with some chores and i didnt have to physically drag myself? #and i gave my exam too and was able to remember and answer all of them #and i didn't feel terrible or too anxious immediately after giving the exam regarding my performance/ preparation #and i also had the courage to give in my journal to my professor #i cleaned my room- changed the sheets #made space in my study drawer and folded the mountain of laundry #you know what #im LITERALLY so brave for this #im proud of myself to making it through these many days

[madamescarlette]

Nothing makes me go !!!!! more than when someone who I would in all honesty believe has forgotten who I am remembers me and remembers me fondly!

#this is all because i had a professor a few years ago who is one of my absolute favorites i've ever been taught by #but it's been a few years now since i last spoke to him #but i saw him today and he still remembers me! i'm still one of his kids and that means so much to meeee #another situation happened where before a teammate of mine knew me #one of her close friends and i used to chat before a mutual class (in a very loose friendly liminal space that pre- and post-classes are) #but he told her that i was a fabulous girl and she would have nothing to worry about working with me and i was just!!!!!!! #oh the unbearable kindness of people who are prepared to be kind and loving to you based on the merest circumstances!! #i really am this simple. you remember my name and i'm made the happiest of girls in the world! #thinking out loud

[shooks-stupid-stuff]

i wanted to redraw/update the designs of (almost) all my old touhou ocs, for uh no real reason in particular besides my one friend making one herself and me just. feeling Compelled to revisit them lol

...you can tell i did alina first since i drew her two technically 3 times with no regard for the canvas space needed for 6 characters lmao

also i do have a 7th oc (enough for a whole game lol) but i decided not to draw her since i've revisted her recent-ish on this blog (see: other big oc post for a separate thing, which i put her in bc funni yokai)

anyways yes i will ramble in tags now about my children lol-

#prepare for incomprehansible 5 am tags- #full of typos bc fuck am i... not tired but probably delirious lmao #alina (oc) #castoria (oc) #ryka (oc) #aurelia (oc) #lillith (oc) #haneuta (oc) #ok ok god. ramble time- #aurelia was my first funny 2hu. my og. and tbh i actually didnt change her design as much as i had planned- #nostalgia i guess lmao #but ye! she was originally 'nondescript half yokai' but thats boring she she's a ribbon tsukumogami now #or like. a way less violent itten momen lmao #she does have two funny ribbon staffs also i just didnt draw the 2nd one bc Not enough Space- #alina is a funni vengeful spirit #also she has a cross motif now idk why it just. felt right lmao #i like her alot she was alwasy my 2nd fave (my fave was natsumi who' not pictured here) #castoria isa funny fairy aka dumb little baby #she is friends with alina somehow lmao #uhhh and now the other three i have like Nothing for #they were just designs and. nothing else- #ryka is a moon rabbit she has a funny war sword she's skilled with #haneuta is a fuckin... some sorta bird yokai. she was originally a tengu but we have like three of those. #thinking maybe a basan. or a basan tengu hybrid. idk im tired lol #and lillith was also originally funny half human half yokai but for her im KEEPINg that bc uh. whynot lmao #half satori with funny mind powers she is literally just vibing lol #ok. i am going to bed it's 5 am and i canNot type propperly cjhvbcjh #if you read this uhhh thank but also. im sorry it's probably indecipherable lmao #shook arts

[scattered-winter]

sleeping over w my cousin is all fun and games until my OTHER cousins keep following us around and invading our space

#MY LITTLE COUSIN IS INSISTING ON SLEEPING WITH US AND SHE BROUGHT HER IPAD #AND SHE'S SO LOUD AND WIGGLY #H E L L #i need my SPACE ok i have work tomorrow i need to PREPARE #HHHHHFFF #winter speaks

[ixtaek]

Nothing will make you a minimalist faster than having to clean out a hoarder house while the former owner keeps texting you asking you to save the expired vitamins from 2013…

#personal #I am not a minimalist but as I prepare to move I’m now side-eying every item I own and donating a lot #maximalism just stresses me out where can I SIT? where can I set my DRINK? #I’m fact I would say my whole style is drink-style: focused on having a space to set a mug or glass #but yeah my friend has been cleaning this house over a month and made almost no headway #by comparison the-American-Inkling got two rooms done in a day because she is the queen of clean #my sister is gonna be a good doctor but if that falls through she could give Marie Kondo a run for her money